Shira Smiles on Parshat Vayechi- Dec. 30, 2025

First of all, a great to for sponsoring the entire year. a tremendous mishim should be a tremendous for the nishama for the family really a big yashawak today's specific year is being sponsored leishka hers and her second y site by Alana Rosenbam and also a yashikov for that as well meioir for their entire families is okay my friends we are not going to be talking about a even though uh we'll just make one line a very famous idea that shalom decides today will the mdash be rebuilt this year or not the decision is being made today and um if you think well who am I to dav for the gula then you don't know yourself look again in the mirror and see the inherent power that each and every one of our tilas are. So throughout the day that wow what would it be like so this should be it and that yearning is what we we yearn for. Okay, having said that, my friends, let's begin. Let's learn a fantastic insight into the para. Well, every week is fantastic, but I'm biased. So, here we go. Source number one. We know that um toward the end of Jacobu's life. Um he's sick. And Ysephic brings his two sons to be benched by his father. And they come close to him, they hug him, they kiss him. And we're back now in source one. Yoseph then removed them from his knees and he prostrated himself with his face toward the ground. We have to understand why he did that. Yoseph took the two of them. Ephrien with his right hand to Israel's left and Manasha with his left to Israel's right. And he drew close to him. But Israel extended his right hand and laid it on Ephraim's head though he was a younger on his left hand on Manasha's head. Um he maneuvered his hand from Manasha was the firstborn and he blessed Yoseph and he said when Yoseph saw this he said no Aba you have it wrong right he couldn't see I put franks here and manashes you have to don't you know switch your hands back and he said no no noi the younger brothers shall become greater and then he gave them the blessing of kimu kash which is a braha people give their sons on Friday night. So my friends there are a number of questions to ask um and we'll divide this year into two. The second part of this year will be on the question that's brought in source three and this is the obvious question he discusses how he pres protested you have the wrong side and this begs an obvious question if yaka wanted to place his right hand on a fry why do you have to execute this awkward maneuver crossing one hand over the other do us all a favor say to y could you do me a favor please and could you just what switch the boys you You know, it's harder for an elderly person, he's over 147 years old, right? To switch the hands. I don't know how to do that with a mic in the hand, so I'm not so gush to switch the hands than to uh just move the boys. And then you put your hands here and hand there. Why didn't he switch the brothers? And now all of you have the obvious answer in your head, but that's only one. And we have a lot more, otherwise we won't be here for the full hour. So you have to bear with me. a lot of exciting things. The second question we have which is um in source number four which is above five under two that's how you know where it is is it's all you know concealed wondrous why do we have do I need to spend So manyukim where every puk is so what? Precious and every word is so precious. Do I need to spend so many talking about what? The right hand, the left hand. He put the right hand here and the left hand here and he situated him this way. Like why are we spending so much energy on theim on the placement of where the kids are? And why is there so much emphasis on the aspect of hands? like over and over again these hands play such a crucial role. What is the significance and dovetailing this question in five? Does it really make a difference if the right hand's on the right side or the left on the left hand? It's the same braha. It's like why are we even giving so much energy, you know, and so much whatever word you want to use I don't know what the word I'm looking for is to these hands right are the hands giving the braha no your mouth is giving the braha your mind is giving the what's so okay okay so that that's the questions I want to talk about we'll begin with the power of the hand the power of braha that'll be the first part of the of the shar and then the second part of the shar will be this why didn't they switch places so far so good okay that Now, so the for continuing at five says, the really takes effect. When you have this connection between the one giving the braha and the one receiving this notes and it's through the physical touch connection that this becomes uh created and he says there is a greater strength I apologize to the lefties here there's a greater strength in the right hand than in the left hand and the doctor here will tell you why and I'm sure she has you have >> um two main reasons >> say I knew One is um >> I can always put it on the spot. >> One is a genetic tendency. So it's really hard to trace it because in the old days where every old country was they switch right >> but typically there's a genetic tendency to left-handedness. >> Um the other thing is if somebody is really an isolated lefty, we postulate that there was maybe some neonatal brain damage like lack of oxygen to one side. So