Stop your suffering, 5 love languages, & Manifestation with Moshe Jung on Podsitivity with Eli Weber

welcome to another episode of positivity thank you all for joining Moi why have so many people stuck in life Define stockness and what is a quick way to get above your stockness I I think that the main reason why people are stuck comes back to the stories we tell ourselves wow okay so if I tell myself that a specific part of reality is circumstance should be different or people should treat me different that gives me all kinds of excuses to feel St in specific areas of my life without going into details but it all comes down to a story that I wouldn't say all a lot of it most of it comes down to the stories that we tell ourselves oh well that's that's super powerful I did not think you're going there I thought you're going to say that in the moment some people have issues they're not doing anything but real stuckness really comes from a story in their life how do people find that story how do how do I know what story is really running my life the decisions that I make every second of the day how do I how am I able to see if this is coming from a positive story a negative Story how can I find my story so regardless a positive story or a negative story it's a if it's a story it's just a story The by definition when we say a story it's a it's a story it's not a fact it's something I tell myself about myself which doesn't necessarily have to be true so now to notice what stories are driving my life specifically the negative ones as you call them is just be aware every time you feel stuck or hurt or whatever something is going on in your life that you don't enjoy that part of your life stop yourself and ask yourself what's going on and as deep as you go you'll find that there is some kind of story and when there is some kind of story what is that story and the more you'll do it the more you'll you'll start to see a pattern wow and then you'll start to real realize oh my story is and this is my story when I go into my story that I'm not good enough and I'll never be good enough no matter what I do I'll never prove myself to be so the people that I'm trying to please the people that I'm trying to make them proud of me that that they'll ever be happy with me no matter what I do and that's just the story is that the truth I don't think so but it's still sometimes like when I'm unconscious you think it's a common problem that people have that like trying to please other people or trying to be a certain character and because they're not many people jump into problems I love to solve problems on this podcast so I think maybe we're going somewhere here where many people the reason they're experiencing problems is because they're living up to a specific story in particularly specifically trying to please people or please themselves a certain way to fit in so so what's the story around that person that's Trust tries to please other people I'm asking um he for them they're they're never good enough they're never at ease because they have to serve either their parents or their kids or their spouse or their friends right or Society or Society right so so someone being a people pleaser um comes from the same place not feeling good enough and needing to prove themselves but that happens that at some point throughout childhood you get the message that you are here to serve others and not yourself and you don't matter at all like that's where the story comes in I don't matter I will never be good enough and and the person takes on it takes it on them that they are supposed to please everyone and they take it as a task like they don't see another way out yeah I want to ask this question sarcastically but the truth is why should a person feel like they matter um so I look at it like this I didn't create myself I have no right to say on this creation that I that this creation is not good enough the way it is or that this creation doesn't matter like I feel like I'm kind of betraying God Hashem mhm when I say this like I didn't create me I didn't make me and everything that in the past the fact that I can't change it proves me that it's supposed to be like that the only time when I have choice right is in the present wow right so everything that is including me including my past and the things that I'm ashamed of or feel guilty all of that it's all you right all of that is good enough because for God it is good enough because if not he would fix me yeah right because he can it's so beautiful it's beautiful so when I don't feel good enough it's not him saying it it's me saying it and I have no right to do that wow you're bringing me awarenesses as we speak cuz I I asked that cuz there was an inner part of me that had that question technically why am I needed what what am I doing but you like you're saying that it's just so perfect and the fact that we're here means that we we do have a mission what what Tak is a story and I think that the quickest way to define it if you want I'll give you a chance afterwards but I think that stories is basically most of the stories created within childhood early on even later on as we're a teenager B Yesa and there we have the way our parents treat us I'm going to go right ahead and say because of how their parents and grandparents treated them then we have our teachers our environment create a story about who we are what we need to do how we need to protect our ourselves that little brain of ours as a kid tells us that you know either we're too chubby or too skinny or too short so now we have to pretend a certain way does this Define our story and then Define our decisions you're asking me if that happens or or if that's the TR or what would you define the story if somebody says now what's my story how do they Define define their story right so as I said earlier to to to Define what's your story is to go back and and see whenever whenever you struggle what's really going on and until you find a pattern okay um but how stories create what is the story um first you said parents I would I would rather choose the word care caregivers oh okay because it could be parents but it could also be uh someone that didn't have somehow parents I don't know they grew up in a shelter whatever but uh uh but it's also teachers at a young age and and all that like all care caregivers caregivers mhm um but uh and then there's also the the element of the story I lost train of thought so a story you're saying how a story gets created so so it I I touched the point that it's not only parents it's caregivers and a story gets created when something I would say traumatic to some extent happens okay and it happens in childhood oh I remember the second thing I wanted to say is that you said also maybe early on Shiva or something like that it usually doesn't create at that time a new story you can at that time become aware of a new story that you've never been aware of you're also living the story that started but I think all stories kind of that's what I think I might be wrong get created the message that we that I'm not good enough or that uh whatever story it may be it happens in the early on really in childhood okay um so the story is basically um that for example someone sees their parents fighting because the child loves both and they can't understand because they're a child so they don't understand what's going on they don't understand adult fights they have no idea what's going on and they love both parents the only thing that they see is I love my father I love my mother and they're fighting so it must be because of me wow okay because it's too painful to accept the truth for the truth which is that they are fighting and it has nothing to do with me and they should go to a therapist or for whatever to whoever to heal their emotions and deal with each other better away and not fight in front of me like that but but it's too painful for them to acknowledge that for a child so the child takes it on themselves it's their own fault and this is where guilt and shame starts to build up right on and this is where a story happens the story is that it is my fault that my parents fight and the story could go something like people always fight because of me wow there is no peace around me and then because the the child believes that story to be the truth it's going to reappear in their life again and again and again right so this is what creates a story basically that's what they saw as a child and they saw a specific story let's say if their parents fighting or not feeling safe at home or having an issue at school sometimes people sometimes kids have a good parents the best parents but they have issues at school so they feel that their entire world is competitive they have this competition and it's just so so whatever the kid experiences because there could be two kids in the same situation and one kid tells thems that fights happen because of me and the other kid for example says like you touched a good point you said safety the other kid doesn't feel safe and they tell themselves I could never feel safe so going further on in life where they both live their stories they both have two different stories two different experiences this person is struggling with feeling safe because their story is that I can never feel safe and this person struggles with peace and everywhere he looks he sees fights right and why is it that we take this responsibility I had one of the biggest realizations in my life this this weekend this shabas I noticed that physically I detached from my