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Simcha #7 - Where is yr Pleasure? Focus on good - Disconnecting - Senses vs. Faculties
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we're in the mind if those hashem simha
page 119 and this firm that using my
buttermilk cutting of the previous
rabbit
gimbal volume 3
page 119 to break a recap briefly
at this point the rebbe is speaking
about the virtue of tainuk
pleasure and delight
over
anything else
and he says that titanic is so powerful
that it will
it will
overpower other
feelings intellectual and feelings and
understanding in other words if you have
a deep idea or you have an idea and
you're
you're going to be governed by the idea
yet if tynuk kicks in
in some other idea
where you actually get pleasure from the
other idea you will go with that idea
versus this idea
even though maybe you understand better
the first idea
but the power of tainook
as it says elsewhere and considers
about ruxin about will it shatters
it smashes it overtakes
tynuk
is does the same thing but without
sveta without breaking
it becomes so
delicious to you and so pleasurable to
you
that you put everything else to the side
even though intellectual doesn't make no
sense
then did it but once he established that
rule that tainuk
is deeper within the soul within the
person
than any other
part of the person
he then speaks about the differences
between various pleasures
and he compares the pleasure of seeing
riya
to the pleasure of of of of of
understanding
something called
uh
rhias
the mind's eye
and the mind's eye as much as it's
powerful
but when you when you experience
something you actually see with your
eyes
it's the most powerful
and uh without elaborating on this now
that ebb and the last minute that he
distributed before he had a stroke which
is
considered the last will and testament
and every yard side that mimer is
learned by hasidim called the it begins
with the words we are
because it was on parshas
it was a around that time and purim
cotton it's based on a mine with the
previous rabb of purim cotton and in
that mimery speaks about
how deeply the soul in the shop the
nephesh
is rooted
and how deep man is rooted in the
nephesh
and he he brings this idea the
difference between seeing something and
perceiving something
so although we say
that
understanding something leads a person
to the highest of heights nevertheless
seeing something is even higher
and the proof is i remind you with
aristotle
one of the proofs
where aristotle was
the epitome of intelligence
of human intelligence
and when they found him in an
uncompromising uh situation where he did
something very embarrassing and
disgusting
they asked him how could you have done
this this defies the dictates of cycle
of logic of intellect
and what did aristotle answer
at that time when i did this
shameful act i wasn't aristotle i was an
animal
so generally speaking i'm aristotle
but when i goof up or when i act like a
bahama i'm not aristotle
now the truth is
we're all that way
we don't have to creep to aristotle the
reason why we're
bringing aristotle's because he was the
epitome of human intelligence that's
that's what they say
so how could it be
you know any that human intelligence
should allow a person like aristotle
to act with such
indecency and disgust
and the answer is because what he saw
with his eyes
were more tasty for him well more
pleasurable for him
so the kayak
you hear this
the sense of of of pleasure
that aristotle got
from what he saw and therefore acted
upon was greater than all of his
understanding and that's the shot in the
story
i don't think i've ever explained it
this way but now as we're learning it
entered my cup i hope i'm right
i've said the story many times and
shared it with you as well and this shot
never entered my mind based on what
we're learning here in the mimer
no don't you think it's a it's a solid
explanation yeah
yeah so what we so this is again an
example when you look at this you have
to you have to materialize it
so how we materialize in this moisture
that the koyakatainok of aristotle was
seiko
professor
so-and-so at evanston
or at northwestern or wherever colombia
wherever you go university of berlin
you learn from this professor and that
professor and this
with all the titles and all the
acronyms and then you find out that
einstein was a womanizer
they say mr einstein
you
and the answer is
that is kayak
where his real pleasure and the light
was
more in women than in the theory of a
relativity relativity
relativity
that that's the answer
otherwise if
