Sefirat Ha'omer: Counting Our Way to Better People - Rabbi Avi Wiesenfeld

[Music] there was a person who was walking along the street and all of a sudden he sees a hundred dollar bill floating down in front of him and he looks this is very interesting money floating from the sky and he picks it up he's a real hundred dollar bill he keeps walking a few more steps and he sees another hundred dollar bill floating down he's looking at what is going on over here this is unbelievable there's money coming down from Sherman so he looks up and he sees there's a marpesset there's a balcony and on this little balcony that's coming out of the person's apartment is a young child a three-year-old child and a three-year-old child has taken the father's wallet father doesn't know and he's got the wallet and he's having a great time he's gone this world and he's slowly you know one by one taking everything out of the wallet and he's dropping it down this hole in between them are present in between the balcony over there and this kid is having a great time and this person walking on the street is looking at amazement to see what's going when is the parent going to realize what the child is doing and it waits a few moments and then all of a sudden the uh the father you see you know peeks out of the window and starts screaming at the child say what are you doing give me my one about what have you done and he shreds him inside and the fellow realized himself the following this to be your old child a three-year-old child that did this he took a wallet he took hundred dollar bills what does he know he has no idea what's a hundred dollar bill he doesn't know what the worth is he doesn't know what damage he's doing no idea and it struck a chord because when a person doesn't realize with what he's dealing with when a person doesn't realize the hashivas of something then you don't treat it with the correct respect you don't treat it properly we're holding the situation of swiras every night we count the Irma and there's a lesson and there's a message to every single one of us and if this time would go by without learning the message it would be a tremendous shame because there's an opportunity there's a golden opportunity to grow to become a better person if this period of time would go by without us taking that hashivas would be no different to the three-year-old child that takes the hundred dollars and just throws them down onto the street because we don't appreciate what we have almost to the point of no return there was almost no difference Ghazal tell us between a Jew and a guy it was terrible Kalani saw were holding it such a low madrigue at such a low level when they came out of mitzrayim at that point they had to be taken out in order to continue to grow and to eventually reach Kabbalah satayu and exactly that happened because they came out of matron at the low level that they had and they went in seven weeks and they went to accept the Torah at housing tell us at the moment of harasina when the kalal were given the Tori by Hashem it wasn't just stun they were given it they had a level of a novel you saw all of a sudden had the level of a prophet it was unbelievable we're talking about people over here that were on the lowest level level of anything the lowest level possible and in seven weeks they got to the level of reaching a prophet a navi you know tell us that they saw the Thunder because they'll tell us they heard Hashem himself whatever that means but we're talking about a high level how is it humanly possible for a person to go on a level that's so low and in such a short period of time in seven weeks to go all the way up high and something which can take a regular person a lifetime a lifetime of work in seven weeks it was given to them the answer is it was given to them as a Matana it was a present it's impossible for a person to reach that level from such a low level without being given to as a Matana it's a present and that's exactly what happened cloudy throw on such a low level the only way to bring them up the only way to give them the Torah and such a tremendous tremendous Kiddush Hashem is to give them the Matana of becoming such high people and that's how they got there it means to us the following we're holding in a time between pesach and schwus where this there is a very special seat Heavenly help that a person can work on himself and at the effect of working in yourself now is a lot more than any other time of the year that means right now you have the opportunity to work on yourself to become a better person as each day goes by and the effect can be unbelievable and it goes further there's another question how can it be that a Jewish people right the nation of Israel Israel had reached the level of a Novi of a prophet and yet all of a sudden they worshiped the golden calf how is that possible how do we have people that reach such a high level but yet can sink so low once again and the answer is easy come easy go if you don't work at it if you don't work on yourself it just doesn't go it's not internalized it's not real and therefore cloudy soil lost it for that moment when he saw there was a Suffolk I don't know much rabino's not here anymore what's going to be eglazov avoidazole the lesson over here is a tremendous lesson and that is that we have a period of time at this moment of time that we are in this man between and we have to work on it we have to do something because this is the time that can affect us in a tremendous way we know there are certain right there are certain things that we keep Avail us we don't maybe make it we don't cut our hair all sorts of things why do we do this so we know that this period of time between this is the time that the tal medium of Rabbi Kiva died 24 Town medium of 24 000 until meeting