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somebody came to the rebba his name was
Gabriel Aram he was writing an article
about the Reb in Lifestyles magazine in
honor of the Reb's 90th
birthday and in the occasion of your
90th bird day we publishing a special
issue of the magazine and the special
article about your life will be written
by Rabbi adinin house in your honor came
to the rebba in the dollar line and
asked the Reb what's the rebba statement
he wanted to include it in the
article what's the Reb's message in
honor of his upcoming 90th birthday if I
may ask you a simple question uh on the
occasion of your 90th birthday what is
your message to
the and the rebba says that 90 is
sadic which
means that every Jew can be a sadic 90
that means sadic
and that is a direct indication for
every Jew to became a real
sad by the way I don't know if I should
tell you the next line Gabriel Aram
asked the Reb he was stunned he was
stunned by that but he says what's the
Reb's message for the whole world your
message to the general world not just
the Jewish world but the world in
general because it wasn't even a Jewish
magazine Lifestyles isn't the Jewish
magazine so what's the de's message to
non-jews and the says same thing that
through their seven noahide laws every
human being can be a
sadic the same thing that's about the
seven no
laws was that was the last dollars there
was the the day before the rebba stroke
so this this was the message that the
rebba Left To Us was that each and every
one of us can be the tadic and what is
the tadic the sadic is the one like the
Reb who sees the greatness and the
godliness and the infinity and everybody
else that means that we need to see
others in this same light and if that's
a little bit scary to start looking at
everybody like this at least just start
with your own kids assume the best about
them assume that their motives are pure
after all they don't just have a
Nish they are a Nish and what does a
Nisha want other than to do good things
and we don't have to repress our
children's personalities we need to
develop their personalities because at
the end of the day the more we can
reveal in them the more we can bring
out the more we're giving to God the old
model was breaking and repressing and
fitting people into a tight box and
maybe that that had a place maybe that
was necessary I can't judge I wasn't
there maybe when the was so so intense
and so strong we needed to be that rigid
and we needed to be that tough in order
to survive through centuries of of of
Exile but Messiah is coming and it's
time to really lead and to really guide
and to really demand greatness from our
children and the way that we do that is
by thinking well of them and loving them
and showing them that we care about
their well-being
before we think about our own
concerns like I said it's a new way of
parenting it's a new way of leading and
we haven't mastered it yet we're going
through Growing Pains I mean really I
could be talking about the whole world
right now everything I'm saying I'm
saying it about Crown Heights but
really this applies to the entire world
right now we're we're trying to figure
this out we
realized that you can't Crush people
but we haven't yet gotten good you
understand what I'm saying when I say we
haven't yet gotten good at what you do
instead of
crushing we we don't crush people
anymore because because it doesn't work
it does it doesn't work but what do you
do instead of
crushing what you do instead is you
believe in people you you really think
well of them you tell them how well you
think of them you trust them you create
more possibilities for them not less you
bring out more of their personality not
less and then what happens is you have
disciples people who you've trained so
well that you can leave the room and
they're going to continue to behave
because they're not doing it based on
fear they're not doing it because you
force them to do something against their
will they're doing it
because you you successfully installed a
moral compass into them if our children
will only behave when we're watching
them and when they're afraid when
they're afraid of of of of of
repercussions we haven't taught them
anything well let me correct that we
taught them one thing we taught them how
to get good at not getting caught hey
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