The Real Reason Pornography Never Satisfies a Man

Let's talk about pornography. You tell me, how can you give to pixels on a screen? What can you do as a man that is generous, magnanimous, giving with pixels on a screen? There's nothing you can do other than take from it. It's a totally one-sided relationship. So, what's happening? You're becoming a taker and you're becoming a taker specifically in the area of sexuality, which sexuality is all about male-female differences, like my French friend say, "Vive la difference." Long live the difference between male and female. I know that's anathema in today's society, but yes, the difference between male and female, which are existential differences, not just biological differences, but existential differences, spiritual differences. So, when a man defies that by being a taker specifically in the area of sexuality where his masculinity is supposed to be most pronounced, he is going to suffer. He's going to suffer. And there's no way you can have a giving relationship with pornography. You say, "Well, you pay for the pornography." That's Okay, that's not called giving. That's That's called a a transaction. The buyer gives money to get something. You That's called taking. Just like I said before, sometimes a man takes a woman's uh physical intimacy. It's not intimacy, it's the opposite of intimacy, but he takes physical contact with her through coercion, some sometimes through manipulation. Okay, so sometimes through uh commerce, through a transaction, right? But the point is he's taking. He is the taker and it's never going to be healthy and it's never going to be satisfying. And the biggest proof that it's never going to be satisfying is he he he he wants more right away because it doesn't fill him. It's like you just finished eating a meal and you're still hungry. So, that's what makes it so destructive. Now, we're not even done. We're not even done because let's play this forward. Let's say this man is married or has a relationship with a woman. You think all of a sudden he's going to stop being a taker when he's with her? No, of course not. The pornography has trained him to be a taker. He's going to carry that into his intimate life with his partner, and he's going to objectify her, turn her into pixels on a screen, meaning just a source of physical pleasure that he can take from. And let's set aside how demeaning that is to her. Cuz I don't even want to talk about how destructive this is to a woman to be in that type of a dehumanizing situation. Like that's for another We'll make another class just about that, how this dehumanizes and destroys women. But let's just talk to men. As a man, do you understand when you're in a relationship with a woman, specifically a woman you're supposed to be her provider, and you turned her into your object from which you squeeze out, extract satisfaction? Do you know how toxic that is for your relationship? Do you know there can be no intimate relationship under such conditions? And then is it any any wonder to you at why after a while she has nothing left to give, because you've squeezed her dry, she has nothing left to give? Well, she lost her passion, she lost her interest. You squeezed her dry. Okay? And then you say, "Well, the porn is so much more stimulating." Yeah, I guess, because, you know, you could keep squeezing it dry, and and as soon as uh you know, and then the the porn never gets tired. It's just, you know, it's it's it's recordings. It just it never it Play it again. You Play it again, Sam. Just go back to the beginning, right? Where Whereas you're dealing with a human being, yeah, they get tired. They get exhausted. And if you're treating a person like pixels, yeah, eventually they're going to have nothing left to give. And then you as a man are going to go off and sulk and say, "Why why should Why did she lose her passion? Why did she Why is she not into it anymore?" You literally squeezed her dry. That's it. You just took the sponge and just squeezed it out. You didn't put anything into it. You only squeezed out of it. Of course it's empty. It's empty. So, pornography in short inverts the entire male-female paradigm by turning men into takers in the area of sexuality where their masculinity is supposed to be most pronounced. Get it out of your life. Zero tolerance. Not even 1 second. Get it out of your It gives you nothing productive. Because like I said, the only thing productive a man can get is something that he's given to a woman he's devoted to and she gives him back in upgraded fashion. Okay? You're not gaining anything. You're not even getting pleasure cuz ultimately like I said, it's like eating a meal and then being hungry right away again. So, it it it's just destroying you as a man. It's destroying your masculinity. Eliminate it completely from your life and you will be so much healthier and and so much more of a man.