Shaaar HaBitachon Lesson 9 with Rabbi Shais Taub

so welcome back we are on chapter 2 just to review we last night we did all of chapter 1 chapter 1 is a very very short chapter and Dubey number highest said at the very end of the introduction that we're basically going to go through seven concepts 7 concept 7 chapters and he said the first concept which is the first chapter is what is be talking what is it and we basically answered that question and said it's a feeling it's a feeling of tranquility it's a feeling of security it's when you can relax when you have be talking it's a feeling it's not a concept it's not an idea it's a feeling it's relief available hi it doesn't say this but I'm saying it it's palpable you feel it in your gut it's not conceptual when you have been talking you can breathe you know it says when when when maisha came to the hidden when they were in MIT said I am and he told them good knows we're going out of here it says they couldn't even hear him because of the kite sir Haru ah Kate Sahara literally means I can't breathe you know when I'm uptight and I'm trying to control a situation that's uncontrollable then there's all types of physics physiological things that happen and and I get tight and and my body tightens up and one of the things is I'm not breathing well and it's shallow breathing and and what I have been talkin when I can let go and let God quite literally you feel that release and you can breathe again so what is betoken chapter 1 what is Bataan the talkin is a feeling and it's a feeling of relief and release and tranquility and calm ok the second matter was what are the causes of Bataan in other words what preconditions must be met for one to reach this state of relief and calm and tranquility and that's what we're going to be talking about here in Chapter two okay so let's take a look in the text paddock Shanee chapter 2 aha sea bass Asha Bohan you talk inhabit arcane mohabbat air a labrum in Java the causes that make it possible for one to have trust in another even among created beings we're not even talking about having be talking in Hashem right now we're talking about just trusting anyone or anything the causes that make it possible for one to have trust in another are seven and we're gonna enumerate these seven preconditions that allow one to have trust in someone or something Aquos man the first one harassing him the hemler larvae those are pretty much synonyms you know I bought the world's worst thesaurus not only was it terrible it was terrible anyways these are somewhat like synonymous words these are synonyms by the way have you taken the synonym challenge okay these are synonyms whether I was given feedback I was told I was told by people you know I know a lot of people tell me people tell me things and he was know I got feedback someone said you know when I'm when I'm watching this year if you put in little you know jokes here and there it helps me there you know to hold my attention so anyways I'm that's why I do it okay and we're gonna actually gonna put out an edited version of this year without any jokes for the serious people who don't they don't need that they don't want that okay and then we're gonna put out another edition that's only the joke just to crack me up okay anyways so these are synonyms here Rock him hammer Alva compassion empathy love Kia autumn shoe hadeya behave a tissue who menachem the hi mala love because if a person recognizes that his friend has compassion and empathy for him you've to by then he'll trust in him the Tanoa natural love he's able to calm down he's able to be tranquil behold MA she ought to be a human yawn of whatever burdens he places upon him whatever I ask you to live for me I can relax I can no it's it's done you're gonna take care of it why because you're compassionate and empathetic and loving so that's the first precondition that the one that I'm going to trust has to be loving okay Bechet knees and the second thing she abou Ahmad vas a nano missile and me Manu filet miss axle behalf say the knowledge that in addition to loving him his friend does not disregard him or neglect his wishes see sometimes a person can love you but they don't really think about what what is good for you so it's a nice feeling but it's not gonna get translated into into action or it's not going to be the right action so for the person might be the ignorant of or here it says Masato but have so easy either miss Alan I mean he ignores or Mossad silly he's lazy to fulfill it so Miss alum is he you know he doesn't want to know about it and miss axle is he might know about it but he's saying he can't be bothered to take care of it it's like the difference between ignorance and apathy you know the difference between ignorance and apathy I don't know and I don't care think about it okay I will who you a daya boy should whom estado mosque him laissez se but rather he he strives and is resolved fulfil the person's wishes kela is borderline me man who calls that because if this is not clear if all this is not cleared to him now yeah be kinda ala v'shalom he will not have full trust in him even if the first condition is met and he knows that the guy is a loving God Miep nature who yeah daya hiss al-mu say that if yeah a bit hefty because he knows that the guy ignores him and his week is a lakhs in pursuing his his good however may I show you scabbard SU love a pair me me Shibata eh David sa lo but if the person has both of these mid days he has the first one which is acid kindness love compassion empathy which are all synonymous words plus he knows he's attentive he actually is paying