Shira Smiles- Torah Tapestry Parshat Chayei Sarah

um clearly the learning should be a for all the for the uh to be returned and uh for all of Amel to just have shalom in the uh deepest way of Schamus of wholeness of connectedness and tonight is is that wasn't part of the program tonight is um it's wow wow wow wow wow wow this is really exciting yeah gra gra it should be just for br that this is a new home for the women on uh Monday nights and um and if you've never experienced Smiles tonight is not a good time to start so I'm just going to begin with a um disclaimer this year today is a little bit out there but it's good to be exposed to different ideas and and and and every week it's very different because I'm very very different um so without any further introduction um this is what we do for those of you who have never joined me before never had the pleasure um we take a look at one idea in the paraa usually one Rashi one medish and plummet the depth and and see that what meets the eye is not what meets the eye and there's so much more to learn and the goal of the learn is to grow is to change as people am I going to have a musical background what do they say if you can't beat them join them but you do not want me to sing so we're up a creek um where was I oh and to see the depth of Torah and and that we often cheat ourselves that we don't expose ourselves enough to how beautiful Torah is and how deep Torah is so my friends I've said enough of an introduction I hope they told you that I go four and a half hours um maybe we'll go four tonight and if you think I'm bad at 8 in the morning typing up in six this morning here we go elas goes to find a wife for Rifka we all know the story he goes to the well Mission he goes to the well and he's standing by the well and he says Hashem if you please do me a favor and bring me the uh this young woman who's going to say drink and have your mates the the camels drink and sure enough he finishes speaking and guess what happens she arrives amazing Hurrican he comes to her house he comes to her house right and um he then tells the family you'll never believe it let me explain who I am I'm alaz Evan Abraham and um he doesn't mention his name he say I'm in Evan Abraham elzar's name is never mentioned in the whole the whole para and uh in this whole section and he retells the whole story okay now let us zoom in in retelling the story we're transporting ourselves back to karat you're all with me we're all by the well here it goes verse uh 42 it's circled or you see part of the circle I came today to the spring he's retelling the story right I said to bastor perhaps the woman will not follow me he replied to me Hashem will be with you good so he's retelling the story and he says I came today to the spring and said Hashem God my master Abraham if you would graciously make successful the way in which I go behold I'm standing by the spring and let it be the young woman we know the rest of the story now let's take let's take a look at I have in my in my back of my car my in my back seat in my car of Number the car is blocking the entrance it's the only one that's mine let's learn together my friends let's learn let's learn I'm in Source number three are we are we together okay great and I came today rashy says the following today can you hear me without the mic great oh gosh you're all my team today I embarked and today I arrived [Applause] the Earth contracted for him that his journey was miraculously shorted what do we call this beautiful I left today and I came today if you take a look at the Shar Source number five how do we learn this the word is extra what day did you come obviously you came today no I left today and I came today further he says that um normally this journey is 17 days he did it in 3 hours so don't think it was boom but it was a short end journey and he says one of the ways that you see this at the end of five is that a r wrote a contract giving all of his possessions over to Yak ainu he signed it and guess what the date on the contract was that very day and further this firm say is he brought fruit with him as a gift if any of you have ever left bananas out it doesn't become so appealing after a while and this is not 17 days later it's three hours later and they were in good condition so he knew for sure he's telling them that this was a miracle that happened so Rashi tells us elzar is hinting at to the people I want you to know I got here in no time whatsoever and then Rashi goes on and he says you see the conversation of the Patriarchs is more pleasing in front of Hashem than the Torah of the of the children because in the Torah we sometimes have laws that are hinted at and here this entire section is repeated twice now stop this should raise another question for us we're in the middle of his conversation where should have r Where should Rashi have mentioned this at the beginning when he says I am the servant of Abram let me tell you the story why is it found here in the middle of this conversation not at the beginning of the conversation good now let's go a little bit further and then we'll ask all of our questions elezar comes back with Rifka M so tough and Source number two she said to the slave who is that man walking in the field toward us and the slave said he is my master she then took the veil and she covered herself and this is the source of covering the bride before the wedding it's