SELLING JUDAISM, Intermarriage, BIBLICAL GIANTS, LIFE INSURANCE 101, Ladies - STUMP THE RABBI (136)

[Music] we're back here and uh doing our contining our series on Wednesday night stump the rabbi where after you guys ask some questions will give us some answers but only after we give you a little bit of a little bit of sweetness from that have to do with the weekly par some good ideas that you can you know bring to your Shabbat and uh see how you could apply to your lives how we could apply to our lives tonight's will be for the for benav and also for the for Mara Julie Mara Samuel Mara Seas Ben Mara Alexander Ben Mara Lewis Ben Mala and also one second I keep forgetting this and all of army slers are the sh and all the righteous Noah hides to everybody and especially those of you that continue to contribute donate as much as a person can uh uh so uh we're continuing our series again update I got a little bit of a rebuke online that uh last night's update was a little too long and uh I'm really really not sorry uh because the updates are necessary uh the updates are necessary for 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we cut the time a little bit from yesterday's update we'll go into into this par try to see what we can learn from the Tora now over the years we uh typically have uh focused on the end of the parasha more so than the beginning of the parasa uh the end of the parasa being much more relevant to the average person out there today especially in the in the west especially in in the United States in England and Australia where the assimilation rates are astounding literally the only other time in history where we saw that much assimilation where Jews are marrying non-jews and uh destroying their lineage destroying their maso destroying their connection to a is at the time of the Holocaust right before the Holocaust the assimilation uh an inter marriage uh was uh over 80% around the world and in some places like Germany it was over 90% and uh this is one of the things that we learned from this week's par that inter marriage between Jews and gentiles is not only forbidden by the Torah both for Jews and for Gentiles but it's one of the things that hasem hates the most so much so that in the end of this week's par Bak we see that nearly annihilated is as a result of them uh being intimate with the uh with the Goot uh with the non-jewish uh uh women that uh you know LED them to a lot of uh bad things one of them obviously being idolatry but needless to say this is one of the things that uh we really have to shiver when we think about it because unlike all of the other things that we see in the T where warned us or there was you know certain things that he said before punishment came pinkos Shalom says that the uh this uh uh plague that hasem brought onto am Isel after they sinned with the uh with these uh with these non-jewish women is the only time that nearly annihilated without a warning so this showing us obviously how horrible this sin is in the eyes of AOS it doesn't matter that she's a nice girl it doesn't matter that he's a nice guy if you're a Jew and you're a person that you're with is not Jewish it's forbidden to be together it's forbidden to even talk uh and uh it's it's one of those things where a person has to understand and get their head around it and of course the Z kados says very very harsh things about uh people that are uh intimate with uh you know with someone that's not of the same that's you know Jew and a gentile uh where so much so that the person that is doing it is assured to have uh uh tragedy come to their life lose their money uh uh you know and a lot of other things so this is one of the things that we focused on throughout the years we've discussed it extensively anyone that wants to know more details of into marriage and and and the magnitude of it can easily go to our channels uh that I described earlier and just type in uh into marriage assimilation uh you know something like that or even simply the the the name of the parasha itself and you'll hear many many different insights from our sages about this particular topic but today we're going to try to do something a little bit uh different we're going to try to focus on the beginning of the parasha and the reason why is because uh not just because we haven't discussed it as extensively but rather because the beginning of the parasa has a lot to do with the end of the parasha meaning that your average person that you tell them listen I understand that you're non-jewish girlfriend is a very nice lady and she's wonderful and she even wants you to be religious but it's forbidden according to the Torah and many times a person will come up with different excuses I remember myself bringing those excuses of what do you mean how could it be forbidden if it was forbidden why would God send her and I understand the logic behind it and I can assure you that all of that logic comes from the yet himself from the Satan that is trying to destroy a person and the same thing goes with anyone else that you have in your life that simply does not want to comply with any part of the Tor whether it's learning T every single day which you're obligated to do because anyone the says anyone who doesn't learn T every single day is not fulfilling the t is not fulfilling the verse in the T it says that you have to uh uh study T in the morning and at night a person that does not study tah has has simply no share of the world to come it's a very very big deal someone doesn't want to put on tan every day with the exception of Shabbat and holidays someone who doesn't want to eat kosher or they want to eat kosher light you know like kosher whenever they want or kosher according to them or kosher according to their friends people simply take any Mitzvah that they like and they keep it mitvah they don't like they don't want to keep it you tell women out there you have to be modest not just for uh you know uh getting the men not to think of you but for yourself to give yourself some self-respect and also to give yourself a chance to go to heaven and not to go to Gom both in this world and the next and many times women will tell you listen I understand I appreciate it I even believe what you say but it's hard for me or I'm afraid of people going to make fun of me or I'm afraid this I'm afraid that and all types of other types of excuses that she simply says listen I get what you're saying but I'm not ready to be modest I get what you're saying but but I'm not ready to keep Shabbat I get what you're saying but I'm not ready to cover my hair even though I'm married I get what you say but I'm not ready to have a kosher business because the non- kosher business pays a whole lot of money so every one of us has made those excuses at some point the question is do they have any value in sh does AEM actually take any of those excuses that we have to forsake his toah into consideration does he say oh yeah you know what it really was hard oh yeah you know what the rabbi wasn't that good oh yeah you know what they really uh you know were really busy is any of that really taken into account so we have to see that everything is in the delve into it and delve into it because everything is in it says the mishna A and one of the things we see is we see that the Tora tells us different uh uh different stories in order for us to learn from them in order to learn from certain people both righteous and wicked in a you have the righteous jakov and the wicked brother that he had as you learned from both of them what to do and what not to do you have the righteous mosenu the the the prophet of all prophets and then you have the wicked bilam B who was also a prophet that thear says that he actually had a certain ability that even mosu did not have where he knew that the exact time that Hashem judges the people and because he knew that particular time he was gifted that ability in order for says in order for the Gentiles not to complain that they didn't have big prophets like the Jewish people did so he gave them a prophet that has a power if you will even greater than mosenu in a certain aspect but we see that instead of using that power to connect to hem to follow hasem obviously he used it for his own wickedness and the reality is that we have to see that he really was he uh a lost cause from the beginning or did he bring it to thems did he have a nature that's similar to some of our own Natures that when we make excuses did he have did his excuse give him anything did it have any value and these are some of the things will try to cover Through uh through the Shu so we start off the par trying to get a basic understanding of what's going on here obviously we've had a lot of turmoil inph The Book of Numbers you have you know both and you know pass away lots of going on lots of you know action if you will and now we have B Bak is a uh is one of those par where there's a whole lot happening but again we've we have personally have spent a lot of time on the end of the par and today we're going to do something a little different so in the beginning of the par we see that Bak saw that uh uh that all of isra had done to the amorites what does it really mean that Bak saw what AM is did to the amorites what what does it actually mean so much so that it actually says that the uh uh balak was disgusted was disgusted because of the children of is of Israel what what is what does this really uh entail so first and foremost we have to understand that Bel bin he was the uh the king of Moab and he himself lost the war toon who were who were amorites uh and he lost land to them and after seeing that through the power of defeated the Giants of defeated his brother some say his father which was OG uh defeated them and destroyed them this literally made the uh uh um balak uh disgusted why disgusted though I mean you could say made him scared which is is one of the things that it says but it also says he was disgusted by it one of the things that you'll learn as you serve a more and more each and every day as you learn more T sanctify yourself do more give more help more people do more uh of course protect your breed become more and more modest as the days go on and build a family of modesty and beauty in Holiness you'll see that the Holier you become the more detested you become by the Unholy meaning that Holiness Kusa cannot coexist with tum with impurity in peace it is not possible for the two to coexist it is not possible for you to be friends it is not possible for you to even be on the same page the Holier you are the more disgusted you're making the the Unholy those that are still Pim immodest immoral promiscuous filthy disgusting they want the boys to be girls and the boys to be with boys all of those people literally look at you as holy as you are and they're disgusted how could they be disgusted by somebody holy how could Bak be disgusted byad how could they be disgusted it's not that they're disgusted by their Holiness but rather they're dis disgusted by themselves because they see what's possible if they simply serve AEM if you see an example you see a balak what does he do he is with everything he does everything just like naner Batar all of the evil Kings par all of them were full of bestiality their their wives were animals like bam his wife was a donkey a Bela was married to a dog uh neet was married to anything literally every day with something else men women dogs cats everything and anything as we discussed in our sh a few months ago where the uh the the tat talks about incest and and and beastiality on a regular basis in order to remind us not only what is Holy but also what is Unholy because this will affect us through the end of days and we see the world today where you have people going to Congress in America and different institutions and governments in the UK and other governments where they're promoting the Unholy they're promoting homosexuality they're promoting pedophilia simply calling it a sexual preference they're promoting all of the filth and disgusting things in the world and unfortunately this did not start overnight this is one of the things this is the culmination of evil actions the culmination of promiscuity the culmination of the free-for-all mentality that you saw started in the 1960s and70s here in the US and other places where if you look at pictures from a 100 years ago in America the way people went to the beach is literally more modest and they people today go to uh go to weddings and to uh and to uh black Thai events uh the way they went to the beach was literally covered head to toe but then as times changed people literally took off their clothes and today you're not really sure if you go out in the streets and you have the uh tun that you actually have to see other people out there doesn't matter where you live you're not really sure whether you entered a store to buy some groceries or you entered somebody's shower because no one else wants to wear any clothes it's confusing you're not really sure where's the water is going to drop on me am I in a where did I go and the reality is this type of mentality initially was with adults now it's with children you see that the average children clothes they're tight fitting they're they're they're they're they're literally it's they're selling you clothes where in my days they call hold certain types of clothing uh unisex where you could have a belt or a shoe or whatever it is that literally was okay for both boys and girls because of the type of color that it was or the type of clothing that it was today there is no such thing literally everything is for everyone you could see little kids boys walking around with dresses little girls walking around with pants and and and less unfortunately so this type of Filth has infected Society so much so that you actually have Wicked pedophiles being given the stage in Congress in uh you know in in in major institutions telling everyone that we need to change the educational system to train everyone and force everyone not to consider gender there is no such thing as a woman that is uh based on biology based on the the the members the the the parts of her body no it's all based on preference and yet people are surprised that pedophilia is is is skyrocketing people are getting arrested all of these transgender filthy disgusting excuse of a human being uh are literally running rampant they're being allowed and celebrated by allowing them to go into kindergartens into preschools into uh all types of uh public schools and unfortunately this is also affecting the Jewish Community where you have have so-called uh uh synagogues uh telling you to become more accepting of the LGBT and all of the uh the filth that's out there the T says is clearly disgusting in the eyes of Hashem it's called an Abomination nothing is called as bad as that theyh considers beastiality which is man and animal and homosexuality man and man women with women the same exact thing but unfortunately today Society is upside down and you have rabbis uh uh like the rash from England meris uh writing a book to try to tell people to become more accepting of it accepting if they stop it absolutely will help them do chuva and remove the to from their life but accepting them as they are is 100% forbidden to tell them that everything is okay and you can continue desecrating hashem's name with your behavior you continue acting like a woman even though you're a man you continue telling your son that he's really your daughter you tell telling telling your daughter that she could just do whatever she wants whenever she wants no one cares this is forbidden according to the Torah and unfortunately these are some of the things that are mentioned in the Tor that we have simply ignored and balak starts off with this type of mentality this type of teachings where we see that balak is disgusted he is UN as Unholy as it gets he's as Unholy as it gets he's a filthy disc usting human being but he is disgusted from the holy nation he's disgusted by the Jewish people why because the filthy people look at the righteous people and they realize what's available to them if they simply censored themselves if they simply limited themselves restricted themselves contained themselves if they simply behaved like decent human beings that their grandparents were if they simply worked off of things that make sense to to to the normaly of society rather than make sense to fulfill their own lust and their their own desires and that's the reason why the Holiness and the impurity that's out there cannot coexist in peace and all of us are obligated to take this into account because it does affect us whether you're Jewish or not whether you're in America or in Israel or in Africa or wherever you are it will affect you at some point if you don't draw that line that red line to be very very clear in