would be stronger it would outdo the
time of the pleasure that he had from
women
and this nakuda is a very important the
code of rome
in how we
look at life and how we look at
ourselves and how every day it's an
avodah
someone
you know we've discussed this too
this person is holy that person's holy
in khabad
general rule we don't think of
many people really really holy that
whole uh that whole idea is is is in the
chabad paradigm in the bad mindset in
true chabad
it's a non-sequitur why
because you don't know a person who who
the person really is till push comes to
shove
till they're tested
and that's why the great hasidim like
i've said this before and i repeat it
who told me many times
when they said this concert and that
cross and he's talking about now
he says
he asked me a question you know this one
is great that one's great he said did
they allow themselves to be shifted did
i say looked at him what
he says were they ready to allow to
spread yiddish guy during the time of
the communists stalin even if it meant
they're shooting in the next day and
they're sending away to siberia never be
sent again and if they weren't ready to
do that
they're nothing
and they're nothing why why
because according to over learning in
the miami here
the
nuke
and this is a very very radical
statement
but we're learning this and we're
thinking people
and and and if you think about this it's
not i'm not saying this to put anyone
down
he was just saying this to to wake
himself up
and for me to wake myself up
and say
this whole idea
that he's this and he's the bad
it's such a bluff
because if you're not ready to give over
your kayak
to the abyss there
then it's all an intellectual endeavor
and we say it in david kevin i want you
to listen to this and pay attention
every day
every morning
to hashem
the emis
blessings of sweetness
we give ourselves over
right
so there was a fame a famous customer
who typed he interpreted this
this verse when he darvened in the
morning this is in the birkhauser before
the second bracha after kaddish kaddish
the next paragraph it says this
is a shabbos only or during the week of
the week also remember look at this
anyway
so it says there luke
whatever is your most
the emote
whatever in yiddish whatever is most
schmack to you
whatever is your pleasure whatever you
consider your greatest pleasure eating
them give it over look hail to god
it's a beautiful interpretation
the kale so in other words
the little shot is
you begin with god
you go and you go
right you go further
the the touch of this is
the the blessed sweetness whatever you
consider blessed and sweet in your life
give that over to the first word locale
to hashem
no i'm asking you
if we think about these four words uh
do you think we're gonna we're going to
come to an easy
conclusion about ourselves about others
that
they're they're plugged in and the
answer is
not
show them to
to belittle anyone the answer is to i've
run to
to look and understand that there's so
much more to do
and that a person who is an avid
chapter eight of tanya quoting uh rebbe
right that
he never was nana he never had her no he
never had benefit he never had pleasure
hannah pleasure me oil
not that he didn't walk in the streets
of paris
and not that he didn't go to a beautiful
museum at the gang coyote in jerusalem
and not that he didn't go for a nature
walk in in the face new mexico reserve
he did all of that the question is
where is his thai look
in other words he's walking on the walk
and talking the talk but what's really
in his heart is
hashem
god
i remember
i must have been 13 or 14 i was
fixed 1974 1974-75
it was the first time that mulhei ben
david
you're going to appreciate this
was the first
you know after employment carl bach
you
know like no one no one no one came to
his footsteps in in yiddish kosher music
but nevertheless murk had been dovid
took uh kind of
he went you know he had a different very
different style than uh
and
he identified with the young the young
from people
okay
was was very much
identifiable to the 60s and 70s
seekers and you know that whole
i mean the fact is that the whole forum
world
loves his music today he sings his music
etc in the biggest soccer show in monroe
right this is learning about cowboys
music that's not the point but i'm
saying at that time
in this
70s
it wasn't yet popular the first one who
popularized
hasidic music in a sense in this uh you
know
way
in in in in the style that you have from
freed and today singers
was
it was uh um
david
he had a car he had a concert at
brooklyn college
i believe it was kalamoyd
