Shnayim Yomi - Vayishlach - Shishi - #6 - Rabbi David Tawil - Bite Your Tongue

Good morning. In this aliyah, we read about how moves on from his brother Isav makes his way deeper back into Kan and we read about the genealogy of Isav's family. Along the way, we read a very strange puk uh an act of of Reuven committed against his father. The puk hints to the idea that committed adultery against his father which is a very difficult thing for us to read because right after that it says that is he's still the eldest in Yakov's family. He's still part of the family and he maintains his standing as that way up until the end of the book of when Yakov blesses him. Yes, rebukes him but does keep him together with the rest of the family. We learn a very powerful lesson from Yakov. Yakov saw what his son did and committed an act against him. Although our rabbis tell us it wasn't the act that we think it was, but nevertheless it was disrespectful. And Yakov chooses not to lash back out at his son, fearing perhaps that would exit the family like exited his and the family before and he would lose entirely. Instead, Yakov chooses to keep close to the rest of his family. hold on to them, unite them together, remind him that he's the and slowly work to repair the family together. By the end of his life, Yakov has the ability to rebuke his son and tell him what he had done wrong. Yakov chooses a very wise path. Had he criticized him immediately, would have gone off the rails. Instead, he shows love and compassion, brings in and keeps him in the fold. Only at the end does au decide when he knows he's capable of doing so and could absorb it to offer him criticism for how he could improve in the future. Sometimes we see our friends, our family members do something wrong and we want to tell them about it because we have to tell them about it. But we need to pick our timing very wisely. We have to make sure that we don't criticize them at a sensitive time, at a time in which they might write us off. Instead, we should show them love and compassion while remembering what they did, finding the right time to talk to them about it, and make sure that it could be repaired for the future. Have a great day.