your household in your education in the places that you go to in the things that you watch if you don't draw that line You'll see that line get further and further from reality and unfortunately you'll have a very very big test that you'll you're bringing on to yourself so balak is disgusted by am is and uh in essence it's like a person that all of his life or you know he has dated all type of promiscuous women and he uh is one of these Hollywood stars where he can get whatever he wants to get the women chase him something that's uh also in itself the opposite of normaly you know women are chasing men women are talking about their promiscuity openly and proudly and uh they they're even being given air time to talk about it on air it's really just just disgusting but to The World At Large this is what they want or else they wouldn't have ratings or else they people wouldn't watch and what you see is that the guy that's dating all of these girls he doesn't make any of them his wife he makes her his wife for the day for the week for the month but then he replaces her with somebody else at some point he uh looks at his life and he's not complaining about anything he's fulfilling his his his his lust he's having a time a few uh a few new wives here and there a few drugs here and there a few uh thefts here and there he doesn't really question much in fact he thinks that the more he gets the the the the more likely he is to eventually arrive at the unhappiness at the happiness that he's seeking because he still has that emptiness in his heart but one day sends him a personal rebuke and he has an encounter with a holy person whether that encounter is face to face face and he speaks to him and has that Merit to do so or it's simply looking from a distance he sees him you know across the table from him he sees him in the same room as him he sees him in the same office as him he sees him on screen and he sees what a holy person has and he sees that Holy person's wife and he is disgusted why because at that moment he gets a reality check where he realizes look at this this guy this guy that doesn't have even 10% of the money that I have doesn't have 10% of the fame that I have doesn't have 10% of the strength and the power that I have look what he has he has a wife that's only committed to him she won't even look at me she won't even look at anybody else a wife that brought him these little rightous kids that call him ABA that Call Him Father don't call him by the first name respect him wait patiently speak without cursing all of these kids everyone is uh everyone is brilliant everyone is beautiful you could literally see the Kusa in the kids you could see the Kusa in their marriage look how you could see the happiness in their modest marriage you can see it it's as clear as they especially to the person that's impure especially to the person that's impure because he has something to compare it to he looks at the zonah that's next to him whether she's his wife for the day or for the last few years doesn't really make much of a difference he realized that she was the Village bicycle he realizes that she's one of those people that you have no idea where she lost count with how many different husbands she's had he realizes that any anything that comes out of her surely's going to be a little piglet like her he realizes that in reality he has garbage and he only realized it now and there is no way in the world that any righteous woman any holy woman any woman that is modest any woman that respects herself would even look at his filthy self the way he is the way he dresses the way he behaves the way he talks no holy woman will ever look at such a person no one and he is disgusted with the current circumstances because he realizes that in reality he could have had that if he simply contained himself and didn't follow drugs didn't follow Fame materialism and simply anything that walks so here we see that balak is disgusted with his current life which in essence is even more revolting to him that these holy people are winning if you told me these holy people were homeless and they're suffering and balak is uh is is is is high and and he's having a good time and he's running the world then you say okay listen why why should I be holy why should I be holy if they're all homeless and they're all poor and all no but here he sees they're Conquering the world they're beating everybody the Giants the same Giants seon and OG that defeated me meaning balak they defeated them like they were little flies so not only do they have the beautiful marriage and the Beautiful kids and and and the money and but they're also powerful so he is simply disgusted with his life and he makes him hate them even more but also fear them now that fear of course is relevant to each and every single one of us because one of the things we see is that was not looking to go to war with balak they weren't looking for a fight there you know am is is not allowed to just go look for fights we're not the we're not one of those Nations that's just looking to conquer whatever we uh whatever we see because we see we like the flowers there Hashem gave us a land that's where we're going we have no business uh to be next to you to uh to deal with you and the only reason why they went to war with Amal or with s or with a is because they got attacked that's it the same thing goes with midan so the problem here is that balak doesn't see the world that way he sees things from his perspective if you're powerful that means you want everything if you're powerful that means you're going to take everything so it's kill or be killed mentality and he starts getting anxiety over the fact that this nation is massive it's powerful it's holy and they're on they're on his on his way is him and he is sure they're going to attack him and one of the things that that eventually happens is that that actually happens but it's not because Amel had that plan this is one of the things that a person needs to apply to their life because we see the bet in our series we discussed it extensively over 16 lectures where many of the problems that a person has are actually self-inflicted where those problems are coming to him because of his anxiety her anxiety she's anxious about money he's anxious about finding a z he's they're anxious about getting a job they're anxious about you know getting kicked out of their house or or or their electric going out on Shabbat or whatever it is they're anxious about it not because they have a reason just simply I'm anxious I'm an anxious person I'm a nervous person the BET says that anxiety comes from a lack of confidence in Hashem and lack of confidence in Hashem is a violation of the Torah and the punishment for that is that hasem brings to the person what they're afraid of you're afraid of losing electricity you're going to lose electricity you're afraid of not having money you're not going to have any money you're afraid of being alone hashem's going to make you alone why why didn't you have confidence in hasem why why didn't you have did theem give you any reason not to have confidence in him did he did he leave you not breathing yesterday did he leave you hungry yesterday what did he do to you that you have no confidence in him if anything you should thank him 20 4 hours a day so the BET says that the anxiety that a person has as a result of lack of confidence in AEM and the punishment for it is measure for measure where Hashem actually brings the person that anxiety that in itself is a scary punishment because in reality it's we see here that a does not like for us to be afraid of anything other than him further on we move on with the Paras and we start getting into the uh the next part where the uh balak sees that there is a uh uh there is a big nation coming and he uh he is he knows thaton although they lost the war to is they beat him and he thinks wait a minute how did they beat me ah they beat me because of Bam Bam helped them so even though s used bam to help them destroy balak balak doesn't really put any value on that the fact that bam tried to annihilate balak doesn't matter to him the fact that bam tried to annihilate all of his people doesn't matter to him the fact that bam was very happy that people died from Bak side doesn't make a difference to him all he can think about like yeah but we're from the same town we're from the same town he's from Aram I'm from from yeah but he's from and he's your enemy he joined your enemy yeah enemy not the same town this is the logic of the impure the logic of the impure is always going to go to oh what's my current interest yeah but don't you realize that as my dear wife the always says if they do it for you they'll do it to you don't you realize that if you trust this person to uh to to help you hurt somebody just because you're going to give him some money eventually he's going to do it to you and in this case he actually already did it to you all he cares about is that there is a stronger nation and the way he describes it is that this nation is stronger many many what's me many we see that balak in his delusional Godless life thinks that he's the one that runs the world so when he instead of describing the am is as being stronger than his his Army stronger than his Nation he's saying they're stronger than me personally MIM instead of mimu which is plural he uses Mimi this is also the difference between a holy person and a impure person the holy person anytime they they say something they're going to do whatever they can to take into account that nothing that they have is due to them everything is due to granting it to them whether it be wisdom or wealth or or or or beauty whatever it is whatever they're doing it's only it's only with the help of hem the problem is most time people say you know when when it comes to uh when it comes to their uh success you know they want to attain success they say oh yeah you know maybe will help me get this success but when it comes uh comes to failure oh why did Hashem do this to me meaning the failure surely Hashem gave it to you but the success maybe he could help you this is obviously a distorted way of looking at things bam was even worse he was so arrogant he could not even see anything above himself anything next to himself he thought that he is the Army he is the power and this is again one of the big differences between someone that is trying to attain Holiness and has achieved it he's always going to or she's always going to say meu from us you know we're going to go uh we want it's always we it's either we because you realize that there's more people in your family in your team in your company your company is doing something not just you your team is doing something not just you uh your uh uh your family is doing something not just you or even if it is literally just you it's still you and a so a person looks at that from that perspective and then they realize that hey you know what there's really no I there's really no eye the quicker a person removes I I did this I did that the quicker they are to get on the path of starting to become more modest and more humble the more a person focuses on I did this and I did that the further they are from the humility that they need to have now further on the uh uh balaka continues and says uh uh that he wants to get bam to to join and uh he says to uh he says toam in his message are for I know that whoever you bless is blessed and whoever you curse is cursed how does he know because he knows that the uhon was uh defeated him as we said before defeated him through the help of uh of a uh of bam where is this written in the Torah itself in last week's par when uh when comes to uh attack uh is and is defeats them when the the described it says that uh regarding the allegorizes they would say enteron leton be built and established and as the city ofon this is in essence talking about the defeat of moav by so who are these allegorizes Rashi says here that uh one of the great uh that you can't survive a single verse in the Tora without his clarification Rashi says the allegorizes the Muslim is referring to Bam Bam after beating moav after beating balak he was laughing look at this look at this we we entered and we're going to turn this into now so he says oh I know you guys you uh you helped so now you can help me what about the fact that he tried to kill you or anything else doesn't make a difference doesn't make a difference this is also something that you see in uh in society today where you uh if somebody does not have God as part of his life he'll make whatever decision is necessary just to fulfill his desire his lust whether his lust is power or anything else you saw this in the recent government in Israel with this rashan Bennet uh he uh told everybody that to him as president or prime minister in uh in Israel he's going to protect the religious people but the second he got elected who did he make a partnership with with the Palestinian terrorists with the Lefty liberals giving them 53 billion 53 billion to the Palestinian terrorists literally if you would have given it to the Nazis it might have actually been a better place it's unbelievable how someone that wears a little quarter keep on his head felt it was perfectly fine to give $53 billion to terrorists to people that are want him and everybody else dead but of course made him uh make a joke out of himself and he's not in government right now but unfortunately the temporary replacement leid is a is a is even worse than he is he's only there only for a few months but already we see that this uh this Leed already made a meeting today very uh uh media covered it I didn't really follow anything all I know is that there was a meeting and both of them said stupid things uh one said if I had your hair the other one said if I had uh something else about the other person your looks or whatever it was they admired each other's looks two unusual people to say the least but uh the truth is if you see these two people that are leading their countries if you will both of them are enemies of the state both of them enemies in the state and while Biden goes to visit Israel even writes a check to the Palestinian terrorist for $500 million like if it wasn't bad enough that you're doing everything possible to do anything favorable for for to undo anything that was done favorable to is is it's not enough in your during your visit you're writing a check to the Palestinian terorists of $500 million and the other idiot uh uh uh lepid is uh he's doing everything possible to partner up with all of the enemies literally your conquerors your destroyers will come from within you but H where is this this is in the Torah we see that is partnering with a person that tried to destroy him which is unbelievable so now we see here that to follow the ways of the wickedness not only it doesn't work in your favor in the long run as far as Heaven hell and so on but even during your life the further a person is from Hashem the more blurry the world is they don't see things clearly and in fact they'll see things the opposite of what they are and you see this in society today the people that are observant of Torah that learn tah every single day any question you can ask them it doesn't really make a difference what the subject is it could be a subject directly pertaining to the Torah that they're learning or teaching or it could be a question relating something relating to business doesn't matter what business medicine doesn't matter what medicine uh anything you ask them they'll give you a clear decision whenever they give you the decision sometimes it's right away sometimes it's later on but when they give you something that's something you could take to the bank why they're they literally it's is giving them the words to say giving them the words to say everything is as clear as they whereas you ask your average person out there doesn't learn T doesn't do mitvah doesn't do anything out there you ask him what do you what are you in school for he doesn't know do you want to get married I'm not sure you're married now you're going to have kids n I'm not really sure um what's your ambition you know you just started working for our company what do you want to do I want to be the CEO okay fine how do you want to get there oh I don't know like they don't know anything they don't know anything it's not a surprise that you know in today in in universities that are full of uh you know in America full of modesty IM morality and everything else in between no one expects the student to even pick a major pick something that they can actually learn enough to use it as a vocation something that can actually make money with schools parents no one expects the kid to pick anything until his junior year meaning that by the time he actually picked the subject that may have anything to do with his