from the from the way my parents deal with each other I have the sweetest parents they get along very well but I I felt like I took responsibility as you just said and I felt and you were the oldest you are the old yes yeah which adds to that correct to this shabas for the first time I noticed that yes physically I'm not engaged in their story but mentally I'm still there I'm still worrying if they're getting along or not and what they're doing or trying to be sometimes to to protect one another and and then I was like I really have to mentally detach from this there is no reason that I'm caring so much my question is why why do kids get so attached to that story why do they take it on as if it's their problem so it it comes from a place of loving the parents so much and as I said I I can't see the painful truth as the truth which is that it's not my responsibility and it's fully their responsibility because that wouldn't make sense to me then why are you fighting if it's nothing about me so there must be something wrong with me wow and I don't even care what it is with I know but why is that that the mechanism like shouldn't it be different shouldn't a kid be able to to yes detach mentally I think it's because kids are naturally born with the sense of everything revolves around me that's how every child you'll see every child how do they express themselves they want something they'll let you know and again and again until you give it to them and if you don't what do you see a tantrum right and this is with every single child in the world okay right what does that mean they're entitled wow they want to take control they a child a a human gets into this world thinking that everything is about me it's my life and everything revolves around me and everyone here is everyone is here to support my journey yeah I I also had one of the biggest realizations we we Lear throughout life that it's I have my journey and I can respect that but you have yours and everyone has theirs right I I had also one of the biggest realizations in my life this weekend that kids are not what we think they are they're so much smarter so much brighter so much more intelligent that we think I have a seven-year-old brother I see daily the kid is as smart as I am no no different he reads the same books that I read he reads he he does the same gam games he wins me at at Ramy and so I'm not saying I'm the smartest person but he's not the stupidest person in the room and I think that that's just a for me growing up I always thought that as a kid I'm supposed to be halfway stupid or something because I'm not yet developed I think that this is also parents have a certain way of pressing down on their own children just so they feel more so they say you know open days like go find a pillow and punch that not your kid so my question is for people listening to this and I know that I've done a lot of work to to to try to be a better parent for when I become uh married and I and I have children for a parent listening to this and saying oh my God like wow look at how these kids take stories seriously what can a parent do how should they treat their child I know it's a big question but what is a proper way to emotionally treat the child if few if you can touch on so first of all when it comes to emotions a person when do you feel comfortable to open up your emotions to someone when they're accepting exactly so when do you know if they're accepting okay this is your assumption right yeah and why do you assume that someone is accepting because they've made you feel comfortable that make sense yeah okay so for example if I want my children to if I want to provide them a safe a safe space where I want to let them know that this is a space that you could feel safe to express whatever it is that you want to express and by safety I mean you won't be judged I won't get angry okay this is your safe your safe space where you can express yourself I need to focus on how can I provide that message besides just saying the words Hey kid come here you can always tell me whatever you want but that kid knows that if I'm going to tell my father X Y and Z my father's going to I don't know bust so your words are one thing but your actions are another thing so I really need to be as a parent I need to be very aware of providing that safety that when I'm noticing this kid is now expressing why they're feeling I need to respect that this is why they're feeling I can't change a feeling I can't even change my own feeling ings this is what I feel this is the fact I need to notice it I need to acknowledge it I need to express it I need to heal it but this is what I feel so this is what my kid feels I can't be angry or triggered in any kind of way that my kid feels something that I don't like that they feel that way this is why they feel yeah right so this is the step number one so when so if a parent finds themselves in a situation where they realize that their own kid might go into a whole story because of their own emotional struggles that they have with themselves or with a spouse and they want to know how to deal with it the first thing is to notice that the kids make it always about themselves wow and if that's the case for a parent that wants to know okay what can I do now is to go talk with that kid and take responsibility take ownership own up to whatever mess is going on that it's my mess it's my mess wow we both parents we both love you it is not your fault wow it's my mess and we're dealing with it like I'm aware that it's not supposed to be this way and you mentioned that that we undermine kids like we think that they don't understand oh they they understand I remember as a kid how much I understood okay and now I'm an adult and I have this tendency to treat kids as if they don't understand and I sto myself I'm like I know what I understood right I wasn't stupid this these kids are not stupid you talking about your brother your brother is the youngest right and he's growing up with basically adults yeah that also adds a lot right right so he's way more exposed to adult life than you than you were right right I do want to share a story that touches my heart on many levels um my brother as you mentioned he's very smart and growing up with with adults um a few months ago he came to to me with a list showing me all the names in our family and everybody and also guests that come to our family friends whatever and he was showing me that this one has three points Five Points he likes this one like this much this much somehow I ended up on the bottom of the list I'm at the bottom of the list you know basically he said you're not available for me you don't play with me you don't put me to sleep you and uh I it bothered me a lot like why am I bother I'm a good person like why I didn't tell him anything cuz I I instead of saying I think what a lot of people say you you know what do you mean you know how much I care for you you know how much CU that's what my mind told me you know how much I've given you over the years I said let me make an effort no problem I'll give you I'll put you to sleep every night I give you 10 minutes of quality time we can talk so you were listening to his requests without him even requesting it yes yes right so he said you don't put me to sleep that's how I know you that's why you're in the bottom of the list yeah and you were like okay so this is what you want right exactly thank you and after a while we also added he said you know you only spend time with me when you put me to sleep at night I also want to spend 10 minutes of quality time he already knows that that's his love language by the way wow smart so he said let's spend 10 minutes of quality time so I said no problem let's spend 10 minutes of quality time um now what I noticed with this is not just how much it helps him and how happy he is when I spend this time with him playing a game every day and putting him to sleep and waiting till he falls asleep cuz Kids By Nature are afraid of going to sleep they understand that when they're awake they have their parents and when they go to sleep everything goes bye-bye it's scary for them to go to sleep we have to comfort them we have to show them safety you think all kids have that no by the way a lot of kids do my my other brother brother used to just go into bed he wasn't really afraid but in in it's there's studies that show that kids generally speaking are afraid of going to sleep because they know that their parents is everything they have and going like I'm dying tonight again yes yeah it's very interesting so I played with him 10 minutes a day um obviously a few day it's sometimes it's difficult but I try not to miss a day and I didn't I didn't see what it does after a few months of doing it I noticed how this 10 minutes that I give him and the time that I put him to sleep is really working on my little Ellie that little boy and her child that also needs quality time when I give him the quality time because I don't use my phone at this time I don't look at my phone I don't use it that's quality time this is really quality time I give it to him all the way and I think that's super powerful sigh I'm saying the story because I'm giving to him more than everything than anything I was giving for myself and the results are in yesterday I saw his report card and and I am the second on the list one after my father I am the second on the list you leveled up I leveled up and I'm saying it because I took pure responsibility of his request not guilt tripping him and telling him what do you mean you