Stress Free Pesach (Ep. 276)

hi this is dski and welcome to the rowski show with you watching with our friends over Ator any time whever you watch or listen to your podcast as always we are very excited to have you along and don't forget to like share subscribe and comment I noticed quite a number of people have been writing comment that's fine said oh you want me to comment so they just right comment reminds me of the story of where this fellow was on the witness stand and the lawyer says I want to remind you that all of your answers have to be oral what is your name oral where do you live oral what do you do oral so if you just write share it doesn't matter they're not reading the comments to uh decide what they're saying so therefore for the people who still every now and then I get uh I get comments on uh my T singer video still commenting on why do I keep talking that's fine it pushes up the uh the uh the numbers I don't know how it works exactly but uh it's technology you know everything's taking over anyway 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when it comes to musm you know who shows up the people are already working on themselves and are already growing and changing and uh they're the ones who are willing to listen to the message when I used to run ncsy and I would sometimes be asked to deliver the sermon from the pulpit so I would talk about the problems of assimilation and Inter marriage and how we're working so hard to try to account to these and often people would say to me why you telling us for where where from where in Shaw I said well who am I going to talk to I have nobody else to talk to so I got to talk to the people who show up you know so uh so normally the people go to the car wash are the the people who uh whose cars are already clean and they want to keep them clean as opposed to those really filthy caked on ones yeah um so uh uh however before pesak almost everybody cleans their car now I understand going outside and vacuuming the inside of your car especially espei if you have children because there's humet all over the place cookies and things like that so you want to find a good place but why do you clean the outside of your car you're getting ready for PES you clean everything yeah um people wash their windows before PES I've never seen a gla right a little pastry stuck onto your window I shouldn't say never but it's a seldom that you do now why are people cleaning their Windows CU as somebody uh has said many times don't confuse spring cleaning with pesak cleaning they're not the same thing and I said this over in a sheer once and a lady said to me yeah but why wouldn't I do spring cleaning at the same time I'm doing Piza cleaning you know I have to I have to clean this anyway so I'm not going to clean it also you know just to to get it clean even if it's not a problem of ketz and I thought yeah that's absolutely brilliant yes do your spring cleaning so we clean the outside of the car even though yeah it's the inside of the car that's Hally a problem but we want everything to be clean for PES so I realized that uh this podcast is going to be coming out uh just before R Nissan it's Mish it's Mish almost P wow time flies whether you're having fun or not at my age time just flies yeah so um uh that was a a joke it's a it's an old joke but I heard it from my good friend Kim Rose Shalom many many years ago he used to he liked these kind of puns and uh and I ier it over because it's so clever time flies like an arrow fruit flies like a banana so it's a very clever joke because uh in one case flies are a verb and the other one it's a noun and in one case like is Kim and the other one is like is ohave they like yeah so uh it's a very clever one but time flies like an arrow time just keeps going yeah and uh seems to be going faster and faster amazing but um be that as it may uh it's almost PES and as I Was preparing for this podcast um what does my preparation for a podcast mean I put on a a tie I I often try to find a tie that fits in with the theme that I'm going to talk about even though I don't have the theme worked out yet but I figured it's almost PES which ises the springtime so I took up my green tie from tuat which is uh you know um because Springtime everything is green everything is bright and cheery green is a happy color yeah um I had a fellow I've told this story over more than once I'm sure I had a fellow over in or who had studied industrial psychology psychology is of course to understand the workings of the Mind industrial psychology is to figure out how to use that to make money so uh so that's how we can figure out how to manipulate you these are the people who study how to um set up the supermarket so the things that you really need like milk and bread are all all the way in the back so you have to go through the whole supermarket in order to get them and the things that go on the bottom shelves the top shelves and the things that go at the checkout counter they spend a lot of time working on that because there's this um I I don't even know if I can use the term a newspaper I don't even know if I can use the term tabloid I don't know what word to use for it the national Inquirer and um uh that they almost nobody's there's almost no subscriptions to it all of them are sold at the checkout counter cuz you're waiting online and you're looking at it and you go Trump's an alien that explains a lot you know I mean there's a picture of him and a flying Source I mean it must be true you you buy it you know on impulse and you get home and you say I bought the national inquir like what is wrong with me you've been manipulated so there's a lot of different things that go into it and one of them is colors and colors that relax us are blue and green that's why they say you should make your bedroom blue or green