attention so if he combines those two David ah no say Oliver Davis kaha say Allen Univ both he has great compassion upon him that's the first precondition and ash Kaka he pays attention to him then the combination of those tools two things you've touched by amiably Suffolk he will trust him without a doubt the hush lishus and the third thing she has och that the person you're trusting in is strong lugnuts a bashar who covets he will not be defeated in that which he desires doing the law him not a who mania may I say smack Asha sob a tear he will not be held back by any obstacle prevented from doing the the requests of the one who trusts in him he Aamir college because if he is weak if the one you're trusting in is a weak law you slum he'll be tough in their love then the trust in him won't be complete alpha P Sheen is butter sugar Moroccan mush Kia even though the first two preconditions are met that he's Moroccan he's compassionate and he's much gear he pays attention but doesn't have the third thing he's not cause like he's not strong so then the trust won't be complete beeping a he monitored the vada momento but ready for neon him many things will be prevented from him he won't be able to do it you just won't have the toilets he won't have the ability to follow through the Kashi's cop to by Charlotte a midday so Ayla but if all three of these attributes are found in one entity ya be talking all of the AC Roy the the trust in him will be even more fitting okay vara vias and the fourth precondition that would elicit trust CEO idea by often a paella sabbatical of he knows the ways in which the interests of the one who trust in him can be served valet yay Allah me man no matter who tabloid Minister loo Bonita he's never unaware of that which is beneficial to him both inwardly and outwardly oma she eateth be in your net and that which can improve his situation he employed a that calls that because if he doesn't know all of this like to know if never shall be tackle of the one who trusts in him cannot really rely on him Takashi's capsule obeyed Itay but loss of your hope they will have but when you combine all these factors that he has knowledge of what the person needs and also he has the ability to follow through the very posh kaha saya layin in here and he has attention he's focusing on him not ignoring become laissez olive and he is compassionate then yeah kinda by nibbly Suffolk no doubt his trust will be strengthened so here what's this fourth factor this fourth factor is that he actually knows what's good for the person who's trusting him in him the first thing is that he's kind the second thing is he's paying attention not ignoring he's attentive right the third thing is he's strong I mean he has the ability to follow through the fourth thing though this is he discerning he actually he's smart I smart I mean not book-smart I mean he knows what's actually helpful and that that's a tough one you know let's think about even ourselves when we are the ones who others are trusting in and we're trying to be helpful maybe we are compassionate like the first condition and maybe we are attentive like the second like the second condition and maybe even in this particular thing the person is trusting in us for we are closeted we're we're we're strong we have the ability to follow through but sometimes we lack the fourth thing which is just knowing what's the the right thing for this person you know I saw a fourth once it says when when when Joseph came to Yankee Aveeno on his deathbed young Covino tells him that he told him do for me Casa de amis kindness and truth and cos al explint has a chellamma's a kindness of truth and what is it what is Hesiod chellamma's Cassady ma maison kindness that you do for the dead meaning in this context Yankee was asking ASA for burial don't let them bury me here in my tribe take me to Eric's as well to have run into the Madison my Fela buried me there pocket but what did I see I saw someone says you know when you went yes it is not enough yes it is not enough I know the beetle said all you need is love but somebody told me I shouldn't have mentioned John Lennon and Lahav dill Bob Dylan in the first class but I did but I said it to be Shiloh it's not enough all you need is love it's not enough because sometimes you do Inc acid you know get these questions all the time from parents you know you worried you know sometimes when a child is struggling and you are you helping them are you hurting them you know my child didn't do his homework well should I stay up all night and do it with him III don't know he forgot his lunch should I bring it to school from I don't know you know is it helping or is there hurting and then you have like really super dysfunctional cases where somebody is is that it's not living in a in a responsible adult way they're not functioning and then always the question is am I being an enabler am I being a codependent and I'm not gonna answer those questions here and now but I'm saying that's always such a difficult question of you know even when I'm being kind especially when I'm being kind how do I know it's the right kindness how do I know the kindness that I'm doing is the right kindness so kasitch LMS means that it's truly kind what special I must pass oedema Mason when we deal with living people we never know if the kindness we're giving them is truly kind if we're really helping or how special and maybe we think we're helping but we're hurting the only person we know exactly what he needs and we know we can't be hurting his situation is with a with with a mace you can't you can't hurt his situation you can