Letters of the Rebbe: "Encouragement for a Teacher of Young Women" (Class 15)

welcome back to 30 letters in 30 days tonight is letter number 15. that means we are halfway through and uh there's a lot of feedback that i would like to share as well as some interesting updates about women's groups all over the world that are meeting to discuss these classes but i'm going to hold off on that because tonight's letter is a very long letter uh as you've probably noticed the lengths of these letters can vary quite a bit so tonight's a quite a long letter tomorrow night is on the short side so uh tomorrow night with hashem's help i would like to make some announcements and answer some questions we've been getting questions at 30 letters 30days.com and take care of some other business but tonight if it's all right with everyone and i'm sure it is i'm going to jump straight into tonight's letter without any further delay okay hashem you'd have tavistovs this is the 18th day of the hebrew month of tavis the year 5715. that's 1954 probably 55 already at that point this is in the middle of the winter uh brachava shalom is how the addresses a woman this is a letter to a woman now you don't know who this person well maybe you do i shouldn't assume that maybe you are the person that this letter was written to maybe someone out there is but when i say you meaning collectively this worldwide global virtual classroom that's been studying these letters together we don't know who this woman is by name at least but we kind of know her because do you remember a few nights ago the letter to the group of girls the kvutz nairos and remember they they used uh a self-deprecating expression they they said we're so uh cold to spirituality we have a sea of coldness within us and that abbot didn't like that and he told them that they have within them that power of their of their great and courageous parents so if you remember that letter and if not you can just check a few classes earlier it was the the first letter that we did on matsushabus i believe if i'm correct i think think letter 12. um so tonight's letter 15 is to the teacher of that same group of girls and it's interesting to see the same situation but from a different angle and here's where you can kind of see how two parties who are dealing with the exact same situation may get different guidance from the rabbit which shouldn't be surprising at all because as we know you don't answer the question you answer the questioner so it always depends who are you speaking to and then everything follows from there the minor almeid in answer to your letter from the 26th day of kislev that will be the second day of chanukah it's interesting here this is a relatively long response time because this is like over three weeks later we're used to seeing letters where the deb is writing back very very quickly this is three weeks remember the letters coming from eric israel so have coming all the way over from uh halfway across the world and this is this is the 1950s but at least according to what we've been getting used to yeah three week uh response time is on the long side i guess we're spoiled okay after a prolonged or a very prolonged silence so that ever says i got your letter after a long time of not hearing from you now we know that ebb asks people all the time write more write more often like we say in chicago vote early vote often right the deb is always telling people i want more mail from you i want to hear more details from you so that ebba here says i didn't hear from you for a long time even taking into account the excuses that you give why it's been a while since you've written a dying anonymous cabela's it's not really acceptable aval ain't saying allah other we've had that before also that i've been saying but alas there's no point bemoaning what's already in the past but surely this will be fixed or yusukon maybe mekanu lahaba this will be fixed from now on in the future so i'm not bemoaning the past but from now on please let's hear from you more often okay um regarding what you write that you're trying to be really careful about how you write as you're going to see that ebb is talking about her um i guess her desire to use euphemism not to say anything harsh um and it's very interesting because if you remember the letter to this woman's students began with the rabbi taking exception to their use of harsh language about themselves that everyone was saying don't speak that way even for poetic effect if you remember here that ebba says almost the opposite to the teacher okay let's see here so you're telling me you're being very careful about your wording like you're trying to be very uh delicate in your in your phrasing when is that applicable when is it applicable that you should be really careful not to say anything diplomatic when you're writing diplomatic stuff that anyways doesn't really matter it doesn't really mean what it's supposed to mean and then when you're writing diplomatic stuff so the whole point is to write it pretty and to give people the honor that uh you know the pretend honor that the the you're supposed to go through the motions of you know playing along this whole uh diplomacy the whole thing is is a bluff right so when we're diplomats and we're just talking diplomacy so the whole thing is just blowing hot air and that's that's the style machine cane however in contrast you're speaking about the spiritual destiny of the youth that i was about to say then we don't sugarcoat it if you're speaking things of the heart okay you're trying to explain your