Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 7 with Rabbi Shais Taub

all right welcome back to who shot have been talking this is our 7th class can you believe it seventh class kölsch feedin love even okay that's awesome tonight what I would like to do is finish the introduction this is the um Bahama common the compilers statement of compilers forward before the the chapters so I would like to God willing to finish this tonight okay we were talking about advantages I'll be talking and that's basically you know mostly what the the dogma of the preface is is Raveena Bahia is selling you but often he's explaining to you what it's gonna do for you and I guess that kind of makes sense because if you're if you don't yet have been talking you're probably in a more self-serving mode so you want to be sold on look the talking's gonna do for you after you get the talk and don't worry you're not gonna be worried about what anything you do for you because you already know everything is already done for you but anyway well we're still being initiated the Bentham Ohia is telling us the advantages of baton okay so we spoke about financial advantages we're going to continue now this is somewhat related to financial advantages these are advantages having to do with the kind of work that you'll do let's let's take a look inside well may Han and among the advantages other advantages manuka honey official AHA both men are might somehow caught him Louis I'm a yob ace as her GU face freedom of the soul and of the body from tiring occupations and from from professions that exhaust the body Bosley the biggest um love him who km the Hamas I'm shakin it also allows you to avoid working for the King or enforcing their laws or oppressing their subjects the past Lapham which is one of the commentaries we've mentioned before it says that somebody who's really desperate for money is going to go get a job working for the king and it's it's tough work you know because the king is very demanding but you know it's sort of somebody explained to me by the way why don't we have a draft I don't have a draft during the Vietnam War god forbid but you know there was a draft I don't have a draft so actually it's a facility and economists explained to me that poverty is the draft that people who are from lower-class families working-class they're attracted to the military because you get a scholarship and you get a job that gives you health care and so what a person is really desperate for money they'll go do something crazy like work for the government you won't work for the king but if you have to be talking you're not gonna do that you're not gonna take that kind of work but they tell my sham and the person who trusts in a sham okay hey there Missy bus at tennis he's gonna choose a source of livelihood mocchi yes buddy a sermon ooh hello goofy whatever provides him more tranquility physically speaking mission play a lie and a good reputation open idly by and a free heart Oh Marshall who mafic yay still alive a state I'll say yes and not say and that also which gives him more time free time not taking a waste but to whatever's gonna give him free time for his religious duties and it's also in harmony with his values with his religious beliefs yes see beliefs I see flame oh who gave a light tux today who memento MoMA because no cause in the world can add to it is a lot of to him or take away from it Ella Exantus well to keep his bonnet rather it's all a decree from a chairman Commission now Malik it says keylime inmates a man might have a lame admit but hot even for not from the east or from the west and not from the wilderness is one lifted up he'll Hakeem Chaffetz but rather it is God who judges Z Asheville the zenyatta him this this is the only thing that lowers a person who brings him up vo Mar and it also says be nice - Adi meets a knee I'll name a nucleus you know lady he makes me lie down in green pastures he guides me beside calm waters he's had that possible before from capital y mo t villains brings it again okay there's a lot to unpack here when a person is choosing a livelihood sometimes he feels that he has to make compromises religious compromises and that's from a lack of betoken if he would have be talkin he would know that there's no way that he would have to do something in order to make a livelihood that would force him to make a compromise in his you this kind but in order to have that mentality has to realize that nothing he does is going to increase or decrease the amount that's a lot of data because the hike the amount that's a lot of things and we know this from from the Gemara that tells us that a person's penances already allotted to him on the Emma dinner on Rosh Hashanah and nothing he does can add to it and take away from it but if you don't have the Puffin so you feel like you have to make those compromises the the past eleven will mention again the past eleven he mentions a specific example he says you know some people have jobs that don't allow them to pray with a minyan he says people who are farmers or they work here in a remote area so they can't have it in a minyan every day it's funny because the obvious would dr. aid saying so they would be isolated thank us that was before manana and any rate there's a very interesting there's a letter in the egress kadish I should mention the lawn should have answered thousands and thousands of correspondences in his lifetime and many of those correspondences were polished some with names some without names there's a letter that's in the eager Scottish Gaelic gimel volume three the whole the whole egress is you know a whole bookshelf but this is embodied three and it's a letter from you da lead it's a letter from your knowledge Menachem of Tufts Inuit so this is actually before the never officially accepted the naseous and you know it starts Shulman Rafa greetings and blessings with my daughter Bob a an answer to your letter and that sort of recaps what the person wrote to him about and basically this is a person who seems he's excitement and he needs to say Kaddish it seems his father passed away Lele know and to take the job he wouldn't be able to say Kaddish there wouldn't be a minyan where he's going and