SHOVAVIM, Fixing MAZAL, Modeling, Torah Discounts, HEAVEN, Jewish Daughter - STUMP THE RABBI (35)

[Music] to our question questions and answers uh Wednesday here in charion we uh hopefully you guys have some questions tonight hopefully a few more people show up um the she will be for foran Ben Karina um David benor Bora Leana bataran sah but Andor and all of so uh this week we uh started a new SE in the we have seph and uh for anyone who doesn't know the uh entire seph throughout the time we read seph is called it's the time where uh kazal says this is a very precious time very key time to do the tiim for and the chuva for wasting seed uh for immorality um so uh you notice that several things that are mentioned in the uh in discuss it uh but uh more so than anything else this is an opportunity for people to do cha because here is where our nation started this is where the blessing is also uh discussed right from the beginning of what happens when uh blesses you it's uh you don't have really uh to worry about whether you're going to be able to have a kid not going to be able to have a kid whether you're going to find a z not going to find a z a lot of the common problems that I hear about today that young people have is these things that are just pretty much self-induced stress someone asked me today uh is it allowed to go to a doctor uh to see if I'm able to have kids and I asked them are you sick you know because the doctors the traditional way of finding out if a man can have kids is uh through a sperm count now there are ways to do the same thing with blood uh but nonetheless uh question is why are you doing it more so of how you're going to do it while you're doing it you know doing the sperm count is really not a uh not allowed uh but uh there are different exceptions to the rule but nonetheless generally speaking not allowed and if it's ever going to be allowed you have to have a specific P give you the for your specific situation which is dire circumstance and the reason why is because the rambam writes that every time seed comes out of your your body and does not go where it's supposed to which is your your wife's body then you're it's considered that you are a murderer you just murdered every single one of those Souls that came out uh and uh a lot of bad things happen as a result of it so the guy asked me can I do it and I told them are you sick before we say yes no why are you sick that's the real question why because to think that uh of the different leniencies and if it's allowed not allowed first let's see is it needed and he says to me to my surprise no perfectly fine I'm just curious I'm just curious why is he curious cuz he's stressed out like most people in this generation everyone is stressed out last night when I was on the way home I got a message from somebody and uh he asks me uh what happens if uh someone is looking for shid and he can't find it and uh is it possible that he lost his shid it possible he lost is anywhere in the Tor that he lost the now he says now he knows that things that I say in the he watches the he says I'm doing I keep I keep shabat I do all the things but it's still possible because maybe uh you know the parents are a little bit difficult or the guy is a little picky or the this one it's a possible just lose the so the only thing I know of for sure that causes a person to lose their is sins specifically speaking wasting seed when a person wastes seed they could potentially get the punishment from Heaven to lose their now can they get it back yes if they do Chu and a has Mercy on them like he always has on us uh then they could potentially get back but the says that the uh the shid of a person comes based on his actions based on her actions if he's righteous he gets a modest woman if he's wicked he gets a immodest woman and the asks what does one thing have to do with the other if he's righteous he should get a righteous woman not a modest what does it have to do with the other so Rashi on the place over there says if she's modest then most likely she's righteous that's why the righteous guy the sadik gets a modest woman if he's not righteous if he's a Ras then he gets a not modest woman why Rashi says if she's not modest she's definitely not righteous you cannot be righteous and at the same time an enemy of hem why an enemy of hem because anytime you're a woman and you walk around emodest other people look at you some of those people are Jews some of those people are non-jews and they're going to look at you and they're going to have they're going to have different thoughts in their mind they're going to go to think take him to places that don't belong they're going to think of you in different ways and different this and different that and they're going to end up making sins because of you which means that you are a walking bionuclear weapon you're killing people just simply by being next to them they don't have to be with you they don't have to touch you they don't have to talk to you just have they look at you one time they see you walking around IM that's it you just killed them says you're just killing my kids you're killing my creation how could I love you how could I expect accept your prayer so a person that is a rash gets a woman that's a r how she she walks around modest even if she puts on the candles for Shabbat even if she keeps Shabbat even if she eats kosher if she's not modest says she's in a book of now this is a very very difficult thing for women to accept because many women love the MIT some women I wish I wish they were guys some of the women that watch the sh I wish they were guys they are M the best students in the world they show up on time unlike you people they uh they uh they do a lot of good things they do a lot of good things they learn every shoe not like they're doing me a favor they watch they love the shoe they send questions they give answers all types of wonderful things these women I wish they were guys the problem is they dress like guys why they walk around with tank tops they walk around with shorts and that's a problem why because all of the that you're watching are all going to the they're all going to give power to the why because unfortunately until you do CH for modesty as a woman you simply are putting yourself in the book of so that's why it's very very critical for a woman to be modest and I know it's difficult because the tells you it's too hot tells you it's too old makes you look like an old lady to put a K on makes you look like an old lady to put a long skirt on makes you look like this makes you look like that which is all stupid and lies why I've never seen a modest woman complain about our clothes I've never seen a modest woman complain about how she looks all of the questions that she has is usually before she starts putting on M's clothes after she decides okay from now on I'm wearing mest clothes she doesn't complain about it anymore why because she realized the whole thing is fake it's not too hot and she doesn't look like an old lady and the reality is she's finding that people are finding her even more attractive a husband finds it more attractive yeah but what about a woman that has a husband where he tells her listen you put on a k I'm leaving you you put on on your head I'm leaving you the Z says on a person like this that husband is he's cursed from Heaven he's not going to be able to have good living whatever money he makes is all going to go to bills it's all going to get a medical expenses it's all going to go to the IRS not gonna have any B in his P he is cursing himself by telling his wife not to put on does she have to listen to him she's forbidden to listen to him doesn't matter what he says he can yell he can scream he can do whatever you want he can even threaten to do a get say to give me a get then I rather you give me a get than give me G as she should tell him that's the reality so now a woman that's not modest she's married she hasn't she's not modesty she even if she's single she has a very serious problem with why because she's creating Sinners so now since guys today standard guy unfortunately has sinned many times either by himself or with somebody even sometimes with his own wife he didn't know he wasn't allowed to do certain things so kazal gave us a special tun special ASP time auspicious time to do tiim for the breit which is during the entire time that we read seph Exodus we start with the blessing that we see that went from being 70 people at the end for the first over 2,400 years more uh 2,600 years of creation what do we finish with at the end of SE 70 Jews that's what we had the first half of this world we have what's say around 5700 years or so 5780 first almost 3,000 years almost 3,000 years how many Jews we have in the world we have 70 Yak the their wives That's it grandkids that's it finished 70 already beginning of seph you're not fast forwarding that much 200 years we're already in the millions the says we were in the hundreds of millions hundreds of millions we're not talking about uh uh you know like today we have 15 million that we barely even know if they're Jewish or not no we're talking about hundreds of millions hundreds so you're going to say wait a minute where where did they all go says told okay it's time to leave the slavery it's time to leave the it's time to leave Egypt let's go go to the desert get to Mount saai accept my Torah Unfortunately they didn't want to leave their they didn't want to leave leave their business they didn't want to leave their house they didn't want to leave why they said listen we were slaves already for over a hundred years over here finally we're not slaves let us live in peace we don't want to go to the desert there's danger over there there scorpions there's snakes the size of houses who wants to go in such a place some people from the tribe of Ephraim left early or Benyamin left early they got killed in the desert we want to go no we're going to stay here yeah but don't you realize that is the one that told you he's going to protect you he's going to take you oh no they they forgot that part it's like you know people say yeah I like Shabbat I just uh I like driving more I said yeah but don't you realize that aosh is the one that says Don't drive on Shabbat because why didn't he say it I said fourth Commandment fourth Commandment he says do not drive on Shabbat no God said it fourth Commandment go look look it up don't drive on Shabbat God said it so what happens people uh oh wow he really said it oh wow okay so if you really say it listen now goes It's hard wait but you said that the only problem is he didn't know that God said it now I showed you that God said it now how come it's still hard well you know what happens to people that say oh it's hard says leave Egypt leave leave your houses go to the desert where it looks dangerous but don't worry I'll take care of you they say we're not ready it's hard says you know what it's hard okay so I'll kill you then instead and he killed 99% of them 99% of them that's what the mid says says only two people out of every million only two people out of every million left Egypt one out of every 500,000 now some say no no it was 20 it was 20 out of every hundred meaning 200,000 out of of a million that's the conservative estimate meaning he killed 80% but the mid says no everybody knows it's not that they just trying to make you feel good everybody knows it's nothing less than one out of five 5,000 but in reality it's possible it's one out of 500,000 meaning two out of every million why they said it's hard it's hard to keep the MIT it's hard to leave the this okay say it's hard okay you lost your life your right to exist now how many did we have many how do we get so many says in beginning in the first chapter verse number seven says the children of Israel were fruitful teed increased became strong very very much so and the land became filled with them and kazal on the spot over there says that for every adjective every description that magnified their their uh their um uh success of increasing is one baby is describing one extra baby in every birth meaning since there are six adjectives describing their increas in population every birth with six babies every time a woman was carrying for nine months six little babies came out sometimes more so imagine average Little Couple they get married at 16 17 years old you know those days it weren't like today married at 45 in those days sometimes sometimes they get married 12 12 years old they already married so imagine little 16-year-old she already gave birth to a second pair already she's got 12 kidsim by the time she's in our 30s she's got 60 70 kids you need a you need an 18 wheel to feed them breakfast what do you want for breakfast by the time you finish getting the orders it's already lunch by the time you got you already lunch you're producing them producing but guess what you got helpers too got a lot of free help but that's how we got to the point of being Millions meaning a who says in order to get you from being just a few million to being a few billion it's easy for me in order for you to go from being homeless M homeless in the streets with nothing to eat to being the richest man in the world hasem says in a second I can do it yadik was worse than homeless worse than homeless he's in jail in a hole in the bottom of the ground 12 years he's there Gom was looking at like you know what maybe we're going to do something some of the things they're doing in that jail it's got good ideas over there that's how bad a situation was in his jail for 12 years 1 second Same Day within a matter of minutes becomes the king the amount of money that par gave him on day one the signing bonus made him the richest man in the world says it's easy for me to turn your situation around to you it's hard why cuz you're thinking you have to do something you have to go make money you have to go get a job you have to go sign a deal you have to get a good client you have to have this you have to have that only thing you have to do is be Glu to me glued to me I can do anything I want why because now you're not giving me any reasons to destroy your now the problem is is that when we teach mitv when we teach mitv to little kids we teach to converts we teach to really what you're supposed to teach you're supposed to First teach them what not to do not what to do what not to do don't drive on Shabbat don't eat which is non kosher uh Meat part of the cow uh don't eat non Kosher meat in general don't uh you know hang out with bad people don't do illegal business business like cash advance and otherwise don't do a lot of this stuff why cuz if you do it you're going to lose all yeah what about put oning what about uh you know have a nice candles for Shabbat you know spend three $400 just on the things that hold them what about that stuff it's nice right yeah it's nice but it's not significant enough to teach you that first what's the most significant first teach you what not to do what not to do that's how the Torah works this is why the Tora says first we have to fear hem then we have to love him and kazal explains because we do not decrease in Kusa the first you cannot teach a person to just love AEM why because loving Hashem is to a lesser extent than fearing AEM it's lesser extent now when a person understands that fear ofm is critical already he knows already she knows okay what does it mean fear AEM a bunch of stuff not to do don't go to places that you're not supposed to go to don't do certain things you're not supposed to do to so when you fear hem already it alleviates all of your crimes all of the things that are destroying the blessing that hasm wants to give you now when a person does not have real fear of hem or he has fear of hem sometimes when it's convenient you know like one of those people he fears AEM until he doesn't she fears AEM until there's a uh wedding she fears hm all year all year she puts a K on but if somebody's getting married all of a sudden the K goes in the laundry she forgot it home he goes all the he does everything but one of his friends says listen you want to go to a basketball game want to go to a basketball game oh sure for sure yeah absolutely absolutely yeah what else would I be doing oh you not going on a sh that night no no sh I get the next night next night I'm you what does it mean it means that all of the times that he did MIT all of that that he showed people it's all fake why he didn't have any any any yet showed up with a basketball tickets yet showed up with a girl yet showed up with a guy yet showed up with a dog yet showed up with a cat whatever shows up he gives up everything throws AEM in the in the laundry that's that's what I mean by it says yet they have sometimes it's fake it's not see they have it you don't have it so says I want to give you blessings look what I did to even before they kept my entire