with Rebecca with nifta between pesach and because of that we have to keep certain of avirus the camera tells us why what's the reason 24 000 tall medium and by the way these are not stunned tell medium this is we're dealing with good daily olama didn't these people were so special and why did they die they didn't treat each other with respect respect I mean okay all right okay it's so bad as that is it's so bad that 24 000 told medium of rubikiva the biggest good oil in the passing over to claudisro generation the generation was from them and the khazal tell us it almost stopped there was almost no continuation of the Toyota so why because you know it goes even furthermore wants to know what death did they have how did it work well what happened very simple it's a death called is a type of choking which is the worst possible death that a person can experience you can't breathe you can't it's it's it's terrible it's terrible come on let's learn but it happened for a reason that means this is the time that we have to realize and take that lesson to Heart that these people that were given this death were given it for a reason and we have to understand it we have to live it we have to work on it that's our avoider at this moment of time the reason that the Swarm bring down why they were punished in such a terrible way is because a person has to realize a very important thing Torah is the most important thing that we have Torah gives a life to a person yes it gives life to someone that a person cannot live without toe it's impossible but if a person just learns too and you have many people out there that they know a lot of Torah but when it comes to respect for other people when it comes respect for their fellow Jew when it comes to treating someone else with covered so that's a little bit shaky and the story is saying no no it's impossible Torah is not a book that you just open you learn and you close it that's not how it is is a way of life it's a way of living it's becoming something better it's improving yourself terror is meant to live apartment to make a person live a better life and if a person just learns the Torah as a nice knowledgeable idea or knowledgeable limit he's not getting anything that's not over Cuba has to be in a way that you're treating other people with respect that you're becoming a better person and that's the reason why they tell meeting of rebecciver who are obviously on such a high level were judged on a higher level than anybody else obviously because they were holding on a higher level but it's because of that because they were the future of giving over Torah to clarius wrong when a person is in the situation in the position of giving over toe to Claudia so he's got to be perfect his respect to other people has to be unbelievable and therefore because they lacked this maybe we would have looked at something small but for them it was unbelievable they were punished in such a way one of the gay Rebels said a wonderful thing you know it's an obvious question right what do we do we count every single day how many days was it from PESA really it should be the other way around you know imagine right I teach I teach so the Hassan tells me that now you can get this special clock that you press you set the date of when the wedding is you press start and then the time starts clicking and goes and goes and goes and goes like you know you've got exactly I don't know 423 hours and 200 minutes and how many seconds you've got left till the moment of the hopper unbelievable right it's a scary thought to see life ticking away slowly and slowly and slowly but you count down Yeshiva that's what they do you have a calendar on the wall how many days are we going back you ask them what are you going back for I don't know I just need to go back bagels and locks I don't know exactly what's going on but I'm excited to go back right what are they excited about you count down to something is coming up we're going to receive the Torah so shouldn't we do it the other way around why don't we come the other way around there's 24 days there's 23 days left that's 22 days left 20 days left 19 days the excitement should build up why is it the other way around why are we counting one two three four five and so on is an unbelievable thing he says because what we're counting over here of course we're showing anticipation our excitement for Kabbalah excited that Schwarz is coming we're going to get the tower again but it's more than that it's a what we're meant to be doing and this is something really when we count that I met every single night after marriage we have to have this in mind we're counting what have we done today what have we achieved today how much of a better person are we today than yesterday And if the answer is not much then we're not taking the lesson to heart if we're not becoming a better person and we're not learning from the lesson of Hazard what are we counting spirit for anyway we know hazal tell us that the carbon the offering that was brought by pesach was animal food the offering that was brought on is human food right so what's a person meant to do a person is meant to work for becoming a animal characteristic sort of person to a human person an animal can eat somebody else alive an animal will take another animal if he's hungry in order to survive I'll eat them alive AI because he has to survive a human being unfortunately can do the same thing the power that a human being has is he can eat another human being alive theoretically because him he can say the wrong thing he can do the wrong thing he can act the wrong way he can do all sorts of things that will literally eat somebody else alive that's an animal thing to do to worry about yourself and not anybody else the point of these days between pesach and schwus is