Selichos 5779 Kumzitz with Rabbi YY Jacobson

so everybody knows there's a void from the balsham the bashamtive says i told this yakuza brings it in a few places that khazal tell us the mission of the gomorrah say at the end of massachusetts [Music] any person who represents the community if he's not obligated to do this particular mitzvah he can't we might see other people in the mitzvah if i want to blow shayfriend you want to fulfill the mitzvah through hearing my sheikh i have to be making the scheifer i have to be obligated to blow the shaft same as true with megillah and so forth other mitzvahs the balsham have explained it on a deeper level doesn't only mean obligated really means guilty of take out their album from their guilt he can't extract the people from their chief from their difficult situation because he has no empathy because he's not part of them he doesn't know what they're going through only if i if i'm a hui of bedover only if i myself have some experience of it i'm connected to it then i could be mighty sarabh and he gives an example actually there was an example from a lifeguard so lifeguard is sitting on his you know ivory tower on his throne over there by the lake or the river or the beach and somebody khalilah is struggling with the turbulent waves he can't sit up there and say hey you come up come up it's not going to work he has to be able to jump into the water which always poses a certain danger because god forbid if he doesn't know what he's doing he himself could get caught up in the current and the turbulence and the tsunami so there's always a certain sensitivity you have to have and be careful but that's the only way that he can hope to schlep out the potential victim somebody's in the abyss somebody's in a pit i can just tell him come out i have to be able to get down and sometimes a little dirty in order to be able to extract extract the person from coming up extract the person and help them come up because i want to share with you two stories on this that i recently came across and i felt they were so powerful such powerful lessons in all generations especially in today's times and especially as we prepare for these great days of of love and days of or yama an educator for many years he passed away just uh two or three months ago his name was david shrank some of you maybe even learned by him david frank was a teacher and a pedagogue and a mentor for over 50 years passed away at the end of seven i think right before israelis this year and one of his students shared the following story that he experienced he was in a high school and he was a very wild kid very aggressive very unsettled very mischievous and really confused confused and lost like many a teenager and i guess many an adult and many a person he was just lost and it was one friday night and he broke into the office of rib david overtrank who was a teacher there he broke into his room his car keys were there and he took his car keys and he went down to the parking lot where his uh david's car was parked another friend of his saw what he's doing he says what are you doing so i'm taking the car he says you don't even have a driver's license he says i know how to drive better than a lot of people he says where you going he said i'm going to the movies you're going to the movies yeah so take me along take me along says listen if i'm already sinning i'm doing it for myself i'm not taking you along i don't need partners yeah tomorrow says he didn't he didn't quote that but uh he says i'm already sitting i'm doing it for myself i'm not taking you he says no i want to go i'm not taking you he says if you don't take me i'll snitch i'll snitch he says at this point in my life i don't care anymore it's irrelevant whatever happens it can't get much worse it's fine you could snitch it's friday night shoppers takes the keys goes down it's off nope his friend was uh loyal to his pr pledge and a few minutes later the david tranq who was not far away living not far away in the middle of his mail or after his meal heard what happened this boy stole his car on shabbos suraba david asks the one who shared with him the news where did he go he said he went to the movies he went to the movie theater said how far how far is the theater from here i'm two miles a mile and a half almost two miles puts on his coat tripped over train puts on his coat stone leaves his house voice says rabbi vugeste where you going cause i'm going to the theater tell me where it is i'm going two miles almost two miles you know how long it's going to take you friday night it's late at night cold night i'm going i'm walking there he walks he finds out where it is i guess this boy knew where it is he gets the directions a gate he walks he walks close to two miles he comes to the movie theater goes to the booth there's a woman standing there selling the tickets he says listen look at me he had this big round black hat he says it's sabbath it's friday night i'm a rambo look how i'm dressed i'm not going to watch a movie tonight but i have a student who went in to watch a film and i need to tell him an important message do you mind if i just go in i'll give him the message and then i'll leave she says rabbi no problem go ahead good he goes into the theater but there's maybe many films playing so he has to now find him so he goes from hall to all room to room and it's dark a lot of people sitting enjoying the cinema he can't find him he goes from one room he's looking around goes to another one another one another one says friday night finally he comes to one of them and he spots his 16 year old student from yeshiva sitting there himself in a chair watching glued to the screen so he sneaks in it's quiet it's dark people don't disturb you know it doesn't want to disturb anybody and near his student is an empty chair so he sits down in the empty chair right near his student student told the story recently after abdullah passed away and he says i'm watching the movie i'm glued but you know when you feel that somebody sat down right near you even though you didn't touch me i just knew that somebody is sitting near me so for a moment i turned around just to see who's decided to sit down right near me i take a look rib david shrank is sitting right near me it couldn't have been a worst moment i look at him i'm astounded i'm like rappy where are you coming from so i'm coming for my house he says how did he get here i walked he says it's almost two miles he says yeah i walk two miles he says what brings you to the movie theaters you also go to the movies on shoppers he says i came to talk to you i have to tell you something he said you walk two miles to tell me something yeah i walk two miles to tell you something what do you want to tell me i want to tell you that in this particular movie theater the popcorn is not kosher so do me a favor as you enjoy the cinema don't eat the popcorn in this particular movie theater that's what you wanted to tell me that's what i wanted to tell you i love you enjoy yourself i hope to see you back in yeshiva whenever you come gives him a kiss on his forehead wishes him good job and gets up says where you going i gotta go home see you in yeshiva tomorrow and he walks out and the buccaneer says i'm sitting there couldn't sit there i run out after him i said wait wait wait wait i run out after him and i walk with him the whole way back so the whole way back he didn't mention a word not about his car not about shabbos not about anything he was singing songs making jokes telling stories talking about the weather talking about life his life my