or her life you've already spent spent 2 and 1 half to three years of your parents' money or the government's money or both uh to to you know just to figure it out literally it is the biggest scam in the world and this is acceptable this is perfectly acceptable in society why oh he's only a sophomore so he doesn't know what he wants to do yet what do you mean he doesn't want to the school's $50,000 a semester you're telling me that you're paying $50,000 for 6 months actually less than 6 months and you don't even know what he's going to do with what he's learning like he doesn't actually have a Target he doesn't have a point he doesn't have any direction oh you know he wants to either be a doctor or an astronaut or or a farm what what do you mean that's everything you IM say he wants to be something like you're telling me you're spending $50,000 or more for a few months just for him to go hang out with his friends do some drugs be promiscuous go to party and you're okay with that for at least the first two and a half to three years and even after 3 years he could still change his major in his decision and even after four years he's most likely not even going to use that degree for real life and you're okay with it because you want a little certificate how about this donate that $50,000 to I'll go on my on my computer type you up whatever you want I'll send it to you first class mail via UPS okay I'll even put it in a frame for you you can pick the color and that's it put it on the wall save yourself the money keep the kid at home send him to Yeshiva it's unbelievable what has become acceptable in society because the parents are confused the kids are confused parents have no idea what's the purpose of life and they're already in their 40s and 50s and 60s of course the kid doesn't know what the purpose of life is all he knows is whatever desire he has he has to fulfill it no different than a dog no different than a cat no different than a no different than a ram no different than any other beast in the world walking among men the reality is is that when a person is removed from removed from a they simply have the life of an animal just an animal that's walking onto no no Direction what's directing them is their lust lust for Honor lust for money Lust For You Know intimacy and so on and so forth so you see here that the decisions that they make more often than not are disastrous the amount of mistakes that are being made on an average week by the average person is literally incomprehensible we're not talking about small mistakes the more powerful a person is the more successful a person is the bigger the mistakes you see people that literally sign a $100 million contract to be an athlete to to go run around with some ball or to throw a ball or whatever or to hit a ball or other people that have movies to to perform for a few weeks and they get a 100 million and 50 million and then they do this not just once they do this multiple times and they're literally being given like a treasure a treasure that is like uh you only talk about in in in fairy tales and they're given this treasure they're giv a 100 million 50 million 500 million all types of huge amounts of money or they start a company or they start a product and they make a fortune that way and then these idiots what do they do after wasting their money on a bunch of things that they don't even need aside from that they risk it all for what for some girl for some guy for some for some filthy disgusting lust some some uh some prostitute some uh rape some uhh uh violence they risk everything you see famous stories there's no end if you watch my uh film the world of Lies how many of these filthy people did people admire Michael Jackson Bill Cosby Steve Jobs all of these people and you see how these people literally made the worst decisions in the world the were very smart people when it came to that profession but everything else around it literally you you're not even sure how this person arrived at any success Beyond going to the bathroom with such a mentality you took Harvey Weinstein that had literally a a a Empire of billions and billions of dollars risked it all why just to have a few things that he don't belong to him women that don't belong to him children that don't belong to him everything that don't doesn't belong to him he wanted everything that doesn't belong to him you can buy everything you want but you only wanted something that didn't belong to you this is common in society and it's important for us to know this too is in a Tora when a person lives a life that is in essence forsaking the Torah thinking that he or she knows better than the Torah so we see here this is Bak this is Bak but what about bam bam the BAM the rash that in essence he spoke to God you would think if somebody knows who God is believes in the one God even if their uh uh ideology is wrong even if they're uh the way they believe in God is wrong like the Christians that believe in idolatry because they're God is divided into three or you have the the Muslims that their their God hates his own people all types of demented mentalities but nonetheless you could say these people are religious according to them so what happens with those people what happens with those people you still see them making those very same mistakes and in fact many times worse mistakes than a person that is completely removed from God how come bam bam is that example where am is interested in being this mercenary that goes and curses the Jewish people he hates the Jewish people he knows about the Jewish people he has known about the Jewish people he was one of the three uh generals that uh uh served par where when uh mosenu was a just a little baby that baa the daughter of par uh found him and bam saw that this little baby Moshe took the crown of Paro and he told par this is probably the kid this is the kid that's probably going to try to take your kinghood he's going to try to kill you one day and he literally tried to entice to kill mosu this little baby he hated Moshe he hated is despite being a person that speaks to Hashem a prophet so now you see this bam bam has a Target what's the target target is to destroy is yeah but you do realize that hasm gave the Tora to is yes you do realize that hem said to is you my chosen people yes you do realize that loves yes you do realize that follows the that gave them yes but you still want to curse them you still want to go against them you still want to destroy them what gives like how do you rationalize this well it was given to me an opportunity I didn't ask I was just sitting here with my wife the donkey and uh you know balak sent me some Messengers that wants me to uh he appreciates my uh my abilities despite the fact that I tried killing him and uh he wants to hire me as a mercenary to go and curse them what's the problem yeah but you're you're cursing the very same nation that God loves yeah but if God loved him so much why did he allow balak to uh to come to me that's the rationalization of the heretic of the wicked bam so now Bak comes and he is looking to do the job but first he has to be enticed so Bak shows him that he's ready he's ready to pay him whatever price and he's also ready to give him whatever tools and it says in the uh in the Torah that when um when balak sent the first line of Messengers they came to him with they came with charms in their hands what is this charms what is love charms you cut the heart in half I love you I love you best friends forever what is this charms says one of the great sages gave comment to in he has some extraordinary he says these charms were the uh the uh way to serve the idols where they had dolls they had dolls and they would stick pins in those dolls in order to kill their enemies today they call this Voodoo that's what the uh balak came sent voodoo dolls to Bam saying listen I'm familiar with what you do I got the tools even we're ready we're not looking to fight with swords and then no no we want you to win the War for us and willing to pay any price for it and we even got you the equipment all the voodo dolls you want that's the charms so now bam sees this and uh he's not uh shying away he said okay I'll ask I'll ask God making it seem as if he's this righteous person that is gonna ask God what to do tells bam you shall not go with them you shall not curse the nation for it is blessed simple answer is no not only no don't go with them but no because the nation you want to curse they're blessed what does bam say to the people he wakes up in the morning and he says to the officers of balak go back to your land for there is no desire before hasem to allow me to go with you hasem doesn't want me to go is that complete no why not because it's not that Hashem doesn't want you to go and that's it he gave you a reason I don't want you to go because the nation you want to curse is blessed you can't curse them what's the point of going you're not allowed to curse them I will not allow it but he didn't tell this to the officers why he wanted to leave the door open if I tell them listen God said I can't curse them he said they're blessed people then they would just leave and never come back but if I tell no God doesn't it's not the will of God he doesn't desire for me to go then it sounds like oh the door is still kind of open why implying that maybe he doesn't desire for me to go today but if you come back next week maybe he'll change his mind so BAC sent officers again even higher ranking officers and they come to Bam and says to him don't don't uh refrain now from coming to me I give you great honor so what does bam respond to him bam says if belak were to give me a house full of silver and gold I would not be permitted to transgress the decree of the word of hasem my God to do anything small or great this sounds like bam is is a sadik sounds like he's a sadik listen Bak you're sending me people second time but you have to understand I can't do anything I can't do anything that will go against God so it sounds like oh what's the problem he sounds like a righteous person what's what's the reality here in essence what he's telling him I can't I can't come but yet I didn't give you the reason now you came back I'm telling you that I can't do anything that a God doesn't decree in the world but who knows what he decreed yeah but he told you last week yeah but that was last week maybe God's going to change his mind stay here he tells him stay the night here he says to them now you two please sit in this place tonight and I'll know what hasem will add uh to uh will additionally speak with me meaning maybe Hashem changed his mind maybe hasem Chang Chang his mind but hm doesn't change his mind and even later in the T he says oh yeah got one of the things bam learned from this hm doesn't change his mind he's not a man but at this point bam thinks that maybe uh you know even though hasem said you can't go because they're blessed they now they came back so there has to be a reason for it what's the reasoni says was such a that he's in essence telling them listen last week you came I told you no cuz that's not the will of God he doesn't allow me to go now you came back I had enough time to think about it let me go talk to him again because now that I think about it why did he say you can't curse them because they're blessed people and tell me not to go if I can't curse them why is he even bothering to tell me not to go ah God knows that my curse will work despite it being against his will and that's why he tells me not go not to go in Ence God is scared of me that's how much of was he thinks that God is scared of him so let me talk to him and compromise with him we'll come up with a compromise that's how deluded a person can be Hashem can give them gifts and instead of that person recognizing the gifts they spit on the gift they ignore the gift they said no it was me oh yeah so you're telling me that you are the one that uh decided you're going to be really rich yeah what do you mean I uh started the product I got the customers oh you're the one that won the lawsuit that was not winnable yeah sure what do you mean I had a good lawyer I paid $100,000 $200,000 in lawyers oh so the same lawyers that told you you cannot win the case they actually won the case and you think that's from the lawyers you don't think that's from hasem well yeah well I'm what's wrong with that well what did you do to win the case what did you do they told you you can't win the case they told you that the case is lost the best case scenario is maybe there's going to be a compromise in reality what ended up happening is you want every single thing you want it in different state you want it in different countries you end up end up getting a bigger winner than your lawyers even imagined what what did you do oh well you know when I thought I was going to lose I did as many mitv as possible to help as many people do CH I learned as much to as I could oh so that's what you did it's not that the lawyers got better it's not that the law changed is that you did me you that Hashem likes and what are you doing now that you won the case oh now I'm uh you know now I'm going on vacation oh so after gave you what you want mon in a miraculous way what are you doing you're not doing the same exact thing that earned you what you got in the first place why because you forgot that he gave it to you you figure out listen we won good I did what I did Hashem did what he did and uh you know we're doing business oh so you think that's how it works you think that you could do business with hem that you do MIT he gives you the money right now which Rabbi told you that cuz there's a lot of people out there that call themselves RAB and they sell Judaism tell them listen if you keep Shabbat you're going to have money you protect this you'll have money you give that you'll have money you do this you'll get married you do this you'll get now although does promise salvation to those that do his will that's not the way Judaism is supposed to be you're not supposed to serve hm that way in fact when you serve AEM in that way where you think that if you do this and you'll get something back that leads to a lot of problems first and foremost it leads to the problem we just said which is as soon as the person gets what they want they win the trial they they they get the job they find the spouse they get the kid guess what they stop doing those very same good things that Hashem wants them to do that earn them that good thing they stop why because they figure listen that was the transaction I kept Shabbat I gave staka I help people people do Chu I got what I want I'm finished no that's not the will of hem Hashem is in essence gave you a tool the reason why he gave you what you wanted is not to stop you from doing what he what you're doing it's to encourage you to keep going because there's more that's going to come but instead of doing what you did to keep it working to keep it growing you went elsewhere you did something else you're going further from Hashem and then what happens tragic all of a sudden something is discovered all of a sudden they don't need you at the company anymore all of a sudden the biggest client leaves all of a sudden the the spouse doesn't want to be married anymore all of a sudden there's sickness all of a sudden there's problems and the person wait what happened what I kept Shabbat I did everything why is hm doing this to me no no no you did this to yourself you are doing good and doing the will of hem Hashem was giving you good stuff to give you encouragement to keep growing because he it's like a it's like a la but it's like a donkey with a carrot leading them to go to the right direction he gave you what you wanted for now because it's a temporary encouragement not a payment encouragement to keep going in the right direction but you've already failed the second you got what you want you stopped doing what commanded you he commanded you to do those things he commanded you to give he commanded you to keep Shabbat he commanded you to to keep the to it's not a suggestion and it's not even because you going to get what you're going to get he just gave you what you wanted in order to entice you to keep going but you were taught Judaism in upside down fashion you were taught that if I do this he's going to give me this and then I'm finished as if hasem is doing business with you no no Hashem commanded you to do it even if you get nothing and that's the problem with selling Judaism when you sell Jud ISM you're in essence telling people that their relationship with hem is temporary it's based on something and says any any relationship that's based on something like that you're going to get some type of interest is not going to last it's not going to last even your relationship with if you're keeping only because you want hem to give you