Shame - R. Yitzchak Sakhai - TorahAnytime.com

But I want to focus on one aspect of this derash. The aspect of what brought forgiveness for Shaul and what it meant. >> [snorts] >> It says Shaul Melech, we see from the Navi he was forgiven for his averot against the city of Nov because he was ashamed. He was brought to shame because of it and that caused it that he had forgiveness from Hashem for thousands of deaths. Shaming another Jew is one of the worst things someone can do to them. Why? Because it literally is like killing them. Hachamim tell us when you kill when you shame a person, it's as if you have killed them. Because the same way the blood rushes out of a person's face when they're dead, so too when a person is embarrassed and shamed, the blood rushes out of their face. Yosef Tzadik risked his life with his with his brothers in front of the Egyptians. He didn't want to embarrass his brothers telling them, "I am Yosef whom you sold to Mitzrayim." He asked the Egyptians to go out putting his own life at risk. Why? "I'm not going to shame my brothers in front of the Egyptians." Not worth it. Last week, something incredible happened in Israel. >> [clears throat] >> I don't know if you guys read the news. Last week, two Chassidic boys were collecting funds for a for a Hachnasat Kallah. Two Chassidic boys last week were just going knocking door to door trying to collect funds for Hachnasat Kallah. One of the boys was the brother of the kallah of the bride-to-be and the other boy was he was saying he's one of the older brothers in the family of the chassan. Later on it was found out he was the chassan himself. Out of embarrassment he hadn't told anybody that he was. And they were going door-to-door knocking on doors trying to collect funds because they needed to get married and they didn't have enough money for the wedding. Unfortunately there are people that that that that just can't afford it. So they knock on one door and who opens the door just so happens to be somebody that is a reporter on TV. And knowing who's opening the who's knocking on the door she turns on her cell phone. Opens the door and says and you sees two Hasidic boys really nice standing there and she goes with her husband, "What are you guys doing? What are you collecting for?" And they go really you know hanas kallah. Like, "Yeah, what is it what is that for?" For the chuppah. "What is the chuppah? What is she going to do? What is she going to do with the chuppah?" Like asking very degrading questions like treating them not nice. I am not judging those people asking those questions. People make mistakes. My purpose is not to judge anybody. I'm telling you what happened and the outcome. So they go like, "How do you?" He says, "I'm 16." He says, "And how do you?" He says, "I'm 18." He says he says, "As an 18 why aren't you signing up for the army already? Shouldn't you be in the army right now?" Instead of like political stupidities that have nothing to do with the situation. Right? And it's Yom Atzmaut and like something and they shut the door on them and then share that video on Instagram for a few laughs. But unfortunately for them they didn't get that many laughs. That post went viral. People hated what just happened. And then they found the account they were trying to collect for. People got involved. That night, not even 12 hours, 24 hours, that night hundreds of thousands of shekalim were raised for this boy. For the The wedding was done. Chilonim, non-religious, secular Jews from photographers to makeup artists called the father saying, "I am I I would like to give you my services for free. I'll do photography for free, makeup for free." Even non-religious Jews. They were so taken by it. They were so touched by this situation where they were saying like, "This is not who we are. We're not okay with this. This This went too far. How do you know what this life the life of this person is? How do you know what they're going through? How do you know why they need to collect? How do you know they were they were evading services in the army? How do you know they were not excused? How do There's so many things. Like, what does it have to do with anything? Listen, buddy. You don't want to help. You say no, thank you. There's no need for anything else. But unfortunately, they were they were really shamed. Really sad situation. To make it even more, look at the miracle of Am Yisrael. On the news, they posted a little handwritten flyer that was written by the father of the kallah. The father of the kallah was a driver. Hasidic Jews. These Haredim Many people think like he was a driver, like a cab driver. During the war, this war, one of the rockets hit his car. Destroyed his only means of making a livelihood. He couldn't afford his daughter's wedding. But guess what? This flyer written with hand with marker said, "Anima amin be'emuna shelema, I believe with a full emunah that the creator blessed be his name he is the leader of the world. Now, the word manhig means leader. What does nahag mean in Hebrew? Driver. So, he highlighted the words nahag in the word manhig because he was a driver and he was saying, I believe that whatever Hashem does is for the best. Showing his emunah, posted this flyer on his car windshield that was shattered because of the rocket. Showing his emunah that I'm not broken. I believe in Hashem. Did Hashem pay him? But it came through what? The shame of these two kids. They were shamed. And look at what happened within hours. The father of the kallah said they had nothing set because they didn't have money. They didn't know where they're going to do it. They didn't know how to what they're what food they're going to order. Nothing. Within a few hours, everything was at People went to their home offering their services to their in their home. I want to say, first of all, that that is the nation I'm a part of. Take away all the stupidities on the outside, people that want to divide us, all the politics, it's garbage. That to me is Am Yisrael and I include those people that took that video. I don't judge them either. They made a mistake. >> [snorts] >> But this mistake showed all of us, number one, what kind of nation we're a part of. That's the nation we're a part of that will rise up and say, you know what? There was a line crossed here. There's a family in need. We can help. And number two, what embarrassment does. Their shame, their embarrassment, I'm sure that was heard by Hashem. And their tefillot were answered. So, this time their tefillah was for a good thing. Has v'shalom, if somebody hurts somebody and shames them and their cry to Hashem, God forbid, God forbid, Has v'shalom should be something else. That's how careful we have to be how we treat other people. An entire city was wiped out by Shaul HaMelech and he received forgiveness for it. Why? Because he was ashamed of what he did truly. Shame can bring forgiveness and vice also Has v'shalom we shame others, it could have the other effect.