The PSYCHOLOGY of the SIN OFFERING | (Parshas Vayikra)

have you ever heard of a Freudian slip it's when you say one thing and you really mean your mother I mean another oh I meant mother okay whatever it's a joke it's Freudian slip joke you want to hear another since since that one went over so well you know guys in his therapist's office in a session and he's like doctor you know those Freudian slips that you've mentioned before doctor says yeah and the guy says I think I had one the other day I I was speaking to my mother and I meant to ask her could you please pass the salt and accidentally it came out as I hate you you ruined my life okay so anyways this is the delivery I I really I practiced that by the way all day practice that did the delivery of that joke so Freudian slip named for uh Sigmund Freud um what's the deal with that the idea is you know it's interesting I don't know if history has been kind to Freud I'm not sure if he deserved that history should treat him kindly I you know it's over 100 years since his theory was uh the most popular most dominant Theory in Psychology but at this point a lot of what he taught is not really so uh highly regarded however I would say his probably his most I would say I'm very qualified to have an opinion on this so as yeah it's like chat GPT you know he's he knows how to talk but you know there's not any necessarily uh basis to anything he says I'm I'm like pretty much the human equivalent to that um so but in my in my opinion if I do say so myself probably the most enduring contribution of Freud uh meaning the idea he introduced that people pretty much still believe to be true and it's the basis for a lot of stuff is the idea of the unconscious and I know we say subconscious well I want to tell you something the word's not subconscious or unconscious it's he wrote in German and umbavista means the unknown but technically the way that it was translated in the clinical writings was unconscious but for whatever reason the more popular variation is the subconscious I'm just letting you know it's one of those cases where you sound more erudite when you say it wrong but it really is unconscious or if you want to sound really impressive you could say um okay so at any rate what's the idea the idea of the Umba was to Freud got this idea it's interesting it was sort of like the proverbial Apple that fell on Newton's head there's always an origin story of how people get these big ideas so Freud was watching a hypnosis performance in France what else do you do in France you know go see a hypnotist performing so he was watching uh stage hypnotist and the stage hypnotist calls a guy up on the stage a volunteer from the audience and he gave him a hypnotic suggestion or post-hypnotic suggestion that when I give a certain gesture you're going to get up and open your umbrella this was back in France in the olden days when people carried umbrellas so in case you're going to question me and say why did you have an umbrella so maybe it was raining that day you can't prove that it wasn't so at any rate he told the stage hypnotist in this story tells the guy when I make a signal you're going to stand up and open your umbrella so then he woke him up from his trance said go sit back down and the stage hypnotist made the signal and the guy stood up and he opened up his umbrella and everybody laughed and the guy was standing there sort of confused and probably somewhat humiliated which is always great fun and uh the hypnotist then to make it even funnier he says to the guy why did you do that and the guy's like I have no idea why I did that so the hypnotist said did somebody tell you to do that and the guy's like no nobody told me to do it and Freud was like wow this guy thinks nobody told him to do it that's powerful and then then he started thinking I wonder if there's stuff running in the background of our own minds that we're telling ourselves to do and we would swear up and down that nobody told we didn't tell ourselves to do it there was no suggestion it was totally out of out of the clear blue sky and really it's it's it's it's not out of the Clear Blue Sky really it's coming from somewhere just like the hypnotist suggested to this guy maybe there's a part of ourselves that talks to ourselves in a in a undercover Incognito type of way and anyway so that's the um that's the unconscious why am I talking about this why am I talking about this okay put that on hold for a second so this week we start a new Hamish the third book of The Five Books of Moses and it is mostly about sacrifices the sacrifices the animal sacrifices that were brought in the temple yeah um in English which is really Greek no not English is really Greek but in this case this English word is from Greek they call it Leviticus you know why they call it Leviticus because it's laws that mostly apply to the people who work in the temple in the basement meaning the levium the kehanim and the levia yeah that's why it's called Leviticus that's right isn't there a cat and cats called Deuteronomy no I don't know that's what I I think it's really originally it's a T.S Eliot poem or maybe it's not I don't know what I'm talking just Google it just at any rate is everyone having fun you're having fun okay you want to take a break should we take an intermission it's like cats maybe we'll take an intermission okay but Google that fact check you know oh should I say Jamie pull that up for me okay and anyway I'm just I got my audience it's I'm locked in okay it doesn't I hate you you ruined my life I got a good laugh from that last time so Okay so Leviticus um in parshus the first Torah portion of the Book of Life we talk about different