money uh spouse kids uh Health whatever it is that relationship is temporary a relationship that's permanent is you do it because hasem commanded you to do it it's an obligation to do it and guess what when you start that way eventually you'll fall in love with Hashem and you'll want to do it while also always reminding yourself that even if you have a bad day and you don't want to do it anymore you're still obligated to do it not because you're going to get a reward all of those different things that you get along the way that's just showing you I'm watching you I'm trying to help you out get more get this way get that way so instead of seeing the relationship that he had with as a gift he saw it as he is higher even than his own Creator in a certain aspect where he hasn't changed his mind he has his mind targeted he wants to kill am is hasem says you can't curse them bam says maybe AEM Chang his mind why would he change his mind because technically if I couldn't curse them why did he tell me not to go why did he tell me what to go he rationalized things he rationalized things just like the Heretics rationalize things they rationalize that Adam and Adam and Eve they sinned because ashm wanted them to sin because that's what brought people to the world as if Hashem couldn't bring people to the world without the sin or that God needs you because he created you as if he couldn't create you and wouldn't create you had he had no need and all types of other mumbo jumbo that people have or he won't punish you why because he's the one that gave you the desire if he didn't want you to do it he wouldn't give you the desire these are the rationalizations of the philosophers that are anti- good while pretending to be religious and even pretending to be a prophet a holy one so here we see that is rationalizing his dominance over his creator in a certain aspect and after he leaves and he goes with them makes sure that he knows that he's not happy with them first and foremost designs it in such a way that there are two young men with why two young men says the that wanted to make sure that there are two people with bam so when his donkey starts talking his donkey starts acting in strange ways bam doesn't say oh no it's this this donkey is crazy why because there other people watching donkey is not crazy Hashem opened its mouth it's talking donkey is doing donkey is not crazy you're crazy BBE why two says you have to have two witnesses two witnesses two witnesses for what to vouch for the donkey to vouch for the donkey and in essence is telling him I told you don't go don't go with them meaning don't go with the mind the mindset to do what they want you to do don't go with them you said yeah but I can go with them right I can go with them now the say the word with in English it's only one word in Hebrew you could say with in a couple of ways in the verses it says that uh one time the Torah uses the word IM and another time he uses the word it and both of them mean the word both them mean with but when told not to go with them he uses the word IM IM meaning don't go with the same evil intentions as them when later on said you can go with them he says go that comes from the word it and it means go with them physically you have a financial benefit out of it you have a something to do no problem but not with their evil intentions bam said okay he's saying go with them even though he said go with them without their evil intentions fine maybe he'll change his mind again CU already showing me that he is changing already showing me that perhaps uh I can't go so Hashem gets angry at him and said no no no when I said said go with them I said don't go with their evil intentions and I see in your mind that you still have the evil intentions you want to go curse my nation and he sends him this uh this Angel as an act of Mercy just like who sends all of us different things that happen in your life as an act of Mercy to get you off the path that you're on you wanted to go buy a house it's the perfect house because it's going to be exactly where you want it to be and what happens somebody else buys the house or the house is no longer available now if you are close to you have you're saying if you're not close to hasm you say oh why did God do this to me if he wants me to live in this house if he already gave me this house why did he make it not available what's the difference if a person is f is far from Hashem then they think that everything that Hashem is doing he's doing it to them he's doing it to them if a person is close to Hashem he's doing it for them if the house was available and you went on there that doesn't mean that wants you to go there you went after the house you went after the job you went after the doesn't mean that AEM wants you to do it now what you should pray for is for hasem to show you the right Direction why because that would be the greatest blessing in the world because if he doesn't want you to go in the direction that you're going he'll stop it if you have enough he'll stop it all of a sudden the house is not available all of a sudden the is not interested all of a sudden the job fires you or doesn't want to hire you you're saying oh why did God do it to me is saying I'm doing it for you why cuz what you were about to do was not for your interest cuz I already see the future and that house wasn't going to be good you that relationship wasn't going to be good for you that client wasn't going to be good for you you think that getting that million dollar client was going to be a good thing for you but says I know that client he's a litigious client he was going to give you a million dollars in profits in the beginning and then sue you for 10 million and you were going to lose so rather than you lose 10 times what you make and years of your life simply I didn't give you the client rather than you move into that house that you think is the greatest house the best house all the all the wonderful things Hashem says that house is part of a community I'm about to give them some serious structural problems the city is going to have to force each one of them to restructure the roofs restructure the foundation restructure something you're going to go into a monster a monster that's going to consume your life and your bank account so instead of allowing you to go into this house simply I made the guy not want to sell to you anymore and the guy that's going to buy it deserves for all those problems to come to him oh what about the shid you don't want to be get married yeah I want to get married just not to her not to him why because those people they're not loyal or they're not going to live for long I want you to live for a long time with the same relationship that person is not going to live for a long time they already have their five years left of their life or they are simply an adulterer they are going to cheat on you they're going to lie to you they're stingy they're arrogant they're horrible people you deserve better why because you've done Chua you've Sanctified yourself and you deserve better so although you think that I'm taking away the you think I'm taking away the house you think I'm taking away the money says I'm doing all of that for you not to you for you so here we see that b with all of his connection to hasem doesn't get the message so Hashem sends him a special message he sends him an Angel that's going to get in his way he still doesn't get the message opens the mouth of the donkey and the donkey tells him outright the donkey tells him outright what he needs to hear initially the donkey gets hit and then eventually the donkey talks why are you hitting me why are you hitting me to show us that the rebuke that the donkey gave to Bam is a proof that if it's true doesn't matter where it's coming from it's coming from an old Rabbi young Rabbi your friend your wife your cousin if it's true it's true you have to listen to it if Hashem sends you a message pay attention even if it comes from a donkey hasem opened the mouth of the donkey and the donkey says why did you hit me what have I done that you've struck me these three times Rashi says why did he call it sh why not why do he say when each time is PIM because the donkey was telling them why' you hit me all I'm trying to do is get you not to go to go curse the nation that observes the toah and it's three holidays because you can't win you going to get destroyed as a result so bam thinks she's making fun of him the donkey is making fun of them and the donkey says to belam am I not your shke upon you uh you have ridden me from your Inception meaning I'm your wife you you've been writing me you've been intimate with me for all of these years did I ever do anything today where the says literally it says that the donkey says am I not your she donkey upon whom you have ridden from your Inception until this day now have I ever accustomed to do such to you meaning did I ever do anything evil to you what is this that ever put you in danger of any kind what is this what does it really mean the in says that there are different de different judgments time of the different cases would have different number of Judges three judges or uh was was the minimum and it says that if a beast that sodomizes a person or a beast that is sodomized by a person is judged by a court of 23 as it says and you shall kill the woman and the animal and also says the animal shall be killed says that in essence if a man has commits beastiality with an animal there is a death penalty there and the the judgment is delivered by the uh 23 judges but here we learn that bity is forbidden the donkey is saying to Bam you're saying that I'm going against you you're saying that I'm putting you in danger who put who in danger you've been the one that's sodomizing me all this time do you ever see me crying about it you're the one that's committing the sin you're the one that's putting both of us at risk God's going to kill both of us because of your beastiality how could you blame me for something that you're doing and just like you are the one that's guilty throughout all of these years you're guilty now too the conclusion is if a person pays attention to all of the different messages that a sends him they don't need the donkey to speak because speaks to each and every single one of us through our lives through the different things that happen in our life when you do the right thing and according to the Torah will give you certain tools to continue growing but it also give you tests to see simply where you stand are you doing what you're supposed to be doing because you're getting a reward for it or did you get the point that you were supposed to do it regardless of whether you get the reward or not did you finally develop some realm or you're going to have as long as he gives you everything you want you love him only if he gives you what you want because if you learn Torah the right way the first and foremost you have to understand that obligates us to follow the Torah both Jews and Gentiles have to follow different parts of the Torah the Jews have to follow the entire T that's pertaining to the Jewish people 613 Commandments plus the seven Ral and the Gentiles have to follow the seven noahide laws and all of the moral laws that are based on iic honoring their parents and so on are you following it because you're expecting Hashem to give you something or because you know that he's your God and every single breath that comes out or into your mouth is thanks to him and not to you now if a person brought into the Torah in a good way way their and inem Will Never Be Shaken it'll grow despite the tests and any time that they find themselves getting weaker they'll use that opportunity to get even stronger anytime they're being tested they'll find a way to connect to Hashem through that difficulty through that test because their relationship with AEM is irreplaceable a person that bought into Judaism that bought into the Torah because of something because he wants honor he wants money he wants a girl he wants this he wants that he thinks he's entitled to this he thinks he's entitled to that that relationship was temporary from the start and it's only a matter of time before somebody convinces him that God needs you it's only a matter of time before someone convinces him that he doesn't need to keep everything it's only a matter of time before he rationalizes things that no normal human being should ever even think of it's important for a person to know that you can be the talid of Abu or the of says the M we'll finalize with this that whoever is following the three traits are the Disciples of abah and whoever has three different traits is one of the Disciples of this is mishna uh the um the fifth chapter 22nd mishna those who have a good eye a humble spirit and an undemanding Soul are the Disciples of our fora Abraham you have a good eye you're not just looking at a good eye for yourself you're happy to other people got married you happy that other people succeeded you even willing to help them succeed you're good at something but you see somebody else coming up they ask you for advice you help them you help them why why not you have somebody to introduce them they're they they need to get married you help them why not not because of money not because of any interest simply because you want people to succeed you want blessing to be shared among other people the more toah you want the more you want to help people why because you realize how great it is is and also how great the obligation is and how big the consequences are for not following it both in this world and the next so you have that good eye makes you want to help other people that good eye makes you run away from makes you run away from speaking bad about uh you know people that are innocent they're not Heretics okay so maybe you don't get along okay so maybe you're not on the same page but there's no reason for you to say about people there's no reason for you to want bad for people oh no no don't go there why not why not yeah because you know she's not really he's not really why why why do you want to ruin it for for this person for what what do you get out of it have a good eye have a good eye and then maybe you'll have a chance to be a or of a humble Spirit what's a humble Spirit a person that simply knows that everything and there's nothing else but a all of what I have is because of hasem money wife kids uh health uh whatever it is you have in your life it's all because of Hashem nothing is due to you nothing nothing is due to you yeah but what about my effort who gave you the power to have the effort who gave you the power to be have the there's plenty of people that don't wake up in the morning the reality is that a person that serves hem through Holiness thanks hem for having the opportunity to serve asem humility is a must is a must because the more humble a person is the more real their connection with a is and an undemanding Soul what's an undemanding soul I don't want anything from hasem I just want an opportunity to serve him he doesn't owe me anything that mentality may sound foreign to some people because they were taught that Hashem owes them everything and that's the reason why they abandon hm because if ASM doesn't pay them what they think he owes them they leave them you want to be a t of abrah ainu undemanding soul don't ask for anything specific don't ask for that girl that amount of money that house no don't ask ask Hashem do the do what is best for me do what is best for me please Hashem help me with whatever is best for me if she's the best for me give me her if he's the best for me give me him if that's the best for me give me that's it all I want is please give me what's best for me don't give me test that I can't handle whatever is best for me bring my way make whatever the answer is clear to me cuz I'm nothing I don't know I don't know nothing all I know is what you you know if you tell me clearly show me clearly where to go I'll go don't give me nothing don't even give me reward just show me what you want me to do and I'll do it you're giving me an opportunity to serve you but then there are unfortunately people that barely do anything for the sake of Hashem and his name and his tah and they ask Hashem for a whole list of things oh I want this I want this I want this yeah yeah yeah hasem has said he's going to give me if I give staka if I give this I'm going to get this works for you sh works for you you want to be a tal of abah do good for the sake of good because it's good to do good because God is good and he's the ultimate source of good and defines good and if you want to emulate your father in Heaven Heaven you would be excited for the sake of being able to do the same thing he does which is good on the other hand you want to be the boss or at least pretend you are be like bam what