instead of the right side being dominant, the left side of days it takes over. So, >> did you ever know that >> you need to sort of think about that? >> If you're a lefty, you need to think about some neonatal damage in the brain. >> Unless there's a genetic >> unless there's a genetic tendency. Thank you. Are you a lefty? >> No, but my son is and my ex-husband. >> Oh, okay. So, well, that says it all. >> Also, can I add something? >> Yes, please. >> Lefties. >> Those who um left-handedness out the those who speech center is on the other side and crowds out the center of like visual motor coordination. So lefties like that are terrible athletes. >> Interesting. >> They don't get object in space. The other lefties have their speech center on the same side as the righties and so their visual motor center is intact. >> Okay. If you ever want to know about lefties or righties, you can go see brain damage. >> I don't I don't think you're brain damaged at all. I would worry about it. Okay, I'm moving along here because we have a lot to do today. So, I don't want to get too lost. The Dora, the source under five says the following. He says, he says, second paragraph, What is all about? So sometimes we have this um and it's an incorrect view that bras is sadic has a box of braos and you go to the sadic you say well I need a shak no problem let me see here you go children oh here you go oh you need no problem that that's not what's going on here um he says in the bracket aren't arbitrary. There's a system only one who is worthy of receiving the bra. There's not an automatic you can give out. There has to be a relationship between the giver and the >> receiver. If if the person is not appropriate, they're not going to get the har developing this says in source number eight in the bracket. He says in the bold bracket means a cle. A cle is a vessel, a receptacle to receive. And without that, you're unable to receive. And therefore, Yakov Aino is saying when I look at both of the children, I see that Ephen and those who will come from Aphryan, he's like the composite of those who will come from him have a greater cle. Yeshua is going to come from him. He's going to be far greater than a chop from a nash giddon and and therefore since his ability to receive he has a greater spiritual propensity therefore I can put my right hand on him because he will be able to receive the intensity of the braha greater than the other child albeit the so this is an important idea Here the idea is bras aren't automatic and the idea is that when one comes to ask for a braha the question we have to ask ourselves is what am I doing? How am I working on myself to be able to >> receive this braha? Um and and I'm going to share a story that Ko sent me which uh I appreciate of uh it was a great story which I I think is related and if it's not related it's a great story of and perhaps you know it but it's worth repeating of um a blizzard 1956 New Haven Connecticut. So, some of you may remember this blizzard. Um, I wasn't on planet Earth yet in this form. Who knows what Gilgal I was. And there was a woman who had waited a while for a child who was making a brisk that day. And um, she had set up and prepared and she knew a minion was going to come, but she wanted her friends to be there. This was the day that she was waiting for. So, the time comes for the breast. No one's there. 10 minutes, 15 minutes. We could all appreciate this. And she walks outside. There's 25 inches of snow outside. I'm like, who's showing up in this weather? And she looks outside hoping. And then she sees trudging down the block is one friend who walked over a mile. I can't believe you came. How could I miss this day? And then a few minutes later, a woman who was just posts surgery, she comes trudging. I can't believe you came. How could I miss this day? And then finally, a third woman comes who trudged two miles. You trudged two net trudging in 25 inches. You remember this? Yeah. I can't believe you came. How could I? What? How could I miss this? And those three friends made her made made the day. made the civa. Nine months later, on the same day, all three had a bris for their sons. But that's not the end of the story. Lady number one had all girls and was callishing for a boy. Lady number two had secondary infertility and didn't have kids for around eight years. And lady number three had no children for 10 years. to be able to receive braha from above. Are you ready to walk in the snow? And that's a metaphor. What are we doing? And you know, so often in life, we just think you press the button, I go to the sadic, you know, where are you? And the core is where's your muses? And that's what it means to be mala as well as Rabbi Miller points out from the divro slow-mo in source 10 that the person blessed must himself firmly believe in the blessing and that's why you see that adds a second he says go then says no no no but you got it wrong and then he gives another why does he give a second because the first braha may be but may been affected use that word because you don't believe I was giving it to the right people. So therefore now knowing who I'm giving it to you have to what give give another braha. Let's develop this idea a little bit further about the power of braha in particular in in in terms of parents to children source number 11 the the freeder