life talking about his past his youth my past just schmoozing for bringing having fun with me not a word about what happened we come back to the yeshiva i look at him and i say i'm never going to violate shabbos again and i'm also never going to steal cars again this this buck is shared recently after his great teacher's passing number one number two wasn't long ago a young man went over to another jew at a wedding he said you remember me so i don't remember you who are you he introduces himself he says ah you were my student third grade you were my student yeah wow i haven't seen you in so many years how was your life what are you involved in says i'm a teacher he says wow just like me what inspired you to become a teacher what inspired me to become a teacher was you he said how did i inspire you to become a teacher i saw what an impact you had on me i realized what an impact i can have on children i decided to go into education he said what type of impact did i have on you she said i'll remind you but i'm sure you remember the story there was one day that one of my friends got himself his mother father bought him a beautiful wristwatch and i dreamt for a watch and i didn't afford one so i decided to steal his watch he had it in his pocket i took his watch i stole it he came into class he saw somebody stole his watch he came complaining to the teacher somebody stole his watch so you made an announcement whoever took this boy's watch please return it i was too embarrassed and i didn't want to return it so i didn't return it so you locked the door and you said i'm gonna have to line everybody up and empty their pockets in order to get back the watch and that's what you did and i thought to myself this is going to be the most shameful moment of my life and then you said all boys line up at the wall but i want everybody to have their eyes closed everybody's eyes must be closed and you went from pocket to pocket and everybody's eyes were closed and then you came to my pocket and you found the watch and you took it out and you went through everybody's pockets with everybody's eyes closed and then you said okay everybody can open their eyes you gave the watch back to its owner and you never ever said a word to me throughout the entire year you never mentioned the story you never mentioned the episode and when i thought to myself how you saved my dignity that day instead of being stereotyped as a ganev as a thief as a chakra and as a lawyer as a no good nick as a despicable child you really saved my soul you saved my dignity and you never mentioned the word not only to anybody else not only to the owner but even to me it was it happened it's over i understood the message and when i looked at that i saw it i said wow this is what a teacher is this is what a real educator is this is what i want to do with my life and therefore i went into education the teacher is listening to him and he says wow that's amazing that's really amazing but he says but reppie you don't remember you don't remember the story like when you see me and you hear my name i'm sure you remember the story that i stole the watch and what you did and you didn't want to embarrass me said everybody's eyes closed and i'm the person he says actually i don't know i wouldn't know i wouldn't know the story he says why not like it's a pretty dramatic story he said cause i also closed my eyes i want to bless you and bless all of us that we should be able to be such such leaders such teachers such parents such educators such mashpeem foreign [Music] oh [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Applause] [Music] my [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Laughter] [Music] [Applause] [Music] ah [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] is [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] da [Music] [Applause] fantastic [Music] [Applause] [Music] a [Music] is [Music] oh [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] foreign [Music] [Laughter] oh [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Laughter] [Applause] [Music] a [Music] [Applause] [Music] i [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Laughter] foreign [Music] is [Music] my [Music] [Laughter] [Applause] it [Music] he didn't get the memo yeah that's a good cigarette so i thought i saw this amazing incredible vart a cipher called divrei mayor from the helicopter the holy rib mayor of primishlan on to hillam and as i was reading it i was like ah this is what people have to understand at this time of the year and this is what the holy mayor primacylan says maybe we can have a little music it's a toyota that needs a little uh it's a tighter that needs a little music [Music] so the maid of primitive asks the following questions [Music] psalms chapter 51 many jews say it every night for christmas [Music] this is a song of david that he [Music] and we all know the story the navi tells us and shmuel that nassen comes to david and he says my tired economic my dear king i want to tell you a story and what's the story that nelson tells david he says i want to tell you a story there was once in a little town there lived two people a very very wealthy man who had everything and a very poor jew a rosh who had nothing he had one little lamb and this lamb ate with him and drank with him stayed with him this lamb was the only source of income and once our guest came to the wealthy man and he needed to feed the guests so what did he do he went and he took the lamb of the poor man he slaughtered it and he gave it to his guest what do you think about the story novi says david got angry and he says this person deserves to die for his cruelty for his selfishness he has everything he takes the last little sheep of a poor man this person deserves to die so what does no senator [Music] you're the king of the jewish people you have to take his wife so what does david say he says two words you know what his two words were [Music] a synthetic [Music] when he came when he was with bashava david sings what does he sing [Music] give me your graciousness give me your kindness with your compassion blot out erase my transgression david continues in one of those very heart-wrenching kapitla khan tehillah khattasi negdy summit etc bring me some joy bring joy to the bones that you have crushed this already has a [Music] what's the great mismay what's this song i said there's a reason nobody made a song on this posik besides david he did make a misma the [Music] this is a lamentation you're running away from your son who wants to murder you who staged a rebellion against you he says when somebody does when somebody repents there's an element of remorse of broken heartedness lev nishbar venitkal and kim loy sivasay he says here in this capital leif nisbervinitkiva zingstrom is [Music] he's going utensil because nasi nana he came to that's his question then he says the pasta is a little awkward i'm not and this is what he says open your hearts [Music] it's a pretty intense tire i have to tell you [Music] you know [Music] there's two ways you could come to somebody there's two ways you could speak to somebody about their situation one way is you come to a jew and you tell them you're such a russian you're such a pedometer anybody relates to this you're such a low life i never met such a low life like you [Music] you're a piece tickle tickle toy eva you're a piece of abomination i don't know the gehennam that's gonna be hot enough for a fellow like you god this mama's gonna have to build a state of the arts gehenna [Music] just for a guy like you i don't know why so many of you