Sigmund Freud Psychology, Sports on Shabbat, FREE WILL, Unique Desires - STUMP THE RABBI (15)

[Music] we have our Wednesday night uh stump the rabbi we're up to number 15 uh the uh key as usual is ask some questions some you know questions with nafina questions with relevance to uh to our lives our day-to-day lives I know people ask me questions to no end when they send it on WhatsApp and emails and all types of things like that and uh you really wouldn't imagine what kind of you guys have to be here because there's plenty of people from all over the world that send questions non-stop uh on the internet but uh since there are so many they have to wait you know so sometimes a person can wait you know 10 20 minutes in order to get an answer sometimes they have to wait several months like for example you know when it comes to uh questions I always tell people the best thing that you can do if you want to ask questions or you have a personal matter with uh and you want me to uh guide you in some way or another the best thing in the world that you can possibly do is come to the sh uh and the reason why is because the sh I already designate a time a block of time that I know that once I leave the house I'm only coming back once I finished once everybody is pretty much out of questions but questions that matter not the questions that you going to repeat the same question every week questions that matters if somebody has a personal issue somebody has uh some specific topic whatever it is I know that if you came to this you I'm here for you to uh try to guide you the best that I possibly can the second best is if you send it on WhatsApp you could join our WhatsApp groups uh by sending a text to 9 17468 2324 or to uh uh mikal um and uh you could join our groups you'll get a daily uh update also uh the short clips that we have of uh you know the daily updates of our events but also if you want to send questions you could send questions to that number aside from being part of the group you send questions to my number and um whatever issue you have personal issue family issue uh business issue and we'll try be to uh guide you by the way of the Torah that's the second best but again that also sometimes takes time depending you know the way we look at it is based on priority as well as how much time it's going to take to answer the question if it's high priority meaning there's something that has to be done right this second like for example somebody sends me a question about you know she's about to give birth a woman is about to give a student just about to give birth soon as I know something like that okay everything else stops I have to answer the question why cuz something that's right the second that you have to know now you know for example I just gave you know I want to I'm about to give birth what do we do once we give birth between me and my husband first and foremost you need to know you're not allowed to touch your husband why as soon as you give as soon as the water breaks you're officially to uh um nid you're officially nid you're no longer allowed to touch your husband so even handing him the baby you're not allowed to hand him the baby you have to put the baby down uh and uh he picks him up and vice versa and as far as picking the name for example people have a lot of trouble picking the name um generally speaking the uh name is picked for a boy on the bit mil but since it's policy in the United States that they do not let you leave the hospital until you pick a name uh that means you have to pick a name before the bit if it's a boy so you have a couple of days to pick the the name you also need to know a few things about picking names don't just pick any name you know don't make it a name of an animal don't make it a name of something like some uh you know foolish couple in Israel picked the name like several years ago maybe 10 years ago they picked the name like like the button like on Facebook uh or some people pick names of wicked people like it's a very popular name to have the name Nim Nimrod is a very popular uh name unfortunately Nimrod was one of the most wicked people that ever lived it's like calling your son your Jewish son Hitler it's no different so you need to know you should pick names from the Torah but names of the good people if you want to name it after somebody it shouldn't be somebody that is alive it should be somebody that died already but only if that person that died is righteous don't name your kid after somebody di that died or even that's alive that's wicked like don't name your kid or benon these are wicked people you may like the name all you want but it's not a good name to have why cuz these are wicked people these are people that went against the T they were openly so you have to put some thought into it but in general as far as the order who picks the name the wife or the husband the Torah tells us that typically the minhag all the way from the time of Yuda the woman picks the name first for the first child and then the husband picks second unless the woman doesn't care unless the wife doesn't care she's the one that carried the baby for 9 months not you you should let her pick the name first but if she doesn't care and she allows the husband to pick the name no problem so these are just some of the quick off the top of your head type of things that you know somebody that's about to give birth needs to know so that takes priority why because it's about to happen it's today it's tomorrow it's and so on there are also other things that are uh pressing issues somebody has a uh you know special tun of some type or somebody has a uh a major difficulty that's they're dealing right now it's a business issue they're about to go or they just finished a meeting these things take precedent second one the way is uh usually we try is uh you know if it takes a uh if it's a short answer yes or no type of answer if it's a yes or no type of answer those usually get answered first why because I could answer 100 of those by the time I answer one long answer and WhatsApp is usually the quickest after after the WhatsApp then the emails unfortunately the emails have gone so backed up because we already have hundreds hundreds of what WhatApp messages and questions per day that by the time you get to the email it looks like a St a Spam box so I have right now at this point I still have emails all the way from June of last year that I haven't answered I'm sorry I haven't answered them it's nothing uh it's nothing personal to anybody it's just really impossible to keep up so I tried to answer I answer some people that even uh send me a message the same day sometimes because they're usually short answers but if you're gonna send a Milla you're gonna send me like a CH on email most likely not only is it not going to be answered most likely I'm not going to look at it why it's nothing it's not not a personal it's just simply there's just so many messages but again all of these people that send the questions and we do our best to help them whether it's for conversion or it's for uh chuva or it's for family issues or whatever it is issues Torah questions all of these people pray that one day they can be in the chair that you are in why because that means that they can ask questions live they ask as many questions as they want There's No Boundaries there's no limitations as long as you're you know you're speaking uh the right way and uh so this is something you should take advantage of now many people today are very impressed by the secular knowledge uh whether it be uh the knowledge of technology or the knowledge of psychology or the knowledge of different types of uh monetary systems and so on but little do we know that anything that's of any value meaning anything that's any good has a place in the Torah so much so that uh one of the main things that I remember studying as a kid when I was uh maybe uh 15 16 I was already taking some college classes and one of the classes that we took was uh advanced placement of uh psychology psychology classes and we learn about this Jew named Sigman Freud famous Jew unfortunately wasn't exactly the righteous Jew but nonetheless was a famous Jew that came up with some uh interesting theories about psychology about the state of the mind of How It's really split into three you have the conscious the subconscious and the unconscious and so on and in 1899 exactly 120 years ago he came out with his book which rocked the world and until this day his work is studied in essence what he tells you is that there are certain things in your mind that is in the front of your mind I ask you what's uh you know if I say the color blue immediately you're going to see oh there's blue you could visualize blue I ask you something what's one plus one you're going to say two you don't have to really think about it's a reflex already there's certain things that are in the uh back of the memory you have to think about them I ask you what did you do you know 6 months ago you going have to think about it then if you have a relatively normal memory you going to remember oh 6 months ago I actually lived in this and this block and you can remember certain things that happened where did you live 10 years ago you're going to think about it for a minute or two or maybe a second or two depending on how fast your mind is and you say oh 10 years ago I lived in such and such place who was your teacher when you were at this age oh you're going to think about maybe you're going to remember it depending on your memory but generally speaking that's the way it works you also have the the subconscious it's the stuff that you've seen in your life but you don't really necessarily think about very often but when push comes to shove these things happen and these things come to the front of your mind immediately without even realizing what just happened and many times uh the things that we thought are forgotten uh really are stiring the front of our mind now there obviously more details nobody uh start sending me emails no there's more detail segment for said this and this I'm not planning on giving you the entire book you could read the book if you want but you could also read the Torah you could also read the Torah and you'll see that Shalom already wrote that everything that Sigman Freud said was already written by RAB isant 50 years before Sigman for was even born where did RAB is salant the uh person that started the M movement almost 200 years ago where did he get it from he got it from 2,000 years ago where it's in our Torah it's in our written Torah it's in our oral Torah if you simply understand the MIT certain tell you how to do and what to do and I'll give you a couple of examples to see the wisdom of the Tor the T says that you should not if somebody did something bad to you don't take revenge on him but also don't hate him now this is relatively understandable okay tells us that hem is the uh responsible for all Revenge you're not allowed to take revenge even if somebody did something really bad to you he cut you off he stole money from you he I don't know what he did to you now take revenge even if somebody did something terrible you're not take revenge why hasem is the one that's responsible for Revenge so says don't take revenge okay that we can understand that way if you believe in you can understand listen this happened to me because allowed it fine I'm not allowed to take revenge from this against this guy no problem she uh did this this and not to me I'm not going to take revenge against her that's just like eating kosher and and Shabbat and so on but what's hard to understand is how come it says don't hate him too okay the fact that I'm not allowed to kill him even though he killed somebody that I love I understand that the fact that I'm not allowed to beat him up after he beat me up okay I can understand why that's aem's responsibility but I mean I should remember it though I should remember every time I think oh I hate that guy why that guy did the whole list of things that he did to you so how could it be so tell us the whole mitvah is trying to teach you that if you have real you have to truly believe that not only is HEM responsible for delivering the Revenge that perhaps that you want to take but also Hashem is the one that took Liberty and actually is the one that allowed this to happen in the first place which means that there's no reason for you to hate this person hasem only allowed him to curse you or hit you or do whatever he is that he that he did to you for different reasons it's not him he's just a messenger of Hashem he's just a stick that Hashem chose to hit you with which means that our mitvah here is to teach us that even our minds are supposed to be controlled even our minds are supposed to be controlled to what extent to the extent that even what you think even what you think has to be something that you work on so much so that the page 29 says is that somebody that looks at bad things looks at bad things it's worse the results of him seeing bad things is worse than the actual action itself why the action itself is a one-time thing let's say for example somebody just had a you know desire he wanted to ate a you know bacon egg and cheese sandwich or something he ate the sandwich but finished he's not not going to think about that sandwich 20 minutes from now he finished the sandwich as soon as he finished the sandwich he already forgot about the sandwich he's done with the sandwich he's not going to think about that sandwich five six hours from now saying wow that was such a delicious sandwich he's finished the appetite is fulfilled he's done it's over but if he looks at the emodest woman even if he doesn't touch her even if he doesn't see her in real life he just sees a picture he sees it on the screen that teaches us almost 2,000 years ago that's much worse than the sin itself why because that image is going to be imprinted in your subconscious for eternity forever it's never leaving the N records something it's done your best case scenario is now to start doing chuva and repress that memory put it so back in the back of your mind that it's not that you forgot it it's that you have so many other things that have replaced it what other things good things so everybody has seen something that's imod everybody has seen something that's inappropriate at some point in their life men women irrelevant everyone has seen something how could how can we get rid of those thoughts you can't you can't get rid of those thoughts so what do you do you have to learn Torah and you have to fulfill the Torah that you're learning and get to the point where your mind becomes occupied with chasing new chasing new opportunities to serve a and your mind is constantly occupied as the rambam writes that people that sin with sins of morality sex crimes and things of that nature are only people that have an empty mind why what empty mind of what what they they they build buildings they uh just got married they have kids wow