carbonics different sacrificial offerings in the temple I'm looking here in chapter four Hashem spoke to Maisha saying Israel convey to the Jewish people the following lay Merc saying nafish a soul a person who sinned means inadvertently not be amazed means on purpose I know what I did and I'm happy I did it or at least it seemed like a good idea at the time and Chicago means it means uh inadvertently I didn't know you couldn't do that officer I wasn't aware that that was a problem okay and then throughout this chapter he speaks about the homish the Torah speaks about various different sacrificial offerings that are brought as an atonement for people who sin Bish Gaga inadvertently first it talks about um a coin goddel a high priest who sins inadvertently and then talks about when the community as a whole the entire congregation then it talks about what a Nasi a leader uh sins inadvertently and then finally an individual and they all have to bring various offerings which are a little bit different for each situation but they're all under the category called this means a sin offering is not for a purposeful sin it's not for something somebody did on purpose all of these different variations of khatas are for something the people did bishkaga inadvertently okay fine so far so good yeah all right so here's the basic question simple question not such a deep question why would a person need atonement for something that they did an accident like they didn't even know what they were doing was wrong or they didn't understand the circumstances that they were they got up and they thought it was Wednesday and they started making their smoothie and then someone said hey it's Shabbos oh no if I would have realized I would never have done so the whole thing was inadvertent why is there an atonement required to the extent that it requires a sacrifice when somebody does something they didn't even want to do they didn't intend to do I if I would have known if it would have understood if I I would never have done it so that that's the question it's a basic question okay we just we're we're examining the basic premise of why echatas even exists why does a person need atonement for something that they didn't even realize they were doing that's always a good answer by the way that's a go-to answer you could always could always whip that one out and you won't be wrong okay so King Solomon the wisest of all men says in his proverbs mishlay foreign it will not befall a righteous person any iniquity any sin it will not befall a righteous person any sin what does it mean it will not be fall you only means befall or happen what do you mean happen a sin is a conscious Choice it doesn't happen oh things just happen it just no it didn't happen you made a choice it was a behavior so why does it say it won't befall him like I understand if you say he won't it won't befall him that somebody else will do something to him right because that's totally out of his control but a sin oven is a sin a sin is that's seemingly that's that's your own choice so I see this explains no no here's what it's talking about when schleiman says it's specifically talking about stuff that so to speak just kind of happens it wasn't a choice at least not a conscious choice in other words what is the meaning of that verse according to this and actually it's not even going to considers because Rashi says I mean it's it's shot but see this explains why this is so Rashi says it won't happen an inadvertent sin but see this explains why is that so basically okay A little Tanya here and if uh you want more of this Monday is 11 A.M In This Very Room we have Tanya we we're finishing chapter 37 God willing next week um so you missed this time around chapter 10 but I'll tell you what it says in chapter 10. it says that exotic is somebody who has no ra what is it ah you could translate as evil but Tanya defines RA in chapter six actually as a separate sense of selfhood that asserts its will um and does not surrender to the will of God um that's that's why they sometimes they say ego is ego edging got out right um reading God of our understanding that's in there okay that you got to that vote yet that's famous for it ego engine got out so that's what exotic is that Sadiq has no doubt means not only like nefarious scheming plotting evil ra means any sense of separate selfhood that would drive somebody to do anything that's not completely in alignment with uh with the Rotana alien with the superno will so athatic is devoid of that okay as opposed to and I'm not going to go to a whole time you share over here but as opposed to um a regular person what's called a banani a banana knee is not devoid of that he has a healthy ego he has uh what we call an animal soul and it is pushing him sometimes to do things that he shouldn't do not that it's immoral but it's amoral it's a survival mechanism it basically just wants to preserve his uh his body and so it's not really thinking about what's right or what's wrong it's just sort of telling him look out for number one and uh so a regular person has that impulse and sometimes it drives him to make immoral choices as I said the impulse itself is not immoral it's amoral but um the choices that a person makes if they listen to that that voice are sometimes immoral choices at any rate he doesn't have that internal conflict he has a totally different type of experience of life because he's devoid of the and says and it's actually brought in chapter one of Tanya that liby Hollow the Kirby my heart is devoid within me it means he killed it through fasting through through his through his chuva which was accompanied by fasting and and and uh punishing