Torah I multipli them to the extent where they went from 70 people to Millions to hundreds of millions that that everything until obviously par changed the whole deal and everything else they were doing okay they had their own City they had everything why did he change it why did hasm change the whole thing because B is started peing into the world of the gim oh they have basketball games there let's have basketball games in our synagogue oh they have uh football over there let's have football league uh in our synagogue oh they have a casino there let's have casino night in our synagogue they started peing into the world of the go so Goen turn into a mini Las Vegas sometimes not all year round just sometimes K says either you're with me or not with me you're not with me you're with the go okay so I'll let the going and take control we lost the blessing not because we didn't do we lost the blessings because of sins we l the blessings because of sins not because that's why seot is a key opportunity for all of us to do chuva for immorality immorality includes wasting seed immorality includes promiscuity immorality includes immodesty immorality is something that in A's eyes this is the symbol of of the this is the symbol of Judaism this is what distinguishes us from all of the other nations says you be holy because I am Holy and what makes a Jew more holy than a non-jew modesty a non-jew doesn't have he wants a girl she wants the guy no problem they're not allowed to Shalom adultery or rape or anything like that but they like each other they want to be together no problem you don't have to go to court the guy goes with the girl they go they go to the same house they're intimate that's it in hm's eyes they're married now the next morning they both wake up T they don't like each other anymore they don't have to go to the divorce office they they said okay I don't like you I don't like you goodbye okay we're not married anymore not married anymore now should they be promiscuous do this every day no obviously not will hate that but the point being there's no for non-jews but to be a Jew you have to go through uh DNA tests these days if you ask they actually do take DNA tests why because there's certain things in the blood of Asim that if uh that could actually certain diseases that they're careful of and so on when two ashim that are religious get married before they get married they do tests to see if Shalom two blood types are uh are bad match if you will and it could create problematic children this is in recent generation in the past they wouldn't do it but the point being is that even without the DNA test before you get married before you get the girl before you get the guy you have to have the interview the rabbi the father the mother the brothers this that who's our brothers she have good Brothers she doesn't have good Brothers oh forget it forget it what do you mean but her brothers what does it have to do with her listen if her brothers like that maybe all types all types of things then finally okay she likes him he likes her oh the brothers are good the sisters are good everything is good okay how much money you got what do you mean how much money I got don't you just want the girl no no no want the girl on the money yeah I don't have any money okay you don't have any money you can't have my son what what do you mean I need this to get married then finally you agreed on the money you've signed all everything is good okay now you have to have a you got to go through you have to understand what does it say oh you're buying this girl what does it mean buying this girl you're not buying anybody no no I'm really buying you you're mine now how much you going to give me if you don't do this you have to agree how much you g to give her if you mess up you mess up you decide you don't want to next week okay no problem pay for it why because a is is not some is not some Z that you could just get from the street a is is expensive in's eyes you can't just rent her for a week you mess up up you think you're fooling around you think that you're having a game you're going to touch you're going to pay for it one way or the other no no but she likes me if you don't have a doesn't like you doesn't like you if you don't have a you didn't sign a and you're touching says you have a you have business with me you have a problem with me why you're touching my daughter without even talking to me so unfortunately many of us never knew any of this stuff growing up so you thought you had a koser relationship everything was good she was even Jewish he was even Jewish everything is good says without you have a very serious problem why without a she's not allowed to go to the mik she's not going to the mik you touch her you you do something with her by the way what' you do you go to and the book of IUS I think is chapter 20 verse number 17 says what happens to a person with what's how long forever just a little bit longer why I was having a good time okay I have a good time you touch my says you touch my daughter without a without aik you have a serious problem so since unfortunately the vast majority of people will have committed one of these crimes like I said either by themsel or with somebody said this is an auspicious time to do the T of the breit why because all year we cry to a that we don't have enough blessing we want a bigger house even though sometimes the house is 10 rooms we want 11 rooms one 15 rooms one 100 rooms even though you only have two all the kids already are not home but you want a bigger house and you want a bigger this and you want a big of that everybody wants more that's a reality the uh a person never has enough so says okay listen I want to give you more look what they did foru 70 people to hundreds of millions I want to give it to you stop sinning why because the sins are destroying the about 250 years ago we had a named the and his uh in his seph called sh and sa 670 to 74 he writes the following wake up the person that violated his breit he is destroying a lot he's hurting a lot he's hurting every part of his you know you have different parts of your Nish he's hurting every one of them every one of the parts of the Nish is getting destroyed imagine there is a one of these uh you know these these ships they have the the the the ropes that they use they're not like regular ropes you buy from Like Home Depot these ropes need very special skill men to make these ropes to tie on top of tie and top of tie they're very very thick they're very very strong so no one could just cut it like in the movies one little knife cuts the Rope it doesn't really work like that in real life these ropes they use in ships very thick so imagine that in metal even stronger imagine that connected to all of the all of the reward all of the good that wants to give you that comes to the different parts of your comes through this core now anytime we make a little sin we like scratch the cord a little cable little tiny thing comes off so there's a little bit less that we get a little bit less that we get a little bit less that we get you know we forgot to do not to let you die ah little little less now you uh didn't put on for a week straight okay you got a problem Oh you uh forgot you touched M on shabat okay you got a little problem you ate something not koser okay you got a little problem but generally still connected still connected you do CH returns says the is saying what is he saying that you're damaging this breit what is he saying he's saying when you waste seed you simply take spiritual sword and you cut the whole cord the whole thing's off not small piece the whole thing's gone all of the reward that wanted to give you on when you prayed and you cried your eyes out and you said I want a baby I want a wife I want a this I want that I want this I want that says my son my my dear son my daughter my I'm sorry I can't I can't why you cut the cord if I give it it's going to go somewhere else what is it like it's like when a pipe breaks you know as long as the pipe is connected the water or whatever is supposed to come through it the oil the whatever is supposed to come through it goes exactly to the destination says there's continuous reward going there I'm giving I'm giving I'm giving it's not getting to you though it's going to other places why you cut the cord the pipe's everywhere it's all over the place goes to your neighbor goes to your enemies goes to your ex-wife goes to your ex-husband goes to your ex this goes to to everybody else except you goes to bills goes to the IRS goes to Medical goes to all the problems in the world you cannot keep a single Dollar in your account it's coming says but it cannot stay with you why you cut the cord so says this hurts every part of the and in the signature of the king meaning it's a personal offense to the King of Kings and he's also hurting the part of the Soul that's still in sham the one that whatever is here is over there he says even the one that's over there the perfect Soul that's up there that other part this is cabalistic stuff don't ask me questions about this this stuff the part that's over there even that's getting hurt every time you're killing yourself he says on this sin who hates this sin so much he killed the two children of Y who was two of his kids died he says even though they were only eight years old so don't ever say oh no no this sin is only for Jews no were not Jews this is before Judaism was only born in Mount sa oh no this sin is only for big people only for adults not my friend were eight years old who hates this sin so much he killed him at 8 years old now even though eight years old was different back then than is today they were much more developed nonetheless still the Tora specifically mentions that they were only 8 years old K mentioned specifically 8 years old to show you to teach us there's no age on this on this uh sin K hates it in every in every aspect and that's why the zor says this sin whoever does it doesn't matter what the age is they get punished for it other sins a person makes before 13 years old are not even considered sins other sins the person makes between the age of 13 and 20 13 and 20 he's already a boyy a big boy 13 and 20 has a lot of Mercy on him he only starts judging him on 20 and after doesn't mean that below 20 doesn't judge him meaning he has time for he gives him time before he starts punishing him gives him time gives him more time to do chuva this specific sin he already gets punished already now based on this sin this sin was the one thing that caused the flood Noah's FL destroyed the entire world based on the sin there is no sin in the entire world that creates more demons than this sin than the wasting seed says you make a mitvah you create yourself an angel you make a sin you create a prosecutor against you the angel is your Defender the demon is your prosecutor that's one mitvah that means that your Mitzvah creates something you may not see it but it creates something you just uh about to drink you said a blessing you just created an angel you had real kav this Angel is very strong you made a little sin you you drank without a you created a demon no but the says something different he says this sin there's no sin in the world in the entire Torah that makes more demons than this why because it's not one demon that's created every single seed that comes out of the person's body is an individual demon of its own it's a prosecutor against you on its own you're talking about hundreds of millions per one action this person that just wasted seed he's delaying the mashiah he's delaying the mashiach the whole world is waiting for mashiach why because of you because you wanted to have a good time at 12:00 in the afternoon with yourself with your girlfriend with your this with your that the mashia is delayed again because of you so don't start telling me no no mashia Mash no no mashia stop stop wasting seed that'll be better all the songs because we see in page 63 and also in page3 that benia is not gonna come until all of the that that are in a place called goof which is a spiritual world where all of the wait to to this world until all of them are emptied from there mashia is not coming when a person waste seed they're creating the sh but no bodies so what happens they can't they're not fulfilling their role this creates a thicker shell on top of the Soul of a person and this is the biggest this causes the biggest anguish and pain to heaven and in all of the worlds that Hashem has and delays all of the Salvation that hm wants to give to the world and woe to him and to his un Misfortune and his lack of mazal if he doesn't do because after he dies they're going to take account on him for everything every single time he did it every single time she led to it she walked around somebody looked at her she became an image in some guy's head he did it she had a boyfriend he had this every single time not sometimes not when you were this not when you were that not when you were drunk and not when you were high every single time he says aside from the anguish that he will have on the sin itself he he'll even have a bigger pain a bigger uh sorrow over the fact that we are now in a 6,000 meaning he's not going to have a time to redo this no more reincarnation no more do no more no more second chance this is your last chance you're alive your chance and this 6,000 is theod it's the foundational thousand year of creation meaning it's everybody's last chance meaning it's the whole uh purpose of this time in in the world is to fix the foundation of what's the the breit the breit is theod you look at the cabala different drawings of the body with different things it shows there's different parts of the body are called different things theod is the area of the sex organs and his horrible actions are destroying this Foundation here we see that is not a it's not a stringency it's not some mystical teaching unfounded and unheard of this is the foundation of Judaism it's the foundation and a person that does not take the opportunity to fix this part of themselves is simply missing a chance of a lifetime because it's not easy and not cheap to fix it now the first thing that a person needs to do to fix this is understand that every single addiction no matter what it is whether it's addiction to immorality addiction to promiscuity an addiction to gambling an addiction to drugs an addiction to food an addiction to anything is simply by definition a desire not a disease the AAS of and the likes will tell you that your addiction is a disease oh you're you're promiscuous that's a disease you're an alcoholic that's a disease you're a drug addict that's a disease you're sick no no my friend you're not sick you have an you have an addiction that's a desire what's the difference between desire and sickness if you tell me that my addiction is a sickness there's no cure you can't go to CVS or Walgreens or the local pharmacy and say oh listen I got a sex addition you have any anything over the counter I could take to stop it there's no there's no cure I have a food addiction can you uh I can't stop eating can you give me a a pill maybe an Advil or two it's going to stop me from eating no my friend if it's a disease there's no cure that means that you're going to be self you know just miserable horrible and it's just going to get worse you might as well just leave this world but if it's a desire that means it's within your power to overcome it regardless of how strong this desire is I got a student that used to be addicted to drugs very very heavy drugs the heaviest there are I spoke to him four years ago explained to him exactly what I'm telling you now four maybe five years ago explained to him everything that I told youash he took it even further and bem today is as clean as can be and he's now teaching other people how to overcome this desire how to overcome this desire not the sickness there are several people that I know that have addiction to food one person found found out from their doctor that if they continue eating the way that they're eating they're probably not going to finish the year suddenly the desire was under control suddenly the desire became a desire not an addiction not a disease he thought he was sick he thought he couldn't stop eaing until the doctor said you're going to die and all of a sudden the the sickness became a desire sometimes you need to get scared to death in order to realize it's just a desire it's not it's not a sickness the rambam writes that the strongest desire on a human being is a desire the addiction to the desire of immorality of wasting seed strong as desire why that's the only reason the body exist for this purpose if it wasn't for us having a Mitzvah of procreation would simply not have any bodies there's no point for the body that's the point of the body the woman's point of her bodies to have babies and and the