Family Fulfilled: Clouds on the Horizon story of Yosef by Rabbi Shmuel Goldin

we've dealt with the story of yoseph we will probably come back to one more session perhaps from that story but this is the Koda this is the um this Shear is the Koda to to braet in terms of how the Torah wants us to view it let's start by recognizing something that we've said before and that is that Jewish history starts twice Jewish history starts first with Abraham and the patriarchal and matriarchal era and then starts again when we experienceas at which point the nation is born so we have the patriarchal and matriarchal era the era of the AOS and imos is first and then the nation is born and the question of course that is raised by many commentaries it's the first Rashi actually in the Torah is why didn't the Torah begin with the birth of the nation can everyone hear me now great uh why didn't the Torah begin with the birth of the nation in other words with the first Mitzvah given to the Jewish people as a as a people which is the Mitzvah KES why does the Torah begin with all of these stories when the reality is meant to be a book of mitzvot Etc Why not start with mitzvot so there are numerous answers but I'd like to suggest three Global contributions that are made to our story from the era of the the Osos and you have them on the on the page before you first is individuality the patriarchal matriarchal era the era of the Yos andos is the era of the yid it's the era in whiches creates a a people that their entire story is going to be defined by the individuals abam and SAR that's the whole story of B right in other words and RKA the children yob all of all of these people are individuals who teach us a great deal but on a global level what it teaches us is that individuality is important and as we move into our nation building it's very important never to forget the the there are two destroyed um destroyed communities or societies we've spoken about this before that are destroyed early in the Torah they are the dul which we just read about and the DFA which we just read about the generation of the flood and the generation of dispersion I'm not going to go into it now because we but they each represent I think if you understand kazal correctly they each represent a imbalance in the yid combination in other words what happens is the door of Noah I would argue and we could talk about it later if you want is the door that speaks of individuality to an extent that destroys community and in the case of the DFA the generation of dispersion the opposite is true the rabbi say that if a brick fell off the tower they would go into mourning but if an individual fell off the tower they wouldn't pay attention all that mattered was the society so it is after the destruction of those two societies that a KES who then says now we're going to start again and we're going to take a particular people and part of that people's Legacy will be the balance between y Andor part of the people's balance will be the balance between the individual in the community and if you think about it we we jockey all the time between these two think of way we Davin for example so it's best to Davin in a crowd right it's best to Davin in a minion however what's the most important that we recite I would argue as a Theon or the amida how is that recited quietly individually I'm not part of the right at that point I I tune everyone else out and I'm just being a cut but is theid written in the singular or the plural plural so there I primarily plural in other words all of the is are are there in the plural so that brings the into my individual communion with the KES and then once after I recite the am what what happens then the hin recites it's for everybody so that's just one example of how we we jockey between the importance of the individual and the importance of the community and the balance has to be a healthy one and and by the way the that balance defines every society every society over time um I I for example I was U had the opportunity years ago to go to the Soviet Union which was not a great opportunity but the opportunity was to meet with refus Nick and it was an astounding experience for example you went in the trains underneath clean as a whistle no graffiti right why go to go to Siberia if you do graffiti right so what what basically was was happening in that Society was there was a disregard of the individual and a worship of the community worship of the society and that's why the society eventually destroyed itself because you if you're not reinforcing individuals and giving them rewards for their hard work you're just saying you know you're doing this from other Russia and it's all okay then the society can't can't can't exist and that's why by the way didn't SEO balance is why the generation of the flood is destroyed completely because God has to destroy unfortunately the individuals in the case of the dhaa what does God destroy the society right he does not destroy the individual he destroys the society by confounding their languages and they are split apart so that's first that's the first contribution made by the door of the AOS and Osos the second is the following we as a people are born nationally with a pre-existing history with a legacy and that is extremely important for us knowing that we're going to the land that God promised us is one thing but knowing that we're going to the land that God promised to our forefathers or to our grandparents it's like a beautiful pearl if you have a beautiful pearl and you wear it but then you find out that it was your grandmothers to start with then that raises its its value tremendously so what's happened is if you follow the pario in schot when God talks to Abraham uh to Moshe and talks to the people over and over again he says I'm the god of ab andov you're going to the land of ab andov so what what we have is a pre-existing Legacy a pre-existing history before we become a nation and and that enriches our national experience and finally the last important contribution that is made and we're going to focus on this is the importance of the family in in addition to being an era of individuality it's an era in which