Sensitivity to Others - Rabbi Ilan Meirov

good evening my rival Abu tai de schoolish anemia brought name on twitter vote you know it was only a few hours ago I much a few hours ago when Jews around the world were mourning the deaths of the 24,000 students availabe Akiva 24,000 passed away 24,000 passed away this thirty three day period and because of that we didn't listen to music no dancing no weddings we had no haircuts many mean a game to mourn the deaths and here we are right now like biomol starbucks in malad we have great music we're having dancing delicious food people have bonfires all over the place and then probably another 24 hours or so we're all the festivities come to an end and all the restrictions are gone we're going to forget about everything business as usual life as it always was and no Ivan Abu tai how is it toward Godot this is a major major mistake you know anytime you mourn for 30-plus days whatever may be your morning 24 thousand deaths because they didn't honor each other lo la Cucaracha busy it in honor each other properly and then we're celebrating like we are tonight initially may already have hundreds of thousands of people celebrating the Torah that was reignited through the new students that will be Akiva the five new students including rabbi Shimon bar Yohai to let this memory fade away I just disappear is a my opinion a big tragedy come on not to take the lessons so I want to share with you in the very few minutes ladies and gentlemen there's a few points to ponder a few things to think about amazon a sham hopefully we could be inspired to take the momentum and carry it on for the remainder of the year I'm sure all of you heard of the yeshiva in lakewood de liquidy shiva some of you probably have valley members of oh gosh I'm attend their they learn over there your mind volada manoj people learning torah bad my dad toiling over to allah and in a tremendous fashion and ladies and gentlemen we don't realize it took a lot of work to start such a place you have to have a great leader to put together such a yeshiva and it was a man behind as he Shiva a gun a lot of Arlen Cutler's adult well-armed Cutler came he is the one that got easy Sheba started and he's the one has a sucio to the sushi bar for the rest of history who is his father in law his Fatima was how love is sir zelman Meltzer a tremendous tremendous leader of all the luxury he had a Shiva he was a man that roots for him that instead that basically i lurked by the entire yeshiva world so listen very carefully to the story to show you what i got old is no rival Abu tai listen very carefully he was doing the final touches on his book he was putting the final touches and editing is very difficult a lot of working to the editing as he's doing the found touches he's right to print the several he tells one of his students I want you to take me to the house alive mantovani long ago ceremony was a Moche Shiva in heaven yeshiva there were three Russian she was there he was one of them hi will take you there nope out late at night they go to the house of this commotion Cavani knock on the door they come in trauma what are you doing a good a lot you should i would have came to your house me coming to my house no no I have a very serious question to ask you what's the question he says you see I'm reading this book on the rambam I have a question I need you to help me find an answer could you help me with the answer so they start learning the topic together and it up keV only gives him a beautiful answer but this is someone else's Wow what does he do Sh thank you so much it'll case i quote you in my book she's it'll be a great honor because it hood for me to be caught in your book of course why not climb arrival Abu tai Ravi since our melted the elder ocean she believes the house above Cavani and he goes back home now the students has cut off i don't get it you had to ask him this question you are the girl adult you have to go to a younger or she shiva and ask him this question what's going on here listen whatever pieces are my melta answered revival Abu tai ladies and gentlemen listen very carefully well melter said as I'm editing my book and I'm adding my book from cover to cover i realized i quoted two of the wash a shiva of heaven is about this week true they were cool in my book this one I think quote could you imagine when he opened up the book you leave that he wears it he sees the first oh she was quoted raised in a sec you know she was cold and he's not quoted I might cause him pain I might cause him some sorrow therefore I went to his house before I published a book together he douche from him so I could call him as well sensitivity covered that you might say I we don't write books we not in this industry I want to give you guys a very simple example sometimes you have a speech to give at a bar mitzvah at a bleach and I found the occasion whatever maybe and you have to thank five or six people the organizers that he will put together so you say yeah five people to think i want to thank moving what it's a dick i want to thank stream on if it wasn't for him is event and living why why why let me always there for me and you doubt them a thank you so much and and anyone else that I may have forgotten you know I love you one second they may be someone you forgot before you put together the speed you make sure you don't forget anyone covered everyone that he needs to hear they think yous so if you're mentioning four out of five a five out of six how do you think that six persons gonna feel no I vallabh otay basic things no nothing scientific over here basic things have covered you're sending out invitations you have your baby shower you have on or bleeding meal I ever cut to now you have a wedding you have a bigger party and you find they're your friends your family what happens is you forget your neighbor across the street everyone goes why don't you come on and get up I didn't mean it idealist no rival Abu tai everyone makes mistakes I make me say be all make mistakes but you know what before you have all invitations sent out shut down a whole list think maybe I forgot someone look around the room because what happens if someone gets offended basic things my wife of Abu tag someone has a baby boy baby girl to get engaged right pick up a phone call wow I heard you got engaged mazel tov make a person feel good whatever may be available tight to give that person that feeling of covered that feeling of specialty it's nine Avila don't feel like it's a waste of time to make the phone call your wife makes you something to eat your husband gives you a nice gift it's not going to hurt to recognize the top bare make the delicious food you gave me tonight now my delicious I haven't had some magazine years a basic compliment covered giving the person that come on making them feel like they're worth something you know I'm sure you all heard of a great post egg from you shall I are gonna wrap zalman orbach of Shah Mohammad or Bach was one of the leading post game leading her logic deciders in all of vanity sail around the world one time the phenomenal story my much so much moves out one time he's in the hospital in the hospital he's pacing back and forth he's pacing back and forth in the hospital a young man see them toward alive ha i get a message of what happened i had a baby boy o mother of the magical to scare like he saw the bleep does 11am every new who part 2 i'm I seem to be kissing blah blah oh the life of Abu tai why was that be rolled