male is is his part is to bring the seed that's going to help create the baby that's it other than that there's no purpose for the body every other mitvah could do without it meaning the r writes this Desires in essence it's part of the reason of why why you have a body hence the reason why it's so addictive but the difference between us and animals is we have to be able to control our desires you don't control your desire who says you're an animal so every single time a person sins in this situation they have a very very serious problem most critical is that they're destroying their mazal she walks around imod she likes to wear things that are really tight or things that don't cover her whole body and the likes she's destroying her mazal even if she finds a husband it's not going to be the best it's going to be like one of those uh I wish I never met him it's going to be like one of those people was like ah I can't believe I was married to that guy yeah but you're beautiful he's beautiful Everything Is Beautiful yeah everything is beautiful on the outside like the celebrities Everything Is Beautiful on the Outside Inside rotten if a person is not doing chva for this is for this sin is mazal is gone the guy could get a job making 100,000 a month 100,000 a month is a lot of money should be fine you should be good you should have everything you want you don't fix this you have 100,000 a month and you have nothing at the same time why you see you see it in the world highest suicide rates according to the US government is among the upper class among the rich people among the people that make more than 100,000 a month over 70% of suicides are by the rich people over 70% you're talking about a a a ridiculous number if you're say oh 50 50 okay you know what no no no over 70% of my rich people how many celebrities kill themselves every single year of every overdose intentional and unintentional how many people are going to clinics for depression for anxiety they made a multi-billion dollar industry to help people not kill themselves because they're depressed oh I'm alone what do you mean you're married with five kids I feel alone why you feel alone what's the matter with you I feel like I have nothing what do you mean nothing last night I check your bank account you have more money the bank said uh you should open a bank what do you mean you have nothing the bank is borrowing money from you what do you mean I have nothing I feel I have nothing why you're making all this money cuz you don't have mazal the real blessing you don't have you're missing it the money's going to the wrong places the feelings are going to the wrong places Hashem is giving you all the things that make you look good but unfortunately you cannot enjoy it every year they report the deaths of who died in the last year secular year on the who's who's list you know the celebrities the billionaires and so on and when you find out more about these people's lives like there's one billionaire that died maybe six months ago this guy Katch David kch had more money than than you can count one of the for 500 probably 40 50 60 billion dollars died you read the details of this person's life you say I think it's better than being gay you go you look at some of these celebrities lives celebrity lives that you know they kill themselves they died whatever it was you look at the details of their life I'm not saying how many houses they have they can't take the house to to to to the next World I'm not saying how much money they have and in the buildings I'm talking about their real life what are they going to be remembered for no one's going to remember you for your building you built no one cares no one's going to remember you that you you invented some car no one cares what good did you produce in the world you see what good nightmare of life one after another why who makes it where the the shef comes but not to where it's supposed to not where it's supposed to so this is an auspicious time to do chva now the good news is if a person does chuv serious chuv serious chv for immodesty serious CH for immorality they can get to the level ofes and I'll prove it to you what's chuva Chua is first stop first stop stop being promiscuous stop being immoral with yourself or with other people watch your eyes don't even look at yourself a person should never look at themselves naked male or female never you don't need to look at yourself what are you checking if it's still there if it wasn't there I promise you you'll know there's no reason for you to ever look at yourself watching your eyes and not looking at IM modest woman that's a given that's obvious you have to be uh you know special Le for me to explain that to you that's a given of course you have to watch your eyes and not look at women I'm talking about not look at yourself that's what watching your eyes means watching your eyes means don't look at yourself you go take a shower you don't you don't look you just you do whatever you got to do sponge don't tdge don't look nothing why Kish don't touch don't look nothing don't be comfortable with yourself that's number one m or female I know females will even have a bigger problem than this because they love to look at themselves but don't look at yourself there's no need if it's for medicinal reasons health reasons things like that obviously is an issue you have to do what you got to do but I'm talking about on a regular basis when it's unnecessary don't be so comfortable with your nakedness that's number one number two don't look at other people if your local mik has a bunch of people thinking that they're in Roman Greece walking around naked don't go there anymore the says places like that create more demons than mitv many of these mik people think that they're in Rome and Greece they walk around naked just because all guys and all girls no Shalom you're in a mik there other people walk around naked you leave why you're not allowed to look at them either yeah but I'm a guy I'm not I'm not attracted doesn't make a difference you're never allowed to to to look at another guy in fact says a boy is not allowed to look at his own father a boy is not allowed to look at his own father needless to say the stranger that's you also find that now why modest is not just how what clothes you wear it's where your eyes go then after you've watched your eyes you're not watching any this filth on the Internet or on televisions and on phones and whatever else other tools that the Satan uses sometimes you watch your eyes you stop the action you have a girlfriend you break up or you get married right away one or the other whatever comes first you're not ready to get married okay goodbye why every single day you're with her you have a very serious problem with whatever blessing want to give you you're destroying it yeah but we're not touching for now for now next a person needs to learn about this topic and become an expert in it that's part of the tun itself we have over 70 about this topic long and short and there's both a CD coming out and a USB coming out with all of those teachings you could get it on the internet for free you can get the CDs when they're out finally point being is that every time somebody sends me the questions oh I have a problem I already know what the problem is I got to talk to you there's no need to talk to you I'll just send you the playlist no need to talk don't embarrass yourself I already know don't worry it's okay you're not the only one I got thousand other like you every day nothing embarrassing Oh I thought I was the only one I wish would be here if you were the only one I'd come to your house and help you teach you every Al Under the Sun you're finished but within a week you're the biggest sadik in the world if who one unfortunately it's an epidemic so first you got to stop then you got to learn you learn everything you got to learn all of theu and got to become an expert in it listen to it like it's music listen to it like it's the most important thing in the world become kados sanctify yourself kados Kad means your eyes your mind your ears your everything only thinks about you cannot think about a if you're constantly wasting seeds not possible you cannot think about a if your eyes are constantly looking at pornography or immodesty or PG-13 movies and not 13 movies and rated R movies and G no movies you cannot watch your eyes as long as your eyes go where they shouldn't go cannot watch your eyes whether you're a guy or a girl cannot think about that way you have to make yourself kados you have to help other people it's the next step you have to take these CDs you have take these and you have to spread them everywhere you possibly can why you have to get other people to do chva to make up for the crimes you've already made because you can't stop what you already did you could stop future but you got to get other people to stop best way to get other people to stop is don't do it yourself let me do it why I'm an expert you have to understand the situation of a person that's wasting seed or has wasted seed without cha is a dire situation what is it like it's like somebody that's on a Lifeline he's on borrowed time every day survive is a miracle that's a person that's currently wasting seed every single day stays alive is a miracle miracle M Miracle why CU you did it one time in your life says death penalty death penalty that's what says you did it five times a week five times a month five times a day every single day person's life is a death penalty so what's what's what's is a miracle supposed to be death penalty so what happens you have to fix it so now how you fix it don't take any unnecessary risks don't try to tell other people things that you're not an expert in first you got to learn it and then you also got to help them do it how don't you give them a CD because if you have an opportunity hm gave you the blessing he gave you a friend uh a classmate or whatever that doesn't know what's going on and you don't and and he's giving you an opportunity to help somebody and you have two choic you I could either give him a CD or give him a lecture or I can talk to him and you decide to be a superhero and start talking to him and he doesn't like your talk he thinks you're judging him he thinks you're uh you're you're you're criticizing him he doesn't do it you just missed out on this person is not going to do chuva you missed on an opportunity to fix yourself now you need a bunch of those guys you can't just get think oh one guy helped him do chuva finished everything no no you have to you have to get a lot of people do chuva so what do you do you give him one of these CDs you send the you give him the playlist you make sure that you give him something that works this works how do I know I know if it didn't work trust me I wouldn't get all the phone calls that I get and the people that do it the people that do it they're the happiest people in the world go look at the comments some of the people were uh so happy they made public they wrote public letters on our website on our YouTube page and different places of how it's changed their life Jews non-jews male female change their life so you have to help people do CH last but not least you have to do T which we talked about recently means every single time a person has sinned he has to give a certain amount of why because this is this CH is supposed to hurt just like you killed a or says you have to give something in replacement money is D money is considered like life so this T is is painful now if you have you give you don't have you don't give obviously Hashem is not expecting you to do something you can't do he's not giving you a mitvah to fly in the air why because he knows you can't fly he's not giving you a Mitzvah to uh to give a billion dollars and you're homeless obviously he knows that you're homeless so that's the but if you can give you give problem is a lot of people they have but they don't want to give why they're looking for another way can I do it another way is there something else that I could do instead of money can I just fast yeah go ahead fast 84 times for every single time by the time you finish the first fast you're going die no I'm going to fast for three days in a row go ahead M go five days in a row go go I'll come to your uh to your uh yite I'll visit your yite there's no one in this generation there's no one in this generation not even theim that could do the amount of fast that an average teenager is supposed to do no one meaning the only way to fix this is money every single time a person is trying something else this that the other thing simply what they're doing is they're being Pennywise dollar foolish they're trying to save a few pennies by wasting a bunch of dollars on other things don't be a don't be overly smart with hem simply if Hashem gave you a blessing do what you got to do you don't want to do it my boy God do what you got to do again I keep telling people this is not a Money Maker this is for people this is for people one thing I can tell you is that every single person that takes the advice of always wins always wins but unfortunately people have a hard heart and they don't want to listen so I'll tell you the last thing and then you guys can start asking me some questions I talked a little longer than usual I'm sorry but I think it was important to know now if a person does chuva stop wasting seed starts becoming a good person starts being generous starts uh being patient starts working on themselves what does that mean what happens to him I'm not going to tell you I'm just going to read why because if I tell you my opinion you're not gonna say ah you're move in it's crazy so I'm G tell you's opinion there's a book written by Shalom translated a part of it this is the Hebrew version but he translated a part of it in English he actually also translated this part that I'm about to read to you so you can buy it it's in section Al if but uh point being is that the M you know more than half of the book has not been translated he died before he was able to translate all of it but I'll translate this part for youi says the following in peric N first section Al there are certain this is in the um in the uh sh version of it there are different versions different of the T and other ones that could be per in 10 instead of nine and he says the following I I take the testimony Witnesses are the Heaven and the Earth meaning I swear I swear to the Heaven and the Earth says Ben Ben whether it's a Jew or non Jew Ben is Ben is whether it's a man or a woman Ben whether it's a male servant or a female servant everything is based on his behavior his actions based on his actions he can get to the level or she can get to the level of having meaning a woman a woman can getes even if she's not Jewish a man can getes even if he's not Jewish needless to say a Jew based on what what if I put on I put on 17 pres helps me no I keep two shabbats a week doesn't help you I give a lot of doesn't help you doesn't help you based on his actions meaning his behavior his character traits how humble he is how generous he is how arrogant he's not how angry he doesn't get actions that's what the entire Torah is based on actions we are a religion of action unlike the other religions that are religions of Faith Fai false faiths I believe why you believe in what I believe everything's going to be okay cuz Yos died for me where is Satan in that that anyone can die for you and you can make every crime Under the Sun where does it say that oh it doesn't say but it says it in a false Testament say yeah but false test never diedi came to the world to give us this book he had a student one of the T and they would learn every night together and he gives us this testimony from sh he says I swear to you no matter who you are no matter where you came from you fix yourself you can even get to a level ofes now don't start running around thinking after six months of doing chv you have you have maybe mental institution but the point is that every single person no matter where they came from and where they are today could fix themselves and sanctify themselves to such a level that they literally have a private relationship with to the point of meaning it doesn't matter what crimes we've made it matters what we're making what we're doing about it now everybody could do chuba everybody can fix everything doesn't you're alive you can fix it start with whatever you have now you have you have a uh ability to to keep Shabbat keep Shabbat if you're a Jew you have the ability to learn T learn T if you're a Jew learn T if you're not a Jew why because that me for everybody obviously the non Jew has to learn M specifically and the T A I'm sorry a Jew has to learn the entire Tor a non-jew has to learn specifically and T that's it he doesn't learn the rest of the mitvah because not relevant to him you're a woman you specifically