it's interesting the letter is a little over a page and for most of the full page that ever explains well why it's it's okay you should take the job and we can take the job and he has brothers who are also saying Kaddish and what he can do at the time of minion instead of vomiting with Dominion and that other even mentions keen a common vote of Pitino huzzah McNab - sausage shell autumn but ever mentions many hazael gave certain high Tatum for - oh okay and that's like 90% of the whole page the letter is like a page in a drop more and then at the very end in the last paragraph of the letter that ever says after that ever tells them it's okay yeah you know we can be flexible the very end of the letter last paragraph the colon now and everything that we just said meet neisha Amy you a day I'm not so baby but Indian me to summit talking is because I'm not sure of your standing when it comes to the time I believe cause a Kubas at however if he meaning the person is writing to he's using the full light third person if he's strong in this in this area of meaning to be talkin hooba to me mas' and he is whole of heart pure of heart yeah copies after a Cleveland OSA and he'll look for a vessel for hispano so I wouldn't deal with their you don't get a part of also you get a cleave for our AUSA and the image that puts the final say in the cleat we spoke about that never under your lesson so if he'll have strong baton and who looked for a better vessel for his partner so Yeaton Leia Chevy's bought it - aw say Hashem will give him livelihood the muhkam Shh men yin the hulu and a place where there is a minion the hulu etc meaning not just a minion but everything he needs religiously the you cool italian ho-hum oopah all of being a amana and he'll be able to do everything that is incumbent upon him did we mention before so it's an interesting letter that I was saying you know technically yeah okay potatoman you have to make a living and that's all true we're not saying that that's not a function within you this type but we're also saying the same time there's something called be talking and if you're strong in Yorba talking you're not even gonna need those potatoes you won't need them because the image that will work it out to give you a pun also without having to make religious compromises who may have and among the further benefits or advantages of the time Newt Sarna Chez Panisse for a a reduction of aggravation in doing business the in Kazakh that's like crack Macchio if he is lacking business I employ yo Khalid bhai bhai or he's not able to collect a debt that's owed to him i M you've got a little Holly Babu fight or let's say he get sick just to miss work none of these things are gonna a granade him they're not gonna bother him meet nature who hadeya because he knows key huh beta is butter that the blessed creator Misaki in yoneyama man oh wow he's fixing things for him better than he could fix for himself who baked her like toy Yaesu Omashu Blake Allods me I shall choose is a better good for that we could choose for ourselves Commission now my like it says ask Lily kima de Meenakshi Keamy Mendota glossy my soul wait quietly for God for my hope comes from him and other words speaking to ourselves don't mean as I'm speaking to my nephews I'm speaking to myself as he just wait for it just wait for it gosh I'm gonna do amazing things greater than you could have pictured on your own greater than you could have asked for on your own just let him do his work and it's gonna be great this by the way is a very stirring citizen eagle ah well I came okay we're not gonna sing in here though but maybe at the end if we have time you're getting it to your my singing okay hey Meenakshi don't you hear at the end or not I don't know if that's a threat or a promise okay I want to share something else also connected to this there's a little book I call it a little book nut because it's physically little but they never call that a safe at all that everyone's referred to his own safer high game iam is a safe at home and simply you why is it called a safe role because every entry is just a short little it's just short little paragraphs and you know each day it's just a short little thing a paragraph or two short little little entries okay but I wanted to read to you the entry from Ballad menachem of it's interesting the letter from the egress we read was from you Dollard Monacan love this is the high yen game from ballad menachem of and a note the connection is but you could ask miss Alex and he figures out the connections of other unions follow mine which are fascinating okay hey named Alan Managua meet their grass stand her Avaya Canon it fogged in in Kane ain't sent mare the philosophes Bora published out with the greatest effort no one can earn one more one more penny than whatever was allotted I was dead when dead a mention sulphide didn't whatever it was said that this person didn't dare to mention this person is supposed to be able to earn men by diet on V Phyllis is Nathan we have to do what is required that means Ackley and Danica tava we spoke about that in the earlier lessons yeah there has to be a stylus yeah you have to buy a lottery ticket to win the lottery you have to show up through a job you have to you have to do things in the natural way yeah for sure other men moose Gedanken you have to remember I think God's and out of it that all of the work meaning the the regular work but then a Hatami they stylus you're doing is man it via TOEFL it's just secondary so what's the eager they're eager is the main thing is the main thing which determines the par no sir the growth of inertia is born the blessing from Hashem Mundi Braja far dint men and how you earn the blessing the blessing is earned then men is Ella high yet when you're a good god-fearing to which means what feel of it civil Shabbos behavior Cassius by golly they love he know how born him by Milan de Melo Hayden say it in English darling with a minion keeping Shabbos in the most beautiful way conscious with with very meticulous supervision Jewish education for the children with proper Jewish educators Jewish educators who themselves are god-fearing Jews that's the high Union from valid monogamous okay would