Shaar HaBitachon Lesson 14 with Rabbi Shais Taub

okay welcome back we are still in the middle of chapter three chapter three is a very long chapter we have done three of the five prophecies the first preface was repeating the seven qualities that elicit trust that are mentioned in Chapter two in Chapter two we mentioned seven seven qualities that elicit trust then in the beginning of chapter three we said there are five preface ease the first of which was to repeat those seven qualities okay the second preface is that you should know that a Shem knows exactly what's going on inside of your mind in your heart you can't fool Hashem so he knows how real you are and then we discussed there a couple of ways to understand that one is that unless you 100 percent real then it's not considered real but talking and the other one was no no that's not what it's saying it's saying that you should know that to whatever extent you're not yet completely real Hashem knows that so that was a little bit easier way of understanding that meaning but at any rate that's the second preface you have to know how Shem knows everything that you're thinking and feeling and the third preface was that you should rely on a sham exclusively meaning not to mix and match and rely on a Shem along with some other power don't hedge your bets it doesn't help it only hurts that was the third preface okay and now we're going to learn the fourth preface fourth press the fourth preface is very interesting and it's not that long but I don't think we're gonna cover much more than that tonight just because I know how much explanation I think it requires so let's go here into the text okay da da mahadeva is and the fourth preface CATIA kaha Ceja Zuko his attention should be strong pay attention he should be an observant Jew dr. Marsh my by the way you'll see they actually the the pun is quite apt fished a blue Sagan baler and he should put out a lot of effort toward what Lakai Amnon Levi buddy Hobart a mate of the the site to fulfill that which the Creator has required him to do in order to serve Him the last say Smith's face off to do a shams mitzvahs valise ah my share he's here to me man no to be careful not to do that which I sham has warned us not to do Jaffe Masha who mavica Shia Batum asked him labour Masha who may tell of bait in accordance with or proportionate to I'm not sure how best to translate this that which the person wants the Creator to agree to what he is trusting in him for in other words just like I'm trusting in a Shem that he's going to take care of me so you know a little mensch little tight little decency you know has to be a two-way street you got to take care of him Kamisha Amadou Rizal like our sages of blessed memory say I say to say no could say huh do his will like it's yours as if it were your will today EASA detain ha in order that he should make your will kids say no as if it were his bottle retain Hogmanay detain night nullify your will before his will don't do what don't do what you want to do do what he wants to do today she about that it's saying I hate him it made it say now huh so that he should nullify the will of others before your will do murder cost something like it says 'not a smash em vas a TAFE gun edits hooray Amana trust in Hashem and do good dwell in the land and enjoy steady support the point is you can't just be talk about chef just a bit talking and then not to do what a sham asked you to do it's a talk about sham trust in a sham but I say to even do good meaning do what the trader tells you to do okay the Auburn it says Teva sham Lacovara when a fish did rational a sham is good to those who hope for him too soul that seeks him did the soul that seeks him in other words don't tell her sham I want you huh sham to be interested in my good but I don't want to be interested in your good I don't I don't want to hear about your tato Mitzvahs take care of me and I don't have to do anything for you okay you can't be like that now this is not murder ha special this is not spiritual materialism you know it's spiritual materialism is it's the commoditization of spiritual values when you take something that's intrinsically valuable because it is good because it is godly and you turn it into a commodity to trade to broker to make deals with that's spiritual materialism so you tell Hashem I'll do what you want and you do what I want right we called that diving in order to eat instead of eating in order to Dava there's a famous story Rebbetzin rifki the the wife of there have been my - she was a very pious woman she used to get up in the morning she's to Davin she was ill and she was prescribed medicine so she what she did is that she was told you have to eat you have to take the medicine first thing in the morning and you have to take it on a full stomach well she had a problem because she didn't have a full stomach in the morning because she would she wouldn't eat until after you Dobbin because it says in shelf no token unless you're weak you can't eat before dominating she didn't feel she was weak even though she was under doctor's orders but she wanted to be good she's trying to pious so anyways what she did she figured out a trick she woke up extra extra early and she dive and finished diving at the time where she'd normally wake up and then she would eat and then take the medicine so it was issue as it was it was as if she was taking the medicine at the time where she'd normally be getting up but it was really much longer after she got up because she had already gotten up much earlier to finish domine so her her her her father in law the tomate Sadek heard about this and he told her don't do this he says get up at your normal time eat breakfast take your