only help and you know exactly what help he needs he needs Cavuto he needs to be buried so that's why so gelatinous everyone else it's like who knows who knows if it's really kind so that's the fourth condition revena bhai i mentioned that the person has to know what's good for you and and he gave us two words also he mentioned Minister Luba Neera in a concealed way and in a revealed way what does that mean that means even if a person and this is based on the past Letham the commentary of the past life he says even if a person knows let's say that right now something's good for you but he may not know the cause and effect you may not be able to predict the chain reaction of events you know the butterfly effect to speak so the past Lacan gives an example you have an opportunity to make your friend the commander in the Army which he's very happy about and he wants to be a commander in there I mean you get him that job but then what happens is he goes out to war and he gets taken prisoner becomes a prisoner of war so did you help him you really helped him was that good for him you thought you were doing good maybe immediately you were doing good so maybe been in a revealed sense it was good but minister in a hidden way in a way that nobody could have foretold it was actually not so good although but I don't know and I'm not sure if I can relate to the marshal so well because I wouldn't want my friend to yeah I wouldn't want her to be a commander in the army that's too dangerous but that's that's the marshal of the past laughs anyways I'm sure we could come up with modern mashaallah okay let's let's continue here the Hamish's and the fifth precondition that elicits trust Shaya Monsieur headband huggers habit a Hall of Metellus have a Yas AVG dule Janka save and now rusev accrue say yes you say physique now say attack listen your name Wow the one who trusts is under the exclusive care of the one in whom he trusts from the beginning of his existence in infancy childhood youth manhood and old age to the end of his days he's always he's always been under this person's care and always will be under this person's care you know when it comes to politics you do a favor for a politician right or you make a donation and then how long can they help you they only have a term of office for so long maybe they're gonna get voted out right so there could be a change of a regime and we don't really know if this person is gonna always be there she is butter calls ME Manila bataya however if all of this is clarified the first four conditions can we remember what those are that he's kind that he's attentive that he's strong and he knows what's good for me oh wow glad I was able to do that and then the fifth one here is he's always gonna be the one in power so when all of those things are there and all of that's clear is high if she to know if NAVSEA all of it is obligatory to to trust in this person we Shawn olive and to rely on them to to lean on him literally to lean on him Bob or Marcia condom lay all of minute eviscerate face tally is a Miss mid-ice yes high of has Katrina by it follows that his soul will find tranquility in his protector and he will rely on him an account of his abounding former favors and continuous support this will lead to the strengthening of his trust in him okay the hashish is and the sixth precondition which elicits trust or inspires trust a year Indian Abbot a cool a Mesabi are they that the affairs of the one who trusts are entirely in the hands of the one in whom he trusts what does that mean Vilano whole atom logic a allaha la ie the lie they hate avail of the lighly price nesic may olives allah say no one can damage him or benefit him or improve his situation or or or shield him from harm other than this person other than this one that he's trusting in Kay ever the UH sir I sure but base huh buyer butter shoe side vein of like a slave a servant who's locked in a dungeon and that's it he is completely at the mercy of his master Xie by Tara shoes Misha but the howl of Allah Indian as air so when the one who crosses in the power the one in whom he trusts in this way yeah yes our elliptical of trust in him is more fitting in other words what are we saying exclusivity that there are no other people who can come along and help you or hurt you that the one you're trusting in has exclusive ability to help or hurt the situation and and he gives a sort of a frightening analogy but an analogy of the the slave who's locked in the dungeon he understands in that situation that he's completely at the mercy of of the master who put him there the only one who has the keys the only one who can decide to let him out the only one who decides to feed him that to take care of him while he's in there right so obviously we haven't yet gotten to the part where we talk about Hashem this this all of this is talking about in general what would need to be in place in order to have trust in someone something but just a you know preview a little bit obviously when we talk about a sham one of the aspects that is unique to a sham is his totality of control that absolute absolutely nothing is outside of his domain and there are no other powers that can commandeer running the universe from him for even a moment or even in one tiny area of of life I mentioned yesterday the seha from Lakota saccas Haila glamoured love at the very beginning of kala glam evolve and I want to encourage everyone again to study that citta on their own but over there that ever points out the words from the buddha mela fro from tehilim harshly Kailash mu Havel who you Hal calico cast upon a sham your