are smiling [Music] that's one way and he says most people when they hear a person speaks to them this way one of two things happen either they just shut down they can't hear another word you say or they just attack you back they become defensive or offensive or i would add today i see this also something else they become so broken and so guilty that their members don't exist anymore they die inside emotional death somebody once said you know when a jew doesn't feel guilty he blames himself and this sense of inner death inner guilt is mamasha death sentence not just emotionally but also spiritually [Music] it's even it's a little hard to say he says you know how nostalgic came to david kashyap same way david came to matthew how did david come to basheva how do you get somebody to be close to you david came with a smile david came with love the gemara says in sanhedrin but sheva was really dove at soul mate but it wasn't ripe yet like you eat a fig before it's ripe pagan wasn't ripe david had a sole connection with bashevid azoyo says kashir baaba shavi came to basheva with a joy with excitement with passion pavoya love [Music] chastising him but uplifting him do you realize who you are do you realize what you're capable of and if maybe islam goes a step deeper he says there's something called tribal mystical is that your transformation is a real transformation it means you're a transformed person he says if you do this sin with joy and the repentance with guilt it's not a real truth [Music] did it with the same mishma with the same joy love the same passion with which he experienced basheva he experienced the transformation the same passion the same joy because if it's not the same passion you're not a transformed person you just feel guilty you ran away from it but you didn't really heal the wound because the passion you never dealt with the creativity the void that you were looking for you never really filled that's the mismer david love the vote from the helicopter of aaron and byron bellsworth how does it make you feel not good huh accession your face became sour i really like i stand like you can clean like a caylee a vessel molly bush filled with shame filled with climax [Music] disgrace shouldn't be humiliated filled with shame and humiliation [Music] says you ever felt that way you ever felt full of humiliation and shame what's the next step usually after that addiction [Music] ask any addict ask any addict any addicts in this room we're all addicts we're all addicts [Music] the next step after shame is addiction the shame of an addict it's all with so much says the bells are of you have to hear the letters you have to hear the words is anybody who learned massachusetts caleb you know that by achilles a vessel a utensil is it's only macabre tuma if what if it's a whole kaylee if it's a kaylee shulin if i have a bottle a jug a jar for water a pitcher of water some cobble tumma let's say it's made out of earthenware clay terrace or matress metal it's and what happens if you make a little hole and the water can't be contained ice it's called the broken cayley if it's a caylee to hold tangerines and apples and pomegranates then you need a bigger hole right kemoitzi zayus come on this is different but if it's a bait for a water you put a little hole in the water drips kinkely to be a kaylee in halakhah you have to be a chalet you have to be whole [Music] foreign holding the bush has to be whole the vessel i'm a vessel but you're not a vessel if you're not whole the vessel has to be whole the whole vessel has a lot of shame in it that's a very different type of shame that's a mismalid of it i am essentially a whole person because my soul is it's a piece of hashem hashem you're whole you're beautiful you're awesome you're amazing you're incredible you're a reflection of the divine in this world my big hailey which is whole contains a lot of stuff some of it is bush some of it is climber and i want to spit it out i want to get rid of the toxicity i want to get rid of the trauma but the caylee got to be wholesome the mice with that somebody said to him he wants to tell him a story of his balatanya she says go ahead and the man says you say to the bellatanya was once given a gift khasid brought him a silver pushkiller of schmecktabak what they called the snuff so he brought him a silver a silver push killer i don't know case for first fresh mech to be able to stop the tobacco and the uzada looked at it and he said the ain't aver in guru vs there's one limb in the body that's still innocent the nose nobody comes to school and said last night i sinned with my nose it was muted the ears the eyes other parts could get involved in messy stuff but they know the only limb that wasn't involved in the hadas right so that's it says have a sore she listened to the snake yeah she touched the fruit she saw it and she tasted it doesn't say she smelled it still remains a little pure that's why midsize sharpest we smell so he says there's one limb that's not a baltimore we have to stuff it with taiwa she says you say the broke off he broke off the lid of the of the case of the silver case for the tobacco and he used it for a mirror for his films so that's heard the story and he said i'll say yiddish he says the person said he broke the lid so he said [Music] was not capable of breaking not himself and not others not even a case of snuff tobacco he removed the hinge he removed the thread that connected it so it was separated now we could use it for the film what does this mean this means what at filling fill in his ship to dedicate your heart and your mind to hashem that's that's filling on the arm filling on their head sometimes we think how do you put on filling how do you dedicate yourself to hashem through breaking you break yourself and therefore you break your children and you break everybody you come in contact with that's not how you create feeling that's not how you become to fill in you have to remove sometimes i'm too connected i'm too addicted i'm too entrenched in certain habits you have to remove the hinges you have to become a free person you have to get rid of the stuff that hold you down and then you could soar and then you can have become a mirror for them [Music] that was as true it was with was a sense of wholesomeness with a sense of passion with a sense of joy celebrating who you really are that no mistake in the world can ever destroy they say that about once came to a cita to a town and it was before shannon kip and they said you know this episode and it comes to he starts dancing [Music] normally people are crying and he's dancing said i want to meet him he meets him he said they say that you danced by al-qaeda what stands to this this was what's that why are you dancing says yep i don't understand i don't understand i want to ask you a question a king has a palace there's different people do different things in the palace one person cooks the food one person serves the food one person is in charge of this part of the palace and then there's a person he was hired by the king to be the janitor you know what he does he takes a broom and he sweeps up the dirt puts it in the dustpan puts it in a dustbin mops the floor makes sure it's beautiful fragra when he's cleaning up the dirt he shouldn't dance he's cleaning up the dirt from the palace he's making the palace glancing exciting of course he should dance why shouldn't he dance he says i'm cleaning up the palace why shouldn't i dance was moved was touched so the belzerov says you have to realize who you are you're cleaning up a palace you're cleaning up