because it was definitely that's my
recollection i remember which one
my mother-in-law showed
you know she she really you know my
father worked very hard was working
always so calabad was a time when you
know she would kind of
press on him and force him to take us on
on trips
so once we went to philadelphia liberty
bell and once we went to washington the
smithsonian once you went to visit
relatives in montreal these were trips
that we did as a family during halal
similar to i'm sure what you you you you
all doing that
when you have it not chance but she
really you know she she she made it like
we're doing this
don't don't tell me work we are doing
this
so one of these times there was a um it
was the first
large concert that mordechai and david
was singing at and presenting at
brooklyn college
and this in our communities in flatbush
and boro park you know out here this was
this was the talk of the town
and
she made my father buy tickets
and she's taking we have four siblings
she's taking her kids we're all going to
the concert it's kosher
it's
edition music from music
you know and i don't remember i i i
don't think there was separate seating i
don't think i don't remember
and we went to the concert on the way
out and i'm saying i'm saying this not
not with
with guys i'm just telling you
what happened because it just this
etched in my memory from 1975
that's nearly 50 years ago
45 years ago anyway
so i turned to my father and i was i was
a bucket that you know enjoyed learning
but i enjoyed listening to the new york
mets
sports you know
but i i was a good student so
i turned to my father and i said
it was a nice concert but i would have
rather have been home you know doing my
homework learning
i remember i
didn't have that pleasure that
you know everyone had and i have a lot
more to say about that concert but it's
not for now
because
it wasn't the same word but david that
we know today who is
acidic jew a real hasidic jew
uh if you saw him in those days and you
saw who who he was singing to in the
first two rows
you would close your eyes and you would
go elsewhere
it was a very trying time for for
orthodox youth
for city youth it was a very trying time
you know the 60s
really made an impact on everybody
including our communities and i have
memories of of of the catskills wood
burn was called wood burn and i remember
my my mother show me so
after shoppers she wanted to go out for
pizza sometimes you know and uh
sometimes in the back of the pizza store
they they might still have it they had a
pool they were shooting pool
uh but it was much more than pool it was
uh really a place where from a fruit boy
shouldn't be at so it was a very very a
very very challenging time
so marker
at that time was in a way caught in that
realm but he used his music to
to channel it somehow the point i'm
making getting back to what we're
learning what's the point i'm making
that the kayak
is where the person is at that's the
barometer if you want to know where a
person's at you don't look at what he
does
and you don't look at what he preaches
and you don't look about what he
understands and you don't even look
about what he feels you need to look at
his tainook
where is his pleasure and wherever his
pleasure is that's who he is
and that's and that's it
in a way it's a simple script that's the
way to see if someone is really ms
holy
good
and plugged in
if not they might be they might do great
things but they're not
you know there's a famous saying of the
baby let's say in russian and
he's off now um you know uh pontu pond
pontu pondi something in other words a
servant i am but not yours
there's a russian saying
i am a servant but not yours
oh that's the question
whose servant am i
says whose servant am i
when you're ready to let yourself be
yiddish guy you are god's servant
because you're only doing it because of
hashem you're not getting no
self-aggrandizement and you have not
getting nowhere honors you're not making
any money
it's all for the abuser let's continue
so this is what we're talking about now
119 the beginning of the new paragraph
yes sorry forgive me
i think we stopped actually at 117
at uh
towards the bottom of the page
the four lines from the top where it
says
domet
i think that that's wrong
i thought so too i was surprised that
you were uh we were okay
okay so i just i will go back
if if you tell me that i i have a
cafrusa private javascript i learned the
mime with and i know i went up to here
so i guess i didn't teach that to you
yet so let's go
thank you thank you very much appreciate
it 117.
