Sometimes You Find Your Child's Soul on the Ski Slopes - By Rabbi YY Jacobson

the yeshiva dotnet the moment at last has arrived the Jewish people are about to embark on their journey towards emancipation liberation and independence just a few days before they're about to leave hashem speaks to moshe and aaron and he instructs them all of the mitzvahs the detailed laws and instructions about the first Seder of Pesach they ought to create they ought to make the night before they would leave the country then moysha summons the elders of the Jewish people and he gives over all of these instructions to them to communicate to the Jewish people the first thing is get flock get sheep for each of the families so you can offer the Passover offering and he describes in detail how they should behave on that night and then moisture continues and he tells them preserve this law for you and your children forever add the oil them for eternity when you come to the land that Hashem will give you as he promised continue to preserve this avoider this system this work and then moisha adds and remember this is the first speech Moshe is giving to the Jewish people to the elders the leaders of the Jewish people just two weeks before payza preparing them for the first time for the ultimate liberation so mauritius says and i quote this is my spirited base posit curve of exodus 12 26 in partials boy waha okay i'm rural a combination mojave desert lehem and it shall happen vahana it shall happen when your children will say to you what is this service to you so he starts over haaa it shall be that when your children say to you what is this avoided to you Martin you should say to your children this is a pace of least offering to Hashem who passed over the houses of the children of Israel in Egypt when he smelled the Egyptians but he saved our households when Moshe finish is saying these words the terror says by ye coit Haram Vyas tocqueville the people bowed their heads down and they prostrated themselves they bowed and they prostrated themselves and the next verse the Jewish people went and they did as a Shem commanded Moshe and Aaron so they did in other words they went they purchased a sheep they made all the preparations and they followed through on all of the instructions offering the sheep eating it with the matzah with the murderer placing the blood on their doors and etcetera all of the instructions and then the next story is midnight comes and the final and tenth plague occurs and Perry and his people expel the Jewish people from their land Rashi is bothered by one detail Moishe speaks to the Jewish people they bow their heads and they prostrate themselves why there are many conversations between Moshe and the people throughout the entire home ich weiß are they don't usually bow they hear and they go do or they argue whatever their responses here they didn't argue they just went and did it why did they bow their heads and prostrate themselves sera she says via KOIN harm Sarasa gula this wasn't just a piece of information or a mitzvah this was the news of redemption Moishe was giving them the instructions on the night preceding their gula their Exodus after 210 years in a foreign land many of those years on their harsh and unbearable conditions of subjugation suffering and enslaves enslavement with terrible and edicts that the pharaohs issued forth against the people against the Binet Hall finally this is not just you're going to be redeemed it's happening cerissa gula so when Mercia tells them all these mitzvos to prepare the night on the night before the redemption of course they bow their heads of course they prostrate themselves this is their way of expressing excitement enthusiasm gratitude gratefulness for this moment at last but then now she says who BR syrettes there's another piece of news they're going to be coming to the land marsha tells them you'll come to the land that God promised you continue to do this avoider which they did thousands of years later every year in the night of pace of Jews universally of course in the Land of Israel but everywhere else conduct a seder probably the most celebrated Jewish holiday universally among all Jews so that's the second piece of news spirits they're not just leaving Egypt they're also coming to a land the promised land and then Rashi says and one more piece of news surah ahzaab Onan shakila ham the news that they're going to have children Moishe says you'll come to the land continue to do this avoid that and your children will tell you what are you doing my voice does ice lehem tell them what you're doing it's a Pesach offering for children to be able to ask these questions what are you doing you have to have children so Rashi says I'll pursue us how Bonhams rule ahem this was great news that they're going to have children that is why when they fear Mauritius presentation they bow their heads they prostrate themselves on the ground in an expression of tremendous joy festivity ecstasy celebration and gratitude on these three pieces of news that were just given to them number one you're about to be liberated number two you're actually going into the Promised Land number three you will have children now the first two are easily comprehensible we understand why they're celebrating they're not taking this for granted that they're being liberated or that they're going into a land yes they were told generations ago that one day they're going to be liberated and one day they're gonna go back to their land moistures share it with them in Egypt but as we say a Medina Shmi Illyria now it's actually happening it didn't happen yet but it's about to happen in a few days this is Rashidah Schneerson only two weeks to go and they're out incredible the third explanation of Rashi why they bow down though is a little different is difficult to understand absurd us have bonham she Allah the news that they're going to have children who is he addressing here he is dressing here an entire nation that as we know in homage numbered 600 thousands males between 20 and 60 if you now count males under 20 and above 60 it's probably maybe double almost double a little more a little less let's say it's double that amount that would be 1.2 million six hundred thousand you double 1.2 million now include all of the women not only from 20 to 60 from birth to above 60 you may have doubled that amount or perhaps even more if you have double that amount so you're dealing with 224 2.4 perhaps you had even more as is often the case and then you're dealing with something close to 3 million there will also be a river of the tiger we'll say many Egyptians who want to come will join them we don't know the numbers but it looks like it was a large number so you're dealing with anywhere between two and a half million up north could be 3 million three and a half million again we don't know the exact numbers the title just gives us 600,000 to 20 and 60 that's a large number of people according to natural system of the world when you have a nation of 3 4 million people they're gonna have children somebody's gonna have a child this is true about the human race it's true about the animal kingdom yes if I could understand if moisture was speaking to one couple and the couple was struggling with infertility and moisture Bane who says you know one day when your children start complaining now like really we're gonna have children awesome when moisture is now speaking to millions of Jews and telling them you're gonna have children what was the unique cause for celebration over something that's part of the natural process of the world it happens with all nations with all peoples it's intrinsic to the human race and not only the human race then entire animal kingdom procreates naturally not only the animal kingdom the entire world of botany regenerates and procreates through the systems that are genetically ingrained in all vegetation and produce trees and plants and bushes and herbs etc there is the process of reproduction procreation which we shouldn't take for granted this is one of the great miracles of our planet but it's part of the miracles of what we call the natural