Selichos 5775 Kumzitz - With Rabbi YY Jacobson & Yoeli Lebovits

[Music] okay that he know my G [Music] my [Music] can you know oh [Applause] can oh in in no I [Applause] [Music] good good Ben share with you from the bat can have a little in the background if they want he says it on the PK that we say now in the coming days and weeks [Music] says which is so in the capital he says and he finishes later on he says what does that mean in English with you is forgiveness with you you forgive in order that people should fear you doesn't make sense all the ma ask he say you don't forgive so that people should fear you if I know that if I hurt you you're not going to forgive if I know you're a good skite you're a mushy fellow I can insult you I can harm you you're going to forgive so I'm not afraid of you right there are different types of parents different types of teachers those you're afraid of because they're not forgiving the says you always forgive why you should be [Music] scared so this is what the bat says yeah his grandson gives it over in his name he gives a mush it's a gal mush I don't know if the mush was understood then as much as it's understood today but this is the mush that the AL balat gave I'll just use current currency to illustrate it but the mush is his it's not my mush says imagine 2006 the real estate Market is M booming every Y is making lots and lots of money on real estate barem hopefully he saved up a little bit also but probably not so he decides it's time to up the level to upgrade the market to upgrade the situation so he buys property in Manhattan he's going to build a whole block of Condominiums he takes out a loan from the bank for no less than $45 million he's going to build but it's very obvious that his profits are going to be not double but triple if not more he'll be able to pay back the debt alot comes 2008 is kadash there's a recession nobody is buying his Condominiums he has no money to develop it no money to pay back the debt and there's a $45 million loan without interest so he calls up the manager of the bank it's time to meet we got to negotiate says the B there's two types of meetings sometimes you come into the manager this is what he says he looks you in the face and you tell him I would love to pay the loan but you know the mat there was a crash everybody's hurting it's time to bite the bullet I got to buy the bullet you got to buite a bullet Let's Make a Deal the man looks at him and says no way 45 million is 45 million plus 20% interest every week I need [Music] $45,000 you look you burst out laughing you go home you don't even think about it it's not fine it'll take you to court you'll push it off a year a year hopefully 15 years yeah reminds me it's not from the M but it's a good it's also a Jewish story there was once a p every Jewish story there was some one p a mythical P who made it into all the stories who he is right somebody once said my mother always served leftovers was still looking for the original meal so so anyway this graceart the galak tells him that the Jews have a the P had a dog and he would M love the dog but he didn't just love the dog he loved the dog like Americans love dogs tremendous and somebody told the pirates that the Jews have aab they know how to teach dogs how to speak but they don't tell the secret but they know how to teach dogs how to speak so he calls into the Jews and he says I want you to take my dog and teach him how to speak cuz then we can have Mish a real real connection we don't know how to do it no no no if you don't do it I'm going to expel everybody from the city so they meet for three days three nights they're they don't know what to do the water the wood the wood Chopper says get some pars they say you what what do you know about this listen I have an A you don't have an A I'm going goes to the pars and he says it's true we know how to teach dogs how to talk but it doesn't happen in one day it takes seven years takes a seven years give me a dog for seven years I'll spend time with him I'll teach him how to speak in seven years I give him back galic gives him the dog seven years comes home with the dog Drews ask him what happened he tells they start screaming at him you're crazy in seven years the dog won't speak he won't expel us he'll murder every single Jew in town anle says listen this was my in seven years lots of things could happen the first thing in seven years can the hunt pay it in the door can die I feel the in seven years the can die I feel I can also die in seven years don't worry about it in 7 years 7 years pass the [Music] everybody is alive that morning the P sends a messenger we're looking forward say what are you going to do now he says don't worry goes to the p and he says last night when seven years were up middle of the night your dog started to talk wow unbelievable bring him bring him 1 minute let me tell you what he said he started to tell all the stories that happened in your bedroom over all the years since he knew you but it just shoot him right away shoot the dog right away so uh there's a lot of there's a deep deep lessons in the story sometimes how you have to deal with life sometimes that's how you have to deal with life so you come not every problem problem sometimes there's certain things you have to deal with you don't have to become uh you don't have to get entrenched in every problem so the banker says I want I want every week I want tens of thousands