what do you mean empty mind empty mind meaning empty mind of Tor if your mind was occupied with fulfilling the Tor learning the T fulfilling it there's no way you'd be making sins impossible impossible for you to make sense now our toat tells us that we have to cling to we have to act a certain way we have to make sure that we treat our bodies and ourselves in a certain way but most importantly we have to protect what these eyes see because these are the windows to our soul because once these eyes see it it's recorded in our mind and they could imprint in our subconscious or what the uh Sigman Freud called the subconscious and that's something that's not going to go away so what is the what does a B's mind look like do you ever wonder what is like for example what does a RAV kan's mind look like what does he think about you can say what he probably thinks about MIT thank you but what's what's his mine really look like we'll give you an example my ra told me is a famous story about RAV kaneski from recent years several years ago raav kaneski who's the current one of the today his father was a one time somebody walked into the BET mid of the St looked like beard had suit everything immediately sto never saw him he was in his room and the guy just walked into the B mid big building much bigger than this immediately St the go says get out of here people got scared what who what everybody's looking at each other who he saw somebody just came in he goes get out out out he goes what do you mean why I want to say a question with the rabbi he goes no you're he goes how do you know he goes the rabbi knows how does he knowes is having an idea that hem literally implants into your head about what's happening right now what happened in the past and what's happening in the future such an extent it's almost like prophecy now his son is the current several years agoi had a stroke his grandkids took him to the hospital and doctor said listen yeah you you had a stroke you know and uh with certain treatment so can you do me a favor can you write something for me you know to see how it affected you I know that my father God bless him he had a stroke almost two months ago and immediately when we got to the hospital they started asking some questions and they asked him to write something asked him to write something to see how it affected his mind did he forget what is he going to write so what did kki write who wants to volunteer an answer well let's take some guesses what did R kki write no give me an answer guess there's no R there's no wrong answer no no no give me an answer where rki WR a mishak no next aamar no next what do you guys guess the G the biggest Rabbi in the world he's called s meaning he is like the king of Tor in our generation one of the Giants of the generation what he write after a stroke a Torah scroll a Torah scroll no in the back ladies what are you what is the biggest Rabbi in the world going to write you know what he wrote no you want another guess Shabbat you know I thought that too I thought he's goingon to write something you know what he wrote 1 2 3 4 5 5 6 7 8 9 10 that's he wrote so the doctor said okay good but then he tells the the grandson it's a it's a little unusual the grandson says why he goes well usually people write their name usually people write their name you know I ask them to write something without telling them what to write the typical person writes their name I mean it's okay he wrote numbers and it's in order is not a problem it's just a little unusual so the grandson was interested why because he knows that his that his grandfather is a SE it's a living SE so everything has a reason so he says Grandpa how come you wrote numbers how come you didn't write your name so after a stroke rki says what do you mean don't you remember the says never write your name on a blank piece of paper let somebody take and write write something on top of your name and that becomes a contract you have to hold by meaning that after a stroke his subconscious mind thought has so much to Li in it he knows not to write his name on a blank piece of paper why maybe somebody's going to write oh you wrote the name okay so uh I sell everything to Joe for for for nothing signed ra kki he already knows his subconscious mind is full of so much Torah he knows not to write his name that's the mind of a to have such a mind so the key is to encourage us all to make sure that we ask the questions that matter to us ask the questions that encourage us to get closer and closer to and the final thing I'm going to tell you before we start with the questions is that some people ask how come every single talks about every every single sh talks a little bit or a lot of bit sometimes a lot of bit sometimes a little bit about being afraid of God maybe I should talk about reward let's talk about ganed talk about ganed you know the the nice things okay so let's talk about reward I'm going tell you something about reward the prophet Malachi says the following what's going to happen when mashiah comes what's going to happen mhia comes so the prophet Malachi in chapter 3 verse 16 says the following then those who fear Hashem spoke to one another and Hashem listened and heard and a book of remembrance was was written before him for those who fear hasem and those who give thought to his name they will be the precious treasure for me says Hashem master of Allegiance on the day which I bring about and I will have mercy on them as man has Mercy on his son who serves him that's reward that's as much as you get you fear hasem Hashem says you're going to be the precious you're the jewel you're the best of the best when when push comes to sh mashia comes is going to be a war 2third of the world are going to die it's called go Magog it's going to be bombs there going to be a lot of chaos everywhere the so-called American friends are not necessarily going to be friends anymore the European friends are not going to be European friends anymore the Arab enemies are going to stay enemies as they are everybody's going to go against even is will go against why because there's two parts of there's and then there's the wicked they're going to fight against mashiah and who says how you want to be saved you want to be the precious one that I'll have mercy on when it comes to judgment you want to be the precious one that I protect in this monstrous World War II fear me fear me during your life so when time comes on that big day you will be my precious what does somebody do with their precious jewels what does somebody do with their precious possessions protect them you want protection you look Le about and you apply to your life that's the best and ultimate reward that a person can get in life now with all with with that being said please who wants to start with the questions yes if you could pass the mic to him he has the mic why do we light a fire during abdalah why do we light a fire during abdalah so abdala is a very interesting a uh step if you look at the mid he says we do several things that are interesting when it comes to the fire not only we Del light the fire but we also look at take our fingernails take our fingernails and put them against the fire to see how the light reflects on the fingernails so the fire is to separate the Holiness from the mundan one thing that we're not allowed to do on a holy day on Shabbat on K is to light fire we're not all to light fire we're not let to create so this is something that we're not allowed to do Soh says so in order to have a sign that we're going back into the Mand light a fire so bigger question would be okay the fire I get whyem says light a fire you're separating the holy back to the Mand no problem but what's what's with the fingernails what is the fing fingernails have what same fingernails on Shabbat the same figer Nails on a weekday so the M says says don't just light the fire to symbolize that you're going back into the mandine into the regular world but also remind yourself of what happens when you leave the Holy thear says that in shabat that as soon as Shabbat comes in if a person prepared themselves the right way meaning a person keep Shabbat a person is someone that honors Shabbat he gets another n he gets a second enters into that person some of the some of theik that knew how to honor Shabbat literally literally felt something like for example there's a story from about 40 years ago of one of the was in the hospital literally on his deathbed had wires coming in and out of him everywhere but he was known that every time Shabbat came in he would dance and go and jump but now he's old and he's in his deathbed so everyone you know is sad and sitting next to him the minute that Shabbat came in all of us tell me that saw it all of a sudden they literally saw him get up like a 20-year-old take out all the wires out of his body and start dancing in the hospital as soon as Shabbat was over went back to the death bed and he died the extra he felt it he felt it to feel it too so that enters that second enters that n should give you a special feeling of Holiness a special feeling of K closeness to hasem especially if you're learning Tor and Shabbat which gets a reward that's a thousand times more significant than learning to during the rest of the week now at the end of Shabbat when you do have that leaves and part of the reason of why we smell the incense is because the N that's left feel sad so the incense makes it feel good it gives it like a good feeling okay it's gone but don't worry it's going to be okay it's going to come back next week it's like almost like a little going away party for the N that's left okay listen I'll be back next week but what about the fingernails so M says remember that when you leave the K there's a lot of danger why we learned from adish adish was such a beautiful being that his skin was shining like a diamond it was so beautiful and so big that the malim the Angels thought he was God in human form that's why hasem put him to sleep the Angels know oh he's not God whym doesn't go to sleep but they thought he was God for a second that's how beautiful he was huge and beautiful and Shining like the sun the only thing that Hashem left us that resembles part of his beauty is how our nails look like when they're really shining against the fire so is supposed to remind us listen you're supposed you're leaving the beauty you're leaving the Kusa right now that's what your nails are for but also remember what the nails also represent it's a beauty that unfortunately was minimized why because sined so now you're leaving the holy but don't stop being H don't don't go and stop being holy you have to be holy the rest of the week and start already preparing for Shabbat already on M Shabbat so that's why we have the fire but even more so why we act the way we do as far as looking in our nails against the fire next question you guys a mute today usually there's 87 questions okay so somebody asked online and uh I'll answer that question and hopefully that gives you guys some more ideas they say I've been keeping Shabbat and Kosher for the last few months so Hashem could give me something but after I've done all of this stuff like chuva I still didn't get it and bad things just keep happening so why after doing these mitv nothing good is happening this believe it or not is a fantastic question it's a question that I battled with myself when I first started doing chuva when I was when I first started doing chuva I was very very sick and my business was going into the toilet I lost almost 90% % of what I had but still there was still a few million dollars left I figured that hopefully from what I have left hasem will build me back I'll get back in and I'll uh get healthy and so on and so forth and I started praying and I started learning and I started reading T I would read almost the entire book of T every two days 150 T every couple of days with tears with crying with this and I was sure that not only good things will going to happen right away but I was sure God was going to talk to me you start you go cry three four five hours straight to on the 35th floor in New York you're GNA start thinking that H is gonna start talking to you I thought me same thing well guess what not only did hasem not talk to me but bad things continue to happen in fact they got worse I lost 80% % and then I lost the rest too 100% loss balance went to zero actually went to negative the health continued to deteriorate hospitals pain all types of wonderful things and it was hard to understand how and who and what and when until I started paying closer attention to the things that I was was reading in the Torah and I realized that all of these mitv that hasem said to do he didn't tell me do them so now I'm going to do whatever you want he said do them because I'm God that's it meaning he's not promising us that if you do this he's guaranteeing that everything that you ever desire and want and so on he's just going to write a check for it immediately anyone that tells you that if you start keeping Shabbat you're going to start making a lot of money if you start watching your B you're going to start making a lot of money if you're going to start doing such and such everything is going to work out if they say it in that type of tone they're a liar why Hashem doesn't owe you anything can it happen yes does it entice AEM for it to happen absolutely but always remember AEM does not dance to our tune if we violated his mitv for 15 20 25 35 45 years and all of a sudden we started keeping Shabbat and mitv and started learning for six months what do you think you're ruined everything for 30 years now for six months you're a Golden Boy and everything's going to be okay it's going to take a little longer than six months to fix 30 years of damage just like anything else in life if you go and you work for a company and you work and you work and you work and you develop and you go up the ladder and so on and so forth and one day you make a mistake and that mistake cost the company a million two million $3 million now if that company's smart they're not going to fire you why they just spent $3 million educating you what's the point of firing you now you know what it what what not to do now you know what not to do they firing you that's not going to get anybody any good now you know what not to do okay we just spent $3 million sending you to College of learning what not to do fine okay now that you know this you have an experience that nobody else in the company has okay so can I get a raise no that you can't get what can can I get a raise this year absolutely not can I get ready raised next year maybe most likely not why well you just lost $3 million buddy it's going to take a while for your work to get you to a point where you've made up for this de damage you caused so we've caused damage for a certain amount of time by not following the mitv by walking around immodestly and getting to sin as a result of it by stealing by cheating by Lying by