miracles of our planet meaning it's a miracle that is part of the system of creation when moisture comes to three million Jews who have been slaves or two-and-a-half million Jews who have been slaves and he says you were going to be liberated oh this is a hideth this is novel when he tells them you're going back to your homeland where your forefathers lived hundreds of years ago this is a finish this is a novel miracle they're slaves they have been deprived of all rights their children have been snatched from them and murdered they have been subjected to slave labor and genocide now they're being emancipated they bow down and gratitude they're coming to the promised land they bow down in gratitude but Rashi says they heard they're going to have children was that a big first of all they had children in Egypt had many children and a Juris they multiplied tremendously so they had children already before they had children the whole time part of the sale but the reason pyro was so threatened by the Jewish people was because of the extraordinary amount of children they had and that extraordinary blessings they were given in birth as it says in the beginning of schmoes open era Peruvian roots of a year Beauvais at small boy they multiplied excessively but tamale or it's awesome the earth the land was filled with the Jewish people to the point that it was very became extremely difficult for Perry and his people to deal with it so they were tremendously blessed with children in the Exile and Pyrrha tried to stop it with Chiffre didn't work with pou it didn't work throwing in the mail so the river ultimately was a bullet didn't work they had children that plenty of children they went out with many children they went out with paths with children you see it throughout the story so first of all it's not a Finnish they're going to have children they had children now nobody was expecting it to stop but even without that when moisture is telling millions of people you're going to have children it's a beautiful thing but it's not something unique and novel and yet when they hear this they bow down they prostrate themselves as though they hurt something unique something special and there's no need to put it in it's not like we don't understand why they bow though we really have two good reasons each one sufficient they're going to be liberated they're going to come back to their land and Rashi yet feels compelled to add one more thing they heard they're going to have children how do we understand this what was the great sympathy here the truth is when you go a step deeper you see how you could look at something from you could look at something superficially but when you reflect a bit deeper a new world opens up because moisture speaks about soldier but he speaks about soldier in a particular context he doesn't just say you're going to have soldier he speaks about a conversation your children are going to have with you he says for hire Kia relation Bonita when your children are going to say to you four words ma Harve either has eyes look M what is this service what is this avoid them what is this work you're doing now you remember which child says this I don't want to remind you of pay stuff that's coming up so let's now remember when the how god that there's a famous passage and I want to explain to you this passage because people read the passage like you know we read a lot of things and we often don't reflect on the meaning of it the Haggadah is a very interesting compilation most people are usually too tired at that point to focus on it and they're waiting for sonorous but the hagatha is really a fascinating compilation and there's a piece in the Haggadah that comes from the mistletoe very famous piece bora hamako him Miroku you remember probably the song blessings a sham the monk I'm blessed is he Barack's innocent IRA Lama is Roberto who can negate our bonham Dib retire Tyrel addresses for different children at Kaka Maharaja after Tom mekka channey dalish there's the wise child there is the rebellious child there is the confused child and there's a child who knows not what to ask what does this mean can a guitar Bob Bonham dobrze tighter tighter speaks about for children we just try to speak about for children you could read through the whole room and she won't find anywhere the hokum/the Russia the Tom the zhenya Daily Show this was a brilliant stroke of genius of the sages Moira Bane who speaks to the Jewish people four times about conversations they're going to have with their children four times in himesh four different verses the first one is still in Egypt this is the verse this is the first one when your children will tell you what are you doing Valhalla correlationism mara void as I slew her and the sages when they read himesh were attentive not only to every sentence not only to every word to every letter literally attentive to every nuance every every cantillation every one of the melodies then the Kudus every detail every nuance moisture says when your children will tell you what are you doing you should say so and so that's impartial boy they're still in Egypt when you look a little further they come out of Egypt it's pacer and once they leave Egypt Mauritius speaks to them once again and when he speaks to them again he says the gathered olive in caballo him how who lamer on that day on that day he tells them that every year they should follow these laws you're gonna come Terrace row seven days seven days each map says don't eat Hermits and tell your child that day that it's for this mitzvahs that God took me out of Egypt again he's talking about speaking to your child via gathered eleven moisture continues further in the same speech after they came out of Egypt the haouka shall come in sir McCallum amazos when your child is going to ask you tomorrow what is this you should answer him so we already have three times moisture speaking about conversations with children three times and then 40 years later when you go to the varam Seifert varam Moishe Rubino speaks again about communication with children Marsh Robin who says in the forum your child your child is going to ask you Maha aiders Val cooking varnish bottom I should sivash Emily can you ask him what are all the laws that God commanded you and he gives the answer so the sages wondered why are there four times that he speaks about children the answer is he's not talking about the same child that's the meaning he naked our Baba named Deborah Tara Tara addresses for different children that's why Mauritius says at four times the order of the Haggadah is Holcomb Russia Tom Shanee de Alysha the order in homage those a very different order the first one they associated with the Russia because my shrah Bane who says Vaheguru alaikum beneath them when your children will tell you maja voiceover hem what are you doing which in the Haggadah is put in the mouth of the russia russia ma ma ma voi does lehem the second one we got into levin car they put into the Shanee a day Alisha who doesn't know how to ask so that's what you have to talk to him at aqua Shan MRV Goleta the third one Veronica Sullavan Komaki Lima Missouri's your child will say what's this they put into the mouth of the tongue and then the fourth one where the child asks in detail what are the ages and the hukum and the mesh bottom the rabbis put into the mouths of the hokum of the wise are developed or holy child or a spiritual child scholarly child that's in the varam they put that in the mouth of the column now we have to understand why the Haggadah the order is different than the order in himesh that's one big question is another question of when you look at the responses to each one of the four children it's not exactly a replica of the responses that are in homers teacher of the four children that's a separate shield and a long discussion but what is fascinating is that the first child that moisture dresses is not the column not the Tom not their Shanee a Daily Show but the one who is identified in the Hagaddah as the Ben Russia as the rebellious child for higher kumru al a combination which when we can understand that and we hear his question