we'll be moving here a little bit because we have a lot to do it's under 10 that's convenient and there are two tens that's even better who's who's who's noticing When you give a bra, it's very fascinating. Again, a braha is in a magical formula. It's really asking Hashem to give the desay the help that a person should be able to be successful in. And that's why we have to put our what our best foot forward in terms of the braas too the the children you really see this it says that benched all the children really you're unstable like water that's I curse your anger that's aha and the answer is yes to know your strength and weaknesses is the greatest braha and you almost wonder whether it's when a parent benches their child on Arab kipper you know kidre or even regular parents grandparents to add what are the strengths of the child what are the kokes that's part of the braha to give them insight because we know as parents and grandparents we are far wiser than they will ever be. Even when they become parents and grandparents. Yeah. Yeah, I was kidding. Yeah, you knew that. Um, but we have insight as being what? As being an outsider who's raised them, who sees what's going on. That's the biggest braha you can give them is that level of insight. Now, in order to really give a to a child or anybody in 12 Here we're talking about a parent to a child. There has to be some type of connection to the extent that a parent feels emotionally, physically, give me a better word, connected >> connected is the word I'm looking for um to that extent the braha has a greater power and likewise to the extent that the child and recipient feels connected to the one giving the braha you know I heard said once that when we say in shalom or where we ask Hashem to bench us put your head down and Feel as if what the rea is about to bench me. It's beautiful, isn't it? Okay, you can go now. You got an idea. >> You know, I was kidding with you. >> Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Great. >> Amazing. More to come. You have no idea. It's it's not just a relationship between a grandparent and a grandchild. It's all about that's why he hugs him and he kisses them. And then he goes on and he says, and this is when you have that connection. Continuing at 13. You understand that when he puts his right hand on the bakur on the elders's on the younger's head. Thank you. It's not just putting a hand like I'm putting on these books. It's putting what? His love, his connection, his I'm going to use the word I'm sorry. This is my LA days. His energy on the uh on the uh on the child. And that energy, that mindset is what creates the reality. Um let's move to the next page. Now women we understand this that it's not just the right hand versus the left hand it is the energy thera and the 14 the power of the braha which is found in the right hand more than the left hand even though it's the same we can now yes >> I just want to clarify something are you saying that when we give a tailoring to the person who's receiving it. >> Well, it's more powerful when you tailor make it because again, >> well, you would have to do theronos in a way that's going to build the person, not destroy them, >> but not embarrass them. Yeah, obviously. >> Yeah. >> It's also interesting. Um, as a lefty, I think about this. You You're a lefty. >> Oh, now you tell us. Revit said, "Do you feel better? You're in good hands." >> It's interesting. This is not what I was going to say, but like I think lefties represent like something like 10% of the population. They were 40% of my medical school class. >> Wow. >> 10% of the population, 40% of her medical school class. Very fascinating. >> It's interesting to think about what we change the hands for and what we don't like is >> good very good >> and some of them not >> good >> and I haven't found a common >> theme and then when do you change your hands I want to talk about this right now so you segueed me perfect thank you into where I'm going and that is when we understand that the hands are not just you know appentages in our body rather they create energy and reality so now I can appreciate in The onel which literally means he switched his hand. The tarum says he camel from the word with wisdom he maneuvered his hands. What is this saying? So the mafuring point out we'll begin with Raul Shirum that hands have a wisdom of their own and have an energy of their own. He calls it the and it really would be for us. The goal would be that our limbs would know to do the will of Hashem on their own. That the hands have a mindset of their own. This is like David where he says, "Wherever I went, guess what happened? I landed in the basement mattress. I thought I was going here or there. My feet took me in the basement. This is about by the he extended his hand with a knife in his hand. And why did he have to extend his hand? Because his hand said this is not where you need to be. So he had to physically move his hand almost against what? >> His hand. You have to hand it to him. You know he >> Yes. >> The first that we make in the morning is al >> Yes. The first brussel we make in the morning is 100%. 