Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 31 with Rabbi Shais Taub

we're continuing in Chapter four we're talking about the seven I call I guess we call them aspects of life for which we need to have be talking and we spoke about the first thing which is my own personal body my health spoke with the second thing which is the money that I earn my parent also and we spoke about the third thing we finally finished interpersonal relationships okay those are all matters of this world what we call in Yana Elam has it now we're moving on to item number four which begins the matters of elam haba matters of well actually matters of this world for the sake of the world to come if I'm gonna be technically correct the way that they're made of a highest set it at the beginning of of this chapter but now we're dealing with more of the spiritual stuff and as we're gonna see it's very different the application of the talkin in spiritual matters is very different and if I can just sort of sum up this class tonight two minute session what we're gonna be talking about and pugna for maybe a few more classes and I can sum it up I would say how Kobe dish a mind puts me to shame I I say just tell us everything's in the hands of heaven except for ones of heaven so the way that life treats you that means health and wealth and family stuff Hashem is running that but yes Hashem your own choice to be god-fearing Hashem gives you free will so how you gonna rely on him when he's giving you space to make the right decisions so that's basically that's I mean that in a nutshell that's the thirty second version of tonight's class but let's go let's go check it out shall we Peter shock a Lakota v now let's look at the fourth aspect of life for which we need to trust in Hashem being Yanni a vessel of a vase for a volume show Adam is yeah kinda but Ali some venes come these are matters of duties of the heart and limbs meaning emotional stuff as well as behavioral stuff that a person has to do that that affect himself they benefit him or they harm him alone in other words it's just my personal relationship with our chef visit for instance an example hats all you like fasting what are you affecting if you're not fasting its personal thing now truth is we're gonna have a whole discussion about whether our personal relation with a chef is really personal or not and I'm really tempted to get into that because the truth is it's not because you know it's like the person sitting in the boat and he's drilling a hole on the boat and I said what are you doing you're gonna sink us all he says hey I paid for my seat this is the spot under my seat what do you care what I do everything that everyone does affects the entire world but I think let's leave that aside I would love to discuss this if it were an hour class it's a half an hour class so let's just leave that aside the Fela or like Dominic the Hazuki or like having a suck on circus nickel Olaf or a little of the consensus were like wearing the fringes whoosh minister Shabbos are keeping Chavez for how made him and then and the holidays he monomino of a dice and not doing since the whole a vessel of obviously shall I Havana el Azul hace and all the other duties of the heart that do not affect others the tile I saw Venice con new hardest by me bleach Charbonnet Adam and whatever benefit of harm comes from it is only to him and it doesn't affect anyone else often Ayasha be talking about Coulomb al-hakim use butter the proper way of of relying on a sham in all these matters is masha anima VAR I say as I'm going to explain when we're law came I shall law he knows I see her amiss Barack mob and I Hashem in His mercy that he show me the truth the nether Bacchus says what does it mean as I shall explain he summarizes the whole approach he says that when it comes to material matters mundane matters so you should just trust that Hashem is running the world and whatever situation he puts in front of you just you know kind of go for it and go with the with the flow and it'll work out but when it comes to mitzvahs you can't take that same approach because ultimately it's up to you it's in your hands so the be talkin is that you're trusting that a Shem is giving you the strength to carry out his will but you can't just take a complacent attitude there well whatever mitzvahs I end up doing I end up doing no you have to take initiative now once you've taken initiative you can rely on the fact that a Shem is giving you strength and you should rely on the fact that she was giving you strength to carry it to completion but you can't take a complacent attitude in this area and it's not even like we're saying before about making Ackley remember talk about making a vessel that's that's not what we're saying it's it's actually much more than that because over there when I'm talking about you know health or partner saw it was it was all about a Shems blessing and we just make a vessel but when we're talking about actual religious duties it's not just making a vessel it's actually accomplishing the thing because of the nature of freewill and the space that a Shem has has given us okay so let's continue whoo-hoo Kim I surveyed the havedo you talk no law Adam keen be covered slice Nevada better Bryce says that human actions that constitute either a Veda or a Veda service of a sham or aggression against a Shem they can only take place when three factors are present three preconditions I guess we might call them the radio Micaiah likes itemizing lists yeah you noticed that it does a lot of lists so here's our list of three factors that are required in order for anybody to do a Veda or Aveda to do the right thing or the wrong thing waha the first factor Hobart hittable eBay mat spoon a he has to have free will yes they're free will vishay knee in the second Havana vas gamma Lhasa smash Ibaka by yes they have the intent and resolve to do what he has chosen Bosley she and the third one is sheesh toddle League mare Hamas a bay votive huh need him he exerts himself to finish the job with his his visible limbs that's the you know the stuff that you see from the outside the 8c AOL gathered him I say and bring it out into action you know about the three frogs sitting on a log and two decided to jump off so how many frogs were left on the log three I said two decided to jump off they didn't jump off they decided to jump