Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 24 with Rabbi Shais Taub

so we're in the middle of pedak ballad and last week at the end of class meaning the previous class of the very end a question came in through the chat and by the way everyone is welcome to write questions in the chat it is very much welcome somebody asked about healing and specifically about seeking out experts and I mentioned based on letters that I've seen from the rabba that that definitely emphasized getting a second opinion or even a third opinion that ever definitely emphasized refa indeed a doctor who cares about you also a doctor that you like him that you have confidence in and I wasn't so sure if they'd ever spoke about getting the best expert or not so after class my mother is all Gosselin sign sent me some texts saying that actually there are definitely such sources and I'm mentioning my mother sent it to me because it is a halakha that if you learn something from your parent you should say in their name so there is a letter this is from the book healthy and body mind and spirit and the title of the letter is a specialist in the particular element should serve as the primary consultant my mother wrote a note that the titles are presumably reveille Weinberg's she's correct they they are but here is the excerpt from the letter from E to discourage vol 17 page 55 I was somewhat taken aback about your writing that you are consulting with a doctor who is not a specialist in your son's ailment but is an internist so I don't know if that means seeking the best top expert in the field but definitely there is such an idea as seeking in a specialist somebody who specializes in a particular ailment okay also another letter entitled seek out a special with much more experience okay so there it says with regard to seeking treatment for your face seeking treatment is the correct course of action for we've been commanded to do all that we can through natural means and permission was granted to the healer to heal however you should seek out a doctor who was a specialist in this field and more importantly one who has had much more experience in the area and who therefore will be more who will be able to more easily diagnose the exact type of treatment you're in need of and another one this is called next one is called seek out the advice of a specialist since Hashem desires that we do everything we can in a natural manner it is important that you receive the advice of an expert in your situation a doctor who specializes in nervous conditions and follow his advice okay and then finally my mother sent me this when in doubt seek the advice of two specialists in all questions of health if there's any doubt one should act on the unanimous advice of at least two specialists so definitely there is such a concept as seeking somebody who specializes and somebody who has experience and it seems to be the common theme there is andrey emphasizing that since we were enjoined to seek out natural means for healing so part of the natural means is that the doctor specializes in the field and has experience in the field okay so I'm very glad to be able to clear that up now continuing in the text we were speaking about wealth it was written about health and wealth but last thing is we were speaking about wealth okay so let's continue inside the yesh a man Higa beta parfait a being a Adam alia each occurred may have sometimes the creator so orders it that many people obtain their livelihood through one person we're gonna speak about somebody who has the Messiaen who has the test of being the intermediary so to speak being the pipeline or the delivery system for other people's partner so you know we tend to think about our own part OSA and means through which we obtain it sometimes we are the means through which someone else receives or more than someone else many someone else's plural receive their sustenance and that's what we're gonna speak about right now they have canvas Ave da say lalaki Mohammed is a and the reason that this person was given this stewardship over other people's wealth is in order to test his service of Hashem the awesome as xemina c-bass haha' okays shiva sea bass and a Sian salsa lei and such a position presents him with one of the most powerful sources of a trial and temptation that a person could face they say the test of wealth is much more difficult than the test of poverty Camela for instance a king to whom octave hailey who sustains his army Levada and his servants they hate how sodom also ministers vorrei hemella vast agony also the various deputies and high officials are shares Vives a.m. kita a smile diam they have an entourage around them with Shama shame they have attendants who fix a hem they have officials nassim and wives who crave him and and relatives you know they have all these people around them that they have to take care of and support mesh toddlin Bob will hire Alex Eva ski boots a mommy-and-me pond and paving barrow him and they make every effort to raise money for their dependents employing means that are good and sometimes bad but that's you know when you have a lot of people depending on you you know about the rabbi called up this rich guy and he says you know we notice you never made a donation and all these years to the local synagogue we were thinking you know this guy was very very very wealthy so you know was worth you know Millions so he says what maybe you'd like you know 1800 this year so he says rabbi it's very nice you to count my money and you think you know you know what what I should be giving but let me let me tell you something do you know that I have a brother-in-law who has a disability who and who and who has five children he's out of work and he's he can't work he has a family to support no you didn't know that did you did you know that I have a son who he can't get a he can't get hired in his field he can't he can't get a job 30 years old and he's married and he doesn't have a job do you know I have a mother who's not well and and she has very expensive treatments do you know all of that the rabbi he says no