a soul you're cleaning up a piece of divinity in this world ah it's miss military of it with a simcha with a passion with positivity [Music] hello again [Music] they [Music] like the same energy [Music] [Laughter] [Music] me [Music] oh [Music] i left [Music] foreign [Music] we left [Music] is [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] so [Music] i [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] i [Music] i [Music] i [Music] [Laughter] [Music] i [Music] i [Music] died [Music] oh [Music] i [Music] la [Music] hey [Music] hey [Music] hey [Music] me [Music] hey [Music] hey [Music] la [Laughter] la la [Music] ah [Music] hey [Music] foreign [Music] hey [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music] i [Music] i [Music] i [Music] oh [Music] [Laughter] [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] i [Music] [Applause] i [Music] is [Music] oh yeah a little music first of all i want to thank rebnuchem rebecca scheiner the russia kylie here the leader of the shul in so many ways all the shiurim and the learning thank you for everything you do for the satire everybody who works with you and under you and with you thank you thank you to blazer and thank you for uh to all of you who are gracing us here with your delicious presents ah you'll give me a little harmony so i'll share with you a torah from the nachman so those who are traveling this week at least you'll know one toyota from iran [Music] there's two words in yiddish this is before the torah and neither does an expression hey that's what most jewish speakers do before i speak i want to say a few words so before the title and yet there's just two words what's the two words [Music] comes to david it tells him this whole story why couldn't you just tell him david you did something wrong it was promiscuous it was immoral mario says but we're talking relative to the level of no it's not what he does tells him a story a rich man a poor man a sheep what do you think david says he should die and he says you're the man what do you need the whole speech just held off it you took a woman who didn't belong to you and it's wrong and david would say this is what abner explains he says it says in prakayavas and pedric salishi the third chapter of prakayamas says look at three things istanbul where'd you come from where you're going then the order seems wrong first is a hajj ben and then is a din is a calculation din is a verdict the summation the bottom line you don't say life we make a calculation and then it says the later in prequel is the same chapter it says every person we exact payment from every person with his knowledge and without his knowledge consciously and unconsciously if it's medaite it's not july medite how can they both work together so the baal shem tov said whenever a person has to be judged this is how it's done [Music] a person comes up to heaven person comes with shashana person comes in kipper google the heavenly google prints out a data sheet somebody else's life say what do you think about this guy um [Music] what do you say about this what should be done this is what you should do they show you somebody's life and then you give a verdict on that person din and then they say ah but you did something very similar okay so you already gave a verdict first you give a din on somebody else and then they make a hajj bin on you the frying menada may die you're doing it knowingly but it's unknowingly you're doing it about somebody else it's really about you it says every day of our life we're always given an opportunity to judge people you're going to the store there's somebody with a wagon right in front of you right going a little too slow you know that scene and you're a busy guy you have an opportunity to judge somebody [Music] somebody in your son's school calls you you have an opportunity to really judge somebody your wife texts you oh do you judge somebody your mother-in-law calls you what saps you a lot to judge somebody in shul somebody at work somebody in the car somebody in the gas station somebody in the store every day we have an opportunity to judge people and to give verdicts in the name of his grandfather be very careful because the people that god allows you to judge every day and the situations you're judging are really your own situations that you're judging when you point a finger at somebody you're pointing three fingers at yourself simultaneously you could see just cut people slack judge with depth judge with us and authenticity judge with sensitivity so that's why when nelson came to david he didn't tell him anything he told him a story he dove it you be the judge david you have to be the judge not me you have to be the judge you'll be the judge once he was the judge he says this is your story so this vote from the balcony you see mamas in the tanakh the story of david but why is it this way why why can't you be judged directly the answer to this is very very simple and very profound and that is because a person is so powerful is so deeply connected to infinity nobody can tell you where to go [Music] even the greatest angel even best in somalia even kevin hashem a person comes to heaven after 120 he can't tell you you go here the only one who could tell you where to go is who you yourself nobody can tell you to go to gahannam nobody can tell you to go to garnet nobody can tell you to go to purgatory the only one who can tell you where to go is you yourself [Music] because of your infinite divinity nobody could be a master over you you're the only one who decides your own destiny you're the only one who ultimately decides your own fate so how does it have to be done you have to make all the judgments you're the one who says exactly where you belong goes a step deeper and he says this is what the gemara says in brock lesnar [Music] do you want this illness he says i don't need the benefits i don't need the illness do me a favor get me out of this agony give me your hand give me your hand and then the uk may and he made him healthy [Music] ask sir nachman why did he have to give him his hand what did the hand help so he said people even gave a hand to take an oath you gave a hand as a kia scoffer like it was an oath this is what he says it's a little uh intense he says you say you don't want it i'm not sure you don't want it sometimes you say you don't want things because consciously you don't want it but if you really really didn't want it you wouldn't have it because ultimately the gemara says in rosh hashanah that every person is created ladaitan wits he says before a person is created he's asked if he wants to be created and as it says in many swarm he's asked if he wants this life and if he doesn't agree it's not given to him so even though i look at it i say i never want this but do i really really know what i don't want do i really really know what i want says haveliotha i don't believe you give me a hand swear to me that you don't want it if you really don't want it you won't have it but sometimes you say you don't want it but really you want it somehow it's part of your journey [Music] what this means is that nobody is a victim in this world i am exactly where my soul chooses to be because this is where i represent godliness to bring in light into this place so the only one who could tell me where to go was mama's only me nobody could tell me where to go you know they say go here go there only you could tell yourself where to go the measure says in bereisha is that on tuesday all the trees were planted and they started to grow and we know what else was created on tuesday all the minerals