four lines from the bottom
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in this previous paragraph he explained
to us that highest
vitality comes
from the essence of a person's nashamah
says that but there's no comparison
between the caius
and the
organs of a person
compared to the highest in a person's
behavior and he says
although this is a rhetorical remark
although the whole idea of highest
that the that the soul it animates the
body it's only an emanation of the soul
we've learned this many times i've run
how much of the soul is in the body
how the answer is
it's a high order it's an emanation of
the soul the x
the essence is not manifest daily
so the question is
and the proof is
sin that the
soul doesn't have to work extra
overtime
to enliven the body
as soon as the cell goes their body the
body gets animated right
what does that show
that shows that it's not the essence
because if when the essence is involved
in something it takes a lot of work
and the fact that we got up this morning
and we said my god neither the shaman
went in what work did it take it was
like automatic the body's alive
yes we say it's a miracle
that the soul can do that but the fact
is it's it's not an asic right asic
means not just business but involvement
in business hard work
commissioner and he brings another
example commission
doesn't have to work overtime to warm up
something that's placed next to it
i did teach you this i remember now but
anyway it's fine i told you that in
chicago it's in new york and in
baltimore it's cold in the winter
and the heaters and the steam is on the
radiators
and you're going to sit down there did
the radiator think and know before
you're going to sit there and did it
have to warm itself up any special way
to warm you up no automatically when the
radiator when you put on the the
thermostat and the radiator it rises and
it
becomes hot and you happen to sit down
you're going to be impacted says
i remember yaakov even said the words
i remember said the word
anyway it's fine
so what we see from this is
that when we talk of highest animation
of the soul to the body it's only a
order
a reflection an
um right a reflection
we see that the essence of this
reflection of dissemination
is draw is given is found
within the external
organs of the hand and the feet
or the throat by volume especially if
you talk about the organs of the ray of
the level the lungs and the heart
surely there
we see this life force
because they're so sensitive
the host came to me the shabalev even
more so needless to say
in emotions of the heart
shame
more than any other or any of the organs
including the mind and including the
heart and including the lungs
the light the energy of intellect the
intellect
that's the most
sensitive and spiritual more than all of
the above
the hose
why is that
because what you're right that ever
saying like this you're right the
essence of the soul is not in the body
but nevertheless in whatever
in that reflection that is in the body
it's full force it's there
the senses
whatever the senses are smelling
touching seeing
over there
it's more external
yes
yeah i just couldn't question
um this is so maybe the first time i i
can remember hearing the concept that in
the shaman essence of the shaman is not
in the goof
like this only
like the
emanation
so my question is where where if the
shaman's
again in classical kabbalah siddhas the
answer to that is
it's in the heavenly source that's your
source every person
has what we call shoresh
now you know of course it doesn't mean
uh climb up like uh this uh star trek
guy whatever his name is he decided to
go up to the moon for 10 minutes and all
of a sudden he saw martians
okay he got the thrill he's been doing
star trek make billions of dollars so he
got the thrill at 90 years old hashem
allowed him to live till 90 to go into
the space okay he had a tiger he was
making mistake
what i'm saying is moisture the the
source of our neshama is not
in in this devil or you know in this uh
star and this
it's a spiritual concept every one of us
has a spiritual connection to hashem
that spiritual connection we call the
source of the neshama
when we tap into the what
but is that connected to the natanya
when authority talks
yes that's exactly i was thinking the
same thing
and and
those chords
right it's like a rope
rebel
it's like a rope you know they have to
be thick and every avera makes a little
less and less still it's very thin
costume solemn and that's the idea of
chorus i don't want to go into it that's
what it says in tanya very good so
that's the shaders of the show
says like we're learning here and i'm
glad you asked and i pointed it out
that
it's only a high order a reflection an
emanation of the soul that animates the
body we mean an active mode
the active mode now
is is
however when a person does an act of
messiness nephesh this is basic yiddish
kite just the way hasidism you know
explains it when a person does an act of
mercedes and efforts of self-sacrifice
