Stop trying to fix others

whenever your problem is somebody else there's no solution the only time there's a solution for me I'll talk about myself is when my problem is me if I'm the problem then I'm the solution if you're the problem I can't fix you I can make better choices from me about how I react to you how much I engage with you whether or not I need to completely avoid you but whatever you're issue is that's going on I'm not going to fix that whereas if the issue is going on internally if it's me well then yeah then I can fix that so I think one of the most depleting things that we do is strategize and plan and put forth effort in trying to fix a problem that's not ours