not Ro it's Ru covering herself not our discussion for tonight the slave told y all the things he had done so elzar then tells y I got to tell you everything that happened and Rashi tells us what happened Source Number Four The Miracles that were done for him sh sooha once again what Miracle is mentioned the contraction of the land and that Rifka came to him so quickly through his prayer now my friends we see here Rashi twice in one para mentions this miracle of what contraction of the land and we have to understand what that is all about what is crasa it's all about but I want to raise a number of questions so over overall question what is KS about now it's more specific question Source six who only does a miracle with somebody when it's necessary like take mosenu for example how many miracles did Hashem do for mosenu personally very few how many for the Jewish people a lot so our our fundamental question here in the end of six why the rush wait a few more days a miracle is only done if it's what needed is this miracle needed you don't know yet that was the right answer right so this is our question we only do a miracle if it's needed we don't know if it's needed or not second question the miracle only happen going and not on the way back why not well you're answering questions I want to First what ask it why not why was it needed one way and not the other good and then this is going to be our key question for today look at the language of the PUK in Source number two the slave to yak all the things he had done what bothers you about this phrase one phrase here say it okay you don't like the slave I get it EV say it hand on who did it he did nothing he did nothing all the things he had done hello who did these things Shola that's why Rashi who's bothered by this what is rashy answer what how does rashy respond to this problem in Source number four what does Rashi add what word thank you in his what in his prayers because rash's bothered by this of course he didn't do this so rash she asked in his prayer so then I asked he prayed that the ground should be contracted really where is that found I have the prayer that he's ding that what that Rifka should come have I lost you before I've even started goodbye good luck so let me recap the questions one what is the whole idea of Contracting of the land two why did it happen why was it necessary three why was it necessarily going and not coming back four what does it mean when elezar said look at all the things that I have done AER he didn't do this Hashem did it and five why is it that Rashi brings this idea that greater is the conversation of the a AOS here and not at the beginning when Eleazar gives his speech five simple questions we're on the same page just the fact that there's so many questions on such a small Rashi just tells you that there's so much what here I told you this year's a little bit more complicated than usual give me a second chance I thought we were starting last week and it was a perfect introductory sheare but God decided otherwise welcome here we go I want to look at this on three levels and on each level to see how we can bring it to what our lives because if we don't learn for our lives then we have the limited what was the greatness of elezar elezar recognized that Hashem was the one in charge Ashera is clearly Hashem on level number one forget Rashi right now aera look at all the things that Hashem did and the greatness as the D points verse number eight is that elezar thans Hashem for every single thing that what that happens to him he is praising Hashem he's bowing to hasem this is greater is theik of the AOS why is it mentioned here because this is the whole essence of what we learned from Eleazar I appreciate the Miracles that Hashem does for me and that right off the bat is lesson number one for us why is Rashi highlighting this here because our lives are about recognizing Miracles that happen abraam ainu sending him and retelling that part of the story there's nothing to thank Hashem for directly but when it comes to that I came today that the land contracted he's emphasizing this in order to show gratitude and gratitude is something we continuously need to experience in our lives now if we say that level number one is that Hashem is doing this we can Now understand Mish and Source number nine he brings down this is R kman the thir L down when said is clearly referring to because everything that happens is coming from the and he quotes here an idea fromant my friends if you walk away with nothing else for tonight I want you to walk away with this and put in your pocket this is a great line AEL cant once went over to a student and said to him but what's up what's going on in your life so the student answered well this is my business and this is my family and started uh answering the question Rie s sler stopped him listen to what he said double underline a KNE I didn't ask you what Hashem was doing for you I asked what you are doing for Hashem is that not gorgeous money family all of this is what coming from God what are you doing where's your Torah where's your mitos where's your that's a different question isn't that a great line can you imagine someone saying to you you know going over someone said you know what's going on with you you know what are you up to and they start telling you and you stop them and you say no no no I ask what you're doing not what God is