Shnayim Yomi - Vayeishev - Rabbi Meir Simcha Sperling - DVAR TORAH

All right to everybody from and I want to thank you so much for joining us this week. I hope it was clear. I hope you were able to understand and [snorts] uh the whole point is to get close to Hashem. So I hope we all got close to Hashem together. Okay. So this is the um this is the day that we speak about the para. We speak about different ideas and I just want to mention that in this week's para like many paras there is an unlimited amount of things to say. There are so many lessons there are so many beautiful things to say. So we would need a few hours just to get to the basics and we don't have that much time. So what we're going to do is I'm going to pick three things to talk about and I'm going to try to make it as fast as possible because I know the is busy very busy. So the first thing I want to mention, we're going to call this yad hashem this year. Yashem that if you open up your eyes wide, wide enough, you're going to see that everything is yash. Everything is yash. Everything is hashem. Hashem controls this world perfectly. Everything about it. He knows you. He knows your story. He knows everything and controls it. So the first thing I want to mention is I just want to mention the similarities between Yakovu and Yadic and why this story of Yakov and Ysef was so difficult. It was such a difficult for Yakovu that he wasn't able to ever be consoled when Ysef his beloved child was gone. So the first thing that I want to mention is that they were both born with a bris. Number one. Number two, they were both born after many years that their mother was an Akara, was barren. Number three, they both had only one brother. Number four, they looked exactly the same. Number five, they both became a firstborn. Number six, the brothers hated them. Both of their brothers hated them. Number seven, they were both forced out of the land of Israel. They both had children out of Israel. They both had Malikim escorting them. They both became a legend. They became a legend after what? After a dream. Both of them, Yakov and Ysef. They both uh gave tremendous brah to the house of their father-in-law. Their father-in-laws, both of them were wicked. Both were far from their home for 22 years. It's an incredible thing if you think about this. Both of them died in Mitim. Both got carried to Ara is. It's crazy. Is crazy. Both left home without any money. Both came back very wealthy. They're both in the US. Yeah. They both had children who became right. Jacob we know and if you open your eyes to the world you'll see so much yad hashem. That's the first thing I wanted to share. Just a fascinating thing to know like don't don't let this pass by without knowing this. Yakov and were very very similar that we just said what 19 19 similarities and I'm sure there's plenty more. Okay, that is idea number one. I wanted to share that just remember every detail everything in this world is ate. Now I want to share another idea that is the exact same lesson that every detail is. So we spoke about that they sat down the says this is they sat down to eat bread right because their conscience was clear. They lifted up they raised their eyes and what do they see? They saw where were they going? So the Torah uses three words. Three words to to describe what they were bringing and three different types of spices and and good smelling things. Now we all know because I'm sure you've heard this many times before and even if not you know this. The fact is that wrote the Tyra. If Hashem writes the Tyra, it's coming from God. It's not a history book. It's not something to tell you how the weather is, what happened, what the stories are. This was Pharaoh. This was Yose. Great stories. Do it to your, you know, speak to your kids. That's not what it is. Every single word is calculated from every word teaches us something. There can't be anything extra. Can't be anything. The gar even one extra letter. The gamarra dash many times. So why do we care what they were carrying? Who cares? What they were carrying was make a difference. So they were carrying this. They normally carry oils that smell bad. Okay, so now it smells good. What's the point? And the answer is because we know that Hashem wanted to show that he was with him. It smelled good. So I'm just thinking to myself out loud that a mush I want to give a mushel just to describe this. So you're telling me that Yadak who's being ripped away from his father's home, he was the beloved child. He's going down to Mitra now to be away for who knows how long, going through whatever type of we can't even imagine and fathom what he went through. But you should know somebody was wearing a very good cologne, very expensive. You know what I'm talking about? The one you're wearing right now, a $500 cologne. Does that make a difference? Does that make Is that going to make a difference? Y is literally being ripped out. He's just with scorpions and snakes in a bar. The T has to tell us that. Oh, you should know that it smells good. I'm with you. It smells good. I mean, think about this like a mush for a guy going to Awitz Le what they had to go through. Terrible. A guy traveling to one of these camps and somebody on the train smells good. Does that make a difference? Does anybody care? Who cares? That's insignificant. You think that's going to cheer the person up? So why does the Torah calculate this? Why does the Torah tell us that it smelled good for Ysef? Normally they were always carry oils and terrible smelling gasoline and whatnot and now they this specific time they were carrying beautiful, you know, amazing smelling things. What's like what's the vert in that? What's the why does it make a difference? And the terret is that when somebody has absin and this is a very powerful lesson that I think we should all remember and never forget and maybe even write down. When a person has a something has to happen to him for whatever reason decides [clears throat] in the tremendous tremendous amount of and the divine wisdom that