himself um not that this is a way that we necessarily follow today especially after the balship taught other ways of self-refinement but that's how David did it and he and he destroyed that part of him so he didn't have at that at a certain point he did not have that part of human nature anymore all he was left with was his Godly nature which is the nashama the Kami Mao like the alpha ads in chapter two mamish literally a part of God above um however if you're following within this category called Sadiq um there's actually two levels Sadiq gamar and Sadiq Shaina gamer which is also uh equivalent to Sadiq viraloy and sadik vetiver um Sonic viralei means he has a little bit of rot in him well hold on a sec You just defined it Sadiq as being devoid of that yeah for all practical purposes he is the void of RA um it wouldn't ever voice its its desires like he doesn't experience it as a as a as a conscious impulse and therefore he doesn't have to battle it um like a regular person definitely has that voice of of uh of selfishness that he has to battle that Sadiq veraloy or sadikshay nagama the incomplete the lower level of Sadiq he doesn't have that he doesn't have that however on a very very very subtle level there are Trace Amounts of Ra of selfishness in his system now it's not enough that it would ever rear its head on a conscious level but it's enough that on an unconscious level it's there in the background it's not enough that it would make him sin he would never sin he said he would never choose to sin but it's enough that he has albeit perhaps um on an unconscious level he has some type of sympathy to things that are against God's will he has some type of uh attraction to them again on a very very subtle level not it's not enough that would actually uh lure him to commit a sin he'll never commit a sin he's a Sadiq but what could happen is because he's attracted to these things unconsciously spiritual is what Sidis explains spiritually he could draw these things into his life and they could happen to him as unwitting sins as unintentional sins now the higher levels he is so devoid of this ra of this selfishness that not only does he have no active voice that would tempt him to sin but he's also free even from the unconscious attraction to these things and therefore it won't even come into His orbit and that is what this explains is describing when he says that no sin will befall the righteous and Rashi says and available because this explains it's talking about a sad that Gummer meaning somebody who's so pure that not only he will never not only will he'll never choose to sin but sins will not enter his life because he has no he's not putting out any type of unspoken signal that would sort of draw them summon them into his life he just has no connection to them by the way parenthetically I just want to mention because he has no relationship to this bad stuff not even on an unconscious level that is why he is so non-judgmental of others yes because I'm going to share with you a secret um the people who get the angriest at other people's sins are the ones who are secretly jealous yeah of course why are they so upset they're upset because it's not fair I make sacrifices to be a moral person and you get to have all the fun so they become indignant they become the morality police it's odd that Gummer he doesn't think that Invaders are fun he thinks they're disgusting and painful and and destructive so he wouldn't ever Envy somebody who's sinning he would feel bad for them and therefore he would treat them with compassion complete pure compassion that's not mixed with any self-righteous indignation okay just mentioning that on the side the point is there is such a person and I'm not saying this is a a common condition to the contrary it's a very uncommon condition in fact any type of Sadiq is rare the motherish tells us that Hashem saw at the beginning of time that that sadiqam are very rare and therefore he spread them out throughout the timeline of History if you hear a few there and that's just talking about sadikim in general but for short Sadiq gomor is extremely rare the Tanya says outside the Gummer is synonymous with the what the what desire calls and it says clearly about the banana Leah and the men of ascent and the desire it says that they're extremely uncommon at any rate what do we understand here that there is such a person who is so um plugged into holiness that not only he would never purposely sin but there's nothing in him even deep down like you get him give him the what he called what's a sodium pentathol is that the truth serum yeah that's what that's what it is right sodium pentathost yeah do they use it ever as an anesthetic I think so right because people say stuff on there I've heard from anesthesiologists that you have to be you have to be more confidential than a therapist because people could still lie to their therapists people do I knew a guy told me I went to therapy for 10 years and it didn't help but I he says but I I give the therapist a little bit of slack because I was lying to him the whole time so I I said why did you lie to the guy and he said well I was paying so much money I couldn't afford for him to have a bad impression of me so I wanted to think well with me you know paying that much money I don't want him to think poorly of me so but yeah so the sodium pentathol so the sadik is the guy that even you give him the sodium pentathol truth serum and you're like come on admit it you attempted just a little bit and be like no not at all I feel bad for people who who go away from hashem's will I have no desire to do that zero desire okay so because he has zero desire for it he doesn't