the metals and when the tree saw the iron barrel the tree started to tremble it's healing on its right attend because iron is the only material that could destroy a fellow tree so the iron spoke to the trees this is what it says in madison and you know the iron told the tree don't worry if you will not give a hand to me i won't be able to destroy you because the handle of every axe is made out of wood nobody can cut you down without your own consent nobody can cut you down if you don't give them the handle of the axe you know there are so many people who feel that somebody cut them down emotionally something occurred when you were younger and you were cut down and you feel like your tree is not alive and on some level it's a very real emotion and we never judge it because it's so real and it's so painful but there's a very deep place in you that you have to know that nobody can ever cut you down unless you give them permission to all the feelings that i have that i'm a dead tree i'm a lifeless tree that's part of what that person tried to do to me but it's not who you are those voices don't own you you own those voices you're a kelly you're a whole cali nobody can destroy that kaley it's divine it's godly israel sar kale even if you made a lot of mistakes sarkeel means you're a sir you're a minister you're a prince if aaron kalina said the greatest the greatest sad the saddest thing in the world is when the son of the king when the prince forgets who he is he thinks he's a nobody he's a schlepper nobody can cut you down without your consent i'm the one who has to ultimately agree with you on some level to cut me down you're the one who defines your own destiny you have your hashless to transcend every challenge to introduce light wherever you are tell an old anecdote there was a jewish kid who needed a job you know you know right he saw an ad that the indians are looking for a chief see he applied they asked him chief look up in the stars and tell us if it's going to be a cold winter what is he supposed to does not to read the stars but to say keep it safe he said it's going to be a cold winter you have to collect wood to make fires okay then he sneaked out at night he found used to be something called a public phone all of a sudden anybody knows what to talk about you put in there you put in a nickel then a dime remember then a quarter yeah he calls up the national weather bureau he says what's going to be the winter it's going to be a cold winter okay goes back you say i looked up in the stars it's going to be very cold they start collecting more wood sneaks out next week he calls up the weather bureau they say it's going to be unbelievably cold she goes back tells them the news what he saw in the stars and now they're frantically collecting lumber to be able to warm themselves up in a very cold winter goes back next week tell him it's going to be excruciatingly cold it goes back gives the news men women children 24 hours they're collecting wood next week he calls up the weather bureau they tell him it's going to be the coldest winter in history is it really we're making him sugar he says first you tell me cold and very cold and unbelievably cold and excruciating cold now the coldest winter we make up your mind say listen young man we don't know who you are but you think we know anything about the weather we know nothing about the weather we know that this year the indians are collecting wood like crazy that's so we know yeah sometimes you don't realize the gansa indian denates it's like a shadow the shadow follows you that's the power of a soul people underestimate who they are they don't understand who they are you think yep it's a little victim just because ploiny almighty who doesn't know from espios doesn't know what he was doing he himself has his issues said or did he can let that define you and take something that is infinitely powerful and reduce it to a piece of garbage khalilah they say an old story there was once it was a court case a murder trial and they accused somebody of murdering the person but it was a fascinating thing the corpse never showed up the evidence the dead person disappeared he vanished so there was no mummish evidence that there was a murder but this was the rumor and this was the story they couldn't find them and they accused him the lawyer defending the suspect realized as a hal shmall they're probably going to declare him guilty the last minute he decided it was a trick he turned to the jury and he said my dear jury i have a surprise for you within the next 60 seconds the murder victim the person who was supposedly slain is going to walk into the courtroom and the whole jury is stunned looking at the door you say that this man murdered the victim and i'm going to show you how you're willing if he's not even dead he's going to walk right in everybody's looking at the door with baited breath they wait a minute they wait two minutes they wait three minutes hayala they nano no victim is walking in the lawyer turns to them and he said it was just a joke but i wanted to prove to you that you're not sure that somebody was murdered because if you were certain you wouldn't have looked at the door how are you going to condemn somebody and declare him guilty when you yourself are not sure you all looking at the door the jury went out to deliberate they came out verdict guilty the lawyers start screaming my high you all looking at the door said we were all looking at the door but your client was not he was not looking at no door he knew nobody is coming into this room he declared himself guilty we don't need anything else he had no hope that something is going on a person doesn't realize his or her power his er not because of holiness and arrogance on the contrary because [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] foreign [Music] [Laughter] [Music] day [Music] i [Music] [Laughter] [Music] my [Music] my [Music] [Laughter] [Music] la items [Music] is oh [Music] i [Music] [Laughter] [Music] bye [Music] bye [Music] bye [Music] ah [Music] i foreign [Music] i [Music] to the haftara this morning i've thought of parsons kisaway and i felt that it's so much a it's so in tune to the vibe yes confirmation it's so in tune to the vibe the vibe that exists here mama's in this room but the vibe that exists today in the whole world you shy of perique sama isaiah chapter yeah as they say in your language rise up my light because your light has arrived the glory of hashem shines on you darkness may so much of the earth but on you shines hashem as glory is visible on you nations will follow your light and kings by the shine of your luminescence [Music] lift up your eyes and see everybody came to you your children came from far your sons came from a distance and your daughters are being led us in a heart you'll see this and you'll shine and your heart will tremble and expand because the multitudes of a sea will be transformed as a great army of nations will come to you this is how is describing the future says that on friday we have to be time right a little bit of the food the food of shabbos it's a time that everyone is yearning to rise and to feel the light within themselves and the light within the jewish people that's the energy today today we live in a time where either you're part of the solution or you're part of the problem either i'm part of the problem or i'm part of the solution part of the problem means i cretch part of the solution means i become an ambassador of light and of love and of hope and of healing and of redemption the compartmentalizations of claustral our mamish almost