they they they reveal
their source
as it as they are in their body and they
have what we call an essential
see to understand this you have to first
and foremost you have to
go into the world of spirituality and
non-tangibility
you know here with with many of these
hasidim here who never learned hasidis
and they can have the kapotta and the
people and everything
and if y'all khan would teach citizen in
the good old days
some they say he once spoke about silas
and breath of the worlds and someone
that raises in he says
where can i find that
and you know and it was it caused people
to to laugh
inside like what do you mean where can
you find it not in kugel and not in
short
you can't
where can i find it which direction my
gps do i go towards the turnpike or do i
go on the one nine if i'm going to
newark airport where can i find it
where can i find it yeah the bqe gets
goes to williamsburg right where can i
find it
kevin's valencia
okay
the point is whatever your whatever your
source is for you at 770 for someone
else's williamsburg for a third person
that's here or there whatever
that's the nakuta it's a mindset
but but at the same time
you need to be plugged in to your
shinish
if you go to someone else's shy dish
it's not really going to help you
and that's what it's one second
that's what asadi does
sadik helps you
realize what your shainish is
but you have to do it yes maisha what
you want to say
so just just on that note
then
you know when a person says ask where
can i find it just looks like what you
were talking about that's why i guess
somebody let's say would go to if
someone would would take a trip to the
ukraine
and he would go
to different clarum of verbam
and let's say he would find himself in a
particular one i'll just let's just say
for sake of discussion the altar okay
okay
and he really really feels that he's
connecting
he really feels something and maybe
other places maybe other other
other
other remain maybe not would it was that
would that give
credence rise that you know the charge
of his nashamah
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it's an indicator it's an indicator but
but the mistake shouldn't be made i must
be standing in hotdage to have that
feeling because then
then again you're not being real
yeah and okay
is the platform that maybe
that brings it out because of the all
awesomeness
the the area the people across this you
know
the whole idea of connecting to one
second hill though
is inner from in or out not from outer
in but yes yes
that is an indicator i'm not going to
conclude that that
has to be but
that's an indicator yes yes hilo
i just want to say that it seems
something that seems to indicate this
this concept you see often in hasidic
stories
uh
or someone would go to a particular
rebbe would then send them to another
rebber
for their yeshua because that's where
the showrush of their neshama was
connected to them yes yes there are such
stories that's a very good point too
absolutely
you know and again at sadiq we believe
you know could kind of see and know what
your strategy
is
and that's the whole idea the whole this
is a uh uh this is a fundamental
teaching in in yiddish
in hasidis in particular
that i would say
i'm not sure if you know if the litvish
the muslim
would
would would accept in other words and i
have to clarify that
the founder of the the the the muslim
movement you know
it was that was a big topic was it was a
a tremendous yield right
would he would he
we don't find
again i'm not a bucky in all of his
writings but
i don't believe we find this type of
language in the in the bali muslim i
mean yaakov
you seem to have an understanding of a
knowledge of busser would you say what i
just said is is correct or or not
finding the shortcut
would maybe throw direct you
no that that idea that that whole messer
that whole approach do you find that in
the writings of muslim
um
off hand i can't i can't
identify okay so if you can't offense
say
even if it does exist it's not the
common language yes
i just wanted to mention that a couple
of weeks ago i saw on the shelf
i'm sure here
a fascinating new safer written in
english called nephesh at simsu
which is a written by somebody from
ramaphembish
looks like a very extensive
effort to kind of reconcile the safer
nephesh with the safer tanya really with
with extraordinary
haskamos uh
um including my cousin that's on the
rebel i've never seen give a huskamah to
a safer room you throw mayor
morgenstern and other other other really
impressive people thank you so just a
fascinating kind of moment yeah yeah
yeah for the people yeah yeah and it's
in english very that's that's very
interesting i i i i'm gonna look out for
it here so anyway um
but but going back to the text here
the the frida karebe is sharing with us
this is important very important as well
that
the animation of the
what we call the cochles
these powers of the soul
uh is much deeper
than the cushion than the senses
let's continue the next paragraph