100%. And it happens to be this is what I'm teaching today based on a coupleistic understanding in an hour from now. So you're 100% correct. Yeah. It's elevating our hands to realize they are just um literally tools in the hands of their bonus. You're 100% right. There's a lot there. Yeah. Okay. Now um that's why um we are very flippant with our hands. Our hands fly everywhere. Our feet fly everywhere. A sadic is somebody who has total control over every limb of his body. Yakovino could not see his children. He intuited or rather his hands intuited this hand needs to go here and this hand needs to go there for us. Every movement of our hands has to be thought through. And just to pause a minute and then we'll get back to what you were just saying. There's a piece ravulba has in shumas where he speaks about how he once was by his rebi rebuham for and there was an alarm clock on the table that wasn't working so he was picking it up and playing with it and seeing why it wasn't working and said to him it doesn't work and he kept on holding it like he also realized it didn't work and rebuham said it doesn't work and then understood what Riab was saying. Why are you holding it? It's not yours. Why are you touching something that doesn't belong to you? It doesn't work. Keep it on the table. Now, I want to tell you a PS to this story. I once taught this in Miklo Chanabet many summers ago and a girl told me she says you have no idea how true this is about watching your hands. This is a story a girl told me a 17 18 year old 16 17 year old she says I was once in a shoe store and I was paying and there were a cute pair of little red shoes on the counter and while the person was ringing up the bill I was playing with the shoes because they were cute pair of little red shoes. I finished paying I walked out and what was I holding in my hand? the little red shoes. We don't even realize how we're not in control of our hands. It's not yours. Don't touch it. >> Go. But uh move it. >> It just struck me. It's such an interesting parallel that was blind. >> Yes. Yes. >> And couldn't see but he had he knew. >> Right. Right. Right. And at the same time asked to hug Yakov too. So you also have that dimension there. Yeah. Miriam. >> My father was a Holocaust survivor with the number 18483. My sister refused for the number to be on the I said I ended up the numbers. It comes up to the number 28. The number 28. That's it. >> Yes. Beautiful. I love it. It's now what does this mean for us? It does mean for us that when we say a let's try in our own lives to have some level of control over our hands. You're saying a braho today it's not a good example being a tiny but you're saying a braha on food. You hold it in your dominant hand. That awareness that you hold it in your dominant hand is beginning to train yourself that my hands make a difference and I can pick up that cup of coffee in my right hand, hold it and say the braha. That's a small way of working on that my hands aren't just all over the place. I can direct my hands to the point that it will become natural for me that when I say abrah I won't even think about it and I will naturally take it in my dominant hand to say the braha good now I I I got to move here a little bit did I say that I want to add one more nakuda to right and left and then I want to get into why didn't he switch the places right and left we've been speaking about is the stronger hand. It's it's the more dominant. It's the more forceful part of the braha. There's another part of right and left and that's a new safer for us because it's a new safer for me from the world of the mashma. It's very recent Rabbi Bernstein. We're going to do another piece from Rabbi Bernstein today. You'll see the print looks exactly the same. And um I'm just going to summarize 21 through 24 what Rabbi Bernstein says here and then we're going to be go back inside and that is the right side represents above the natural order and the left side is the tea and that explains the pit. They will fall from your side. alf a thousand and myriads on your right side. So when it says on your side, it doesn't say your left side. But obviously if the end of the p is the right, so this is the left because means the side that's right near you. That's the level of tea, the level of nature. The right side is Labalamva which helps us explain the difference between the two judges or two leaders that came out from Manasha was Giddo who was a tremendous fighter. However, he fought in the realm of tea, the realm of nature. The hand belonged on the left hand for him. Yeshua on the other hand is she alone is above the natural order. He puts nature on hold and therefore Yeshua needed to have the right hand on him because he's not just giving him a braha. He's infusing within him abilities with either within the natural order, hence the left side or above the natural order, hence the right side. Okay. So that ends idea number one for today. Just to summarize, a braha is not just about the one giving the braha. It's very much about the one receiving the braha. What are you doing to make yourself a clea to receive this braha? That's the question we have to ask ourselves in giving a braha. The greatest aspect of Abra is giving the person that they have to be able to be successful in their endeavors and something to think about whether it's once a year or roes time on Friday night when you give your children grandchildren whatever it may be to think beforehand what what little piece can I can I uh can I give them with that the burn stones continue to