Your Kid's Behavior Says More About Their Needs Than Their Character #parenting

Is my child's defiance a sign of disrespect? First thing I want to tell you about parenting is you got to completely remove your personal feelings. You can't do your job as a parent if you are busy taking offense. But secondly, I'll let you in on a secret. Most defiant behavior from children is because they are frustrated. Maybe they feel they're not being heard. Maybe they're afraid of something that they're not going to have their needs met. And so they feel they have to break rules in order to get whatever it is that they feel they need, but it's not personally aimed at you. So usually what's helpful is to figure out what it is that the child is stressed about. It doesn't mean that you have to give in. Not everything that a child wants do you have to give them, but at least hear them out and find out what it is that's disturbing them so that either you can take care of it if it's a legitimate thing that needs to be taken care of or use that as an opportunity to teach them that they don't have to have that thing and it's okay. But don't look at it as rebellion. That's you taking it personally and missing out on an opportunity to actually help your