that's why schools and institutions are usually painted blue and green they are more relaxing whereas red and yellow uh get people excited that's why um the um McDonald's when they designed McDonald's they made it with red and yellow because those are color that make people excited and nervous and so when you get excited and nervous you eat and so you order a lot of food and because the colors are bothering you and overe exciting you you try to get out of there quickly which is exactly the goal in McDonald's come in order a lot of food eat it very quickly and get out they also tilt the Benes slightly forward so you can't really relax but okay the the point being that the colors and that's why the the color for go when you're driving is a green light whereas yellow and red are slow down and stop so there's a reason for this and the reason for this is that red yellow represents d gold is D and gold is really a combination of red and yellow and that's why when we see those colors we sense danger fire is red yellow yeah that's that's that's danger scary yeah um and that's D that's where the sun it's red yellow represents din that's why the end of time will take the Sun mayaro out of its container and the heat will destroy the the but give light to theim right because it's din you it'll be a world of D finally the way it was meant to be when mashia comes whereas blue green as Rashi explains Isis theis that went on the tius is blue green it represents um represents a the end of time theas of the universe where we're going to the whole purpose of everything that's blue green and so that relaxes us and that's why most people who picture a relaxing atmosphere they picture um green grass by a blue water the colors themselves evoke feelings of of making people relaxed and comfortable and safe yeah that's that's what you do it's it's that sense of where we're going to that's why the sky is blue the sky is blue represents the rim that surrounds the world and protects us from the sun which is din so that's the this protecting us from the D so blue green is is relaxing colors so when everything is green and everything is coming back to life it's a it's a beautiful time and there's a wonderful feeling of Springtime Springtime of course has a feeling of it of rebirth and that's of course what Gula is um go M of go like a uh husbandman who pulls the animal the the the the calf out of the cow or the fo out of the out of the mayor whatever the case is you're delivering it yeah the uh the lamb out of the you you're pulling it Forward you're pulling it out so that's how we were taken out of MIT go of we were born in MIM it's a beginning of rebirth that's why when you look at and you see the whole world coming back to life that's what Springtime is it's a sense of rebirth and of renewal and uh Rashi says I took you outes which is the best time to travel because the winter is cold wow um I did not have a trip in the winter but I did have a a trip in December right I guess that's the winter technically it was the end of November December my daughter had surgery on her knee and we went in to help and it was 14° Fahrenheit right here in Israel you say 14 degrees that's oh that's a big deal you know 14 degrees Fahrenheit it was freezing bitter cold yeah and um uh I just H it's terrible and it snowed at one point you know I had to walk on chabas and it was snowy and icy but that was nothing they had a lot of snow this year in America and to have to travel your flights are being cancelled things are driving around having to get around never forget when I had to uh speak in Brooklyn at a Mala in the snowstorms and to park in Flatbush under the best of circumstances are difficult there is no best of circumstances when it comes to parking in Flatbush and that's why there are many people they buy a car and they find a good spot and they never drive again they just leave the car they come out and visit it every now and then sit in there turn on the radio you know and then that's it you know because just to leave and that's where when it snows it's the worst because the snow plow comes and buries your car so someone comes out and he digs out his car and cleans it all off you know and pulls out and as he pulls out somebody moves right into it his spot so he go gosh after all that work I lost my spot it's it's uh it's a tricky thing so to have to drive around and park in the snow and uh and and flying and the flights getting cancelled and all kinds of things it's uh it's difficult it's difficult I told this story I'm sure before says he was on an LL flight and they were on the runway and it was snowing heavily and uh he says he had gotten bumped up the business class because he flew a lot and he says he was having a great time he was up there they sering them drinks they this they was fine but in the back coach you know it were people were going crazy you know stuck here and on the ground and what's happening is that so finally the captain gets on and he says they say you want to hear my voice there's a lot of snow that's it that was his announcement of course what it meant is that you can't take off until the snow comes Etc L Pilots are much more tasat turn than uh uh other Pilots you know Seinfeld used to do a routine you know it's say pilot comes on he goes uh this is Captain Williams we're going to be taking off today uh towards the Northeast we're going to bring it up to about 10,000 ft and then I'm going to turn to the east I'm going to bring it up to about 30,000 ft that'll be our final cruising attitude we'll be uh having a this kind of course you know and I'm like hey just get us to whatever it says on the ticket you know I don't really care how you do it you don't have to share the whole process with me I'm not telling you what I'm doing I'm not knocking on the door saying now I'm eating