medicine and then go daav and he said because it's better Essen found a Vernon to eat before fire and Yiddish could be it could be for chronologically call Sabine Suleiman for the sake of it's better to eat for the sake of prayer than the prayer then then to pray for the sake of eating and and and what does that mean it means what is praying for the sake of eating praying for the sake of eating means a person commoditize --is spirituality and says look Hashem let's make a trade I'll give you what you like you give me what I like ok that that's not a that's not a relationship I mean that's I don't want to I don't want to tell you what that is that I mean that's you're taking an intimate relationship and you're turning it into a into a a callous business deal okay so clearly that's not what we're talking about clearly not what we're talking about right but before I explain what we are what we are talking about I want to build the question up a little bit more sometimes it helps to build the question more and then take care of it all at once okay the the bigger the question the the better the answer I remember I forget who it was but when I was a kid my father told me that they asked saw some baseball player who used to used to it was a good hitter so they asked him what do you think about fast pitches he said I like fast pitches because the faster they throw them the harder I can hit them okay so the bigger the question the the more impactful the answer so like --nt in you building this question before we explain it all right let's continue inside of a mystical a beta however somebody purports to trust in Hashem I say purports to who mama I say but at the same time he's rebelling against him , who suckled accommodate a Kalusha Vacarro say how weak minded such a person is he who RIA Kimmy she nice man all I'm in a odd amount of her you see for yourself for instance a person who's appointed to a job Joshua Mitsuba a Salus Asik potato from its rakov like Maserati made of a via ver al Mitzvah of the Agila mamekam amana of rail mitts vasive if you tell him to do something or not to do something and he goes ahead and he does what he's not supposed to do or doesn't do what he was supposed to do que ya ha c ba Hozuki lien Mon Ami men oh hey si smash about the call of boy that's the strongest reason for non fulfillment of that which he had which he had relied upon the other to do so it is sounding very much like a tit for tat relationship here right it is something like that okay but again I'm gonna still build up the question here's here's why it can't be that or that that's not a straightforward explanation or understanding of things because we already learned back in Chapter one and in Chapter two that a shove is so good and so compassionate that he's good and compassionate even to the undeserving didn't you you were with me you remember when we learned that right didn't we learn that that I Shem even has compassion on the sinners so what are we saying now it can't mean well if you don't do what a Shem commanded you to do now you can't rely on it yeah yeah you can he's so kind he'll continue to take care of you even if you're not holding up your end of the deal because it's not a deal it's not a business pact clearly it's not something else what else I don't know I mean that's that's that's the answer I mean I don't want to rush to the answer yet now I'll give you an answer but it's it's not entirely satisfying an answer would be you could answer it like the Mar Paula nefesh the map Allah nefesh says it doesn't mean that Hashem won't be kind to sinner's because he will what it means is even if it looks like it's good right now actually it's gonna stop working for you it can't last forever that's how the Marbella nefesh explains it you're gonna keep pushing your luck and pushing your luck and pushing your luck eventually it's gonna stop working that's an answer I don't know how satisfying the answer is because basically it's saying Hashem is compassionate to a point right to a put what he runs out of compassion his compassionate his compassion is infinite okay so we need a new way of understanding this whole thing and their motto Hashem there are there is another way of understanding this but I want to take a step by step and I also want to for full disclosure to tell you I am I'm incapable of learning like this I did not figure this out I just know Judaism's best-kept secret which is the footnotes of look what they say this okay so you want to know my secret that's my secret by the way that's the secret for basically everything I do that people think is smart it's called the footnotes of liquid they surface okay you remember when I discussed the secret from Kayla clam involve the first seeker of LOM involve harsh mice okay I want to revisit that circle okay so journey down here into the footnote look at footnote 35 the never addresses this issue right here he quotes this tickle cavus alavés that we just learned surah fatah Rishikesh kaha say kazakh hulu Lakai Masha Kiva by a beta maybe da ciccolo kadesha a beta mask him lay the Masha who baked a a howl of BAE that's a quote we just read right okay whistle evolved as Sean Penn agimo haha Mahara vs oh that's what we're learning right now headed gimel Chapter three Hamo Harvey's preface number four so how you can explain the fact on one hand the Shem is ultimately merciful so merciful that he's even merciful upon the sinners even merciful merciful upon those who rebel against him and at the same time debating a bhai assess bad if you rebel against him don't expect he's gonna take care of you and you're not holding up your end of the deal okay so obviously it doesn't mean what we think it means it means something different