of dollars the you come home you tell your wife he a m there's nobody to work with you you don't even think about it he says within 3 years he wants $45 million plus interest it's not be there there's nothing to deal with you're not afraid you're not dealing with it fine you have a headache says the balat but what happens if you come into the bank manager he looks at you he holds your hand and he says listen I understand I understand I'm not getting paid but let's work out a deal tell me what you could do I'll tell you what I could do let's make a payment plan 20 years 30 years we'll cut the interest we'll reduce a little bit of the original loan but tell me what you could do we're making a plan and he makes a plan that's considerate and respectful of your situation now you come home you tell your wife now you got to [Music] pay you forgive so now this was a type of God who says I want my 45 million in two years with interest there's nobody to deal with I'll see you next him Kip I'll see you in seven years say about understand how Works says let's talk I want to know who you are tell me about your struggles tell me about your recession tell me about your depressions tell me about thear tell me about your tell me who you are let's let's work out a life that works for you according to your capabilities according to your nature according to your according to who you really are as a [Music] person when a Drew realizes this he says Ah now I have to live up now I'm embarrassed if I don't pay [Music] [Applause] [Music] I [Applause] [Music] die [Applause] y [Applause] it [Music] my [Music] la [Music] everyone [Music] [Applause] [Music] I and I [Music] and [Music] [Applause] [Music] la la la la la [Applause] la la la la la la [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] and [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] as everybody knows this even if not from the m at the end of yum at least from the nigan the nigan says how lucky are you look before whom you're cleansed and who cleanses you your father in Heaven he brings two from from the mik of the Jewish people isem mik means hope but he Tes mik mik as a mik gathering of water just like aik purifies the Imp purifies the Jewish people how lucky are you want to ask you a simple question my dear [Music] friends re lived some 1500 years [Music] afteru sounds like is saying a you're so lucky look who cleanses you your father in Heaven myash what's the novel statement of RAB AKA the whole the whole tanak is filled with this message that the Jewish people can be cleansed by the the whole he finds a in [Music] AEM comes and says he discovered something new you're so lucky Hashem cleanses you there's dozens and dozens and dozens of and with this theme [Music] ET the is is there's a very deep message is saying and it's very relevant to our times and our people our communities our children everybody knows in mishna every word is precise every word is meticulous there's no extra words but it seems like herea adds two extra words he says [Music] the words are unnecessary we all know that a mik cleanses those who are impure he could have [Music] said just like a mik purifies who does it purify we know that it purifies those who the mik of the Jewish people ism for the Nan it wouldn't work if you take out the two [Music] words right but if I'm not mistaking the mishna was written before the I believe so why did rebi put in these two words [Music] one heard from the this is what he said he made a very deep V said we don't T the mishna right is saying something very special say a mish the last Miss of the second has to go to the mik meaning Ezra made that somebody who experiences an emission of seed has to go to the Mikvah before they learn or before they say krishma Ms later the nullified the Tak because it was very impractical that people M couldn't D in the morning before going to the mik but this was the Tak of Ezra Ezra there was no ding no saying kishma until they went to the mik the what happen car somebody e t very serious t t he has an emission of a liquid that makes him t for seven days somebody touches a corpse he's t for seven days in middle of those seven days he sees seat experiences seat should he go to the mikah even if he goes to the mikah he's still T he has a much bigger T he has to wait seven days they have to sprinkle ashes paruma he has to wait seven days so what does it help if he goes to the mik no he should go to the mik even though he's going to remain t with the bigger T but he's still going to become T from the smaller T from tas's carry who cares if he wants to learn if he wants the DAV if he wants to say kishma so even though he's going to remain T but by going to the mik he'll get rid of Tas so he could D he could say even though he still has to wait seven days for the bigger t a mik those who are T and they remain T after the mik doesn't mean people and they become no those who will remain after the mik but still it doesn't delegitimize the fact that the mik was MRE them from a smaller even though in some areas he's going to remain Tom what does this mean Drew comes to the and he says God listen I'm a complicated story like so many people sitting here and trust me I'm not ready to deal with everything I'm not now ready for a makeover for a transformation there's still a lot going on in my life I don't have mental space I don't have energy but you know what there's one thing that sits on my chest