doing all of these things that said no so okay so now you're starting to do the stuff he said to do good you're obligated to do it anyway and for you to get on the good list and get all the things that you want it's probably going to take a little time some people get more or less depending on who they are hasem knows exactly what to give you and when to give you but remember that sometimes is going to give you difficulties during your chuva in order to help you not to punish you he's helping you by giving you difficulties because he sees that you're doing serious chuva he sees that you're serious about Shabbat he SE that you're serious about modesty you threw out all the clothes that's not modest you threw them out you even made a video a video cutting all of it you put it on the internet to encourage other girls to wear modest clothes so you're not you're not like buying new clothes but you still have the mini skirt and the tank tops in the closet maybe one day you want to wear it you're serious you're throwing everything out you burn it that means that in order for you to go back to modesty it's going to take some effort you have to go back to the store and it's embarrassing to this and that so youve put a fence around the fence you left the girlriend but you didn't just leave her you changed phone numbers she doesn't even know where you are you moved away why because you know that if you're going to stay you know she has your phone number she's going to call you and it's only a matter of time before you fall so what' you do you not only left her because you want to watch your bre but you also changed phone number and you went somewhere else you're far away you're out of touch you're not staying friends we're not platonic friends there's no such thing as platonic friends in Judaism why you want to watch yourself so you took serious chuva serious measures to make your chuva serious so says wow I'm impressed by your chuva and I love you so much that I'm going to give you a little bit of extra difficulties right now why for two reasons one I want to see if you really love me I want to see if your chuva is real are you doing it because you expect that after you keep Shabbat for 3 4 5 6 7 8 nine 10 months I'm going to give you like a lot ticket so really you're not doing chuva because you care because you fear me because you love me you're really doing Chua because it's like work for you it's like you work for free for 10 months because you're expecting a lot ticket at the end so I want to see if you love me better yet better yet I want to see you deal with these difficulties deal with these difficulties and find a way to justify them in the Torah how could I justify these difficulties in the Tor well you realize wait a minute if I'm doing Chu that means that I'm realizing that what I've done in the past is wrong that driving on Shabbat was wrong that eating pig is wrong that stealing money is wrong that doing such and such is wrong okay so if it's wrong obviously it requires a punishment now hasem says I love you so much and I am enjoying your cha so much I'm not going to give you punishment in Gom at all I still have to give you punishment though so what am I'm going to do instead of a thousand years or a million years in Gom I'll give you money problems for six months who prefers Gom instead raise your hand nobody's going to raise their hand why why you realize what Gom is like you don't want Gom for a second soem likes our chuva sometimes so much he's actually going to give us difficulties he's going to give us difficulties why because he wants to give us that punishment here for a few months and even some cases for a few years why so that way you don't have any punishment at all you can go straight to gedin you go straight and sit next to and have eternity of good so with that we thank AEM for the problems and that's what the says that if a person knew how valuable their suffering is when they're doing chuva they'd actually pray for it they'd pray to get suffering now none of us are at the level to pray for suffering it already comes automatic but the point being is that don't get discouraged because hm is not dancing to your T remember he is the king he doesn't owe you anything you're obligated to keep his MIT with or without anything with or without reward and said that if somebody understood what it means to get punished by they' simply do all of the Just Not to get punished forget about reward they wouldn't even want reward the only reward they would want is not to get punished when somebody actually understands what punishment is so the person that asked this had the same question I had years ago how come all the things didn't work out right away because had a different plan for me he wanted to see if the Chua is real he wanted to see if I'm going to withstand a test and most importantly he wanted me to pay for some of my own crimes in this life in this life rather than going to gain home now in the beginning it was very very hard for me because when you're in the fire you can't help it you feel burn when you're dealing with problems you can't help it it's hard but I promise you once you understand the will of hem and you realize that he's really doing it for you you're also going to realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel eventually times do get better eventually you start enjoying the meet V in the T much more but you have to toil you have to fight for it you have to work hard for it and you eventually get to a point where your State of Mind becomes like heaven you simply are at a point where you're happy you're content with whatever you have despite whatever problems exist you understand why you're even in this world you have the answers for things and even the things you don't have answers for you know that the answers exist you just haven't learned it yet the point is is that does give you pleasure in this world too it's just that you have to work hard for it you can't just sit there and like watching a movie and expect AEM to spoon feed you you're not going to get the ganeden by being spoonfed it's going to take a little work and that's what we need to do and we need to understand anybody with questions oh now we have two pass the mic Please can I play ball on Shabbat can you what play basketball did you come to the show yesterday uh yeah I answered it yesterday I said guy somebody asked me how come basketball is not allowed on Shabbat so I'll answer it briefly I think this is probably the third or fourth time I've answered this question by the way you guys should pay attention um children are allowed to play with balls on Shabbat because they're children and they're not commanded on the mitv adults on the other hand are not allow to play with the ball by themselves on Shabbat unless they're playing with children meaning a father's playing with their child and it's part of their on Shabbat their enjoyment of Shabbat but if the father just wants to play basketball by himself or the adult which according to Judaism it's a male that's 13 years old and a female at 12 years old is considered an adult according to the Torah so that person plays with a ball on Shabbat it's a problem and there's a couple of reasons for it number one since he's not a child that ball is considered M it's the same thing as touching a pen on Shabbat it's forbidden why because this is something that doesn't belong on shabat Shabbat is a time of Holiness so to play basketball on Shabbat is no different than talking business on Shabbat it's bringing the mundane of the six days of the week to a holy day and instead of enjoying the holy day that created Just For You by talking to him by praying to him by learning his what are we doing we're just making it an off day we're making it a day off of work a day off of school soem obviously doesn't take that lightly and the prophet Isaiah says to the people of his time that used to Simply talk business and mundane things just they're talking about some property that maybe they want to buy or some property that really looks good and the prophet Isaiah calls them Shabbat calls them Shabbat he calls them that as if they drove on Shabbat why how dare you bring the mundane to the holy so I know that there's going to be plenty of rabbis that play basketball too unfortunately but a lot of people have titles of rabbis doesn't necessarily mean that they're rabbis a lot of people have titles of Jews doesn't necessarily mean that the Torah calls them Jews I'm just telling you what the AL is you can keep it you could for you know not keep it that's up to you if you want to go to ganeden I promise you there's no basketball court in headen there's no basketball court in heaven and I promise you there's probably not a single basketball star that ever went to gedan why because if you're a basketball star that means that your life is the ball your life is the ball wants him to be your life the Tora to be your life you have seven you have six other days to play basketball you have six other days to play soccer you have six other days to play whatever sport or thing that you want to do why are you using Shabbat for that do you even know what Shabbat is do you know that the was so careful with that when the when his wife when his mother when his own mother just wanted to talk about just you know how things are how are you doing he rebuked his own mother he said IM Shabbat meaning we can't talk about nothing everything that comes out of our mouth the words that come out of our mouth have to be about t to such an extent that the debated among each other are you even allowed to say Shalom on Shabbat why maybe it's not really the holiest thing to say but then they said no no you're allowed why are you allowed to see shabbat shalom now we're going to answer we're allowed to see shabbat shalom to be nice to people no has nothing to do with it has nothing to do with being nice to people you could go like this and be nice to people ND hey save a word why because Shabbat is one name for God and Shalom is also a name for God so in you're say saying different two different names of hm so it's that's the reason the point is was so careful with Shabbat that they would be scared to touch something that could possibly be M to what extent one time the just a couple of hundred years ago we're talking about our great great parents we're not talking about something from 5,000 years ago we're not talking about mosu the One Time by accident by accident touched the peel the shell of an egg there was an egg somebody peeled an egg and left the peel on the table now usually you could take it once you peel it you can take it throw it out finished but somebody just left it on the table so the G touched it by accident not on purpose as soon as you realized what he's touching he passed out pass on the floor lost Consciousness start go please please get up please get up H got up you saw the peel again passed out again passed out M lost Consciousness got up they threw some water in his face get up again saw the peel passed that again now it became why you start passing out too many times you could die so his wife knew what's going on here no one understood why did he pass out no one knew that he touched the peel only his wife realized what happened before he passed out and she saw the peel on the table so as soon as he got up again she took the peel and put it in her mouth and ate it why she says now that he sees that technically you could eat it it's not M it's not M so he's not going to pass out now technically the peel you could have quite a few that say it's not even quite a few tell you it's not even a problem at all meaning on the possibility on the doubtful possibility that maybe I touched M he simply couldn't live with himself now let me ask you a question if he knew so much T and he literally couldn't live with himself touching something that could possibly be M possibly anyone here think it's a wise idea to touch something that's for sure M even if it's called a basketball and people get millions of dollars for touching it all day he knew a lot more to than we could ever know and he almost died for the possibility of almost touching M and we're touching it and we're throwing it and we're playing with it as if what's the big deal why Rabbi I'm having a good time it's my on Shabbat if that's your on Shabbat then you don't know what Shabbat is about so the answer is no you cannot play basketball on Shabbat but you can find a bunch of fake rabbis that will tell you you are allowed it just depends which Heaven do you want to go into the heaven that's full of fire that's full of those rabbis that tell you to play basketball they're going to play basketball in the fire with you or do you want to go to heaven that the righteous rabbis go to there's no basketball over there there's only kadha over there there's no fire depends you know you call you know Rabbi Rabbi heaven heaven but you know little different description of what happens in there next question yes NE hi RAB how you doing I haven't seen you in a while I missed you already I was going to cancel this year if you're not going to come two days oh two what is it called all right um so if does God know the uh future that's the first question does God know the future like my next movement my next my next idea if so if he knows the future why why would't he tamper I know like he doesn't tamper with us our Free Will can why doesn't he tamper if it's it's for the better good why would heer so the knows the past the present and the future where to him it's all the same there is no past there is no present there is no future for him it's all the same status it's the same thing as if we could explain for example we have psychologically speaking we have a conscious a unconscious and a subconscious so there's something that the conscious is something that immediately you're thinking about right now the question you thought about is Con you're consciously asking it you know it's in the tip of your tongue the unconscious is things that are repressed memories from a long long time ago but if you think about it long enough you can get it subconscious is things that you don't even realize you know but you've seen it or did it at some point in your life and when push comes to shove it'll come up when a person is alive he has to stretch a little bit he has to work a little bit to use some different parts of his mind but if a person passes away or perhaps a person loses Consciousness and he has let's say near-death experience or he dreams he dreams and he knows he's dreaming he could literally feel all three of them at the same time as if they're the same why because the soul is not limited to what the body is the body is limited that you could only use one or another at different times the soul has no limitation when you know you're dreaming when you know you're dreaming you could use a lot of different things if you know how to do it yes you could you could do a lot of interesting things if you