let's take this journey let's continue here Z who this is rock today Sean Haugh Goss say oughtta like t stood between abortion this is an order that his current behavior shouldn't be in contradiction to his trust in Hashem what does that mean he lawyer talking it's not possible leave TF Bosch m2 at one time trust in Hashem obey Yahud him Z and at the same time Li a SMAW bruh I say rebel against him come over Shumlin explains over there but a Shama Marshall man hoggish mone autumn and like he says the metaphor that we just read Alvo rather you say deceivers about talking about sham hoola Fisher has their sham Haim al Jaco the reason we trust in a sham is not because we've earned it because we were good because we did what we were told to do that's not why we trust in a sham you know why we trust in a sham ultimately because his his kindness is upon all he is abundantly infinitely even when we don't deserve it with an a shaumbra vedic base that ever refers us back to the beginning of chapter 2 of shadow betoken SIBO olive a little bit talking he remember the first of the seven causes that elicit trust in Hashem her wrapping the hem lever that Hashem has kindness and and and and grace and love the cane cost of shaman a pedicure mo he also writes a similar thing at the beginning of this chapter chapter three watch Hebei days but if man rahamallah autumn yeh Sumiko moroccan hashem is more compassionate than all compassionate ones so what is that I'm explaining here what is the key here when the neighbor says fo r oxidation I'll go say after like this turn between about sham I mean it said very very quickly over here and it's easy to to miss it so here's what I'm gonna tell you okay that line makes perfect sense to me that explanation makes perfect sense to me it's not that I need to do certain things to earn her shams kindness because you know what Hashem is so kind he's kind even if we didn't earn it nevertheless I need to be a good boy and do what I was told to do why so that not doing those things shouldn't conflict with my ability to trust in him what does that mean what does that mean again the neighbor says it very quickly and it might be easy to miss it but I'll tell you Bob everything is our soccer practice okay so one of the things about yoga practice is that I learned a lot about how to make spiritual concepts more not the make them more relevant because they are relevant but to say them in a way that just in in in plain English from hanging around sober alcoholics from people who got sober in 12-step programs because these guys speak spirituality in very simple plain language okay and I'll tell you what I learned from them and specifically I learned something about tell you to admit specifically from the non-jewish sober alcoholics yeah yeah what am i what I'm going to tell you how many times does a Jewish person find recovery and then have issues with Yiddish kite but not the issue that you may suspect not that the 12-step program is a contradiction to their to their Jewish observance no no no actually I wrote a whole book called god of our understanding which if you want you can go read it and it explains how there's no conflict it's a conflict you might not expect the conflict is like this and I get these calls all the time people who say look the third step is that I'm supposed to give my life and my will over to the care of God I'm supposed to trust in God okay but I don't want to be religious now the Jews who asked this question are obviously Jews who come from a religious background because no Jew who comes from a secular background has this question or this this problem but Jews who come from a religious background they'll say look I found the god of my understanding in recovery and you know that's a kind God and a compassionate God and you know then if and when I think about the Froome God when I think about the God and religion I get nervous you know because he's punishing and he's mean okay so first of all I tell them that if you still think of God punishing and mean you need to work that out on your fourth step which is your resentment list and you need the list all of these resentments you have about religion and about the people who taught you and maybe even you know the way that you were introduced to the Judaism because that's that's that's a resentment issue okay but in addition to that a Jew is asking do I need to keep Shabbos in order to recover do I need to put on tefillin in order to recover okay recovery is I have to be spiritually fit I have to be humble I have to I have to correct my wrongs I have to you know there are certain things I you know I'll do that I have to do stocktaking and again admit my character defects okay that stuff I can do but do I have to have to do I have to eat kosher right so here's what I learned from the non Jewish guys who had twenty thirty years sober in a a whenever the Jewish guys would ask those types of questions the Jewish guys would find the other Jewish guys and all of a sudden become like a whole you Shiva would break out and they would have these deep questions and they would never get resolved okay like like Jews are very good at doing for longing discussions and debates but these crusty old sober alcoholics these guys who had twenty thirty years of sobriety and it was in more than one occasion that I saw them be just totally like befuddled by the whole discussion and tell the Jewish guy I don't understand what's your problem you trust God well yeah that's my third step is I trust God right I made a decision to give my life over to the might give my was a may decision to give my life over it and let my look my behind might why my own band being Megami I'm on this my decision to give my