gone you know that yeah you could look even in this room who's here describe to me which type of jew is in this room yoily what type of jews in this room the answer is in the question yearly part of the jews that are in this room yeah every conceivable type of jew ms every conceivable type of jew he named there may be some different opinions so what so you're not my brother you're not my sister you're not my child so there's different opinions so what but i want to take this one step further my dearest friends they say a story that the mittal rabbit the son of the balatanya one year passes kisaway he heard the reading of the torah and he heard the he heard all the rebukes all the curses and he fainted and he got it sick he was so sick that he was a question the doctors were not sure that they could allow him to fast on him kipper which was just a few weeks afterwards so somebody asked them i don't understand every year they read the same posture why did you get so sick this year so he said this was the first year that his father the bala tanya used to read he was about curry's to read the parish every week that year parshas kisawa he wasn't in lyajna he wasn't in the city so he heard the departure from somebody else so they said so what it's the same parcha so he said these words when the tata lent heard heronshkina when my father reads i couldn't hear the curses this year i heard curses there was another story after his father passed away the first purim somebody read the megillah so the minig was after the megillah reading you would give the person who read the magilla big nice tip so he went and he gave the guy a huge tip he didn't have money so they said why do you give him such a big tip he says such a nice story here at so i understand no no no you're a 40 year old man you heard the megillah many times says nayna the tattooed my father read it was a different story tata lane said so i once heard the laboratory ever say over the story he said over the story he said over with the middle episode and he started to cry and he said like the tata the father our father in heaven reads i don't hear the curses he types the tata the real thought of him you know we define rosh hashanah as yom had in the day of judgement the ghazal and the gemmaria madrashim safari day of judgment and i want to ask you to be honest with yourself what does that do to you that feeling of hina yoimadin the day of judgement is coming what are we going to say soon what they tell you remember that even the fish the fish in the water yamas that sit it in the fish in the water by slickers tremble they said raphaim celevechuk was a child his father woke him up early in the morning for slickers he didn't want to get up it was five in the morning in lithuania he says i feel like the fish the fish invasion the fish are trembling he just thought that the fish voting the fish would be wrapped up in a warm down blanket in a good comfortable bed whatever type of bed they have there they had their in they also wouldn't have not they also wouldn't have trampled we live today in a world we don't nobody likes to be judged ms you feel judged you run away yeah everyone is in therapy i feel judged my husband judges me my wife judges me my my father charges me my father everyone is judging me my rabbi people hate being judged comes rosh hashanah and but the truth is we don't hate being judged the question is who's judging me imagine you could be joe imagine you could sit in front of a person who's gonna judge you but this person loves you like crazy doesn't only love you knows every one of your struggles and knows you as well as you know yourself and maybe even more he knows everything you go through he knows your ups and your downs he knows your traumas he knows your pain he knows your history he knows your family history he knows your innermost core he knows your anxiety he knows your stress he knows everything that happened to you when you were 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 6 and 10 and 20. he knows your thoughts but not only your conscious thoughts also your unconscious thoughts he knows your innocence he knows your purity and he knows that even your mistakes are just a result of your desperate need to find some control in your life and some comfort in your life would you want to be judged by such a person would you want that person to tell you his opinion of where you are where you should be where you need to be and how you can get there who doesn't want that we all want to be judged the question is by whom it's not a question if it's a question about them and by whom who's judging you on rosh hashanah said what does that mean he lifted us up from all the languages so the regular translation is he elevated us from all the languages meaning from all the nations but that's a redundancy of atom atoms there's no language to describe the depth of the love there's no language there's no isis how do i find the language the shyness i can't find the language to express the love who's judging you who's judging me somebody who's crazy about you somebody who knows everything that's going everything that's going on and that me is plenty of premium somebody who wants your best somebody who wants your greatest success somebody who wants you to be happy to maximize your life to maximize your potential somebody wants you to be able to suck the marrow out of life somebody who wants to see you shining kumiyairi keva iraq that's who's judging you that's a judgment that i welcome i want such a i want such a being to judge me i want to have a conversation with such an entity with such a loving father and mother friend the language of expression of the balatani liquidator this week to realize that hashem is your best friend your greatest fan he wants the greatest life for you and for your loved ones it's a different type of judgment i want you to judge me like the sheep holding on to every one of the flock counting it examining it with tlc with tender love and care but then comes the second paragraph etc etc [Music] and i know that the son of takeover is not considered the most dovey lovey prayer in the world i know that adam saw the me off of a sci-fi offer but i think we have to understand and go a little deeper what nasa takeover is really saying what's the son of takeoff really saying so many things that happen in the world so many things are unpredictable santa takeov is saying the only one who decides what will be happening with you this year there's only one who decides and that's the one who loves you infinitely nobody else decides not your boss not your abuser and not a fundamentalist islamic terrorist and not this presidential candidate or that presidential candidate the only one who decides every detail of what happens to you to me to us during this year is the one who imam thomas is the one who loves you infinitely he's the only one who decides sanoteka is trying to give good news not bad news visa father tell him two things before he died yeah he was five years old he said israelite i don't want you to be afraid of anybody or anything in the world besides hashem and i want you to love every jew with all your heart these two statements of the father of the baal shem tov became the two pillars of light that guided the malshem which he developed his whole life perspective i don't want you to be afraid of anybody or anything in the world how how can i be what do you mean i shouldn't be afraid of anybody or anything i'm afraid of this one i'm afraid of that one i'm afraid of that one but if you're afraid of that one entity if you have real