the peanuts but um yeah so there's a lot of snow so you travel during the snow when you travel in the heat goodness I um I spoke in Phoenix twice uh it must have been such a big hit they never invited me back because the bigger hit that I am the less chance it is that I'll ever get invited back one time was in November one time was in uh no one time was in December one time was in January it was delightful but they told me you come here in in July or August it says people drive with oven mitts because you get into your car and it's so hot you can't even hold the handle you have to travel in uh that kind of Blazing heat H very difficult to travel in this summer now again if you're in a nice air conditioned uh vehicle it's not so bad but back then you know traveled on foot and when it's hot and blazing like that and you're I um uh I try to walk for my health and um I go out there I put on my walking outfit you know put on my sneakers put on one of my uh t-shirts that I have and um and I go out walking usually take some music along and especially in the summer when it's hot it's really difficult and I'm walking and I'm pushing myself because I know I have to and I'm passing all these people who are walking because they have [Laughter] to think W you know it reminds me there was a TV show called Survivor where people would be dropped onto this you know Island that they have to survive and there are people who live there and they must be looking these Americans thinking you're coming to survive where I live you know on a regular basis it's like take a bunch of of uh you know Africans and drop them in Flatbush and see how they do I just don't know which takeout place to go to there are so many but um flat push Survivor but um uh but when you travel in the springtime H that's the best yeah it's not too hot it's not too cold yeah it's it's a wonderful traveling time so took us out in the springtime when it's uh when it's a good time to travel and as we enteres NES and we think about this did for us then of course we will realize that is a theme what do we start off by doing on of course we make yeah got my green tie from tubish yeah we the we look for the flowering fruit trees in order to make a on them that is creating the fruit and the fruit trees are going to grow and there's going to be the flowers and it's uh and it's flowering and it's beautiful and it smells nice and it's going to produce the fruit and all of the that's associated with it um it was not uncommon to see vidilla zal standing on a you know on the street surrounded by talmidim and if you went in you'd see that he had apple seeds in his hand and he was describing how if you can look at this apple seed you have the potential of making an apple tree and hundreds of apples and the apples are sweet and they taste good and they're colored so you know when they're ripe to eat and and all the things that go along with it yeah all the that are associated with that we start off we come to uh pesak and we start counting s and the seven weeks of s correspond to the seven lower spher going down the first week is the second week is G third week is tus and then n and then then and then malus going down that way but the first week is yeah um why because K took us out of MIT as a we were not Roy to be saved the proof is that when we come to the yamu and Hashem tells the yamu to drown the Egyptians he says well why don't I drown these people too they're not much better than the Egyptians are kind of depressing thought you know I always thought that the Red Sea would be our friend but it apparently is not yeah so it wanted to drown us too but takes us out as and so in the week ofad we have most of pesak culminating with uh with yeah it's a we've mentioned this beforeand the masle for the month of uh Nissan is T which is a sheep yeah Aries I was going to say in English but it's not in English it's uh it's a Latin I think yeah uh the Sheep I think in English actually Aries is a ramp so uh but um uh but we uh look at it as a sheep why because a sheep is helpless a sheep has to be taken care of I don't know much about shepherding myself at one point that was pretty popular profession uh among Jews but today you almost never meet a a Shepherd I've met a Jewish Shepherd but it's unusual most people who go for career counseling are usually put into high-tech they don't say know we've read through all of your uh you know your qualifications and uh we think that you'd be a good shepherd really yeah I I wouldn't have thought to go into shepherding I wasn't the profession I was heading towards yet but um uh so I don't know much about it but I remember years ago as I read classic novels my bathroom reading to uh um continue my uh my my education well actually that is my education yeah um I uh I never I I I only took four college courses and after that I said wow anyone who could do this for four years I am so impressed um I I I couldn't but uh um but I do read a lot you know when I'm in the bathroom uh so uh I try to keep up on science and politics and uh and literature so I read class novels you know right now I'm doing War and Peace which is about oh 12,000 pages and uh you know it doesn't matter how much you read like you're really barely making a dent in it you know but um it is very well written I suppose because I'm reading a translation I'm not reading in the original Russian but um uh but I I I tried to read Hardy um and uh one of his uh works that uh was uh considered a classic was far from the maddening Crow and there's a character there who's a shepherd and he has this scene where in the winter the Sheep give birth and you have to take the lamb and bring it into the little Hut where you have the fire in order to warm it up because otherwise it will die from exposure uh sheep are pretty fragile yeah and uh there's