emotions i think this is very important you know i i knew a guy once who told me i went to therapy for years and it didn't help but it's probably because therapy is not effective if you lie to your therapist so i said why did you lie to your therapist and the guy said well i was paying him way too much money to be able to afford him having a negative impression of me so if if if you try to sugarcoat things you're not going to make any progress that i was saying here you're trying to be polite and i appreciate that but this that's not this is not the place for being polite and this is very interesting because to the the students that abba was saying almost the opposite thing of like wow that your language is really really harsh come on cut it out here the deb is saying i need you to stop sugar sugarcoating you're gonna have to say it as it is because when you're speaking about your emotions when you're speaking about your feelings you gotta say your feelings as they are and also there's two things here that i was saying you have to say your feelings the way they are and especially uh when you're talking about and she's a teacher of young women so her feelings here are connected with her feelings about teaching the youth and also it seems her description of the spiritual status of these youth that she's working with so that ebb is saying tell it as it is tell me what's going on with these with these girls they're just starting off in their lifetimes every little detail that's going on now is gonna have ramifications for decades so you gotta really you can't mince words with me you gotta tell me how it is with these girls if you're gonna use cosmetics that ever says you're going to cover up the true situation that causes damage not rectification so that's the first interesting thing i think from this letter is that ebb is telling this educator please i understand there's something called lashonda kia called euphemism and by the way that ever more than anyone was into don't say a negative word when you can avoid it even if you have to take a round about what you know this is the famous uh maim hazal based on impartial right the story of bringing the animals aboard the tava on the ark so why does it say why doesn't it just say the animals that are tall hair and the animals that are tommy there's a word for it's called tommy instead it says the ones who are not talha who are not ritually pure right so uh the point is because if you can avoid saying a negative word then you avoid it even if it causes you to to use extra words which later in general is very sparing not to use extra words right there's a circle about this actually in calicut is the second sikh of but it's interesting over there in that it says uh it's interesting with the story of naya it avoids using the word tame but like let's say in the whole save for vayikra when it's teaching us well we just had it last week pasha shmini right we're learning about the conscious of animals so there uses the word tommy all the time so which one is it are we avoiding the word and we're not avoiding the word so in that sichuan says look with nayak it's telling a story it's just telling a story so if it's telling a story it's not really negaya it's not pertinent to anybody's behaviors let's avoid using the negative word but in safe haven when it's telling us that we need to follow so then you have to say it as it is and if you have to say a harsh word like thomas you say the word in order that a person should know what to do and what not to do so i think it's a similar thing as that secret here that ebb is saying look there are there are cases where we avoid using negative language because there's no point to it but here i have to know what's really going on because this is negaia this is pertinent to these girls futures and every little detail now is going to have this ripple effect so you got to just you got to say it as it is okay now here's the next little bit of the letter a very interesting idea as well regarding the concept in taira and especially exodus of cabalis oil cabalis oil literally means acceptance of the yoke or the full expression is caballus oil acceptance of the yoke of the kingdom of heaven and it means submission to authority to godly authority okay that's a difficult concept and it's a concept i think a lot of people struggle with today you know how much of education has to be about teaching the students discipline and how much of it is about convincing them and encouraging them and getting them to want something on their own now as you've learned everything in total is a paradox so is it about discipline or is it about convincing somebody that something's good for them yes which no no which one is it is it self is it self discipline or is it convincing them that something's good for them yes i told you yes it's both how could it be both you're about to see how it's both okay nanaisi okay the rabbit says i enjoyed. you said that the situation has improved in many ways specifically about the participation of the girls group this is the same girls group from the previous letter um and they're uh conducting themselves in a in a hasidic way uber club it is superfluous i'm sure to reiterate to mention again that it is mentioned in the books of this as well as and this is very interesting it says this in non-jewish works oil about the necessity of cabalis oil of accepting the yoke of heavenly authority it's very interesting that i was saying this is a concept in siddhis and also the rabbit doesn't say here but even in non-jewish wisdom meaning