maha void as I slow hem now you come back to Rashi and Rashi says why did the Jews bow their heads because they heard they're going to be redeemed because they're going into the land but because of a third reason Souris harbour nebula because of the children that they're going to have they heard now that they're going to have children and we asked the question what's the great finish when you have millions of people somebody most of them are destined to have children true children is a great blessing and some people struggle with this sadly and unfortunately however when you're dealing here with four million people it's light a part of tavaa part of nature but we have to hear what these children are saying these are children who are saying Marvo docile ahem what are you doing the Hagaddah identifies these children with the category of Russia not Holcomb not Tom not Cheney a day Alysha so Rashi says they heard this they bow down they prostrated themselves what's the finish everybody has children most people have told the word vahana cuz i'll say when it says ye he it could mean an expression of pain when it says Valhalla it's Russian simcha it's a language of joy here maestra says of a higher keanu alaikum beneath him avoid others look him it shall be via he it was like ye he beam a hawkish Irish Russian Tsar Valhalla Russian simcha what's the logic of this there are people who always talk about via he and it was they don't live with the past they live in the past Mahalo means it shall be they focus on creating a future so cuz I'll say Yee is already bad news you have to remember the past you have to live with the past but not in the past Valhalla you're focusing on what will be oh this is already good news this itself as a lotion simcha Martian simcha I once heard from the former chief rabbi of Israel Bayou sorrel mayor Lau from Tel Aviv then in the 1970s he once visited the Lubavitch Arriba and this was shortly after the in Kippur War I think he said and middle of the conversation the Rebbe asked him or of Lao he said rabbi Lau what's the situation at all you have the finger on the pulse of the people in Israel he was a very he is a very popular rove and leader and rabbi very beloved by many segments of the jewish people so our bylaw tells the lubavitcher rebbe he says Jews are saying vows of a design it's classic Yiddish crafts voice of a design meaning what's gonna be what's gonna be she said the rebel looked at him and said by edon jacques diminished vos resign by edon Zuckerman Fosgate meant on by Jews the question ought to be not what's going to be what are we going to do that's the difference between via he and vahana a person could look at a situation say aw what's gonna be a different perspective is not what's gonna be what are we going to do about it the first question is an innocent question but it means that I'm part of the problem the second question means I'm part of the solution and there's only two types of questions you can ask in life questions that make you part of the problem or questions that make you part of the solution whenever you ask a question stop and ask yourself is this question creating the problem or adding to the problem or is this question somehow contributing to the solution if the question is adding to the problem okay that's why he so he says by Jews freshmen is loss of a design Africa's gate mint on what am I going to do one is passive one is proactive one is the question of a victim one is the question of a leader one is a question of fear and insecurity and paralysis and stagnation and one is a question of creativity determination faith positivity optimism and trust the word that moisture uses here is Varya Varya is a Russian simcha what's the Valhalla when your children are going to say to you Tati mommy what are you doing it was the grossest ever I understand if the cocker was sitting by the Seine there and saying ah ah Tati mommy what an unbelievable Seder remember when your child did that what an unbeliever say that we so appreciate how much work you put in to prepare this house for pacer unbelievable where do you want us to sit just tell me cause I would like to remain here in this seat for the next two and a half hours without moving and what do you want me to hang up my coat sure and can I help you clean up the dining room and the living room in the last moments before the Seder wow you are an incredible mother how you did this all it's incredible it's unbelievable when I get older I want to be just like you in the meantime consider me your sidekick your Viceroy whatever you need to get done in this house I'm here I understand what oh yeah that I get much is not saying that the first child addresses is not the saintly perfect impeccable flawless valedictorian the one you deposited in preschool and the Latin next time you got a call from the principal was the day of graduation of high school this is the child who the principal calls you three times a day about plus the teacher oh ha ha the Simca what's the Simca it shall be let's hear what moisture when your children are gonna tell you what are you doing I have nothing better to do then clean your house I don't really know what we're doing here ok I'm just going to my room waha ok I'm relation beneath him Mojave Desert look M Lawson simcha and how do you see this when they hear that they're chosen are gonna ask this question they bow down what are you bowing down raschi says Souris a bomb him no it's not that sorry they're gonna have children that's not they had children Boracay sham that miracle existed already it will continue to exist when you have millions of people that have children somebody has children it's part of creation the Souris are born in is the children are asking this question more avoid us lehem and they're celebrating they're bowing their heads down what's the meaning of this now we understand round sheets of big hitters with rashes Sohrab Sadiq a kyon of Lublin one of the great spiritual Hasidic masters the Reber of the city of Lublin was known as your Sadiq a kyon and he in his commentary on himesh and in other swaram of his sitka sad sad they can prasad they can others forum of his he addresses this and he explains it by introducing a fascinating statement of our sages attracted Sanhedrin chapter 11 the Mishna says everybody knows Kolya Ashla ham kala kala ma ba all of the Jewish people have a part in Olam haba but then the Mishna says VA Liu Shan lamb helical Olam haba there are those who forfeited their part in Olam haba in the future world and the Mishnah mentions three kings and for Slusher malacca my boy had the itis three kings and for laymen the three kings are Yerevan a cough and Menasha the fourth is the for laymen Balaam daheck aki stifle and gay cozy okay the next few pages the Gomorrah discusses all of these people and why they have such a unique status following all that this is son hadron page ninety ninety a sad the camara love the Mishnah a few pages the Gemara discusses this and then the Gemara says I'm gonna quote page 104 I think son had renkov Dollard yeah the Gabara says don't che resume is how you I'm rim cool on boy in law alum haba there were those who were dochira shoe mice they expounded hints they said everybody's coming to Alomar you rava Menasha a curved or Yaga insightful gate huzi they're all coming tell'em haba what's dirty irish rumors Rashi says der sheep sukham they expound the nuances the hints and verses and they used to say everybody ultimately will have a tick one poly dogs me men who need us nobody is going to be completely lost every soul is going to be rectified so the Mishna says they don't have a kala kalila muhabba that's like this standard but the dirtier Sherman said they do have a helical Olam haba so absurd the classic is this a contradiction the Mishna says not the missioner couldn't know these pursuit can the mission it didn't know the hints of the pursuit camp the tan of the mission I didn't understand this are they just arguing about something they're just arguing why you call them dochira hummus and what's this expression - a resume I see the word resume ice comes from the word rose