the families are the totality of Jewish experience and the home and and the journey is a journey on one level from Abraham's go separate yourself from from everything around you to the final scene which we will talk about soon which is the scene of Yakov on his deathbed and what what has been accomplished over the course of those years is that by the time you get to Yakov on his deathbed all of his children are are are in the Stream all of his children putting aside some uh difficult uh moments in their in their development but right now by the time you get to yakov's yakov's deathbed he is able to say all of these children and we'll see it it g actually gives rise to a that we say all right so therefore the family and this this is something that that as a rabbi as a Pulpit Rabbi I would told my community over and over again the school is important the synagogue is important but the family plays the greatest role in defining and and shaping individuals when someone would come to me and say you know Rabbi you the school should teach my child not to cheat am I wrong you should teach your child not to cheat you have to shoot uh so much oh that that's what was wrong with so much of the Jewish uh after school schools in the conservative movement and I taught there where where parents would come and say this is for them to learn in school we're not doing it necessarily right um I remember one particular mother coming to me and saying the the my daughter is going to miss class for a while because she's in a baton twirling championship and and um it's very important for for her as a Jew to participate in this baton twirling championship and if she wins my God so therefore what the legacy of the patri of the era of the Osos is also the legacy of family the importance of the family the importance of the home and it takes three generations in early Jewish history to arrive at the point where the family is fulfilled where the family is Hope and there's a message in that as well I think one of the ways of understanding it is that when AB is told go from your land he's also being told by AES baraku you and your home will now have to raise your children not the tribe not the not the society because in those days and in other societies the tribe raised the children the home the home the home and remember then I'll say this this is the last comment I'll say on this is that when the nation is born through yat MIT KES who says to them the night before you leave you have to do something and what do you have to do you have to do Corb PES and what was the Corban PES a family meal right in other words you the you have this stress we're not outside doing constitutional conventions we're not doing Declarations of Independence we're not even having committee meetings thank God we still be in Egypt but the point is the point is that I'll tell you a story about that later uh um so the point being that a KES bar who is underscoring before on the eve of you becoming a nation go home sit with the family strengthen that Bond and that's the third contribution that I think comes to us from the IR of the OS and imos in a very real way now I'm sure there are other answers but these are the three that that have been meaningful for me now we're going to now journey to that moment to to to the moments if you will of the transition from the era of the AOS and imos to to the National era and we're closing down we're closing out the ear of the of oimos so the first issue is re Union and Reconciliation right this is a family that's been torn apart by uh strife and difficulty we can't forget or put aside the fact that the brothers put him in the pit and even if they weren't the ones and this is a whole other discussion to actually sell him they set the stage for they said they they are culpable when yose reveals himself therefore what's there reaction so take a look on the first page for at this moment y cannot hold back he's been hiding his identity from his brothers he can't hold back and we dealt with this last week why parro's household is happy about it is another discussion what what what does y do we we we spoke about this when we spoke about yoseph individually he constantly brings into the picture right that's one thing here but he's very very he's working very hard now to elay the fears of the brothers because the brothers have every reason to expect that that now he's powerful now he's whatever he is he what's he going to do to us so he pulls them in and and he and he tries to put them at ease the second reunion is on page two the second reunion just very shortly is yto Ys hears that yov has come to Egypt in other words he's brought the family down Yosef has brought the family down and yov is there he gets into his Chariot he goes to see his father Isel why is he called Israel at this point we'll talk about that in a little while they T they each fell on each other's neck they they can you imagine just imagine when we read these stories that are so familiar to us put yourselves put ourselves in this position now there are there are two two aspects number one is yov is is just to to not just can't get over the the Sim of seeing his son that he thought was was dead can't get over it right on the other hand does he jaob ever hear what happened does jakc we don't know you know there's so much that's left out of the Torah all right in other words yob here's yoseph he suddenly appears I thought he was dead what the heck happened right where did the brothers tell him do does yoseph tell him it is not found in the text and and that's one of the unanswered questions that continues to plague us as we think about the story but that's the reunion now let's take a look at the second paragraph on page two and let's see if the reconciliation that we spoke about between the brothers and yose took hold dies and what did the brothers say luu yose maybe yose will hate us now that our father is gone he he may feel that he can operate with a he doesn't he wouldn't will move against US during the time that yob was alive my father was alive because I wouldn't do that to my yoseph wouldn't do that to his father but now that he's dead they have absolutely no no barrier between