burden and he will sustain you that really what is the idea the idea is that there's no one else who and help you Hashem is completely in control and there's nowhere else to place your burdens so they're already on him you know there's the the old muscle about the the man who the old man is walking down the path and the wagon driver sees him and he sees he says old man you know it's not fair it's not nice you know that you're walking like this get on my wagon and I'll give you a ride to the town so the old man gets on the wagon he's sitting on the wagon the whole time is sitting that he has his pakil over his shoulder and for a while the driver just sort of you know watches and waits but then eventually the driver says to the old man why you're holding your your bag like this you could rest better if you just put it down on the floor of the wagon and the old man says to the wagon driver oh that's very kind of you but it's enough that these horses are pulling my weight I should add to their weight and they should pull my bag as well it's okay I'll carry my bag what do you mean the horses are pulling you and your bag the fact that the bag is over your shoulder and not on the floor doesn't make the weight any heavier for the horses the horse is already pulling everything they're pulling you the pulling your bag so why are you also pulling it harshly hellish I'm you have cover who you Hal Coleco what it means is he's already carrying the burden it's already his burden so realize that everything is under his domain and and and and there there are no other forces that have any control or any influence whatsoever so that's something to think about when we talk about you know this sixth condition which is the complete control that like debatable hiya says cool I must said obey all day that the person's affairs are entirely given over to the hands of the one in whom he trusts okay let's do the seventh aspect or condition that needs to be in order to have trust okay their hash fee is and the seventh she here Misha bought the hall of the tothis and the Divas waha acid the one in whom he trusts is absolutely generous and kind they're gonna say hold on that was the first one remember the first one was what was it her alchemy mahem lava lava remember when I told you about my my thesaurus okay so what's what's the seventh one how's it different but she is Shia me Shibata kala batako-san the Divas vac acid he's ultimately generous and kind but follow this let me share I like who let me share a night light to the one whom it's fitting to be generous to as well as the one to whom it is not fitting or not deserved to be generous toward in other words again we're not we're not yet talking about how this all applies to a chef but if Hashem were only kind to those who are worthy he'll be very hard to start having be talkin because who was worthy but the seventh condition is that the one in whom were trusting is is generous and kind even to those who are unworthy Bhatia needy vas a mass Medus the has done in sha allah a chorus Vallely pasok and his generosity is constant his kindness is uninterrupted continuously without without fail without interruption okay Umi Nick Basu Baikal Hamid Sol air in coma she his carnal Caden was there if someone has all of these qualities we've spoken about niche lamu to neue becau convey so all of the preconditions of betoken are met in that person and therefore it follows logically if someone where oh where could we find someone that lives up to all seven of these qualities if someone indeed lives up to all seven of these qualities then logically it follows we must conclude he's high of a a day as Emma Mendeleev Tayyab I wish to Newark Nash Olive Bigelow yay ooh be nice today then one who recognizes this is obligated to put his trust in him to be tranquil because of him outwardly and inwardly believe I in his heart may votive in his limbs meaning emotionally as well as practically in his actions we must say a love the lyrics ace BIG's a dice of luck dune ace a litter you behold in of uma fall-off to submit to him to accept his decrees and to judge him favorably in all of his laws and actions if indeed anyone would live up to all of these seven preconditions now that's not the end of chapter two we're gonna continue chapter two and we are going to see how all of these conditions are embodied in a sham but just for review we have seven conditions one is that he is compassionate right compassionate empathetic loving all of our synonyms - he pays attention he's not neglectful he's not ignoring me right he's he's focused three he's strong he has the ability to do what he wants to do for he knows he knows what's good for me and not just what's good for me now what's gonna be good for me down the road he can sees a fortune-teller five he's the only one who has the ability to help or hurt my situation six is or rather five was he's in control from the very beginning yoga five was he's the one who's in control from the very very beginning of my life until the very end of that there's no changing of the guard no regime change six is he's the only one who has controlled he has total control maybe I would say five is he has constant control and six is he has complete control constant and complete okay that's five and six and seven is that he's not just kind like we said in number one but even to those who are undeserving even when we didn't earn it and if someone has all seven of those conditions then logically we must conclude that this would elicit in us complete trust okay we are going to continue and that's a sham tomorrow night with the rest of chapter 2