shame you're a sham you know what aeration is a an impression a residue that's one level but Rosa mosa means a little sign you make erosion you say a person makes aeration this makes an impact but makes erosion can also mean you make a little line you know sometimes you're writing something you don't have time to write a whole sentence you add in short language maybe you'll make an exclamation point you'll underline a word you'll write a word what is it called shorthand or different synonyms sometimes just for you a Simenon mnemonic for you to remember it that's called aeration or ocean when you look at it somebody else may not understand sometimes you writing down a point from something you're hearing somebody else will read it they won't understand it it's completely non-eligible they won't to relate to it but you who heard it it's enough a little Russian a little hint and that already contains the entire message even though somebody else who looks at it may not see anything but you can look at it from a deeper perspective we all know in life what associations are associations are two people could look at the same thing for one person it's meaningless for another person it triggers who knows what triggers so I was Shabbos and Flatbush so a father stones telling me that he changed his song from one school to another school and that school was the school he went to as a child and he hasn't been there for like thirty years and he brought his child to this school the middle of the year wasn't working out from he brought him to this school and he's a macho self-confident aggressive type of guy physically and psychologically he has stature and he's impressive and a very successful man and he tossed me rings his son to school and as he comes into the front door he freezes and he starts sweating and his wife is like should I call hot Salah he says no no don't call out Salah but he told me that it brought back I'm laughing he had flashbacks of a particular experience or experiences that he had in that place for quite a few years extremely difficult and they left a very deep impact on him so there's people who walk into a building they don't even notice they walk up the steps for him this step wasn't a step it wasn't a step the step was a whole life that's a whole previous life that flashed there in front of his eyes the step represented fear and dread and trauma and I'm not gonna elaborate on this but you get the point two people come into the same house they see the same thing for one person it's nothing what is what what happened there's nothing here it's a ratio it's not explicit it's not displayed in an open way but somebody who appreciates who's sensitive to the energy here they see in this reality what other people don't see because of a unique experience or unique understanding a unique relationship or unique past whatever it may be this is true pass and negative it's also true positive Russia noise means you look at something and where other people can't see you can see something even though it's only a Russian there's only a little sign there's only a little simin it's shorthand somebody else reads it they don't see this - a resume my son Roy Ashland kala kalah mama those who know how to study the relation of souls said yes l'm kala kala mama why what does this mean whenever you look at a person you could look and see two separate things you could look at the surface and the surface is true you could look at a person's behavior you could listen to a person's words you could see a person's body language and you could look at a person's day-to-day conduct and you see reality you see truth and then you may reach certain conclusions based on what you see when you're studying these personalities a mechanical Olam haba how can never Hey look in Alabama they forfeited they detach themselves from the divine they don't have a halo Canela mama dochira sumalee's but people who could see things on a much deeper level even if it's not articulated clearly in words they're sensitive to vibrations of the soul they're attune to the subconscious layers of the human psyche they see what is happening in the sub sub sellers of the human condition the human heart the human existence they could see that even if something externally is articulated in one way on a deeper level there may be a hole deeper dimension going on that may not be revealed to the person who is not one of those those aromas take for example Menasha Menasha was a king for fifty-five years he was one of the most evil Jewish kings he murdered his grandfather and it wasn't just a grandfather his name was your Shia Hanavi and how did he become his grandfather Menasha had a father whose name was his skier this ski a was at Sadiq he even had foresight and he did not want to get married you know why he saw what his offspring is going to look like he become sick and God sends the Prophet you shouted to him and tell him you have to get mad you have to have children but naturally Ischia says you want me to have children you know what that child is gonna look like trust me it's better if I die without a condition you'll say Kaddish for me those weren't his words but that was the theme and you Shia told them five words by Hadi kafshi derrickman Alamelu don't get involved in the mysteries of creation God told you to have children you have children your job is not to predict the future of civilization let God do his work you do your work you were charged with the mission of having children have children so yes this Kia was a smart man he said okay give me your daughter he thought you know with her brains in his looks so to speak at least there'll be more chances you shout our movies daughter if she's the mother of this kids know how bad can it be the apple doesn't fall so far from the tree even if it's falls far from the tree mail amoeba combination of him and Yu Xiaoyu on Ovie's daughter the best stock and the Gemara says and it still didn't help minashi Hiskey was right his ski was right the man was a destructive force but he had a son Hiskey he had a son Menasha whose father was a great-sounding 55 years at the end of his life Manoj is captured by the babylonians he calls out to all of his gods and then he decides you know what maybe my father's olive bass was right he decides to do trova and the Gemara says in Sanhedrin the Angels told God there's always an exception he's now let adieu true though he is not accepted they would not let Menasha soul come to the reminder Shalom City tomorrow says what did Hashem do one of the greatest stories telemarket Aristarchus ki say I covered God dug a tunnel under his throne to sneak Menasha in you read this c'mon you like really in heaven that God boy your most to run the show I thought with God there's a little a little democracy a little justice really the man welcomes a no no we decide who comes in who doesn't come Hashem has stood imagine God has to dig a tunnel so they don't notice what he's scared of is Malaca you hire them you create them and then they tell you what to do we know how it works down here on earth it's called getting to know the right people we thought in heaven is a place of truth it's called either my MS there's no nepotism there's no protector there's no deception there's no kanaeva it turns out it's not so simple I was once at a funeral and one of the heifer khadisha one of the heritage who goes down well somebody didn't really didn't like him so when he comes back up from the hole he guy says you know I feel so bad for everybody who dies in this community it's not enough they have to live with you even after they're dead the last person they have to see is you what a great compliment so I ask you finally in digital a world of truth God says sorry I'm not in control here my love come run this show you know what we're gonna dig a tunnel Haleh what is going on here what is going on the Passat is of course the Malacca Mar right Menasha can't do trova he's become too detached the tunnel that God creates represents something in order to find Minaj's relationship with God you have to dig a tunnel you have to go beneath the earth you have to go deep deep