know how much I did for you and how I buy you stuff and I made you breakfast that day I just said let me see what I can change and now I am the second on the list after my father I am so proud of myself for this step because you know why cuz now I know that I can have children till now I did not I did not know it right now I know it so it it's it's just an amazing story because this is this is this is the the foundation of human beings this Foundation of Cl we can treat our kids that way if we can heal our own problems patterns and stories we can have a beautiful beautiful generation and it's already happening by the way there's so many beautiful nice people out there so it it just touches my heart yes and I think the most inspiring part of this whole story was the point that we both mentioned already that you took his message that he wasn't even giving you direct like he was just in a complaining mode he was telling you you're in the bottom of the list because you don't provide me x y and z and you took that as like oh now I know what you need right he didn't know what he needed even at the time so now this bring and you also mentioned the the the like your instinct to say what are you talking about you know how many things I do for you like right and and this both of these bring me to talk about the five love languages right we we spoke a lot about this and how I understand this it's like this so there are basic five love l languages every person has a primary some even have a secondary but Everyone likes all five right to some extent um but there's always the primary now for someone to figure out what their love language is there is a few ways one of them is to see how they complain about someone that doesn't love them for example if I would tell my father I don't think you love me because you don't spend enough time with me right I would realize on that that oh wow my love language is quality time or my father would be able to realize from that that this is what I need right yeah um or if my little brother would tell me you never you never you never put me to sleep or you never pick me up or you never I know they're they want physical touch right right um so like we can touch on the five love languages cuz probably people don't know no if you can say what they are okay so all five love languages are and no no particular order um words of affirmation which means which which means like to give it's not not only compliments it's also recognition it's also I'm proud of you let's back up a second the five love languages mean that every person has a language on how they receive love and how they speak love usually naturally but if I want to show you love if I'm going to be focused on giving you love the way that I feel love with my primary love language I might not fill up your love cup because you might have a different love language for example if I'm quality time if my primary love language is quality time I would love to spend time with you and if I want to make you feel loved if I really want to make you feel loved I I need to know first what is your love language right and then here oh it's words of affirmation so I got to step out of my comfort zone and push myself to give you words of affirmation even if I'm why I'm saying step out of my comfort zone because even if I'm not used to do it right and it in the book from Gary Chapman the five love languages he says that it it's as hard as learning a new language that's why he calls it love languages it's as hard as calling as as learning a new language so the five Lang so the five languages are words of affirmation which is not only compliments it's also compliments but it's it's like I'm proud of you or like I love sitting with you okay it's like when you're around I'm happy okay when I see you when I see you sleep I know that you're resting I'm like I'm my it warms my heart like all these kind of small messages doesn't have to be like wow like I'm going crazy right it small messages but consistently if you want to make that person feel loved um the second would be receiving gifts right no need to explain people like gifts even someone that is a millionaire wow and they bring home a flower that they saw on the street that's an example that Gary gives in his book I think if I remember correctly I've read it a few years ago um that would also count as a gift because it's not so much about how much money I spent it's more that the thought right I saw this flower I was thinking of you so I plucked it and I bring I brought it home to you but again if I'm a millionaire and I only bring you free stuff you're going to be like yeah yeah whatever because you're like let me see you spend some money on me but if I buy you a nice watch and I buy you a car and I bring you home a flower that didn't cost me anything not even one penny they would all count all of them would count the house the car and the flower right right because then you would see he really means that he thinks of me and he thinks what I would enjoy and he brings it home home to me okay that's the second one the third one would be physical touch um this could be this this is not only for between spouses and nothing related to uh sexual intercourse or anything intimacy it's a physical touch could be a hug physical touch could be like a fun fight how we used to call it right uh uh uh wrestling so many kids and adults so many people love it they enjoy it specifically with the people they love right like they want to have like hey yeah like you know these people that when you talk with them they're like always touchy touchy touchy this is probably their love language right I'm not so much right um I do enjoy a good hug right yeah but sometimes I'm like hey take your hand over my shoulder like you know these people that put their hand on your shoulder to you take it off so so for some people this is the way that they receive love right this is their primary language I also learned that you can say let's say I tell you through a text where she's sending you a hug will fill that that physical touch right because it maybe I didn't even maybe I didn't get and again we'll come back to the same concept if I'll only do physical touch through non-physical ideas for example sending you a hug through text yeah then the text won't count but if I give you every time I meet you I give you a fair amount of physical touch yeah and then when we're not together I send you through text that would count right right okay so that's three that's the third the fourth would be um quality time right as we discussed ready we discussed equality time you mentioned that point and I think it's very important is undivided attention literally like our conversation right now there is nothing that would stop us right now besides an emergency right okay like I'm not going to look on my phone I've got I've received a few messages since this started your phone fell down I think yeah right yeah oh whatever something fell down you didn't even turn around to see what happened right right like we're giving each other now quality time for a reason but that's an example of quality time and it's like I give my time to you right I want to spend it with you there's also so many ways in quality time for example I can go to dinner with you right I can watch a movie with you and that's not like it's not like that we're having a conversation but I'm doing it with you inad instead of telling my spouse for example um tonight is my I I I I want to watch a movie that doesn't mean that like if if you need space that's one thing but I'm not talking about that like for someone that thinks that if I'm watching a movie I'm anyway not spending time with you so we'll do quality time later no this can also be quality time but again if I only spend quality time with you when I'm eating dinner and when I'm watching a movie and when I'm going for a walk and when I'm doing some art and we all do these things together but I never just sit down and spend time with you without watching a movie without doing anything just me being with you and and I'm not talking only in a physical sense I'm talking about me being with you like like I'm here with you now like I hear you you hear me right like that's quality time because it doesn't have to be physical it's spending time together I hear you I hear your needs I validate what you feel like I'm with you I understand you and you you do the same to me and that's how we connect and that's quality time spent together so that's for the fourth love of language the fifth acts of service is acts of service so so for example um let's say some people have a house chores it's said pronounce yeah uh so basically Wasing dishes yeah so everyone has a job in the house so for example if it's your job to wash the dishes and my job to wash the laundry yeah or like let's say we sh we take shifts of days whatever it doesn't matter and it's your turn to wash the dishes and you come home from work and you see the dishes are are washed and you're like who washed the dishes and I'm like I did and you're like you know that it was that it's my day I I'm not complaining but I'm just like you didn't have to I and I'm like yes I know I didn't do my mistake I did it on purpose I love you and I did you I car I cared for you I did you an act of service giving somebody a ride for someone yeah exactly it could be so many things for someone that this is their primary love language you just fill their cup up so much that it poured over like Abdullah right right so everybody has their love language a way that