yose's anger in them what did they do V Yar they turn to yose saying your father commanded before his death kis somu that we should speak to you and ask you to forgive us for all the things we've done now did Yakov ever say that maybe he did again all right the Torah only tells us what what thinks we need to know right but these are interesting questions they there is one point of view that says yov said it and they're just repeating it but even though we don't no the other is they're making it up right and the rabbis say they they use this as one of two instances where it's you can lie for the purpose of peace all right one is when uh Sora is told that she's going to have a child right and she turns and says how well I have a child I'm old and my husband is aged right and when they when the U Bim speak they leave out that second part right Sora Sora was complaining not complaining was questioning because she's old they didn't say Aram is old why because she didn't want to cause Strife between aam and SAR and this is the second this is the second place that according to kazal perhaps they made up a fictional conversation for the purpose of peace for the purpose of getting along and uh but what we see here is that the reconciliation between Yosef and his brothers is tenuous it's not it's not strong did he ever really forgive him it doesn't look like it doesn't ever say he he does he does he says he doesn't say salati he says don't be upset because what you did worked out well right that's really what he's saying you're right you don't you don't see any actual statement of I'm forgiving you for it I'm not sure you could right well that's right that's the payback could be could be all right yes would it be a hint sort of that Jakob did know if they say that he said are they indicating that jaob knew oh that's a good point that's a good point in other words in this conversation with yose what are they saying that yov made us swear to that you should for forgive us that means they were aware that yov was aware unless the brothers are making the whole thing up right and saying he knew and whatever yes I think that um you said before that I think that yoseph by saying what he said to his brothers he was saying I accept hashem's will you were meant to do what you did so that I could be here that was hashem's will so don't worry right this is hashem's Will and I think that they wrote this this thing from in jakob's name to allay their owns fears right and and to and to hope that that that y will treat them well which he does which he does they were scared right so as we're saying the reconciliation between yoseph and the brothers is tenuous last comment and then we'll go on beginning we have any indication that the brothers sold Joseph to the Egyptian no that's a that's a whole that's a whole issue right the fact is the Torah is very unclear at the moment of yose sale because what happens is you have the isim coming this then you have the suddenly show up It's Time Square in the desert here and and the Torah says they reached down and pulled him out P rash is that the M pulled him out and sold him to the ish right right so it's not clear and secondly but just one comment but he does say he says to them don't feel bad that you sold me that's he wants come forward to right and have right all we had to say what other y did they know why a because because he's he's saying I'm not ignoring our past I'm not ignoring it and it would be that I think so I think he's being honest I think look on a on a human level right on a human level could we expect him to to Really ignore what happened right so it's better to say you did it or you responsible even if you didn't actually sell me you're responsible you threw me in the pit you started the the whole process and uh and and that's that so so therefore I think that he doesn't the comment is well taken he never says I forgive you to my knowledge in the Torah I'd have to check again but he does elay their fears he does say this was God's plan this was it's worked out beautifully it I if I wouldn't be here you wouldn't be able to have food so all is good all right well last comment he believed in the interpretation of his dream then that's the way he would think that he in my mind it was a forgiving of of because it was the whole land and I think anybody of us who learns about forgiveness should always remember that hashem's plan was it not the person my mind he did forgive okay could be again I I leave it I leave the question open for you to think about and and discuss all right now we're moving on in page number three one step further now what is this about Yakov is in Egypt now Yosef is the Viceroy Yosef hears word that his father is ill all right his father's taken ill he and yov and Y yoseph travels to to yakov's bedside and who does he bring along Masha and Ephraim right and we see here I think the R salvic Points out this is the first time we see a patriarch or matriarch dealing with their grandchildren right this is the first encounter but it's a very complex encounter let's take a look he he starts off by saying to yose God appeared to me in L which is betel where he had his dream uh he promised me he would he would be make us into a great nation and now the two sons that were born to you in Egypt before I arrived Le him they belong to me let's see what that means eimon they they will be like and Shimon now in what way do they are they like ruen and Shimon they become tribes in other words what happens is Yakov is weaving into the tribal the structure of Ben Israel intergenerational connection and therefore now you've got the sons turned into tribes Benyamin uh Asher Etc and you have a and manasha so all right so very very good point I was going to raise it so let's let's comment for a moment I'll I'll repeat it I'll repeat it she asked about the d double portion that is given to the firstborn actually the truth is that uain who was the first born should have received three things he should have received malus he should have received um the the uh the uh uh ritual work of the in the in the in the base mikos and he should have gotten two two portions of whatever right right he