deep into the core of his neshama with even the my welcome they don't have a fee so they don't have a sensitivity to it they weren't trained for this they see things the way they are that's why they can't deal with this world because this world nothing is the way it looks in this world nothing is the way it looks that's why you cover your eyes by Schmeisser all in this world you have to have the courage to be able to look at a world that on one level it screams there's no meaning this absolute chaos there's endless pain endless suffering endless politics endless injustice and to be able to dig a tunnel and say beneath all of that is a noite Movado that's only in this world a mile awesome don't know this they see reality and what you see is what you get and what you get is what you see that's why when the angels were sent down here one time in history God is like never again because in parshas voracious hunger fill them how you boretz they came down they fell they completely fell an angel is very good in heaven you send an end angel down to earth he or she has no resources to be able to deal with the crusts of earth the angel is going to take a shovel or a hoe or a tractor and dig and dig and dig and excavate and find the Behaim I am hi I'm the Living Well Springs of water that pulsates and flow beneath layers of debris and dirt and earth and stones and pebbles and filth and rubble etc heartily Dear Abby Maharis if you look at Menasha in the helical atom haba dirty Chaitra shoe mice those who understand the russian they could see a regime of godliness and a person even though the person doesn't even know how to articulate it the person knows even know how to express it in words but the Russian is did the residue is there they say of course yesh lach a little atom ABBA not a contradiction one is addressing the niggler of the person one is addressing the mister of the person the outer and the inner there's always an everything that hits own and opinioni the external and the internal take care of them your oven was what you call a truce Otsuka what he did as your grandmother would say about certain people your oven benefit is a man who was a genius of a person the Gemara says her son had room 103 it was the greatest gone of his generation and yet he created two golden calves he influenced the nation to become and shrine stand idolatry he closed the pathways to Yerushalayim in many ways he was a very evil king what are we saying pre-clovis kiteiur mathias our album they don't only sin himself he caused the nation to sin which is a different level of sinfulness person does what they do on their own they do on their own he created the certain movement in the nation and the people and he was essentially a great person so the Rambam writes in a garish taemin there's a famous letter their emblem writes to the community of Yemenite Jews who were forced by the almohads to choose Islam or death so many converted to Islam superficially and there was a rabbi who wrote a letter that these Jews who converted to Islam are not Jews anymore and they shouldn't even come to show Liam Kippur and they should have make broca's they should and daven they shouldn't have a say there because they're the worst of the worst and the Rambam and one of his most extraordinary pieces of writing has a 4050 page letter criticizing this rabbi who wrote this about these Jews who converted to Islam under coercion because they wanted to live it's an extraordinary letter and the Rambam says whoever put it into the mind of a person that just because first of all their Imam says Islam is not idolatry because unlike Christianity Islam is a monotheistic religion it doesn't believe in Trinity so therefore it's not a voices aura and they're not Malou you have to die if some day if they're forced to say that Mohammed is a real prophet and have to go into the mosque there a moment says you don't somebody may die for it but you don't have to die and therefore they should try to move out but those who did it out of coercion they're Jews and their beloved and every mitzvahs precious they could continue to darvon it's an extraordinary piece of the Rambam you see a Jewish leader a lover of the Jewish people somebody who's really sensitive to the reality of what's going on so the Romani has an expression and he says even your oven benefit who was considered one of the greatest sinners of Jewish history he will be punished not only for creating idolatry in the Jewish world and creating two golden calves but also for cooking on young teeth for cooking on Friday Erev Shabbos young - for Shabbos without making an area stuff shilling and so their emblem says your oven benefit will be punished for not making their official okay so you look at the Rambam and you're like this is interesting it's interesting you know a guy kills somebody else in the process he steals a can of coke and each reeks in you say by the way he got a payback for the coke - I mean yeah why not just because he killed somebody doesn't mean he's not responsible to pay for the coke cook but the Rambam is saying something big and that is the Navi says the Navi Amoy says Kyra Kessler Mia Dottie mcComish police Adama alkane F great alaikum kala Vanessa it's only you that I loved from all the nations of the earth and therefore I remember all of your sins a sin can only be meaningful if there's a relationship think for example in terms of a marriage if a bachelor somebody who's not married leaves the country for three months he goes backpacking in India Japan Thailand China New Zealand and the Philippines right fine you want to go for four months go for four months stay safe eat healthy and enjoy life but if somebody who's married and he gets on a plane with a backpack and he starts backpacking through the Himalayas and Mount Everest and then goes through the Philippines and Nepal without telling without getting permission from a spouse this is a whole different situation even if your husband doesn't return a call or a text right after some time it gets aggravating why the answer is because when I'm in a relationship with somebody my behavior affects them if I am married if I'm in any type of relationship with somebody the close to the relationship the more the impact you can't compare the relationship for example of siblings to the relationship of spouses a very famous big therapist once told me very insightful message he said to me he says I see my brother once a month average once in three weeks once a month he says when I meet my brother a month later we pick up where we were a month earlier nothing changed in between we met a month ago we meet a month later at some 11 mile care whatever and we pick up from where we were a month ago without any change he says with his wife he says with a marriage with a marriage he says if with if within every three hours there's no connection there's already drifting away why because the relationship is so deep the expectation of each party from the other one emotionally is profound that if for three hours is absolutely no connection there's already a little bit of drifting it can be repaired fast it's not the end of the world it's not the crisis of the century but it means essentially it's a type of relation that every three hours they have to feel that they could lean on the other person they have somebody to fall into their arms they have somebody they can trust it's a different level of a relationship the deeper the relationship the more the betrayal when I neglect it so God says through the Prophet a moyes you I love from all the nations therefore I remember all of your sins your sins hurt somebody else a person who's not married fine you could disappear from the planet for three you could this is not from the planet you can disappear from the house for six years I mean your grandmother and mother will worry but who cares about that and if you don't have somebody to worry then mom is nobody when somebody's in a relationship whatever the relationship is a spouse a parent a child a close friend I can't just disappear and say it's none of your business it is my business I love you you affect me the whole