Shiur Lezecher Nishmas Frankie Ehrenberg - Mordechei Gedalyahu Ben Moshe ZT”L

Okay. Good afternoon, chevre. I wanted I want It was very Today is a hectic day in Yeshiva. And there's a lot going on, but it was important to me that we sit for a few minutes. Today is the yard site of a child of a friend of mine whose name was Frankie Ehrenberg. I want to tell you about him briefly, a little bit about him that that you could I could speak a lot. He was nifter at the age of 23. I could tell you a lot. It was 23 years ago. It was 23 years ago. I could tell you a lot about him. I want to bring out one point. Today is his yard site. It's 23rd yard site. The family that the family who my friend Reb Dov Kilsons very in touch with them. I've only been briefly in touch with the family. His name is Mordechai Gedalyahu >> [laughter] >> ben Maisha. That's Frankie's name. Frankie lived in Great Neck. His father's a doctor in Great Neck. And I met Frankie Ehrenberg in Camp Shmona. Shmona, I met him in camp. He was the sweetest, very funny, happy person. Somebody who was the type of hado, he's going to live long long years. Reminds me in his own way of Mordechai. He walked into a room, you like smiled. He brought a smile. Guys see you, cheer people up. I want to express that my father in a deep way, I promise guys here we're just starting our journeys of life. We're early. People who make people happy, it's like very holy. Aba, our father, somebody who played music for people, he had crazy respect for it. I'm getting there in my own life. Somebody makes people happy, it's a big thing. It's a big thing. It's just a It's It's very It's a It's It's It's like spiritual. It's from It's from the holiest things on earth. Ari comes into room and you give off good energy, that's a big deal. To be mesameach people is a big big big deal. To bring joy to people. I'm running today to a simcha. I go to simchas. That's the best thing to make somebody happy. It's a good thing like guys here travel. Guys flew Zevy Koroliy had a heart. And guys flew to Chicago to his heart. The younger me may have questioned to miss Yeshiva. I don't know. To me now like, what are you talking? They made him happy. They brought joy to another person. I think that's what life's about. I think that's the Torah. It's a world like I quote from Rebbe Volbe, "Olam HaYedidus", the world of friendship. Frankie Ehrenberg was the type he made you smile. He made you laugh. He said nice things to you. He walked into the room you were like happier. That's what Frankie was. He came to the Yeshiva he was in. He had been in a different Yeshiva and he wanted to grow more. And he switched to a stronger place. Just when he loved hockey. I have a picture of him with his hockey stick. He loved playing hockey but he switched to the Yeshiva. He wanted to be in a stronger place. There's a lot of things I could say about Frankie, his his wonderful parents. I was lucky to go to them for a Shabbos when I was a youngster. From the first Shabbos as I went I left home. I went Great Neck for Shabbos. Spent the Shabbos. Very, very special good people. What I want to say to everybody here as an ilui, as a elevation to Frankie's neshama is that one of the main things that I have learned in Waterbury and we learned together we're really neshamos. It's not cute neshama, neshama, neshama, neshama. We're in a country that the West is very physical and there's beautiful things about the West. It's a very, very physical country. And I think at times we forget that we're neshamos, that we're just that we're mamesh neshamos, souls. And and people come to Yeshiva often Yeshivas will attempt to like put ruchniyus in a guy. Okay, let me get him shtark. Let me I watched Rabbi Ross. I on a long walk with David Block. He's not here. He's playing baseball right now. He made a throw home the likes of which that guy is a crazy athlete. But, David Block Rabbi Russ is close to. I went on a walk with him. I drew a draft. He's starting to appreciate Shabbos, Hashem, Torah, Rebbeim. You don't got to put ruchniyus in people. Like, "Oh, let me How do I get my kids into Torah? Let me pressure" No, you don't got to pressure your kids. We really have nishamas. Make space. We really have souls. We really do. Make space for the nishama. The nishama is a real thing. I want to express that when somebody departs I'm having this sheer now because Frank for my friend Frankie. I'm late to a wedding that I have to officiate at. I It'd be easier just to run. I want to express Frankie Ehrenberg lives. Real. Is it Olam Haba? Really? Rabbi Oberlander came in a dream to one of our guys two nights ago. In a dream to one of our guys. Around this yahrzeit it says the nishama comes to this earth. He came to one of our guys who's not the type to have dreams. A very honest, straight Not the type to like He came to him. He just wanted to tell him Yeah, he wanted to tell him this guy learns with Rabbi