evil eye arrogant spirit and a greedy Soul these are the Disciples of the wicked what's you're not happy for anybody you see she got married you see he got married you have nothing good to say who knows how long they're going to be together you know I don't know if they're such a good match you ever meet those people they're not happy for anybody where are they having the wedding where did they get so much money why are they spending so much money why do they move there why don't you just happy for them why don't you say Enjoy you have it like it fine go why aren't you happy for them why every time somebody gets uh gets something that you want you always find a reason to you're not happy for them why why you such an evil eye why you counting other people's money other people's blessing why don't you be happy for them why don't you be happy for them you got a new car you got a new house you got a new this you got a new why aren't you happy for them oh cuz it didn't happen to you how come hasem sent him this and he didn't give me I don't know maybe doesn't want to give it to you you have think of that why not I I keep MIT okay you keep MIT so what doesn't want to give it he doesn't owe you anything what does that have anything to do with not being happy for him getting it why do you have to only be happy if it's you and not other people why aren't you as happy for other people as you are for yourself somebody come complimented to one of the in the previous generation he said oh this Rabbi every time he walks into his yes he dances because he sees 500 learning he's excited the says can you please ask that Rabbi that that dances when he sees his 500 learning is he just as excited when he goes to the next door Yeshiva that is not his Yesa and he sees 500 Bim learning or he's only excited when it's his Bim are you only excited when it's your that are learning are you only excited when it's your house that's profiting are you only excited and happy when it's you or are you happy when you see other people succeed because if you're only happy when it's you that's evil eye that's evil eye if you're not as excited for your brother for your sister not biologically you're not as excited for other people being happy that in itself is not only evil eye that is forsaking the loving your brother like you love yourself having a good eye means you love you want him to be happy you want him to succeed you want her to be happy you want her to succeed even if you don't like them doesn't make a difference there's child why don't you have for them why not second a person that's arrogant simple they think they're better than everybody else they think that they're better than everybody else the world owes them I'm better this I'm better that this is a delusional person but nonetheless a person that could literally convince themselves that the destruction of their own family is a good thing why they don't want to listen to anybody but themselves even their spouse even their kids even the rabbi even the raban even the friends nobody you want to do whatever they want the says an arrogant person will get to a point where even his own family will hate him and even that won't change him why arrogance is a very very serious disease that only the strongest M maybe can break it in many cases even strong m is not enough A's hand has to get involved he has to break him when a gives somebody a break everybody becomes humble all of a sudden he realizes that he's nothing all of a sudden she realizes she's nothing yesterday she was walking around like some Zona thinking that she's the most beautiful and she needs to flaunt her looks today she can't walk with neither one of her legs and her arms are barely moving all of a sudden she wants to be a sadika what happened what happened little tadika what happened oh has humbled you you could have humbled yourself could have humbled yourself if you would have watched hasem took back his millions you would have humbled yourself why go through the same tragedy I went through could have humbled yourself last but not least the person that wants to be the disciple of is a greedy Soul everything is mine mentality to the extent where they only do MIT and the will of hem if they see a profit out of it oh the rabbi say what what Mitzvah is that what do I get if I do this Mitzvah what do I get if I do that Mitzvah what do I get if I give this what do I get if I get that oh that's the reason why you're doing it or you think hasem owes you something or and if he doesn't give it it to you you're going to what stop doing it okay you callam Rabbi Rabbi bam right that's your Rabbi you want to be a tal of abah exact opposite I do MIT because it's good to do good for the ultimate source of good that is a let us all learn from bam from balak of what the will of hem is and what it is it let us not repeat their mistakes not today not tomorrow not ever and if we ever do fall remind ourselves which rabbi did we follow ainu or bam and you'll see that if you followed Abraham you've already started winning in this world if you followed bam the loss and tragedy was inevitable I know it makes sense but this is why we have to remind ourselves of these things on a regular basis by reviewing our actions Our Lives how is talking to us he may not send you a donkey that's talking to you but certainly he's sending you a million and a half different experiences in your life that if you would review them you would see this is outright talking by Hashem this is Hashem talking to me this emailed from this person this text from that person this phone call from that person this table breaking this fridge not working the electric this the house this all of the things that happen in your life these are the donkeys talking to youh is sending us all types of communications if we simply open our eyes and pay attention you want to be able to see it clearly there's two ways one learn a lot of Torah observe all of the Torah that you know your vision will clear up and the world will be to you as clear as day [Applause] or will send a angel with a sword to scare the life out of you and force you to see things for what they are Choose Wisely with that being said I'm GNA have a drink B and you guys can ask the questions you want [Music] a [Music] okay uh first question I see is what is the point of offering a voluntary fast uh when should one offer it okay so this has to do with a person trying to sanctify themselves uh and yes I see that there's many questions before but that's the first question I saw uh the um this is all about you know trying a person trying to sanctify themselves trying to serve AEM in uh in in such a way that a person is constantly trying to perfect themselves and one of the ways for a person to perfect themselves is by eliminating their connection to material uh and trying to connect to the spiritual now the more a person is addicted to food to money to to all of these different things the more they're creating a barrier between them and their higher level of spirituality so when a person wants to sanctify themselves of course they have to observe the to they have to do the they have to give have to do all of the things to say and sometimes a person says this is not enough for me I want to do even more so at times a person can uh eliminate some of their uh uh materialism in order to gain more uh uh more spir to gain more room for spirituality so a person one of the choices is to not eat for a day not eating for a day or more whatever person can handle uh most people can't handle even a day but uh the uh this is one of the ways where a person if that person can learn to that entire day and function normally not just not eat the whole day and uh lay in bed all day or not be functional if that's the case then don't do it if a person elevated themselves to the point where they could not eat for the whole day and thereby use all of that uh time and energy to learn toah and connect to hasem pray to him and and and simply use that day as a pure spirituality day then uh fasting is a uh could be a very good thing for them for most people this is not relevant this is not uh relevant for them uh and in fact for most people they should do something else but not not fasting uh when a per when should a person do it it's again number one if they have spoken to their Rabbi and the rabbi knows where they stand and the rabbi says yes you are already you're able to you're already doing everything that you have to do and you're uh already have the capability of doing even more than you have to do then yes go take this elective uh uh fast meaning go fast let's say every Monday or fast every Thursday or fast every Monday and Thursday whatever you know whatever the person is doing and they can do that but again that is so long as the person is number one doing all of the basics and even more than the basics already number two they have you know their rabbis and is encouraging them to do it he's he's telling them it's a good thing for them to do because he knows where they stand and this would be good for them uh and number three that's assuming that uh they're going to function at full capacity uh meaning they'll study even better than what they do when they eat uh but that's again that's not common that's not common for most people especially people that are relatively new to Torah and MIT and by new I mean anything less than 10 years so what what should other people that are not necessarily ready to fast what should they do what should they sacrifice really the most uh uh uh uh critical thing that a person can sacrifice that's material that is worth even more than money is their time their time instead of fasting the whole day and a uh and and and uh you know using all that energy for that simple study to the whole day study to the whole day now if you tell a person study to the whole day all of a sudden I can't do it I can't do it wait but fasting you can but you can't study the whole day okay so study how much do you study per day now you study two hours study four hours study five hours study uh more so that's the you know your time your time and using that time to learn tah so that's the uh the number one thing second thing is sacrificing materialism is sacrificing money what are you giving right now you're giving stock occasionally you give uh money whenever you know whenever you remember to make it a uh an OB obligation just like you breathe every day just like you eat every day make it an obligation that every time you get money you take 10% of it and you give it for the sake of t for the sake of K on a regular basis no questions asked it's literally like you deduct uh you know expenses out of it the 10% is makes the money permissible to you so much so that you don't start using the money until you take out 10% like they did at the bet you don't eat the crops until you gave that and so on so you have to give uh that staka that's if you can give that on a regular basis that's a big sacrifice if you're already giving it on a regular basis then give more if you want to do more give more give 15% give 20% if you're wealthy give even more than 20% but the point is that sacrificing the uh the the the resources that you have is much much more valuable than sacrificing food and not eating for a day uh but again if a person is a it's a Torah scholar perhaps doesn't have much money or whatever they have is a sufficient but it's not enough for them to really make a dent by giving much more and but they want to sanctify themselves then yeah fasting does come in handy at times but uh many times I've seen young B chat take it on and it ended up causing more damage than good uh because they simply weren't ready but they decided to and I've had a few uh young people ask me about should I uh fast and every time I've told them no I've had people tell me I'm going to fast and I didn't stop them not because I thought it was a good idea but just simply I knew they're not going to listen to me so there's no point of me stopping them let them learn on their own and you usually see within a few weeks maximum two months they stop and they don't do it anymore and they learn this is not for them you have to also know where you stand don't uh don't be overly righteous and think that you are uh much more than what you are you don't necessarily think you to need to be negative about things but also realize where you stand uh okay next question let's see uh I see that some of the questions are disappearing uh okay here we go oh no there's a lot of questions here all right oh all right next question is uh thank you okay yeah R is asking if a non-jew sleeps with a Jew but not married is that bad too what if they stopped and did not make the same mistake again uh assimilation into marriage is not based on uh whether they actually got legally married or not that's meaningless there is no such thing as a legal marriage according to the tah between a Jew and a gentile there is no there there there's no thing now legally as far as the government the Torah doesn't care about so if a Jew was intimate with a non-jew that is a very very bad thing and both of them need to do chuva both of them need to repent uh say I'm sorry to Hashem and uh you know do uh as much as they possibly can to never ever do that again number one is uh uh stop the relationship immediately two make sure to never do it again three say I'm sorry to hem as as much as possible and if they were ever tested again not to fail the test and also I would recommend for them to try to encourage other people that they know or even if they don't know them uh to also get out of those types of relationships by sharing these different lectures that we discuss it uh whether it's the T film or it's the other lectures that we have to talk about immorality and into marriage to try to encourage other people to also get out of these relationships because them succeeding in getting other people to stop those relationships will go to their Merit and in essence will be their rectification of the time that they made that mistake uh and again trying is to to help other people is what Hashem asks for not succeeding succeeding is in his hands you can try by supporting you can try by sharing you can try by speaking you could try in a lot of different ways to help people success is in the hands of Hashem but if a person tries already he or she are doing what they're supposed to be doing uh to show that they really do have remorse on over what they did and they are very serious about never repeating it again and also bringing more good and Holiness to the world um next question is uh how is an anti-semite supposed to tell a Jewish woman the things he's not allowed to I have no sound if ruen answers I'll have to B listen later just don't have headphones I'm sure that the video is playing fine okay how is an anti-site supposed to tell a Jewish woman that things he's not allowed to an anti-semite shouldn't talk to a Jewish woman period anti-semite should go and do chuva and realize how stupid he or she is for hating the uh hashem's you know chosen people first they need to be righteous with hem and uh understand that that you cannot be righteous with hem while you hate his kids it's like somebody saying I love you after they beat up your kid or I love you after they insult your children non-stop or they tell you listen I love you but I hate all of your kids obviously the person will tell you if you loved me you would love my kids there's no such thing as loving me and hating my kids the two are not uh uh it's not it's not possible uh next uh how large were the Giants and did they have souls like a human uh yeah the the Giants were enormous uh there were different sizes there was theim there was the anim uh there were different types of giants there was that was enormous himself uh but hasem shrunk him after the sin but nonetheless he was still much much bigger than what uh we can imagine there's a that says that one of theim went to uh the cave of to take measurements of the uh of the different Graves and uh this is obviously a couple thousand years almost after you know after and and their wives were buried there and this went to he was obviously holy soem showed him certain things there and the first thing that he saw was elzar elzar elz the servant of hem that's one of 10 people that never died he is the sh he is the guard of the cave of and specifically the section of of the and and uh he asks the what can I do for you he says I want to measure the graves where where's can I go with AB he says hold on a second aam is with Sarah he uh they're they're together right now I have to go ask him for permission he even said she's he's sitting on her lap and she's playing with his hair what that means I don't you uh you know as as much as I do this is obviously showing this is spirituality but nonetheless there's