we get up to Oh athletic even Davey now she and then I started singing okay fine and then you were saved from that ah fine who may Han and among them and among the benefits further benefits of becoming seem costs a be called Indian she attack a love joy in whatever situation he is placed in the e Mejia can negativo and even if it will be against his nature meet Navy pine ability because of his trust in Hashem Chalet oscillate allaha faith lyrical union that hashem would only do that which is good for him in every matter he's not gonna worry he's gonna be this simply is gonna be happy no matter what situation is placed in even situations that are against his nature it's interesting by the way the nedovic latish explains another parish in this this thing might resonate with a lot of people what does it mean he has simcha no matter what situation he was placed in even if it's negative Eva even if it's like that's against his nature so nether but kadish explains against his nature a little bit differently he says even if your life experiences make it difficult to be naturally happy I mean the truth is there are experiences that are more challenging and there are lives that are more challenging and you know not everyone is up against the same challenges and it may take extra courage to see the light at the end of the tunnel but be talking will give us that ability that perspective to to see hope to see goodness even if it goes against what we are assessing you know somebody once told me that a pessimist is an amateur husband made the fall Seamus Khanna meaning he's collecting data he's not he's not delusional he's not out of touch with reality the data is real data but he's coming to a file Seamus Khanna is coming to an erroneous conclusion which is that everything is terrible and the world is a random place a cruel place a cold place and talking is what allows the person to even when the data is coming in and the data is making you know seeming to present the certain conclusion or lead us toward a certain conclusion with the Pat up and he could say no that that's that's not correct that's not so everything's good and Hashem has taken care of me even if it's negatively even if it's against the situation that he said or a natural way of assessing the situation that he's in and it was a thought that was a resonated with me at least okay and then the debate of a hiya gives a marshal a beautiful marshal for this and it's not a marshal that were unfamiliar with actually but he's actually one of the originators so if you've heard this marshal before really it it goes back to the minima kiyah he's not being derivative he's not being trite those who have repeated it are repeating what would have been a much higher and said remember this is the safer as a thousand years old amazingly okay you just see how how theta is so ageless and eternal we have a safer here that's a thousand years old and other than the alchemy reference which is maybe a little bit of an anachronism but emotionally this stuff's so contemporary and so resonant with us just with our experience of life and anyways okay so the Bentham Ohia gives us home optional he says like this the person's gonna be the Simca no matter what situation is in Tasha Tasha who aim like the mother does hi melis live nah when she takes care of her her child or infant the Heat's off say bathing the infant if he to lay and diapering him Shiraz say and swaddling him dr. hace and unswerving him Alcor play against his will baby doesn't always want these things he doesn't always appreciate it and he surely didn't ask for it and she does it anyway you know why because she loves him she's taking care of him and the baby thing something's being done to him sometimes he's uncomfortable he doesn't like it but ultimately his mother is taking care of him and taking very good care of him Kamisha on their dove a doll of a solemn like dama de Mello says into Hillen a militia deceive Adam Antonov she Kagome oh la ma Kagome oh all I now she surely I have stilled and quieted my soul again this is similar to the Eifel achieved a Meenakshi be just just to be quieted just to wait just to be patient don't react you know what they say don't just do something sit there sometimes the adrenaline rush comes and that's the animal response that's an animal fight-or-flight survival mechanism we not do so no you don't you don't relax be quiet be still aqua looking day me now she I'm just gonna hold tight and see what happens or email a Chevy see madam Antonov she like that I'm Alec are saying here just to let my soul be quiet and he says the exact marshal Kagome Oh a lady my could go mo li na she like a weaned child with its mother my soul is with me like a weaned child so we have to know Hashem has taken care of us at all times we can relax we can be patient it's it's a relief it's just we don't have to carry that burden we can do God's work not his job what is God's work doing God's work acts of goodness and kindness mitzvahs God's job running the world taking care of everybody we don't have to do that we don't have to run the world and take care of everybody it's taking care of all of us like a baby like a mother takes care of a baby and I'll tell you something even more he's the people that you think that you need to take care of you know a little codependent action going on that you think you have to play God in their lives and take care of them I want to tell you something just like a chimes taking care of you like his baby and like it's only because he's infinite so he's taking care of you like his only baby he's taking care of your babies like they're also his only baby and God has no grandchildren you read that before sometimes we as parents you know again this is the animal survival mechanism the fight or flight that primal instinct to take care of our children it can make us so neurotic and we have to know something let go and let not even in parenting especially in parenting and God has no grandchildren so we think our children are our children and we're Hashem children so our children are the children of God's children so they're gods grant enough they're not God's grand children a shaman has no grandchildren they're all his only children