Oberlander's son. He wanted to thank him. Wanted to check up and thank him. Checked up on how his son's doing. I want to express without the I don't need that. There's really a place called Olam Haba. I wanted to gather and learn for a few minutes as an ilui as an elevation for Frankie Ehrenberg's nishama because my friend will thank me. My friend cuz Frankie will appre- He is appreciating it. And when we meet up again at techiyas hameisim when he comes back, he's going to appreciate it. Olam Haba is a real space. The nishama is real. The nishama is mamish real. We're nishamas. I read here a few weeks ago the letter from Rav Volbe. I happened to be thinking about my father. I'm making a simcha in a week and it's very, very hard for me that my father won't be there. Very. And I'm thinking a lot about my father and I'm like, it's he was a big mainstay at all family simchas. And it is extremely this Shabbos that my father's not going to be here is very difficult. I want to express that I sense and I know that the neshama is very much is very, very much is. The neshama endures and stays on. The neshama there's there's a place called Olam Haba. I think it's important in our lives now to know we have neshamas. And the neshama likes things and dislikes things. It's interesting. Our bodies are very physical and the neshama could put up with physical but the neshama wants Hashem. That's what a neshama is. That's what a neshama wants. The guys in Yeshiva know, I think one of the greatest songs ever composed here is alive by Abie Rotenberg and he describes discovering his neshama. I want to talk about this and maybe even close with this. Rebbe Nachman writes that "Ein Yush Ba'Olam Klal." There's no such thing Yisrael as giving up. Rebbe Nachman was very smart. I'm reading more of his Torah learning. He was really smart. Like we I sat down with Rav Ronen and I did a piece with Rav Fisher. Rebbe Nachman was a going. The way he learned to Gemara K'seder was he was a genius. How could Rebbe Nachman travel the world and conclude there's no such thing as giving up? Sounds so Did you Did you never met people who give up? The world's full of people that seem to have given up. And Rebbe Nachman who was well-traveled Gershon, concluded there's no such thing as giving up. He doesn't say you can't give up. He says that, too. Assur L'Hisya'eish. But he says "Ein Yush Ba'Olam Klal." There's no such thing as giving up. You never met somebody who looks like I've met a lot of people who look like they quit. So, what does Reb Nachman mean? Aim Yush B'Olam Kulo. Don't say he's giving up. Guys, Reb Nachman, what does he mean? You never met someone You've met people who looks like they quit. So, what does Reb Nachman mean? It's not He says there's no such thing as quitting. >> I would say that in Hashem's world, you're not giving up. You know what I mean? No, cuz you're really like >> I agree. The neshama can't give up. The neshama wants Hashem. When people say I quit, I give up, you know what they really If you give up, mazel tov, let's make a l'chaim. It must be so nice. What they're really saying, I met a guy in rehab. He was crying like a baby. He said, "I just want to quit. I just want to quit. I don't want I don't want Hashem. I don't" He said, "I can't." His His soul The neshama wants Hashem. The neshama calls man you calls man shalom neshama b'kirbi. Your soul It's very hard, but it's It's probably It's what very When a guy says, "I quit, I give up." he's lying. He means I want to quit. I must You hug him. He says, "It must be so hard." Cuz I quit. That's it. I'm done. I said, "I'm done." I hear. Must be so hard cuz you can't be. Cuz he has a neshama. The neshama wants. The neshama is a metzius that craves Hashem. It doesn't quit. It doesn't give up. It's not what it is. That's what Reb Nachman was saying. Aim Yush B'Olam Mamash like Binyamin. The song Alive is one of the best songs I've ever heard in my life cuz Abie Rothenberg is an honest person and he said there's a part of me that wants to live. He like discovered It's called the neshama. And the song Alive, he discovers his neshama. We really are neshamas. I learned that in this yeshiva. I learned it from the guys. Frankie was an early neshama in my life who I saw wanted something. It was like something different. I was like a stark guy going through In a certain way, I was like born to Baruch parents, tell me the whole thing. I was stuck. Frankie was something he was craving something and wanted something and was looking a big neshama. Here I discovered like in a deep way Frankie would have loved this Yeshiva. The last three shloshim of his life he came to our Yeshiva, this high school. The last three shloshim of his life said it wasn't 23 years ago he left home. I'm sorry it wasn't 23 years ago I'm wrong because he was in the high school. He learned with Rabbi Gefe. A lesson was in base madras. I can't remember. The last three shloshim