doing for you and the what look at you as if you what you know I'll tell you and I've said this many times I learned this from somebody in very of a person in Bon when somebody asks me uh where are you from I answer from under the Throne of Glory that's for all of us come from that's where all of our nishas are I get the most interesting reactions to this I tell girls don't try it on a date particularly the first one unless unless right that's true too um I can just see a boy saying my soul was there too we must have been joined together and you're like whoa this is the first date we really know each other you know we'll leave that aside um let's talk about it on level number one let's move a little here let's talk about Hashem who is orchestrating this obviously he's orchestrating everything but AER Hashem why we don't know why but why what could be a reason why we had to hurry this up so the in Source number 10 offers the following he says thank you had a very Holy Soul she's one of theah she is in the clutches of the greatest sorcerer around to be able to take out such a Holy Soul is not so simple and that's why the language uses is as if it's a MRA let's try to make things as non uh you know as as as as happen stance as possible we don't want to draw attention to the negative forces and hence he says this is why a rinu makes him swear not because it doesn't trust him because he knows he's going on an impossible mission for lovon and buuel to let Rifka out of their clutches it's not going to be easy and the medas tells us that right they try to uh poison him right like this isn't just a simple story let's get this bill out of here that's why that's why the and the end of 10 why did it have to happen so quickly because we have to get her out ASAP ASAP stands for now rilski develops this in Source number 11 and he says 11 12 13 He says the following he says we find in the arrow and 11 that the morning after they agree okay she can go so elu says okay we're ready and they say ready where we're going now no no no where wait 10 months wait a year what's the rush why so here rilski offers something very fascinating he says when you take a look at lovan who was the master of deception you watch brilliant on the one hand you see the way loveon speaks eloquent right in Para say he says to yakob oh you're my brother you're going to work for me for free oh please that's it's so not nice right he talks in such a we use his speech at the end of 13 by a wedding when we bless the that's the we give Thea that comes from love his spee well that's not tonight's talk his speech is eloquent his speech is beautiful but we know behind his speech is what cunning deception and trickery now for 14 let's learn inside lon's two- faace refinement was precisely the reason why Rifka remained unaffected by his wickedness if goes a young girlly the three or 14 and children of that age are naturally influenced by appearances this G her L refine and highly respectable surface and with a natural Trust of childhood she took this to be a Brother's true personality Lov and ran to greet a guest he personally prepared lodging for a pers stranger hourly of kindness refined charismatic and a child doesn't go beneath this look at the way Rifka speaks she learned from L stay Adon drink my master she has learned this refinement of character from L what she has not learned from him was what deception the deception so when Lan says I want her to wait a while why say it she she says no but why does he want her to wait ah I've got to finish training her she she's now right to learn what's behind what you say and that's why elezar said what no no we have to get out right or now so now we can appreciate um when elzra realized double underline in 15 the vital importance of concluding the betral with the utmost speed his miraculously short and JY rning to karon and pressed upon him the importance of concluding his business there in similar haste Hashem short in the way for him three hours instead of 17 days it was impressing upon elezar get her out as fast as possible and that's why he insists let's go now but there was no rush to do what to get back one she's out of Lov On's house now you can what they can slow down 18th though the journey to Karan was miraculously short and the return Journey was a regular duration El othera needed the Miracle on the way there to literally rescue Rifka from her previous home at precisely the optimal moment in her development on the way back however there's no reason for such haste in fact on his spiritual achievement in this case entering the Holy House of avinu must always come with effort here delays and challenges must be faced and overcome instead of avoided for this reason elzar and Rifka were're not granted on the return what are some lessons we could learn for our lives let's highlight a few one it's at the end of 15 a very important lesson is a person should never tolerate a negative influence for even a single moment don't stay in a place where you'll encounter Temptations or tests of character it's very easy easy for people to say me it's not going to happen to me I'm what strong I'm strong I was just talking with a girl today in seminary and uh she was telling me that she comes from ex environment the girls that she's friends with are of a little of a different nature why and she says so from around these girls so I'm starting to dress a little bit