off okay deciding right so the hitter is deciding but that's not actually doing it so there's the choice the resolve and the actually carrying it out who Marcia Eynon ellamy manobo hem now in regard to what is not hidden or removed from him Kyra saw evade evade oh the choice to serve or to transgress the hawk Ivana vas comma Allah my sir and then there's the intent in the resolve to carry it out habit talkin a Louella kimba's a pause fasciculus trusting and a sham regarding these things it's a mistake and it's foolish maniacal of always says that trusting in a sham is for things that are not in your control and there's a whole lot that's not in our control but something is in your control to trust in a sham foolish well what's in your control whether or not you're gonna make the right decisions to do good that's called free will so to say I'm gonna rely on a show no that's in it that's an error and it's foolish cab ideas butter and yeah but if you say no because I surveyed the say the hambre say because Hashem has left to us to choose to serve him or to rebel he makes a costume like it says over hard to behind you should choose life it's not imposed on you Polonia do she say no harsh lama tsong I survived a de lluvia Veda but here's the caveat they are carrying out of the intended the intended act of service a transgression he did not leave to us Ella the sea became Koontz law no rather that involves certain causes that are outside of us meaning outside of our control miss damn nice picasa eat him and him noise you can't awesome sometimes there are opportunities available sometimes not sometimes there are obstacles like a classic case of illness of a situation beyond my control there the end of the famous story about revolution yeah famous story rebellion I look in a position that they were they were arrested for vagrancy I used to go around collecting for prisoners collecting money for prisoners they themselves became prisoners because they were arrested for not having a place to stay and then they were thrown into prison and it was time to Dobbin and there was a chamber pot that was the latrine you know that was there was the facilities and so so she was crying because he wanted to Dobbin but you know according to halakha you can't have it in an unclean place so mellitus and why are you crying I wanted Ovid can't Darvin a belly Melek says you know the same Hashem that wants you to dive into him also wants that in this place where there's a such filth that you shouldn't doubt it so really by not domina you doing her shams will and it was oh she was so happy started dancing and then Arabella melech started dancing with him and the two of them were dancing and dancing that what they're doing ashrams well why not darling because in this situation they can't happen and then the warden comes over says what's the ruckus and the criminals who were there they were just coming criminals they said these guys are happy what are they happy about I don't know but it has to do with that pot over there well if that's making them so happy take it out of there so the warden said take the pot out of there and then they looked around there all the rooms clean oh now let's dive in okay so you know that there are situations where you don't really have control of your situation and you know like like a deposition of le Malik all they could do is not dominant now then sham changed the situation then they could dive it but there are situations where like this story where you you can't do the thing that you want to do you desperately want to dive in but you can't dive it okay so let's talk a little bit of it so you understand that the there is a little complexity here because on one hand generally speaking we shouldn't have been talking about these things because we should well you know we should take initiative we should take care of it ourselves at the same time there are details that we do rely on a sham for I mention one more thing before we we go ahead there's a there's a famous story I'm famous it's from the Bible I've heard of that book from the book of Genesis actually and actually a lot of people know this story because it was a Broadway musical but anyways Joseph you know when he got reunited with Benjamin so it says he fell on his neck Joseph feller Benjamin's neck and he cried and Benjamin fell on Joseph's neck and he cried and they were crying on each other's necks Arashi says the neck the neck is symbolic of the base on Mick - because base of mikdash holy temple was on the Temple Mount not again laid out on the top of the Temple Mount like just a little bit down like you know corresponding to the where the neck is there's other reasons also why it's called neck like the neck connects the head to the to the body the the base hammock - the holy temple is like sort of this portal which connects heaven and earth anyway the point is why they crying on the neck so so Rashi says because yay SIF sees that the base of mikdash which was built in the tribal territory of in yeomen will be destroyed so why's benjamin crying he sees that yay Sif's descendants that the the the Mishkan in chile the sanctuary in chile which was in the tribal portion of the ISAF's descendants of ryeom that will be destroyed so classic question is why were they crying over the other ones korban the other ones destruction you each had a destruction so like why are you crying for the other ones and yeah one answer is compassion yeah okay find compassion love you fellow like yourself okay so like yourself means you cry for yours and you cry for his but no they were crying for the other ones not for their own why you crying for the other guys korban not crying for your horbet so this is a second Hey look your difficulty sickness by the way precious why you gosh basically very simple Corbin the Corbin of the bias and we're in the three weeks now so I guess it's germane to talk about this that was an external manifestation of something was going on spiritually the the physical temple was destroyed because there was a spiritual destruction among the Jewish people a moral destruction unfortunately so Yosef prophetically foresaw that a moral destruction was going to happen in the land of his brother's descendants Corbin a bias and the and yeah and Benjamin conversely saw that a moral destruction was going to take place in the the land of his brothers descendants