learn the Mitzvah that have to do with you don't start learning over here like some of these people think that women start should start learning for what what is a woman going to learn start learning for you have to learn all the things that are relevant to you [Applause] modesty all things that are relevant to you you're gonna learn okay learn but you still don't know the basics of so the point is is that every person can sanctify themselves can fix their situation to such an extent that can look at you and say he's holy just like me she's holy just like me no matter where you were in your life no matter what damage you've made but if we don't the says woe to him and woe to his unfortune to miss Misfortune woe to her and wo to our Misfortune why she's not going to have any luck not going to have any fortune and unfortunately no matter what she adds physically it looks like the met the the the uh the uh the the poison of of the celebrity world from the outside it looks like they have everything but you start looking on the inside and saying what a cursed life what a cursed life outside looks like they have everything got a new car every week new house different places all the pictures they look good they never have a bad hair day even but then you see a suicide note right next to the body why because it's all fake it's all fake you shouldn't live a fake life you can get to the highest level a human being can get to with that being saidai take advantage of the of the uh time that we that we read seph is a time it's an auspicious time to do chuva for this issue it's an auspicious time to give for this issue it's an auspicious time to do CH in general uh with that being said who wants to start with the first question question how about give him the mic please um maybe I didn't understand correctly but um are you allowed to look at yourself in the mirror like if you're like half like your bottom half is covered but your top half isn't like just to like look at yourself to see like a a guy should uh as far as looking at your own nakedness you're not supposed to look at meaning your your private part is a uh is uh uncovered you're not allowed to look at yourself but as far as looking yourself uh in order to groom yourself and so on as a guy you have a Al to not act like a woman so a person has to understand that even though this generation uh the guys are very very feminine uh many guys sometimes are so feminine you cannot even tell that they're guys uh no be you this is not it's a reality you look at some guys you cannot even tell their guys sometimes uh they groom themselves so much they they start looking like girls um and uh they say no it's not it's true they're clothes they're their behavior so a guy has a mitvah to not be like a woman so he has to know that even grooming himself it's allowed you're allowed to groom yourself you don't have to look at a garbage pale you're allowed to groom yourself if you have a beard you're allowed to groom your beard if you want you don't have a beard you're allowed to do whatever you know fix your hair you're allowed to do basic things but don't become a woman meaning don't spend 20 minutes a half hour every morning in front of the mirror you want to look at yourself to fix something to see if you have something that looks off got a scratch got a zit or something I don't know you have something you want to fix no problem brush your teeth no problem but don't start becoming a woman where you're spending 25 minutes every morning fixing your hair because you want this one to be to the North Pole and that one to be to the South Pole and by the time you finish the west and the South are complaining no yeah you have to no you're a guy guys need to look like guys guys don't spend much time real guys do not spend much time uh you know tweezing their eyebrows don't do things that are feminine so this is Imports you're allowed to look at yourself but don't make it a uh womanly in so many words every guy understand understand what I mean by this I think I'm assuming but as far as looking yourself basically to see that you look fine that your shirt or whatever it is looks fine is not a problem I have another question ask question like let's say um you model for a company okay and they um they ask you to um to like look at yourself and like see if like you're good and like just they spend 30 minutes looking at yourself at is that bad or like if you're so the question is if you model for a company and you have to look at yourself or they're looking at you question is should be is modeling allowed modeling in general is a forbidden business for Jewish people and non-jews really and the reason why is because modeling the whole purpose of modeling generally speaking is in order to entice the yet of other people people in order to show the most uh uh attracting image of this person so even if the person looks like a uh he just came out of a garbage pil by the time they finish putting makeup on him and her he looks like he just came from ganeden and they want him to have a certain facial look that tells people you could be like me I want you you're the only one why cuz that's what that's what sells sex cells that's the reality so that by itself is forbidden being a uh a person that's in that business in general it's not a good idea to do it there's several reasons number one is because the the nature of the business is immoral because you're creating immorality they'll tell you uh to do things to act a certain way that's immoral that's not allowed so to drive people's uh sexual desires needless to say if you're a woman a woman there's no ugly woman that's uh in any modeling picture that ever existed in history and the reason why is because they want that woman to attract people so even the the average soap commercial has a naked woman even though it has nothing to do with the soap all I need to know if the soap smells good and if it actually works but for some reason they put a naked woman next to it what does it have to do with it oh there's new dog food what who's selling it naked women how come what does the naked woman have to do with where at the dog food why she eat the dog food too can I feed it to also do I get her in a package what happen what she everything has to do with nakedness and immorality modeling in general is a filthy filthy business now so that alone already is in a bad shape second reason why it's a bad business is because since their nature is to produce immorality from other people they themselves are immoral and that's the reason why many of them many of the models many of The Producers many of the photographers are very very promiscuous people and they take advantage of young unsuccessful models in different ways by asking them to do things that you wouldn't do normally some old man asks you to to help him out with a few things that you would never do some uh some uh filthy woman asks you to do something that you would never do but since you want her to give you the gig you're going to do it so you put yourself in a bad situation number three it's full of drugs there's not a single model I know model I had a a guy that used to work for me one of the most famous one of the famous models in the world black guy that uh he actually ended up using uh uh building uh a shoe company and uh very very famous model he worked for me for a little while nice guy and he told me a lot about the business some things I don't even want to tell you because it's that disgusting point being it's full of drugs now even if you don't take drugs guess what what it's only a matter of time you're long enough in that business you're a drug addict you have to be why because you got to meet all of these strange demands and some of these strange demands are drugs why you got to lose 30 pounds in two weeks how you going to do drugs enough crack enough cocaine enough enough stuff going down your veins you're going to lose weight fast well you don't need anymore all types of things so that's another thing fourth it's the most promiscuous industry in the world it's Hollywood it's it's it's it's a uh it's modeling it's it's simply something that all that drives it is sex not even the money and so you have yourself a very very serious problem it's full of criminals it's full of crooked people disgusting people and uh I could tell you that no person that leaves that business leaves normal everybody's traumatized everyone got raped everyone got uh touched everyone got drugged up everyone got something everyone got something and I'm not telling you this from some conspiracy theory or rumors I'm telling you from actual knowledge that I got from Models remember I used to do with multi-millionaires some of them are models some of them are people that have a you know they're in Hollywood and uh not a single one of them was ever going to tell you they would have they would tell their kids to do it also and all of these parents that want their kids to be models are unfortunately blind cuz all they see is the pictures oh my kid looks so cute yeah he looks really cute to the photographer too when the photography is not on that homosexual pedophile can tell your kid listen kid you want me to put that uh your picture on the cover of uh this magazine yeah okay come to my house there's a ring I know this firsthand person that was in it on victim there's a ring in Hollywood where they simply sell children for pedoph for pedophilia kids disappear people think they died people think they ran away no sometimes they didn't sometimes they're being sold from house to house of these filthy multi-millionaires houses we know somebody that that happened to him and uh it's a nightmare Hollywood is the biggest Satan illusion in the world you only see good everything behind the scenes is bad it includes modeling so to advise you about being in it the only advice I can give you or if you know somebody that's in it the only advice that I can give you is save yourself and run away whereever if you know somebody that's in it save them and run away and the reason why is because nothing good will eventually come out of it I know the money is good I know to just show up and hang out there for a half hour you just made 510 $15,000 and the money is great and you could buy a house after two weeks of work I know I get it it's a big yet but unfortunately that's how this Satan wins that's how he gets these precious to do a lot of forbidden things that they would never do otherwise and you could ask any of the veterans if you have access to a few veterans in that business ask them about their life tell them what was the toughest time in your life and they'll start telling you stories about their life that you're thinking that they're giving you a picture of Gom itself how this guy touched them and that girl and this one and that one all this filthy stuff that's where that's where it happens it happens in a place that looks perfect so it's generally not a kosher business overall needless to say the rest of the stuff I just mentioned so it's uh it's not good to be in a the C of attention in general in general it's not good to be center of attention in general it's not a good idea to be uh constantly photographed and to be into your physicality too much because that's going to make you overly comfortable with your own body overly uh conscious of your own body and how it is it's affected and really what's going to happen is that you're going to be obsessed you're going to become overtime obsessed with getting physical feelings for stuff which leads to promiscuity which which leads to homosexuality which leads to a lot of other horrible things it's a it's a very very uh um difficult life to say the least and only people that uh you see on the news are either the ones that died or the ones that ran out of that business that's it next question transfer over there please I wanted to know what other clothes common clothes we should be aware of that might have shotes other than jackets uh clothes that have Shotz there's a list that's published uh usually every year I could send it I could post it later on uh there is a organization that uh lists uh different rabbis that are certified chatz experts uh there are different you can you know a lot of people could check for chatz but there are not that many people that are actual experts now to be an expert doesn't necessarily require you to be a genius to be an expert you have to have a lab you have to have an actual lab there are a lot of people that say oh yeah rabbis that say I'll check your shotes and they check with their eyes unfortunately that's not no longer enough you actually have to have a lab you have to have the the right Tools in order to check for shates because the law in the US and other countries um allows them certain uh certain room for uh for them to not disclose everything that's in in your clothes for example in the US if their material of a certain clothing or or piece of clothing is less than a certain percentage they don't have to disclose it at all so it could say 100% polyester but in reality it's nowhere near it's 92% polyester and there some this and there some that and there some that but all those other ones that they added to it are less than you know one or two% so they don't have to disclose it at all if they don't want to so that means that you cannot trust the tag at all you cannot trust a tag at all now there are certain things that are on that list that are things that always are uh at risk to having shot NZ number one being the suit a male suit has uh it's very common for it to have shot NZ specifically in the collar so anytime you check for shatz you'll see that the rabbi opens the collar usually leaves it open and checks what it and the reason why because there's certain material that makes the color harder uh and and uh they use it they use shot Ness for that so they'll check a couple of spots inside the jacket on the collar area those usually the common places that there is Shotz uh but sometimes it's in different places uh you could also there's certain uh boots there was a uh problem with Uggs the manufacturer Uggs where some of them were ver verified to have shotes in them the boots and many Jewish women were uh like these extremely ugly boots uh uh and uh in especially in the north uh you know in New York and New Jersey in the places where they have snow and they have bad taste for for boots they uh they love these boots and you had a lot of Jewish Women religious Jewish women not only having ugly boots but also having shadz making a sin for every second they have it on uh so this is a problem is a very serious problem uh not the ugliness I'm talking about the shot Nest part ugliness is you know matter of taste uh maybe it's good for modesty people run away from you those ugly boots uh but anyway so jackets in general jackets in general you should always check uh certain types of pants certain manufacturers the list is is is relatively big I can publish this the list later today uh or tomorrow on the uh Facebook page on the on the uh um uh WhatsApp groups and send it to you guys you can review it and in there also you will see on this list that there is a list of rabbis with their phone numbers and where they're located that could check your stuff uh and they're certified by this organization uh and uh you should only go to those people you should only go to those people because you know that they have the right tools they have the right tools and they apparently care enough about this that they go and get certified every so often and make sure that they're up to date with everything even though this could be done by the average Joe you don't want to take the risk with it because Shotz is one one of those things where it's every single second that you're wearing it every single second you're wearing it it's a sin so much so the says if you know somebody's wearing chotes in the middle of the street you know he's wearing chotes you have to take off his jacket off of his body it's not your jacket it's his jacket take off his jacket off of his body take off the sh off him that's how much of a sin it is it's like fire it's like he's on fire he doesn't know it so the point being is that you have to check you have to check your stuff it's uh it's not overly expensive item but it gets expensive because usually you have to check for a lot of stuff you know but look at that list there are certain things that are prone to have shot NES there certain things you don't have to check at all because they usually don't have shot NZ you look at that list and you'll know what to do um and uh the point is is that it's very very smart to to do that for uh you know for every Jew because again we already make enough sins that we know about we don't need to make a bunch of sins that we don't know about so that's a uh that's that's that and then just to follow up with that uh since