know what you're dreaming you could fly you could create a dream you create all types of things some of the were able to use their dreams to go up to sh and see what happens in sh and get all types of interesting things over there there's many many that would literally go to heaven and see what's over there now the from us for him it's not there's no conscious subconscious unconscious no such thing there's also no past present and future but just like we in in a status of let's say the there is no difference between us of all of these different states of mind for him there is no difference between anything for him is the only thing that's actually one one a single thing the only thing that actually exists that's one is him he is not separated from his thoughts he is his thoughts he's not separated from his past he is his past he's not separated from his future he is his future us we are separated even a human being is separated where you're made up of 248 different part uh one uh body parts Limbs and 365 uh 365 Limbs and Bones uh so the point is that even a human being that's a a single human being he's made up of Parts the nation is made up of Parts the camera is made up of everything in the world is made up of Parts the only thing that's single is a same concept with his past present and future so he knows not you know your past present and future but doesn't mean that you only have one possibility meaning you have multiple possibilities you only have one possibility of your past cuz it's already over you have multiple possibilities of your of your present because that's based on your current decision and you have countless possibilities of your future which are result of your actions so he knows all of those possibilities and he doesn't tamper with which one you're going to choose he just knows that you choose this you're going to go here you choose this you're going to go here and to him all of them are the same in essence he already sees all of them live out all of them play out simultaneously so when you choose something it's different for you but for him it's the same it's very complicated and to such an extent the rambam that actually details a little bit more than I just did he writes it in there's a book called which is a where we learn about the 13 principles of faith and also the commentary and also different details about creation that the rambam wrote and this is in the last chapter seventh and eth chapter and he writes I'm only going to write about free will because I know people are going to ask but in reality it's impossible for us to understand it the only way that you could actually understand Free Will is by being God himself this is the highest capacity that you can understand which is what I just explained to you there's some more details that the rambam explains but you know and I'm summarizing ing it but in Ence your human mind can never truly understand how Free Will as because you're limited as a human but this is in essence how it is and I've I gave you guys the story of how or the example of how it works if I write something the future in an envelope you guys remember that part okay so let's say for example we'll give you this let's say I tell you I know the Future Okay so I write I write the future on a piece of paper I put in an envelope and we put we put it in a safety uh box safe deposit box I tell you go do whatever you want at the end of the week you come back okay there's a whole thing 100 people come let's see what's in the box we take out the piece the envelope we open the envelope we we see what's on the envelope and what I wrote down already a week ago is every single thing that you did during that week now the fact that I knew it before it happened did that change your actions no you still did whatever you did I knew it I knew it but I didn't I didn't change it why does AEM that why does theem that knows the all the possibilities of the future why doesn't he just steer you in the right way why doesn't he just take the girl that's immodest out of the equation and just throw it to Jamaica or something so you can go to work freely and without sinning why because that takes away your free choice the only way that a could give you geden is if you earn it you have to earn it by doing mitv if you do a Mitzvah by not looking then hasem says Ah my son didn't look okay that's another $500 billion do in spiritual dollars in ganeden why cuz he didn't look once oh he didn't go to Las Vegas oh that's another 500 zillion dollars in ganeden because he didn't go he didn't put himself in a test and so on and so forth so he has to reward you for something and that's that's why he gives you those test he doesn't alter your your moves we don't get rewarded like say rewards in our future basically like let's say we do something good we did like a lot of good in our lives you're not going to help us camper Us in the right direction oh yes well it says in the somebody that comes to become purified somebody that comes to try to do gives him a hand but someone that tries to become impure somebody that tries to do bad things Hashem also helps him meaning if you want to do good things Hashem will give you plenty of opportunities to do good things for example you want to give you want to give you want to be so what's hasm going to do he's going to send you different opportunities all of a sudden no one ever knocked on your door for 10 years you live in this house but you have this gut feeling you feel like you need to give something feel like you need to give something all of a sudden yes sir we're uh I have a daughter she needs money we have a wedding this all of a first time 10 years somebody knocked on your door why you wanted to give to who can read your mind he sent you somebody now you didn't give him everything you didn't give him everything you want to get so hasem send you another opportunity all of a sudden you get an email all of a sudden you get an opportunity but then you ran out of money you gave the you ran out of money so what doesm do oh I'll give you more money he gives you all of a sudden you have a new client that new client just gave you an extra $50,000 if you still remember hasem and you still have this desire to give guess what you give is going to give you more money so you come to become purified and hm is going to help you become purified on the other hand someone that wants to sin someone that he listens about the things that we talk about wasting seed and the and so on and so forth all the sins of the Tor and he says nonsense ah this is nonsense who's going to protect their bed in this generation ah come on we I'm going stop watching movies ah come on this Raba you're crazy you this or that guess what that guy all of the zot of all the entire country are going to come to his door every five seconds some girl's going to call him you want to go out honey all of a sudden became Tom Cruz everybody wants to go out with him all of a sudden Mr popular the guy has a nose over here and an ear over here but all of a sudden everybody finds him beautiful wow you're so beautiful I you're so handsome what handsome Gargamel is better than him but all of a sudden Mrs Wonderful wants to why because he wants to sin hasem says you want to sin I'll give you the girl I'll give you the girl you want to sin I'll help you sin why you want to sin I'll help you sin you want to do mitvah I'll help you do Mitzvah but even more so what happens what happens if somebody made a sin what if he murdered somebody what if he murdered somebody does is there any chance that hasm is going to help him too the answer is yes how yes the to tells us that sometimes somebody murders somebody accidentally accidentally he didn't shoot him in the face and you know on purpose he was working on top of the the building and he had some tools accidentally his leg pushed one of the tools the hammer fell from the fourth fifth Story and fell on somebody's head and he died he didn't he murdered him technically killed him but not on purpose so according to the Torah at the time ofu the family of the person that accidentally died has the right to kill him but they don't want to kill them so what do they do they say you killed them accidentally you go to the mountains why they're not the family's not allowed to go to the mountains when can I come back when can I come back to my family when can I come back to uh My Wife and Kids my job my company my this oh you could only come back when it's forbidden for them to kill you oh when is that when theen the biggest sadik of the nation when he dies when he dies then you come back so now all of the people in this mountain what do they do all day they all pray for the biggest sadik in the world to die why cuz they want to come back to their families so what happens so the mothers of the Ken G the mother of the Coen G every so often she would go to the mountain with a bunch of presents for all the people give food and clothes and all types of stuff why don't pray for my son to die don't pray for my son to die so now how does how would this work sometimes theen would die literally a short while after somebody killed somebody somebody went to that City and a short while later the Coen G would die it was a new Coen he died finished but sometimes 80 years pass before the K died meaning this guy spent pretty much his entire life in the mountains so how does this work thear tells us gives the benefit the merits the uh the reward or the assistance to someone that has a merit but he also gives somebody a deficit or a loss if he has if he deserves that too how so if that guy deserved he did something for what ever reason he did something if he let's say for example he really truly accidentally killed a guy he was really careful he was on working in a building but he's really really careful and Hashem decreed that this guy's going to die below him and he chose you to do it but you didn't really do it on purpose you were careful you put everything right you did everything right but the guy still died because of that oh if this happened that guy I would actually have the Coen G die relatively soon why because you don't deserve to be in those mountains for 80 years but if you were really not careful if you one of these people that had to kept keep telling you every week hey put the tools back hey be careful hey stop throwing stuff in the air and you weren't careful so in reality yes it was an accident but it was an accident as a result of carelessness so then you do deserve to be in the mountains for 80 years so even that even the murderer Hashem helps him too it's needless to say he also decrees who the the Coen is going to be whether it's a young Coen or old Coen or if the mom deserves it the mother of the Coen deserves to see our son die or not meaning that manages the world to such Precision that it's impossible for us to comprehend point being is he doesn't um change your choice but the world around you will operate based on your actions yes so how exactly do you have free choice of like you were built in a way that at the end of the day you do the the result is from Hashem like the way he created you yes so like how exactly do you have free choice because you were built in a way to choose that exact specific like like lane or like you know yes so the good question the says that each person is born with certain desires some of us have Universal desires and some of us have our own personal desires that are unique to us Universal desires we have desires to eat some people more some people less Universal desire is to be you know we want to be liked some people care more or less for it but generally speaking people want to be liked people need to eat people need to be intimate and so on and so forth but then there are independent there are certain things that you have an inclination for that somebody else doesn't for example there are certain people that have a desire to see blood they have a desire to see blood they get something something in their brain works differently once they see blood so who gave you that he gave you that desire that you get some sort of pleasure as a result of seeing blood now automatically all of us think with our movie uh Hollywood mind thinking wow this guy's going to be a murderer he's going to kill people this guy no not necessarily he can do that he can become a serial killer he can become a murderer he can become one of these crazy school shooting kids he can be or he could simply be a butcher he could be a butcher and see blood or he could be a surgeon he could be a surgeon make $800,000 a year by performing surgery and still get the same pleasure same blood but one is murder is not allowed it's forbidden by the Torah and it's forbidden by the law and another is not only it's allowed it's a mitvah it's a Mitzvah to be a kosher butcher it's a Mitzvah to be a doctor that actually keeps unless he has to for it's a m to do these things one is a sin one is a aah so the point is that hasem instilled in you certain Natures within you independently and it's your free choice to choose how you're going to use this Talent this desire and so on so he didn't you know he didn't instill in you this desire where you're the there's no way for you to to do something good out of it to such an extent that there's no good in the world that you can't enjoy the r you guys heard of Rimes yeah you heard Rimes had a wife her name was buya buya was a very very smart woman she even won a few debates against some of the other one day she said to wait a minute you say in the Tor that Hashem did not put us in a situation where there's something in the world that we can't enjoy in a Kosher Way so she says I want to enjoy Pig I want to enjoy the taste of pig now you can't say the pig is Kosher for schom no no I'm going to give my wife Pig I'm going give her a baking egg and cheese sandwich because of SCH bite you can't do that so says no problem he went he sent somebody to go get a certain type of fish that's found in Africa that's called shibuta and that fish after you cook it tastes exactly like bacon exactly like bacon same thing but it's kosher it's a Kosher fish by the way there's also a duck a certain duck that's found in Japan to this day there's a certain duck in Japan if you cook it it tastes exactly like bacon today there's also soy that you can flavor like bacon and there's also turkey bacon and so on and so forth the point is is that did not have us lose anything as a result of the mitv we just have to know how to enjoy different things in a kosher way every desire that you do you could do it in a kosher way you could do it a non- Kosher Way r r again said to a bunch of soldiers he says listen I do everything that you do the only difference is you're going to go to Gom for it I'm going to go to Ganan for for it so so yeah it's not fair it's not fair why am I going to go to Gom you going to G he goes okay you eat goes yeah I eat also go so what's the difference he goes when you eat you eat non kosher I eat