there's one thing that's bothering me I want to do cha for that I want to change one detail in my life I don't like it's really bothering me it's not good that I want to do that I want to get rid of of that I want to repent for you might think Hashem says listen if you want to be real you want to deal with everything fine you want to start playing games this year I'm not interested in games imagine imagine somebody needs an invest needs a loan he's starting a new business he comes to you you could lend money and you give him a loan for $70,000 three years interest free three years later you call him up new he says what's your name I never heard from you I don't recognize you I don't know you anything what do they say when you do somebody a favor give them little rocks cuz they're going to throw them on you at some point that should be little not big save us haste I gave you so much money I don't know who you are get out of here an old says is stronger than how do you know said is if you borrow money you have to pay it back the Min is that you don't pay it [Music] back you're feeling guilty you meet him in SCH you say I want to meet you after DAV you go over to him and say listen the $70,000 I'm not dealing with that but $10,000 I'll pay you you give him 10 check for 10 listen you want to play games with me I don't have time you want to pay up you want to make a settlement you want to work out a time fine don't start lying to me yes this yes this not get out of my office a Jew comes to Hashem he says one thing is bothering me one sin get out of my office either you're ready to come clean don't start telling me this year this is [Music] not you're not dealing with a businessman you're not dealing with a stranger you're dealing with your father with your mother now what happens if a child is aranged from their parents we all know there are situations that parents and children are estranged they're not on speaking terms he has ESS she has ESS he has ESS you did this you said this you ow me this you do it this whatever the reason is call up your father and you say let's go out to eat comes out you sit down you say listen I'm not now getting into all the ESS I'm not admitting to anything let's just talk about sushi let's just talk about something neutral let's talk about global warming the father is not going to say either we address all the problems or I'm leaving you know why because any little relationship you can have with your child you cherish it you embrace it so a comes to hasem and he says listen I just want a little relationship with you one little thing I have to get rid of or one thing I want to start that this is like a I know you're going to be T afterwards but it doesn't take away from the fact that the mikah accomplishes a revolutionary act in a person's life it's so true many people's lives we often look at religion at yish as everything or nothing and since I'm not g to be like my father like my I'm not gonna be likeone so therefore garnish they say open your hearts there was a Robert Schwarz his name [Music] was had he wasn't St she knew how to do it but he dies he comes up to heaven and you know they print out Google gives the a print out of everything you did everything you said they look at this guy's database Mr Schwarz he didn't do one Mitzvah in his life only a the Su says come to G come to the barbecue on the way to the barbecue Malik says wait wait wait wait on January 6th 1994 he was walking on 42nd Street in Manhattan there was a homeless man freezing outside he said sir sir sir I haven't had a drink in two days I need one more nickel to be able to buy a bottle of orange juice please give me a nickel Mr Schwarz took out a nickel and gave it to the man he did a mitvah you have to reward him it's a big emergency meeting in heaven here's a guy who sinned for 95 years he did one little mitvah he gave a nickel to a homeless man January a cold night so that's that that's why we're not going to punish her 4 hours they had a meeting even Hashem came to that meeting came the time of the verdict they gave a clap and they said give him back his nickel and let him go to hell there's one problem there are no nickels in heaven in heaven you can find a gar you can't find money in heaven money is here not there soide they're still waiting to find a nickel to be able to give it to him and send him where they want to send him and he's still enjoying the benefits of his don't look at and say this whole thing doesn't belong to me it's too much it's too big leave me alone leave me alone I have enough guilt somebody asked me what's the definition of a Jew I said a Jew is somebody that if he doesn't feel guilty he blames himself I have enough guilt in my life leave me alone it's too much the mik is not about eliminating everything focus on one in your life one in your own life in your relationships in your truthfulness and your honesty get rid of one stain focus on one issue that's bothering that you know is not good for you just do that clean that up because [Music] it's away [Applause] away [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] love [Music] my [Music] [Applause] [Music] Laing by [Applause] [Music] again [Music] again in [Applause] [Music] [Applause] redem Master my [Applause] again you [Applause] know know [Applause] la la la [Applause] [Music] [Applause] high in [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] come [Applause] [Music] come [Applause] my [Music] [Applause] and and [Applause] and [Music] la [Applause] la [Music] the no [Music] [Applause] [Music] la because of my brothers and friends because of my brothers and friends please let me sing please let me pray peace the [Music] [Applause] the we love the know [Music] la [Music] [Applause] la [Music] so rman of bre once said now [Music] done he said my dear friends this what's the difference between and trust me I know this from experience said what's the difference between a speech and a song a niggan so if somebody's giving a speech and the middle of their talking somebody else starts talking what do we call it in English interruption or heckling in modern slang a Heckler but what happens if I'm singing a song and the middle of my singing you start singing we call it Harmony so I guess what he was saying is that the objective in life is to stop talking and to start singing because there's two types of people there are people who are always talking and the world the world is always interrupting them cuz when anybody opens their mouth you're interrupting them and then there are people who are singing and then uh the world is harmonizing with them what he didn't say but I think is true is that some people even when they sing they're talking and some people even when they speak they're singing so I want to bless you that this year you and us and I even when we speak we should be able to sing people who sing everyone is harmonizing with them and people who speak everybody's interrupting them so tell they say the story happened with the of luin nobody's interrupting me they're just harmonizing with me it's fine says I to ask you one question in your [Music] life have you ever hurt somebody in a really serious way is there a a young Jewish woman whose feelings you might have really hurt in the past were you married before were you engaged before did you break up a without asking forgiveness because sometimes what happens is if I hurt somebody very badly in life and I never asked forgiveness so there's like a negative energy and that blocks certain bras certain blessings certain energies to come to me he's I was never engaged this is my first wife says but did you hurt anybody's feelings think think when you were younger that something happened he says no nothing happened I wasn't engaged I wasn't in a relationship with anybody I didn't break anything up says when you were child you never made a promise to anybody says Ah it was nothing he says what what's the mice says when I was a child my next door neighbor we used to play all the Kids on the Block so there was a little girl I used to play with and everybody used to joke you know they're going to marry each other they're going to marry each other and one day I was 9 years old and we climbed together up a tree on the Block and she asked me if I would Mar marry her and I said yeah of course I will but I was 9 years old it wasn't then I got older she got older we moved on says did you ever ask her M did you ever ask her forgiveness what forgiveness of course I didn't ask your forgiveness we were friends as kids and then you know you grow up life goes on he says she believed you she believed you that you're going to marry her you have to go ask him says re I'm married now for 20 years this is when I was a kid I haven't seen her in more than 20 years I told you go to LIC what's in liip says go to liip he goes to liip we does you where you go liic he goes to the marketplace there where everybody is starts pouring starts pouring so he runs under one of the vendors you know they have these uh umbrellas huh the canopies yeah he runs under a canopy with a lot of people they're protecting themselves from the rain so it's very tight everybody's there and suddenly he feels there's like an elbow in his ribs you know somebody's like in your ribs so he takes a look and he sees you know it's a woman there who's also pushing so he moves away he moves away to give her space you know Snee boundaries so she tells him you're still running away from me so he takes a look and he sees says PL is B is is neighbor for many many years ago I can't believe you're here I never asked you Milla so I've been married for 20 years I didn't have a child I know I promised you to marry you I never asked you forgiveness please please please please forgive me if I hurt you I lied to you I deceived you I backstabbed you I cheat I ask you please please forgive me with a full heart there shouldn't be any any negative energy between us so she looks at him she sheds a sheer she say I forgive you Valic he leaves liic decides he's going to go back to visit his mother on the way home he's going to go visit his mother where she lived in his old city where he grew up goes there and the neighbors already passed away but the brother of this girl was still there he was living there he in the home of his parents shom he says by the way regard from your sister my sister which sister my sister you you're insane you're muga I saw what do I saw your sister liick 3 days ago regards he says sugar you didn't see my sister I spoke to her my sister sister's not here anymore she's gone for years well she died died 20 years ago you don't know the mea so I don't know the MSA what's the [Music] M she says he says my sister never got over her connection to you never you got married you got married in another city your parents went your siblings my parents went neighbors but that night