he doesn't draw it into his life it will never happen um not even as an accident we know nothing's an accident but even uh what we would morally term an accident meaning something that is not morally uh anyone's responsibility uh that would that that will not happen to him okay so I'll tell you a story the story is the balotanyas and we're talking about so much time now the story of the little balatanya the altareb like we call them Chabad he um he was arrested on a Thursday night and they put him in the the black Carriage that was for uh Capital criminals this is where they put people who are going to be tried on Capital charges such as treason which is what he was charged with punishable by Death so it was Thursday night and by Friday morning at 10 30 in the morning it was six hours before Shabbos Shabbos is 4 30 at that time so he says um I want you to pull over because Shabbos is coming it's 10 30 in the morning Friday morning says I want you to pull over because Shabbos is coming so uh so they said no so the axle broke on the on the carriage they said okay we're going to go to town we're going to get some supplies we're going to fix the axle and they fixed it and they're about to go and he said I want you to stop here for Shabbos and they're like no no you're the prisoner you know so they tried to go and all of a sudden one of the horses died so uh they realize that something's happening over here and they were like okay so do us a favor we see that you're doing some of your holy stuff you're not letting the The Carriage go let us get to a town so at least we can stay in a hotel he's like no we're going to stay right here and that's what they did they stayed on the side of the road and this was in the 1790s and there was so this story was from the sixth syllabus told this story and he said he knew a khasid from Neville this town on the way from liajna to petterberg they went by way of vitaps they passed Neville if you know uh geography of uh of white Russia so the the feder could ever said that he knew an old khasid who knew people who could spot the tree they could say this tree is the tree where the balotanya spent Shabbos on his way to prison at any rate um so I mentioned that the the fear could have the six should have been told that story so when he told that story he commented and said you know if the wagon would have broken Friday afternoon I wouldn't even say that it's such a remarkable story because we all know that a tadiq will not experience even an unwitting sin so obviously no type of Shabbos transgression could have occurred to the altada although it's questionable you could even argue under that case and there's under such circumstances if the whole thing would be what would legally be termed einess that it was beyond his he was compelled Beyond his his will but at any rate the freedom could ever said if the wagon would have broken Friday afternoon I wouldn't even say it's a remarkable story because of course Hashem would protect the altareba from any type of Khalil Shabbos any type of Shabbos desecration he said but the fact that the wagon broke down at 10 30 in the morning that's a Wonder of Hashem okay because it didn't have to break down that early but you see that's a Wonder okay the point is what's the what part is the Wonder and what's not the Wonder the fact that it broke down Adam's house is not even a Wonder because Hashem will protect the completely righteous that nothing will befall them even something that they didn't want something they didn't choose it won't befall them and there are many stories like there's a story that ever told the story once at least once that I know of about nochem chernobular that nachem chernobyla was sitting in his study and he was learning and he had an attendant who would bring him food so this attendant brought him some milk and he put it on this desk and after some time passed it was a long time the the attendant frantically runs back in and he was terrified the chernobyla had already consumed the milk because it had been a while and he ran in frantically don't drink the milk we just were told that it's not Hall of Israel so to get the punch line of this joke you have to understand in the laws of call of Israel in the way that it describes it and this is a phrase that's taken from the mission as well it the expression is milk that was milked and a Jew didn't see it because call of Israel means that a Jew saw meaning visually supervised the milking process okay so it's called milk that was milked and a Jew didn't see it that's how it's described that that's colavaka meaning the opposite of hollow Israel so the attendant comes in frantically don't touch the milk rabbit it's uh it's an alcoholic Israel so he says what milk the milk that I brought you you know a few hours ago whatever it was yeah I didn't I wasn't aware there was any milk he was oblivious to the milk being there the whole time that he didn't drink it because he didn't know it was there so then remarked and he said oh I guess milk that was milked and a Jew didn't see it a Jew didn't see it was that he made a play on words the the expression for that kind of milk is a Jew didn't see it being milked so he was taking it further and saying I didn't even see it I drew didn't see it I didn't see it um and anyway what's the point of that story again that you're talking about somebody who's so holy that it's not just you won't choose to do a sin Hashem is going to protect him that sins don't come to him they just don't they don't fall into his life it just doesn't happen there's no he's not putting out any uh subtle uh signals that would tell that yeah I might be interested if you can find a way