When gentle parenting goes WRONG

it's easy to just throw around words it's easy to say well we don't want to educate children out of fear we're going to educate them out of love okay I agree but what is that actually look like to educate out of love and I think what's happened I'm just saying this as an observer is that in many cases what we've done is we let go of stuff that we know doesn't work but we haven't yet really replaced it with anything so we know that we don't want to be so hard on our children that we break them God forbid we know that's not the path but then what do we do instead of that it's like well I guess nothing right just stand back and let them do whatever they're going to do because we can't stop them anyway and if we try to interfere they're going to get mad at us God forbid we're terrified that we're going to turn them off they're going to go away from us maybe we've eliminated certain parenting styles that you might consider on some level to be abuse but in many ways we've just replaced that with neglect