even though from the perspective of
energy and vitality of animation the
senses are less
than the vitality in the limbs
if you compare it to the vitality of the
air powers
and what is that
the pleasure that we find in the senses
of
there's no comparison to that pleasure
whatsoever
not only in the
vitality of the limbs in other words
whatever pleasure you got in your lungs
and in your heart it pales in comparison
to the pleasure you have in your eyes
and in your hearing and your senses
even in the highest type of
encouragement
when someone sees a beautiful painting
etc or something very pretty honey miss
paul but it's an abstract masonic boy
he's very impacted very deep inside and
he has pleasure ah lazy
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where his mind and his heart are all
subservient and they melt away
for the pleasure that he derives from
seeing the painting or the situation
like i told you before with aristotle
that's in the negative that he had
pleasure from whatever he saw
so therefore his bright intellect went
out the window
that's in the negative so two in the
positive elevator is even more so
sick
he can't move away like i thought in the
story but mental footage was looking at
the painting in my house of the ten
hasidim in the wagons from kaslaja of
colombia and he was like glued he
couldn't leave
and i'm sure maisha relates to that
er
those are beautiful yiddish words which
means
if he cannot from them from it from the
painting from the seer from what he sees
and he cannot separate himself
honey supper is ready get over here
no response
where are you what's going on it's
getting cold
no response
you're not there the picture has
swallowed you well you're just let me
give me two minutes
and so please
is his appreciation of his eye
looking at this painting
to the point that even when he does
leave
the place that he's at looking at the
picture
the painting or the sweet thing
that he sees becomes engraved in his
mind
fantasies
this is the whole idea of fantasies i'm
sure he'll collaborate on it at another
time the whole idea of imagination and
fantasy is this concept
where you become so
one
with whatever you see and whatever etc
that you start fantasizing as though
it's real and it could be totally bubba
mice's
but that's the power of riya that's the
power of pleasure coming from the eel
the god by malcolm
says that ever he now left my studio
he's walking down the lave or wherever
he's walking
he comes home
he feels in his house at the supper
table i'm still in my studio
looking at the painting
because the painting grabbed me so much
that the painting now is
making me walk down the street sit at
the table
and and that's why sometimes the person
sitting and like hello
he's elsewhere
because he's he he became it's
engraved in his mind
now he says not only when he walked away
from what he saw
years later he reminds himself about
that experience
this
it's like he saw it yesterday
like i just told you before look here in
1975 i went to a concert
and it's still engraved i remember what
i said to my father walking out of the
concert
there's certain things that become that
if you have pleasure and delight in that
whatever it is
it becomes part of you and years later
it's as though it's happening now
the whole zone
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says
this all because the great pleasure
there is
in the sense of seeing
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is illuminated when you understand
something
because of the pleasure you have an
understanding point of view i will end
the cloud it's no comparison
to the pleasure that you have when you
see something that's the point is making
in this paragraph until now
that the pleasure of leah is much more
powerful and heaven if you think about
this it's 100 percent true
yes yes what do you want to say
yeah and down below
you have a good word yes disconnect very
good
yeah so it's like when you're connected
to to the telephone you know you connect
them to to the internet
and you don't want to be disconnected
because that's where your required
energy that your highest comes from
if you connect
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you know and everybody was sitting
around trying to make it go on
because we didn't want to be
disconnected from it i i i relate to
that i relate very much
i remember when the labor when the rebel
would walk out after he made the bracha
chris and he'd walk back to his office
you know we would sit around the 770 the
bucker and most of the balabatham you
know we just took out a bottle of wine
and we're saying look how you and then
we're just schmoozing and talking it's
like
like i told you one peso
my father drove us back one two in the
morning after the fabregan and we
stopped on 15th avenue borough park at
corn's bakery to get the first hot loaf
of bread right
you know and i remember him saying to us
we were young children he said to us i
just came out of god
and then got hating i didn't want well