kosher so I eat you eat it's both good but my food is kosher when you eat you don't even say blessing to Hashem I say blessing to Hashem now you want to be uh you what else you want to do you want to have fun you have fun how do you have fun what you want to have a wife no one I have a wife also you're going to go to Gom for your wife I'm going to go to G for my wife why my wife goes to the mik I'm allowed to be with her you touch and do whatever you want same exact performance but you there's a sin there's a Mitzvah there a sin Mitzvah meaning every single thing that you want to do you can do in a Kosher Way in a Kosher Way just need to know how to do it you're allowed to play sports during the week you're allowed to eat koser food you're allowed to have fun koser fun the point is is that if you understand a Torah you can actually have a fantastic life in this world and the next it just has to be a kosher way to do it has to be a koser way to do it and if you have you're afraid of going against hem you'll always find a way to do it because like I said uh the someone that tries to become purified Hashem will help him so if you're trying to get closer and closer to hem will help you next question wait little so you're saying that from your Uprising you get you get to pick your choices right like all your surroundings all the environment so in reality would that really be free will in then cuz then you're then cuz God's already giving you like an image to go off like giving you a background so everything you know you know because he put you in those situations okay and you're making your your answer from those so it's not really free free will in reality you know it is and it isn't meaning that it's a cause and effect if let's say for example I go to work I'll get money I know that if I don't go to work I won't get money if I do aah there's a forah there's a reward for that mitvah what is the reward forah the reward for a Mitzvah is another Mitzvah some you do a Mitzvah so wants to reward you what he gives you an opportunity to do another Mitzvah that's why when somebody made a sin by accident shig the Tora says go bring aan bring a sacrifice to the BET mikdash why why do I need why what is the what does the animal have to do with my sin the cow didn't sin I sinned why does the animal have to die because just like there's a reward of a mitvah is a Mitzvah the punishment for a sin is a sin which means that now that I sinned by turning on the light on Shabbat accidentally it's still a sin even though it's an accident it's a sin nonetheless so that means that the punishment for that sin would be an opportunity to make another sin so the say in the Tora immediately right after you made The Accidental sin go bring a sacrifice to the BET mikdash why that's a break the chain why before you make your next sin go make a Mitzvah by bringing that sacrifice once you make that sacrifice that's a mitvah you broke the chain that means that immediately after you've you've actually made that Mitzvah of the sacrifice you'll have an opportunity to make aah instead of which means that if you are on a role of making will continue giving you more and more opportunities to make more if you're like you're like whenever I get a chance I'll dovah whenever I get a chance maybe I'll do an a then guess what you're not going to survive the week you're not going to survive the week why because there's only going to be sins coming so a person that chases mitv just like says in the Tora please have I want to Chase mitv my whole life I want Chase why do he want to chase because he knows if I make I'll have an opportunity to make another one and another one another one and who knows where I'm going to end and that's also why the kids young people old people when they go off the when somebody that's religious born religious you know the Hat the stral the whole thing the whole nine and then one day you see this guy dancing at gay clubs like what the what just happened here what happened here like how did you go from here to here you went from G to a nor in a week like what happened how does it go how does it happen this stuff it happens in a very simple way same exact thing just a funnier thing but generally the same explanation if a person makes a sin and simply doesn't care he gets punished with an opportunity to make another sin so the guy that went off the D by just you know what I'm going to smoke a cigarette on Shabbat when no one's looking so he smoked a cigarette after on Shabbat no one looked no one saw except theem but then all of a sudden Shabbat comes out and some Goya comes there he says hey cutie what are you doing with that big hat of yours and all of a sudden she wants to be his girlfriend all of a sudden she wants to be his girlfriend she never saw a Jew in her life but she likes the hat so now he he smoked a cigarette on shabab but now he has a go girlfriend and where does she want to go she goes want do I don't know let's go to the casino okay fine so then they go to casino together so get another a and then the casino then this and then that what happens after three weeks this guy's made so many a he doesn't even remember what he used to look like he used to look like a now he walks around with a tank up and shorts the parents see him that what happened to you what how did you go from here to here stop being attention you stop paying attention to the fact that you're making a and that's how it works the Satan will take a person literally from G all the way to the bottom of G why that's how the system works so if you watch yourself you pay attention to the things that you do every time you make a mitvah good look for the next one every time you make a mistake and make an you look at the girl that's half naked you looked at her okay I'm sorry why you broke when you say I'm sorry for the sin that's a Mitzvah that's a mitvah so guess what instead of hasm sending you another another girl he's going to send you an opportunity to doah you have to do CH constantly constantly we can't bring a cow to the BET mdash noash today but we could say I'm sorry when we say I'm sorry that's the same thing that's the point of the cows to say I'm sorry you say I'm sorry to for making a sin I'll give you an opportunity to do a mitvah and you'll see little by little that it's a cause and effect that yes you can in essence dictate what kind of opportunities you have in your life whether you'll have more opportunities for MIT but again it's only if you pay close attention yes um if God controls history how and events how do we have free will like how do all the historical figures that do what they do if it's all being controlled by God so does not control history in a sense that you're explaining it meaning yes who runs the world and nothing is beyond him but say everything is from Heaven except the fear of Heaven meaning that he allows human beings to make free choice and by their own free choice he has certain things happen there are certain cases only a couple of cases that I can remember off the top of my head that removes the free choice generally speaking the vast majority of the population in the world from the beginning of time all the way until mashia come have free choice undisturbed they choose whatever they choose and Hashem reacts based on their choice he chose to not go to sh chose to just stay home guess what he forgot to even pray at home why has made him TI he went to sleep he chose that he's going to watch TV hasem put some immodest woman on the TV he chose to uh you know not check if it's kosher or not Hashem made sure it's not Kosher why cuz you didn't check if you would have checked maybe it would have made be kosher I would allowed you to enjoy something you wanted so people make choices hasem reacts to those choices generally speaking throughout all of time the vast majority of the population have free choice there are only two cases that I know of off the top of my head that the free choice is removed and those cases are one leaders leaders of Nations once somebody becomes a major leader of a Nation whether it's parau or Obama or Donald Trump or Benjamin Netanyahu or Putin or any of these people that lead countries their free choice is tempered with sometimes completely removed why these are the stick figures that Hashem uses to run his world when bad things are happening to am Isel they're Happening by some stick figure somebody's doing it whether it's Obama or Osama or someone in between them somebody's doing it Hashem is using that person as the stick against am so those leaders have their free choice removed there's a couple of examples that we see in t had his free choice removed the king had his free choice removed even has his free choice altered point being is that when a leader is becomes a leader they may have had good intentions going into office but once they're in office they're simply a puppet of hem they may they have free choice between their day-to-day life and their with them and their wife them and their kids to eat not to eat to go to the bathroom not go to the bathro that stuff yeah but as far as what they decide to press the nuclear weapon or not to to go attack Afghanistan or not to vote Yes or No against Israel or not hasem decides that why because these are people that Hashem used to run the world the only other time that removes the free choice is as a punishment and that I read to you guys about two months ago from the ramb he says that the worst punishment that exist in this world is when hasem decides he does not want you to do chuva so he allows you to live and simply not want to do chuva under any condition even if you have mosu come to your house knock on your door hey I'm Moshe here's the 10 commandments say yeah mhe I'm not interested meaning a person can see the entire truth and still not do why hasm doesn't want ites want that the person could live a life without even thinking that what they're doing is wrong why because the punishment for such a person is that hm does not want him to do Chua he'll let them live a long life to make more sins so he could punish them worse and this is in R let's go to the back with the uh next question if you could hold one second with the uh mic I can hear you but the camera needs to also how is it fa that they're getting punished if they're not making the choices you mean the leaders yeah no the the leaders are not getting punished the people that for example we see when it says that his heart was hardened meaning that in essence removed this free choice uh when it came push came to sh to release am after the first three Commandments hasem did not allow him to release them he wanted them to continue keeping them in MIT so he could do all of the 10 uh all of the 10 plagues all of the 10 major Miracles now the uh par is the only one that survived the splitting of the ocean when went to the Sea of reeds Hashem split the ocean am is passed through the ocean and then the Egyptians they drowned in the ocean but there was only one Survivor that Survivor was par he actually became the king of uh nve he became the king of N and he did chuva why didm allow him to do Chua why didm allow him to survive because he removed his free choice so because he removed his free choice he didn't deserve to die he deserved to get punished but not die so that's something that uh you're right when somebody's free choice is removed they don't deserve to get be punished unless that removal of the free choice was the punishment itself but all of his Nation got punished it wasn't them that had the like they didn't they didn't have the idea of what to do like it was all him making the ideas like making like the like saying they couldn't go or they could go right so and their whole nation got punished but they didn't do it they did whatever the king said to do the king said to do it but he didn't put a gun to your head to do it meaning somebody tells you listen go kill this person there's there's there's three things that says that if somebody tells you to do it it's you have to die and not do it if somebody tells you come to my wedding it's in a church come to my wedding it's in a church you cannot go to that wedding they say listen if you don't come to my wedding I'm going to kill you you have to say no problem kill me I'm not allowed to go to a church why that's what a says you're not allowed to go to a place of idolatry you're not allowed to worship an idol second thing if somebody tells you to make a Sex crime somebody says listen go rape this woman woman or I'm going to kill you you have to die you're not allowed to rape anybody you're not allowed to uh even have intimacy with your own wife when she's nid somebody tells you go be with your wife yeah but she's Nida she she's still impure she just had a period no no I'll kill you if you don't have a gun to your head said kill me then yeah but she's my wife she's allowed to me half the month right now she's not allowed to me okay go go be with a Goya go be with one of these supermodels not non-jewish supermodels I'm going to kill you you have to die third thing is somebody tells you to go kill somebody go kill him or I'm going to kill you meaning save your own life kill him or I'm going kill you TOR says you have to die why your blood is not more valuable than his even if he's a rash even if he's Hitler anybody even if he's Hitler himself unless it's it's a war it's a war it's a time of War unless you have permission from kill him meaning you are in a war you're allowed to kill him but if it's just somebody that he's not he's let's say not all to kill him not in your hands to kill him so now T giv those rules to but also the non-jews have some of these rules they're not allowed to kill anybody they're not allowed to torture anybody they have the seven no hide laws so even though their King told them go and kill am is's babies every day they would kill 300 babies just to take their blood and make a bath for par on top of that everyone that didn't meet their quot of making Stones they would kill their kids by putting them in place of the stone the point being is that they killed even though par told them to do it they didn't have to do it they chose to do it why to save their own life and the problem is the problem is that when a person is a uh chooses these bad choices hasm has to punish him why they could have fleed there were three leaders that per had three uh generals that per had when he asked them what do you think I should do with am is one said you should kill them make them all slaves and then kill them his name was bam eventually hasem killed him the second one didn't say anything he was scared to say stuff his name was job by not saying anything and he ran away Hashem punished him for not saying anything then there was third one he said No don't touch them they're good people they're the ones that put you on the map and made all this money for you and build your economy and then he ran away after saying the truth Hashem rewarded him to be the most