things that you can see there are things that are happening there's a uh uh the the husband and the wife are uh not uh they don't go to two different uh worlds after they leave this world if your husband and wife are in this world and the next world abah is still with s and every day there's a certain time of day that just every day the uh uh is going to see his wife so and sah are in and uh he needs to get permission so he gets permission he gets the measurements of the different a then he wants to go see the uh the grave of who was also inem buried him there standing up because he was so big so uh but they they told him said no no you don't have permission for that AB says no more you've done enough so he had to leave and he says on the way out on the way out of the this not like uh some fairy tale I'm creating for you guys on the way out he says I saw the uh the um the heel the heel of of he saw the heel of it's it's more shiny than the sun the heel of is more shiny than the sun meaning first of all it's huge it's enormous as far as size if that's all he saw second it's shows you the Holiness of adish so now Adam was enormous even after hasem shrunk him from his you know the size that he was originally second thing is is that uh the the Giants were different sizes one of the things that I can tell you is that OG was the smallest of the Giants in the generation of Noah he's the only giant that survived and since he could not uh fit in the uh in the ark of Noah Hashem told Noah to allow OG to sit on top of the uh uh of the of the Ark and literally was just enough to fit him that's how big he was if you want to know the exact measurements of the Ark of the it's in a tanak it's approximately uh I think off the top of my head I believe it's about a football field and a half something like that uh so the ark was huge and uh an O was big enough to uh to uh to sit on it and barely fit and uh that's how he survived the uh uh the flood and he was the smallest of all the Giants so meaning that the neim were much much bigger than him much much bigger than him the uh thear says that the uh the tallest pine trees were like grass to them they were like grass to them so you can just imagine when you walk on grass the relation uh of grass to to your foot especially if you're a tall person so just imagine the tallest tree is like grass to you so now then you could do the assessment of what that is when OG tried to kill uh mosenu uh he picked up he didn't just try to kill mosenu he tried to kill all of is by picking up a mountain and Hashem miraculously made a army of uh of I believe it was termites go through the mountain and break the mountain in half and all of that fell on his head fell on 's head after mosenu jumped 10 amot in the air thear says thatu himself was 10 AM 10 amot is about 20 feet tall okay 10 his his staff was also 10 amot also 20t tall and he was strong he was able to jump in the air 10 he was able to jump 20t and says the says thatu to fight OG he jumped 10 amot with his staff 10 amot meaning that he went up 60 feet in the air and he only reached the uh the uh um the the heel not the heel the bone that's uh on top of your foot you know where your where your bottom of your foot is there's that little bone I don't know what it's called that sticks out for most people it sticks out uh unless your feet are swollen then you have just pretty much a bunch of meat either way you uh that bone is what the staff the top of the staff hit and that was enough to make uh OG shake and the mountain to break on top of his head and he died so the size of OG was enormous and even in the Torah when it says the size of OG was was uh uh the size of his bed he had a steel bed was uh nine am but nine am based on humans meaning that each was the size of a human being and what human being perhaps it would be one of the leim that each one of the leim the says was a I think it's I think it's says that each one of the leim had to be at least 10 AM tall not only M was 10 20t tall uh all of the leim had to be that tall uh because the in order for them to travel with the mishkan with the uh uh and and hold it in such a fashion they had to be that tall or else the uh thees uh it wasn't uh the poles were in the middle of the uh let's say for example you have this is thees okay let's say this ises okay now the the polls let's just do it this way let's say the this is the poles weren't on the bottom the poles were here were in the middle so when if if the uh if the leim that were carrying thees were anything less than uh 10 tall then the bottom of it would hit the floor because they had to carry it on their shoulder even though they didn't really have to carry it was floating in the air still it had to look like they're carrying it so the says that all of the leim were as tall as mosu meaning that it wasn't just the Giants that were giants according to us but even people of Amel were giants according to us but there were giants that were much much bigger than the leim much much bigger than the leim so uh but as far as sizes they come in all different shapes and sizes lot of interesting things uh next question is it possible for bam to be here in a Gil or well I mean it says that says that g some of the people that have no share of the world to come and they are in the seventh chamber of Gom and in fact was says was brought up in a seance byus before he before he converted to Judaism and uh he told him that he is in the seventh level of Gom in in a uh boiling Fe boiling uh um semen uh so uh so he is a uh bam is in the seventh level of Gom there's no way for him to be here as a g no um let's see h how can a person experience the battle against internal Amal like battles of King David uh I have several lectures about exactly that question I highly recommend you watch those lectures just go on to my page type the word Amal and you'll see are you amik is one of the lectures and there's also other ones and it'll give you the details that you're looking for I do not exist okay don't exist I don't exist either uh okay next question I believe there is a that states mashia can't come until all the in the Goof come to the world since you receive a new after immersion in a kosher conversion is this what the meant are we waiting for the true converts uh to go through the conversions for mashia to come thank you for taking a time yes that is actually one of the things that has to happen where these there are a certain of NES in his Heavenly Body called goof and they have to come to the world uh one of the ways that these n have to come to the world is through the righteous converts yes uh hence the reason why it's a very big mitvah to help people uh that are righteous convert unfortunately it's very difficult to find righteous people to convert it's easy to find people to convert like sand but righteous people to convert is much more difficult because many people want to convert for the wrong reasons or they simply don't even know what why they want to convert I mean some people say I'm Jewish in my heart and I feel like uh you know I should be a Jew but they don't know anything about Judaism uh they just want to live in Israel or they just want to go to synagogue but they have no idea what it entails and it's uh unfortunately many times these people uh should not convert uh so it's a uh it's it's very important to help righteous converts uh that's one of the ways that those n will come to the world another way that those n will come to the world is when parents have uh bring children to the world that's why there's a very special mitvah uh so whether the parents are converts or the parents are natural born Jews doesn't make a difference if they if they follow the uh the details that we talk about in the new series called Jewish intimacy they'll be able to bring holy into the world uh and that's another another uh thing and the third thing also is even when a uh person is not able to have not able to have kids uh for different reasons whether a be age or whatever it is if they fulfill what thees and the said about holy intimacy uh even that action that doesn't actually yield kids will bring those to the world will bring those to the world and there's also other things cabala talks about you know but the point is is that there are different things that can be done to bring holy sh to the world righteous converts are certainly one of them and that's uh that's why is a uh is waiting waiting for certain people to convert and uh but also at the same time why the will do everything possible to discourage a righteous convert from converting hence the reason why I always give the warning to people that I'm helping with conversion that The Closer they get to the actual conversion the more life is going to go upside down for them the more there's going to be uh tension uh tests uh and outright unusual things uh pretty much you know there's no boundaries to how unusual certain things can be uh and uh in from the natural and the unnatural world and I've seen both lots of interesting things in my life uh that I haven't discussed in lectures not just my own personal life uh but from students of different things people that are converting and by far the most unusual things happen to people that are in the process of conversion when they are righteous and it doesn't usually it doesn't end there sometimes it's even after also and usually it is after but uh there's a lot more blessing after they convert before they convert there's a lot of difficulties a lot of difficulties the more righteous they are the more the difficulties are and a person that is a uh uh tough and committed to AEM succeeds it is a great blessing great blessing to the world that such a n came down next uh uh I always voluntary fast up to 5 days sometimes okay if you're serving hem during that time it's good if you're not serving hem during that time then it's just a diet no no no not trying to disrespect you but again the the whole fast uh is is supposed to be for the sake of serving Hashem not just by not eating but by rather using that time and energy to serve hem by learning toah doing me doing and so on um next in we say to be saved from the and we switch the order why not just keep the same order uh sa from uh so in the in the uh beginning of the day you askem to help you not fall for the Trap of the the because the is going to come to you throughout the whole day and different enticements it's going to be modesty it's going to be opportunity to steal opportunity to lie opportunity to do uh desecrate hashem's name yet is attacking you all day uh but after you've overcome it a uh the uh you know we don't want the to come and attack us after we did the Mitzvah uh and and make us think that we are uh so righteous that uh we could uh come down and not serve hem as committedly tomorrow at the end of the day you've already uh you've already uh finished your MIT for the day you're ending the day so the yet that typically happens to somebody at the end of the day is they feel too proud about how they did and in essence they let themselves slide they say you know what since I did so much today h you know tomorrow instead of waking up at I don't know let's say if they wake up usually at 6:00 you know tomorrow I wake up at 9: because I did so much today tomorrow I'll wake up at at 9 or 10 or 11: and uh because I did so much today tomorrow you know I don't have to push myself as hard so already that the that a person has is different at the end of the day because it's after they review what they've done for the day they review what theyve done for the day last but you know last but not least is also the that at night is the that comes after the fact that's a uh a person what they're going to have in their dream what they're you know while they're sleeping while they're uh uh not uh uh uh you know uh you know in this world but nonetheless in this world and you know seed can come out the results of what they saw during the day and so on are non-jews allowed to read sh uh yes sh CH is a m book written byi about 800 years ago he was a one of the family members of the ramban uh I believe he was married to his sister to the sister of the ramban uh and he's that M book is one of the greatest uh ever um and uh yes highly recommended uh you know it's fantastic book both for Jews non-jews I mean I think uh there is it depends on the level of the person though if it's the first musar book then I would I wouldn't recommend it as the first one I would go more Basics but if the person has already read several musar books then yeah sure uh Joseph according to if one doesn't have proper for the first of he's not and needs to do it again uh my question is what is the right intentions to have during uh this very significant uh first blessing uh correction ysf uh there is even like the that say in his Mish that say that if a person doesn't have the right kavana the first three of the blessings of amid he has to go back now is we don't have to uh we don't pass him like that we him like the but the point is is that a person certainly needs to have kavana what is kavana the very very basic minimum that a person needs to have is simply think about the blessing itself think about hasem at that time and not about other things not about your bills not about the fact that you are late for an appointment not about uh you know all the things that go into a person's mind especially when they pray you know a person could be uh you know empty-minded you ask them what's on your mind they'll say nothing the second they start praying to Hashem all of a sudden everything that ever happened to them in their life both good and bad is in their mind why because that the most uh important part of having uh of of what a person needs to have in their mind is is AEM during the prayer so a person simply uh uh needs to think of a at all times when he's praying uh that's one two is to do the best they can to understand what they're saying not just understand the literal meaning of it but actually the application of it to their life you know that uh uh thank you hashm that you love chuva oh what's thank youm you love chuva what was a Oh you allowed me to do Chua thank youm if I didn't have do Chua and you're thinking this in your mind you're not saying this if I didn't do Chua I would have to gayn I would have been had a miserable life I would have got a divorce I would have had this I would have had that you think about it oh thank you hm for for the different things that you thank him for it's a uh or you blessing him for each one think of it how it applies to your life how it applies to your life how it applies in the past how it applies in the present how would it apply in the future and of course think of hem think of hem it's a uh one of the things that uh uh you could also think not say is I've said it in one of the uh that's about prayer uh it's a good recommendation that one of the things that helps a person think about Hashem when they say the name of Hashem is by uh thinking when you when you say Hashem say but don't say it out loud just think it in your mind because you can't break up the prayer he was he is and he will be uh and uh and there's obviously some people do even you know more significant Cenote the point is the basic minimum that all of us should stride for is that at the very least to clear our mind from everything else and simply think about hasem and what we're saying that is the uh that is what we all need to do if a person can do even more of course could do more and but this is not the uh time to uh to learn that uh there is certainly more that a person could do uh let's see is buying ter life insurance against the Tora since maybe could be looked as not putting full Trust of hem uh no it's not against the Torah person that wants to buy term life insurance can buy it's not against the Torah uh you know to be against the to ask to be a violation is it recommended is it uh uh a Mitzvah is it other things you know that obviously is Up For Debate as far as uh you know some people make it as if buying insurance is a big Mitzvah in some cases it is a Mitzvah because a person could uh uh of course so long as they're not cheating the insurance company and overstating numbers and understating health problems as long as they're being honest with both parties uh you know then uh you know buying a term life insurance is perfectly fine uh and even good for a person to do in order to help his family if he passes away uh and when he passes away because all of us will die at some point and the expenses of death are very significant it's not just the burial there's a lot of other things and a person that uh you know that has means that has assets certainly should do whatever they can uh to help their family when they're not here but of course the biggest thing they can do is to help their family when they are