loses because of his own in inadequacies and that's that's another discussion he loses because he's P because according to his father he's unstable as water he rushes in he does things and doesn't think about them basically that's ruing and what happens is all of those gifts are given to different different Sons Yehuda becomes malus Ley becomes the ritual observance the avod and Yosef gets the two portions of a first SP now all right so so what's happening is that's what she pointed out thank you so therefore what what you see happening is is this is a subtext beneath this whole story which is who Rises to leadership and why yes why Shimon Shimon is not Shimon ohu Shimon all my answer would be because they're the first he's saying they're like all my sons and it's Ruan Shimon Ley Etc so that's what he's saying they're they're they're equal to to all the others one other thing though that always struck me is that as beautiful a gift as it is that yoseph has his two sons woven into the structure of the tribes his name is not there his name is not there there is no tribe of Yosef and that underscores something we we mentioned before but yoseph is a very we'll see it again in a moment it's a very it's sad sad story he has never want he tremendously successful the Torah says he's an is doesn't say that about anybody else he's a successful guy wherever you put him right the Great American sucess success story what wherever you put him he rises to the top but he's always on the outside he's never won with whatever Community surrounds him he's alone among the brothers he's alone among the Egyptian as well we spoke about that when we spoke about why he couldn't contact his father doesn't that sound a little bit like Jews she said doesn't sound like Jews all right well all right well the symbol of galut that could be right very good very good correct but it's but on a personal level it's a sad statement in other words it's he his he he he wants to be one with the brothers he wants to to that reconciliation to be full and and it never happens let let me ask you if to save save the questions I'll give I'll give us time at the end all right so what happens now so Yakov turns and so this PUK is very important that you could lead it read it and not recognize when Yakov says leim what he is do they belong to me what he is doing on a technical level is he is placing them among the tribes he's raising them to that position those that are born to you after them they're yours they're not these just these two will be become tribes and the rest will be part of the family and he then says spokes about Ro's death not clear why he brings that in now but not going to discuss that now V ESP y v m who's that now stop right there right here is yov saying I never expected to see yose and now I've seen your children right and Y and saying they're going to be tribes I'm raising them them to to a very important stature behave he doesn't see he doesn't recognize them now and this is a point that you could argue with me on but I I I think I'm right uh y y says Bim they are my children my sons that God has given to me in this and I'll come back to that and and he andov again says I I never expected to see you again and he's now God has allowed me to see your children but the intermediate sentence between before the his eyes are are heavy because of his old age and he can't see well so we might be tempted to say when he says Lee that it's because of the blindness I mean that that would seem to be a reasonable statement but the Torah does not speak of the blindness before he says mea right in other words he says me and yoseph answers and then the Torah says his eyes are are dimmed and and he calls them closer so there's another reason that he doesn't recognize them what's the other reason right they're Egyptians that we we the fact is they're Egyptians in other words they are part of the culture that surrounds them we always the way we're addressing the things we do changes by the culture Etc and sometimes it's woven into the fabric of our of our tradition and sometimes we have to say no that can't be part of the M but that's that part hold up all right at the end all right not a question what it's not who are I who have they become not who are who are they but who well you're you're reading into his question that the balance that we're talking about that's very nice but that's not what he says I think I think that's what's the Torah is teaching us the Torah is teaching us that we change based upon our our surround ings and that's why y says by the way aim that that this these are the children that God gave to me here right so this is I've had to deal with that so what you see is the movement of of tradition to the Next Generation other words it's intergenerational now it's not just parents to children now yakob is relating to his grandchildren raising their stature but you also see the tension the tension of growing up in an alien society and that tension is going to appear even stronger in a few moments turn right right well one of the things we've said is that the definition of m right I I I don't mind repeating this because I think it's important the definition of m is often misread all right if you talk to people people will say what's miss you receive from one generation and you hand it down to the next what what's missing right you receive the tradition it courses through you your time your family Etc and then is handed down and and it changes it shapes obviously there are things we would argue that don't change but chalant isn't in the Torah right filter fish isn't in the Torah I mean the the the things that we say ashaz isn't the Torah all right to to really be be clear so so much of what we consider to be Jewish experience and history are contributions of previous generations and we are doing the same thing so we should be careful what we're what we're contributing all right that's that's what it comes down to and that's the challenge of each generation is to to create the box that I told you that there is a debate concerning how we traveled in the desert right the Torah describes our encampment when we're settled but doesn't say what what it