years shamayim or of hashem you don't have to be afraid of anybody or anything in the world nobody decides any detail of nasa only hashem who sent you there and you're his partner you're his partner you're in it together so i'm sending you here to this place to this situation to these circumstances to bring in light into this darkness and to transform it [Music] oh [Music] is [Music] is [Music] a [Music] a [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] a [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] is [Music] [Applause] [Music] a [Music] [Applause] [Music] no [Music] [Applause] a [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] okay just that nobody should be impatient here there's going to be a few minions everybody can go to slickers of course wherever you want but there'll also be a few million on them here over here we're going to have a minion at one rabbi corn is having a minion that he's leading in the next tent eighteen also at one point twelve forty and ebioli is gonna lead his uh legendary slithers in in 18. that was just decided yeah okay 11 o'clock also one o'clock okay i don't know if you want to wait for that but fine the music is too loud over here they couldn't do music so we're going to do a minion here that i'm going to leave the right back corner is going to do a minion there now in a few minutes and yogi's going to do inside the building ms okay is there's two ways of looking at shiva in sephirah nistor it's called trivitata and truvaila trivitata means a lower level of chuva truvilla means a higher level of truth what's the difference true lower level of truva is a person comes to himself and says look how many mistakes you made look how many wrong things you did look at this problem at this problem and you have to fix it you have to regret it and fix it that's true true tattoo means you don't look at the lower part of yourself you look at the higher part of yourself you tell yourself for example but you once told me a story i grew up in crown heights in brooklyn there was a yiddi who would collect money every day his name was teddy like a schmuck a year teddy he was like from the furniture he would go very adele he would collect money somebody once turned to him and said teddy what would you do if you would win the lottery with 150 million dollars what would you do this is what teddy said teddy said as follows he said you know i collect money the morning shift i do 770. collects money at 7 70. problem is there's around another three or four hundred people who collect money yeah this place is getting close to that around 300 he said if i win the lottery i'm gonna rent bodyguards they shouldn't let any schneider into 770 besides me because i'm going to be the only one says that's the dream because then i'll be able to come here home with that really but it was a nice mad bay and i thought to myself you know this is how so many people live huh they're saying you're a shalom there was once a year would collect money in my asharian but the younger and he also said he said if i win the lottery i'm going to build elevators and all the buildings so i don't have to climb up 12 storeys to be able to collect money i'll put in elevators sometimes my glasses my prism my paradigms are so affected by my situation that even when i'm thinking about wealth i'm thinking about it like a poor person truly means not sure because look how bad you are look how powerful you are look how good you are look what you have there's a part of you that was never tarnished there's a part of you that never became dirty that's the soyday you say this of yiddishkait that your core remains as wholesome as ever instead of living from your core place you're living like a pauper so truvilla means true from a place of bigness of godless of expansiveness of broadness there was a time that shiva tata worked for some people today for my little experience i don't see it working with most people that i know at least i don't see it working true the law i see working so you come to a person you say you're such a sickle you have to do truth ah forget it you just invite them to more sin you go to a person true the law realizes who you are realize what you're capable of realize what your soul looks like realize what your body can be realize what you represent in this world you're gonna rent bodyguards to put in all the doors that you that nobody should compete with you in collecting money you're not a pauper you're not a pupper you don't have to collect it's time for you to give not to take you have enough to give you don't have to take or at least give and take or take and give the same is true when it comes to people fighting with other people i say this every year before slickers i'll say it again this week is the week there shouldn't be a person in the world that you're not on speaking terms with out of your choice so many people i know have so many fights this brother doesn't speak with his brother-in-law this brother doesn't speak to his aunt this one doesn't speak to his nephew this is as you should have discovered boundaries are important especially if somebody can hurt you but this is a week you shouldn't be in a situation where you're not on speaking terms with somebody you can't say good morning you can't say good jobs you haven't spoken to them in nine years because of some fight over your father's suffer give your brother a call give your neighbor a call give your old friend a call sit down for a cup of coffee make up even if you believe he was a hundred percent wrong and you're 100 right zolzin you don't have to live a small life when we have fights with people part of our heart is locked up that's how it is if there's somebody you don't speak to remember we're one body the balatanya says in tanya meredith so claudio stroll is an organism yeah imagine i say you know my toe i really don't like so what do you do you stop the blood i know who you're hurting who you're hurting you stop the circulation for an organism to be healthy the circulation has to flow smoothly without obstructions claudia stroll is a whole organism you and i may not be the best best friends but the blood has to flow and the shin is the heart the shin it says the shin is the heart what happens when the circulation is affected the heart ultimately is affected and the whole organism is affected when there's somebody i'm going to fight with i cut you off i'm not cutting you off i'm cutting me off there's a part of my heart that can't open up it doesn't mean i have to be a partner in business it doesn't mean we have to sit every shop is around the same table it doesn't mean that i have to tell you all my secrets boundaries are a healthy thing you have to know midwash medvement but the fighting doesn't have to be the animosity the mistrust if you have to protect yourself you have to protect yourself so i say to you truvia law means you're bigger you don't need pettiness you don't need these arguments and fights in your life people who are small live on a small level people who are big the madrid says you have to think about malchus not about hiring a bodyguard to protect the door so that you should be the only schnarrer in life you don't need that think about malchus shift hashem that's what you have to think about i say to you my dearest friends if there's somebody you don't speak to somebody have a sick such a fight with go make up from your side it should be pure it should be clean just say two words i'm sorry i promise you you won't die if you do i'll give the husband i'll give the aspect free i'm preparing for 120 and they say