of his life he came to our Yeshiva. He loved the Yeshiva. He loved it. He learned with Rabbi Gefe. They was close. Rabbi Gefe was his rebbe in the mesifta. They was supposed to learn for an hour. They learned the whole night. And he said it was like the best day of night of his life. He like was meshabeach. He came to me for shloshim. Somebody who was craving Hashem, Torah, and growth. He was I discovered here the neshama. Here you see. You don't have to make people from and get people from stop stop stop. Make space for people. You know what happens? They find their soul. And I make it comfortable for you. I make it quiet and people find their neshamas. So I wanted to express is an ilui for Frankie's neshama. I wanted to tell you that Reb Nachman Ein Yish Polin Klum means that you have a soul. Translation you have a neshama. The neshama wants. If you get a chance here I said listen to the song alive today one more time. Guys could listen alive. That song which express we have a soul that wants that wants Hashem. Reb Volbe who comforts people who comforted his children of his own petirah describes that we're neshamas. We're really neshamas and the iker chiyus of we're neshamas. And as such Reb Volbe says to his children I'm still there. I'm in oilam haba. I'm aware of what's going on. I know He says yedeya kulo chidush. This bochur asked Rabbi Volbe do you know everything? He said not everything but a lot of things. He asked, "Do you know what's going on?" He said a lot of things. It's interesting. It's funny you have Oberlander here. They have coal. I don't know how he of all his words I'm measured, but the neshama exists. The neshama does come back to the body in tichiyas hameisim. That does come back tichiyas hameisim, but I wanted to express that we're neshamas. It's something I've learned here. Something that I wanted to express the chevre to remember to take care of your neshama. Remember to take care of your neshama, to feed the neshama. The neshama needs food also. It's not right to not eat cuz the body needs food. Feed your neshama. The neshama has wants and has needs. Tired, feel There's a neshama. The neshama is a reality of our lives. I drove once from here a yid who's a psychia- psychiatrist. He's from um Argentina. And I drove him to Kennedy Airport. He said for many decades he was treating people. He said, "I thought people were cows." He wasn't from He said, "I thought people were cows. I was treating them as a body of with needs." He said, "I discovered we're souls." He said, "My whole treatment of a person changed." Cuz the neshama There's a need of the neshama, a want of the neshama. There's a desire. I have a book in my house called The Soul Desire. Our neshama has taivas also. Our neshamas has wants and needs. Much like we care for our physical needs, we have to care for our spiritual needs. Goimel nafshay, he who takes care of his nefesh is considered a man of kindness. That both means to eat, to shower, to give yourself nice things, and it means to take care of your neshama. We have a system in us. We have a neshama that has need and a body that has needs. Sometimes it's difficult. Do you ever have two friends and they always want different things? One wants fleishig, one wants milchig. We have like a problem. We have a neshama that wants a something and a guf that wants another. That's in deep inner conflict. And that's a sugia how to how to to how to manage both, to give ourselves Shabbos. Another name for Shabbos is shalom cuz there's eineg Shabbos, but it's a mitzvah. So, the guf and the neshama are happy. There's a whole way of living where you're taking care of your neshama, but your body is well taken care of. And the body and the neshama are happy. For al nafsho, he who takes care of his experience, ish chassid, a man of kindness. I wanted to share l'ilui nishmas Frankie Aronberg to say that we're neshamos. Somebody was a refined and an elevated neshama who brought smiles to people's faces. I want guys to walk out and treat people like they're neshamos. It also the respect you give, understand when you meet a person they're a big neshama. Binyamin Lowey spoke one Shabbos and he has the patience of like a saint and he has a house where he's let people stay for a week, a month. So, we asked him, "How do you do it, Binyamin? How do you He said, "I try to remember people are neshamos and I try to like see it as such. Sometimes in dealing My issue is about to run a camp this summer. You'll have moments where human beings with patience wearing thin to try to take time, it's not an easy to remember this a big neshama, mamash, mamash, not an exaggeration. Persons are big souls, big lights to give. Ze chelek Elokah mima'al, mima'al, mamash. So, to remember that, to take stock of course that we're we're physical, we have things to deal with and situations to deal. But remembering people are neshamos, that's what I wanted to share with the chevra.