Corbin of Michigan Sheila when you are facing your own spiritual destruction you don't cry don't cry take care of it take care of it there's a med dish that says he say to me offer COO me right like we say no Cod ad but it's also it's from the DAF tourists during the seven weeks of consolation he say to me my offer cool me get up from the dust shake yourself off arouse yourself so as a medicine says that if a rooster falls in the suit a thousand people with a thousand combs can never get his feathers clean again but if he gives himself one good shake immediately he becomes spotless and the idea is that when you're facing your own spiritual destruction don't cry take care of it do something but when your friend is facing his spiritual destruction what can you do for him you can't fix his spiritual destruction right that's the codependent but what's the last thing that a codependency is before he dies somebody else's life flashes before his eyes so we can't fix other people's spiritual problems can only fix our own so if I'm headed to my spiritual destruction don't cry do everything you can to stop it but if I see my friend headed toward his spiritual destruction there's nothing I can do okay there's nothing I can do so then what reaction should I have when there's nothing I can do you know what reaction you can have you can cry crying doesn't do anything it's not supposed to do anything it's just a compassionate response when there's something you can't do anything about that's the whole what where is crying appropriate crying is appropriate when there's something that's sad and there's nothing you can do about it there's something you can do about it don't cry do something if there's nothing you can do about it then then cry because it's very sad that there's nothing you can do about it you understand people say oh there's nothing to do about it so you do you don't care no I do care I care deeply I'm crying I'm saying to him I'm crying but I can't fix this guy's problem so when it comes to our own free choice we have to be very serious and there's no time for tears we have to take action and that's really the point we're talking about here take responsibility for our our choices and not even to mix in be talking into that however because situations are complex and like we said there are different factors involved in getting things done so there is an element of the tough and it does get incorporated in even into these matters as well so let's talk about this a little bit the emu Valhalla keema bit here Acevedo savory a matter if someone relies on a sham has been talking in a sham regarding his service of a shaman he says LOI F Carvalho it have in last days Klum Movida sabe de I'm not gonna choose to do anything I'm not gonna resolve to do anything achieve cuddly had toid me men are until my creator chooses what's best for me that's it Hashem I trust you you guide me vodka Madera hey ashada Amado ragout of my earthly and the high not he's already straying from the straight path and deviating from the right way you know why you know why that that's foolish to say it's kind of passive-aggressive - oh I share my sham show me the right way show me the right way show me the right way to live you see why that is insipid I shall show me the right way to live no ok let's continue er baiting is what a karate wanna live clipper my CEO of a de la havana lavish toddler's fast , believe Shalom lachemann God Allah the Creator may be exalted has already commanded us to choose the performance of his service and to direct our intent toward it with vigour resolve and a whole heart for the sake of his great name the ad on the show often a and Athena lana Balaam has balaam hanbok and he already showed us that this is the right way for us in this world in the next so we know exactly the right way to live oh I shouldn't show me the right way to live what are you the king from the kuzari what oh come on you know the right way to live we all know the right way to live and if you don't start learning kids are so Karnataka and you'll have more than enough suggestions for the right way to live okay the amused um newest eBay's for you talking good madam I survived it does say I should cut my beard off a bar now if the means are available to us and we are able to carry out the work of service which we had previously previously chosen yeah la no Escada Gothel I love a hit above a though we have bounteous reward for having chosen a sham service valleca van alas asa and also we rewarded for having wanted to do it so there's great reward for the choice for the choice choosing is very intangible it's very hard to describe the choosing but choosing like this thing that happens only in your mind then balakov one alas they saw the intent remember the choosing is a little different than the intent well hush Lamas my sabe about him and need him and then actually getting it done those are the three parts with choosing it intending to do it and getting it done I think the vaquita is more rarefied it's more abstract it's like in theory this is a good thing to do the qivana the intent means no no this is what I'm intending to do like I've set out to do it already and then the hash Lama means actually getting it done you know that and that's the part that's the least in your in your hands so we said if it's if it succeeds alright what about if it doesn't the EMU monomino in vitam de Madame I said but if it's with withheld from his limbs meaning it doesn't succeed to do it yellowness kata but here about qivana you still have the first two rewards for the right choice and the right intention kai shares a higher number masha called them like we mentioned earlier and you remember back in chapter 3 we spoke about length about it's not really about what we accomplish it's more about what we intended to accomplish and I give the whole long metaphor about the three-card Monte and about the Milgram experiment and you can check the archives okay the pain hyena shallow Aveda and the same you know flip it the exact opposite but you know instead of rewarded with punishment but the same principles apply regarding sin anyone has any any comments or anything anyone say anything no okay I say here's what I'm gonna do here's what I'm gonna do okay so alright we're gonna have to leave off there with the shot of a talking and we're gonna continue in the next class