I didn't know any of that the rich guy says well well it's true and if I don't support any of them why do you think I'm gonna support you anyway so sometimes there is somebody who has a lot of dependence there are a lot of people who rely on him for their for their sustenance so let's say you're in that situation where you are the one who has to support people you know and to some extent you know if you're not the one who pays you know last to meet payroll or you not somebody who has you know a staff but you know we have a family we have children we have to support our children right you know by the way about the father his kid comes to him and he says dad can I borrow $20 and the father says $10 why do you need $5 I can't give you more than a dollar here's a quarter by the way I told this joke to a friend of mine who's not Jewish and he got really embarrassed and he's like oh that's not a nice joke I said why is not not a nice joke he says well it's a Jewish joke but you didn't want to tell me for a long time like it's not nice so what's not nice what's enough well it's a finally he tells me that it's a Jewish joke it's not nice I said no that's not a Jewish joke he says okay I don't know I mean I heard it that's the way I heard it I thought it was a Jewish show and I said you know BIOS is just a joke it's like what do they call Chinese food in China food right so the non-jews say that's a Jewish joke so what do the Jews call the Jewish show a joke it's just a joke okay father you know son came to the Father said can I have $20 anyway okay so let's say this person is being tested with being the one who has to provide for others okay and he says this is a really really serious test this is a very severe test you know there's an expression I sued them have they say there's three things that change a person money Masch considers that if you if you have any of these these three things they change your personality you can't remain the same person so if a person says well I know guys you know they made money and then didn't change them okay let them earn a little bit more money and you'll see eventually it'll change them or you know Mosca I know someone you know they had a little drink and it didn't know okay they got a drink more they'll drink enough it'll change them same thing with Syd this I learned to say this it didn't change me okay you gotta learn more if you learn more it'll change you okay so these are these are the things that really I mean this is the thing wealth there's a test to see if someone's gonna be a responsible steward with with the wealth okay the Hustle Hall may have meet a bishop on him the fool will air in three ways okay now we're gonna learn the three errors that the fool makes when Hashem entrusts him to be the steward of other people's wealth okay a kamehameha VMO mean one of the errors is in accumulating the wealth he who Lake Eyak Masha ghazal a Obeidallah cocktail upon him mcgoon environ because he takes by shameful and wicked methods what the creator decrees is his to take you didn't have to do it that way the Elohim of Akash I say I'll often of if he had sought it in normal means respectable means how you Maggie I'll have to say it at saya he would have achieved what he saw it oh hi Emma Skye nbod Indian Terrace a viola may and he would have been able to retain his religious and secular standards vallejo you hustle I'm a masher Gazeta bata MoMA and he wouldn't lack anything at all what he was supposed to get in other words he asked me pay roll because he has to take care of these people or he has to make more money because he supports a family right so if it was decreed that he's supposed to take care of all these people and he's feeling depression he's got to make all this money but really it was gonna come to him anyway and all that happens when he feels the pressure and starts compromising his values is he goes and he unlawfully takes that which would have come to him lawfully now there's an old story I don't know the source of it I just remember a my spear of mine told me this story a long long long time ago anyway he told me that one time there is these two Pritam the the the barons the landowners back in Poland and they were bragging to each other about who's Jews are more pious and then they so you want to make it a little more interesting let's make a bet okay let's make a bet so one was saying my Jews would never violate their Sabbath so what did they do they put a pile of gold in in the street in the in a little road on you know right before Friday evening and then they went in the hid they wanted to see what was happening and oh and they bet with each other half their kingdom each one bet half of his kingdom all right so the high stakes high stakes wager anyways so the Jew comes walking dude - dude - do you seize this gold he looks up he sees it's dark already it's it's it's Shia I mean it's Paschke it's a Shabbos there's all this gold and he stands there and one of the one parts is thinking oh go - you let him take it then you know the other one loses the BET and I'll get half of his kingdom and the other one is saying oh I better not take it because then I'll lose half my kingdom right all right and the Jew was standing there looking at it he walks around the other side it looks at it walks around the other side and looks at it and he scratches his head you know his beard and he's looking at and this is going you know going on way too long for a way to when it got too close for comfort for the one who's about to lose half of his kingdom and then finally if you just goes yeah and he walks away and when they realized that he has completely walked away they jump out from behind the you know the tree where they were hiding and they chase him and the one who just won the bet says Jew you just helped me to win a bet I just one half of this guy's kingdom because he thought that my Jews wouldn't keep their Sabbath if they were tested but you really really you know you made it very suspenseful that was a real buzzer beater right a real nail-biter you you really made it suspenseful let me ask you