life and my will over to the well maybe I'm being Meganium because I'm trying to say me instead of we then it would flow better if I would say it we because that's why it's written made a decision to give our life and our will over to the care of God okay as we understood it so you made a decision to give your life and your will over to the care of God okay so that means you think that you need to work on Saturday God says he doesn't need you to do that he can make sure that you're gonna earn a living even if you keep Shabbos what do you call that that's called giving over your life and your will over to the care of God you think that you don't have time in the morning to go to synagogue and to pray to put on fill in God says yeah you do and if you do it my way it'll work out a lot better than your way and I'm telling you I've heard this over and over again from the non-jewish guys who were very clear on this that the question of being Torah observant for a Jew Virgil I mean they didn't think they had to do it they knew that they're not Jewish they can still eat their barbeque and whatever it is they enjoy but they for a Jew what what what part of surrender do you not understand if you're surrendering to God's care surrender to God's care doesn't just mean that I'm accepting that whatever he does to me is for the good okay that's part of it that whatever Hashem engineers in my life is for the good but there's something else it also means surrendering to the fact that Torah and mitzvot so from my benefit and that when Hashem says these are my rules he's not trying to harass me or giving me a hard time or make my life more difficult he's taking care of me he's taking care of me so when he tells me that relationship is off-limits to you okay it's not to deprive me of of my happiness it's to take care of me when he tells me that food is not you know it's spiritually compatible with you that's not the right gas for you for you for your motor okay he's not trying to deprive me of an experience again he's trying to take care of me so here's the way to understand it how do you explain the fact that you have to keep trailer mitzvahs in order to have be talking work won't won't be talked and work even if you don't deter them it isn't Hashem so kind that he won't even withhold his kindness even if you don't hold up your end of the bargain and the answer is yes technically absolutely that's true and and I'm gonna show you in a second another footnote also from this seeker which brings that out even more clearly yeah technically Hashem will take care of you even if you don't do what you're supposed to do however realistically psychologically that's very difficult to actually do so look at the answer here's o rock rock is an exclusion means this the way you know what the problem with this is the problem isn't that oh if you're not from Hashem won't it doesn't have enough kindness for you he has plenty of kindness for you but it's not gonna work you know why it's not gonna work they'll rock you - I know go say after like these still betraying abbaschian that your behavior itself is is a blaring contradiction to be talking you can't have both you can't in other words you trust in a sham you really trust that he's taking care of you then do the mitzvahs cuz that's part of how he takes care of you part of how I shall make sure that you go where you're supposed to go when you're supposed to go there is by following the structure that he's giving you into in mitzvahs and if you don't even trust it tomato mitzvahs are for your benefit and taking care of you then the whole concept of trust goes out the window keloid you talking live Toya flash em over Yahoo names le ace mama a say that's what it means it's impossible to trust in a sham and simultaneously rebel against him you understand it's not that if I rebel against him now he doesn't have enough kindness kindness despair yes plenty of kindness it's if I rebelled against him how can I get through the cognitive dissonance of saying I believe everything he does to us for me is good and and Baba sure at the very same moment I don't believe that everything he wants for me is good cuz I won't even open the kids to show Canara and do what he says to do over there so that's why it doesn't work and never will inherent and inherently it fails now I just want to continue here look at this other footnote okay just bringing out the idea technically speaking even if you don't do what you're supposed to do Hashem will still take care of you in other words it's not conditional and others it's a limit on us not a limit on him he can do it he's infinitely patient and infinitely kind and infinitely merciful it's a limitation at us we're not going to be able to do that because by definition if I don't even trust his system in his rules as outlined in throat oh then that's a fundamental lack of trust okay but in theory could he still be kind to us even if we don't do what we're supposed to do yeah okay look at look at footnote look at footnote 40 look at footnote 40 bahama foolish the equal him say for her Ekrem yourself out bow I'm gonna cost of Robert a flash and passing this van know somebody who trusts in a chef Passard we'll we'll surround him meaning like it'll go chase him down claiming of him in alignment so that's me meketa have been talking Laham shift cassidy Hinnom al-habib a sham even if he's not deserving it is the way of me talking to draw down abundant kindness gratuitous kindness and those who have been talking inertia this is right there the e kareem says very clearly Rayshawn petagrams ein aloha mai kakou Roy La Hoya has said nimnim it's odd Hashem use butter if you will have enough hope then hazard will never be withheld from