Special Series - How to Win the Fight | Rabbi Yehuda Mandel

[Music] I know a person who had a dream and somebody from the next world who had been nifter several years earlier came down to him in a dream on the exact night that this person's namesake had been ni and the namesake was someone in tanak and that night the person appeared and in front of my friend in a dream and the person looked beautiful that person was very very careful with unbelievable careful and the next World they didn't look that good in this world they looked super happy and super beautiful and dressed up unbelievable that was a dream there was a message in the dream also and the message was to calm down about certain things that this person was too St about and this person was giving a message we all make mistakes you just try your best that was that's the end of that story I have my advice for people working on these things number one the shim says you walk into the street Ding and ask Hashem save me from Curiosity now I recommend just do that for 30 days forget about what happens I don't care just say I want to be saved from Curiosity you know what you did with that let's say you know it fails let's say you're all messed up you have no idea what you accomplished in the next world even more from Tyra Agra you tried it it didn't work who knows where you're heading the other plan is you make a cabala for the next 30 days or for a week just one time I ain't looking just once rest of a time you can't help it you're a mess but one time I won't look and that time there's a special schooler if you turn your face all the way there's a special Mitzvah to do it like that do it anywh you want but just one time I'm going all the way you have no idea the power of that one time you're not M couble anything just once is that hard you'll see there's a spillover effect it's going to affect you forever but stick to the one day and report it to your friend every night and say I kept my Caba us you made a Caba now chop it in half you chopped it in half now make it in a quarter make small Cabos they're very powerful they are Dynamite it puts an oil on your system and you're hooked in you're one of those holy Jews that that has an oil of being watching your eyes FR told me he was discussing C and he told me do you know Yehuda whenever I want to get angry I do you don't I say on this you're a guy that like that you can't you know you're one of those you can't control it's hard we all understand you be a soldier and you say just once but I du won't I want to tough I'm a soldier I'm stronger than you I do what I want I'm boss around here this is so so exciting this it has to be you have to say I love this stuff just say it cuz the world out there screaming in the other direction they love everything that's tummy and disgusting and you just say it I love self-control it makes me feel I'm in power I'm in control I'm a control freak I'm an official I love being a control freak even once a day doesn't matter I love that that's my hobby and report it make a game out of it make it make it I heard from big they told me how to learn make it your job I gotta make him Gish it's your job to make Gish I love it what you mean inside never say I'm really cut the garbage you're going to learn how to lie like Robin Miller better a positive lie than a negative truth and you're going oh I'm conquering it I feel much better do you know how that affects you inside when you say that words have power you're hypnotizing yourself and your body listens and the body loves this stuff and when you're a babus or you're control the world is under you you can have Nim GL happen to you because you are a Ness because you're going against your teor you know what it does to a person practicing self-control it gives him life and vitality that's your people stay young and vibrant if they do these things it's it's G it's gaval and don't fall in you see other they fall NE they'll they'll swing out of it someday in the next World you're going to have good company up there do you know there was a woman who made a hpit there a gamaran gon she made a hesped on her husband and she said about her husband my husband was better than yadik and she gave one reason after in many ways he was greater than y andal put that down in a gar gon because they felt she had a point they wouldn't let her get away with that y sadic imagine kazal held it true do you know what it means if you're up with the greatest when you leave this world you're going to meet Smiley beautiful malim running towards you you created me remember that time yell yourself back look how gorgeous I look and I'm out to protect you I'm going to be speaking up for you don't be afraid cuz this is number one these days especially before msia comes has got his last his last war in this area you're one of those Fighters even if you fall and you keep losing it don't matter as long as you're a soldier you're part of it you're making phone calls what do I do should I try this should I try that and you're going nowhere you're a fighter and you're a winner automatically even if you lost you don't really lose the is just be I heard this from D seel said main things be a warrior even if you and don't be impressed by all those a that you do don't you dare be impressed do you know why that happened because you're a tadic that's why don't do them again there's a story with I heard this it was on the there was a b that did something very nasty in this area and it was just unre repeatable and he sent a messenger to tell the Mas ofid and the Mas ofid sent back tell him he's AES what that means who knows but I'll tell you one thing if you have a bigar you know what you're supposed to do you're supposed to say I'm from a great God it's the only don't no other if you make any other there something wrong with you you're messed up and you're one of those you're falling into a worse y don't get near it not for us you don't call yourself nobody these days don't you dare today you call yourself the rash and you'll get a mitzvah for that alone somebody called me up from he said Rabbi Mandel you didn't even talk about kadua you talked about self-esteem and automatically my kadua situation turned around believe in yourself this will give you the best way to get self-esteem is this raron khina said of a baka went from home to Yeshiva and he didn't see anything when he came home he didn't dance for half an hour that's why he won't become a gutle why don't you dance for half an hour y does not want you to appreciate when you're a great guy and you're careful he makes not yeah well why of course it wasn't so hard he makes a a whole mess out of everything he likes his first love is putting you down don't ever ever do that put yourself up for the slightest thing Al said you learned one py you got to be dancing and singing one p make aiel out of every tiny thing we're fighting onik who's the extreme opposite mik makes jokes out of that's nobody baloney my ding it's not the real thing my learning I don't really know the m you go to war go extreme the ram says a shuffle has to be extreme Bic extreme means you're saying things that aren't true you're going to lie through your teeth for the rest of your life like RBI Miller has a tape called the artificial man he was constantly involved in lying you lie and you say you're better than you really are always do it's probably true always do that the less you feel you accomplished something the more you did because Yahara gets the top people and puts makes it ah it wasn't so important it's the extreme opposite I heard this from the VBA from Yim he said The more nus you have it's a proof that you're one of the greatest people around he starts up only with the greatest and I want to tell you one thing about chuva if you did Chua and you stopped what you used to do even once become your entire life as a process of chba that's what you it's always a tra situation and you're always getting millions of Mitzvah and all your Aus those nasty angry Mal that you created are converting themselves into your best friends they say you know I'm the same guy that you sinned I just became your best friend because you changed and you did trba how many few people believe really believe in ch yeah but since I did it I'm no good balone says is what could be worse than that when he did cha he felt like such a million dollars he didn't feel the slightest guilt or pain it's gone it the TR bug off we don't do that Yar says no you once did that we got your number you're one of those already don't do that you have to go to war to believe that CH works [Music]