they receive love everyone Everyone likes all five right okay so but everyone has a primary right some people also have a secondary which means for me it's like this I have a primary and then the rest are the the the the the other four are on the same level basically maybe one a little bit above the other but not like nothing comes close to the first one to the primary some people will tell you I have two that are primary right and the truth is whenever I went into conversation with people at the end we came to an understanding that there is a primary and a secondary and then the rest the three left are on the third level right okay interesting so some people have a secondary some people for example I don't have a secondary I have a primary and the other four wow and we need all five to feel loved but if I give you only four and not my primary not your primary it's still not going to you you will not feel loved even if I give you the four wow and if I give you only the one that you need and not the other four you will feel loved but maybe not completely wow right specifically but if you have a secondary I'm going to have to give you the two the primary and the secondary and then the other three not you'll also feel loved but not completely this brings me to the whole point why started this conversation I you tell me you know you never wash the dishes when it's my chance you don't show me that you love me and I'm like what are you talking about you know how much I do for you you know I give you hugs you know I spent time with you you know what I did for you X Y and Z and I have so many things a whole list of things of how I feel Lov that I did for you because I love you and it is true because I love you but I did it what love for me what's my language and then when you express that you don't feel loved by me instead of taking it as a message and be like oh hold on let me listen between the words what is he saying yeah he's saying he doesn't feel loved and he's complaining but what's the message the message is he's telling me why he doesn't feel loved and now I can notice something I can be like oh wow he wants me to do acts of service okay let me learn how to do it I don't know I've never this is not my love language I'm not used to it it's a step out of my comfort zone but I'll do it because I love you and I want to show it to you right right so people have to learn to give the people around them children spouse or even parents to learn NE it doesn't matter a workmate to give them what they want and the most importantly is that we have the ability of course to give ourselves this love that we need whether it's quality time and if it's taught you give yourself you can go like this and give yourself I found for me that if I want this specific love language of touch I just spend time a lot I'll spend I'll go down I'll go lay on the couch with a blanket and that will feel to me like touch cuz the blanket is touching me that gives me that language um but I noticed that the love language is something that's very important and I can give it to myself we actually discovered recently that I went basically from My love language that I thought was words of affirmation that compliments and stuff like that to quality time my real love language is quality time I didn't even know it because I feel I felt like I just didn't give it to myself I never deser because like if if I have an emotional uh need for validation right nothing related to My love language could be because of a childhood trauma it could develop as my strongest need and I think that this is my love language it's just a need some something that I need to heal and when I heal that I'll discover that my primary love language is not even that my primary love language is quality time right so I'm thinking now a lot of people that listen to my podcast I know that are um they are single parents and it's I know that it's pretty difficult for them and I feel like this is helpful for them cuz sometimes they have a child that they buy them a lot of things or whatever you you have to know maybe he doesn't want gifts that's not his way maybe he just wants quality time maybe he just wants a hug or she whatever so I'm glad that we Shar this because this helps so many people on different levels um I want to touch on a story you also touch the point of giving yourself yeah um and you you talked about physical touch physical touch itself could be okay quality time is easy like you could do so you do so many things anyway where you spend quality time with yourself for example if you watch a movie you just did quality time with yourself for me or how I understand like if I want to show myself if I want to give myself intentionally quality time and I go watch a movie I just do it with intention I do the same thing I just do it with intention meaning to say before I watch the movie I make it conscious within my head that I'm going to watch the movie right now because I want to spend time with me right and I'm giving that to me okay so for example physical touch could be so many ways you could go to a massage right right you're providing to yourself something that you know that you need and you're giving it to you from a loving place the whole point is intentional conscious that's it beautiful I love that um give yourself love that's the that's the message here we all live and breathe on love people die from not getting love it's scary two two biggest uh uh um two biggest things that Fe English that motivate us okay that that like makes us as humans do anything the two biggest motivations okay are one of two sometimes it could be both okay it's love and fear wow and most people yeah are driven driven the word I was looking for is driven yeah we are driven by fear and and love most people today are driven by fear right and specifically if you look around I don't know if it's intentionally or not we can go into theories but I don't know for a fact if it's intentional or not but like for example the the media is like very focused on putting the humans into a fierce state of mind so that's how we can easily control you right right wow um nice um I want to touch on something that's so important to almost everybody that I speak to and the comments that I get from this podcast or on social media people that I meet um and I'll share a personal story that I had so people can understand because everybody has something I feel like everybody has almost something that they're going through and the way that you the way that you answer to me when I called you with this problem was just really refreshing and very informative and it really helped me a lot so I called you uh saying that I wasn't really feeling well um I was having this was two three months ago I was having Co and I was feeling dizzy I was very very uncomfortable and I remember complaining to you I called you and I said you know M it's just it's crazy it's like I'm so uncomfortable conversation while I was on the way to you yeah yeah and I was I was just really really fed up really no I was just in a dark place I wasn't feeling well physically I wasn't feeling well emotionally mentally I was just really not happy and the way you answered this was by saying okay so Ellie you have a specific way that you want to feel you don't have it yet therefore you are upset to me this was wow this was this was gamechanging because it was so true so what was your realization the realization was that the suffering that I created was based on a specific time on not trusting Hashem first of all but also on a specific time and outcome that I wanted and because I didn't have it because I couldn't accept what was in that moment therefore I was struggling so much more so the resistance to what actually is in the reality correct made you suffer corre so it wasn't the reality that made you suffer it was your resistance to it right right right and this I feel like is the story for most people in the world we all have a story and sorry for your pain I know it sucks whatever it is that you have whatever it is it's a family or it's health or it's a cry or it's money people are struggling I speak to people every single day I I it's tough that's tough I'm sorry but there's always resistance to that story that is causing so much more pain now after we had the conversation it's not that I healed it's not that nothing changed but my mindset changed the attitude changed the direction now changed so I I want to help people with this podcast and I feel like this is something that if I can explain to people that yes it it's tough and it's difficult and but stop having so much resistance and I know saying it is yeah stop having I want to say stop try try having less resistance to your situation and therefore you'll be able to actually see what are the practical measures like what can you actually now do to be productive because you're not in a place of lack or complaining or or just close-minded or just locked in your house and not doing anything now you're actually opening up to something so I wanted to thank you for that that realization and if there's anything you want to add you can add so so this whole concept I've learned mostly from a book it's it's called loving what is by Byron ktie yeah I started reading at the sh so thank it's very interesting the first few I personally yeah it is the whole book is amazing it's it's a very easy read it's a big book but it's an easy read mhm it's mostly stories okay um and it's very very informational clear and engaging it's interesting okay uh like I've just recently