my sister didn't wake up she was so heartbroken she was so devastated she didn't wake up my sister's dead for 20 [Music] years so you understood that Thea arranged that the sh should come down just to be able to forgive him for the pain that he caused [Music] her you knowed asks what's the difference between children and adults and he answers adults keep grudges and children don't keep grudges how many times does your son or daughter tell you tatti I hate you I'm not speaking to you again in 10 minutes you give them ice cream and they're your best friends Mommy I hate you I wish I had a different mommy 10 minutes later you give them a hug and you're the best mommy in the world an adult tells you I'm not speaking to you again 15 years later they still don't tell you good chabas they don't invite you to the because 15 years ago they had a a dispute [Music] business children are immature adults are mature why do adults keep grudges and children forget right away so this is what he says children choose being happy over being right adults choose being right over being [Music] happy we would rather be miserable but we're going to be right so I won't speak to my uncle I won't speak to my brother-in-law I won't speak to my sister-in-law I speak to my brother I won't speak to my sh for 25 years to pick up a phone to say I'm sorry because I'm going to be right I'll be miserable but I'll be right so the Mish says in that even Kipper could only atone between man and God between man and man you have to speak to the person even the re says I'm sorry I can't help you you're the creator of the world I'm sorry I could only forgive you what you did to me I can't forgive you what you did to him so I want to bless myself and bless you on this Holy Night of SLI to realize that in life we can't afford to have negative energy between ourselves between people it's the worst thing it's a terrible thing should have the courage and the conf confidence to be able to create Bridges between people to be able to create peace between people not to have grudges and carry resentments tell you an unbelievable but first give us [Music] a they are for my they are good we are Nation for they are go [Music] they are go oh ohome la la la la [Applause] [Music] there are go oh may I go oh oh we are are my I is your the the the your the [Applause] I'm your your your your your is your your is your oh the sil Howes your your k May I your I your I I made [Applause] my she [Applause] [Music] la my love your man is your man look la [Music] my [Music] I'll leave you with this little insight we say in so this and is Reina and before Rea Rea is ation of Ru Joy celebration dancing how does that come to that was the Reena Reena is a [Music] nan that's why before we had to have [Music] a so the truth is the B the holy B once came to a town they said reab we need you to speak to our cousin we have a very strange cousin in Kipper he through the whole he starts [Music] dancing he's dancing there's M he's delusional what are you dancing [Music] for okay let me see it comes to I hear you start he start dancing what what SK what are you [Music] dancing says why shouldn't I dance says it's confession of sins what's what's the T so he says the King has a beautiful palace different people are in charge of different duties in the palace this one is in charge of the food this one is in charge of the Heat this one is in charge of the guest this one is in charge of the art this one is in charge of the treasures everyone is in charge of different parts says and then there's a person who's in charge on cleaning up the mess he's given a broom and given a mop and he cleans up the mess so tell me when he's cleaning up the dirt he doesn't dance he doesn't sing of course he sings He sings cuz he's cleaning up he has the to clean up the dirt in the king's Palace he says Al you cleaning up the dirt in it's the king's holiest place of course you sing to clean up the mess [Music] that's that a Jew has to realize he's cleaning up the little dirt in the most precious beautiful perfect holiest Soul which is his own or her own gave a marshall about you know now is the season of the is going to go but all the this is the season the high season the rabbis give sermons and the they say that the kak once kidnapped a rabbi and the president of theog so I'm going to shoot you all but you have a last wish so the rabbi says a whole year I prepare for myip sermon let me say it what's your last week a whole year I prepare my songs for y let me sing it president what about you your last wish he says kill me first so the B says b says that there was once a a lion in the jungle the lion got into a bad mood when the blade gets into a bad mood everyone is terrified the king of the jungle what do he do so the fox RAB fuk said I have beab 300 jokes I'm going to say them to the lion and he left everything will be good they start marching to the king the fox is going to give over 300 stories jokes on the way the fox turns to the vulf the wolf says theol I forgot a 100 jokes okay you have 200 few he turns to the he to the deer I forgot another 100 dropes okay you have 100 left that's fine the Mish by the Lion's Den the lion comes out thousands of animals turns around he says a bed a ble turns to the beer I forgot the last hund last 100 the lion is here he forgot the fox TS them he says basically each and every one of you got to go and just speak them what you have to say without