looked like when it was moving and the two rabbis argue of course one of them says kikora they traveled like a single file right in other words they broke up camp and traveled in a singular line and his proof text is done is the note that the tribe of Don brings up the rear you can only bring up the rear if there's a rear bring up bring up so that's that's why they traveled that way according to the second position they traveled Cavo no they were in a box right and they traveled in a box they just stood up and walked as a Tav see I've what no no not an arc a box as a box all right everybody got that and the suggestion I would make is because you can ask why doesn't the Torah tell us how they traveled it tells us why they settled that we travel on both dimensions as ones on oneand we travel as as a Kor because we're going somewhere we're traveling somewhere we're we're on that according to right according to R salic that is the contribution that Judaism made to the to the concept of history that we believe history is Destiny driven and not driven by causality in other words that we're moving somewhere it's not just the product of what came before we it's being pulled the second point though is that as we travel kakora in each generation we create our own Tav each generation creates its box and that's what we're talking about now and that is that what what this generation looks like what it in different countries different ways etc etc and then we hand down that box to the Next Generation as well and they have to make their own box and who's in who's out who do we accept who don't we accept it's all all very very at the at the borders of the box it's very very um active right right and very unclear where did get the idea that the way they travel in the midor was The Way They Carried around when they buried him I never heard that I don't remember that it says that that they knew already they all accepted where they had to be because was they they they were in that place I don't it's a m I think it's not in the text okay next now we're and the second comment just quickly on page four is first of all yov blesses them he puts and he puts a before man which is a whole another discussion but why do we bless our kids to be like Ephraim andha I mean when we bless the girls it's why don't we say that's one one answer that's survive in galus that they are able to maintain their traditions in in an alien society and they represent this continuing Saga of being able to do that the second position second point is this is the first time we see two brothers really getting along right and and and they're not just getting along but manasha is willing to accept that even though he should be the first now that that takes that takes a real person right that takes real guts so therefore what you have is we are blessing them that they should our children should be harmonious and that they should be successful in an alien Society all right then the next thing that I put down is the quote in the Torah vraim as said as it is that Yosef is alone he has the opportunity to see the birth of children grandchildren and great grandchildren and uh the Torah why is the Torah telling us that again I think because it's stressing as we leave this period of the family how important and beautiful the family is and and how much it meant to to Yosef all right now what the next section it says the coda to the patriarchal matriarchal era all right so this this is the scene at yakov's deathbed this is the point where all of his children are surrounding him and there is a very beautiful medish that underscores something that I said earlier and that is that that this is the moment where everybody is everybody's in the process everybody's in the river I say there's a river and people ask me how I feel about my children who are all different in their the way they look at the world I say uh there's a river and there are lots of current in the river as long as you're in the river we're okay so uh that so that all of all of yakov's children are in the river right all of them are part of this The Sweep of history but the gor takes it a step further when you say the shma there's a PUK you say that's not part of the shma it's inserted right and that's why we say it it low in low low tones what is that sh where did that come from so according to kazal one possibility is the following that as in that's what this paragraph is saying as Yakov looks at all of his children he becomes fearful becomes afraid says how do I know that all of my children will be in the river how do I know that they're all going to be part of our M after all my grandfather had Isel right my father had asov how do I know that that these children of mine are all going to be within the children not children but the grown grown children right sense their father's fear and what do they say is that this PK is actually born before we see it appears in the Torah it appears later in the Torah and that and what is Israel at that point in this statement yov is when yov hears that he lies back down on the bed and he says now I know that God's honored presence Etc will exist across the Earth forever because if all these all of them are in in with me then then I can I can relax I can accept that all right turn to the next page there's a a an interesting um interesting end to the meeting between the brothers and yov in that He blesses each one He blesses the tribes right prophetically but after that the Torah says call is all of these TR descendants of Yakov end up being tribes 12 12 and this is what the their father said to them we we told you that it's a very strange uh structure each one according to his Blessing did he bless them right why does it come P should be did they did he bless him so the rabbis say kazal say that what's really happening is that at this point yakob after giving them individual brot includes them all in each others brot but there's a problem with that if that's what he wanted to do and that was the end end game why doesn't he do that from the start why doesn't he say here are a whole series of that you all can have and and the barot that he does give are dependent and shaped by the experience