back in the hospital his wife just passed away his wife just passed away he's pacing back and forth in the lobby someone comes over to coronado get Masato he doesn't know that example bisazza the rabbit goes in masato yeah but my wife just passed away could have destroyed everything they're all excitement his whole energy but what is the rap I do he had the inner courage of arrival Abu type the inner strength k'boosh local chanela why I'm not going to ruin his simca how often it happens hopefully doesn't happen often but it happens all the time my friend comes over to tell you good news and say yeah I but you know what's going on with my life you don't have to come along and ruin someone's simcha her husband comes home from work hardly comes home from work he has a big smile on his face starbucks him alot and the wife says I why you smiling about today had a good day i sold i bought i made some money all you had to get there by i had a terrible day so come you shower the kids do this change the diapers do this do that ha you have to come and rune is good day no rival Abu tai basic basic things covered to give to another person to respect a person's situation to show that person a little bit love the Rivera it's a mitzvah it might be difficult at times but it's definitely within our capabilities to do such a thing you know this there's so many lessons there's so many stories that can be told over about hot delays thread would conduct themselves in different situations we have another speaker Bizen additional inspires as well I just want to take one more point just to bring across that everyone business on the same you know we finish the mourning period oh gosh in tomor normal mourning period friday morning we take care cuts we do this we do that Bulger ship but let's don't forget what we celebrating tonight tonight we start wailing what additional value hi the five students of a big eva 24,000 dead if 20 de Loyola and now we have five left over that we built Toa we're sitting here tonight what are we sitting here to celebrate the rebirth of the Torah that I miss oil is hyper km little icy air and the toe is here to stay so if we're celebrating this and we're only a few days away from chef wat where 33 days ago Mel 49 fear what 16 17 acres aboard no libel Abu tai every single one of us must accept upon ourselves especially the men's I this side of the room I'm going to be Coverity matura you come to schooi it's difficult it's hard I'm stress I've wife I have kids have a business the life of Abu tai you come to shira Toa if anyone here is married you push your husband to come to learn you try to encourage him your brothers you're struggling whether baby to come and study Torah no rival Abu tai that's what we celebrating now all these celebrations all around Queens and Brooklyn and America on a lead Israel especially around your they're celebrating what the continuation of the Torah what is celebration with if we just raise the time eat some food dance in front of fire and then what Miley Chevy what are you celebrating thank you get married you have a big wedding beautiful weddings tobacco and then what no relationship with your wife right if you're celebrating the Torah ladies and gentlemen we have accepted on ourselves to learn more too ought to come to moorue but what do we do with the excuse eh it's too hard for me it's too late for me I'm 40 m 30 and 50 m 60 I can i grasp girl i cannot understand how that i cannot invent any mission I out I'll tell you guys a very beautiful Michelle and bass not a shame if you take it to heart will see some major changes it was once again ma what's a gimmick k middle-class Athene some gimmick hand out free clothes some hand out other utensils furniture so this came out my rival boot I handed out Medical utensils medical needs you need certain medical devices they loved you borrowed for ricoh two or three or months so what happens is in a rival Abu tai this guy comes in tell me I need a machine for asthma the special machines for asthma attacks do you have one of these the guy tells him yes top shelf go into the room top shelf he goes into the room top shelf moving everything around nothing there I don't need nothing on the top shelf is it there no check now at the middle shelf cry checks the middle shelf moves things around nothing there 10 minutes later my friend I can't find it checking the bottom over there check the bottom here there nothing there is nothing here no check out the closet eventually this guy gets angry is like ma he comes to the front desk the secondary are you playing games with me you're telling me up shelf bombshell middle shelf this closet where is this machine ok relax my friend and the secretary takes it out from under the desk here's the Machine you get have it save me are you serious she made me look for half hour and you had this undergird that's the whole time what are you playing games look what their man tells him just how maybe I want you to know this is asthma season a lot of people come here to get this machine just in case so the people that come to take it in case they need it they look for two men they leave they don't find a car they leave the people that really need it they look at he look at look and then when they get upset I know they really needed here take it I'll just give it away because you know it's going to happen after we got no more machines and the people that don't need it will have it lolabellaa boot I there's a rule yagatama Tata tell me if you want to acquire to our if you want to grow spiritually it doesn't just happen like that you got a toil you got to find time in the day yes you have a business yes you have children yes you have this yes you have that you can have to go out of your way get a little stressed out I will burn out but eventually you will grow eventually you will see the fruits of your labor but if you think they come to you or to you sit back you listen I don't know a lot my team is rubbish really and you go back home RTP the rest of your life come baby you're wasting your time you don't understand how the toe has acquired therefore certainly every single one of you there's a learning program here every night there's programs have many different rules there's no reason why they're men should not be here I placed for a half hour every night at least you can't come for the full hour and a half 0 fine I understand half hour you drive half hour from a 30 to 90 90 9 13 9 30 to 10 and the women it's tough to let your husband go they said tell him go baby go out for 20-30 minutes go learn to I it's not gonna hurt you it's gonna be beneficial I don't laugh but they become a little damages that you know become a little mensch there's no reason why this on them out this is what we celebrating tonight the torque Ducie to attend dr. Schaack ahem cyano viola Jimeno obey Him nagar your mom valaya the life / type is not a sheriff you could take this message to heart number one sensitivity sensitivity learned from a fisherman melter he was not willing to publish the book if only to our three losses she bought a quart you had to call all of them be careful with your friends emotions when it comes to invitations phone calls whatever may be learned from I promise I'm annoyed back not to ruin people's excitement and keep in mind that doe eyes are fire the tourism keeps us in asian going you got thrown with Roger Sherman should be as awesome grill interlining at remain us our community our families with any litter on venom Allah may