Shnayim Yomi - Bereshit - Sheni - #2 - Rabbi Joey Haber - A Torah Model for Marriage

How does a great marriage look? Well, the concept of marriage we're introduced to in Sheni in parit because Hashem tells that the Torah tells us more in this aliyah about how man was created and Hashem put him in Ganeden and all of the rivers that were in Ganeden. And then Hashem said, "I need to give for I need to find for man a mate. I need to find for man a match. It's not good for man to be alone. So the first idea is that it's a blessing to have company. It's a blessing to have someone that you could spend your life with. But Hashem then says I'm going to make him a helping mate that's opposite him. And the Gar famously says that if you merit your wife helps you and if you don't merit your wife is against you. What does that mean? So I once heard from a Russia Shiva fantastic concept no matter what your spouse is going to be condo that means a spouse is always there and challenging her husband that's just the way most marriages are the question is what is she challenging you for is she challenging you because she wants to bring you down or is she challenging you to bring you up there means you're going to be contor you're going to you're going to be end up you're going to play devil's advocate I'm going to say yes you might say no you might say I say this and you're going to question what I said. That's just the way marriages are. But how are you to opposite? What are you using that strength for? Are you using it to lift me up? Abraham and Yakov, all of them had wives that in certain points challenged them, but they challenged them to lift them up. You and your wife, if you have the proper marriage and a healthy marriage, yes, you have some conne that you're have some agreements and disagreements. That's part of the beauty because when it's done the right way, that becomes your essay. That's what helps you and that's what lifts you up.