differently than I usually dress and I'm doing things I don't usually do I said I don't get it she says don't you get it if I'm not around the same standard and there's a little bit of a lesser standard so I've adapted to them and I said to her why don't you have a strength of character to stand up for what you believe is correct and right oh I never thought about that oh maybe you should think about that GE Mrs Smiles that was really insightful oh wow I'm happy to hear that okay for sure for sure second idea Source says V she runs and he runs toward her why is he running I get why she's running why is he running and this is the key in the bracket in 19 as it says when the miracle happened to him and he realized that Hashem is answering him one two three he realized it's an eight rut Zone it's a time of favor and when you have a time of favor what do you you do you grab it he runs and we know this in our lives it's very interesting you you see this in the next p piece by Yosef a sadik he says go up quickly to my father and bring him down here it was also an eight Red Zone this was the first time all the brothers were together unified on the same page you have no greater eight rut Zone than this grab the opportunity and and take yaku ainu down and this is true for our lives when we feel like the heavens are open and we've all had experiences like this one thing after another just seems to fit into place and things are just on a certain momentum at that time don't say well things are looking good I think I'll take a break and just sit back and no Take that momentum and what with it run with it move forward that we have to be a tune to the times we're living in and that's in general sometimes you know in retrospect we say ah I should have our challenge is not to say I should have but I'll do it right now I'm going to grab the opportunity I will make mention and this brings me to the next page if I can find it I don't know I can't turn pages anymore is Source number 20 the is and the stier both said this is fascinating I'm in the bracket and 20 when it comes toid we may not delay if someone suggests an idea for a sh one must look into it immediately because now may be the auspicious time for this sh to come through which is a very fascinating idea here that someone suggests the sh for somebody you know for a child grandchild yourselves instead of saying oh okay I'll look into it tomorrow the next day make a phone call right now because you never know why was this given to you when now and that's true not only of shim in generally in life when something an opportunity comes your way it's not by accident it's not by accident let me put this in English sometimes we are so busy that we just allow these opportunities to what and then I have a little secret to tell you not only do the opportunities pass Us by but something else passes Us by and that is say it who said it life life life passes Us by and then we reach a certain age and we [Music] say some people say oi and some people say oi and if you're gonna say ove then that's really what ove so my friends idea number one was pretty clear who is a Theon shalam what's up with you it's what you're doing not what Theon Shalom is doing we ber Shalom needed to take Rifka out ASAP because it was such a bad spiritual environment she was in the clutches of the greatest evil we have to take her out right away and then we have time to bring her back home grab opportunities that come our way that was a summation of level number one level number two who are we talking about we're talking about elaser El Source number two notes when Rashi says he emphasizes boso because elzar ding for these things they happened to him when a person dve in it's as if they are involved in doing this thing ah it's Hashem right but the F the prayers is what affects what happen you know where you see this in the next s the P says man was not around to work the ground and Rashi tells us because there was no man to D ah I would think working the ground is hoing planting sewing I don't know what they do to the ground I don't get it no you know what really working the ground is that happening and that's really a metaphor for our lives we think in our lives that we're doing we're accomplishing the only barometer of success and the only part of success we really have is Thea we put in before we do anything and that's really a yod a fundamental principle for our lives again we're trying to bring this down to our lives before who embarking on any type of project Davin I'll tell you personally that at the end of sh before we take three steps back are you with me right there at that moment right we say a p with our name in it and when we dve in for personal things that whatever we need right we dve in for Amel good personally I go through my entire day the way I Envision it obviously there are surprises we all have surprises but I go through I'm talking about my entire day making very quickly yeah from breakfast to buying gas to I go through the entire day and I ask Hashem please help me through each part of the day what does this do for me it reminds me that whatever I'm about to do today driving teaching it doesn't matter what I'm do doing it's not me I need what I need I need help from above and it just am I making any sense orients my day and we're in Partnership but I can't do it alone elezar is the prime example of somebody who doesn't take credit