exactly not that way it's for a person to count every day and to realize every day is a new day every moments a new moments is a time period that we're counting the days one two three what have we done today that we weren't yesterday on so many points particularly two points two points that I feel can help us very much in this Union of Shalom what can we do how can we behave better how can we improve ourselves when it comes to this sort of wonderful that says his followers if you go over to a lady and you give her a gold coin to watch you say do me a favor please watch this gold coin for me please don't tell her it's a gold coin you don't want to know I don't know you tell her it's a silver coin it's a gold coin you wrap it up and you give it to her to watch and you tell her it's a silver coin worth a lot less than a gold coin she damages it says the Gamora how much does she have to pay a gold coin or a silver coin sticker Morris is very simple she has to pay a gold coin but but it was only she was told a silver coin she was told she's watching a silver coin why does she have to pay so if Pam that sells had a wonderful wonderful thing he said as follows he said because true she was told it's a silver coin and that's what she accepted upon herself but there's no such thing as a claim of I didn't know how expensive it was it says to her Palm these teachers are something unbelievable a person in our relationship with other people can never turn around and say well I didn't know how important he was if I would have known who he was I never would have said that right we have this situation sometimes you know you're talking to someone you're not nice to the person and all of a sudden you realize who he is and he's become this amazing person in your eyes I'm so sorry I never would have spoke to you like this and never would have acted this way to you no no no no no because of palm we can't do that because every human being every Jewish person every individual is and we have to treat them that way and we'll never have a claim of oh I didn't know how important he was no such thing there's no such claim no Diner a person has to treat everybody with respect so one of the points which I really want to mention out of two points which I feel we can really gain from is the following Point number one I was learning on the airplane on the way here to America from Heritage thrall I was learning machine and there's a mission emperor that says as follows the militia says that any person that gets skila any person that gets skeeler has to be hunk that's the Allah that's the mishnah here's the get on which means a person on Shabbos you know he has a I don't know has a vegetable salad and he decides to take out the Tomato from the cucumber salad because he doesn't like tomato so look there you go higher skila says the mishna one second not only do you give him a skeeler but you have to hang him also you can't just poult him with stones and kill him you're going to hang him but the micheliness is a very interesting thing you have to take him down before shkia before Sundown make sure that he is down he's no longer there what's the reason it says but the proportion explain every human being was created with Salem Maloy came in an image of God if that's true it's not right to have a human being somebody that was created in the image of Hashem hanging after night that's an extended period of time now what does that mean it's salam alaikum and I believe that if we get this down and we understand this and we internalize this it will help our relationship with everyone with whoever we deal with on a daily basis you know what is cellular Kim so I hope once a very interesting thing that a muscle what's a muscle a muscle is if I want to tell you something if I want to explain something to you what do I do I tell you what Marshall I tell you a story that sort of you know relates to what I'm saying and through the story you'll pretty much understand the point that I'm trying to make that's a muscle so they say the same thing over here who wanted in the world to put a martial killer of himself wanted to paint a picture of himself in this world in a martial form how do you do that the human being the human being is a muscle it's an illustration if you put that into your head if you understand that if you internalize that when you deal with somebody else you're not just dealing with a person you're dealing with it cellular Kim you're dealing with someone that was actually created in the image of God God put this person in the world as a muscle of himself now that's and you know I can tell you so many stories let me give you a couple of stories that really understood this they took this to Heart with Tesla it was originally big mashkier in England and came over he came over territor afterwards so he would very interesting he would never ever press the stop button in a bus well you have on a bus you have a bus and you press stop right I saw you you press stop and the bus driver knows to stop and hey he would never press it he would wait for somebody else to press it or somebody else that's leaving and we'll go off with that person so the answer of Death Star they said you know Weber you sometimes have to wait many stops until you get off and then you have to walk back to it why don't you just messed up is it very simple you know everybody's busy this one's busy running to Yeshiva he's running to Colwell he's running to work everybody's busy in their lives everyone's got what places where to go I should stop everybody because I have to get off here they should be delayed because I have to get off no it doesn't work that way it's an unbelievable thing it means that with Desta understood what it means another person the respect for somebody else was unbelievable when he was