to say this is not something if i can insert my own commentary the value of cabela's oil need not be taken on cabela's oil in other words you don't have to accept it from an argument of authority that says so in titus so therefore you have to believe it if you want something that can appeal even to the intellect of your animal soul even the non-jewish books say that it's good for you to have some modicum of self-discipline and this and submission to authority so it's interesting even caballus oil you don't have to take on cabela's oil because i mean this is the paradox i was uh referring to earlier and that ebb is going to speak about it at length even kabbalah's oil even submission submission is something that can be explained as beneficial to you okay let's continue here what does it mean to submit to authority it means in the classic case of the jewish people before they accepted the torah when maisha rabbenu prepared them at sinai for accepting the torah the jewish people's response collectively was nasa vanishment we will do and then we will understand so they put first the commitment to do before hearing and understanding what it is that they're doing and why is now let me explain something it's obvious whatever says it's obvious now i've said this before sometimes the rabbit says things are obvious and they weren't obvious to me at least but if the rebbe says it's obvious that's a cue to me to sit down and to think it over once twice three times until it becomes shita until it becomes obvious okay so that ebba says here it is obvious that when we talk about the necessity of kabbalah's oil this does not mean see goofy is mortification like self-punishment and it doesn't mean sweetheave doesn't mean constantly breaking down your body and soul it's very important to understand this we're not talking about an oppressive yoke and surely not something that's abusive god forbid god forbid and i think that needs to be clarified because if someone had a negative experience where there was religious abuse being uh whitewashed with the name with the with the with the rubric of this is cabela's oil you have to understand that is not kabbalah soil that ever says cabola soil is good for you even non-jewish wisdom agrees that it's good for you and i was going to elaborate continue to elaborate on this on this point that it's good for you and it's certainly not something that's going to cause you pain and it's not going to break you we're not talking about shattered self-esteem god forbid that's not cabola soil i'm not talking about a big person bullying a little person to get them to comply that's not kabbalah soil the way that ebox explains kabbalisto here is it is actually a logical imperative and i think that's why the rubber reference is that you can you can even find it in the non-jewish books that you don't have to take this on faith this is something that human wisdom human wisdom not godly wisdom human wisdom can agree to that your life will be better and you will be happier if you can muster some modicum of self-discipline at the beginning of your spiritual path let's continue here um the role the purpose the function of cabalis oil is only to prepare the way to prime the situation so to speak so that there can be a predominance of the tsura over the cheimer that means very loosely translated spirituality over materiality we're not breaking anyone we're not hurting anyone god forbid what we're doing is we're using kabbalah's oil as a first step as a foundation to put you on a path where ultimately you will be able to put your spirituality before you for before your materiality in very simple terms what are we talking we're talking about just the idea of being able to delay gratification being able to be humble and not get your way being able to recognize that sometimes it's better to stick to not sometimes but that it's better to stick to your principles than to get what you wanted are all ideas of where you are able to think in terms of abstraction and and values and principles and put that first instead of materiality which means bodily comfort and and the animalistic drives so in order to get somebody on that path at the beginning at least it does require cabela's oil but it's not to hurt the person god forbid it's to get them started on the path who amis oh the other continues what is what is this path okay to lift up the surah al-ahmar the spirituality over the materiality the truth over the falsehood [Music] which is ultimately not just the spiritual good but it's also ultimately it proves to be good for you in this world over the bad so much here to unpack cabela's oil is to start you on the path so that ultimately you're able to make good choices where you can choose the spiritual over the material the true over the false and the good over the bad and that ebba says parenthetically when we say good we don't just mean good in the spiritual sense but ultimately the good that is good in the spiritual sense is also good for you even in the most practical physical sense so again the idea is even though you're starting with submission ultimately what are you submitting to not something that's there to negate your uh your happiness but ultimately something that's to promote your happiness and your fulfillment and and your satisfaction that this is the best way of life even from a practical perspective and that's what cobula soil really is okay so if it's so good why don't you just convince me why don't you just tell me that it's so good for me why do you have to bring in cabela's oil okay so we