help you with, you know, like I have one daughter whose strength is she thinks outside the box and anytime I have a situation where I'm just stuck because there's no way out, I call her up and I say, "Here's a situation. Help me with a solution." You know how people some people she's a writing how can think outside the the box and then when you when you are able to bring that out so then it builds them. Am I making any sense? and and and it gives them that co that wow I'm in a difficult situation. You know what Ima believes in me that I can be able to see that makes sense. Yeah. Okay. Look at me. Leave my kids out of Okay, that's good idea. They tell me that all the time. They always say to me, "We want to hear the sheer memo. What do you say about it?" Nothing. I'm really nothing except what I do. Okay. Right side, left side. Right is malo tea. Left is tea. You have a question. >> I have a question. >> To pour. >> Yeah. >> Don't pour that way. >> Don't pour that way because that's the way they pour in the base. to make fascinating >> that they did not allow >> they didn't allow Fascinating. I'm not aware of this but I love it. >> I love it. >> Okay, great. Please. Yeah. >> Um I have a problem that Yose rebuked his >> Yeah. Good, good, good. They were asked that question. They do. I'm not dealing with it. But they asked the question and and and and and again they speak about how he did it in a way that was trying to make right what his child deserved. He's standing up for the what? For the uh >> for the bakur. But the first ask you a question. It is it is a question. >> It is the question was how could yadi tell his father what to do and and the question stands. It's a great question. It's a great question. You have your work cut out for you. It's good. I'm not It doesn't bother me. Okay, my friends. Here we go. Ready? This is great. This is amazing. But everything else, why doesn't he just say what? Yoseph, do you mind just switching the the boys so that I can put my right hand here and my left hand here? So the classic answer which you all were thinking let's do inside and that is source 26 looks like 126 here says that Jacob's maneuver was deliberate so the word in this verse he explains shares a root with the word wisdom Torah is teaching that Jacob acted wisely in crossing his h his arms while blessing manashim what wisdom was inherit inherit in this move 26 Yeah, >> it's right side versus left side and right hand versus left hand. >> I'm going to get to that, but I'm not there yet. There are times in life when we must do something that by very definition will hurt someone. Sometimes it can be something really lifealtering, laying off an employee due to downsizing measures. Other times it can be just something that will make someone feel bad such as when we feel that we must admonish an adult child or exercise tough love toward him or her. Yakov's in this sort of situation says he knew that he had to place his left hand and manage his head. Wicked people would emerge from him place his right hand and fry his head progenitor of the great Yoshu and such situations occur frequently in our lives. The common application is the should boy and girl meet and one of the two fields not a how do we go about saying no? Do we avoid the shak's call shad's calls for a few days, dragging it out because we don't feel like facing up to an unpleasant conversation? Or do we perceive the potential pain of the other party having been strung along for a few days only to be brought down to the ground and make the call immediately? Yakov's wisdom that when he had to do something that would hurt someone, he found a way to do so while preserving the person's dignity rather than adding insult to entering. It was far less embarrassing for Manasha to have Yakov cross his hands than have to switch places with Ephraim. I will make mention almost parathetically there are mafarim who point out that the heads of the children were bowed down. They didn't even know that he had switched hands until Yoseph said something. Only then did Jacob give the of he didn't give it before so as not to embarrass the children. Once they knew it was switched over only then did he give that braha. So you see that that that level of sensitivity. Yeah. >> I was listening to a middle on and he said that husband comes home and his wife did not cover the that's coming >> and he and he he went crazy on her >> and the rub said to him why do we cover the follow >> right so again you know when a when a husband critiques his wife for not covering the kala publicly when the whole reason we do it is not to embarrass the kala we we have to have our sensitivities in order so that is clearly Idea number uno, not to embarrass to mitigate the uh the pain. I want to add a few other answers. The second one is in source number 28. It's above 30. Yeah, this is tamidas. You know, sometimes we have an idea. Well, usually we have an idea that you can walk home with and share with somebody. This in my mind is such an idea and this is what the tamas quoting let's take a look and the asterisk he says the nature of a person is the nature of a person is to downplay the good qualities of somebody else you really think they're that generous and they're that that's and we do that for many reasons you know a lot It's her own insecurity, whatever it is. Um, however, but when