Who Are You? - Finding Your Unique Purpose & Destiny - Rabbi Shmuel Reichman

[Music] there's a story of two boys who wants to go ice-skating on a lake so they started skating and all of a sudden the ice cracked underneath one of the boys and the boy fell through the ice and got swept underneath the ice and his friend reached out trying to grab him but he wasn't there in time and he was looking desperately because his son was now under the ice and he was drowning and his friend couldn't get up so the boy looked baffled right and he saw a tree in the distance so he ran over he pulled off a giant branch from the tree and he ran right back over and started smashing and thrashing away at the ice and finally he was able to break through the ice and pull his friends to safety I'm by the time the ambulance came they're able to resuscitate him and perish I'm the boy survived when the younger ambulance members he just sat there scratching his head and he said I don't understand how in the world did this scrawny little kid pull down this giant branch let alone break through this thick ice it doesn't make any sense one of the older ambulance members sat there and smiled and he said I can tell you how he did so the younger members at how the older members said there was no one there to tell him that he couldn't and my question is what could you do that I do what could we all do if we didn't listen to that voice outside or inside that tells us that we can't but instead we listen to that voice that tells us that we can we're here to live on purpose to live for a purpose to become something with their lives but a problem that many people have is that they they struggle with the question of how do I find my unique purpose how do I find my uniqueness like why am I here what makes me different what can I do many people actually think that they aren't unique they think that there are people out there who are unique or talented who are doing great things but me I can't really do anything so how do you find them that's the number one number two is thought the Rahman says something absolutely enigmatic he says that everyone in anyone can become ensoniq like Masha says it's the helpless chuhwa the question is what does that really mean Moshe Albania was the great human being who ever lived he had navoo in a level that we can't even imagine he received the Torah he was basically perfect how can I become a sonic like Moshe Rabbeinu and number three is up the Gomera and neither that flama Namib is says that right before you were born you were forced to make a schwa an oath that you were to become a sonic and the question is is that really fair like are we all fit to beat tsadikim I mean is everyone really capable of being excited because everyone really capable of being great what does it mean that everyone has to take an oath a Sulha there we're gonna be I'm Sonic so in our time there Stan this topic we have to look at that exact same Gemara need their deaf lama base quran which we've talked about before which says that when you were in the womb you were learning coal hot or cool amal who was teaching you everything and the Vilna Gaon explains it doesn't mean that you are learning commissioner ah she means that you were at a angelic and perfect state of existence you were not only so reality crystal clear but you saw exactly who you were supposed to become you were learning your toy your unique ideas your unique purpose what you were brought to this world to become and just before you were born the mile hit you in the mouth and you lose all of it and as we've explained before the reason is because your job in this world isn't to receive perfection is to build it yourself it's to choose is to go through this world with freewill and to become great so you're born as a baby you're selfish you have no intellectual capacity you're not well developed as a human being you're the exact opposite of godly but you go through this world to become godly but the Vilna Gaon explains that you're in this world to become you to maximize your unique potential to become the person that you were meant to become and that's why the ballet now have explained that every one of us are born in this world at the exact right place at the exact right time into the exact right family with the exact genetic components and psychological components with the perfect psychological only but intellect and imagination and memory and emotions and personality you were created in the exact way that you were meant to be created in the right place and you were sent to the right schools and have the right relationships and the right friends would to say you up to become you to manifest your potential to bring out your unique ideas your unique worth your what what you were exactly brought to this world to become and your job is to become you not to become great not to become perfect but they come the best version of you which is also why one of the most important things in life is self-awareness it's to recognize who you are to ask yourself what what am I good at isn't math is it science is it gamora's Allah hasn't Mishnah is it ma shava is what they met you life am I good with interpersonal relationships do people open up to me and tell me their I secrets and you know of really like feel comfortable with me maybe that can be a psychologist am I good with numbers what is it that you're good at are you athletic what exactly what is your passion what what what you what can you love doing every day with your life and that is really such an in-point aspect it's you have to have the willingness to go into a room by yourself and ask the real questions like what am I Who am I what am I here to do and self-awareness