Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 22 with Rabbi Shais Taub

welcome to our nightly shared chatter betoken from Havis la vez tonight is Jamal Thomas which is the yard site of Alabama cherubim second Santa Clara ho and I actually thought about whether or not we should have a class tonight because Jamal Thomas is a it's a busy day and it's a special day and then didn't take me too long to come to the conclusion that that ever probably wouldn't be too happy if we said that we had a set shear that we're learning every night bah Hashem and then we didn't learn because of the devas yard site so now we definitely have to learn everything that we normally learn plus more so yeah we're gonna gonna keep the normal shear maybe we'll talk a little bit also a little bit more about Jamal Thomas before before we finish but okay let's let's try to learn a little bit we're in the middle of pedak Dollard we're in the middle of chapter 4 of famous lava vase of shadow be talking of famous la la vase and we the general topic of the panic is where be talkin is appropriate and where it's inappropriate or appropriate ways of exhibiting your butt talkin and inappropriate ways of exhibiting or demonstrating but talking and one of the things we would talk about is sort of the paradox of although of course everything is by shared everything's in a chimes hands but that doesn't exempt the person from acting responsibly and like I said it's it's it is a paradox and yesterday last night's share I kind of maybe I went a little bit too far Safa chol trying to explain some of that paradox or being a bhai it doesn't really address it and doesn't try to reconcile it on a philosophical level but III went into a little bit but that's not really the main point the main point is direction Romania is telling us how to behave and I I'll be talking is not somebody is not a ville de dementia it's not a person who acts in wildly responsible ways they act in regular ways and like I explained last night what's the naff kameena that the actual difference the difference is if a person with no but talking a person would be talking both act responsibly so what's the difference the difference is the person would be talking knows that he's acting responsibly is not the source of his security Hashem is the source of his security and that he's just acting responsibly because that is the system that a Shem set up okay so if you remember we left off last night we were talking about somebody who in dangers himself he does risky things and that's supposed to do that because either God forbid you get yourself you know what we don't want to say which is better bata bhai says is a very not good thing to do the liability the culpability is it's very great for somebody who causes himself whoo-hooo mortally danger in danger himself all right so that's one possibility and then we left off we had the cliffhanger last night if you remember or there's another possibility okay so what's the other possibility you know there was a guy on the flight to uh it's a slow allow so the flight attendant comes over and she says it's dinner he says what are my options she says two options you eat or you don't okay so we have two scenarios here we've said if a person in dangers himself he does risky things one option one scenario is he's going to get I've killed god forbid okay which is certainly not a good thing what's the other option the other option or it won't get himself killed but let's explain that okay I sheer not so bad as a Sibelius butterfly or maybe he'll get saved he'll get rescued Hashem will save him even though he was a fool and he engaged it endangered himself and what will happen so-oh that was good I got safe no no the yadu is a place of the opposite Scott a he's going to lose his merit and his reward Kamisha Amaru no Zhou like our sages have blessed memory told us bizarre how Indian regarding this very matter Laila Ali I made Adam Ben came Sakana the Hamish Ison like mace Shanna ain't Ison Lane ace a person this is a Gomorrah in Chaves de la midbass on the Dolloff should not endanger himself and then say well maybe Hashem will do a miracle lest Hashem does not do the miracle okay that was the first scenario but we didn't finish the the man your hands out the email in ace but however let's say Hashem does do the miracle and does save the person even though he endangered himself Monacan lame is Cle ice of his merits will be diminished you're gonna say that's okay how many how many merits does it cost no I just want to make sure I can afford it that's okay I'll pay that's when the sages say don't do it or either you'll get yourself killed god forbid or you won't get yourself killed but you're gonna deplete all your merits they don't mean it's a suggestion like it's good advice oh you don't want to use up your merits no they're telling us don't do that okay do not do that you're not allowed to do that you're not allowed to fritter away your your Scotian I'm a Yankee Vivino oliver shalom indeed this is what young coveno said contained in McCulloch Sodom I become small meaning diminished from all of the kindness in other words he was concerned before he confronted ace of that even though a Shem had promised him that before he left home hashem already promised him that eventually you will turn home in safety so yankov is now worried well hold on maybe I won't be returned home and safety why not if some already promised you oh because maybe since that time I spent my merits because so much kindness call I saw them all the kindnesses that were already done for me so maybe cut tightly maybe I've been diminished I already used up my my credits vomer I'm a targum if Arusha and the targum says translating that PASOK the Aaron Zak Voss I Nicole piston Nicole have on my merits are diminished by all