uh introduced it to someone someone very close to me and I to be honest I was shocked that person read it in six days my assumption before wouldn't even take me close to that but that person was like he told me like I'm addicted to this book and they're reading it now the second time wow okay anyway but the book is this is mostly where I got this information from the book is called loving what is because that's the idea to learn to love what actually is instead of resisting it um and she said states in the book that all suffering like she makes that huge statement that all suffering are the resistance to the reality wow and it's never the reality itself and where I've seen it firsthand one of the many times that I've experienced it with things that I've been suffering and realized oh I'm suffering and then I was open to challenge myself on it and I've realized yeah it is my own resistance to the reality that makes me suffer now that like whatever I'm feeling that not good feeling is because I'm resisting reality and if I could surrender to reality and see it for what it is right so one of the few times that I remember right now is a is is a very powerful experience which was during chemo so for those who don't know I've had chemo a few months ago andem I am healthy and clean forever yeah yeah thank you so during chemo I I took chemo for a while and it was hard it's very heavy on the body like I'm I was physically weak okay I mean the hair falls out because of that right it's very hard on the body that's that's why they give it to people with cancer it it burns the cancer right like it eats it up it kills it uh so during that time it was really hard and I've heard that concept that and she also talks about it in the book that through physical pain people would tell people would say that okay I hear the concept of loving what is but through physical pain you have physical pain that's the reality it is I am suffering physically so she mentions that and it's a very sensitive thing a lot of a lot of people are not going to be able to hear this now from me but I'm going to say it regardless she says that physical pain the suffering is that we resist when it's going to end we want it to end now so for me the message that I took out is like this so I am now five weeks into chemo wow and I still have four weeks to go okay I I had nine weeks of chemo so in my head oh I'm still going to feel like this for four weeks another four weeks I can't right and I stopped myself who said I can't that's number one but number two I have another question the way that I feel right now if I know for a fact like I feel miserable I feel really bad I want this to end right now I can't take it anymore but if I know that this is going to end I know for a fact no doubt that this is going to end within the next s minutes on the clock will I be a able to make this next 7 minutes like nothing as if I'm fully healthy like yeah I'm strong enough I'm strong enough to do this like what 7 Minutes H who can't right or any other physical pain I've done it with chemo I've done it I've done it with the with the tooth AE as well I'm talking about crazy toothache actually here I don't have that tooth anymore like this is we're talking about re really crazy yeah I remember you were going for months like okay and as soon as I was like so if I know it's going to finish in 10 seconds I would I wouldn't even know that I'm suffering not only that the people outside of me wouldn't see that like it has a physical effect on me but even myself I myself wouldn't even notice I wouldn't even be suffering I would be okay I would be able to focus because I know in 10 seconds it's gone so so now that I assume that it's going to go for however long I think it's going to go because the doctor said it's going to take another four weeks or because that's why you don't have the and because I'm another four week suffering like this this uncomfort but if I know it's finishing in 10 seconds I can be so if I can handle all you're knowing of or thinking of what exactly so if I know I can handle another 10 seconds let me only handle a 10c period at a time I have to give an example like for all the singles out there and they want to badly get engaged if you know that tomorrow or even next week you get engaged you'll be perfectly fine right now you would take a trip now you would chill right wow you would enjoy the next few days knowing okay this is my last few days single let me just I don't know have fun knowing the end it's basically it's all on the mind it's more than not knowing it's because we don't know we go into a story that's probably going to take another year or so or whatever I might I might go into a story that it's going to take another month you might go into a story that it's going to take another 6 months and someone else might go into a story that's going to take another day they might probably not suffer and then there is someone that goes into a story that it's going to take another 10 years or maybe forever right and that's probably how much they're suffering depending on on the the person struggling and suffering beautiful wow thank you for sharing so a little bit of an introduction cuz Mo we didn't do an INT uction but uh Moi is a good friend of mine that I know him already for I think over 5 years now about 5 years um and came into my personal life like a like a Malik cuz I I felt lost I didn't know anything I was very immature I would say I had a lot of things that I suffered and struggled with um Regular life nothing in particularly just life I wasn't feeling uh uh motivated and and happy and complete and I I remember having conversations with mhi so this is actually a free gift to all of you because I'm introducing you to MOSI cuz he was a gift in my life and help really help me grow and I remember him taking me out from a job into a business from being unhealthy and overweight M do you remember how much I weighed I mean do you remember how much I weighed I was huge and he would take me on walks every day we would meet up Park you were telling me I'm I'm learning to accept myself as I am yeah right and love it did you ever love that no love that you were so overweight no right so loving yourself was like giving yourself what you needed correct yeah and I lost a lot of weight and remember one of the things that we did together was create a list a plan and a plan of action of of things that I will do every single day it was a list of 15 things I think I still have that list of how I turned my life around literally from being this chubby miserable unhealthy poor person to being who I am now considerably with a successful business healthy energized happy clear clear in my mind and he still is a good friend of mine and uh so he actually is now a coach open to the public and you can call him at any time and you get can get a 20 minute free session um and just have a conversation with him that's that's how I started I just called him and I said Mo you know there's a few things in my life that are not going going well and he very well pinpointed that so you know that being said make sure you follow him on Instagram where he puts out motivational videos or even on WhatsApp uh status uh we'll post the link and the number on the bottom um Great Value this guy helped me a lot still does and is a great friend and whenever I have a problem let's just say I call him a couple of minutes later that problem is no more a problem because as he just explained in the conversation that you're listening once you have these specific tools and techniques of understanding how life work works and the things that happen in general um then you did you introduce me to law of attraction I think so yeah wow well once you have these specific tools your life changes forever so I want to touch on the water story because this story stayed with me forever and I use it now whenever I talk to somebody and then I want to talk about manifestation because I think that affirmations manifestation law of attraction is really the way to the quick way to get every single listener it's the only way yeah the only way cuz everything is an attraction but I think it's the quickest way to help all of you listeners the story with the water is we were by Brooklyn Bridge Park and you were telling me Ellie what's water and I said what do you mean water is water like but yeah but what is it said it's wet but what's water said I don't know and he's like you tell me like you see how quickly how quickly you gave up on a simple question I said yeah it's kind of embarrassing you were like you were like I don't know okay moving on yeah yeah I was like next yeah yeah oh I remember that moment like next I was trying to avoid the question because because I didn't know the answer and then Moi taught me one of the most important lessons that I have this conversation daily with people when they don't know the direction where they're going when they don't know the the the kind of things that they want we specifically spoke about business you you were like what kind of business do you have but you don't even ask yourself the question because at that point when we were talking this wasn't existing Weber media the successful company wasn't dream to this direction exactly and that was your point like look I just asked you what water is and you gave up just imagine how you're giving up on your dreams on your life on your the type of partner that you want the health that you want so and ask yourself the question cuz that's the conversation I have most of the time with