to trick me into doing it without knowing what I'm doing so therefore just it doesn't it doesn't happen to him um tell you one more story just for the fun of it there was a talmud foreign colorful character and he really was he was known for having a sort of uh wicked sense of humor and uh he did he did pranks and he was he was like almost like a court jester he was also a very serious and a very uh serious scholar but his way of serving Hashem was with a lot of uh humor like one time this is not the story I want to tell you but he was hanging by his legs upside down in front of the altareba's house and like over the doorway he was hanging upside down from the from the doorway and uh some people said what are you doing so he said look you walk down the street and you see like there's a cobbler and how do you know it's a cobbler because there's a big giant shoe hanging out in front of the door and you go by the the the um the which maybe there but he said the barrel maker there's a big barrel hanging over the door in the front of the the shop you know everyone to have their the thing that they make they have a a sample of it hanging from the door so that you could see that that's what they make inside so what does it have to make it ever make sense of them so I want everyone to understand this is the devil's house so that's why I'm I'm hanging here in front of the door that was one of just to show you his his uh his personality at any rate so the story I want to tell you is that one time the cinema fabranging they were gathered and they were talking and singing inspiring each other and also saying like I am and also eating food for bison and they ran out of food so someone's like oh you know what we could do um we can get some meat really you know there was no Seasons expressed so they couldn't just go out and get tuna wraps at 1am um so just yeah there's a lot of thoughts I'm having right now about yeah Seasons Express 1am tuna wraps but that's that's a discussion for another time that's right it's another it's a whole lecture unto itself but they're they're excellent and I can tell you personally that I endorse them okay and I hope maybe they'll send me a few freebies for that endorsement um yeah so oh there's so much stuff I want to say I'm just filtering it okay so they ran out of food at the fabregan and they're like oh let's bring some meat so you know meat you have to Salt it and it's a whole process it takes a while but if you roast it then it could be ready much more quickly so they took a long and they roasted along and uh they served it at the fabrangin so uh they brought it in and when they brought it in Schmo grabbed it and he started running around with it and at first everyone's laughing oh yeah it's funny being a being a character again but after a while they're gonna kind of like annoy like she won't put the put the food down like we want to eat it and he started dancing around he's holding this platter with the long on it and he was dancing around like all silly and they're like cut it out already put the lung on the table so we could eat and he just kept dancing and dancing and dancing and then they started like God they got mad they got up they like surrounded him like enough already and they were going to grab it from him and he was dancing crazier and crazier until finally he slipped and it was probably intentional that he slipped and the long went sliding off of the tray not bad enough that it went and it hit the floor but it landed in the spittoon now that's something of an anachronism I don't know if anyone's ever seen a spittoon but um a spittoon is a place where you spit Your chewing tobacco so you know when you chew tobacco I'm sure you're all aware of this you yeah dip cup exactly thank you so but it's a big giant dip cup yeah so anyways um yeah maybe skulls will send me some freebies if I endorse them too [Music] kids don't mess around with the smokeless tobacco it's okay at any rate so so uh what do you got to tell you I say doing a roll today but I'm not I'm holding my my um is on a roll but I'm the stream of Consciousness is not happening yeah I'm filtering the stream of Consciousness I think maybe once in a while I'll just do a stream of Consciousness sheer but I won't allow anyone to come to it I'll record it and then we'll edit it down and take out the inappropriate parts and then it'll be a nice Tick Tock you know like 60 Seconds okay at any rate so they're like shmuel you ruined the luck because after the lung goes in the spittoon there's no you cannot there's nothing you can do with it you ruined it um so a bunch of the younger they got up they were going to beat them up for ruining the lung and then all of a sudden the chef comes in and he's like see them don't eat the lung I just found out the Sheikh had didn't realize the animal that long comes from wasn't slaughtered properly it's it's strife it's completely non-kosher they're like wow amazing shmuel you saved us from eating the trafe but just like the young accident we're going to beat him up when they just a minute ago and they thought he deprived them of perfectly perfectly good meat now the older Sedum got up and they're like uh we're gonna beat them up why why they're going to beat him up they said what are you doing this uh an Abisha stick for you're playing tonic how do you know how did you know you understand this is very culturally specific I don't expect you guys to really understand this but this is very like also like Chabad culturally specific first of all they like to beat people up but lovingly loving not to really beat people up no not I'm not talking about like really beating people but like you know there's