the kindness and favors so don't do it don't endanger yourself don't put yourself in a situation which naturally speaking everyone knows is dangerous because either God forbid it's not gonna turn out okay or god forbid also it will turn out turn out okay but in order to to make that happen you're diminishing your merits which it's not at your discretion to do so Hashem doesn't want you to do that okay alright let's let's continue kamesh I'm on the baheim of a mother's just like what we have said regarding life-and-death issues Kangnam arboreal via sea bass a brief amazeen vimal bush madeira abuhami i said at a vase logic shaken egged on the same principle applies to the duty of seeking the proper means of preserving one's health obtaining food clothing shelter acquiring worthy qualities good mood ice and avoiding what goes against them in beer a moon our psyche has sea bass a my Elise I sabers a clone I loves it as America's butter at the very same time maintaining the clear conviction that the means to these cannot help at all unless Hashem decrees it so again that paradox that just like you're not allowed to endanger your life you have to do things that are responsible in a natural way so - when it comes to seeking the proper means of maintaining your health you're not allowed to kill yourself all at once who says you're allowed to kill yourself slowly over time right okay getting food getting clothing getting shelter obtaining good me dice it's interesting he puts obtaining good me though he's becoming I mention the same category as food clothing and shelter okay you have to pursue all of those things at the same time you have to know that you're pissed odd --less going after those things the effort that you put into those things that's not what makes them happen what makes them happen is a sham decrees that they should happen but you still have to put forth natural effort in all of these areas okay let's continue now he's gonna give an example cash relation la ba la dama la vache Saldana case of minik 8 sim Lazaro logic I saw amused Omni leymah him like for example the owner of a field should plow it and clear it of thorns and sew it and water it if water is available and at the same time the IFTA halibut is butter la Fraser LaShondra I'm in a Peugeot yym with here but Wausau Guevara hey sohe betta that he's relying on a sham maybe exalted to make it fertile to protected from disasters to increase its yield and to bless it rain royal oil on eHarmony bleeeh vada Rosario the bikini exacerbated that's me akadama Milty zetas she caught them light and he should not leave the earth until Dan unsewn relying on the creator's predetermination that will that it will bear fruit without him first sowing seed meaning even if Hashem wants him to have a great yield he's gotta do all the work it's not that the work creates the yield but in order for the hashem to give him what Hashem wants to give him he has to go through the those measures I mean I mentioned this joke before but it's like what the classic you know he's jobless joke so and I think this is class 20 or maybe 21 this class 21 so by now by the way you know the rule of public speaking yeah how often you could repeat material how often you can recycle if you're a rabbi how often can you recycle material so a good joke problem with a good joke people remember a good job for a long time so like every 20 classes you know that's what it's class 21 so I could repeat this joke so like every 20 classes you could probably repeat the same joke by that time people you know forgot it the laughs again a good story people remember not as long as a good joke but if story you could repeat like every 10 classes that's how long it takes them to forget and DVAR Torah you could repeat multiple times in the same class because nobody really even heard it the first time okay so yeah the classic hash-table joke about the guys oh I should I want to win the lottery and a Shem says okay you're gonna win the lottery oh all right and then the next day says a sham you told me you're gonna win the lottery that I'm gonna win the lottery in a chef said did you buy it ticket deeds but I didn't deliver it well because my heart wasn't in it because it's such an old joke but did you buy a ticket all right 234 we numbered the jokes around here son it's not the joke it's the way you tell it okay that joke itself has a number anyways did you buy a ticket alright so if a guy is a what do we call them a baloise dama an owner of a field obviously even if Hashem has decreed that he's supposed to have protists he's got to go through the work okay the pain Valley ham la havas hey Dava Speedos we said about a farmer but the same thing with artisans merchants and laborers meet Sylvain lajas adalah tariff ahem they are obligated to look for a livelihood to pursue a livelihood aim happy talking bell hakeem simultaneously while having trust in a sham kia terribly other who say that their sustenance is in hashim's hands in her shams discretion be sure who arrived by Loddon Mallee my labor is a Seba she itza and that hashem guarantees it to a man and provided to him by whatever means he pleases while Yakutia Seba tile a who has ek who MoMA and he should not think that the intermediary the means to the par Nosa is what's actually helping him or hurting him at all the EMU ave late RFA upon him may often EOC basis sure he's a sigma han and if one obtains his livelihood by one of the various means that he has employed okay so he goes and he pursues a living and it works Roy Lucia Lolita Hallisey Baha he he shouldn't become a custom now to relying on that cause and that it's not really a cause it's the opposite of cause but that intermediary that conduit that pipeline for the Panozzo the yeast my ball he shouldn't be like happy about it the ace of