for himself and that's why when we say great is the Seer of the ab of um 21 rwad and the other speech is so beautiful to usam why because he doesn't focus on himself he focuses on he is the servant of ainu and he speaks about this but it's never explicitly spelled out he didn't boast he he had the humility and that's what we say that this is what's so beloved to sh and throughout 25 through 27 throughout his speech he recognizes that I am an Ever ABI it's not about me it's about my relationship with abrau but let's take this further when we say air and Rashi says 28o in hisa so let's try to examine this a little bit deeper my friends not Trev rice the following if generally a person is told okay I want you to go find a wife now we all know that elzar had a personal stake here he wanted what he wanted his daughter to be uh married right so if I were alasa I would come to the well and stand here like this and if a girl would come great and if no girl came then what you know what I tried elezar doesn't do that he comes to the well and the first thing he does is what DAV what does this daving teach us in the squiggly which is half a squiggly in 28 he not following just you know protocol do but rather he wanted to be successful he's staving for Success he's not trying to get out of this that quality of elezar the ability of trying to fulfill the will of his master it's not about him his name isn't mentioned in this case evid is like the highest Accolade we have this mosha is called an evid Hashem it's not about him he has the quality of V it's about I want this to work for my master his Fila is a heartfelt fer that Hashem responds to good okay my friends now we put our seat belts on and we're going to climb into the air because I have not spoken really about this contraction of the land all I've mentioned is that hasem wanted him to get there fast so he had it happened fast my friends sit back it's a little bit complicated okay it's a lot complicated and we're going to do this and I generally don't so if this is the first time you've ever met me give me a second chance maybe even a third but it's fasc not but but negates what I just said and it is very fascinating at the same time time listen closely I get it elezar davins that this should be a girl perfect where does elzar Davin that the land should what contract we don't see it but that doesn't mean it's not there so if it's not there and Rashi says that the miracle happened boso in his F so it must be there and now we have to what we have to find it are you ready let's go we're entering into cabalistic Torah verse 32 same page bottom of the page the the cousin tagid asked the following question did the land come to him or did he come to the land do you hear the difference what' you say so I understand he it did you are right because it says C we're talking about the the land let's understand yeah good I love it I love it I love it I love it doing great do you want to teach 7 o' next week so I I want to share you with you the following the says that in this and I came today to the well I'm in the Double spig L 32 the Russ t the r are the first letters of This spells out the name the Holy Name Of God that contracts the land so begins with a V we don't use the word letter he my husband said if I would say it the way it is I would create terrible challenges in the world spiritually so I'm going to use the word K instead of HE L Al K right the K is really a hey that is the name of God that contracts the land now where is this coming from so I'll tell you work with me when AEM created the world the P says graci b elim at Al same letters except it's in a different order our is V Al and bra is Alf k v k now what is going on here so far so good I flipped the page where did Eleazar learn this name of well I'll tell you 33 when ainu speaks to him he says and I made you swear by Hashem I'm in the bracket in 33 third line down K same letters so you think we're having conversations here and that's what it means [Applause] the secret names that the ofos are speaking it's not found in the Torah of the what of the children hence this is where Rashi what inserts this idea because we're not just talking about coming to the well today we're talking about the deepest name of God that created the world and the world was created through what ssum contraction and allows us a person to contract the ground now work with me slly this name of Hashem and we have to talk about why elezar switches it I get it is the name of Hashem that's referred to as the name of that of knowledge this name takes knowledge and connection and that explains just parenthetically 34 for those who are familiar Yakov ainu also has the ground contract remember he goes to and then he saids I give out I passed by the place of my forefather's D then I didn't what D there and the language that use in the arrow in 34 is he put his mind D to return he used the the the the the the secret of that V K Al K let's do this outside because it's complex there are two ways that Hashem creates the world there's the way of tea which is a natural order and then what we call the malam the what the miraculous above and beyond our challenge in this world let's go to 36 is our challenge is whatever you gain pleasure in this world it's not about you it's about serving Hashem what from what P do we know this behold in all of your ways that who no God what is our job our job is