why if i didn't want money i didn't want
children i didn't want i just wanted to
be in
because it's sold
it's it's it's great if i bring together
and learn together
but i think that this concept is a very
avraham you've been too quiet today of
ram
you have nothing to say
yes this is a very powerful concept that
your eyes
bring to a lot of pleasures where it's
very important to mom's important to be
careful you what you look at
that's that's that's the that
that's the the basis of what it says in
in the oldest forum you know that's
right that's right so but the question
the issue
you're right with the issue so what do
you do if if you saw something that's
not appropriate or it's etched in your
mind you need to really work on yourself
instead see this siddha says whether
since sherlock
rather than emphasize the negative
overwhelm yourself with so much kedusha
and torah that all of a sudden
those things are not important to you
you know and and and and don't and don't
go there
you know don't look to to fix what i saw
15 20 years ago that was not pro
appropriate and still comes back to
haunt me
so get more tsudaka for that learn
another a piece of gemara go to help
another eat across the street you know
and and as soon as you go into that mode
of negativity you got to cut you got to
stop
don't don't because if you engage in
that
it's only going to suck you in because
it's again why because the power of
pleasure is so powerful that that that's
created by the eyes it'll over it'll
overwhelm everything
that's that's exactly what we're
learning here so the advices the advice
is that hasidah says is to
overwhelm yourself the kedusha and that
ebba told this to many many people and
many students who asked him about
different sins that they did and they
want shuva and what could they do
and you know yes sometimes rabbit did
say you know fasting half days in the
winter at the altar episodes and giving
to dukkha and learning this it's all
true but the mahalak the overall
more good more good
and and and
i've seen i've seen that i've seen this
with balabata and people weren't
religious and became religious and and
people in the religious community from
community
when you in the word yiddish is
means cooking what it means if you're
immersed
when you're immersed in good things in
holy things and tighter things
you'll see that all of a sudden you say
wait a minute is this is this my is this
who i was 10 15 20 years ago i look
myself in the mirror
not only do i look different with my who
i my yamakin or whatever
it's not it's it's not who i was so yes
when i was a
a young boy in high in berlin and then
in brooklyn and this and that we had one
set of experience well
when we become somewhere else someone
else that experience
is put to the side now he did say here
he did say here
that a very deep experience that's you
had to have a pleasure in
will can come back
to your mind
so
you have you have to be on guard you
have to be on guard
right you have to be on guard
and and and um
as you say you have to be on guard but
not
not to avrom
hasidis the balchemt of that was the
accomplishment not to dwell in the
negative because if you will you will
lose the battle it's a guarantee it's
not a question because it's stronger
than us okay so rather than
and i you know there's so much talk
about but they talk about you know
i don't really talk about it online but
uh you know uh
psychologists talk about this issue you
know if someone does think and it does
something in a marriage inappropriate
you know do you forgive them
you know and it's a very sensitive issue
and trust me it's in all communities
i mean i've met people here with you
know hasidim who who specialize in this
counseling and dealing with couples you
know this is i'm sure hillary
is aware of this everyone's aware but
you know
what's what would be
if you had a title of a talk
what is the view of hasidis
on on someone who had an affair
what would jesus say about that what
would the bell shanker say about that
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i mean
and i think that
you know this idea also
would be part of a
of an answer i'm not saying the entire
answer
you know
do you forgive
do you do you do you see that as a part
of a wholesome
uh
continuation of a marriage and a family
you know
and why
this whole idea is if you're if you're
really working to transfer your taino
your pleasure from one issue to another
issue that's healthy
that's healthy fact that we goofed up
okay we're humans
that's the way it is you know ask hashem
why you created us with a yates and
horror why create is
they say that means you know the first
sin and all that nourished
we don't believe that
but the fact is we do have a tendency
for nonsense
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so that's the issue
that's the issue that although i have
that tendency i break it by by immersing
myself in good things i will continue
with shrimp tomorrow as i don't have a
good day everyone