Liholiho xigbar the yachtie liebe allow and in any shouldn't he shouldn't be cut like strengthen his trust in it and become attached to it how else would you say we got to liebe it means he has an emotional attachment toward it don't do that ki yeah clerk should be tiny belikov because that will weaken his dena sha-la-la-la shave keep tellin new Yaesu Menasha called the medaka beta it's not appropriate to think that these things are benefiting him any more than Hashem has already decreed well he is MA we'd love Kaiba the Cebu very ilaha and he shouldn't be happy about his involvement in this line of work yay aha beta he should think I sham the Creator I share he three Fae who is who sustains him ah hey Geass say after he has toiled like some a male with autopilot eek Hashem makes it that you don't toil in vain but again it's not that there's actual cause and effect here it's that we talked about it before it's denied it's plausible deniability you're providing an alibi for a sham - miraculous to sustain you by doing something natural that would account for the sustenance that he gives you can make sure cause of like it says you get Kappa cocky circle a shack on the table off you will eat of the fruit of the labor of your hands you'll be happy and it will be well with you okay so interesting we mentioned you know you shouldn't become like emotionally attached to to the job at the same time it's interesting yankov Emden says that you shouldn't become like emotionally attached to the job but you also shouldn't abandon it you shouldn't walk away from it if you've had success in it in other words it's not something that's actually determining your livelihood so don't become emotionally attached to it but at the same time if this has been a good clean for par NASA then just you know continue to do it don't don't walk away from it and that's generally good advice that's advice that's been given to me many times in life and I've generally followed it which is that you know sometimes after a while a certain CLE for pernessa dries up or you know that's not it just doesn't work anymore shams is moving you on to the next thing but if there's a CLE for Panozzo that's still working you'd only don't walk away from it don't don't you know I have to be very very compelling reasons to walk away from a CLE that is still delivering what it needs to deliver okay there's a question here so even if I jump decreed he has to go through if Todd lists so will he change the decree if no hash table lists that's a good question again the davina bhai is not getting all philosophical over here but you could infer something remember what he said about endangering your life right that one of two possibilities right like what is that what are the options for dinner you eat or you don't right what are the options if you endanger your life either you get yourself killed god forbid or you won't neither of them are good because well the first ones obvious why it's not good the second one is because you're cashing in your your your school 'some so when the Remenham kind of starts talking about working for a living he says if he said he compares it initially to the same principle that he just said regarding regarding protecting your safety in your life in other words you could assume that the same principle applies here that if just like if you don't take care of your your safety your health either you get yourself killed god forbid or you won't get yourself killed but it'll deplete yours clusen so it could be the same thing if if you don't work so you're not gonna get what you're supposed to get no what does that mean does it change Hashem decree there are ways of understanding that is not changing his decree and I'll put it I'll put it this way you could still have that partner succumbing to you look let's say there's food on the plate right in front of you but you don't lift the fork to put it in your mouth you know Shem not feed you he fed you you just didn't pick up the food and put into your mouth Oh okay so what if you won't go to work so a chef earmarked par NASA for you he put it in your account you didn't go to the ATM machine with with with the card and take it out you know make a withdrawal so it's still there it's still yours technically but you didn't go do what you have to do to take it out okay or alternatively maybe Hashem will miraculously just make sure that it gets to you even though you didn't do what you're supposed to do but the same thing we could infer from what he said about endangering your life then you're you're actually you're it's gonna come out of your merits which is not a good thing so yeah either way just better to pursue the regular natural challenge channels okay is that understood that makes sense what we just said all right the RF had been up see them one of the pious said I need paella Nimisha nascent a very much a gazelle a at slayer beta I am astounded by one who after giving to his fellow what the Creator has decreed shall belong to the latter the avakov yah skillet a vas a olive Bay then reminds the latter of the great favor he has done for him the abacus LaHaye they say say olive and he wants to be thanked for it in other words as the table of Onan explains over here the giver was Ashley a harvest look and LaMacchia Hashem has many messengers so the giver was the SH Leah of a sham to sustain the recipient and now the SH Leah wants the recipient to thank him that would be like the the FedEx guy comes and delivers present your mother sent you and then the FedEx guy says no where's my thank you okay thanks for doing your job no then I sent you a nice gift this year you didn't send it to me my mother sent it to me you didn't send it to me right okay same thing you just - Leah the yay Sarah need paella I'm also I'm even more astounded me Shiki boltar