Do traditional roles in a marriage matter?

do traditional roles in marriage really matter a lot of people get very upset when they hear this but yes I know it's fashionable today to claim that everything is a social construct people could claim gender is a social construct marriage is a social construct I'm looking at it from a spiritual point of view where these things are existential truths and that when we try to fight them we end up causing distress to ourselves and to others one of the things that I've spoken about before I had a clip going around about a tip to men about how to be providers and it elicited a lot of criticism in part because it paints men in that traditional role of being a provider and I think in the clip I even clarify I'm not even primarily speaking about being a financial provider it could be that the woman is working could be the woman's making even more money what I'm talking about as a provider is an emotional provider which means you can say it's not fair and it isn't fair but in order for things to work the man has to initiate the emotional interaction which means the man has to bring the energy the man brings the energy and then the woman is able to develop it I think I even use the term become pregnant with it which caused some snickering amongst grown adults which I don't understand because the metaphor is a metaphor for a reason it's true on all levels emotionally biologically spiritually so she becomes pregnant with that energy and then she gives it back but it he has to initiate these things they may not seem fair but that's how things work