important convert that ever lived his name was T The Ten Commandments that we get the whole mat T is not called T it's called a named after because because he defended the truth hashm gave him the right to not only convert to Judaism but his son-in-law was mosenu his daughter married mosenu so point is is that everybody has a choice even if that means that puts their life on the line the toah has rules for those people too there are certain times that you have to sacrifice your life for the for the for the sake of the tah at certain times you're not allowed so it depends but these specific cases you have to next question okay if you're in the back anymore anything okay so pass it to the uh front somebody get the Mike to the guys on the front you said that like the big leaders are basically like like puppets of hasem right okay so you could say the same thing about Moshe he was the biggest he he led the whole nation he was like a puppet then not the Jewish leaders as far as the righteous ones that sedim we're talking about the leaders of uh as far as the Nations like presidents Kings of that Nation not the uh not theik no Mia is not going to be that same way no I mean the sadim already think think in a certain way of what does hem want to make to be a sadik you have to in essence destroy yourself your own free will your own desires and simply replace them with what does Hashem want there's no more what do I want to do is what does hem want want me to do what would hem want me to do in this case would he want me to go home from the or would he want me to stay here for a little longer and get some more what does hem want me to do does HM want me to go home and watch a movie or does he want me to learn more doesm want me to go out with this girl or preserve myself and not touch her what does hem want that's what sikim do sikim constantly choose what does hasem want me to do also somebody has a question in regards to what's the difference between aim and is it the same Torah as far as the Torah itself the five books of Moses and the 19 other books that we have which is total of 24 books of the written Torah and the entire oral Torah which is the mishna the all of that is exactly the same all of that is exactly the same the only difference between and what lived in the Middle East theim lived in the countries of Europe Europe and so on and Asim have different Customs than the customs of theim that's the only difference there's not no different Tor they both believe in the same they both believe that they're descendants ofah andov they both believe that the mashia is going to come they both believe that you have to eat kosher and you have to keep Shabbat they both have the same overall beliefs it's just the way they practice certain things certain Customs are different because they live in different parts of the world what is it like if you lived let's say for example in the Middle East most likely you were you're you acted a different way as far as how you most of Amis was poor in the Middle East so they had different types of foods so for example the Middle Eastern Jews a lot of their food is dough based on dough ja Mala all of these different foods you see they're all based on dough why dough it's the cheapest food you can possibly find that you can make in a desert that could fill you up now theim on the other hand have different types of foods more fish based and things of that nature geil fish now if you give a typical Gil fish they're probably going to tell you no thank you they're probably going to tell you no thank you why because different tradition different Customs same thing goes when it comes to the experiences they lived in for example the reason why this aazim do not eat rice on PES is not because it's rice is not but they don't eat it because their custom is not to eat it because their poverty a few hundred years ago was to such an extent the ashkenazim poverty was so high to such an extent that they would literally reuse the same sacks that they use for wheat they would reuse it recycle it use it for Rice so they knew that the grains of the wheat are so small that even though you've emptied it out there's always going to be a few grains so when you fill it up with rice there's probably going to be some wheat in there so the problem is they couldn't rely on themselves that the rice that they made had didn't have wheat in there so they made a rule that listen since we're all using the same sacks over and over again and we can't know that for sure we've removed all of the wheat from it we're not allowed to eat rice theim did not have that problem didn't have that problem they had different problems but not the same problem so that's it became a custom that they adapted in order to protect their n from eating non kosher on and the reason why is because if you eat nonos on P you eat on P it's it's death penalty so they prefer not to eat not on P rather than get a Heavenly death penalty that's how righteous they were so this is their righteousness but now years passed 400 years have passed we don't have that problem anymore aside from the fact that we're rich people now we rich people now aside from that usually the factories that make rice don't have anything to do with eat and even if they do they don't reuse the same sack so how come theim still don't eat the the rice on PES because once something becomes a serious Minag over a few hundred years it becomes part of the M it becomes part of the lineage the history of the nation you're not allowed to remove it and the reason why is because if you remove this Minh today most likely you'll remove a different Minag tomorrow and it's only a matter of time before you start removing things that are not but actually like you'll actually start removing the laws and that's where it becomes dangerous because people don't really understand the difference between and they think it's Al to uh to become drunk where you can't even walk on you don't have to do it you can and maybe even should but you don't have to do it you get drunk but don't uh make a fool of yourself in the middle of the street there Customs that we can do and so on and so forth point being is that there's a very very big difference between if you violate the you're not going to G but if you viate unless you do you have a very serious problem the next question is is there a different spelling in the Tor for safarik versus ashkanazi no the Torah is spelled a single way in the Tor all of the words are spelled the same way in a Tora between the Safar seph t andazi seph t with the exception of six letters yes this is going to confuse some people but it is the truth we have now right now there is three different types of Torah Scrolls in the world that I know of one is from the of the one is from the of the the Mas of theim and one is from the Mas of the yemenites between the three there is six letters that are different there are six letters not six words six letters why is this not a big deal like people are going to make a big deal out of it because the those specific letters that are different between the uh Scrolls of the ashaz or the yanites do not change the words so it's let's say for example the letter Al if is used instead of HE or the letter of VAV is used instead of no VAV so what is it like in the Torah in Hebrew we have a uh we don't have like our vowels are dots the Nik Okay so for example to make the uh the uh the uh sound o you have to have a DOT on top of the word top of the the V now sometimes that dot is going to be on top of the letter that you want that a to be around or it's going to be on top of a VAV a letter VAV and a DOT on top of it so so you can make the same o this way or that way what is it like it's like for example in English but in English you could spell the word and the sound night two ways one with a k k n i g HT or one without a k n i g HT they in essence they both make exactly the same sounds the Americans decided and the English decided that one is going to mean a knight with a sword and one is going to mean Knight like the Knight but in reality it's the same exact sound in Hebrew we don't have that in Hebrew if this is it this is the sound this is it this is the word so these words there are certain words in the Hebrew alphabet that could be spelled in multiple ways one with a VAV one without a VAV one with a UD one without a UD because you can make that same sound in a couple of different ways so this unlike what people would simply think oh wait there's six different toras there's six different no it's not six different Tor six different letters among the three different Traditions it's not six different toras but in reality everybody knows that the Y ites are right that's the truth everybody knows the yemenite scroll is the right one so why don't theim andaz adapt the yemenite scroll because everybody's too scared that maybe they're wrong nobody knows why cuz that's my tradition my grandfather did this my great-grandfather did this all the way toonen this is what they had so most likely the amonite is right but I'm not 100% sure so this why I have this what I go with why because it doesn't change the T doesn't change the body of the Torah so unlike what I thought initially when this confused me when I first found out this information then I looked at it from the right perspective after talking to my RAV it doesn't it's not like Christianity that has 250,000 versions We have one version of the Torah why because like I said the words don't change and in fact this proves the authenticity of the Torah that out of 3 4,805 letters there are only literally six different letters out of all of those the New Testament is uh in comparison has literally 250,000 different versions and the versions are all independent of each other meaning it's completely different sentences different names different places different everything like the story changed in one place Jesus J has a horse and another place he has a donkey in one place Jesus has long hair and this one he has short hair and one he's gay and another one maybe he is maybe he's not you know I'm making hypothetical examples the point is is that the story itself changes in Judaism the Torah doesn't change the story doesn't change it's just how you spell specific letters but as far as the way that's pronounced the way that the uh the words are pronounced between and that's not according to the Tor according to the Tor the letter T is T it's Torah but the ashkanazi tradition have their own tradition and they have saf which almost can't say little little do they don't even use it so we have t they have or SA or something like that I'm so I don't I wasn't grown I wasn't raised with with that but the point is is that they say shabas we say Shabbat but they both mean the same thing that's not that's me that's a custom that means that if my dear friend Rabbi Goldenberg over here is going to come to me he says shabbat shalom to me or he says shabbat shabas shalom or good shabas to me it it means the same thing nothing's going to change now if he goes to his K of he's GNA say shabbat shalom in the beginning you're say oh maybe that Rabbi ruen of has some influence on you maybe not why because they're still going to know chabbat point being is that nothing's really going to change the language is not going to change it's just certain Customs certain customs of how to pronounce certain ways just like for example the dialect of English that we use in America is very different than the dialect of English they use in Australia the way they use it in England it's the same language it's just slightly different pronunciations and so on same thing of how people speak Hebrew the way people speak Hebrew in Yemen versus they speak Hebrew in Morocco or they speak Hebrew in uh Libya where my grandparents come from or they spoke Hebrew in different parts of the world is different it's the same exact language it's just different pronunciations same way of for example your accent here in Florida if you're really a Floridian is very very different than a New Yorker you're going to say New York and you're gonna you know they're gonna say New York sounds like a different language but it's not you know so a uh it's it's again also in Canada I had to learn a little bit of Canadian cuz I did some business in Canada I had to learn a little bit of Canadian over the years why because they say different things different way so but I thought initially they're making a mistake so I wanted to correct him I said no no you're making a mistake said no why what are you talking about American everybody has different pronunciations different it's the same language just different way to pronounce it not a different religion though when it comes to the Torah Traditions are slightly different as far as the Customs because different parts of the world but the Torah itself and the laws are relatively the same anything else I for me um question was asked earlier that Hashem doesn't tamper with their decisions in a pos positive way um but there are certain parts of daving which would seem that hem does for example one part of ding says forc us to be subservient to you another place says you give us understanding okay learn to listen you know another place says return to right in another place says right you know all those we're praying for to help us it seems like at least at least the first one seems like we're asking to force us to be subservient to you yes because we don't have much trust in oursel so saying it's it's in essence a statement out of humility as well theim that put together the uh the Sid were very very humble people and obviously as you know thatav that's a good part of the with it's is thatav put together uh and uh was so humbled that he called himself I'm a war but not a not a person that's how humbled he was so a lot of the statements that are mentioned in and are statements that we ourselves per se don't really feel that way but in reality the people theim that wrote it not only did they actually feel that way they're trying to teach us that we're supposed to feel that way just just like for example that a uh you know at the end of amida we say to a you knowem I know I'm a I'm nothing and uh you know and uh please in reality which one of us thinks we're nothing as soon as somebody cut you off you're like you know who I am you know who I am everybody thinks we know who they are so so but yeah we say we're nothing why if you act a certain way it'll lead to a certain type of behavior if you move around it'll create a certain emotion if you say certain things it'll influence your actual Behavior if you generally try to speak in a positive way it'll lead you to do positive things if you're a pessimistic person it'll you know and speak pessimistic things then it it could lead to bad things happening so in essence our words actually do influence our actions and when we say to hasem you know help us overcome our yet in so many words and Chase your Tor Chase your fulfill the Tor fulfill