each one of us is an only child being taken care of like a mother takes care of a baby and by the way for those of you who wonder why we never have feminine metaphors for divinity right there we do we compare Hashem love and nurturing care for each of us like the love of a mother like the love of a mother feminine energy feminine nurturing okay I want to just mention one more thing and that is that when we speak about really letting go and letting God and understanding that Hashem truly is taking care of us there are degrees of intensity and depth to which we can grasp that reality but I just want to mention something to you from one of my favorites forum which is my maybe my euphemistic or understated way of saying my favorite safer this is called liquidity I'm autumn Tania this is from the out rabbit the ballot Anya you know wrote the Tanya by the way the ballot Anya you know who wrote this shorter on earth the ballot Anya of a shocker daughter cook okay right that's Winona there was another another who was written there was a shoppin or written by the macabre you know why he's called the macabre because he was macabre the shofar Nautica okay at any rate II guess like a dish which is the fourth paling of Tanya there's a simin good Alice chapter 11 called las gil abrino las geel cabina is known as one of the most demanding but most powerful messages in all of tanya and more or less what does it say over there it says that if a person will understand that a Shem is creating the world something from nothing every single second then it's impossible to ever be out of sorts it's impossible to ever feel annoyed or pained because if you understood that a chef is making something from nothing every single second then how could you possibly pass judgment on this perfection you know it's cheesy but they say every moment is a gift that's why it's called the present well if you understand that Kabbalistic lee every moment is being created at this moment and divinely orchestrated exactly by the will of Hashem so then it's a gift it's all a gift and sometimes it won't feel like a gift sometimes that from our limited perspective it feels negative but it can't be it's impossible it's all good it's perfection and whenever we're feeling discomfort with reality we have to return to that faith that faith in the ongoing creation tabria yes my I in the whole Alegre his conscious habría - I was recreating everything - every detail every subatomic particle is brand-new at every single second just read to a few lines from las geel cabina so you can get a feeling for it so he writes when a man will contemplate in depth and will then picture in his mind how he comes into being something from nothing at every single moment in other words he is affected at every moment of his existence by the divine energy that animates him which is Hashem Hoffman the source of life good and delight the level of Eden which transcends the world to come how can he entertain a thought that he is suffering it is only that because it is not comprehensible what imagines that he is suffering in truth however no evil descends from above and everything is good no it is not every ended as such because of its immense an abundant goodness at a level which is an inconceivable to man and this is the essence of the commandment of faith for which man was created to believe that there is no place in the void of him and in the light of the Kings countenance there is life accordingly strength and gladness are in his place because he is but good all the time therefore first of all man ought to be happy and joyous at every time an hour despite the fact that there are changes in a person's life and truly lived by this faith in Hashem who animates him and acts kindly toward him and every moment so I just want to conclude with a story I just heard this story about an hour ago and from a and he told me he listened to the first couple of shield I'm already and he's enjoying it which is a big compliment because this is a somebody who's complement anyways it doesn't matter he's humble too so I don't want to give any hints but anyways he said I want to tell you a story and he says and your permission to use it so I texted a back so you don't have to give me permission to use it listen when it comes to stories I'm a kleptomaniac you tell me your story that's it I stole it already ok anyways I'm kind of with her with her maybe but at any rate so the mice is like this a hostage came to it's an authentic and he had problems specifically a problems in business and that some exotic told him you should learn this simian you and olive of you get a sack a dish a skill cabina this this part of Tanya we were just reading from he says you should go learn that and that'll help so the cautions who had business problems and he asks for help and the time I protect olden ok learning less skill copy enough so the closet says with a twinkle in his eyes and ended I'm gonna go learn my skill cabina but I think that I'll be able to learn my skills of being a whole lot better if I had ten thousand ruble in the bank and the time ascetic with a twinkle in his eye he said it's taken care of give him a block the guy went out everything started to fall into place he made a lot of money he became a big fear and he was very very wealthy and his family became wealthy and anyways what's my point my point is we're learning a lot about they're talking now but the bottom line is it would sure help to learn about the talkin if the ambush that would give us everything we need to make us comfortable we are human beings we do have we do have needs physical emotional men of social and you know like to see them say this encouragement document a hobbit until you get to the end you need to have something you know like like every good Jewish mother she packs you a little you know some sandwiches for the plane till we get to the connection we also need to have so until the a mister is gonna give us everything that are the talking brings us a be sure to give us something right now already everyone here thank you for learning with me and and my chef should bless you all with her you Haneda behind eaglet real revealed open obvious good that you don't have to have any