another scene where the Sheep get into the Clover and they eat it and it becomes so gassy that they just die from the from the gas inside of them and there's a way to puncture their stomach to be able to release the gas you have to make sure that they don't go into Clover something I wasn't really aware of and um and they were dying and it's they're very fragile creatures it's very hard to to be a shepherd and um and take care of them it's very it's very uh intensive to watch these things and they don't do anything for you oxen they plow they pull carts they work yeah you work like an ox no one ever said you work like a sheep yeah they say you uh you're helpless like a sheep you go to the slaughter like a sheep yeah but sheep don't really produce uh anything in the form of Labor and there takes a lot to take care of them that's the month of Nissan when we came out of MIT we were like sheep we were helpless we uh we had to be taken care of every step of the way that's what youas MIM was we were very fragile then you go into the month of er er is the shore right we call it the shore the the ox um in the secular World they call it tor the bull but you get the idea it's has to work has to pull it has to plow we have to then start working in to be able to accomplish what we have to accomplish to get ready for but we're like a sheep and is doing for us and and he takes us out with um the cover the Clouds Of Glory surrounding us to protect us from the Heat and uh and the cold and it pressed and washed our clothing yeah so um so that was tremendous said and at night he sent the you know um Amud the pillar of fire to lead us and to to give us light and take care of us it was on top of that did for us and of course it creates yamu so uh there was fruit growing there was a a stream of fresh water going along with us yeah and that's a major theme of pesak and that's really what I want to talk about now it could be I talked about this years ago hopefully I'll give it a slightly different twist I remember uh one year I was in AER by m Shapiro it was on is after and he had given the same Shear I thought a few years before when is came out you know after sh also and I said to yose Brown Rabbi ysf Brown who was a real talmid of Raa Shapiro I was not I had this to go to shiur and I had this to have uh to be able to go and speak with him and see but neither one of us would have called me at so um uh so I said to Ray Brown I said he said the same thing a few years ago he says no he didn't last time he was coming at from this point of view now he's coming at it from this point of view and he explained it was a Nuance the difference and I said okay you know but it's it's similar and he said to me a that I've thought about a lot of times and he says a painter's palette has only so many colors on it but he can produce an infinite amount of paintings and I thought that is so brilliant right if you like a particular musical artist then you know that a lot of their songs sound the same I'm I'm thinking here uh more in the secular world but in the Jewish world too right if you are a fan of Miami Boy Choir for example a lot of the songs sound alike because it's a style yeah obviously um if you have an author a lot of his works are going to sound alike so if you like that particular one everything else is going to be a variation on it going to be a different way approach and so therefore if you do AAS Ms um on any paraa there's going to be a certain feel to it where you can feel has a a to it or or yeah there there's a certain feel that it has to it a certain a certain way that you do it so everybody has a certain particular style um Rabbi Dr Aram tski said once that I wrote I forgot how many books he had written at the time the number kept changing us I've written this number of books but I really only wrote one book you know 35 times because every book is the same you self-esteem yeah and so I looked at it from this point of view that point of view I looked at it like this I looked like that there were all kinds of different variations on the theme but it basically kept the same basic theme the ogal yaho I'm thinking a lot of things are going to like that so um so a lot of the things that I say are of a similar theme but I try to come at it from different point of view so it could be that I did mention this um when I was doing my pesak program some years ago uh would have been about six years ago when I did that but um but this is an important idea and it's something that hit me one year at the Seder and uh I share it with you now Dau yeah we all know Dau there are 15 um just as there are 15 Steps in the Seder right 15 Steps in the Bas make a lot of the 15s and we spoke about that other times but um that would have been enough if you would have judged them and not judg their gods we wouldn't have killed their firstborn that would have been enough and so it continues yeah but some of these are hard to understand if you would have split the sea and not taken us through and dry land that would have been enough would it though if you're plotting around in the mud sinking in to your knees in a wet uh seabed um would that have been enough would we have gotten away from MIT who are coming with chariots and horses um if you would have taken care of us there in the yamu and you wouldn't have taken care of us in the mid for 40 years that would have been enough would it though because I I I like to think that the anakot keeping us from dying of the heat was somewhat important I would also think that oh I don't know the man and the be that you provided for us would have been important for 40 years cuz we would have starved to death or die of thirst so how could you say that's not important if you would have brought us to Har and not given us the Torah really you would have brought us to Har and