turnaround mitzvos is based on a relationship I love you from all the nations alkane FK da lay some color Vanessa so if you for example cook on Shabbos it hurts you're violating my intimate day you're not a stranger you're coming into my intimate day and you're violating it you cook on Yonge teeth for Shabbos without a native tough shilling it hurts you would think for this you have to be connected what happens if a couple gets divorced he doesn't have to call his ex and say by the way I'm going backpacking I mean unless there's some arrangements with children or whatever technically but he essentially doesn't have to do that why not there's no relationship they're cut off you would think your oven been Avadh was such a sinner who cares if he cooks without a native tough shilling or not as up kishna ten he's caught off the relationship with Sarah cook how much you want Sonia meth what do I care there's no connection anymore comes the Rambam and says no your other benefit will be punished also for a gift of Schilling why vodkas Nitin then abuse Nitin don't shirasu mice if you dig a tunnel you understand that you can't separate a soul from God every neshama is one with axonal saints of butter who every soul is one with God in his essence and therefore even if on every conscious level and conscious display there is a separation and the cord is severed and when you look at this person you say hey hey look Lola muhabba don't share should my say no you rather me Axler kala kalah mama and that's where the Rambam says a lift up shilling also hurts the fact that he cooks on yum do without a narrative shillin is a sensitivity Tasha it matters it's meaningful it's significant it's a betrayal of our intimacy to betrayal young different shop is our days of intimacy you don't come into intimacy with a falafel and sauerkraut or a laugh and barbecue sauce that you keep outside Shabbos on yom tov our intimate days it's a betrayal of that even with your oven benefit that's what there are mama say dochira shoo mice for this you have to be a dochira show mice so moisture Nibbana now comes to the Jewish people they're leaving Egypt they're going in terror too strong vohiyo a lotion similar when you kiss kia has Menasha he told you Shia don't want to have a child Shia said don't get mixed into God's secrets he has it's all he's right the child is destructive at the end of child Ostrava and as episodic says mushiya Bend of admission comes from whom comes from inertia that means if Menasha wouldn't have been born mushiya can't come into the world so you Shia know he told his kid don't mix into where you don't have to mixer this is what you have to do and then these things that you know a little bit and you don't know much more men mushiya ultimately comes from his kia that's what he meant you don't know the secrets it's not just don't mix into God's secrets because it's none of your business it that there are journeys of souls that defy anybody's logical construct and conscious comprehensions for this you have to be a maven Unruh shoe mice rashim eyes means secrets that are not articulated clearly there was a year the hustle his name was Reb Menachem Manish Muzzin son he was a very successful Dimond connoisseur and merchant he was also at home with hakama Ben Terrace Kali was a great bolts talk about Hassad he used to come once a year to his Arriba his rebel was the fifth Lubavitch year ever known as there ever a Shabri of shaolin bear passed away 1920 in Russia and he would bring him every year his most beautiful diamond as a gift to be able to give food stock whatever his sadaqa the rebus Tanaka wanted he would get his most beautiful diamond he would give us a gift to be distributed for charity according to the rebus wishes one year he came and before he went into the rabbit before young TIF somebody else went in and that man stayed for a very long time and then he went in just for a few minutes and the audience was over and he felt very bad because he knew the person in front of him and he was a simpleton nice man a god-fearing man but very very simple he was a scholar and he was multifaceted and multi-layered and successful in different arenas and an activist and a very successful man in the palma club and he felt that this was a on inappropriate on just whatever the word is disparity the disparity perturbed so when you have a close relationship with somebody the worst thing is not to bring up hurt ah your grievances repressing things don't make them go away even though we wish they would we still hope for it to go away and the definition of insanity is when you do the same thing again and again and you expect changes even though you're repeating the same patterns so especially we have a close relationship so when he went into the Rebbe after Yom Tov he said I have to share something that emotionally I'm upset I'm upset at their ever this person is a fine jeweler since with the Reber a long time I come in in and out I felt upset and how could you compare me to him so their ever listened and he didn't say a word he didn't answer it was after the conversation he was about to go so he says an attendance here I brought you the best diamond ever and he takes out a selection of diamonds and he points to the greatest the best the most dazzling in its brilliance and glitter and the rabbit points to another one and he says doc suck that this one is nicer than this one I think the other one is nicer says nay you can't compare this goes for five thousand roubles goes for sixty thousand roubles you can't compare so the rabbit picks up the expensive one the sixty thousand ruble one or whatever the price was he looks at it he turns it over as I he looks looks close its Anakin godless I don't see any special beauty in this diamond so he says look at this notice this focused on this the rebel looks he says it's Xena shhhht I don't see so a little frustrated at some point he says rather demand tough man design a maven on a diamond you have to be a connoisseur you have to be an expert with all due respect you're a big red blur but you're not a diamond expert so the Rebbe is smiled and he said when I found Shama Duffman I sign a maven and on a soul you also have to be an expert and with all due respect you're a great diamond Conners but you're not a soul connoisseur I furnish Shama Duffman sign a maven and if somebody is not a maven on a summer they have to be humble and say this is not for me one person doesn't mix into diamonds and other person should I make sense in a thermos I have to be able to say this is not for me I don't know how to deal with it I get annoyed frustrated overwhelmed I just can't deal with this I don't understand I'm not tuned in to the layers of the human soul of the human heart Tarshish Imus so moisture speaks to the Jewish people as they're going about to leave Egypt of Ohio he says there's going to be a similar what's the simpler game you are a combination Marvo does lehem you're going to have children who are not the common we know that they have come and bring joy I'm talking about the first child the child was going to say Mar void as ice Laham what in the world are you doing you're really primitive you really belong in the Stone Age you really really old-fashioned you're archaic mom you gotta wake up and smell the coffee you got a dance to the beat to the rhythm of contemporary life you come from a different world from a different planet you may mean well and don't start crying on me it's time to become a little relevant to the real world Marv and all one word MA one sentence Mara void eyes eyes look up can't say it better first of all it's hard work it's a fighter and it's look M as the hagatha says look M the low-low and the Jews hear this and what do they do they all bow down imagine four million people bow down yay Thank You Marcia rash is a spurious Obama in what's the source upon the Pistorius abondon is that moisture was telling them waha aah what's the matter aah what's the pursuers upon them what's the great flora why are they bowing down on hearing that this is what the child is going to ask the answer is Baraka Markheim Bora who bore Oksana's and Tyrell