you speak about their what their deficiencies, good word. You speak a lot about their deficiencies because in that way you look what? You look better. Okay. So far so good. That's human nature. And this is a good word for a serotic. Now what happened says the following? I'm going to use you as an example. You don't mind. I needed to use a chair for this, but it's easier for you as a person. My right hand is to Rael's >> left hand. My left hand is to Rael's right hand. And that's the mirror of what we're speaking about. My right hand, which are my strengths. What does she who is across from me do? She takes my right hand and focuses on the left. Mitigating my left hand, which is are my weaknesses. It's to her right. What does she do? ads, smiles. I once in a while add something. I think this gives a deeper understanding. Don't tell me this is what we do. I know. But I want us to understand when a person gives a shom up to somebody, what do they do? They shake with the right hand. The right meets the right. That's how you have to look at your friend. This dubtales from last week. Remember Yseph saw the positive things in people. This is the when you meet somebody give a sha whether it's physically shaking their hand or metaphorically be able to connect. I'm going to build up your positive quality traits. Now we now understand that this was a message that Jacobina was trying to teach his children. Heavka took his right hand and put it on the other side so that right would meet right and left would meet left to teach us this lesson. Aside from the fact that a frying needed that braha, there's another lesson being shown here and that's the lesson of how we have to look at other people and see their what >> their goodness, their positive traits. And my friends, I think this is the mate message for us today. We've seen this. It's like the theme today. Go around building people up. Talk about their strengths. Emphasize the good parts. Give bras to people all day and part of those bras is just what focusing in on what you appreciate about the person. You have a question. No. Okay. Now >> I think that also to me it means complimenting. >> 100% it means complimenting. >> You you and I compliment each other. My strength. >> Yes. Oh my strength is your weakness and we work together. But as long as we look at as a complimenting and not as a critiquing it works comment >> right >> and then grace and I just recently read and share the concept of looking at someone's humility their their grace their pain and looking at the positive side as to their negative side and that's what was missing. >> Right. Very good. What was missing the was being able to see the in another person and when you're able to see the then you're able to bring this level of connection and and love 100%. Okay. So the first idea why did he switch places? Sensitivity. Second idea he's teaching us right has to meet right and left has to meet left. because the wicked people were going to emerge from him. It's like it's inevitable. I don't get the power of the left hand. >> It's a good question. How is the left hand going to affect the wickedness that come out of Manasha? The answer is even wickedness can be what on different gradations and and as much as you everyone has free choice as much as you can infuse braha and goodness that's going to mitigate the effect of how it's going to go that's that's what I would offer now let's take a look at Robert Bernstein dimensions of kish this is gavaldic verse 29 he brings here. I'm going to say it's the alad and I hope I'm right. The following. It is the kadosh. He here's the background before we go inside. He says the following. There's something a dynamic that's going on here between Yakovino and Yose Vadic in theim that we have to understand. And that is Yoseph Sadadig. Even though Yakovu said, "Your two children will be like Ruv and Shimon. That's all very nice." He wanted his father to give the braas directly to them. And when he brings the children, Jacobu says, "Meah, who are these?" And he says, he said, "Children Hashem blessed me with." When he says, "Who are these?" It's because he sees that there are going to be wicked people. What he's really saying is I'm not sure these children are worthy of having a what a braha directly from me. And that's what Yseph Sadi wanted more than anything for his father to bench them directly. Hence when he brings them close and Yakovu hugs and kisses them, Yoseph Sadi really believed that was going to be the turning point that now Yakov Au was going to what? Bless them directly. Hence the end of 30. Um, Yseph on the other hand saw the direct contact with his sons and Yakob's ensuing words as an indication that he reconsidered prepared to bless them directly. And that's why it says Yoseph released his sons and he bowed down to the ground. Well, why is he bowing down to the ground now? You bow down to the ground when you hear good tidings in Yosephik's mind. He's bowing to the ground. Thank you. Now, my father's going to bless them what? Directly. Now if you take a look back in the this is mamish in the take a look in uh uh verse 15 I'm back in source one right he puts him on the right him on the left and look look at verse 15 he blessed anyone with me here >> ah he blessed yoseph and he said oh god before My forefathers like war. May the angel redeems for