him so the problem of rebelling against the Shem is how can you hope in a God whose rules you don't even trust it won't allow us to trust him not that it won't allow him to be kind to us even when we rebel okay McCain cosel's baccata comma now the chemicals also remain a bit higher who may tell a sham you so good minutes Arabic are a bit talking he will be saved from trouble someone else a bit talking in a sham will be saved from trouble in the merit of the betokening reward for them talking FOP Shahi SOT sorry Roy lovely olive even so he deserved that problem his problems were of his own making he deserved the problem and he'll be protected if he has baton Lorain deceiver salem deceiver betoken also see the morale miss eva Salem's miss Eva but often part of laissez-faire towards the end the idea a Gallo kutxa meny that ever brings a yokichi money and then one more thing the castor shem tov the baal shem tov says kiss her 18 lopata anus let me share a loin English when they need to punish someone who deserves punishment as I nightly memento Madras of a-talkin day meaning the heavenly Court removed take away from him his bit talking why do they do that it's very interesting even when he's deserving punishment says that they all my punishment it's coming to him they can't punish him though if he has been talking if in theory a guy's rebelling and he deserves punishment for his rebellion but he still has been talking in a sham they won't be able to punish him punish him because it's what talking will protect him and will only draw down kindness for him so then what do they do the only way to get the punishment to him is to take away his be talking and then he loses a bit Duncan and then he's he's vulnerable to being punished for in whatever way he was he was deserving punishment okay so let's just wrap this up over here okay inside the text again just last paragraph of the fourth hag dhamma culture came oh okay fine so if now we have to understand the muscle of the human relationship it doesn't mean they're just like if you're not reliable to someone they're not gonna be reliable to you that's not what it means it means if somebody all they had to offer you is what a human can offer you you would still make sure to hold up some level of reliability in that relationship because this person is doing something for you now Cole chicane how much more so Hashem was doing everything for you so is that Kolchak aid in some mercenary cynical way of spiritual materialism Oh CHUM's got the real goodies so I bet a really curry favor with him that's now houseful show him what it means what it means is that if you're gonna be a mensch to somebody and all they can give you is what a person gives you think about what I meant you owe it to him to be for everything that he gives us okay coal chicane Misha over al who Khao Lak emits vase of a sure yo in the hey delay em how much more so a person who rebels against the the Mitzvahs that Hashem gave us which it is testified it's known that Hashem Mitzvahs we know how beneficial they are to us j'tia hey hello Sabater hull of the new Java Sea chambre oh well a year royally caught a mission by terrible Hakeem who commercial americo's of kima tic vez con f kiev sake I shall awaken a shea butter casa ich Mikkel so if you rely on a sham and you're not even trusting in something we know we have a guarantee is trustworthy you're gonna end up being disappointed and you will not be one you won't be one who trusts in a sham you will not be called one who trusts in a sham rather you'd be like the one that scripture says what hope is there for the hypocrite who has robbed when God takes away his soul will God listen to his cry the other and it says a god never say - no if you shove a eyelash Eckerd somebody Rob's and he kills and commit sexual immorality and he swears falsely the armour and says of Awesome llamada Telefonica but bias has a shiny crush me olive then he comes and stands him in my house where my name is called he's gonna go and behave that way and then he wants to stand in front of me it's not gonna work the hypocrisy is unsustainable the umma hamada spirits him hahhaha bias has a share Nikesh me olive has this house which bears my name become a den of thieves okay in other words very simple I'm sorry for going so late but let's let's let's sum it up the fourth preface is you have to do what if sham asks you to do why not because it did for tat not because spiritual materialism not because of diverting in order to eat cosmos all but because in order to really trust in a sham it means you have to believe that he has good ideas for you not just in theory in practice and if he tells you he wants you to do something a certain way that's him taking care of you and if you rebel against him then you clearly don't think he's taking care of you so how can you be trusting in a sham at the same time you don't even want to follow his program his divinely wise program that he set forth for you how to live a perfect life okay and that's what it means that's what it means and and if not for these others these these footnotes and look what their sickness I have no idea what I would think it means but I wouldn't think it means this and Baraka Shem once you see it it's very clear this is what it has to mean this can't be a user relationship oh I'll be from so I sure will be nice to me Kozma Shawn come on what are we it's I need to be really in this relationship and in this relationship means trust and Trust means not just I trust a shaman to run the world the way he needs to run the world I trust that the player that Hashem gave me is the perfect plan for my life okay thanks for sticking with me late and God willing we'll see you all tomorrow night