you said originally at the beginning that uh almost every tag we cannot trust so to what degree should we be checking all types of garments the list the list tells you the things that from their experience they'll tell you certain things that are more prone more likely to have shot NZ and certain things that it's usually unheard of for them to have shot NZ these are the industry experts this is an entire organization where they have rabbis all over the world where they know what they're they're doing these is labs they have annual meetings and and so on these are the experts in the uh in the Garment business and the uh and they deal with textile all day all night and you know some of them are regular rabbis they have kilot but nonetheless this is also part of what they do some only do this some literally have like in Lakewood they have an entire lab a real lab like uh where they have you send stuff there you ship stuff there and after so off you know they send it back to you uh now again the rabbi tells you it's like say 10 15 bucks an item don't start asking for discounts don't ask for discounts number one you're not paying for how long it takes him to do the job you're paying for how long it took him to know what he knows that's one of the things that people forget people think that when you pay somebody you're paying them for the job that they're doing that's not true you're not paying them for the job that they're doing unless it's like manual labor right there and then they're fixing your I don't know your bathroom but even that requires certain amount of skill when you pay an expert you're paying him for how long it took him to acquire that knowledge a woman saw Picasso famous uh artist at a cafe oh Picasso Picasso I admire you so much can you do me give me like a souvenir you know draw me something on a napkin or something because said yeah give me a napkin he takes the napkin draws something 30 seconds later you got out $50,000 the woman almost had a heart ATT what $50,000 what you crazy you're joke right goes no $50,000 you want this napkin $50,000 she goes took you 5 Seconds to make it he goes no no no it took me 60 years for you to want this napkin it took me 60 years to acquire this skill to be recognized around the world for you to actually ask me to draw you something on a napkin that's what you're paying for that's what you're paying for when you go to a bed you go to a bedine for example somebody complained to me recently about the cost of the bedin for conversion he says in his opinion he's a nice guy nice guy really nice guy he says but in his opinion in his new opinion he's brand new Jew in his opinion he thinks that bedin shouldn't C shouldn't charge anything shouldn't charge in it should be free to convert people I said why should it be free he goes why why don't they want more Jews I said yeah what is what why is one thing negate the other do you know how long it takes to become a danan takes 20 years years of learning minimum minimum most of the time you're talking about 25 30 years of learning a really good Dan his entire life that means you're talking about the guy's a Dan he's already 67 years old that means he's learned pretty much every single day since he knew how to read you're not paying for the five seconds he looks at you uh to see if you dipped in the you're welcome to Judaism you think that's what you're paying him for no you're paying him for 60 years seven years of of toiling over the Tora that's what you're paying him for that's what you're paying him for you're paying him for that in sh they actually consider a signature valid you could sign a certificate also and Sh say that's toilet paper why you're nothing he's been studying for 60 70 years he signs J says oh the rabbi such signed it this guy's a Jew his signature means you are a Jew or you're not a Jew your signature I don't maybe a check you could sign check you could sign that mean something the bank so that mean what are you paying for you're paying for the the the Decades of learning the Decades of people think that if they watch a few shim and they read a couple of books they're already smart if you actually knew understood what it means to be a you become embarrassed you become embarrassed I show you this this for example is something I brought with me I was thinking of maybe mentioning it at some point maybe I will maybe I won't this is a CH this is a answer one of the that he writes uh in and he writes about a uh whether it's allowed to go to a uh these schools that have become modern these uh where they start teaching secular subjects now this Chua first of all it's in Rashi script you're not going to find it in English but forget about that part even you find in English the amount of knowledge and sources that's in single Chua this is I don't know six seven pages whatever it is it's tiny little handwriting this is like the small print on medicine the amount of information that in this chba you need to know no less no less than about I would say no less than probably 5,000 books by heart you know to write this CH to write this CH it looks six pages you you want to write you want to be like you have to know five at least I'm talking about prob probably like underestimate you probably put another couple zeros next to it you have to know at least 5,000 books by Heart By Heart to have the ability to write such a Chua not this Chua this CH I don't know the whole you need to know something out of this world simple question are you allowed not allowed you think it's yes or no well you think it just decide yes or no so to be a to be a POS requires such an immense amount of sacrifice a life's worth of sacrifices that when you're dealing with somebody that sacrificed their entire life for the Torah learning tah and he tells you that the that he made is a couple thousand the seph that he wrote is 50 $100,000 the uh the MU that he sold you is a couple of hundred bucks the uh little piece of paper that uh certifies that you're married or you're a convert is a few dollars or whatever it is when they say that you're not paying them for the signature you're paying them to what made that signature worth anything that's what you're paying so that's why the people that look for discounts in the Jewish world are simply making a very very big mistake because they're not valuing the Torah they're not valuing the Torah you're not giving to the Tor which is a sin of itself it's very very important for people to understand that when a says something when a doesn't have to be a he's been learning many years teaches does a lot of good things knows what he's talking you ask him a question he knows the answer and he give you a source on any aspect of the Tor he has t he has a good good mind but not just because of intellect because he he's afraid of he doesn't start giving you his opinion you're dealing with you have to understand T tells us that's like a speaking from his from his throat you say oh no can you give me a discount you say oh no I think what he said is I don't want to scare you too much but I could just tell you the says there a special place G known for people like that that's how much adors so you have to understand may not look like much in this world but in the next World in the real world that's Eternal they're the Kings that's what the says who are the kings says who are the kings who's someone sacrificed life for the sake of to not someone sacrificed the sake of to for The Last 5 Years life life life meaning you could be learning for 20 years straight and still be a 20 years straight all day all night you're learning learning learning according to you still have no idea what you're talking about it's not a matter of time it's a matter of sacrifice it's a matter of what you got out of it some people getting less time some people getting much more time point being a is not you are self declared is other saying but you yourself say I don't know anything yes the biggest in the world they look at themselves as nothing anyone that thinks of themselves as something is definitely nothing definitely nothing but the point is you have to understand is that to to write on the to like people look at the easy parts for example you look at some of these simple books like the the Shabbat that I gave some of you guys anyone that wants some copies I have with me in the car Shabbat books or the some of the other simple where just pretty much tells you allow not allowed people think it's that easy because they simplify their Torah so much tell you allow not allowed you figure that oh he just said it's allow not allowed you have no idea how many books and how many years of learning you had to learn in order to write alloud not aloud they asked the how do you determine you know how do you determine he says after I read every single and learn what every single P wrote about this topic 36 times each then that means if in the last 2,000 years thousand people thousand Rim wrote allowed not allowed whatever they wrote and each one didn't just write alloud not aloud they wrote about it after I read everything all of them ever said 36 times then I'll tell you what's allowed not allowed then so the little that we know is is is very very um it's very interesting because the less you know the more you think you know the people that know the the least think they know the most they're the loudest the people that know the most quiet quiet don't tell oh I know this I know that says says there are certain things that change the truth on one of them is how much knowledge they have even if you ask oh you know this by heart I don't know I don't know even if he knows I don't know why who really says I really know and even if I know why should I say I know do I really know maybe I'm wrong I'm gonna go up to sh and say everything you learned is wrong the says to to I don't even know I know that I'm going to GED only because of my wife was one of the biggest gon that has been around in the last Thousand Years lived a 100 years ago or soik real kadik though he says I'm only going to ganeden because of my wife now if you want to speak to the you have to know the entire Tor why he doesn't speak regular he speaks in sources he doesn't even say what the source says he would have conversations with just page numbers yeah but but this but that just the sources not the rest of the stuff that I give you a three hour sh about just the page numbers and if you can't hold the conversation who are you to talk to me oh you don't know what it says in the no you don't know what's the convers go save your life go learn some why you wasting your time talking to me now he himself said about himself he knows he's only going to GED because of his wife what what about all the Torah that you learn your whole life he says who knows about my Torah I'm going to go up to sh they're going to tell me listen everything you learn is wrong everything you learn is wrong you're upside down hard you're an idiot you don't know anything he said himself but then my wife's GNA come I say okay ma'am she goes oh G why G she goes why you said in the Torah you only reason you're going to go to ganed you have to modest you have to send your husband your boys to learn T I did that I was modest I sent my boys to learn T my husband to all day all night they're G to tell her in GED Way Lady your husband's an idiot he doesn't know what he's talking about his entire to is wrong she'll tell them listen is it my fault he's an idiot you told me to him to to go learn T that's what I did you didn't tell me to go make sure he knows what he's talking about you told me to go send him learn T that's what I did they're G to tell him I'm sorry lady you're right you're right G highest level but then she start crying in ganed she how could I be in ganed my husband is gome and they're gonna take me out of gome he says they're gonna put me in ganed because of her this is one of the biggest giants lived lived among people he met Einstein one time Einstein came out of the room after 4 minutes said you could make four Einstein with him famous meeting next question you one question then we're going to go to the back okay um so we all know like we all know like the S levels get we all know the we all know the sum of it all that do we know like Rewards I'm not talking about like do we know like the some there some levels of rewards K so what's the reward so the M says there's two aspects of the reward in this world and the next World the ultimate reward that a person uh needs to and uh aspire to get is to enjoy to enjoy the beauty of the itself what that means we have no comprehension whatsoever because we're still limited with our flesh and body but I'll give you an illustration of what Joy means of enjoying the now the says this is something you can enjoy in this world needless to say in the next World whatever is in this world magnified by Infinity in the next World so imagine a person's life now let's say this person lived 100 years out of the Hundred Years the reality is even if he was rich and successful and married with kids and even have some traumatizing life the whole hundred years is not Joy if he lived like a regular human being most likely 25 to 35% of his life he's sleeping sleeping so I 100 years you're already down to about 70 years or so 70 years left out of the other 70 years he's also spending some time going to the bathroom then he's also spending some time working and work is not always fun and he's also spending some time dealing with problems and he's eating and he's drinking meaning out of the whole hundred years maybe if you're lucky you got a good solid 10 15 maybe maybe 17 years of actual fun let's say I mean I'm talking about a multi-billionaire that money is never his problem talking about that best case scenario maybe you got 17% fun good in reality it's more like 5% but let's be generous here okay so we got 17 now if you take all all of that fund that he had in 17 years you spread it out over 100 years that's a life right but if you take all 17 years and you put it into just give to to inject that fun into him one shot o what all the pleasure he ever had in his entire life in one second all the pleasure he had from food all the pleasure he had from money all the pleasure he had from from his wife all the pleasure he had from whatever he did in one shot it's a lot of pleasure right okay now you take all of that fun that 17 years worth of fun you put it in a little box then you take do the same exact thing for every single person that ever lived from the beginning of the world until the time of mashia you take all of their fun that they all had right now you got almost eight billion people previous generation about six and a half billion previous generation about six billion previous generation about five and so on and so forth you're talking about billions and billions and billions of people and all of their fun and all of their let's say some had only one year of fund some had 20 years of fund some had more or less but point is everybody just a fun part no bad part take everything that they had you put it in the same box you put that into a nice turn it into liquid you give a guy an injection of that fun that's a lot of fun right that's a lot of good right that is not even considered the down payment that's not even considered the down payment it's not even considered a moment of fun of enjoying the of enjoying the joy that you would get for protecting your breit not even a moment of the reward that you will get for being a modest woman not even a moment of it not even a moment of the reward that you're going to get for keeping Kosher for being Kosher for keeping Shabbat it's not even a moment of it needless to say all of the you did so that's a lot of Joy now K says you're supposed to feel parts of this in this world too how can you get to that by serious serious toiling of toah getting yourself to become a holy person where you sanctify your body I can't explain to you how that feels as far as you would understand it but I can give you some type of an illustration I hope none of you have ever done drugs but I'm assuming everybody here knows somebody that did drugs at some point in their life now when people do drugs I never did drugs but I had medicine in my system at some points in my life when I was going through all the fun surgeries now drugs what what do they do they give you they make you uh feel a bunch of things that you really not supposed to feel all of a sudden you feel great even though nothing Good's happening numb buzzing all types of things like this people do drugs because they want to live in that per in that status of pretty much uh illusion and uh their body body buzzing and and doing all types of things um and a certain ele elated uh mind a certain lightness to the brain all types of things that feel like uh you're in a different world people do get addicted to drugs