is something which is so lacking people very often know a lot about their friends a lot about their family they don't know too much about themselves they don't know what makes them tick they don't really feel so comfortable being alone with themselves and getting to know themselves well I'll tell you you have to learn to love yourself and you can only love yourself if you know yourself and if you want anyone else to love you you have to love yourself you can't try to make people happy and try to make people fall in love with you what you have to do is you have to find your unique purpose you have to find your mission and you have to become genuine you have to become the real version of you and when you do that people will automatically fall in love with you because people love genu people people who are real people that are living on purpose but one of the most important things to realize is that you can never compare yourself to someone else jealousy doesn't make any sense every one of us are unique as Einstein said if you judge a fish based on its ability to climb a tree then you'll call it dumb you'll call it foolish you call it an incapable but a fish isn't supposed to be climbing a tree and you can't be comparing yourself to other people because you are different than everyone else you are born with your unique purpose and they were born with their unique purpose so number one that the comparison jealousy makes no sense number two we're not on different teams there's no competition there's no comparing an ear wouldn't be jealous of a nose on the same body they've heard the same body if you recognize that we're all part of a single claw a single self and we're not trying to outdo one another and be better one another and that even then is not the people will not give you more or a greater sense of self-worth then you can start really becoming you and that when you start becoming the person you're meant to be become him when you start living on purpose and living your purpose and finding the reason why you were created that gives you the ultimate happiness that really does and that's also how the Rambam as explained by ohana Wasserman is my Mario that's what the Rambam means by Sonic wasn't in everyone can become in Sonic like emotional you know it means that everyone can become their perfect self like most Shubin you became his perfect self all of us have a different subjective definition of sonic ecstatic means becoming the best version of you before you were born you were made to take a sewer that you were to become exotic not like Moshe Rabbeinu in terms of objectively what he did but you're supposed to become the best version of you that's what you had in the womb that's the school you were made to take that's what the Rumba means by becoming at Sonic and it's also very interesting Moshe Rabbeinu is the greatest person who ever lived he's also the biggest unev who ever lived how did you go hand in hand cousin uh nas is not someone who's you know weak and small anonymous someone who doesn't compare himself to other people he recognizing that he has been he's been given a unique purpose in this world he is different than everyone else everyone has their unique purpose and doesn't look around and say am I better than everyone else but looks with him then says am I better than the person I was yesterday that is the true honor that is true greatness that's becoming the best version of you and that really is the key to continuing the process of greatness because if you constantly look around and see my better than other people you'll either say okay I'm better than everyone so I'll stop or you'll say everyone's better than me so I'll stop but if all you do is look within and say how can I become better how can I become a better version of myself you'll never stop growing that's a motion beam who became the bestest because he never looked around and said I'm the best in the world I can stop he kept on going can he look at who he was yes Vinnie says ok I can become more and that's also whether I'm how says that own harbour the experience in axial muhabba is not based off of objectively where you the greatest who ever lived but it's based on who you were supposed to become it's based on subjective effort it's based on how much effort you put into becoming a manifesting your potential so it's time to listen to that voice inside that says yes I can that says that I can become great I can become extraordinary come the best birthday myself and I'll give you the biggest proof of why you can do this Hashem is constantly creating the world as an effort hime explains Hashem creates the world every single day we say in crea Sh'ma OSA master braces the whole young Tommy Hashem is creating the world every single moment every single day but what does that mean like think of it do a little thought experiment in your head think of a person think of a person give him a life story give him clothes and now stop thinking of him what happens the person disappears why cuz you stop giving him existence you stop thinking him into being every single movement that sham is thinking you and willing you into existence the fact that you exist in heaven disappear at this moment is because I Shem is continuously thinking of you Hashem who loves you every single good morning we say Moe and Moe Donnie rather than exactly great is your faith Hashem in me that you continue to create me Hashem created you today because you have a purpose you have a reason to be here you have something more to become to contribute to the world to contribute to classroom so listen to that voice inside that says yes I I can do extraordinary things with my life [Music] you [Applause]