explained alesha cavens since a person is born like a like a wild donkey a child is is animalistic you know uh a three-year-old will tantrum and fall on the floor and not allow anybody to to to get on with life until uh until he gets what he wants and uh that that's he has no compunction he has no shame that's that's what uh that's what a child is right so when you're i know we all say oh children are so pure they're so innocent they're so sweet sometimes yeah but um the animalistic drive and a child if for god-given reasons by the way because if if a baby and a toddler didn't have this crazy survival drive then they wouldn't make it through infancy and childhood so it's very important that a baby will wake up the whole house in the middle of the night in order to nurse because you know if a baby's gonna be polite it's not too good for for uh their survival but ultimately you have to grow out of that okay so since a person is born with this really strong survival drive and using the words of king solomon vine it says that the the lips of the foreign woman are dripping with sweetness but her the end of getting involved with her is bitter like wormwood in other words king solomon is using that as uh he's using the temptation of of harlotry as a as a byword for all temptation that it's it's in the beginning but it's really painful in the end and you know that's one of the things that mature people learn that some things are fun when they start but they end up really miserable at the end like any indulgence feels good in the beginning but it's just a natural thing then in the end it comes back to bite you well here's the thing in the end especially when you're young and experienced and you haven't had a lot of consequences yet you haven't had enough life experience to have enough time to have experienced the consequences yet so it's very hard to explain to people you know if you don't take care of this when you're young it's going to come back to bite you when you're old okay so that's sort of the the paradox here of why cabela's oil is is necessitated here because on one hand cabela's veil is good for you in the end and in the end you're gonna see that it was for your benefit it wasn't to hurt you it was only to help you okay fine if it's only to help me then just tell me that don't force me you don't have to force me if it's good for me you should be able to explain it to me yeah but the problem is first of all person is born with this wild nature okay that's the nature of youth second of all the negative consequences of not submitting to divine authority that's not always readily apparent so in the beginning of your service of hashem you are going to need to take certain things on faith and just accept it and say you know what i'm submitting to people who know better than me i'm submitting to the wisdom of the torah which is categorically beyond my my ability to fathom okay i'm just kabula so i accept the yoke so in the end you'll see that it is good for you and even non-jewish books say that it's good for you but you don't necessarily see it completely clearly in the beginning and that's why you need to have cabela's oil in the beginning okay um so therefore srihar is has a loss caballus oil that's why when you start off it has to be done with kabbalah and that uh being that this is the the the the deeper i guess um yeah let me just back up here yes yeah so the deeper this cabalis oil is yeah the deeper ingrained is another paradox the deeper ingrained the cobala soil is the sooner you'll actually get to see why it's not just cobala soil it's also good for you a moving gum kane shi afshar like baya masmerus kama now it's also understood that i can't give you a timeline how long a child needs to have cabela's oil for you can't say to me well how long is it going to take before i realize that this is really good for me and that i don't have to do it just as submission i can't give you a timeline how many days or hours it's going to be kevin shazell taliban it depends on the person on their characteristics it depends on the conditions of the place and on the time so there's no hard and fast rule for how long that developmental phase is going to take it takes as long as it takes okay um now there's another concept i know we're only halfway through this letter it is what it is i apologize for the length of it but uh it's on the long side okay las now the letter takes a personal turn till now it was talking about education and about how to deal with the youth and the need for cabela's oil you here that i was addressing this young woman i don't know actually she's young but this woman's um self-doubt about the work she's doing with these girls i guess she was saying that it's difficult she's not sure she's getting through to them the typical stuff that any educator grapples with that's what it seems here okay harry kvarnis barbie it's already been explained in similar in contexts that are similar to your situation we're lucky we have a fortunate uh a fortunate lot that we were born in the generation before mashiach coming you know normally that's not considered such a great thing it's a time of turmoil and confusion to be born right before mashiach's coming right but here the devil says it's actually it's a wonderful thing we're very lucky to have been born at this time at the end of the galas because we live in an age where so much title was revealed especially the teachings of siddhis think if you would have been born 200 years ago these secrets that you are privy to you wouldn't be able to know you wouldn't