because of this what they call a high if a person seriously toils in Torah and I don't mean toils in t for one day and I don't mean toils for t for just an hour a day for 20 years I'm talking about serious toll of to can give him some of this in is this world where you could for an exra amount of time it could be a minute it could be a few hours it could be every day depends the person can simply feel everything I just explained that all the drug addicts do times a million times a million just by existing now the Kish writes that a really serious a really serious holy person could be a woman also there are women in recent history 40 50 60 years ago that Hades we're not talking about thousand years ago talking about in recent Generations grandparents KES that felt like this on a regular basis and says these people look like men these people look like women that are like among us but in reality they're Angels Among men they're Angels not just by the way sh the way Heaven perceives them but the way themselves they feel the way they feel so a person can sanctify their body to the point of having physical pleasure physical pleasure from their mitv they drink a little juice they do they get themselves to start feeling all types of things that you cannot explain with words because even all even if I wrote a book about it you still wouldn't understand it's like trying to explain a blind person what the color color blue is he's never seen blue how's he going to know you talk about it's like green I don't know what green is either so that's how much joy a person can have from a simple mitvah of drinking water of eating something of whatever it is they can have that much joy and that's just a small sample of the real Joy they will they will get when they arrive at the real world that's Eternal but that's based on the assumption that the person has Sanctified himself not by their own opinion but by sh by testifying she is Holy he is Holy there are many people doing mitv not many are becoming holy holy means you have to be very very uh uh protective of modesty and morality and things of that nature let's give the mic to the back how could I tell a friend to not touch her boyfriend before marriage um did she go to a religious school or did she go to public school she went to religious school okay so first uh she obviously didn't learn anything good in this religious school uh because that's the number one reason of why Jewish parents and non-jewish parents send their daughters to religious schools is for the sake of them understanding that they have to be uh they have to preserve themselves until marriage and uh this is actually both for Jews and non-jews you know the non-jews that send their kids to private school Catholic schools and Christian schools and so on they specifically send send their girls to all girl schools specifically because they want to protect the kid from themsel from being with somebody uh before marriage and unfortunately uh in today's world that is uh such an upside down world that uh in today's world the teachers teach you the opposite meaning they tell the girls and the boys that you should be promiscuous before marriage because how do you know you want to really marry him until you try it out how do you know you only want to marry him and maybe not him how do you know you want to marry her until not her the teachers teach you the exact opposite of what morality is in both private and public school sometimes now in a Jewish school it's obviously supposed to be uh the upper echelon of all schools but if the girl went to school and she still is promiscuous with a with a guy before marriage obviously there's something very very wrong with the foundation of her ideology which is the teaching that she got from her parents as Wells from the school they're both at fault why because any kid that got the proper education simply that is not in the cards I met a woman that we helped her convert by the time she converted she was a Christian uh in our previous life and by the time she converted I believe she was 32 33 years old 100% a virgin never even kissed another boy never kissed another boy 32 years now with the exception of the idolatry that's a success why because when you teach your kid the right things there's no such option as being promiscuous in any shape form before marriage because you consider your your your your your PR your your intimacy sacred and you're not going to give it for free on the streets cuz he's cute so that means that this Christian girl that became a very Jewish righteous woman bem she got a much better education much better upbringing than unfortunately a Jewish girl did in our own backyard that now is has a boyfriend and many Jewish girls have boyfriends so that already shows there's a problem with the ideology that's the problem that's the diagnosis solution is you have to fix their ideology and the only way to fix the ideology is with new education that's going to first of all prove to her that her current ideology is wrong and to in essence brainwash her brainwash her from all the filth she has in her head that she thinks it's okay to be promiscuous before marriage she thinks it's okay to hold hands with some stranger she thinks it's okay to kiss she thinks it's okay to wear whatever she wants she thinks it's okay and the reason why she thinks it's okay is because she doesn't really believe or think that there's a punishment or consequence for our actions so the only way to truly change a person is by re-education they have to listen to the that we say here and the ones that we have online and get re-educated now to get a person to listen to this stuff requires a little bit of effort so you have to not give up on them you have to send them the clips the five 10 minute clips that I have about modesty or today you send it to them so they get re-educated and and start looking at the world from a different perspective because every woman no matter where she ends up starts off with usually having some self some s dignity and some self-respect and every woman does not want the world to insult her or to abuse her or take advantage of her every normal human being does now a woman that holds herself at such a standard if she for herself thinks about her own promiscuity her own immodesty for for more than a moment she'll realize how wrong she is I'll give you an example there was one time secular guy Israeli guy that uh went with his a uh wife girlfriend they were living together they went to the beach in Israel and you know when you're not exactly the most religious you go to the beach you're pretty much you don't wear clothes there so you know she wore that bathing suit that's pretty much underwear and he uh they were sitting on the beach with the rest of his friends you know all the whole tribe was there everybody was there hanging out on a beach they barbecuing they're having a good time playing MCO these little pad ball ball thingy with the uh racket ball whatever it's called kicking a soccer ball jumping in the water taking a t having a good time you know good time okay they're having a good time now unlike America in Israel you don't have to make an appointment in order to visit somebody's house you know today in America if you want to go visit somebody you have to make an appointment two weeks in advance listen we're having a dinner on Thursday March 3rd you think you're going to be able to come at 8 o00 when is that three weeks from now four weeks from now where in Israel it's different in Israel you just show up at somebody's house hey you're home you want to have a coffee okay Y come on let's go that's that's how it is that's how it is you know there's no appointments you just show up to people's houses it's very normal there like if you live in Israel and somebody shows up your house don't get taken back that's normal that means they like you if no one shows up at your house that means they don't like you well but that's how it is especially in the secular World secular world so family friends they just show up at your house that's how it works now in America they're so like you know like appropriate and like you know politically correct you have to like make appointments oh do you have availability uh in 2022 2022 on on on the 1 of the month in August you have to make appointment oh let me see my calendar calendar let me oh yeah ah yeah no I think I'm taking my kids to the park on that day yeah I don't think I can meet you there I don't think I meet you yeah no no it's a park it's a really important day for the kids there's a park there is grass and the kids like the grass can't eat on that day you have to look at the grass all day so the ludicrous of our of of people's behavior is funny but it's true so now in Israel back to the story back to the story in Israel they were on a beach they're hanging out on a beach they're having a barbecue making all types of sins that hopefully they and now yeah afternoon 3 4:00 they finish on the beach they go home so the guy takes his girl home and they get to the house and you know she uh when she leaves she gets up to the beach she takes on she puts on a robe puts on a robe to cover herself gets in the car and they go home once she gets home she takes off the Rob she walks around in the same thing she walked around the bething suit in the uh in a beach she walks around all of a sudden the door is knocking door is knocking so she she runs to go open the door so little Ruben always say hey hey hey what are you doing what are you doing hey what are you doing she goes what there's a couple there people at the door I think it's uh yob and Steve goes put something on he says the Ruben says put something on what are you doing she goes what do you mean put something on all day I've been in this bathing suit what's the difference goes what we're on a beach over there he goes yes she says yeah but there's 30,000 people on the beach this is just two people why is this wrong and that's right why is that right and this wrong why he thought about it for a second they're both wrong they're both wrong but he in his own crooked mind thought that just because everyone's naked on the be I'm allowed to be naked and no one's naked at the house and over there I'm not allowed to be naked wrong wrong all at the same time wrong ideology a woman that understands that when she walks around imod and she shows parts of her body whether it's her thigh or any other part of her body to just strangers she is in essence selling herself for free free for all to look at free for all to enjoy without payment without commitment without any reason whatsoever just to enjoy your beauty that you in essence promise to your husband everybody else gets to see what he's the only one that's privy to he's the only one that paid for it he's the only one that committed to it but you're showing your beauty to every guy and your guy your husband he's allowing it he's actually encouraging it but if you thought about it for a second You' realize that you're both wrong why because you realize that hey you're not supposed to be naked in the house you're not supposed to be naked on the beach but you never thought about it never thought about it until hasem gave you a little moment where there's a some uh your brain is awake so the point is that right now this kid this friend of yours or whoever it is and millions of others like her they're in a circumstance where they have a ideology that is simply wrong and the only way to fix that is by showing her that she is a prince prin how do we know she's a princess God created her and he says you're my daughter God is the king of kings if she's his daughter she's the princess of the King of Kings and the King of Kings doesn't walk around with a Minik skirt doesn't walk around with a bikini doesn't walk around half naked or naked or whatever it is doesn't give herself to some filthy guy to touch her even if he's a nice guy why you want to touch me marry me you want to touch me marry me you want to give me a kiss on the cheek marry me oh you don't want to marry me don't touch me then why I'm not for I'm not for free I'm not for free that's the thing I'm sorry to give you this example but even the prostitute cost money even a prostitute costs money how come you're giving yourself for free why you're less than a prostitute what's the matter with people what's the matter how come you're giving yourself a free a holy woman created by hands himself how come you're giving yourself for free for some filthy guy with a with a nice hair do for what for what you want to touch me marry me you don't want to marry me go find yourself a new new friend go smash that the your head against the wall a few times what do I care you have to understand your worth of Fortune a billion dollars is not even a down payment for a a billion dollars a billion dollars is not even a down payment for five minutes with a is for any man to touch your hand touch your hand he has to be willing to give his life up that's what you have to understand you don't appreciate yourself at all you treat yourself worse than a prostitute by giving yourself up for free that's the reality and now you don't even have to just allow him to touch you allow him to look at you and you're showing them all your goods you're walking around half naked everybody could see just enjoy the looks for free are you worse worse than a stripper you're worse than a dancer you worse than these filthy people on word they charge $20 million for you to look at them how come you're for free you want to look at me you got to marry me that should be a policy of every single woman value yourself as Priceless because you are you are a kad's daughter no one other than your husband that has committed his life is allowed to touch you or even see you in an immodest way no one your husband no problem allowed enjoy why he's sacrificing for it he's committing to it no problem and even if he starts messing around starts fooling your eyes not allowed also he has to meet the contract he signed a contract called he doesn't meet the contract he also doesn't get to look and see why you're about is you're Priceless is not enough treat yourself as such then you'll be as such you'll be treated in sh as such but if you you treat yourself worse than a prostitute worst than a Zona then that's what the Torah describes a girl that's Iman is by the way that's what a Torah describes a girl that's promiscuous before marriage as a Zona that's what it calls her Z also means prostitute why why why treat yourself like that for what what do they do to to to earn your whole life for what and that's what you have to explain to this young girl she just doesn't value herself she never thought about it because she got the wrong perspective for maybe her parents maybe the school maybe the environment she never saw herself she thought that to be a strong woman you need to be uh you know a promiscuous woman a woman that's everywhere woman that's you know socialite they call it it's the opposite the most valuable precious women in the world are the most reserved s menu did not walk around with a miniskirt s menu did not allow abam to touch her before marriage that's who you want to be like and you can even if you messed up before you could start now you didn't know till today start today you can become s menu today one decision that's it all the claws burned garbage don't sell them don't give them to anybody just because you you're not making a sin doesn't mean that other people should make sense you're not allowed to make S they're not allowed to make S all the CLA burned ripped garbage right away like you're destroying a I know a woman that when she took on modesty she took all of our clothes and she burned them right on puim why puim there a special mitvah to destroy amalik she says this is my amalik I said you're 100% right said you're 100% right you're fulfilling the Mitzvah of destroying Amal by destroying the im's clothes we're talking about tens of thousands worth of clothes heels from here to Jamaica clothes that all types of things tens of thousands worth of dollars destroyed amalik she got blessed Fortune who pays cash when a woman takes on modesty she is in essence taking on herself not just modesty Majesty why you're a princess now but when you walk around walk around like a your whole body showing to the world everybody doesn't have any doesn't need any imagination anymore you're not a Majesty opposite you're worse than a servant why you do that to yourself for what why are you punishing yourself the more you value yourself the right way the more they will value you not only in this world but also in the next world the less you value yourself the less people will value you she has the wrong mentality she never heard this probably in her life but if she did once maybe twice maybe a few more times I promise you that little by little she will start