me says people hire andon as a fox you should give over all the nice entertaining jokes he at some point turn to the people say talk to them face to face say what's on your heart sadly many of us were so used to the routine that we're not there anymore but everybody knows in there was a kid who screamed cuz that's all he knew so I want to bless you should have the courage this to be able just to say meaning to be able to speak to naked pure without any agendas if you have to use your own words you use your own words could speak in English speak in Yiddish can even speak in French they say that he knows different languages but to be able to speak to speak directly from your heart before we go to finish off with [Music] a of the Holy the is also he had terrible terrible opposition terrible this was the time of the against they hunted him down they persecuted him terribly there was a yid got himid he was a ren pinsk they threw him out of pinsk he came to bad in bad there was a a wealthy Jew who despised and he always tried to prove to the community that he's unsuitable to be a he's from the cat he's from the cult you can't have him as a ro but he never managed to succeed once he conceived a scheme in the afternoon he came to the and he said I want to ask you m he was a vicious man shrewd man I want to ask you for all the I caused you would you be me of course what's the question gives him a hug gives him a kiss says Reb don't you believe that deserves a a drink that I the big mnet of bad have made up with you of course he had z n you know what z n is ah you don't know he 96% alcohol you drink a little K so you drink a little cup your out he had a little bottle fills up a cup for the bad a cup for himself what was his plan A we're made up he gives a little sip pours the rest in his bosom but a drink what he want says I'm a sned like me to make up with you with it deserves a second drink don't you s pours him a second cup of says drinks it you see it pours the cup down his says three times is a to make it really stick let's do a third gives him a third cup of 96% drinks it he finishes it he says he leaves the house he's so happy he understands when kidre is coming is going to be somewhere under a table and then he'll be able to prove what type of they have the stone smashed he underestimated comes this man was never like this it's like the mice of the Jew goes to depressed so he meets a let here on forche says why you so depressed he says I didn't do one a this year I checked on my iPhone I didn't do one the whole V is going to be in vain I didn't do one says what's the problem there's a half an hour left for says what can you do in a half an hour he says plenty says say your next door neighbor you love him or you hate him he says for sure I hate him so why don't you go in before him and give him a beating would he have a better a than beating up then you'll be able to do idea goes into the man's house starts hitting him and shoving him and punching him and kicking him for 20 minutes to do poor guy is he leaves the house now he's going to have a real be be able to as he's going down Street the wife of the beaten Drew comes out says I don't know who you are I don't see you'll never know what a great Mitzvah what a great Mitzvah you just did anyway comes this guy is so happy he was never so happy he got the off drunk who walks in for the K goes over to the place DAV the the many after they stay in say the whole different communities used to be the for so after he gets up to theer and he starts saying this person is very upset he had his whole plan didn't work the re was there daving regularly wasn't drunk he wasn't intoxicated everything was normal but and he comes to Capital Bas start saying a three [Music] times literally it means how do I know that you want me that you like me you won't allow my enemies to triumph over me you won't allow my enemies my enemies to triumph over me he says it three times and then he translates in in middle of as the but his translation is not the he gives his own translation this is what he [Music] say F to live how do I know you love me that even my biggest enemy will not suffer because of me if you really love me make sure that no Jew in the world even the one who hates my guts don't allow him to have any that's all I ask you if you love me make sure to clean away anything even for my worst enemy he says this three times even this year do Mish had a la EV you can understand he had a heart of rock he melted middle of till he comes over to the Reb say the Reb's he couldn't take it anymore this is all he asks the night of himer that this low life this mush who wanted to get him drunk out of him he shouldn't suffer he became how much the greatest of the that that year the greatest BR he can have in life one of the greatest bres that you know that between you and another Jew there's no negativity there's no negative energy so for this we should have the courage to make the call to send the email but better to make the call to that one person that we're not on speaking terms that one person we have an issue with it's your fault it's not your fault you're right you're wrong in life it's better to be happy than to be right so you'll be wrong but be happy I you [Music] know oh [Music] [Applause] la oh la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la [Music] h [Applause] [Music] know name [Music] la know [Music] know [Music] say [Music] for [Music]