the overcome and know do this for us pretty much force us to do it in essence what we're doing is number one out of humility that we don't even think we have enough strength at our best to do it number two out of knowledge that yet is completely fire and in reality without a helping us we can't do it so we say hem we're going to have the well not you know I can't really trust myself to do it but I'm gonna try to do it you really do it though you do it I'm gonna try to do it but you really do it so in essence what ends up happening is that the that we mentioned earlier that someone that comes to be wants to be purified who helps him so it's not that Hashem decides for him it's that you've already made the decision to do something Hashem is just going to give you the push once you've decided to walk that direction you've decided to go left Hashem is going to push you to keep going you've decided to go right hashem's going to push you to keep going right and so on and so forth so he's not doing it for you and he's not deciding it for you he's simply pushing you once you've made that decision so it's a again it's also out of humility that the had in essence we're supposed to have too that's it's also a uh we uh they were able to do much more than us but believed very little in their own ability we can barely do anything but we believe that we can do a lot so the tables turn and we start becoming like them next question Hab so sometimes a person he or her is is uh trying to really do a a good Chua and get closer to Hashem and it seems like you know there is a there's always a point of Singularity that it comes down to uh to the person where like you said if they need to make they need to make a a decision in which way to go yes and you know there's always that opposite force that that will go and say you know oh but it's not even it won't even say it's more like kind of Playing Tricks on you right and uh really manipulating you based on your level right so what's the question what are things that a person can do to sort of uh you know calm that fire down there is a few things um first off anytime that there is a yet that a person has he has to first and foremost take a take a and press play that's what the says that the is too big for you the only way to beat him is with the T so first thing and foremost have a uh lecture ready that you could just simply press play have a book handy have a handy do something go learn some Tor if the is too strong and even you're learning T but in reality you're reading but you're not even understanding anything that you're saying because just you're still thinking about that girl or that boy or that this or that that you're still thinking about the sin you're still thinking about going to McDonald's you're still thinking about doing all these a even though you're learning you're watching but you're thinking about McDonald's the whole time it happens sometimes so says that means you have a big so say why ask ask for help I'm trying I don't want want to sin pleas help me but sometimes that's not enough why says no no son this one's on you why I want you to pass this test I want you to pass that test says doesn't work learning to doesn't work think about the day that you're going to die why because there's certain things that happen after you die we learned part of it last week it's what happens after person dies they go into the grave if they were righteous the exit from this world and entrance into the next world is almost like taking a hair out of milk if the person is full of sins it's like taking a uh some type of um uh the thorn out of a sack meaning it's going to be really hard it's going to be really painful the different malim and andum and all of these um they're all going to rip you apart into 50 zillion pieces and then put you back together and then rip you apart again and what says says he says depending how many sins they make they get a punishment where they can these malim can kill the person revive it him kill him revive him kill him revive him kill him revive over and over and over again depending how many times he made a sin and this is just in the we didn't get the Gom yet so a person thinks oh what's going to happen after I die who wants to die like this who wants to die like this and that's not even Gom yet you want no Gom we have sh number 84 G you go through that three hours by listening and studying it you don't want to go to Gom I promise you so what does that mean that means you have to learn what's going to happen after you die meaning you have to learn about what you have to fear if you fall for the sin once you learn enough about what the sin costs the desire to sin simply leaves you it leaves you why you're thinking wait a minute they're going to cut me into pieces huh they're going to cook me up like a schnitzel oh not schnitzel barbecue oh shish kebab oh Shish that's what going to do to me pieces who wants to do this he has to have says have a vivid imagination and use it to know what's going to happen like all the scary movies that people saw yeah it's much scarier think of that before you sin why you're not going to want to S anymore you're not going to say anymore why it's not worth it so now a person needs to do that now sometimes that's hard for a person to do because they don't even know Gom exists or the Rabbi says there's no gay or all types of all types of things that make it difficult to even know that these punishments even exist and that's why the ramb the r chapter six number two says that it's a positive commandment to cleave onto the wise and their disciples in order to learn from their deeds as it says in Deuteronomy 10:20 and you shall cling to him meaning you should glue yourself to so the sages ask what do you mean how is it possible for human being to cling to the divine presence how can you cling to how can you glue yourself to and the answer is they resolve the difficulty by the difficulty by explaining that this commandment this is an obligation to glue yourself to hhm it's not like a recommendation obligation to glue yourself to Hashem so how can we fulfill this ifem is fire how can we glue the fire say it's the the answer is to fulfill this commandment means to cleave yourself onto the wise to the and their disciples therefore one should try to marry the daughter of a Torah Sage marry his daughter to a Torah Sage meaning to a he should have his daughter married to a he should marry a should uh he should eat and drink with he should do business with associate with in all possible ways cling to the is in essence what does it mean clinging to hem that's why the the sages have directed us saying sit in the dust of their feet and drink in their words thirsty meaning always surround yourself with so wait so we just said there's a problem sometimes the person is taken because of the rabbi the rabbi told him there's no G the rabbi told him everybody goes to Gan hence we see what the AL says says don't say there's no don't say there's no everybody goes to G people say it they can call themselves whatever they want call Rabbi they call Pikachu I don't care what they call themselves but anyway tells you there's no punishment is not so you have to find you have to find somebody that understands the is reward there is punishment why that is what our T says countless times countless times and we have to literally be under the feet of the because they're are only saving grace they're the only thing that's going to save us from ourselves from our a person needs to make sure to take advantage any advantage they can of being next to I can tell you what I do right now we're going to finish this you shortly and you're all going to go home some of you are going to go to sleep some of you are going to do a few things before you go to sleep but for the most part people are going to go to sleep what I try to do is after I go home upload the video then at that point they wait till about uh you know the time that uh raim is on the road and that's when him and I start talking why he's on the road he's on the road going to K it's maybe 20 minutes walk 30 minutes walk that's 20 30 minutes that I can talk to him about what anything he wants why that's 20 minutes I can get with that's 20 minutes I I don't care if he tells me about nothing which never really happens but the point is I'll be there that's why the the they're constantly following their rebi why they want to see how he lives not just this only but how does he live what does he do here how does he shop how does he this how does he that there's even there stories in that tell of would want to even learn how the are even with their wives so one of them hid under the bed of one of the hit under the bed just to see how does he act with his wife when they're intimate but the wait what are you doing he kicked them out go wa I want to learn go learn on learn why learn why learn not here I teach you in in the col not here the point is that they love they didn't do it because of perverted reasons they did it because they loved the they understood that you could learn a lot from the you can learn a lot from them so if your Rabbi is a that says that there is reward and Punishment and that hasem loves you but at the same token he has rules he has a Torah and he wants to reward you but he's only going to reward you under certain conditions he doesn't want to punish you but he has to punish you under certain conditions if you have such a person and that person happens to be a rabbi glue yourself to that person is often as possible if you don't have find one find one that's why the M says find yourself a rabbi now everybody has to have several rabbis you can't have just one Rabbi and the reason why is because you have to have multiple rabbis in Judaism first and foremost if you're you have to have your which you go by you know so you have the uh the theim not just of the but you also have modern day you have and so on and so forth you have certain pus that you go by you hold by the ones that have modernized the uh the uh or applied modern day to the and telling you how to use the from 500 years ago in today's world if have modern day P they don't need to be alive most of the time you know the big ones unfortunately for us for the most part are gone they're we have their books we have their Torah they're living forever as far as their Torah is concerned but their bodies are no longer you can't call them but you have to have one like that you can't pick and choose on Mondays and Wednesdays you on Tuesdays and Wednesdays youash on Shabbat you you know something else on you can't you have to pick one someone that wants to pick his rabbis like he's picking uh you know shorts and t-shirts in aore that's why says you cannot pick the leniencies of and the leniencies of bet and you cannot pick the stringencies of betay and the stringencies of bet you can't do that why if you pick the stringencies of both where whoever is more stringent if bet is stringent and I'm going to go with him if bet sh is more stringent I'm going to go with him say no no you're like a blind person in in a night if a blind person like why you want to be stringent wa do you think that makes you sadik no you need to know how to apply any fool can tell you to be stringent about everything that's not that's not that's not what we're supposed to do don't torture yourself don't torture yourself oh yeah no I want to be stringent I want to you know walk around with no you know take my eyes out okay how you going to learn to her then there was one guy this true story maybe 20 years ago was walking around with a couple of knew in a neighborhood he saw the were holding him Hand by hand so one of the rabbis that we know saw him he goes asked another Rabbi who's that who's this guy so oh that's sadik okay who is he CU now it's it's one of my students he goes a student he goes yeah I goes what's with the goes no he wants to watch his eyes so he has covered his eyes like the mag he wants to cover his eyes nothing he wants nothing he always go like this so he has something covering his eyes and so does know where he's going to walk he doesn't want to see any woman at all so he has two people walking him to the Sho so he says to him uh can you believe this what said what a great student I have only six months B CH and the ra says to him you see him six months B my prediction it's not going to be too long before he sends with married women way no come on talking about my students my student it's not nice no no okay okay that's what I say listen not six months passed not six months pass he comes to him he goes I can't how did you know how did you know goes what what happened he goes remember that thing the guy they cover his eyes with two people he goes yeah yeah they just caught him he was with six different married women he goes because you cannot just jump and become one of the in six months cover your eyes as if wow who asked you to cover your eyes like that look down no one says you could look at anything that moves you saw something that that's not applicable for you to see look away why covering your eyes would you one of the uh from the who are you six months do you even know I live bet yet so so it's very very important to have a rabbi that's going to be alive and direct you and let you know what you are capable of doing so you have the pek and then you have the rav that's alive that's going to guide you and tell you yes or no so if you want to sleep less you ask the rabbi can I sleep less if you want to read a new book you ask the rabbi can I read this new book yes you have to ask the rabbi for permission why what if you decide to read a book that's not in your level and that book the rabbi knows enough that that book is going to ruin you a lot of people that become K you'll see one common element they've all read guide of the perplexed the ROMs guide of the perplexed now ra is K Al we are a piece of the dust that he's going to walk on or he walked on one time in his life Al we can graduate to be a piece of dust that he walked on one time in his life 900 years ago his book is but if you are not a where you're expert in expert in expert in ideology in expert like you're not allowed to even look at that book why it'll confuse you to an extent that it could actually literally make you an atheist an atheist why it's very very high level or better yet people love to read the Z people love to read the zor why because there's some commentary that we know from certain beautiful things yeah but he himself says unless you're and you have certain requirements you've gone over the entire sh and not just you read it with your Rabbi for an hour a day and you only listen for five minutes you went over the entire the entire all the you know what you're doing people ask you questions you know the answers you also live a life of Kusa you're a holy person you watch your bre you watch your eyes you watch your behavior you watch what you eat you watch every single thing you m a holy person and