pay Ali they are more illicitly your con alive if I say oh we shall tell you one receives his livelihood from another person who was bound to provide it to him meaning it was decreed that that's what should happen and and yet the recipient humbles himself before the provider complements him and praises him oh thank you so much for giving me my par no sir he didn't give you your poor no sir he was just the conduit he was just the delivery system the worker has to know the boss signs the check but Hashem is giving you your livelihood your boss doesn't give you the livelihood and the same thing the boss has to know he's signing checks but he's not actually giving anyone their sustenance he is lucky that he is the channel through which Hashem is giving sustenance okay here's what I want to do because because it's gimel Tamas I want to share something cool with you since we're talking about our NASA and not becoming overly attached to the conduit to the vessel through which Hashem brings us to par NASA so I want to share this with you this is a beautiful savage cachet of the rabba it's in English this is a letter that that ever wrote to Zalman Jaffe we mentioned some in jeffina in a class I know early early on in this series so after that Eva's signature that have a rights don't worry so much about business more beep arcane more par NASA that's the formula more be talking more fun awesome beautiful huh love that I'll just share with you that there are a lot of slalom in the world and there's the reason that that I've been giving this class and focusing on Shanna be talkin is because of first of all the Rebbe is emphasis on betoken the claw and then specifically because they're ever recommended so strongly and so many times the study of shotta be talking so and I'm sure you've noticed that in the past 21 classes how often we have drawn upon the Devas teachings and explanations that have his letters that have the sickest in order to understand the the safer so for me the study of shall I be talking is a it's it's how do I put this you know they once asked the closet it was it was a it was actually a Han and I've Morozov who was a secretary of the Vedic Arab and he said to him who's greater your rabbit or my should obey no so he said my rabbit saying you think you're dev is greater than they should have been oh he says if not for my rabbit I wouldn't know my should obey no there's a lot of ways you could explain that statement what that means by the way but you know if not for the Deb you know I wouldn't be learning shot of a talking and even if I would have found it you know I want to understand it the way that we're understanding it in this class and really to look into it to search through it and to take it so seriously anyways okay so I'm just letting you know you know and gimel Thomas that when we're studying shot a bit talking for me this is this is all part of learning the rebus Tyra and I know I know remain aback I lived a thousand years ago in Spain a long time before the la bocha rabbit but in a certain way that ever made famous la vamos hacia safer and especially our understanding of it the way that we we approach it is I think different very different because of the way that ever explains it that was all approach there's a question here what's the ratio but Aachen versus ich dadless it's an interesting question and and I I would decline to answer it and I'll tell you why because when you phrase it as a ratio when you formulate it as a ratio that's implying that there's some type of IDI like there's a comparison there they're not better they're not comparable to each other whatsoever and I'll make it very simple to explain it if they were comparable if they were but Eric to each other then there should be an exchange rate there should be an amount of the talking that is equivalent to an amount of establish even if it's very very skewed right how many pesos go into a dollar I don't know but there's certain there is an amount right so how much is godless would it take how many units of establish does it take to equate one unit of be talking right right you hear that you hear the that's a it's a false equation there is no amount of his stylist that ever equals any amount of betokened that they're apples and oranges they're two totally different things so it's not about ratio at all everything is be talking and everything is Hashem is Broca's that's everything establish this separate Cashman it's a totally separate Hegeman stylist doesn't cause anything to happen it's not making anything happen if stylist is just the front stylist is just so that Hashem can have deniable plausibility because otherwise you're gonna have him break nature which he doesn't want to do because the whole point is that we should be co-creators and we should make a dinner but titanium we should make it deliberate dr. Tatum doesn't just mean it's one place in the lower realms it also means like their ever explained so many times isla de maiz a doctor that it should be come through our our efforts so really how is anything through our efforts everything sessions efforts a sham does everything okay fine but at least at least there should be the the appearance that we are causing things to happen and you know that's that's our partnership with him that's our partnership he provides the he provides everything and we we put a face on it you know where the were the face of the company right we're like the celebrity spokesperson for the face that everybody sees he's really he's got all the resources he's got all the ideas it's his plan but you know when when there's a shareholders meeting we're the one who sits there in acts as if we're running the company right okay all right thanks again for joining us and it's a sham we'll we'll continue tomorrow night the rest of chapter 4