people they call me what business can I go in Ellie you're so successful you have a few businesses what what can I go into I'm like did you ask yourself the question yes of course I did but I don't have an answer I don't know okay did you ask yourself the question again again again I mentioned this in a magazine this week also where they interviewed me I said the same thing I had a list of 10 ideas of options of what I can do I put my mind to to you know to think every single day I remember some of them so yeah and we were planning just we then we would we would visualize by the way together mhm um we would visualized having the success the business the life and we were laughing we were really feeling it by the way it was it went through the our entire body and because it worked it worked a few months later after we did all of these things Weber media started right away got clients easily you got the Courage the first step I think for me that was like one of the most inspiring parts of of your journey was the courage you took to quit your job yeah because you were in such a safety and comfortable place you were like terrified of taking that jump that leap of Fai that Quantum Leap yeah right yeah and that's that was so inspiring but you taking that jum that jump it was like burning all bridges right you were like okay I really have to do this now I have nothing to fall back on it's only me and and I'm clearly going to say that and I'm saying this so that people should learn I can clearly say I don't think I would have been able to do it without a friend of course I give myself the credit for the work that I actually did but without that friend to guide me to show me where the lies and the stories that I told myself I don't think I could have done it the lesson here is get a friend either pay for a friend pay for a coach and it's worth right yeah yeah or make go find a friend because it's very hard sometimes when you're stuck in a situation to to get out of this yeah we need the support it's important so then one of the things we discussed was Law of Attraction how everything that comes to us is attracted and I think that that was very very powerful and I said earlier like you said that if you it's the fastest way and I said it's the only way what I meant by that is that we The Law of Attraction it's that's why it's called a law a law means that it's always operating if we're aware of it or or not or even if we disagree with the fact that it operates it still operates that way right and it's a whole deep conversation for itself whole for that to this right nows toact to find amazing details about the law of attraction that would be probably my first answer would be go on YouTube and listen to Bob Proctor Bob Proctor yeah right so I want to say he yeah two years now two two years I think um I want to say because this is the the bottom line in my opinion and then we'll see what else you want to add um to me everything has been working on the methods really that he taught me which was Law of Attraction manifestation um and and um affirmations and I think that they all tie together because you're you're attracting what you're believing you're visualizing what you want to see and visualization brings you closer to your dreams affirmations affirms your visualizations beliefs Law of Attraction but what I want to say is and I never Shar these things the amount of things that I've attracted into my life it's real it works every time we had me and Moi had for a very long time every day we would say a certain thing that we attracted that day and it just comes to show how powerful it is I I want to give one example last week I was sitting you going give one example but I just I am a witness that every good thing you have in your life right now it is something that you iously attracted you said I'm going to attract this you made you did the exercises you did what was needed to be done in order to get it and you got it right right right correct all of them yeah thank you Moi I want to give one example last week Monday I was in a bad spot yeah that happens for me a bad spot I didn't feel it I didn't yeah exactly I wasn't in the mood I wasn't feeling energized I felt like I'm just uh and I remember going onto my phone and writing down three specific things about how I feel about my business something and about relationship something that same day and I said I wrote it down and I said it 10 times affirming it feeling it really you wrote it down as an affirmation something already happening yes something that you want as an affirmation as if it's already already happened right I said I'm so happy and grateful now that I have these things that I have a relationship that I have business yeah and I have the money that day I ended up going to a business show something that I haven't done in many many months cuz I didn't have the energy I didn't I didn't want to go at the business show I met a girl and we went out something also that I didn't do in many many months cuz I didn't feel like it I wasn't up to it and that was the relationship thing you wrote down that was the relationship thing I wrote down and a couple of business opportunities just randomly presented themselves to me so I'm just showing from writing it down one time saying it I said it out 10 times and I still am saying it reading it out loud but really feeling it it happened in my life so this means wherever you are in your life take control of this take this as a lesson that you can you can write down your own destiny and take charge of it no matter where you are no matter how you feel no matter what you're doing you can with affirmations and and and um or visualization and putting yourself into that healthy head space you can attract anything that you want who doesn't want that don't we all want everything that we want and this is such an easy method to get to it right and I think the the very important part that you play as a very very great example in this thing is that most people today want instant gratification we don't have patience um and you you were willing to take this journey every time you heard about a new idea A New Concept in the Law of Attraction you were willing to to do it and practice it for as long as it takes without knowing when or how long it's going to take you were like I know it's going to work regardless I just don't know if it's going to take me a day or a year or 10 for that matter but I'm going to do it until it's happening I want that car I'm going to do it I want I want because now I have the car I have the business wow so thank you for recognizing that because I have seen how affirmations really work in my life and it's beautiful and I I would ask you all to try it you know that's that's put all the affirmations right like all exercises and really putting in positivity and by the way I'm glad we had this conversation cuz I feel like I took so much of the things and memories that we created together and just brought it up to the surface again just to remind me of cuz I because I also feel like I I'm going through stuff in my life now like I feel like I've I'm also not always where I want to be or just trying to figure things out and just having this conversation where where I'm see that means that you're alive yeah thank you like when you have everything you have nothing to grow nothing well like what are you doing here right boring I think a sense of direction is really what happened between us why it was so magical I had no Direction before we met and then I had had Direction especially with at Leist as I mentioned like 15 things that I changed in my daily life um whether it was exercise or doing or learning every day or just eating healthy not being on social media having walk started how long how long was our walk uh we did every day uh 30 minutes 45 minutes it started with 30 minutes and that was me challenging you you were like no 30 minutes is so long yeah yeah I never exercised now how long can you walk I'd walk every day 45 minutes so three miles I walk every day and I go to the gym every day right and we walked 30 minutes we walked like grandpass right like really slow yeah you were like telling me hey slower I was I was I think 300 lb at that time yeah you know I uh my point my point is not to like laugh about that time my point is like to bring out like your dedication to change things um just for the record I feel so mic from after this conversation so I know Moi for you you also have a burning desire and a passion to help people that's just really your mission completely by the way like I'm an entrepreneur and what but this is your purpose and if you want to talk about it like why you want to help people or how you feel you can help people um I think I think literally this is my purpose my mission why God created me and sent me down here and made me go through whatever I went through um obviously it also has that element of me having to heal me and whatever my soul on a soul level on a spiritual needed healing maybe from P past and in some sense also generational right uh traumas that I need to heal um but I in my own imagination and maybe from a place where I find Comfort um I tell myself that to go through what I went through on such a high scale uh it has to be something way more than just myself it's way bigger than myself and that's why I think that whatever I went through that shaped me into the person that I am and that I have the knowledge and experience that I have and understanding specifically the understanding to people um and being able to help them