Army is wrong Bora who k- um how does that sentence come in there what do we suddenly need a song so we needed Baraka mark how does it come in there the four expressions of Baraka the four children Baraka McComb is the Cockrum what's Mark a monk in the space space is articulated here we're in a space Baraka Malcolm is the way God is manifested in a space what's who who is always third person wash and mr. Barlow who you can't see him if somebody is here you say bar look at all if somebody is far away you say who he or in the feminine he/she or who or in a pilot show you this both are he he but I do a Luther wanying Yiddish so we do who and he but you get the point now if you say it over to your husband you won't know what you're talking about that's what I'm saying Baro he Borat he but I'm doing the way until if the way Gnaeus I say borrow who borrow he but the same point when you say who or he it's called Russian mr. in Hebrew grammar its concealed Baraka mock I mean it's the way the divine is manifested in a child Barack who means the divine may be concealed but concealed doesn't mean it's not here concealed means you have to dig a tunnel you can't look at the superficial so moisture bein who is telling all of the Jewish people forever when your child says marveled as always look em don't think that the question is coming because there's no relationship the question is coming because there's a very very deep relationship the depth of the relationship is sometimes manifested in anger in pain in loneliness in torment and frustration in annoyance in apathy indifference but don't think that these children are disconnected because there's no such a thing as a child is connected when the Jewish people heard this surah ahzaab Anand they didn't just say they can have children they heard that like he does me men who NIDA they heard what type of children are going to have never ever will they have a child who's really separated who's really severed who's really detached and even if at the surface the child is screaming more avoid as ice lehem that's a surface expression if you go deeper there's a very powerful wholesome purity and sanctity because the soul is a piece of the divine and that could never ever change or cease that's why the Haggadah put in a fascinating message a Fatah hockey is she not remember what does happy a sheen of me belonged his teeth some people say knock out his teeth you think that would be nice at a say the table your son says what are you doing whack great education I fought the hockey enough hockey a shin of means bluntest teeth blunt his teeth means somebody sometimes speaks and the bite is very very hard and people get annoyed from the sharpness and they can hear the person anymore they're responding to the teeth not to the soul and whenever you respond to the teeth not to the soul you're losing the person now it's painful for us when somebody bites me it hurts so by instinct I fight back fight or flight we do that with our kids all the time so the Haggadah says take a deep breath connect to God connect to your soul connect to his soul the happiest sheen of don't look at the teeth what do we say we say the bark is bigger than the bite here we say the bite is not as big as the soul get beyond the the derision the cynical words the by eating words teenagers know how to tell things to their mother that turns over their kishkas for three and a half decades the 17 they know exactly what to say in the right time and you're in your room for the next three weeks reflecting regurgitating the expression as he moves on with his life happiest enough you got to know how to distinguish between the teeth and what is behind the teeth the Vilna Gaon says she novice shin known you'd've of the gematria 366 retired russia russia you with me 366 Russia is 570 a Fatah hockey is shineth take out scheana take out three hundred and and 66 from 570 and you'll end up with Sadiq Sadiq Dollard you'd Cove which is two hundred and four you could take out your calculators and do the math in other words what so what is he saying I thought the happiest scene of take out the sin of the teeth and the Russia's nostalgia Russia for this the Jews bow down this was a Russian similar this was absurd that never ever will there be a Jewish child that you have to give up on never ever will there be a Jewish child who when he or she says ma voi does love him you have to expel them from your life from your mat from your home from your family never ever will there be a Jewish child that you have to sever cords with absolutely and completely and say there is no hope this is Fallon this is finished this is just this is not a Jewish kid I don't know how he was born into my family maybe he was adopted I don't know some strange genes vahana this was pure as a bond them together with the gula together with the land they heard something special about their children this is what my she told them Reposado decline of Lublin explains just yesterday I got an email from somebody a bub of a faucet and it was a very meaningful a very meaningful episode that he shared with me his name is rabbi quadrat from Antwerp been seeing quandra from Antwerp and his father he's a Bubba velocity and his father was a Talmud a student of the caduceus sein ribbon see and halberstam the Bubba V Roth who was shot he was killed during the Holocaust during the Second World War and before the war he was in Bombay of Bubba's in Galicia in eastern Poland he had a huge ug Shiva and he was a very very big rubber most of Bob of was wiped out his son Reb Naftali Epps Lima survived the war and he rebuilt Bob of after the Second World War he passed away in 2010 was a by his son Reb Naftali so this bubble vacasa tell me that he heard this story from his father who was a Talmud by the caduceus scene he was named as Robertson he's known as the caduceus sein and he said that he wants to share with me the story that he heard from his father he said one day a Jew comes into the bubble veer of ribbon seein the kernel of Rosh Hashanah and come down my and he cries that he's very scared for her son's future this is in the 1930s so the boob aver of the bubble forever asks and what's the problem so he said he expected his son to be completely immersed in Tyrel he was a Hasidic boy a good citizenship and tired exodus a buckaroo instead he sees that his son loves skiing the words he used in Yiddish speaking to the Bubba where of is a hot libs a collision of the Schnee he loves to slide on the snow or never took up glitchin from Derek and he's gonna slip over the path he wants to slip on the snow and is gonna slip over the Derek what they call today o TD he's gonna ski off the Jewish path take the wrong slope downhill and he said I don't know where it's gonna end maila ski but I don't know where it's gonna end I want you should have one interest and interest is learning Torah all day and serving God and diving and being over - em and I'm extremely extremely scared who he's gonna meet them what's gonna happen so the bubbly rabbit tells him shake him Samir let me see your son and I'll take care of him okay father leaves goes home he's going to send his son to the bub of a rabbit and in the meantime the baba veer over there see it instructs his godbye to go into the Shiva and summon one of the Shiva boys and Baba whose name was Yaakov Hesh yakov Hirsch was a boxer a student who was a victim at Holcomb various city is very serious very sincere very dedicated to his learning and he was a mass MIT parshat he loved loved learning he sat for hours day and night and he loved learning there was nothing else in his life he would eat drink sleep a little bit and learn that's what he did Yaakov Hirsch is surprised by this invitation he comes into the Bubba Verve and the nepotism Yakov Hesh Gale Aaron reaches a glitchin of the Schnee I want you to go master the art of skiing I want you to learn how to slide on the snow literally Yakov Hirsch was not just dumbfounded he was startled his rapid the Bobby beretta has nothing better for him prepared than to go learn how to ski so even though he was a Barker and it wasn't comfortable for him he said