here when they're still in this world so it's a person should never leave all of their financial uh uh issues for only after they die they need to do as much as possible while they're still alive now as far as the uh uh the the issues of insurance usually the problem is not uh buying Insurance uh it's it's it's rather how people treat insurance and unfortunately there's a lot of scams that uh I saw people do in the insurance business it's unfortunately a very very scandalous business and uh I'll tell you guys some things because I honestly don't when I would ever discuss this so might as well just tell you now give you guys a little bit of you know knowledge about insurance insurance is a is a unique industry because a it's comprised of liars that look like they're your friends and everybody's lying to each other uh and that's that's in essence is the is the reason why insurance is the way it is is because all parties are lying to each other when you're talking about health or life insurance it's very common for everyone to lie the uh you know the insurance company is uh typically lying for overstating their ability their solvency their safety their benefits of the actual product itself the uh the customer is typically Lying by simply uh usually understating uh the risk that's involved in insuring him or her their health conditions their uh their uh their financial means how much they have in reality they have let's say you know uh you know a million dollars but they get insurance for 20 million or 30 million because of this and because of that and because so a person is very the more money they have the more uh uh likely they are to lie uh and also the uh the doctors are very commonly very big Partners in the lie because they get a certain benefit in it so it's important to know that the industry itself is used to lying and therefore everybody suspects each other everyone suspects each other so now there is a part of the industry that's very very problematic and certainly again the tah uh because it's unethical uh which is a called Life Settlements Life Settlements is uh when people get uh uh old people to buy life insurance that they can't really afford by uh telling them that they'll you know they'll get somebody else to pay for that life insurance and and they reward will be that they'll get a certain amount of money at a certain time whether it be during or after the uh uh uh the policy during or after their life you know there's different deals being made but the point being is is that that policy that ensures let's say ensures ruven that's uh 70 years old uh you know is not really for ruven it's if he dies then you know ruven certainly uh the the uh the insurance company supposed to pay based on ruven's life uh but the owner of the policy is some guy Shimon Shimon is paying the bill he's paying the monthly premium uh and he is uh in essence the owner of the of the policy and when ruen dies the death penefit goes to Shimon this is certainly a unethical and uh um you know a problematic uh product that you should never ever associate with even though I know a lot of Insurance Brokers that can barely make a living uh love this uh opportunity because it pays a lot of money a lot of commissions but it's a very problematic product and I can assure you that uh the uh there are certainly going to be certain people that go to jail for it and there's certainly going to be uh people that will go to Gom for it uh why because the whole point of the insurance policy and if anyone that looks at insurance policy small print they'll see that the insurance companies are not stupid they have one building for sales and another building for lawsuits so they are going to only sell you an insurance if you are uh um you have the best interest of the insurer in mind meaning that the the person that owns the policy has to have a vested interest in the uh the well-being of the uh the the what's being insured so for example you cannot ensure somebody else's building why because because if you are allowed to ensure somebody else's building that if the building goes on fire you uh you get the premium then this would create chaos why because everybody would insure each other's products and then burn everything and get money for it so you have to actually have a vested interest in the survival of what's being insured so when you own an insurance policy on somebody else's life in reality what ends up happening the person ends up uh uh wanting the person to die because that that's finally when they're going to get their money back so they want the person to die and for that they're not only going against the insurance company's laws bylaws and even possibly state laws depending on what state you're in but they're definitely going against the tah by wanting another person to die for no reason so this is a very common scam in the insurance industry there's also scams when it comes to International insurance and disability insurance and all types of insurance insurance is a necessary product it's a good product when you know what you're getting into but I'm sorry to tell you the average insurance broker has no concept of What's Left Right other than what the premium pays they don't know very much uh they don't know very much about financials they don't know very much about what's for the best interest of the client so if you're going to go into that business you have to know that first and foremost the first question you ask about yourself about each and every single deal is what is the best interest of the client not the best interest of your pocket if you're only going to look into your pocket then certainly you're going to make every scam Under the Sun become kosher at some point or another so if you look at things based on the interest of the client you'll have a long and successful career that's going to be full of blessing uh that's number one number two even if it's in the best interest of the client is it allowed is it legal is it ethical to do what it is what this is uh and and that's that's another question now if it's allowed and it's ethical then you can look at what's the bottom line as far as what's most profitable what's most profitable uh but uh as far as to uh to have an insurance uh uh policy itself it's perfectly fine it's a uh you're allowed to insure your products you in in in many cases you have to ensure certain things based on the laws of of the countries and states you live in you have to ensure your car you have to ensure your uh your driving you have to ensure your house you have to ensure your apartment you have to ensure certain things there are certain things you're allowed not to insure like your health you don't have to insure in America but you should and you could and the point being is is that there are there's a lot of room uh when it comes to uh when it comes to insurance and a person has to uh be very very clever when it comes to certain things especially when it requires a lot of money now if it comes to uh life insurance uh I personally think if somebody's going to have life insurance then certainly uh term insurance is the best polic if you know what to do with your money meaning if you are a uh a person that knows how to invest his money and you're going to take the same amount of money that a whole life policy uh is going to cost you uh and you're going to use that money uh to only a small fraction of it five or 10% of it to buy term life insurance and use the other 90 or so percent to invest it into your business or whatever else that you actually know what you're doing then certainly a term life insurance policy is a much better product for you but if you're clueless and you don't really know what to do with the money and you have nothing to do with it then it's better for you to you know hide the money in some whole life policy if it has decent rates and and security uh but again I don't generally uh I'm not recommending any of this stuff I'm just simply telling you that there is a benefit and for both and it depends on the party there are certain uh Insurance products that are outright garbage like annuities and uh and the like uh there are certain insurance insurance products that are fantastic that are necessary uh so it all depends it all depends on what you're insuring if you're insuring something with the best interest of the client in mind uh certainly this is a uh a good thing for them to do if it's talking about insurance for yourself uh then again you are so long as you're honest in what you have uh and you're not exaggerating things you're not exaggerating your health uh neither for the good or the bad and you're not lying about anything as far as your assets and what you have and what your potential is then certainly the uh insurance is a good uh thing to to have uh people that uh have means you know have money certainly should have insurance people that don't have money you know depends of whether they could afford it or not but uh with that being said you got your few minutes of insurance education Dylan uh what's the point of offer oh we did this already um Jeremy did the make a on the drink what's the reason for having a pull towards towards that one can't do for instance a non wanting to do does it indicate our past life okay so there's two questions as far as Satan making a blessing on on the water no she's not drinking the water to satiate herself uh there's a whole process that you see in of what takes place but she's not drinking it for the sake of sing it herself uh as far as being enticed to do things that you're not allowed to do says stolen water are sweeter meaning that each one of us has a good inclination and a bad inclination and each one of us has a brain enough to understand that water if you take it let's say you have a bottle of water the same bottle of water you pour half of the bottle in one cup and half of the bottle in another cup okay one cup is your cup and one cup is your friend's cup okay now your friend walks away all of a sudden your and your your brain your will tell you drink his water why it's sweeter his water is sweeter than yours now your logic it's it's not sweet it's the same water idiot what are you talking about it's the same bottle you s come out of the bottle and it's the same water and says no it's not the same water it's that water because he has that cup and because of this and all rational why whatever you're forbidden to do is always better they actually did the the go did a uh actually I'm not even sure if it was go May been Jews but anyway scientists researchers did a study uh they didn't uh realize what they were doing with this uh how they're answering question in the tah or proving it where they did a study where they brought a uh twin women women's two women that were twins they were Twins and uh apparently both of them were attractive you know young ladies and uh one of them was uh single and the other one was married and they were identical twins you couldn't tell the difference just in their personal lives one was single one was married and then they asked a a whole group of men which one they found more attractive which one of them they found more attractive and literally an overwhelming percentage I think it was over 90% of them or close to 90% of them chose the Married Girl even though there's physically no difference between them nothing you can't tell the difference between them but over 90% of them picked the married one not realizing she's married simply they picked the married one so what does it show their evil inclination wants them to go to the Forbidden one why because the Forbidden one if she's married she's forbidden to everybody else other than a husband the single one she's she's permissible to certain people you know if if she's Gentile and they're Gentile she's permissible to them if she's Jewish she's permissible only to the Jews but the point being is is that overwhelming majority pick the one that's forbidden for everybody the married one why because we have an evil inclination and we have a good inclination and the evil inclination will always want what is forbidden to us uh and and that's that's a uh one of the greatest uh things that you can do is pay attention to it and realize how you are constantly pulling towards things that you're forbidden to do even if that is that you're forbidden to do like one of the things that I know is very common yet for convert is uh they want to marry Kim they want to marry Kim for for whatever reason or sometimes a uh a young woman that was a uh with was intimate or in a relationship with a non-jew also wants to marry coin suddenly she never met a quen in her life but she wants to marry a Ken why da this because this is forbidden this is forbidden you marry that person he becomes kalal he becomes a uh is K in the garbage uh so the point is that people are constantly looking to do what they're forbidden because they have an evil inclination uh in them next I have a question are women held in the same regard as men when it comes to since hasem gave them a present of nine out of the T of speech it's like uh the more you drive the more prone you are to going get into an accident uh yes there is no difference between men and women if you look at the uh uh you'll see that there is no difference in uh between treatment between men and women regardless of the fact that women are uh you know have more tools to speak more uh just because a person has more tools to speak more does not mean that they have to say you have a mouth to Ed for for other things you can say good things you could say t you could eat you could simply shut it uh you could do other things with your your your mouth just like you could do other things with the rest of your body if a person says well listen you know he uh if if they were given 90% of the ability to talk they should get a discount then you could use the same exact argument for everything else he got 90% of the good looks in the world so he's allowed to be promiscuous sometimes he's really strong so he's allowed to choke people out sometimes he is really fast with his hands so he's allowed to steal sometimes no there's no discounts Hashem gave you a gift use it for the right things which means that when a woman says with her with her friends rather than she gets rewarded when she uses it for she gets punished how much punished the ramban says someone that says occasion like once in a blue moon they may have but if she says on a regular basis or he says on a regular basis surely they have no meaning that she can keep Shabbat she can be modest she can cover her hair with five five not one five she can attend she can give but she doesn't shut her mouth from she likes to say she likes to talk about her girlfriend and her husband and her this and her that and their business and that business and his friend and that friend and you hear this do you know what happened this and do you know what happened this she has no share of the world to come nothing zero this is the rambam this is not like debatable no no of course agrees and so on so the point is that is deadly deadly and that's why I always tell people if you have no T to say you have no nothing good to say that's T good meaning T it's better not to say anything and surely even if you have something good that's not to to say if it's about somebody don't say it why it's better to talk about people it's better not to talk about people unless you're warning people because this person is a heretic and against the Torah and you need to warn them their their life is in danger simply do not talk about people nobody not your sister not your brother not your friend your cousin nothing unless it's for the sake of helping somebody and everybody could say yeah but I'm just trying to help her by telling her not to hang out with him and not to hang out with her and not to hang out with this and aty let's not be delusional you say you're risking it's a very very big deal now you're going to say wait but they got so much that shouldn't they get a discount because so much maybe they could say some maybe no no there is no discount the big the the big Merit of having the ability to speak is because hem wants to reward you more since you're not obligated to learn tah like a man you're not obligated to do the same MIT as a man as many mitv as a man that are bound to time and so on because of that Hashem has found different places to give you a lot more extra reward so a lot more extra reward for the Torah that you get your husband to learn a lot more reward for getting your kids to learn tah and a lot more tah a lot more reward for being quiet or not saying say so it's it's important for a woman to know that is not something that is not recommended it's simply suicidal you like talking about people for the sake of conversation okay just just just think of it okay the next conversation