all the evil. Bless the lads. Who does he bless? >> Yseph. He blesses the children through >> Yoseph. Now watch this. Yoseph really believes that what? It's going to be direct. Yakov says, "No way. I'm blessing him through Yoseph." Now I understand. I flipped the page. Now I understand the dynamics here. When it comes to the positioning of Yoseph's sons 31, to receive the blessing, two issues need to be considered. Which son would receive the right side? With reference to whom should the right and left side be determined? Regarding the latter question, if the blessing will be given directly from Yakov, then it will be his right and left side that are significant. However, if the blessing will be delivered through Yoseph, then it's the right and left side of >> Yoseph that is important in terms of the above. We can appreciate that Yoseph understanding differ from that of Jacob with regard to both of these questions. He felt that Manasha should receive the right side. He thought the blessing would come directly from YaKob. Accordingly, he positioned his son with Minasha at Jacob's right side and Ephraim at Jacob's left. What is most fascinating is that through acting on these two premises together, he effectively positions his son exactly where they need to be in terms of >> Yako's plans. Placing a fry at Jacob's left side meant that he was placed at Yoseph's right side. Likewise, placing Manasha at Yako's right side meant that he was at Joseph's left side. So now we understand why Yako crossed over his hands to give the right to a friend, didn't ask grandsons to change places, for in reality they were exactly where they needed to be. Wow. Galtic. One second. Let me just reiterate this. If you take a look at the pukim and you mamish the pukim jump out at you, go back into the pukin where it says in yudiml 13 yoseph took the two of them. Ephryim with his right hand to Israel's left and manasha with his left to Israel's right. This is not a play that I need to have what stage directions. What is going on here with all these details? It's to his right, which is his left and his left and his right. What's going on here? Whoa. Every detail is relevant because the right of Yose Fatadic is exactly where Ephraim needs to be. on top of that, literally on top of that, you also need to put his hand because again the hand is the conduit of braha. So really Ephraim means to be on the right of Yose with his right hand and that's the perfect coordination to give the bra to each one of them and therefore no switching of the hands is necessary at all. Yes. >> What does it really mean that the came through? >> Good. Good. So that's a question. What does it mean that the bra came through Yoseph? That's a question that's much larger than than I'm going to touch on here. It means that it's y sitkus that's going to then transfer over into the children. They weren't yet on that level to receive it directly. Sometimes you need that conduit in between. That's a simple answer for a much much larger question. So on the most simplest level, if you're not worthy, you need to have somebody who is worthy to then be the conduit. And that's the best. >> Said he's the vessel. >> The vessel. Yeah. Exactly. 100%. You're with me? Yeah. >> Just to go back a comment question. The comment is that yesterday. It was boring. >> Yesterday was boring. >> There were hundreds of people that went to the Levia of the terrorist attack of this young woman and they were shocked to see that there were so many people that came out. people came out to this terrorist attack of this young lady in China. >> So my my sh to you is knew that there's a problem. We know that because she was read to as she and God heard prayers. So why didn't for their children? >> Of course they did. Of course they did. Of course they did. And you still have yes Jacob and Yseph David for his children. And at the same time you still have what? And that that's the beginning and end of of a much larger question. >> But doing this this is actually saying there is no way. >> No that's not true. That's not true at all. >> That's not true. There's just again I go back to there's a greater cle and a fry than there's a greater potential and we're blessing potential. That's the best I would say. Yeah. Okay. So we had one and again the davening piece is an important piece and I'm not mitigating that at all. It's a much larger much larger topic. So we have um muser try not to embarrass a person if you can help it. That's an important lesson. Two, bring out positivity needs to breathe with positivity. Right needs to meet right. Right. Right. Three, they had to be here because it's not just the right and left of Jacob. It's also about the right and left of >> Yoseph. There are two more answers and then we'll end with a final idea. The next one I'm going to do outside. 