Joey haber with inspiration on Chanukah ANOTHER MUST WATCH!!!!!! #3rdnight #torah #inspiration

[music] A lot of times when you do something, you know what you're doing. Like what's [music] in front of you. You pick something up, you know something you picked up. You put something down, you know something you put down. But sometimes you don't realize what it's causing. Maybe you pick something up and it blocks someone's eyesight. You put it down, other person can see. You don't realize something that it's causing. And let me try to explain what I mean. You know the says that the responsibility of a woman is that they should prepare the ner on Kaneka. That means that they put the oil in the cups. They set up the wicks. The woman should prepare the nerys. And I find it interesting because a lot of people write that on Friday night the man should prepare the nerys for the woman to light. So why is it that on Khaneka the woman prepare the nearest for the men and on Friday night the men prepare the nar for the woman and I think the answer is this is that a woman's primary role she may have other roles too she may have jobs she may be a teacher she may do wonderful things but her primary role is the role she has in a home and therefore she lights the Friday night candles because that re represents the peace and the happiness and the joy boy in the home. The man helps out because the man is facilitating what the woman is doing. It might not be his primary job, but it's what he's helping to make happen. Tyra learning is the opposite. The man, the represent Tyra learning. Tyra learning, the man has the primary responsibility. He's the one who's doing it, but the woman has a big role in that too. She's facilitating that. So therefore, she prepares the nearest for him to light on Kaneka and he prepares the nearest for her to light on Shabas because he helps facilitate what she does in the home and she helps facilitate what he does in the B maj. We have a tremendous responsibility. You're a woman, you're a girl, whether you're single or you're married, whether it's something you're hoping for in the future or something that you could help make happen right now, you have a job to create a side effect. And that side effect is that Tory is something that's happening in an easy and wonderful way. Let me give you a great example of what I mean. There was once a man, his name was Mikl Walpin. He walked into the room and the god dares got up and stood up for him. He said, "Why is Bashiba standing up for me?" He says, "Because you saved my life." He said, "I saved your life. How did I saved you? My how did I saved Rasha's life?" Kameeski says, "Let me tell you a story. My father, Abaka Kamineski, came over from Lithuania before World War II. He took a temporary job as a RV in Seattle. And while Rabaka was in Seattle, he was here in America. His whole family was back in Europe. And while he was in Seattle, there were two Walpin brothers, two boys came in and they had learned a portion of a Bianca Kamki said, "Let me see how you know it." And he tested the boys, "My father tested you walin." And he said, "You knew the garra phenomenally well. Anyhow, eventually my father Kamineski moved to Toronto and he became a full-time rob in Toronto. While he was in Toronto, he sent a message to his brother-in-law, Rab Abraham Gazenski. He told him, "Please send my children to America." Rab Gazenski said, "I'll send your daughters, but I'm not sending your sons. There's not a health infrastructure for Tory learning in America or in Canada. So, I'll send your daughters. I'm not sending your sons. My father Abaka responded to his brother and he said, "Send my sons too because if the warpin boys could know how to learn here in America, my sons and binyamin they can learn know how to learn here too." says Kamineski me and my older brother have been came to this country came to America first came to Canada because my father was inspired by you. Who would ever thought that some wonderful man Walpin would have an impact of bringing two tremendous here to America. people that have influence on all across the country because of how well he did on a test on Babakama when he was a kid. You don't understand the side effects you have. And when a woman or a girl prepares the ner, it represents the role that they have in the side effects of what they do. That there are things that they physically do and there are things that they facilitate to happen. And sometimes what you do directly is so important and sometime what you facilitate could be even more important. But Malin I'm sure had an incredible life. But the causing by side effect of these two great men to come to America and to come to the come to these shores who has any idea how powerful the side effect of his actions were. That's one component of the role of a woman on the night of Kaneka.