given us the Torah well that doesn't seem like that would have been enough Dau okay that's question number one question number two is after we finish all the D it was so much fun we do it again [Music] we just say Dau again without the daus and we just do all the 15 things once again in the same level so what are we saying over here what's the concept of Dau so I wanted to say danu is coming to tell us a very important thing PES the kazal explained is the source of all gas and G meaning we know there are Gus and they were alluded to it creation is a reference to the four Gus um by the brisban ofarim as another reference to the four gulus they pop up in a lot of different places the four Gus the four Exiles that the Jewish people will have to go through um B uh P Yovan and Edom right so Babylonia um Persia modai sometimes they counted separate sometimes together Yovan the Greeks and um and Edom Rome which is the one that we're still in now and the four Gus that we'll go through Etc MIM is the source for all of those and that is the The Source where we understand everything that goes into every other Gus and every other Exile and Redemption that we're going to go through and we learn it all from there and it had within it all of the that K was going to do for us and we go through each one of these individually and say if a would have done this for us that would have been enough for us to make a Yanti not that that would have been enough for us to have survived doesn't make a difference that would have been enough for us to have established a to thank that would have been enough to make a holiday and there is such a holiday it is what the refers to as the because as you know when we come toes we do not say for about the first two weeks depending if you're in it's not about the first two weeks the first day you don't say because it'ses the third and fourth and fifth of the month you don't say because it's uh the the three days where we were preparing for M the sixth day you don't say because it's and the next six days in or seven days in SLS you don't say because they are the days when you could bring the carbon after you have t to be able to make it up during that period of time but what about the second why don't you say on B so there are those who say because it is a sandwich day and there's a din that if you don't say t on Al and you don't say t on gimel you don't say t on Bay because it's a sandwich day it's in between and that's why you get off in a technicality um the uh says no because B is a holiday it's called y the day when Hashem said to us I'm going to make you an amula I'm going to make you my chosen people and the nation of kohanim and ESP special I'm choosing you that was the day of choosing that was a all by itself and says therefore it deserves its own holiday is by uh by whether or not you're allowed to fast things like that but forget about that for now yeah the the point is that IL we would made a holiday out of that just from the fact that you brought us to Har and told us yeah um uh the uh the experience itself that would have been enough to be able to make a yff out of it T well we would have made a holiday out of that in fact we did it's called um if you would have taken care of our needs in the desert for 40 years we would have made a holiday out of it in fact we did it's called sukus and that's why on sukus not only do we go into a Suka to remind us of the an that a who surrounded us us with for 40 years to be able to provide us with protection it's brought down that there is a Min on sukus to eat Fine Foods and drink Fine Wines as a remembrance of the m and the beair that we ate in Drank in the desert to remind us that took care of us so sukus is that holiday of of that you provided for us and so to everything else we have a for splitting the Red Sea that's right the seventh day of PES every one of these things would been enough all by itself to be able to make a y and that's what da is saying and when we finish it we say now look at what you did for us on pesak you took us out of Egypt and you judged the Egyptians and you Jud destroy their gods and you uh split the sea and you took us through on dry land right because uh if we had to slog through the mud we would have managed I suppose but the fact that you made a dry land made an extra thing for us yeah and uh and you gave us the m and you took care of us in the in the in the desert you gave us the you gave us the to and you brought us into and you gave us the B of mikdash all of that is wrapped up not just doubled but exponential that you did for us um by the they do a little play on the word niss they don't call son they call it the Miracles and the Miracles were on top of on top of and that's why it's the month of the of the sheep because we just stood there and took it all in we were recipients of yes we had to do something we had to bring the Corb PES and we had to uh had to uh put the D on and we had to pra we had to but we were not ready to get the Torah we were not ready to become the am it was a process 15 Steps that we had to take in order to be able to get there but we start off by looking at all of the and the more that we look at all of those then that's what p is all about what a tragedy that pesak has turned into a Ketch now it's a lot of work it's definitely a lot of work I uh I um when I was a kid my parents worked and very often pesak came out around another secular Hol well Christian holiday Easter which was a very busy time in the flower business and so I had to make PESA I did the cleaning and the schlepping and I had to bring the things from the pesak closet downstairs and then I had to clean everything out and rearrange things set everything up it's a lot of work um not as much work as afterwards PES afterwards my father would have some matah and butter face what