this is the for you or for Ysef every detail is put into account whether or not you like it whether or not you care for it whether or not it makes a difference doesn't matter the point is that every detail is taken into account and that means that if you don't deserve something that won't happen to you and And if you do deserve it for whatever the is then it will. So this tells us that the story of Ysef him going down being punished for whatever it was and this whole thing that was going to happen in the future a bad smell wasn't part of the he didn't deserve that. So he didn't have that. In other words, none of us will ever go through something that's not exactly calculated with billions of perfectly. And that's very enjoyable to think about. That's very heartwarming. That means no matter what I'm going through is is there with me and he's the master planner and he sees everything and he's the one who makes the and everything. That's amazing. And everything's for a lesson. Obviously, everything's for something. It's not like we go we don't go through things. There's no happen stance when it comes to this world. There's no coincidence. Everything is with okay and for a reason. Every detail is the same idea as the first thing. And it's something that we need to think about. The reason why it says these smelling things because of did not deserve to smell something bad. And that's why it smelt good. Don't think for one second that any detail in your life was, "Oh, I didn't. It was a mistake. Sorry, I didn't mean to put you in that family. I can't How do we mix that? How do we mix that up?" We didn't mix that up. You're exactly where you're meant to be. That is idea number two. And the last idea, I hope we have time. I don't know if we're uh I hope we have time. If not, then you're just going to have to sit through this and that's it. Oh, you could press you could press pause. Okay. Hey, the last idea I want to just say is that when goes down to and as we spoke about I think right was so the the tremendous noishi I'm sorryishi the big of right we said this was going to set the tone for the rest of and then we have the famous word and it's a shallis Right. That's how it goes. A shall What's a shall a shall is a chain. Right. The shall is the truck on top of it. I don't know how it is in but the Ashkanaz that's how it sounds but as far as I'm not sure but [snorts] anyways that is the what's on top of the word the trap a shall the chain. What's a chain? A chain is something that links you somewhere. So listen to this. The question is is brought to mimasif bombarding him trying to seduce him all these different things and he says the answer is no it's not happening finally at the end he's about to do an right we all know what happened terrible terrible going on and all of a sudden yada sees his father and the sees him in the window and he remembers who am I connected to remember that shalas and I refused cuz I remember my I know who I'm connected to I know my heritage I know who I am. So the question is if that's the case then who is the like who's the player here? I mean is it Ysef who's like we're all proud of or is it Yakov? It was Jacob in his face in the in the window. So it wasn't Ysef it was his father. So why are we giving so much Gishmak I mean if I would see my father in the window I you know what I'm saying? Hi awkward you know what I'm saying? Everything would stop no matter what you're doing. Can you imagine like you're sitting there and all a sudden like that what what are you doing? What are you doing here? What's he doing here? You know what I'm saying? Of course. So why was it such a big thing that like stopped the ashell? Like what's the big deal? And the answer is that of course Yakavinu wasn't really on the window. Meaning to say there was no Egyptian like painting random faces of Yakov on the like I just thought I'd put of course not. This was coming from Ysef. This was him conjuring up his father. conjuring up that shaal. It's that chain of who he was. This wasn't some like pictures they were putting on their sukas in Egypt of Jacob and all theum. That's not what it was. This was harnessing his emotional and and moral energy and saying, "Who am I? I am in danger right now. Who's my father? What am I connected to? Where does this chain go?" That's right. I'm a yid. I'm a child of a bar and this is not going to happen. That's what it was. That's why it's a shall and that's why Ysef is the star of the story or it's not Yakov because Yakov was just conjured up from Ysef. And I think this lesson is tremendous. Tremendous. How did Ysef do this? How was he able to do this? The answer is cuz he understood who he was. He understood who his role models were. He understood who his father was. And even though he was in such a dark place, he had his father there with him. So when the craziest Nissan came his way, he was able to tap into, wait, who's my Rebi? Oh my gosh. Of course, that's who I am. I'm somebody special. I'm a child of of God. I am a child of God. There is no way I'm going to do this. There's no way I could fall. I'm going to be in control. And the lesson for each one of us and we're going to finish with this is that if we want to succeed in this world where the comes day in and day out with everything all the types of shmir and all the different if we want to succeed we need to have a connection. We need to have a shall we need to have a chain with somebody a rebby a mentor somebody a role model a god some type of something that we could connect to that even when we're in private even when we're dealing with an assign we could say you know who I am I'm the child of aeshu and that's my rebi and that's my mentor and that's my role model this is not happening because that's how y was able to succeed so this is something to think about something to think about so we should all be To continue to make proud, we should always have our eyes open wide to see Hashem and with all the we learn and all the good things we do, we should bring the venu. Thank you so much for joining.