be able to find out maybe if you'd be alamed wavnik one of that siddiqui mista me go meet with their private meetings in the forest maybe you'd hear some of this stuff but regular people to know the stuff that we know because of the way that siddhis was revealed we're so lucky that we live in such a day and age the information age so to speak the information age in a holy context and especially we're lucky that there's so much hasidic teachings available to us that what what's so special about khabar hasidic teachings shall be shown secrets of the torah very abstract abstruse esoteric ideas and puts it in language that is accessible and understandable to anyone who has the will to do so obviously if you have no will to do so you know it's not going to work but if you have a will to do so yeah the whole point of khabar is that it takes the that which is normally so lofty that it has to just be accepted on faith and it brings it into intellectual discourse where you can speak about it intelligently so aren't we so lucky that we live in a day and age where these tools are available to us if we lived in a previous generation or century we we wouldn't have access to this information okay now that's very nice what does this have to do with her self-doubt about being an educator so let's continue now so now let's connect this to your situation it is known the saying of my father-in-law which he said in the name of his father the rabbit i share now tell me if you recognize this saying sometimes the it's a hudder dresses up in a silk garment you know to look very from de la rames has autumn to trick the person remember this we had this uh in one of our earlier letters i think it was letter number six that we learned on purim the letter about zahertfe about finding your special mitzvah so over there it mentioned this and it mentioned that it's the hayem of who remembers because there was a date that was connected to portman we learned that letter on porn sivan that's correct yes so uh that yeah that's seven that sometimes the it's a harder than enough can come to a person instead of telling him to sin which the person will just reject he comes to him and he tries to get him to do good things but good things that are a distraction from his real purpose so that's what it means it's a hoarder dressed up in a in a silk robe trying to look very holy really what is he doing he's he's playing a bait and switch he's trying to uh divert you from your from your real purpose okay so here that invokes that um how do you figure this out like how do you what's the what's the test the the litmus test to figure out that this is what's happening who should call davar naya veda bapal anything that holds you back from getting stuff done it's coming from the other side meaning negativity and that is exactly so in your case so something that sounds like a holy argument but its end result its net result is that it holds you back from getting your job done it holds you back from available doing stuff being active then you know that that's the siddhishi it's a hudder just trying to mess with you okay um these doubts you're having even though they're holy doubts i mean that ever doesn't stand explicitly but it's clear in this context she must have phrased her doubts in some type of righteous way like she must have made it sound like it was coming from a from a religious place and uh you know just parenthetically uh it reminds me our story uh khasid once was in yucatas with the with the time and the timothy told him to become a mulamid to become a school teacher and he said it's afraid to become a because in shock it talks about the the laws of of uh talmud and about uh malamad who's misratio who's lax who's lazy with his students says very harsh things about that so he says i'm i'm afraid to become a mulamid because it's like too too scary if you don't do the job right you know the punishments are pretty harsh so that tamak sadik said and who should become alarmed who should become a mulamid the guy who's not afraid of the ramifications so you shouldn't become a mulamid because you're afraid of the ramifications of not doing your job well so then if you don't do so who's going to be the guy who does it oh i'm okay i'll do it i'm not afraid of the okay i want the guy who feels unworthy right so anyways she must have done something similar to that like basically disqualified herself and said oh i'm no good i'm not holy enough i'm not righteous enough i'm not pure enough or whatever it is and that i was saying that's like it's a harder in the silk robe coming to you and being all holy but really in the end what is he doing you can tell he's a yates a harder because he's just holding you back from from getting available done actual work so then you ha you have to dismiss it uh yeah so uh this self-doubt is certainly not coming from any good will or good inclination herrava there could be an animal soul that's very religious in fact very hasidic and go meditate into some deep acidic concept sounds so holy it sounds so good uber amazing really it was just a trick of the it's a heart it was just one of the schemes of the of the nafta bahamas veda to hold you back from getting your job done the whole thing was a diversion he was telling you to do something good because he knew if he would tell you to do something bad you wouldn't listen you would identify him you would you know the jig is up i know you you're the it's a harder go take a hike but instead he comes to you all holy and he says go do something good go do something pure and oh