in 37 is to take at has [Music] I take the heavens and I have it connected with what the ground when I have Heaven and Earth connected together I've created a different dimension than a person who is just living on Earth separate from heaven and in fact the p comir p Freedman little bit Bell Torah says the following when a person is involved in doing whatever they're doing even if they have I'm doing it for hashem's sake most of the time it's really not so much for hashem's sake as much as what for their own sake so then the ground says I don't need to really work with you because it's really about what you but when a person says it's not about me at all I am connecting heaven and Earth together at that moment the ground says I'm going to help you out the ground contracts as a result of a person's desire to do the will of God and Hashem is helping them and enabling them to be successful in a more expedite fashion so what does it mean that elz DAV by saying I came today to the well he's saying I use this focus of completely dedicated to doing my job my name isn't even mentioned it's not about me it's all about doing the will of God and his filer was answered and what happened the ground came to him the ground Kaa Lo now I want to make mention here and this is a great FYI you know what FYI is 39 the Russ vot of v v Al K the two H spell is 10 the V is six 10 and six is 16 the ALF is what one 16 + 1 is 17 17's numerical value of 12 this name of God of Contracting the land is called the name of Tove it's a name of goodness this is one of the reasons why the bmov hakadosh has his name he's the Bal the master of Shem to of the name of to of v k Al K and if you ever learned or read the bmov stories one of the things you know about the bmov is he's always is what in one place and then the next minute he's Minsk to pins to rinse to I don't know what they are in poing there and and he's all over the place and you almost when you you know what I'm talking about when you look at these stories you're saying like what's going on here it's a literal B shto he is the master of this name a isn't that fascinating that was worth coming out tonight I don't know about why want much else now practically for us because I got to get moving here because I still have a third level practically for us there's a safer that someone here actually gifted me with and I think you should gift yourselves with it's called ker hasem by RAB Daniel garfo apparently s rler is coming out for one specific to women kti and that is throughout our day we should connect sh which means I'm reading 40 beware aware of the countless opportunities through mitzil and take advantage of them by having cavana for each one even while busy with work or errands a person can have the mindset I'm doing the will of God I'm making dinner it's a for my family I'm pairing socks it's a for my family it turns the socks into what yeah it's a MIT opportunity an example a man owns a bakery can repair bread solely as means to earn money or he can do by supplying bread a doctor with his patients and a grosser with his customers every profession by adding CED to the actions already doing people can marit hundreds of even thousand the Mitzvah every day you put on a seat belt I'm doing the Mitzvah of guarding your soul you're you're driving to work I'm doing the Mitzvah of going to every part of your day it's is connecting SH now I I am not telling you that you're going to have it didn't work I still had the traffic from to here at the same time you will find you will find help from above because you're linking yourself with Hashem it's not just about me and that's our goal for our lives and that's why um the Victor Miller says that when we speak about R Li hasem wants our heart liba is really our thoughts that's what he wants he wants that he wants me to think about what I'm doing we call this in modern day psychology mindfulness yeah buzz word of today let me give one more example then I want to move on you get up and get somebody a glass of water it could be a glass GL of water you think in your head I want to do a that said that glass of water is yours for eternity we can create eternity with our day but not once a day not three times a day but thousands of times a day I go to sleep in order to be able to wake up tomorrow to serve you omg eight hours of sleep eight time uh 60 Minutes is 8 * 60 is 4 I don't know are you following me I don't know the math okay now my friends I want to take this deeper are you with me so I'm almost there so on level number one at Shera Ison shalum he had to get Ri out of there as soon as possible our lesson grab opportunities when they come good level number two it's elzer elazer is one who d he doesn't take his mission lightly he is a model for us of somebody who's able to step outside of self to do the will of God elaz there is also somebody who has taught us the the the great value of this name our lives are about taking Heaven and Earth together and being able to what combine them together that our lives this is for us we can't maybe be the bmob but we can have more of a consciousness of putting Heaven and Earth together and we have I can't tell you between now and the time you go home tonight you will see a zillion opportunity hold the door open for someone give someone a ride you have so many opportunities you can't even imagine of connecting Heaven and Earth so now my friends here