he would have maybe some herring a cup of coffee and then you say okay I'm going to sleep in the morning I'm having humet you better make sure everything's put away and I'd be up all night you know transfer things over and I uh I learned there about the key to changing over and that is it takes a little Advanced planning going into the last days of P which my mother did not do so the refrigerator was filled with pot and bowls and this Etc and so um we as we go into we don't have a we start already transferring things over into aluminum pants and washing out the P pots that we're not going to need anymore and we start uh um you know packing up the stuff that we're not going to need you know putting things ready and we start anticipating for that cleaning and transferring over because um to paraphrase Abraham Lincoln a home cannot live half and half PES yeah uh you have to you have to make that transition over as quickly as possible and that's why when when we uh when we do the making everything pay you know you have to work in zones you slowly start closing in until you have just a kitchen left you know and and then you have to do it all in like two days and you got to you know put the pedal to the metal and make sure that everything is taken care of because otherwise if you have half of it like this I'm I'm always amazed at people who say to me yeah the first thing I do is I do my kitchen and then I can start baking and cooking and I'm like you mean your whole house is hum sck and your kitchen is PED dick and you're not worried that anyone's going to walk in there with something and yikes yeah it's a little frightening but um we have to do it over but so you see a lot of people start dreading pesak yeah oh no it's almost pesak what are we going to do how are we going to handle it you know I never had that experience when I was growing up and I didn't get that from my parents okay granted they had me taken care of everything but um but when they used to do it themselves that generation nobody said oh no I can't make PES everybody made PES I talked about my in-laws you know my in-laws would uh ER PES in the morning they would have Bagels on the kitchen table and then they would clean it up you know take it out bring it out to sfus uh you know and then you know cover over the table change over some things and they start cooking you know I knew people who um uh used to just clean their house okay they were B you know but they would just clean their apartment that they had um p in time foras coms he says because they had a rule that you can only eat in the kitchen or the dining room and nobody brought any kets into their bedrooms and uh you know so they did a quick ones over and then they cleaned over whatever and covered the counters and boom they did it in a couple hours and they're uh I know people have a PES kitchen yeah so forget about it they just close everything up you know so um but there's a sense of dread oh it's PES I love PES I love it I always did um I mentioned already we're going away to a uh a hotel this this year uh no kerat I just feel like the whole matz of Ander tra has been so difficult my kids have been really rallying for this and I mentioned by the way anyone who wants to go um you know we'll uh we'll we'll hang out together over pesak because um I don't have much to do and like I say if it actually goes then I'll try to make Pally programm the way that I always wanted we'll see this is this is a trial run for everybody else I'm putting myself out there but if anyone wants to come for the beta version trial run yeah you can you're welcome to come along um but uh um but in any event um to me you know I would plan out the calendar I would plan out where the shopping would take place where this would go where I'm going now what I'm doing with this and so like one of the first things I would do is the back room so that when I would do all the shopping I'd put everything there and the other thing I would do is I would do the other freezer you know I have a second freezer so I clean that out so that if I have any Frozen stuff you know I get my chickens and my meat and I can stick them in there and and I can do that and I love PES shopping I love going around and looking at the products and seeing what I'm going to get and spending millions of dollars on things that should not cost that much uh during the year but hey it's PES and uh you know getting my matzes and oh I just I find the whole thing so exciting it's so much fun I remember it I always have such fond memories I don't know why people have this uh fear instead of looking at all the that are there so p is a time of is a time of this is a month the whole month is the more we focus on that then the more hopefully we can enjoy the whole Nissan pesak experience Springtime everything comes to life and uh what a beautiful time it is of for everyone and that brings us to the question and answer portion of our program and the first question is by Anonymous what do women bring with them into Haba I hear a lot about how men bring their to that they learned with them intoh but nothing for women what about single women who don't get their husband's Torah this is a poignant question poignant because the gar says that it's in the that we get TOA so how do women get there by supporting their husbands and children in their learning of Torah well about what about a woman who doesn't get married doesn't have a husband doesn't have children yeah what do they do and uh it is a poignant question I would say painful painful and it's the kind of thing that uh those of us in the field always try to wish away because we just don't like the implications of those kind of questions but it is an important question and that's why um you know I've given a lot of ladies shum over the years and I always say that a lot