36 and 37 of goldfos and he says the following. It's a little bit of a deeper answer. I'm just going to share it briefly. When the Jewish people were in Egypt, they then entered into the midbar. The midbar was like a bubble. It was a bubble of total spirituality, total connection to Hashem where they lived literally bread from heaven and uh and the man the be the describes this experience as living on the right side which means living in a total spiritual enclave of of connection to going into Israel in comparison which is so physical where you're eating leina bread from the ground. So it's a greater struggle to what to be able to find God. It's a greater struggle for us in our day and day in our interactions to be able to see the rebal at every side. We live, we live even in Israel very much left. Yoshua's job as being the transition from the midbar to Israel was to be able to bring who wants to finish my sentence >> the spiritual to the physical and in our terms to bring >> the right to the left. So he's standing on the left of Yakovu because that's his position. He's going to be in Erit Israel. He's going to be that leader of transition in the land. At the same time, he's going to need to infuse that right hand, that right Kak into that Erit Israel experience. So he needed to be in the left and at the same time needed the strength and the help of the right. Good final answer and then we'll end with an idea. Reveli said 38 brings from the ember and the arrow. The positioning of Yakov's feet was just as significant as that of his hands. If we're talking about sadikim have total control of their avarim of their limbs. So it's not just the hands of Jacob Aino that we're talking about here. We're also talking about feet. Yakov's hands represents man's relationship to God. While his feet symbolize man's relationship to the world of corporal reality. Yakov deliberately placed Manasha next to his right foot because he wished to offset his diminished spiritual blessing with a great measure of wealth and prosperity. Fran received the spiritual mantle of leadership but of the two manashe would achieve more in terms of worldly riches. Both blessings were fulfilled. The fact that Yeshua the leader of Clay Israel after the death of Most Sherbet was among the descendants of the frame symbolized the spiritual superiority of that tribe tribe of Manasha's material superiority manifest in their larger population and in fact they were on two sides of the of the Yarn two sides of the Jordan. Now, Galdic. Yes. He's putting his right hand almost feel like that game twister. Do you know what I'm talking about? Right foot, left foot, green, doesn't matter. He's putting his right foot on. I wonder how lefties do on that one. He's putting his guess. Yeah, I know. He's put I'm going to focus. He's putting his right hand. He's putting his right hand on Ephraim. That's a spiritual superiority. He's putting his right foot by manasha which is the physical aspects being connected to this world and he's really benching both of them at the same time because again a sadik's limbs create energy and direction. I will say that say for parach develops this in the next sources 39-41 and he says when we say the to our sons of we bench them with both and we bench them to have the spiritual braha as well as the physical braha. But what do we put first? We put first the >> spiritual. I just have to add here in parenthesis and then I'm we'll end. I just read I rarely read Mishbaha. Okay. I just >> even though I write in it that is correct. That's maybe why I don't read it. Um, I read the cover story this week about the uh financial pressure in America. It's really in the world, but particularly in America. And I'll tell you one thing that struck me. You know, Mashem, we're almost finished this book. I know I've been saying that for months, but we're really at the finish line. And this is why it struck me. I have a chapter on Vakn. Vakn is the night before a bris where the father should be learning either all night or until and you have a small suda and it's really for protection for the kids. So in this article this is what jumped out at me. People are spending you have to sit down for this one. Ready? This is in dollars not in shekels. $25,000 on a vaknat. Would that raise eyebrows for you? Now, it's like the bar mitzvah where you spend more on the bar than the mitzvah. We're supposed to be protecting the child. We're not supposed to be having meat bars. You're supposed to be meeting God, not you got it's a whole different dimension. What are you doing for $25,000? Now, you can imagine if the vaknack is $25,000, how much is the what the Brits? Then how much is the >> And then how much is the >> And then the next the next generation has to be what we can't lose their frying over the manasha. The final idea for today my friends and again a grace for coming out and that is 42 and 43. based on the Malbeim is the following. Look at the looking back. Source number one. Let's see what we find. But Israel extended his right hand. I'm in source 14. Israel extended his right hand and laid it on Ephraim's head and his left hand on Manasha's head. So watch what happens. His right hand is on Ephraim's head and then his left hand is on Manasha's head. Which of the two hands is on top? >> The left hand. So even though he benched Ephraim with the right hand, the final hand was the upper hand was on Manasha to tell Manasha that even though you don't get the right hand, your braha is not dependent on your what your younger brother, you have your own braha. And to a certain extent there is an aspect of superiority because I'm giving you literally the what >> the upper hand. And this is the beauty of learning that just from the suking if you look at it carefully it's teaching you worlds of insight for us. What we walk away with on this one word sensitivity to other