I think that it was specifically so I can help others and that is my mission and with that came the present of like the gift that God gave me of enjoying it like I literally if I don't do this I feel empty if I do it I feel alive I feel good literally this is my food this is my ear to breathe it's so simple to me so I have no doubt in my mind if this is what I need to do this is my mission like nothing and no one can change my mind on that people have tried like and because it's like it's a it's a it's a journey that is like for a lot of people it's like take a job make money and then you'll pursue your dreams or whatever I'm like no I'm wasting my time when I'm working in construction or whatever like no I don't want that if I can't do what I'm supposed to do I don't want to do anything is how is it that you always know spot on what my problem at least is but I know for other people I know I speak to many friends that are also friends with you and they know that Moi is just the guy it can help like whether it's relationship or business or whatever like your journey but if you can give me a little bit of a secret ingredient what is it I I want to learn this yeah what is it no what what is it that you have and in I'm going to two parts of this question what do you have and you I want you to give me now a technique and maybe also for others but at least for me how can I be that kind of person maybe for myself to be able to do it and second of all to be able to help other people the way you helped me you have to sign up for coaching for sign up for coaching sign for coaching but uh first thank you I appreciate the compliment and it is it is from God it is from Hashem [Music] and it's something that I didn't necessarily work on it's not something that I gave myself wow but in one word it is Clarity and it's a blessing it's a gift but to develop that gift I think Hashem puts in everyone a gift Steve Harvey talks a lot about it and I want to mention a TOA that my father showed me a while ago more than a year ago and it was relevant this week shabas paraa and I'll mention it in a minute um and my point is that everyone has a gift but the gift is not non-developed and we have to put in the work to develop it that that what Hashem wants us to do like this is part of our mission and for example to know what the person needs to hear again as I said it's totally completely and as I said before we started this uh podcast I said like we're talking and I said that every single time or most of the times I try to make an effort to do it every single time before I answer or before I start a session with a client or before I have a conversation with a friend like when someone asks me something if you'll ask me sometimes a question and you'll see me go like this you'll know what I'm doing I I say to Hashem please oops mhm please put in the right words in my mouth the right words that this person needs to hear right now to have the healing that he needs yeah so it's not me I see myself as the vessel that Hashem uses and I'm blessed and honored to have that now as a tip I I was beautiful that I want to know what you use yeah so so how I developed that gift is you mentioned that word I listen I listen I'm I practiced a lot of listening and I'm very interested in developing my listen yeah you taught me listening also I was a mess in the beginning remember mhm cuz I'm the comedian I'm a I speak that's what I do for a living right to me listening is like you know what I do when I'm on the phone sorry I'm like I check the time like I have people that I speak to and I and I decide okay for the first 10 minutes I'm not saying anything and then until 10 minutes I don't talk at all right so I'm just saying how I practice listening I think it's something that so many people are missing out right for the giving false advice when it's not needed but anyway right that's also part of of what listening is not is like giving advice advice like when I tell you what I did and or what I'm experiencing and you start to fix it like hey I didn't ask you for that like unless I tell you I want advice so the technique you use so I I I did a lot of I I I enjoy bettering my listening skills okay okay so when I have the opportunity I find a new idea that I haven't heard till now right I like oh wow I need to implement this right like I love improving my listening skills and I have been loving it for a while so I've been working hard on my listening skills and with that said I listen very very deeply to what a person says I listen so deeply that I also listen to what they're not saying I I I I I listen to the specific type of words that they use how they say it I also listen to the body language and when I say listen I don't mean with the ear I listen with my eyes like I read the person like how you say something or how you hesitate to say something even you say it at the end like all these details they make a difference and from there I really understand what you're saying even if you didn't physically explain yourself well in the words and if I'm not clear I can ask you to get to get me Clarity but but I have that Clarity in my question like I have this one detail that I want to make sure you know what I'm talking about when I ask you a question like where I understand what you're saying just make sure specific detail from that place of understanding and really really understanding again is that like it's from hasem it's a gift that I have the right words I I I'm not taking credit for the right words at the right moment it's something that comes into me yeah I feel like I'm asking you a question that you don't have the answer I I telling you it's like in I just want to say it's like intuition I listen to my in really I I've called you with many big problems I remember I'll give one example one night I remember committing to sh to go out with a girl and then I'm like Moi um I don't know what's happening to me but just darkness came all over me and I'm like I don't know why like I spoke to the sh I trust the shat I trust going out I think it's the right thing to do to go out with the girl and you were like wow like you were just you just opened my mind to explain to me why I said yes to something I really believe that is a no and that was just messing with me it it just completely tore me apart so that's the kind of ability that you have that is just amazing is just wow you if you you should study it I don't you have to study it for yourself to know what it is what's your method right so it is my intuition but I also I also I realized why you were talking because you said that I I explained to you why you said yes and I realized that you use this choice of words because probably because you wanted to say a whole 10 minute explanation in one sentence because I don't just hear you with your struggle and then explain to you why you did something I ask questions right yeah but I also my questions are directed meaning to say so you tell me that you said something that you did something and you tell me I don't know why I did that and I'm like why did you do that right I make you think in the direction like I I guide you with my questions to find the answer you're looking for it with within me I don't give you the answer you give it to yourself I guide you to find it okay and then you're like wow you gave me Clarity which I just asked questions you gave yourself the clarity because you were willing to ask yourself the these questions and answer them honestly to yourself without going into denial that's a very good explanation by the way thank you but these questions come from intuition true the moment you talk it out and you explain it and you and you have the right person over there to challenge you cuz some people do the opposite some people are like what's the problem just go out with the girl you were like Ellie do you really want to go out with her and I was like no but you could have said just go out just be a g you know just let it go yeah let it go just go out challenge yourself you're very good with that cuz I some of I was going to say maybe with me you're very good cuz I don't have big problems but no many of my questions are are in a very don't be little I'm just saying but I'm saying many of my questions are on a thin line like you know like I can give you the full explanation why yes and why not we've done this many times with really difficult situations and scenarios where there was relationships or business or certain things where one little thing that you could have said could have gone completely that way or the other way but you always know what to do and and that came from asking the right question which comes from my intuition which is a gift from God so this technically you can do it on yourself right but but you could maybe teach me how to do it for others so so I can I can tell you I can maybe help you find your intuitions voice and trust it and listen to it like guide you there mhm but I can't give you a gift that is not right like I can't I can't make you but you're saying but I'm telling you everyone's intuition if you really listen to your intuition your your intuition is every single person on this planet wow the intuition guides to the right place you need to go right if you only dare to listen and follow right oh I wanted to say uh uh uh about the last we this previous so the theem says to Mo um go and find people go tell people was [Music] thetion and the p goes on so basically these these words mean you should talk my to all my means means smart people uh but the definition