looking at things from a different perspective the other aspect of it is also knowing that there is a consequence for our actions meaning there's a punishment for sins Hashem says immodesty and immorality promiscuity is punished and punishment is very very heavy the average Jew today does not know about punishment she needs to know about it so there's different short clips you could send her that I talk about punishment or there's a sh about Gom that I have whatever you want to send her you have to use your own uh judgment as far as uh what her reaction is if you see that she's into it you keep sending her more Clips she's more into it and her longer shim and but don't overthink about oh this is too strong this is not too strong whatever you see send don't do too much calculation but start sending on a regular basis to brainwash her brainwash her literally of the filth that's in her mind because that filth is literally turning her into something that she's not she's a b is she's Majesty Majesty but she's treating herself like a servant she doesn't know it because all the other people are treating themselves like servant so she thinks that she's fitting in opposite she's supposed to be above and if a woman did that she can get toes if you just understood what her value is next question if you make a certain amount of shim do you go to straight to ganad then because I've heard this in my school but I don't know like what does that mean wait you help other people get married yeah if a person helps other people get married it's a very very big Mitzvah but it does not mean that a person is allowed to make so sins put a person in G put a person in G so if a person makes a lot of mitzvot for example they uh you know they are a very good host on Shabbat they have 50 people every week or they help people get married or whatever Mitzvah is that Mitzvah is going to help them pay them a reward but if they make sins those sins you have to pay for also so it all depends on how big the sins are versus how big the mitv are if a person makes small sins and big mitv they go to ganed and they're in good shape but if a person is going to make small mitv and big sins they're going to get home in a very long time maybe permanent even so it all depends making helping people get married is a very very big mitvah it's fantastic but remember that if a person is making big sins along with it all of the reward they're going to get for those MIT is going to be in this world it's going to be in this world it's not going to be in the next World why because if they're making big sins for example they violate Shabbat they don't keep Shabbat they could be the number one sh in the world every week 5 10 people are getting married just because of them but they don't keep Shabbat they're not going to gedan ever why because that's too big of a sin in the eyes of hem for you to be allowed to enter ganeden so that's that's the key so it's key is to everybody make sins but we have to try our best to keep those sins very small and every time we know we made a sin try to do chuva for it fix it say I'm sorry to Hashem stop doing it try your even more next time do better but the point is you're going to make mistakes along the way but just try to make them smaller and smaller over time whereas with the with the MIT also again try to do more of them and bigger and bigger over time the key is to never ever give yourself the permission to make sins you know and that's unfortunately what happens a lot today is that people just simply say now this mitvah is too hard for me I'm just not going to do it and that's a very big problem so a person needs to always try even if we're failing now try again tomorrow we fail tomorrow try again the next day just keep trying keep trying eventually going to get it there's one woman that I know 20 years 25 years 20 25 years she's in chuva still having a hard time covering her hair still having a hard time CH keep shab everything else 25 years she's still trying to cover her hair right now she's at a point where she covers her hair on Shabbat that's it everything else she keeps covering her hair with she's a married woman everything good but covering hair she has a hard time she got to a point recently she's allowing to allowing herself to cover hair on Shabbat only rest of the week she can't do it now even though she's doing a lot of mitv even though she's a wonderful wonderful woman if she does not fix it and start covering hair the rest of the week she has a very serious problem in sh there's no discounts there's no discounts even though she does a lot of big MIT and she's a fantastic person and she donates and she does good there's no discounts and every time I see her or I talk to her whatever it is I tell her out right you have a serious problem yeah but I do so much good okay you'll get paid for the good you get punished for the bad this not covering your hair as a married woman is a big bad you can't just go up to say up to sh say oh my bad no no no it's big it's much big it's really really big really big you have to do it so you have to fix it and hopefully sooner rather than later next question something excuse me yeah is there a concept of time during time even the uh physicists uh have uh discovered that time depends on matter meaning it depends on physicality where there is no physicality where there's no material there's no time there cannot be an aspect of time because time is dependent on something physical so in the uh in the spiritual World whether it be G GED or even in your dreams your dreams there's no concept of time and that's actually one of the ways that Hashem allowed us to understand the concept of time or timelessness which is you could have a dream where that dream Feels Like A Thousand Years sometimes people have these dreams and uh many times they're not good dreams where they feel like they're being tortured they're in a desert somewhere or they're being beat up for hundreds of years and they wake up eventually sweating bullets and they feel like they've been gone out of this world for a thousand years and they see they look at the clock five minutes have passed how is that possible they feel they remember a thousand years worth of information but they have five minutes of pass in this world why because in this world five minutes have passed in the spiritual world in the dream world there's no time so uh in the uh but of course Hashem does keep a clock if you will uh for person's sentence meaning that if a person is decreed let's say 50 years or 500 years or whatever it is to uh in uh in punishment then that's in essence what it is but in that time is a very famous Story by the bmov the bmov once uh went to into the woods and he saw an enormous toad huge huge like a turtle but huge enormous and he saw this toad this is looked at it he Hades and he started speaking to the toad because he knew there's a inside there he said who are you he says I am being punished I'm being punished for 500 years already 500 years and being punished reincarnated into animals for 500 years already so the B says for what he says I didn't honor the I Dishonored it it made it seem like it's a you don't have to do it 500 years it's being now we're not talking about he just didn't wash his hands one time that's why he's getting 500 years worth of punishment we're talking about somebody just takes a mitvah says this one I'm not doing the r says if you say listen I know this is aah in I know this aah I know this is a mitvah but it's not for me that is a serious serious crime against theem we're not talking about you know it's a mitvah and you just failed at succeeding at it you failed you tried you failed or you didn't even try but you're saying listen I know it's true I know you're supp to cover your hair I just can't get myself to do it I know you're supposed to eat you know uh kosher but you know sometimes I give it and I eat you know McDonald's I know you're supposed to do it I just fail sometimes that's a normal person not unfortunately failed we're not talking about that person we're talking about a person that knows this is a mitvah and he says I know it's a Mitzvah I'm just not gonna do it it's not for me as if he just took a mitvah out of the Tor this mitvah is for everybody else not for me that is a very very serious crime in the Tor the ram writes very strong things against such a person and the B story says such a person that did that had that type of an attitude towards theah it's a famous story I didn't make it up famous story was being reincarnated in animals for years why because you have understand these things sound enormous to you and it's because again you're limited to to body you're limited to your perspective as a human being Hashem Is Not a Human Being or the likeness of a human being he doesn't have those limitations so when I describe to you all the good that you're going to get for coming to this Shield all the good that you're going to get for learning Torah all the good that you're going to get for keeping Shabbat all the good you're going to get for being modest all the good you're going to get for any mitvah that you do I describe it to you how by taking all of the good that ever existed for every single human being in one shot times infinity and you are happy about that why because even though you have no idea what I just said because it's too big to to imagine you have no problem accepting it why because it's good it's unlimited so that's good then all right problem is the same thing on the opposite end just like the good is infinite incomprehensible so is the punishment the punishment is not comprehensible to a human being because it's that big that's why a person needs to do everything possible to sanctify thems if the punishment wasn't as bad if the punishment was just simply if it was really one year in Gom like some of these K say oh yeah the biggest criminals yeah they only go to one year of G then they go to Gan like Manis fredman and Company and the rest of the that decided they to create a new Torah if the punishment for the crimes was only one year in Gom I would quit right now I'm going back to Wall Street if the worst punishment is one year in Gom I'm quitting right now let everybody do whatever they want why because the worst thing you get is one year and get home good luck okay it's going to be a really bad year one year I sacrificed my life you have no idea how much I suffer every day you have no idea how difficult people are you have no idea what I have to deal with every single day to survive I do this only because I know it's not one year that's it that's the reason I do I do because I know it's not one year the punishment is not one year and I know that if I don't do it no one else is going to do it because no one else is doing it the exception ofi that's it finished that's it you have nobody else pretty much that it's really really going at it that people explain to them reward punishment on a massive scale there's a couple of decent rabbis out therea uh a few others out there but the reality is most people still do not know what reward and punishment is most people still believe the falsehood the fakeness that oh it's not such a big deal I know it's it's a big deal it's a really big deal and uh the truth is that if you look at all of theim you look at all the books what they say it's even worse than I explained so the point being is that a person needs to do everything possible to sanctify thems to get themselves to a place of Holiness and have to try hard and yes you're GNA fail and you're gonna mess up but get yourself back up and try even harder just like you would try harder in everything else in life try harder with this and get other people to do it because again if you don't help the people in the world you're going to be a miserable happy person why because you're going to get let's say all the rewards for your good but you're going to see that none of your friends none of your loved ones none of your own Nation as garet what do you want to be in in G by yourself sounds more like G why would you want to be by you want you want your father to be there don't you want your mother to be there don't you want your sister your brother your cousin your aunt another Jew even the go why don't you don't want them to be you want all them to die and suffer why they're hm's creation also if a person understood what the punishment is immediately number one number one on priority list is to help to help the world do Chua number one more important than anything else they continue making money they continue working they continue doing everything they do but everything that they're doing doing always has somehow connected to kiru connected to helping people get closer to hasm because they know that people do not know do not know that they're eating and drinking poison every day they're ruining their life in this world they're ruining their life in the next World so it's the the punishment is dear but most people simply don't know it when you know it you understand that you have to do something about it next question in the back last one how give him the mic if you don't mind one two more questions go this uh Mr uh Manis and friends the tub he actually says that um after what you just said he says that there is just no such thing as hell like it's a it doesn't exist no I understand I understand what he says and uh I have had a lot of people uh not as popular as Manis and Company but other people uh uh say the same thing and uh the simple answer is is that if they do not want to accept the sources that we've provided them uh that's showing showing the showing show all over the tor that they're wrong that there is a very serious punishment if they don't want to accept it then there's simply only one option left to prove it to them and that's that they're going to get to see it firsthand very soon Hashem is going to show them Gom they have a personal visit there and they're going to get so familiar with it that they'll become experts it's the only way to help such people it's by simply showing them that they were wrong but that's it you cannot help somebody that doesn't want to learn you cannot help somebody that has such a big ego they're not willing to learn and the truth is is that sometimes it's because of ego sometimes it's because of other reasons but the point being is that there are a lot of fakers in the world unfortunately and many of them are supposed to be our leaders they're supposed to be our helpers like for example a lot of people today are doing things for the show so they go to Sho once a week but take a selfie when they have their feeling on making it seem to the world as if they're big tadim they go to Shool every day or better yet they go to visit a sick person once in their life but they make sure to put the pictures everywhere send it to all of their friends they want to visit a sick person or like our friend Goldberg and Company he made a video recently I think it was today or yesterday he uh from boaron that they have installed he wanted to announce to the world a two-minute video to announce to the world world that they have just installed a little Locker area at the entrance of the synagogue where you're supposed to put your phone your cell phone's on and pretty much tune out you know go to the Sho pray and tune out tune out from your phone leave your phone outside there and you get your own key he's like see we go to sh and we tune out from the regular world so this looks like wow what a great Rabbi what a great thought you have a locker room just to for people to put their phones in it and it even has a charger in there they could charge their phone and also charge their at the same time what a brilliant idea you're such a sadik guess what if you attended that Sho you would know that on Shabbat you have two problems on Shabbat every every Shabbat in that you have two problems with that locker room number one there's anywhere between 500 to th000 people that show up to that Shool every Shabbat that locker room is for maybe 15 people the locker room that they have over there is 15 locks 15 maybe 20 where's the rest of the people going to put their stuff where's the rest people going to put oh it's bigger problem than the locker room for the phones let's say the rest of them don't bring a phone what about the parking lot that's active on Shabbat that's got 250 cars every Shabbat how come there's no uh special area for that how come there's no special locker rooms for them to put their cars in so they don't drive on Shabbat how come it's all a show it's all a show it's all show business it's all nothing it's all fake fake but you're not going to know it looking from the outside you're seeing some video of some Rabbi saying oh separate from the phone separate from the mundane go pray sounds great but when you know the details you know the Sho is massive