comes the question I'm going to talk faster and here goes elezar doesn't do it in order of sh he P first put before why does he move it around why does he put Earth before heaven and I want to share with you an absolutely stupendous alad in 42 the end of the first paragraph in 42 tells us the following the Heaven and the heavens the upper heavens it's the land and everything in the land well hold on a second that does not make sense if Hashem has the heavens so then it should be first Hashem has the upper Heavens the heavens or the and the ground or ground heaven and upper heaven but to say heaven upper Heaven ground like hello says the absolutely fantastic when Hashem gave the Torah at that moment the the ground became higher than what the upper Heavens the upper Heavens you have the shim the heavens the shim the upper heavens and then what is even above that the ground is even higher and that's what it means that the of Theos before the Torah was given elzar was was able to tap into this reality Focus first on the arat this is where Hashem is found and that's the deeper understanding of K the ground jumped to him what does that mean he understood the Primacy of the ground in the relationship with Hashem we are not here as well I'd rather be in heaven and this is second choice no the optimum place to be is where down here now I'm almost finished my friends if there was one place on Earth I get it the torah's down here we serve Hashem great if there's one place down here that one feels the kadha of Hashem present in our lives which place is that very good ER toell erit toell this Source 46 the Practical world is part of our divine service we live in aem's land and our entire lives are his home we're always connected to him even the physical aspects of life I have an orange tree in my backyard I just can't pick oranges what do I have to do true my Meer but we live with Hashem that that's the beauty of er Isel you mind you know what i' say even in the stores you know you go to America at this time of year what do they have in the stores well we just finished which color in October orange and now we've entered which colors red and green okay I'm not being being very very vague here you go to erisel soon the suod are coming out and then you have the dried fruit are coming out and then you have the Mish and then the worst part is when they have the cleaning material come out that I know I'm like I'm finished I forgot the H yeah what a place to be in you feel the what you feel the kadua and the and the whole cycle we're living in a different dimension here now here's the key says the SS in 4748 when elezar came to Khan what is came with him he brought ER Isel with him when when when L this is when L sees elezar he says b he leaves from being someone cursed to someone blessed because L saw with him doesn't mean that the land contracted which it may have but it means the land jumped with him that Eleazar wasn't just coming himself he's coming with the kadua of er Israel with him and this 49 and we're 50 and we're out of here and that is who is aera so we have Hashem as option one option number two is Eleazar who is option number three a person who which person represented ER Park salance elazar says to Y this is all that happened aarea to your credit it was through youra it was through you who is the personification of AR Isel that all of this happened that I had this of having Rifka come so quickly that Eric joined with me I know it's not about me I know it's in what it's and that's why in 50 Al's journey to Aran by cling Earth to fold up under him why then didn't he returnship simly accelerated he had gone become let's consider C to first meeting his future wife he had just gone out to pray in the field we to presume there prayers the director to a finding a wife it's known that Hashem desires to hear the prayers of sadikin and had El return R any sooner Hashem would not have had the pleasure of hearing his brought him fast to get her his fos brought him arel with him but now Hashem said okay now that you have him I want to hear your what a little bit more and that for us is is is I think the final lesson for our lives of we've spoken about the importance I have no idea but whatever was probably very important I'm wiped we've spoken about the importance of taking the at ratone the time of favor and grabbing it we've also spoken about the humility that we need and the ability which is part of the humility it's not about me connecting Heaven and Earth and daving that Hashem should help us and we also have to realize that wants ouros and that sometimes when we say well I've daved and I've davened and I've daved and nothing is happening so we don't know what is happening we're so limited in our vision but the one thing we do know is Hashem appreciates ouros and one should never say well no Hashem said you know what I want those 17 days of Tove I want those 17 days that feed us and sometimes Hashem elongates our Journeys in life and things don't happen as quickly as we want all of us so we have to recognize that when we're in challenging situations which is what we're in now our recourse has to be recognizing Hashem wants ouros Hashem wants us to connect with him and it's not about us we have to have the humility to recognize we have to do our part we have to go out we have to fight we have to do we have to DAV But ultimately it's Hashem who's leading the way