okay fine let's do it but what did he do he got you he he diverted you from your task that you have to get done so too that i was saying all your self doubts even if you couch them in in religious words the the net result is it's just holding you back from working with these kids and therefore we can identify without any doubt this is not coming from a good place and it must be rejected okay let's continue this is a related concept she says she's interested in having an influence having an effect on others olafido but according to her own assessment enlarge she's not knowledgeable enough so basically she's disqualifying herself maybe she disqualified herself in other ways as well but one of the things she said to the debba is who am i kidding you know what we call this today 2022 imposter syndrome who am i kidding i'm going to teach these girls what do i know i don't i barely know more than them maybe sometimes i don't even know more than them and i have to fake it and i i'm wasting their time find somebody who really knows what they're doing that's what it sounds like the girl was saying okay or the woman was saying so uh it's that every response to that the rabbit says okay how about this i'll i'll i'll agree with you let's say for argument's sake that you don't know what you're talking about okay that you are not knowledgeable enough to be the teacher okay for for argument's sake i'll give it to you in our generation especially and the truth is in all generations even if you can't give a hundred percent give what you can give what you can don't be a perfectionist what do they say the enemy of the good is the best right i don't want to even do good because i can't do the best stop it already give whatever you can and then the rabbit adds ulespalola that he should take the whatever it is that you you're able to give whether it's 50 or 20 or 80 whatever it is and then hashem should amplify that i will aims at tom lahav but it's not a reason to stop being an influencer so the fact that you're gonna tell me i don't have a hundred percent of what these girls have what they need okay what do you have fifty percent twenty percent it doesn't matter give whatever percent you're capable of giving and then daven that hashem should amplify that but don't stop don't stop being an influencer especially now inertis royal asher galle there are waves of heresy waging war negan and mercedes versace there's there's war against the tradition that is growing expanding and you have no right nobody has a right to sit this out if they have any ability to do something about this there are these waves of assimilation in israel warring against tradition and if you can do anything even a tiny amount to stave that off you don't have a right to sit it out because of your inferiority complex or your imposter syndrome yeah the imla esato en vioje that if till now you're not in a position to be a high-ranking officer all of lamale says actual military even if you can't be a a general or a top-ranking official and then you'll work through the ranks you'll get a promotion you start off as a private you become a corporal you become a sergeant eventually you you'll get promoted you got to start off though at the gotta start at the the the first level commission for hammer for summers we see this for ourselves this is a known thing i don't have to prove this to you i don't have to back this up go go this is the way of the world people start off on a simple level and they work their way up so just do that if you'll just go and use your talents and your knowledge whatever whatever talents and knowledge you have shiela otto whatever you have now kaholyakolta whatever ability to your best ability now ubiquin and use it in a good direction move you're going to see results very soon not just saving one person which by the way even saving one person is saving a world alakam of akama fascist vacuum but you're going to save many souls meaning you're going to save many worlds so just start with whatever meager abilities you have and i promise you very soon you're going to see results you're going to save lives you can't leave these girls hanging these these girls need you so please stop stop with the self-disqualifying okay and like i wrote in my previous letter there's a previous letter to this i don't know if it this previous letter is the one that's in galactas of the igress there may be more letters to this woman but certainly there is one to the same woman that's in heilig tassel so like i wrote to her in the previous letter as haqqael assassinated hashem does everything in the right time in the right way so since you are fortunate enough that you are part of the chabad community that's the place where you're going to find fulfillment in discharging your your duty protest because divine providence brought you to this particular place uh ubisman plainly at this particular time [Music] everyone knows hashem is the ultimate good shalom therefore when hashem gives a person a duty nice in like hashem has already granted that person the ability the potential i mean you got to cash it in but hashem has already given you the potential to rise to that task i wish you would just use out your potential a hundred percent okay so this this is also one of the things you see a lot from the rabbit and we had this in our previous letter about the resh kargusa right even the warden of a well the the block party uh committee chairman even a small uh remember the letter to robbie rosenberg from titus emis that said if you have any type of authority don't think