that you give the best eulogies in the world how much does it cost rabbi says there's three levels deluxe package super deluxe package and then regular he says how much is super deluxe nine thousand what do i get for nine thousand he says i has spit from beginning to the end i don't stop crying not only do i talk about you like you know the greatest jew who ever lived ever will it but i don't stop sobbing and the whole oil i'm sobs says nine thousand dollars you're my sugar i'm not paying that what's a deluxe package looks packages i only cry once but i say unbelievably nice things about you that's how much is that four thousand sugar four thousand dollars i should pay for my eulogy says how much is the regular package this is five hundred dollars what do i get for that he said i say the truth you have to be able to look back at your own life when you're alive and say are you going to be proud of yourself that you weren't on speaking terms with your brother-in-law are you going to be proud of yourself that you didn't invite this person to your charles bar mitzvah is that going to make you proud are you going to be proud of yourself that this person you never spoke to again because they did something that was tucker wrong to you they gave you the wrong barakah under the hooper instead of that that low life gun of chakras you got that you give to dogs so i tell the guy listen to the brothers where do you have a better it's a funny thing people take it so seriously where did you become so small this is this is where you get your validation in life let's say the guy did something wrong it's a time to think bigger to feel bigger especially the young generation can't understand this type of merchandise it drives them crazy they approach it don't get it so it's time for the older people to become a little younger to become fresh to be born again be able to expand our horizons i wanted to say verizon's but expand our horizons and then you could use verizon to make a call and say let's meet and you know what will happen your circulation this rosh hashanah will flow much better because there won't be any parts of your body that are amputated they'll all be part of the oneness i said over one year from schneider cutler shiva of lakewood he said license guido do means don't scrape off the skin the gemara says in your vomits you'd give him a license gaia do means don't splinter up into groups he said what's the connection he said it's the same thing when jews splinter up from each other it's like scraping off a piece of your own skin because everybody is one body where one organism when i separate myself from you it's like i scrape off my own skin it's the two taichung and lice is going to do the shot and the gemara it's mama's the same thing and it's so it's so true it's so real you'll see you'll push it you'll you'll feel like a greater person you feel like a better person so i bless you and i bless me we should have the courage and the resolve like the basham this father told them to live in to love withdrew and even somebody you feel doesn't deserve it there's no room today for disputes and fighting it doesn't work anymore it's not about claudius stroll wants today the only thing everybody wants it people can't deal anymore with fragmentation and this hatred if it's on a community level or an individual level it just doesn't work anymore i can't get up by shaloshudust and speak to people about loving other jews and i'm going to fight with my brother it's a joke i can't do it you can't do it you can't do it i don't speak to my brother and then i'm telling you you have to have mysteriousness people can't respect it anymore we all have to challenge ourselves in our own life not to judge others but to challenge ourselves if we are living in a petty way in a petty way you can't talk about god and i can't talk about god in my personal life i don't practice anything i don't internalize it it's something that people can't deal with today hypocrisy is the worst thing today what do they say do as i say not as i do maybe i don't know if it ever worked i don't know maybe he did maybe that i don't know but today you're finished i gotta you gotta you have to live it you have to live it and even in small things so therefore my dearest friends make the call make up create more love and unity of the jewish people you get rid of the reason you get rid of the effect ava's kingdom creates redemption [Music] foreign [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] okay [Music] foreign 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gentile in mexico doesn't know chiata paltry yeah if some fellow in vietnam uh or in the tip of china or japan or new zealand or in the congos or in slovakia or in sarajevo doesn't know kiata paltay huh or in muncie or in lakewood or in barra park or in williamsburg or in benebrach articulating its vision the vision is it's not my own little my own havre my own clique you this guy is not a click ultimately my mission is vieda cole paul chiata palto to change the world without bite navel after transformer so he says to him listen he says he said on 909 if there's a hundred thousand jewish children in this place it's a big very big community and you're going to build moistness you're going to build institutions and you're going to have 999 jewish children learning tara that's a success rate beyond the imagination even a muncie 999 learning terror leviathan show you how bar vista by coming the leviathan you're going to get share that bar you're going to get oil mahaba vista becoming shy islam is visible or the mohabba you'll have you'll have and 310 worlds like the mission says at the end of uh you'll have fewer than ten worlds but you slices you didn't accomplish talk about setting setting the bar right this is says i want to go up to my father he says shabbos every jew goes back to my father comes yehuda and says how can i go up to my father when there's a nar shakshura banafsha i can't go up to my father i can't have vacus intimacy with my father are you gonna get punished no you're doing well but your mission you didn't accomplish reward you're gonna get you're a good guy the checklist you checked off no question you're a good guy his soul is intertwined with his soul this is what we have to understand in your neighborhood in your house on your block and your shoulders are nar there's a nar who's becoming a slave to the egyptian prime minister you want to run you want to go to your father hey i love you i can't face my father my father is going to look at me and say who is the king you say but i brought you so many so many others vannah where's the child what do i answer for that ah it doesn't matter but now i can't live without this child that's a perspective vieda copochiata pialtoy we live in a time that there is not so much powerful concentrated leadership people complain all day yeah we i need a leader i need a real rabbi i need a real tsardic i need don't hold your breath there's a lot of good people a lot of good people but the buck today don't pass the buck to leaders you know who's the leader you you you you you looking for the god of adar look in the mirror in your corner best of the god ladar that's how it is today that's how god wanted it grassroots you you you there's no he's gonna do it no you there's one night there's one gnar that you can bring back to his father only you only me only him only her there's one night only you can do i can't do it don't pass the responsibility shauna you get up and you say i love you if i love you 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