of the Torah is um is being presented for um for men and women are sort of a an add-on and that's why uh I have and and P where I try to focus on the women more and I think that uh that they have to understand what the aod is yeah how many women have felt like some me standing and watching the men dance with the Torah so how exciting is that for me yeah and uh and I understand that so I want to bring an example of a woman who did not support her her husband learning Torah because she was divorced and uh didn't never had any children her name was sarne I'm pretty sure she got into Alaba because she was and everybody has the power to be Tyra in the world however I do that so if I do it by supporting a husband or by children that's wonderful but if I don't have husbands and children and I find another way to be Tor so look what s did she found the opportunity for people who are learning Torah to get married it's a very interesting thing um there was a generation for example of people who were pretty from and they married women who were not so from women who did not cover their hair or other things like that why they were lucky to find someone to get married without getting into the issue just the story um the fellow who was driving R salic to give the first garer in Stern college for women said rebi why are you doing this and he said because girls don't want to marry Boys in learning because they're not M I want them to see what Toyah is so they're can appreciate what their husbands are doing that's how the women learning gamorra approach Those Who quote salic came from he wanted them to be able to um find people who wanted to marry Ben toyra so created a movement of people who wanted to marry people who are going to to sit and learn Tyra is that not the greatest M of T that you can possibly imagine vent TOA wants to sit and learn he has to find somebody who's willing to do that today it's it's considered the norm to marry a boy is going to learn t as opposed to the exception back then you had to find some crazy girl who was going to be willing to marry a guy who was going to be sitting and learning and SN changed that around he did not support her husband or her children she did it by supporting toyra in the world and everybody has the ability to be able to do that and um it's very interesting um hitz his father of D started and he started with the idea of learning tah like they did in Europe not some Quicky you know two-year SM program you know but to actually sit and and Learn the European style said that we were the only people who were allowed to be recogn was recognized by the they would only give SM at that time to people who got their SM in in in Europe they said American it's a joke the Y is here and R said test my boys like you would a European boy yeah so doing it on this level well he set up a board and if and he built it he built the Yeshiva with the money he had put aside to buy himself land in eritel because he always wanted to go to erel and he took that money to start the Yeshiva and the board which did not give the money to start the Yeshiva yeah uh decided to vote him out of his own Yeshiva so there was a rule that you were allowed to have an open board that other people could join without having to be approved so there was this one Jewish school teacher and she said she's going to bring down all the teachers from the school and all the lady teachers came down to the board meeting and when it came time of the vote to vote him out so they said Rabbi now yeah says everyone opposed and all of the teachers raised their hand and voted to return the control of the Yeshiva back to ribd and he never had a board again but look at these women they saved they saved everything that RAV was doing and his his son and everything that did around the world all came about in the of these ladies you think they were in with that to be so everybody can be in some way um I remember many years ago I was invited to speak in theiva of Southshore today it's called The Terrace yov ter yob at the time and RAB baritz was there and he had me speak at a special Friday thing uh Kennis and they would serve potato cougle on Fridays very good potato coule and I said where's the potato cook come from and he says there's a woman whose son is in Yeshiva and she can't afford to pay tuition so we gave a full scholarship and she says but I want to do something to help the Yeshiva so every Friday she would bake potato cougles and send them into the Yesa for the boys now can you imagine people come by the Yeshiva and they bring the boys cake or they bring them this or they help out in some way you know when I was in in 1975 we were on ROV sanedrin sh and next door there was this sisha lady they used to call her git Mommy and she used to wash the boys's clothes everybody would bring their clothes to her she' charged them a nominal fee and everyone called the G mommy you know she would Wash and Fold everybody's clothes and bring them back and ask everybody about them that was her way of being so it's nice if you can support your husband and support your children but if not then it's up to you to find out how I can be m in the world and that's it for this week if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website rowski dcom and and you can leave a comment you can ask a question you can sign up for one of our online sh uh uh the ladies missil Sharm the men's dafi and we are in the process of how to answer questions we have gotten a lot of response and we just have to figure out technically how to put that all together but I hope to start that after PES um and uh you can sponsor an episode sponsor a question and answer sponsor a par and five and that's it for now until next week this is davidowski and this has been the rabbi 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