that that happened randomly that was ash because that if you have some position of authority hashem chose you for that that that was that was directly from on high so you have to realize hashem knows what he's doing and hashem is good and he puts you into this position already armed with whatever it is that you're going to need to be able to effectively discharge your your duty okay uh another yeah another concept here but masha kesevasaid is his vadas habanes now that ebba speaks about the girls fabregans and this i think is the third time that we've had in 15 letters that ever mentioned women's fabregans and khan homokim this would be a good place to mention the fabregan that's going to be oily nissan at the oil uh please reserve it is rsvp only the women's gathering about a block from the oil it is uh limited in space so go to thirty letters30days.com if you are interested in attending that event again earlier nissan that is monday night april 11th okay so that ebba says regarding what you wrote about the girls fabregans experience has proven here and in many places if you get the girls themselves involved by getting them to speak merits yes it gets them more involved it gets them more interested we had something similar to that if you remember the la the letter to rabbi schusterman that i think that was uh the night going into purim yeah that was the night going into porn uh we had the letter to rabbi shusterman from chicago and that ebba said it was good that you had the junior minion where you gave them jobs one could be a gabai one could be a shamish because when they have responsibility they get more involved similarly here that i was saying at the fabregas get the girls to speak you know give them advaitora to prepare and to to give over and that will make sure that they're very engaged okay that's uh oh do we have people who are willing to speak you're olive nissan let us know at 30 letters 30 days that i mean 30 days 30 oh 30 letters 30 days dot com yeah uh behind the gaya let's august misman liz man now regarding the shows the productions they call it productions regarding the shows that you make periodically it's really good i like it very very good they're doing like dramas some type of uh you know they're putting on performances that says very very good a la shiesh lee sharma menyanam shidoshima simba akiv but just be careful about certain things that a lot of times people are um not careful about misuri toyota even though these things are actually um forbidden according to toyota and yet people tend to be on i guess what do you call the lacks people tend to be lacks about it like for girls to wear men's clothing don't do that you know in a production sometimes you have a girl playing a male character right so you have to be careful about that inyone michelle zimmerman also be careful about you know the kulesha issues about women singing in public obviously if it's done in a way where it's a women's audience and it's done privately then that's fine that i was saying just be careful that that's the way it is done and yani tyrov said you also have to be careful about mixing of genders and all that kind of stuff anyways the productions the the plays that they're doing are excellent keep it up just you know make sure to make everything correct according to okay almost done remember when this letter was from right we said that this letter was uh wow how many pages is this letter uh judge davis okay fine so yurchas davis so now that i was going to speak about yud schwart which is about three weeks henceforth judge fat being the york site the aim he lula of the rabbis in connection with that's coming up on it would be a good thing if the girls at least the older girls should write an essay about some aspect of my father-in-law's aveda or some of his secrets um et cetera et cetera i i find this very interesting also um wow if i had another hour i would speak all about the need to get students to think creatively critically and to write their own thoughts you see that ebb was very into that short answer tests which are so uh common in unfortunately most schools for various reasons uh they are good at forcing people to cram for tests they're good at rewarding people who are good at retaining memory without necessarily comprehension but if you want people to think things through and understand it you got to get them to communicate so that ebb was telling this teacher i want them to write essays let them write essays about my father-in-law and uh that should be part of their preparation for the yard site on youtube with blessings that you should increase your involvement in the education of our young girls massim sienu akidashim you should increase whatever gives you a bracha to increase her involvement in educating educating the girls in accordance with the desire of our holy rabbits in other words not according to your desire that's not enough according to the desire of the rabbis which that's a tall order but that i was giving her a bracha here with you're going to see good reward for your toil you're going to see a lot of nachos from your own children but ever said this very often that when you take care of other people's children abrisha takes care of your children i'm awaiting good news in all of the aforementioned and i'm giving you a bra that all of what we spoke about should happen quickly should happen soon wow so much here to to unpack to think about and thank you for bearing with me i'm sorry that it took this long but uh sometimes that's how long it takes we'll see you tomorrow night