you are married and you're 40 years old and a lot of different things you have certain requirements don't even look at the why it'll confuse you to no end you can read certain that's applicable for everybody but as far as going from the the whole thing reading the names of the malim reading the cabala stuff you're going to read it it's only a matter of time before you why you're not going to know what to do and it's going to confuse you it's not in your level so you have to ask your Rabbi can I do this can I do this can I do this can I do this can I do this can I do this why because if the rabbi really is a he's going to tell you whether you really can or can't whether you really can or can't now if you have your ego is bigger than your Rabbi then nothing's going to help you you're going to do a n my doesn't understand I'm already at that level I'm already at that level I know one guy he says to me listen I tried I don't like it so I only read the Z I try I don't like it so I only read the Z I said who's your Rabbi he goes no I don't have one I said oh that's why that's why that's why why if you had a rabbi the rabbi would tell you take that Zar put it in a back in a bet mid you're not allowed to look at it why you have to learn you have to learn you have to learn you have to learn these things you have to learn the stuff you're obligated to do not the stuff that you're not obligated to do now there's beautiful things in a that we mention in lectures these are things that are allowed but again like I said first you have to take advantage and fulfill the role that you're obligated to do not the role that you're not obligated to do same thing goes with several other different types of cabalistic books there are certain books that are fantastic to read there certain books that you simply shouldn't touch until you are a really serious um so you have to have a living Rabbi a living Rabbi that's going to guide you tell you yes or no you someone that knows you someone that knows your individual situation someone that's going to tell you yes or no and that someone you have to listen to them like you listen to God not that Shalom they God but the gar says you have to fear your Rabbi like you fear God why because if you if he really your Rabbi and he's a and what he's telling you is in essence what hasm is saying so if he says something whether you understand it or not is irrelevant whether you agree with it or not is irrelevant he says jump you say how high how many people in the world could actually exist like that most people are like Rabbi can I do this no okay Rabbi uh I'm getting a new Rabbi oh I had another I had a fantastic thing the other day happened to me so I said RAB RAB I need your help I need your help I said 4:00 in the morning you need help 4:00 in the morning yeah no it's emergency it's emergency it's emergency I need okay what he asked a tough question a tough question we got the answer you would think four o'clock in the morning you get somebody an answer question give somebody an answer four o'clock in the morning thank you Rabbi thank you what light something right oh yeah all right let me double check maybe I can get in maybe I can get in touch with uh this other Rabbi because he says he has connections with RAV kvki and he has connection with r mazuz and he has connections with that one I want to double check why' you ask me at 4:00 in the morning if you're not going to take the if you're not going to take it don't ask D unless you are willing to accept it why it's it's not good it's not good which means if you have a rabbi you have to literally just say says jump you say a high that's how it's that's how I am with my Rabbi that's one of the biggest secrets that I believe that's a part of that's our life why there's plenty of times that have happened that I wasn't exactly happy with my rabbi's decision I wasn't exactly happy with what he told me to do and I'm Mr my ego is bigger than this room I was on Wall Street after all I was an executive I was the guy that called the shots people worked for me I didn't work for them so somebody tells me that's even younger than me what to do it wasn't easy to take but I knew I didn't know what I was talking about why he's the rabbi he already learned the sh countless times he knows this he knows that you know all these things I'm still learning Al of bed what I know what do I know he says this is is right I don't need to know why he thinks it's right I don't need to know why he thinks it's right and why I don't think it's right I just know that he's right why that's the way it works you go learn the Shaz 10 20 times you'll be right too the point isai is that a lot of people don't want it why they want to do what they want to do they think the Torah is like something you pick and choose like you're going to a library oh yeah this book I'll buy this one and I'll buy that one it's on a discount oh 20% off okay I'll buy this this one yeahall read all these book and they have a library of books in their in their in their house and they read six pages of that one nine pages of that one the middle of that one the last two paragraphs of this one and yet this one it's only 30 pages so I read the whole thing and they think that so don't don't don't kid yourself you have to make sure that you put your head down Rabbi says you do it's hard I can tell you from my experience it's hard it's hard every day till this day but that's the secret that's the secret if it's again not just somebody that calls himself Rabbi so point is is that you have to have you know someone that's a p you have to have a living Rabbi that's G to guide you influence you you could also have somebody that's a rabi or just simply that you're learning with is a somebody you could learn with you could also have another Rabbi it's the rabbi of the K you know he doesn't necessarily need to be your Rabbi he's just a Rabbi that perhaps maybe once in a while you ask AIC questions you exchange ideas you uh he tells you allow not allowed there basic things where could I find this where could I find that so you're going to have multiple rabbis but the two key ones that you have to have and you simply can't live without is one you have to go by a certain pek and two you have to go by a certain Rabbi that's going to be your your specific Rabbi that's going to be your influencer those are the two main ones the other ones generally are changeable they change over time you move away your K is usually not going to come with you you move away that Rabbi that has the is not moving away with you you know so certain things are going to change over time but those two other ones generally are not supposed to change those are not supposed to change but those are usually the most difficult relationships to maintain why because they hurt your ego the most they hurt your ego the most they make you feel like you're this big the most and the reason why is because you learned Al doesn't make any sense to you but you know that R said that so who are you next to R zero nothing so if he said it that's it it's allowed not allowed allowed not allow whatever he said it's allowed why you go do what he did you go learn as much as he did you'll be right also reality is you see Okay no Okay why did he say allow not allowed then you look at his book and you see that he has 150 200 300 400 different sources over the last 2,000 years that remembers over the top of his head to prove his case you go remember five sources maybe I'll give you a reward I'll give you a plastic reward you can walk around I have an award look look I know five things he knows a few hundred off top of his head just for one answer he had a radio show back in I think it was 607s and they recorded the entire they uh recorded the show and ended up publishing a bunch of books people would call into the show they would ask him questions and he would give him the questions would ask him questions and he would give him answers with sources 50 150 300 400 sources off the top of his head and every so often the uh the uh the guy that was the uh host of the radio show would say I just want to tell you the rabbi does not have any books in front of him nor does he know any of the questions ahead of time and he would literally give you sources of all of the pusim over the last Thousand Years 1500 years off the top of his head for any questions you asked you guys are impressed by why I know a few questions you asked me about yes or no or whether you know hem is going to help you or not what do I know it's a person so if he said yes or no your ego minimized that's because you think you should have you should even have an ego so same concept goes with when it comes to the delivering Rabbi because sometimes delivering Rabbi is going to tell you to do things that you don't really want to do he's going tell you you need to move to a certain place he's going to tell you that you need to address a certain way he's going to tell you to read something you don't feel like reading he's going to tell you to even uh learn how to sleep learn how to go to the bathroom you know basic things that most people think that as men as women we should know by oursel no you don't I'll tell you to go say I'm sorry to your wife after she uh she yelled at you she yelled at you but going to tell you go say I'm sorry to your wife come on Rabbi I thought you're on my side no I'm not on your side I'm on the side of slite I'm on the side ofite that's what I'm on the side of go tell your wife I'm sorry yeah but she's the one that yelled exactly she yelled at you yeah okay go say I'm sorry why he yelled at you go say I'm sorry why but he's the one that yelled at me he came into the house like some uh monster yelling screaming for no reason I've been working all day taking care of the kids he comes to me like some gam comes to the house treats me like I'm some sh some cleaning lady yells at me like I didn't cook it's not hot enough it's not this and you want me to go say I'm sorry Rabbi yes why yeah but he's wrong okay so say I'm sorry then so what happens when I'm right say I'm sorry also what happens if I'm wrong you say I'm sorry also regardless you say I'm sorry why you want to be right or you want to be married which one you want so sometimes the Rab's going to tell you that he's going to tell you to go and minimize your ego and make yourself into nothing and go say I'm sorry it's hard but it's necessary so this is uh the most critical tool that a person can have as far as their chva as far as their life in this world they have to glue themselves to a and if they could have an opportunity to have even multiple they should have but last thing I would mention about this topic and I think we'll finish for the night unless you guys have some pressing questions is that if you're going to ask multiple multiple rabbis of questions you have to know there are actually ethical rules that comes with questions meaning if you have a question doesn't matter what the question is and you've already asked one Rabbi and whether you liked what he said or not is's irrelevant you got an answer and you want to get a second opinion a third opinion a fourth opinion you want to ask rabis can can I can I you have to the second time you ask that question you have to give that Rabbi that you're asking the question the answer you got from a different Rabbi at the same time that you're asking the question Rabbi can I do such and such and then add Rabbi so and so said yes you're not allowed to ask the question without giving them the answer that's a sin from the Tora that's putting a obstacle in front of a blind why because it is possible that that Rabbi gave you an answer because he knows you better so he gave you a specific answer and this Rabbi that doesn't know you as well is not going to give you that answer and it may make him look like he's wrong and he's not wrong he's right generally speaking just not for your case or perhaps he knows you better than the other guy doesn't know you the point being is that if you already have an answer you have to give the answer with the question you have to give the answer with the question if you don't have an answer you don't have an answer but if you can ask multiple rabis questions you have to have some patience ask one at a time get the answer then ask the second one don't be like spam send your question to 87 different rabbis on email and hope all of them answer and then compare and contrast whose answer is what aside from being annoying that also makes you unethical so remember there's there's a very famous Story the the that cried wolf eventually nobody answered him eventually nobody answered him but the wolf actually came you understand so it's important to you also you have to glue yourself to but you also have to remember the be careful because when they bite they bite like the fox that's what says they bite they're fire so that means that if you are going to go on the wrong side of a it's not a good idea it's not a good idea some of the stories you hear from the for example he thought one one tamid was making fun of him he thought one tamid was in a crowd one Tam was in the crowd and that had a split lip so it looked like he was always smiling so the so who was old looked at him and he thought he's making fun of him because of his K he looked at him with his eyes died on the spot now it's not murder it's not because didn't want to kill him but because of his Holiness the fact that he upset him because he's making fun of him has says oh he has no right to live but then when he found out that he's not making fun of him he put him back to you know he resurrected him from the dead but the point being abai is that even though this is a story from 1500 2,000 years ago point is it teaches us that we have to be careful we can't just treat him like it's an average Joe you know and a lot of people do this very common especially with internet age where it's so easy to send questions to 87 different rabbis on WhatsApp or on email like it's spam don't do that ask the question be patient and uh you know and you'll get the answer and when you get the answer you want to ask another opinion second opinion there's no problem you can ask for a thousand opinions but you have to include them with the question because that way the people that are uh answering you are going to theci side also not necessarily just uh you know how to answer you but whether to answer you sometimes they'll just decide not to answer you why because you already have an answer there's no need somebody else needs their time there's no need you know when you have a lot of questions you have to decide what's priority what's not priority so that's it any more pressing questions or we're going to go home we're good you guys enough you guys had your uh all the answers thank you very much for learning with me next time we're going to see each other is going to be here on Sunday thank you very much to school vot 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