a lot of like tough love it's like the Russian style but especially the thing you get beat up the most for is like uh being a big shot and especially a spiritual big shot like you'll probably get less harassed for driving a Lamborghini I'm gonna come back to see them like you'll get harassed do you drive a Lamborghini because it's like showing off but you would probably get harassed less for that than doing something where you're spiritually showing off like that you can look it along and know that it wasn't kosher just by looking at it like for that you would get harassed even more than showing off materially because that's like showing off spiritually at any rate so they were going to beat him up and uh he's like okay he's like you guys can beat me up if you want but um let me just explain to you why it's not what it looks like it says um my first year this I went into the to the meaning the balatanya and um I I made a decision that I'm giving away all of my uh pleasure my sense of pleasure in this world and um since that time I'm not drawn to be indulgent in in the permissible you know there's a kinds of kaddish sanctify yourself even in that which is permissible so he says like I'm not into that I'm not into ice cream I'm not into that stuff when they brought in the long I got really excited and I was like something's different here why am I excited because I don't get excited about indulging in permissible Pleasures anymore he's like ah it must be that's not even permissible it's setting off my setting off my inner attraction to the negativity because he was basically saying look I'm not exotic I'm not exotic I'm a regular guy who has to try to control himself and that lung was you know calling me in a very serious way that's how I knew something was wrong with it and that's why I I didn't want to let anyone eat it at any rate the point is that there's a type of a person a very rare exceptional type of a person who has no relationship with that which is not perfectly aligned with hashem's Will and therefore not only he'll never choose to sin but sin won't even happen to him will not even happen to him okay so this is the explanation the explanation is why do we need an atonement for something that we didn't even mean to do we didn't even realize what we're doing at the time that we did it you know why the sacrifice the offering the atones for the average for the inadvertent sin it's actually meant to cleanse the unconscious it's not that you chose to do Innovative you didn't choose to do it but if you would be a completely pure Sadiq it wouldn't have even happened to you the fact that it happened means on an unconscious level there's still part of you that is connected to that and for that we need to cleanse it we need to clean it up we need to deal with it we need to rectify it and we have a way of doing that and that's the hotness that sin offering is cleansing it's supposed to help you polish up you're unconscious it's better than going to uh analysis right you go to the Freudian psychoanalyst and you talk stream of Consciousness for 10 years in the end he says don't you feel better yeah I think I feel better yeah I do all right thank you that's that was very cleansing but this is one or or not or not but you know hey it's just 10 years thousands of dollars is guarantee I don't know about the 10 years of analysis but I can tell you about the hottest comes in it cleans up the unconscious that uh the part of us that we're not aware of that we're not in touch with on the day-to-day in the day-to-day uh course of things now pesach is coming I'll get scared PESA has coming um I told my son-in-law this is an old joke but I brought it out of the brought it out of the archives for my son-in-law because I'm bringing him last days to a program that we're going to so I said them you know what they say before pesach ever if you're going to your in-laws Cog kosher if you're going to a hotel program if you're going to a hotel program with your in-laws COG [Music] anyways all right just it's just a joke okay so we say okay everyone wants to have a happy PESA and a kosher PESA and we work very hard to try to guarantee that I want to tell you something the Ariza says that somebody who successfully avoids comets all pesach it is guaranteed that he will not do an Aveda Bishop for the rest of the year all year long pretty cool if you avoid comets the whole pesach the holy Ari says you will not do an available all year long now why only by gig means an unintentional sin it can't take away your free choice so if you want to do Innovative amazing if you want to do an intentional sin you still have your choice avoiding comments wouldn't take your free choice away however it'll remove from you doing an available that you didn't mean to do okay why how what are the mechanics of that it's exactly what we've been describing here just like the hottest gets in there and cleans the unconscious so that you don't even have a an unknown uh covert attraction to the rad that would cause it to come into your life refraining from also has a similar cleansing effect on the person so that if you can manage to do that then the avedas are not going to pop up in your life there's nothing in you that's summoning them so they're not gonna they're not gonna come to you okay so I want to wish everybody even if you're going to a program with your in-laws or whatever everyone should have a question and you know not to put any pressure but uh wow I we should all be able to avoid Vader's Bishop gang inadvertent sins all year long the Vader is amazing up to you that's you know free choice we should all have some help to not have those come up in our lives okay