Are some women really “unmarriable”?

why are so many women today unmarriable that's the word unmarriable first of all I reject that question I think the tone of the question is actually loathsome but Let Me Entertain it anyway it's a sexist question it's basically saying the problem is with women I'll answer it but I want to flip it a little bit and just share this purely anecdotal experience every couple that I've ever counseled that's come to me with marital issues where one would say that the woman has issues with account ility or with commitment or the responsibilities of a relationship all of these issues that women often have when they have a problem being married every single time if you will scratch the surface you will find out that these women are deeply traumatized meaning that it comes from something that happened to them and 99% of the time it was abuse at the hands of a man so if you want to play the sexism game and say what's wrong with so many women I'll tell you it's what was done to them by men now I'm not here here to blame women I'm not here to blame men I'm just saying that if you want to really be compassionate and look for a solution to this issue of what's so broken about marriage and why so many women seem to be broken in terms of being INE equipped for an intimate relationship a lot of it has to do with abuse that was done to them by men so if we want to really look for a fix let's look to addressing the root cause and not boning the symptom