something in the end you walked away but you know for a long time I saw you you were hesitating it took you a long time before you walked away what were you thinking so the Jew says to the poets he says I'll tell you I saw the gold I looked in the sky I knew it was Shabbos you know you can't deny that it's Shabbos so then I started thinking myself okay I'm Shabbos what can I do about this can I like sit on top of it the whole Shabbos and and and wait there and that you know I won't you know touch it I'll just sit on it so no one else can take it or can I you know okay stand next to it maybe and watch it and you know protect it or you know maybe I can kick it down the road to my house and I was going through all the different I was trying to figure out you know based on what I know you know what I learned in yeshiva how I could possibly keep this gold and not violate Chavez and I'm thinking I'm thinking my thing and finally I said Hashem come on already you want to give me the gold give it to me in a normal way where I don't have to you know figure out to how to do it and I threw my hands like that and I walked away he says well Jew because you came to that conclusion I wanted to I just won this this other poets is half of his kingdom after Shabbos come see me and I'm gonna give you that gold and ten times more and and the point is like this like I said this is a muscle that was the story of Marshall that was told to me by mesh B of mine a long long long time ago anyone knows the source he could you know send it to me but that story really really stuck with me in a serious way because I've always thought about this that you know sometimes Hashem tests us by tantalizing us with something that we really really want but there are silos you know there are questions about whether or not it's kosher and you know what Hashem you you you have all the means at your disposal you run the whole world if you want to get this thing to me do it in a way where I don't have to you know do it in a way that it's it's simple and it's clear to me don't don't don't don't make it confusing don't make it complex okay and that's basically what this is saying here if you have the pressure that you have to sustain a whole bunch of people don't compromise your values because whatever you were supposed to get in order to be able to support all these other people you're going to get it and the only the only thing that you're gonna do by compromising your values is you're gonna unlawfully take that which would have been given to you in an integration if kept your your elem hase and your alm hanbok and you would have lost nothing okay fine let's continue raha Shan he in the second error that the person makes he who I should call Masha giel of minimum mean who tariff Mazzini a second error he could make not necessarily same person making both errors when he gets all this money that he's supposed to use to sustain others he thinks it's his he thinks it's meant for his sustenance well a Yavin kia tariff muscala cliche Shakalaka he doesn't know that there are three categories of wealth okay so he doesn't have this wealth for his own use how much wealth can a person use you know some people have more money than they can use they don't have it for themselves clearly they have it in order to distribute it alright so that's the second error that a person makes now I just want to give everybody a heads up because I see Durbin of Ohio does this a lot he has no problem keeping track of lots of numbers numbers within numbers and the different conditions than different prophecies in the different chapters okay we're about to have different numbers within different numbers we're talking about the three errors that a person can make the second of the three errors is not to know that there are three categories of wealth okay keep track of that I'm keeping track of it and I'll try to remind you all right so the second of the three errors basic when he's amassing this wealth which is really for distribution he thinks it's his because he doesn't know that there are really three kinds of wealth okay I had mayhem one category of wealth Ted of Mazzini is actually for you it's for your own uses who Kyle call us go fable Avadh that's just to sustain your body literal your personal wealth just for your body your person who have moved tough mineral Hakeem La Jolla chef Baruch I am ad pathless Yama and that's the sustenance that's guaranteed to every living being until the end of his life ok that's guaranteed to everyone a sham who made you will sustain you ok so that you have guaranteed that comes with you by shady but then there's a second category of wealth Ted if Muslims who lost say me shabanam Livadia charlatan Vinay Mallahan that's wealth that you have not for your personal body and after your personal self but for your wife and your children and your servants and your attendants your staff then then a move tough men o L Aquila Halle William that's actually not guaranteed for all of opossums creatures the first category is guaranteed to every creature second category is not guaranteed it's not guaranteed you'll be able to support your family god forbid a little Sabula mayham but annoy him you heard him it's only for special people and under special conditions woohoo mitra miss domina a sokka's famous donbas ASA Harris sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't Kathy Shima high voice Holly face DNA a betta minahasa the Hamish pot according to the dictates of the creator's ways of kindness and justice right acid is the right hand mish Potter's glory the left head sham is giving and he's withholding at the same time he works it all out and sometimes we get sometimes we don't get that's the second category it's interesting by the way the past lakum points out that if if the first category is my own personal sustenance which I will somehow get from Hashem even if it's meagre even if it's just barely enough to keep me alive but that's what's guaranteed to me but it's not guaranteed to me that I'll be able to support my family or whoever else I have to support that's the second