Day #10–Rambam DAILY Sefer HaMitzvos

it's day number 10 of our daily study of the rambam seifra Mitzvahs and today we have four Mitzvahs they're all prohibitions and they all correspond to hilgras Deus the laws of having a good character and good interpersonal relationships that's what we're studying in the three chapters a day of mishno Torah and that we're actually finishing up those halachas today in the three chapters a day of mission Torah okay so we have four Mitzvahs they're all prohibitions all corresponding to hilcus Deus here we go the first Mitzvah negative commandment 256 not to mistreat the widows and the orphans they are vulnerable so don't start up with them and also Hashem uh he he takes their side so it's not going to be good for you if you mess with the widows and the orphans and besides that it's it's not allowed you're not allowed to do it okay that's negative commandment 256. negative commandment 301 gossip gossip okay so what what if it's true what if it's true but it's not a lie I'm not lying it's true it doesn't matter don't talk about it you don't have to talk about it even if it's true oh what if what if it's not negative maybe it's just benign maybe it's just a neutral piece of information nevertheless don't talk about it gossip means just don't talk about other people and by the way if you learn a lot of Toyota then you have what to talk about other than talking about people so when you're learning say from it says every day you can talk about that and then you'll find interesting conversations to have that don't involve gossip okay and then we have two negative Commandments that go together because they're actually from the same verse now remember yesterday we had three Mitzvahs that all came from the same verse which was if you remember Leviticus 1917 well funny enough we have two Mitzvahs today that are also from one verse and it's the very next verse the very next verse in the total so yesterday we had three minutes was from Leviticus 1917 today we have two Mitzvahs that are both from Leviticus 19 18. from so the way it says it over there is lycline will I see Tire don't take revenge nor bear a grudge espine against the members of your people you should rather love your fellow as yourself I am the Lord and love your fellows yourself that's a positive Commandment that we had a couple days ago already but uh let's talk about these two prohibitions like don't take revenge or bear a grudge what's the difference between those two because they're two separate Mitzvahs negative commandment 304 is don't take revenge negative commandment 305 is don't bear a grudge so the classic example that's given is a guy asks his neighbor to borrow a tool he says could I borrow your Hammer whatever it is and the neighbor says no I'm not going to give it to you okay so the next day The Neighbor comes over and says could I borrow your tool and the guy says no no you didn't give me when I bought wanted I wanted to borrow your tool you said no to me so on principle I'm saying no to you I'm just giving you back what you gave to me I'm treating think you're the way you treated me that is called revenge and it's a Prohibition you're not allowed to do it okay what is the other myths for the bearing a grudge that's a little more subtle a guy goes to his neighbor and says could I borrow your tool and he says no I'm not going to give it to you the next day the neighbor who refused to do the favor previously comes over and he says could I borrow your tool and the guy says to his neighbor to my tool not like you you who didn't lend me your tool yesterday when I asked you so it's a little more passive aggressive right he he lends him the tool but he has to let him know not like you who didn't lend me the tool and that's called harboring a grudge literally keeping it holding on to it holding on to the feeling in your heart let it go get over those resentments let them go you know resentment is a re-sentiment a refueling it's like don't refill it feel it you're human fine now drop it drop it and move on and uh yeah that's that's the way to be that's the third way to be and and that just because it's healthier it is healthier but it's actually a commandment you're not allowed to to Bear The Grudge and if you're having trouble with uh actually keeping this mitzvah so you have to learn a lot to say this word explains to you how to reframe it and to understand it uh and uh to view the whole thing from a from a lens of practice and Divine Providence and then then you'll be able to move on and embrace it even okay uh we are going to move into some new Mitzvahs tomorrow we have tamatera coming up and we're gonna have new Mitzvahs and new new subject matter join us tomorrow