it's got a thousand families in that area thousand families in that Community it's one of the biggest shs in America it's a massive place thousand people up you got a locker room for 20 locks what's that going to do even a regular M and the average afternoon has more than that what are you going to do with that locker room what is it going to supply the staff not even the staff there's more than that it's a fake show it's a fake show and that's what a lot of people do a lot of people do things for the show he's an expert in this for 20 years already 20 years he puts on shows he's always at the right place at the wrong time or the wrong place at the right time whatever you want to call it he's always somewhere and he's constantly uh you know videoing himself why it's a show it's all a show it's all a show the only way you get to know what's under the hood is by looking with your own eyes look in your own eyes what's there what's there don't believe the show don't believe the hype it's all nothing it's all nonsense it's all nonsense you have to see what's inside and sh they know what's inside they know what's inside me personally I'm really struggling with so is everybody how to how to obtain it is one of the things that no human being is born with the O uh writes in his letters and so does his Blazer um writes in the SE is that is the opposite the opposite of what you're born with why every human being has fears some people have more fears some people have less fears some people are afraid of money problems so they become addicted to money they start taking money it's not even theirs they start stealing other people's money because they're afraid they're not going to have money even if they have enough money or they're not generous because they're afraid they won't have enough to eat they have money addiction because of their fear of money or lack of some people are afraid to be alone so they're constantly attaching themselves to anyone that pays attention to them this also leads to promiscuity this also leads to a lot of other uh social issues but because people are afraid to be alone they're constantly attaching themselves to any anyone that pays attention to them because of fear some people are afraid of bugs they're afraid of bugs little bugs even though the bugs is little and they're very big to them it looks like the bug is big and they're very little and some people have such fears that they become phobias where a woman can see a certain bug let's say be a spider and she could have a phobia where she starts losing her mind or he starts losing our their mind where it's not a normal fear it becomes abnormal where if they're in a room and there's a there's something that they're afraid of they could literally jump out of the window because jumping out of the window to their death is less scary to them than this bug that's a phobia phobia is not a regular fear but point being is some people are afraid of more things some people are afraid of lesting some people are afraid of uh different types of animals dogs rats cats whatever it may be some people are afraid of people they're uh they're they're they're anti people they're afraid of people they're just they that's not that they don't like people they're afraid of being hurt by people so they're very shy into themselves somebody talks to them they get you know even if it's a compliment they don't even show what to do with it they're afraid which means the average human human is afraid of something some people afraid of a lot of things some people afraid of less things but everybody's afraid of something but every human being standard status is not afraid of God in reality not afraid of God even if he says I'm afraid of God he's not afraid of God why because to be afraid of God is not something that you acquire naturally it's not something that you were born with because if you were born with it or you were able to acquire it naturally just simply then it would remove your free choice because what does fear of hasem mean fear of means you understand 100% with a reality just like I'm I'm I'm in front of you that you know that that's real that I'm in front of you that you're hearing my voice just like that's real to you the reality of punishment and the reality that hasm is watching you is also real 100% there's no like any type of Separation that's so to have that doesn't come naturally why because if you had it naturally simply would have no free choice you'd never sin you'd never sin so how do we know that we have no because we all sin we sin we do all types of things that are against hm so says all of the other fears that you have bugs cats dogs uh rats money women boys whatever it is all of those things come to you naturally doesn't come to you naturally fear of hem is the only fear you have to acquire how do you acquire it by an enormous amount of learning T meditating over it actually applying it and little by little feeling feeling the Torah feeling the fear you got mind fear of hem is not just something oh I believe that this G therefore I'm afraid no bis that's a part of you you can have an understanding that there is punishment but still not be afraid or Not Afraid enough how do you get to a point of being afraid enough this is toil of of of learning and doing what Hashem says over a period of time it's not something you acquire off of one Shure it's not something that you acquire over one book it's not something you acquire after one year it's something you have to work on day in day out over an extended period of time and guess what even after you acquire it let's say it took you two three five 10 years you could lose it in five minutes why a moment of weakness that you give into a moment of weakness you give into yet comes to you as the most beautiful woman in the world and you say ah just one time just one time yet comes to you in a form of a billion dollars that's not yours no one's going to know except AEM though ah just one time if hasm didn't want he wouldn't send it to me you give yourself all the excuses one time right garbage deleted start all over again that's the purpose of man that's the purpose of man you guaranteed G guaranteed a blessed life guaranteed all the good in the world but that means you have to work on it day in day out day in day out when you work on it day in day out you get extra bonuses you know what you get you fall in love with hem when you work on day in day out eventually that same learning same fear that eventually escalates to a point where you fall in love with hem now you reach the ultimate level you fall in love with hem now you have you are the best of the best the world exists for you is what gets you to you cannot acquire without not possible so it's it's something that takes time something that takes a lot of toil it's something that takes a a lot of tests and the truth be told it's something that requires you to uh pass more and more tests but also you're going to to overcome failure everyone fails but the successful people are the ones that overcome the failure successful people also fail but they overcome it that that's the difference between success and failure there's failure in both parts what success has failure and failure has failure it's just that failure chooses to remain failure whereas success is failure that ended and was overcome and eventually succeeded so is failure failure failure success success success success failure okay try again success you know keep going keep going keep going keep going and eventually have more SU uccess and failure and eventually eliminate different parts of your pass the test next question again third same thing okay you have to pass it to after him okay last one go ahead yeah right yes he will help you he will help you acquire as far as it'll give you opportunities uh it'll give you tests to overcome if you don't overcome them then obviously you don't want enough if you overcome them then you'll acquire how does a person acquire success by overcoming failure how does a person let's say for example become more muscular if somebody wants to become more muscular how does it happen by lifting more weights if you want the more muscular you want to become the more weights you have to lift you Cann become a big beast that could lift 800 pounds if you're going continuously exercise with five pounds it's not going to work it's not going to work you have to after five pounds doesn't feel that it's giving you as much pressure you have to use 10 pounds 10 pounds doesn't give you as much pressure 20 lbs 30 lb so on and so forth meaning the more that a person has that means that the more test they have to overcome to acquire that much you don't acquire the ramb just because you prayed for it you acire because you've acquired it meaning you've overcome many many tests to graduate and eventually have that meaning you've had all the other levels before it so that means that a person has to overcome one obstacle after another after another one embarrassment after another one uh you know uh uh difficulty after another one thing after another and it's it's not an easy but that's the purpose of life yeah pass the uh mik to the front and we'll finish with the with this question sh they're always fast um when you have a safari and ashkanazi um custom Clash let's say you're at an ashkanazi home uh when you bench or when you're doing your T do you follow the custom of the home or the the sh or do you actually continue with your minim okay so it's a very good question uh so if a person is a uh there's two aspects of the question If a person marries if he's and she's AI if a man marries a woman the custom of and there are two opposites let's say she's the customs of the house become the husbands meaning if the husband is Fadi even though the wife grew up being asazi she now has to keep the customs of her husband if uh vice versa vice versa meaning if he's a and she's she has to start keeping ashkanazi Customs uh but that's in marriage now if you are praying at a uh or you're hosted at a uh place where they're a different custom than you if let's say for example you're saradi and you're going to pray at a ashkanazi sh you do not pray ashkanazi Customs you continue praying the Safari Customs from your Safari Sid uh but you try to keep up with the ashkanazi because the ashkenazim generally speaking they have a shorter Sid they uh their prayers are shorter than ours in many parts of the world like in America especially their me is almost half the size of the the uh so but you still have to do it you still have to do it now since they start already at they completely do not do the parts that do so what do you do what do you do because the key of praying with the is to start is to uh say the at the same time so if you start at the beginning of your prayer and they're starting already at almost at the right at almost you're never going to catch up so what do you do you start exactly where they are you start exact where they are you do the amid with them after you finish amid you go back to the beginning you do the parts that you've missed and then you go back and you finish meaning you're not going to finish at the same time but whenever they do kadish you say amen and so on but the point is all you could complete that beginning prayer at the end after you finish together with them which is probably more right to do you finish with them at the same time and then you say the beginning part that you've missed after you finished that you can do also um uh but you don't you do not pray if you're Safari you don't pray from a ashkanazi Sid and if you're asazi you don't pray from a safari you don't adapt somebody else's Customs just for the day or the week that's your either or uh but uh if you are uh let's say invited at somebody's house and they're doing uh their benching the bat you do your baton they do their baton uh you don't do the same one uh that also means that if you're traveling you should uh do not depend on everyone having a spare Safari sidur for you or a spare asazi Sid for you you have to come equipped you have to come equipped don't think that people are going to actually have uh the extra custom that's not there is ready for you so you know come with your Sido wherever you're going come with your uh information with your stuff everywhere you're going you have to go with that stuff I learned that that Safari should bench before he has dessert where the ashkanazi will have dessert and make that part of the Beaton yes so what so what do you do do you say I'm going to bench first while you continue eating and then join them or yes it's not it's not it's actually it's not a it's not as big of a problem as it seems I've just never seen it you're a Jew only for one day so you'll get to see a lot of things uh but the uh the thing is though is that uh it's it's not as as strange as it would seem I I've been at as homes and Safari homes if you're going to the right homes meaning you're going to placees where the people are religious they have seen this before if they're not religious then you are pretty much their Rabbi uh because you're the only religious guy there so if you go to religious people's houses you're going to see that they have you know they know that you have a different custom on certain things they know that for example uh uh the is very different they know that uh you know like you said the dessert is separate part of our meal whether it's for them it's the same part of the meal or the whole issue of how you treat uh fish you know with B different different things so they know and they want look at you funny I even have a uh times that I've I've been at uh people's houses and uh they told me do you um I'm GNA do and they have a custom of doing it for everybody they said do you want to read on your own you want me to give you want something or do you want to just be included in mine be included in mine cuz that's the the says that in reality the way is supposed to be is that one person prays for everybody and everybody else answers but it's no longer a very common custom anymore where the Safari both usually people pray for themselves and the reason why some still pray for everybody but the reason why is because the says says in that it's the the prayer the the the guy that's praying for everybody else is supposed to be a person that's very generous why cuz in you're asking for all the blessings if you're asking for all the blessings just for yourself then that's not I'm not benefiting at of you praying for me but if the guy's very generous and he he doesn't care that and he actually wants me to succeed also meaning when he's asking for the blessings he's asking for the for everybody to be blessed he doesn't have one of these evil eyes where he he gets hurt when he sees you build a new house then it's okay for him to he said that the generational deterioration uh deterioration of the generation ations has got to the point where it's very hard to find people with a good eye to pray for you custom in my house by the way just you know I pray I do the for for my family and and when we have guests uh I don't have that problem having an evil eye but aside from that that's the custom in our house but if I go to your house and you want to do no problem I'll do my own also don't get offended why I I know I'm I I I know I'm going to be generous to myself uh I don't know if you're going to be generous to me like I'm going to be generous deal so that's the thing but don't be there's nothing to be offended about this is everybody is going to uh connect to in uh the same way but in all their own unique way at the same time it's not a different religion it's not even a different custom it's in essence certain things that you can you can customize if you will to yourself because there is that leeway within the law but it's not anyone that's religious is not going to be offended by any of that stuff by your own uniqueness at all we'll have uh our next we'll have next week I'll see you guys again uh anyone that has personal issues things like that that we want to talk privately we'll talk about it after the camera is off but uh aside from that thank you for learning from me it ended much better than it started May bless each and every one of you that's watching it here that's online that's actually going to share this lecture to to help the world also do chuva and not uh leave us as the only ones that are trying to do it don't be selfish share donate go on the website do a lot of things that you're supposed to do and not just watch this like a movie you know take action on this is a huge opportunity for cl is before mashia comes hasem has a lot of Mercy on us he gives us a lot of opportunities but at some point we run out of time so take advantage of it do as much kiru you can do as much good as you can to help the world do Chua and that will also help you do Chua as well amen amen [Music]