category of wealth well what about that what about my wife and children and the people that I'm supposed to support aren't they guaranteed their own sustenance so the past welcome says yes they are so even in the case that he doesn't have the second category of wealth the wealth that he needs for his wife children staff and employees and whatever they will get sustained somehow maybe not through him but somehow okay Ashley she and the third category of wealth Ted of Kenyan money that you amass those are assets that you just you sit on Lula mom ain't ashamed by paella slalom it's actually wealth it has no benefit to anybody it's just zeros at the end of your bank account it's not really sustaining you or anybody else all right well who Shamer all over nature I say so you keep it I assure you - Chanel Azula say until you can queef it to someone else oh she gave it me man no or until you lose it la saw holyoke shave so the fool thinks coal ash a ghazal a high beta minimum and shoot tariff museum how call us goofy that all of this is first category wealth the wealth it's for his own sustenance the human man here a love Machado olive so he's very eager for it and he works very hard for it he's amassing more and warm he can't even spend it he can't even spend it and yet he's working hard for cuz he he's working on that third category wealth as if it were first category wealth the F sure she could Samuel abolished a:active he's actually leaving it to his wife second husband low higher gay or to his murderer well a goggle should be sane of or to his greatest enemy because he can't ever use it so where's it gonna go okay so he's gonna die and his wife will get remarried and so basically he's amassing the wealth for for his wife second husband or someone's gonna murder him and take his wealth or somehow his greatest enemy is given you know you know that we mentioned the yesus maker shabbos story remember a few classes ago the rich guy who was massing all that well then the end it wasn't for him it was four years of maker Shabbos okay so that's the second error is that he doesn't realize the difference between the three categories of wealth okay you see the difference between the different numbers all right all right now let's go back to the first set of three the three errors alright so what was the first error what was the first error remember first error what was the first error is he doesn't realize he doesn't have to compromise his value so Sheva if you want to give it to me give it to me with with no Shiloh's right that was the first first error second error was that he doesn't realize that the money he's amassing is not for his own personal use there are three categories of wealth and what's the third error the hush lishi and the third error shoe who Nason hatter often labelled am commission Gazzola hema badali a day is that he provides others with their income as a as ordained for them by the Creator through his agency who's a heart a vassal ahem ba hamd allahu he three thumb behan the hell are you some miss Hassan bomb alayhim and then he reminds them of his favorite toward them as if it were he that provided them with income supported them and showed himself benevolent toward them very right sir she ain't knew who and he wants that they should thank him rishabh hoo-ha tibay and to praise him excessively alayhim we she have dual my would Amin that they should serve him because of it he is God the Igbo the autumn live Ave and he's proud of it becomes arrogant and haughty the Aeneid Asael a.m. and he feels no gratitude toward them for this privilege the actual she maja mania is some hot Rafi mayhem how you he shot him at slight he thinks that if he were to deny others this income that he's dispensing to them it would somehow remain in his possession he would have it the key Lula who are you Denise Arkham tariffs a ham and if it what wouldn't be for him their income would be cut off so he thinks he's such a nice guy because he thinks hey this money is my money and choosing to give it to you it's not yours you're holding it for them you only have it in order that you can support your family pay your employees give sadaqa help your community it's not yours but he thinks oh it's mine and if I weren't giving it I would have it for myself and they wouldn't have it it's not true you only have it because it's passing through your hands Raveena Bahia now says something poetic the hoo-hah ani a shaggy gallery KLM has a vinyasa dar la ilaha bah he is the pauper this rich guy who you know is the town vir he's the true pauper who Labor's in vain in this world and forfeits his reward in the world to come because he's making this error he thinks that what he's doing is his to his credit it's not to his credit he should be grateful that I was using him as the pipeline to deliver this par no sir the hamas kiln a Hegewisch lashes a Polamalu darahannah hey Neela Taylor say la la May in contrast the intelligent person we were talking about the fool so far the intelligent person acts on all three counts in a way that accords with his religious and secular interests who beat Kaiba mocchi Ashley yad'u ila ki Matata by bikini on a Yeats of the Kazakh between a bi ma she should be or they may have his trust in what is in Hashem's hands is stronger than his trust in what he controls himself McNay because Shana yeh there in who tariff Maz in a tariff Kinyon he doesn't know which category wealth it is if it's first category wealth or second category wealth the águia LaCava de alum has a the el-hadji Mool hottie by Elham ha ba and he reaches or earns thereby he attains honour in this world and a fitting reward in the world to come never beam is more like it says in that song in psalms hallelujah Ashley ish yer a ASSOCHAM at sci-fi in the hilum roof you'd base 112 sing praise to Hashem happy as the man who fears Hashem and it's talking about somebody who is grateful to be a conduit for others partner so he realizes he is just a tool he's just an instrument to be able to help others yeah okay fine but Hashem we're gonna finish here and we'll be back tomorrow night