that's the you know the Crematory and uh in ashz the next conversation it's not ashit perhaps it's a uh you know if it's not next next conversation what you didn't like the way she this and you don't like the way she that no problem that's going to be in one of the ghettos over there just think every time you're going to have a conversation it's a different place in Gom it's a different place in Holocaust that's what it is so if it's worth it for you to talk about him and her and them and this and that because you have nothing in your brain just think okay for each conversation it's a different concentration camp if it's worth it for you still enjoy the conversations and what comes with them but if a person understands that is not joking he's not joking when it comes to he's not joking when it comes to any of the MIT and when the rambam says a person has no share of the world to come he's also not joking so it's a very very big deal now of course a person needs to know that uh it's a uh it's not easy it's not easy easy to not say if you talk a lot which means that regardless of whether you're male or female generally speaking it's better not to talk that much uh the writes a that a person's lifetime is shortened based on his speech meaning if he talks a lot of nonsense or she talks a lot of nonsense she's cutting her life short because each person was given a a certain amount of words to be said during their lifetime meaning if they talk a lot of things that are not tah related they're in essence shortening their lifetime she likes to talk on the phone she likes to talk to our girlfriends have coffee and they have three-hour conversations about absolutely nothing she is in essence committing suicide even if it's not needless to say if it is that only brings evil to the world because the point of is to distance the world from other people and the punishment for it is what Hashem is going to bring that person which is the world is going to be distan for them that's how punished people at the time ofu where a uh the the people that said were thrown out of the camp why is a measure for measure just like you tried to get that person you spoke about uh to throwing out of the community so people stay away from him Hashem ended up throwing you out of the camp so everybody stays away from you and in fact every time somebody sees you outside of the camp you are oblig ated to say meaning I'm infected with stay away from me you have to announce to the whole world that you are infected because you said the whole world has to know you're about and if that's not enough before you even got thrown out of the camp that everyone knew that you had why because your wall had all types of interesting colors on it and uh the uh uh the uh uh the clothing and sometimes the body itself and guess what if your next door neighbor your next door neighbor is about you also get uh punished for it why because when if you have a connecting wall between you and your next door neighbor and he says there's going to be a on the wall if that walls are not connecting on that connecting wall you have to take down that wall but that W hurt you too so how [Applause] come woe to the wicked and woe to his neighbor meaning how did you pick such a neighbor if you are a good neighbor you would help your your your friend not say instead of listening to his or simply ignoring his her so the fact that you stayed there and he continued being a sinner she continued being a sinner is a uh is in essence a woe to you it's a rebuke to you also but the point being is is the first and foremost understand somebody comes to you and they're not a rabbi they're not a raban they're not a anyone that's looking to help anybody they simply get to talk about people run away from those people run away from those people lest you get punished with them just like just like said run away from those people don't talk about people unless again you are in a position to help people you know rabbis unfortunately have to listen to a a lot of not because they want to the gossip unless they themselves but rather because they need to know how to help people sometimes they have to hear certain things that couples say about each other sometimes they have to hear what siblings say about each other or friends or colleagues or business partners say about each other in order to be able to help people this is permissible because they're listening for the sake of helping but if they become part of the conversation they like to say you know different things that are against the Torah then they're they're you know contributing to the crime and they'll get punished for it too so save us from from all of this uh from all of this stuff but the point is is that it's very important for a person to know if you're not in the position to help or you don't even have the intention to help the best thing to do is never talk about people don't talk about people not good not bad not good not bad now one of the saving Graces that we found uh years ago we did a sh about it in gave a discussion about it is had Mercy Mercy on us and the uh there's no dean of on and on Jews that are secular there's no dean of meaning that if you say or have said about non-jews or about Jews that are acting like non-jews by not observing mitv there's no problem at all you could do it until you blew in the face you shouldn't do it and it's not recommended at all to do it but it's not a sin why shouldn't you do it then if it's not a sin because if you get yourself used to saying bad things or in general about uh uh secular people or about it's only a matter of time before you'll become a custom to also say bad things about kosher people so it's better to not say anything about anybody but uh as far as the law itself there's no de of on on secular people as well as there's no de of their inessence both treated like go they both treated like idolators according to but that was actually a mercy from hasem that was a mercy from hasem to make such a law uh because if we were obligated uh in the de of on all of mankind pretty much you would have nobody in ganed it's it's you just be empty just because it's at some point a person uh could say something without even realizing it so it's a that's literally a mercy from hasem so the point being is if it's a kosher person simply stay away from ever talking about them stay away from talking about them at all period good bad nothing say talking about them it was not such a good person unless you're trying to help somebody unless you're trying to help somebody but generally speaking I've already said this time and time again the low you know the the the the lowest form of conversation is is talking about other people's money other people's possessions and that's generally one of the most common forms of it's the lowest form of conversation simply because it shows that there's nothing in your life and there's nothing in your brain there's nothing in your head nothing there's like maybe a a few Geral in there for maybe some cockroaches there's no wisdom there talking about other people and and and what they do with their life and they went here and they went there and they bought this and they bought that it's very very uh low form of intellect is is what but again it's interesting it's juicy it's a uh uh you know especially when you have something spicy oh the divorce oh the marriage the Scandal the this the that people love talking about that stuff yeah because the also loves it because that's how he fishes many many people many people let me get this for a second next why doesm say in Genesis 66 that he regretted creating men didn't he know the future uhem can't make mistakes and yet he regrets making this decision I'm confused yeah there are certain things that are said in the Torah in order to uh clarify things to our to our ear meaning soften things to our ear like Hashem says he has a he took out am with a strong arm obviously everyone knows that he doesn't have an arm uh but he took out out of uh uh Egypt with a strong arm which is implying several things one of the things that it implies is that did not see themselves as anything other than slaves so in essence he had to change nature it was a supernatural thing not just to bring the plagues uh and Destroy Egypt but it was Supernatural to get am to re reink of themselves uplift themselves to a point where they no longer saw themselves as slaves because they didn't see themselves as free people they simply saw themselves as they were born to be slaves uh so that was in essence one of the uh Supernatural things that Hashem had to do with a strong arm meaning a Miracle of Miracles so the same concept is with uh when he says that he regretted created man is that this creation uh brought him uh sorrow because he did not want to create an order to destroy he wanted to create in order for people to serve him in order for people to sanctify his name but unfortunately part of the creation is a uh the corruption so he regrets that he has to toh to see this because this is in essence uh in order to get the uh the fruits you sometimes have to uh plant a seed and watch it rot uh and and that was in essence part of the creation itself so just because it's part of the creation doesn't mean it doesn't hurt him doesn't mean just because sent somebody to gay doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt him that uh in obviously in his capacity that uh he's burning his own uh his own child his own creation doesn't didn't create the world in order to punish people but he does it because he has a Torah that's a rule book both for man and for himself these rules are for himself too he applies the Torah to himself uh in order to bring order to the world so it's a uh just because this is uh the the destruction of this person uh or those people is what the Torah decreed it doesn't mean that Hashem is happy about it the same thing that we learned from when Hashem drowned all of the uh Egyptians is was singing and the angels wanted to sing along with is and rebuked the angels and said to them uh my creation is being destroyed these Egyptian they're my creation they're being destroyed and you're celebrating so the Angels answered saying yeah but am is is is celebrating you know so Hashem says they're right to celebrate because they suffered under their enemy the Egyptians you didn't suffer under the Egyptians and therefore you don't have a right to uh to celebrate uh so long as you know this is my creation so again there is a although a uh verses in the Tor there's a whole song in the Torah that talks about about the celebration of that we celebrate until this day that the Egyptians were destroyed still it does not mean that hm is happy about it meaning he didn't create them in order to destroy them uh so it does bring him sorrow that is in his creation but nonetheless it is a necessary uh uh evil that's in the world why did hasem ask Bam who are those people uh you are with uh this is in order to uh give uh bam the benefit of the doubt to see if he will speak the truth the same way that he asked in Genesis where are you obviously hasm knows where he is but he wanted he wanted to in essence unveil himself and start doing Chu uh you know and that's uh one of the things that he did with him he also did with his son uh K uh when he asked him where is your brother uh and uh you know Ken answered that this is also in Genesis short after the uh that section you just asked about I just mentioned about uh K said what is am I My Brother's Keeper and has answers him is the the Bloods of your brother are screaming to me uh meaning all of the The Descendants that will ever supposed to come out of your uh brother are already screaming to me because you murdered him so obviously hasm knew just that hem in essence is trying to uh get them to uh uh uh unveil themselves and become more open to doing Chua and repenting uh whereas if hasem attacked them right away and said why' you do that then literally they can die just from Fear so Hashem is uh you know wants them to admit wants them to repent when they do then they get uh rewarded for all of it when they don't they get punished one of the examples we see the gar says is the way that uh um sha uh answered to hashem's rebuke versus David sh was rebuked by the prophet and and instead when he told them why didn't you kill why didn't you do the will of hem uh you were supposed to kill all of amalik you left the women and you left the uh uh uh the Sheep uh why did you leave and uh sha as righteous as he was he made a mistake and he said oh I the people uh said that this would be good for Koba no he blamed it on other people and hasem punished them and then he said no no I'm sorry so it was too late Hashem already decided that David is going to take your uh kinghood David was also uh uh given the same exact test with Beva with Beva and uh when uh you know when as soon as his uh uh you know the prophet came to him and gave him an analogy that in essence to show him that you know what do you think of this person that he has everything and versus another person doesn't have much and this person has this sheep and the other person has many sheep and the person that has many sheep takes the one sheep that the other guy has and David didn't know he was talking about him and said oh death penalty he's a rash and then the prophet said it's you and he realized exactly what he's talking about and immediately instead of making excuses for himself he says and then hasem stopped him right there that's finished that's it because he was going to do meaning I sinned without knowing I sin intentionally I on purpose to make AEM you know there's three levels of sin so was going to say all three on himself but as soon as he said as soon as I sinned Hashem told the prophet to tell him right away stop don't talk anymore that's it finish enough enough he accepted his Chu and you know blessing came after that but the point being is is that that was the big difference between uh What uh responds D did versus sh so we see that there are times that knocked on the on the they call it on the head of certain people uh to see how they respond uh bam was one of them and unfortunately they uh you know it was AEM said says when he knocked on the on the can uh he only found that the can was full of urine uh that's the language of the G was like a uh you know nothing it was worthless they didn't didn't respond the right way but he responded the right way so may may we uh respond the right way when if the time and you know comes and theem tests us uh Gom will this end when mhia comes like I've heard whoever told you that GOM ends when mashia comes either is a liar or has never studied the subject the page 17 says that and there's other places there's many many other places that talk about there's also the there's uh there's many many sources to talk about Gom being Eternal there's also a verse in theah uh with a uh the prophet Isaiah uh and there's many other places Gom has talked about there's a place in Gom forever meaning that there are seven places in Gom I have a whole sh about Gom soon we'll have a movie uh to to present it in a certain way but uh the um Gom is has seven Chambers if you will the first six Chambers will end at some point but not the seventh the seventh one is uh forever uh you know so it's not that's not whoever told you that GOM ends once M comes uh is not only wrong about the part of it that's forever but is also wrong about the part of it that's not forever because just because Messiah comes doesn't mean that the wicked people their sentence ends no their sentence could be for another Thousand Years could be for another five years could be for another three days just because mhia came doesn't mean that salvation comes to everybody at the same time so whoever said it most likely is ignorant but could potentially be a combination of ignorance and lying but there is no source that says that uh Gom will end when mashia comes doesn't exist uh great Rabbi all the way from okay let's see we'll take one one question we're already almost at three hours who said that when back in the day when I studied I saw every person has Merit in Mitzvah they done in the world come I have no idea I don't know what you're saying uh regarding previous topic discussed earlier is a private conversation with your spouse still or if it won't leave your household there are some that say that it's between a man and his wife there's no dean of but I would still be very careful with it still be very careful with it uh if you reading could be punishment and okay you're answering somebody else uh okay I think I answered almost everything uh I think everything uh so listen anyone that uh has enjoyed the Sho at the very least has uh watched the sh until this point please share it share it 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