of the words is smart in their heart wow and I think I think think when the to Calls the Heart it's the subconscious by the way that's what I think um that IEM filled him the hearts the hearts M with the with a with the with with the smartness yeah okay so the plain simple translation in the PK is that Hashem tells M go tell these specific people that I made them smart that they should make me the mishkan and all these things that I want for the Mish but theam says that theem told MOA go tell everyone go tell the people that they all have a smartness within them wow that I put in there and it only comes out when you are when you've been told that you have it and it's not that someone needs to tell you it's that you need to take it in if you accept that you have within you a smartness guided directly from Hashem which we call intuition if you know about it if you accept it if you like for some people might be like yeah well I hear people talking about intuition I have no idea what that is blah blah blah all whatever this person would probably not find it with that attitude right wow but for someone that can hear that idea and then are like oh wow so I also have that within me let me go and find it with that open mind they will find it and it will develop to something amazing everyone has a gift everyone has a gift wow everyone is put here to do something and not something just like yeah some people are here to do great things and some people are just here to fit in to the whole picture of the puzzle no everyone is here to do a big part I'm emotional when you say that cuz I feel like you saw this version of me before it ever happened but em that was really your your and you kept on saying it you kept on you kept on saying Ellie e an amazing mench and uh the like and it was just it meant a lot to me it meant it meant it was just it was it was it was what I needed to hear and and here I am by the way and it's you know so so so that is actually my thing like one of the things that I enjoy so much about what I do is because I believe in the good of everyone okay and with that like when I I'm being honest with myself when I sit down with a client like or someone wanting to be my client if I think that they that I can't help them I will tell them yeah okay maybe I will tell them hey you're not ready to heal you want to be a victim get out of my office right I will not say it this way but if I feel that I can't provide them the best that I can offer I will be honest with that and being that said everyone that I do offer my services in any kind of way should it be a friend as a friendly conversation or other client um it's with that image of seeing them achieving whatever greatness they want to achieve and only from that picture of me seeing them there only from that place I can work with you guiding you there wow and that works also for you to get yourself somewhere like right we we spoke about the law of attraction about it it's the same thing it's like you have to see yourself getting the place you like you I can't be like okay Hashem I need money he's going to send you a quarter yeah that's money isn't it yeah right so but okay I have a vision I see myself with $10,000 in the next two months right right okay it's reasonable for me it makes sense and by the way you were talking about reasonable I remember now you were talking earlier like the goals have to be reasonable something that's reasonable for you might not be reasonable for me right like the car you attracted and for you it made so much sense to attract that the amount of time that you attracted it I know so many people that would be like nah it's not possible not not so fast right yeah and so and so and and some other person is sitting sitting down somewhere somewhere right now and is like writing down his new goal for this month for March by the end of March I making a million dollars and for them it makes so much sense right because they're a millionaire or whatever the reason is and they'll achieve it yeah right and it's not about because they're a millionaire or because they wrote it down it's because they they are capable of believing it right right so coming back um me as a coach I have I have to be able to see you where I'm coach like be the person that I'm coaching you to be otherwise I'm wasting my time like like trying to do something that I don't believe I can do right yeah and obviously for you to get wherever it is in life with a coach or without a coach like whatever it is you also need to be able to see yourself and that goes for everyone for myself as well I need to be able to see myself at that place where I want to go if I can't see myself there that's me not going there yeah um wow the the realization of the day for me was that I can't believe how far I came from when we met till this day I truly did not appreciate enough I'm not beating myself up I I do appreciate every day I give gratitude I try but I you're saying this because but I feel like I don't know I I feel like I haven't appreciated enough like the the car I drive the business I own the money I make the people I have the health the what I I know my focus is definitely a lot more on what I don't have yet than what I have and I want to completely change that from this podcast going on you most podcast I come out with one major resolution and this will be the one to just appreciate what I have I mean it's just crazy the journey that and we went on not in the future now now I am appreciating right from from now and and to use some of those tools that work we spoke about this so so many times Range Rover passing right now I have to do this this Range Rover is passing right now okay I was on the way here my dream car that's what after the other dream car that I parked outside okay good so I was on the way here and with my father and and we saw a Range Rover and my father asked me something about the Range Rover we made a conversation and in my head I was like I'm going to look for for a new Range Rover to show my father how the new one looks because I said it's it's really nice and and it just passed I I knew I knew I'm going to see one today yeah but it now it just happened as so I had to cut you off sorry about that thank you no I'm going to we spoke about this many times people have something that works but they stopped doing it cuz it worked I feel like for me many times affirmations some of these things are the things that I stopped doing because it actually worked so I'm just going to put it back into action um so you were saying you're going to appreciate you're appreciate and I'm going to appreciate you are appreciate I am I am I appreciate right now anything else you want to add Mar I want to thank you for being my friend you thank you for coming out by the time yeah but this whole time made way to the studio so thank of course and and and this whole time you were talking about how much I I helped you right and how much I've been there for you and and thank you for coming you made this whole way out right yeah and I just want to say like I've benefited from this friendship equally as much as you did or maybe even more I don't even know I I I I think I did okay and and it's an honor that you invited me to come here right like I feel privileged to be here with you on this podcast thank you and uh I appreciate you I appreciate you as a friend and you're also my coach and so many ways I mean we've talked about this you know this thank you so many times that I call you for things that I need coaching in and I'm like yeah thank you I I'm I'm just grateful I um I'm grateful because I feel like so much of many of our friends that we have I feel like for myself is what we is the friendships that we built in the last few years and I'm saying this so that people are not shy to let go of some of their old friends that are dragging them down because when they let go of the old friends automatically they're making space for new friends that will really change their life most of the people that change my life on a daily basis people like you and other people are people that I became close to them in the last few years so of course do have childhood friends and stuff like that but don't be shy to make yourself a friend cuz that really sums up our conversation over here I think people are going to see this are going to see our friendship and what we buil together and say wow maybe I can also find the right person the right coach it's the right surroundings yeah it doesn't matter should it be a friend should it be a coach should it be a Reby should it be you name it it's the right surroundings like you're they say you're the average of of the five people you're surrounded with and that's why I always look around like who are my five closest people like I need to elevate we talked about this on Friday I said I need to I need to be more around more successful people I want to elevate my success right like said you told me that you made it I want to just give a word from our sponsor that sponsored this uh studio um they do the now especially or they do any kind of printing that you want to do on clothing or mugs or they have a store actually um in Flatbush the comp is the website is www.pr promos.com or you can call 718 99 6340 and uh get them to do beautiful work for you especially now with theatin people make and uh or anything any other promotional thing that you want to make for pet or for a business or for if you're setting up a new store or a brand they'll give you the all 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