rebus verse for this McGavin have no interest why should I learn this so the bubble would have said Yakov Hirsch svet it's in it's coming it's going to be beneficial for you it's going to be of great benefit to you now what happens to be that the city of Bob live is located near the Carpathian Mountains on the border between Poland Galicia and Czechoslovakia I don't know if anybody here skied on the Carpathian Mountains but if you're planning a good ski trip you may consider that and Bobby was on that border with Czechoslovakia so Yakov Harris at great slopes to practice on the Barbara told him in no time he was a serious student there cities he was also potentially athletic he learned to he mastered the sport and he became Amish an expert skier this Jew who came to complain to their ever went home and sent his son to Bob the rabbit the rabbit rabbit took him into his yeshiva and took him took him under his tutelage and took him under his loving care which he was very well known the bubble forever dick dousche you see it was very well known for having a way of influencing the youth he had a biggie Shiva and he was very he took a tremendous interest in all of the students like a father and a mentor and a teacher and he educated them he refined them he really meant to them hundreds and hundreds of boys he was well known for this before the war and this boy was now here in the yeshiva and one day the Bubba veer off calls yakavetta the expert skier and he tells him I want you to take this boy and teach him how to ski you're an expert I want you to teach him how to become an expert skier and when you're on the slopes and when you're putting on the gear and when you come down and when you're going and when you're coming you'll also talk to him you'll four bring with them and learning and citizen your shamaya and I want you to do this constantly on a weekly basis know this kids fell in love with Bubba's it was the best he comes here he gets free ski lessons by a master skier and by the best bucking is Shiva - who took him to ski the best boy yeah coverage was considered la créme de la créme he loved it he wasn't considered an outcast he didn't have to do with clandestinely it wasn't secret it was done with by Yaakov Harry she was the best boxer and the rapper of course was behind behind the scenes and the boy he was a transformed boy because he loved skiing and as a result he loved the atmosphere loved the learning you loved the dominie you loved the ambience and all was wonderful it is just a second half to the story it's not really the main point but I think it's worth mentioning tragic and sad and heart-wrenching but also there were unique moments of grace and every person who survived even though somebody didn't survive which nobody knows why but each one who did survive was a separate miracle how they survived during the war as the Germans came in to Galicia Galicia was decimated as the rest of Poland and Yakov Hirsch was deported to one of the ghettos and it was a freezing cold winter in Eastern Europe during the war years and he was with other Jews in one of the ghettos there by the Carpathian Mountains and one of the days the SS were in a particular mood of sadism and barbarity they were usually in a sadistic mood but some days were more than others so they decided to torture some of the Jews in the ghetto and they took a group of Jews and they took them up to a tall mountain they were all Finlay closed they barely had clothes and food and the mountain was full of snow and ice and very dangerous and they commanded them to slide down the mountain whoever didn't want they pushed them most of them couldn't survive it they didn't survive the ordeal and they fell to their deaths Yakov Hirsch was one of these Jews because of years and years of skiing he knew how to maneuver himself somewhat to safety and he was from the few who survived the ordeal and he would repeat the story and say that when he was instructed to go skiing his rebel who didn't survive shot in the forest told him Yakov Hesh svet it's in it's coming it's going to be a benefit for you now if you think about this here you have a classic situation of pedagogic Oh sensitivity to a child the Baba V Roth could have told the father you have to tell your son this is not what a Jewish boy does he doesn't ski this is for the Gentiles he could have done that he probably knew the father would have lost his boy so what did he do not only that he allowed his boy to ski he took the best boy of the achiever and turned him into a skier to be able to connect to this child on his terms take him skiing teach him how to ski and when he saw who is the master of skiing he looked up to him not only in skiing he looked up to him and everything else and his life was transformed the greatest gift in education is when somebody never ever becomes death - the true yearnings of a child and never decides that in the name of some abstract ideal which may be beautiful they're going to cut all of this trial I came here this morning for chakras while he tells me he's a teacher and he says the classroom is crazy sometimes so he went through a block of mayor shefte is a big breast of a leader and he says I'm a Malamud and I don't know what to do the kinder Malcom and mushiya I don't know how to deal with it so beocca mayor Sheffield without skipping our hearts be told him Malamud the word milometer teaches Russia Tavis Muhammad mandalas Michigan Martians olan's a deer right they should make you crazy what was he telling him he was telling him that in life parent a teacher whatever it is we go in with a certain frigid approach if you fit great if not we lose the plot and when we lose the plot we get angry and we do foolish things that simply cuts down the person education in its truest sense is about a mysterious nefesh it's about tuning my soul into the true needs of the other person of course a teacher and a parent should make systems that they shouldn't make you meshuggah twenty-four hours a day seven days a week there's no Mitzvah to create a jungle that's not what we're talking of children need discipline children each structure children need cohesiveness children need patterns but they need structures laws and patterns to be able to bring out the best in them to be able to help them shine to be able to help them blossom not laws and structures just to shut them up and repress them so that I should be able to feel good because then what I'm doing essentially is I'm using laws and structures to abandon them not to develop them real laws and structures are created out of attachment not out of detachment I attach myself to the person and I'm sensitive to who the person really is and how I could reach into their heart right now and help them climb help them grow from step to step to where they are capable of becoming it's not about imposing a certain perspective either you're in or you're out because very often I lose the person I'll tell myself for the rest of my life I'm just my conscience is clear but deep down I know because of my inability to expand my horizons and to think what God really wants for me for this child I abandoned the soul the bubble were of the caduceus Ian I can assume wasn't very into skiing just my speculation my speculation but he understood at this moment I have a child this child's soul you're gonna find only on the slopes that's what you're gonna find this child so you will not find it anywhere else so you could say I want to find you soul in the base mattress his soul will not be there you could force him for a few weeks to come and the first episode he'll run if you go to the mountains with him you'll find his soul you'll connect us all you'll find this soul on the slopes in the middle of one of those slopes that's where isn't it something is that's where he is or that's where she is go there connect reach I'll be there with your soul the nav section urban outside and then you will guarantee that the slopes for this trial don't only go downwards they also go upwards have a wonderful week this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes 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