of the people and in other words Yuda goes to malus because he did Chua because he did the right thing because he stood up with courage to save Benyamin so what do you mean you included them in all the brot so a suggestion I would make is the following that maybe what they're really saying is that after giving them their individual brot he gives them one overarching bra that they should learn to share that each one of them should share of his Blessing with his brothers and that's it's not only a blessing but it's also a a SEO it's also a commandment it's also a Direction all right I don't think we're going to have have the time to do everything but we're close take a look at the next section and clouds on the horizon all right and what we're saying at this point is what we've looked at is what's happening in in the in the in the uh tribes in the with in the family and how how did they did they reconcile didn't they reconcile um what were the brot etc etc but as this is happening on a on a human level what's also unfolding is the national story the story right and this is a paragraph the bottom of page five which is is a paragraph that we read often but we don't see how brilliant the Torah is in in the in what it tries to convey we're now talking about the moment we're going back to the moment that the brothers come back and tell Yakov that yos is alive right and take a look at how the Torah describes that and what's key here what's key is that yakov's name shifts back and forth between Israel and yov and in this case you can really see why take a look right they they come from Tri they come to Canan to yov their father forar they say to him you're not going to believe it yoseph is alive right and his reaction is what he can't he that don't believe you right what what are you what are you um what are you telling me this for and torturing me for it's not true right V is called Y and they they no they said this is what what yose said and this is we're telling you he's alive he's alive the next underlined section that he sees the the carts or the Chariots whatever they are the that that Jose has allowed them to take to bring the family up and he says well now I'm now I now I believe it I'm beginning to believe now there is a medish here and a and aot the medish is that Yosef and Yakov had a secret sign that identified them to each other and what was that that they were learning the passage of ela arua when which is which it by the way which is a passage dealing with the responsibility of people to people right and and what what's what's happened is somebody is found dead between two towns and the towns have to accept responsibility for that right so it's a very beautiful medish what's the he sees the AOS and the only way those things could be here is if what yose was was in charge and sent them parro would have never sent that so on a on a level all right look at the next sentence is so suddenly he's no longer yakob right he's transformed into Israel because he is now going to see his his beloved Son that that he that that he has sought dead for so many years etc etc V Isel and Israel traveled he's skipping down the path he's he's really can't wait V elim is God Appears to him on this journey in a night vision which is night very which is very cloudy it's very dark very dark and what does God say isov right jakov um correct uh and he answers here I am don't be afraid to go down to Egypt because I will make you into a great nation there right and you will be have a reunion I will bring you down to MIT and accompany you and I will accompany you out and uh where's y will put his hands on your eyes which means you're going to you're going to die in Egypt so what's happening here God turns to Yakov who is Israel and says to him don't be afraid but he's not afraid he's not acting like someone who's fearful so what K says to him is yov yov you should be afraid right because what's happening now is not just a reunion between Father and Son but the onet of a very difficult period for for your for your predy so you should know that this is unfolding and you there's a piece of you that should be hesitant here you shouldn't be so so excited then after saying you should be afraid what does God say don't be afraid because I'll take care of you right so he's telling him the whole picture but he's doing it in a way that it is saying to him recognize the reality of this of the moment what happens look at the very next statements by the bottom the right yov gets up from Bea where he's had this encounter apparently with a KES but he's not Israel right God has punctured the balloon all right in other words is this is not as simple as he thought he's not he can't he's not going to he's not even going they have to carry him now right so in other words what has happened is and this is this is what's very key here is particularly in the patriarchal and matriarchal era but in other places too the Torah unfolds on multiple levels right on one level it's the story of a family on one level it's a story of a nation and as these multiple levels unfold old they coales and one informs the other so what's happening here is Hashem is saying to Yakov this is this is a much more important moment and a much more complex moment than you recognize yes it's true you're going to you're going to see o safe and you'll have that reunion but be aware of what it means to you and your children and be aware that you're embarking on this on this path okay um the next section which I'm not going to have time to do now now and we perhaps we'll do when I come back is yose's plan for his brothers what how what he wants them to say to parro and what parro responds etc etc um basically I'll just put it out there Yosef who is the Cosmopolitan Jew who succeeds the the symbol of success in an alien Society orchestrates the first ghetto ghetto right by basically saying tell parro that you guys are Shepherds he'll hate that they they let you live separately so here's the Cosmopolitan the guy who was successful in the alien world turning to them and saying you got to stay you got to create your distance do they or don't they we'll talk about that when I get back yes I'm sorry