NAFTA so his son received a phone call on that air of Shabbos and it was an old lady who called up and he said uh Rabbi can ask you what is the time for hadlocks so interesting question to get you know rabbi's answering many questions during the day but like what time is it hold on a minute look on the calendar he looks up he tells us the time okay next shot Eric Shabbos she calls up and says same question Rabbi when is her names okay your answers again after three four five six weeks he's realizing he's getting his phone call every single hour of Shabbos he says you know uh you know I don't want to be disrespectful or anything but you know maybe you want to buy yourself a calendar and you can just look up on the calendar whenever Shabbos is she says Rabbi I'm sorry but you know I was calling your father with moisha for years and years and years every single Eric Shabbos he never told me to do this he never told me to get a calendar and his son realized wow look what his father did the father was had the whole shoulder of Claudia's soul on him who was bigger than the decision that remotesha made siamese twins you can't imagine but yet he had the time and patience for a person that needed to know when is that Lucas and Nevis because he understood what means another person he understood what it means the respect of somebody the respect of our fellow Jew is a tremendous tremendous thing it's something that we have to realize happened to me Othello comes knocking on the door on a Friday night it was during the way so there was during the meal and also get very knocks on the door and during the mail different questions and whatever so this fella was panting and puffing it was it was difficult for him he had walked uh 20 minutes from his house to my house then up to seven flights of stairs to me as well it was unbelievable so what was the story the story was that the power went out air of Shabbos and there was no power in the house the place was dark there's electricity nothing and um on Shabbos unfortunately sometimes it happens that a Jewish person a non-from person not religious person came over to the house to the apartment building and he fixed electricity so on Shabbos it was switched on by a Jewish person now he had food on the hot plate and on the crock pot and whatever and he wanted to know what am I going to do now am I allowed to eat it or not so he comes up and he's you know am I allowed to eat the food or not I think it's unbelievable like you came all the way like you came all the way you have to remember and not just did he walk 15 minutes to get to my house and then seven flights up the stairs but it was raining it was cold it was windy it was dark what are you doing it for and it's interesting because he actually called me before Shabbos because he knew this might happen he asked me before Shabbos tell me what you know is it okay anyway so I said you came all the way for this he said no no I I knew it was okay because I had asked you before Shabbos but I have a neighbor a lady who lives by herself and she was very nervous am I allowed am I not allowed maybe yeah maybe no he said I wanted to put her at ease I wanted to make her feel it's okay I asked the rabbi the question and he said it's okay and therefore now she'll feel better it's unbelievable that means we have a normal person right I give you stories of God you'll say all right what's it gonna do with me here's a normal hush of a great person but look what the lengths he went to make sure that someone would feel good that someone would be happy that someone would be at ease it's an amazing amazing thing remember this is Alma Meltzer Shiva for 60 years almost 60 years Mrs Alma Meltzer one afternoon they watched and he came to his house and he walked up the stairs of his house and then all of a sudden he turned around and walked back down and the people who are watching you maybe tell me them whatever they were looking and said rabbit what's the matter they saw him pacing up and down up and down in the front of his house and they knew her business almond every moment that he had was so precious there was no wasting time and yet he went up down and pacing up and down in front of what are you waiting for someone remember what's going on he said no no I'm not waiting for anybody so what's going what are you doing here it's a very simple there's a maid there's a cleaner in the house right now a lady and I went up the stairs and I realized and I heard that she's singing and she's cleaning and she needs to sing in order to you know keep it going so I realize if I walk inside so she's gonna be very embarrassed you imagine that God will Adobe this is Alma walks in in your middle of singing she'll be terribly embarrassed and she'll probably stop singing as well I didn't want to deny her you know her singing and to be embarrassed this is how godolin thought this is what Sadi Kim realized the effect of what we can do to other people we can build somebody up we can embarrass them we can push them down it's all up to us but we have to realize it tell you another unbelievable my sister Mrs Al Meltzer just a tremendous one Ruby says our meltzel was learning with this late at night it was one o'clock in the morning and the police was quiet the town was quiet and her business almond was sitting learning with this guy Bruce and all of a sudden there's a knock on the door one o'clock in the morning a knock on the door who could one you know a big Shayla something terrible so a real emergency so they opened the door and it's a young boy says your business almond rubber I need the godla dura's advice I have a private Shyla she said no problem goes into the private study with this fellow scrapus is waiting there five minutes 10 minutes 15 minutes 20 minutes 20 minutes What Child is going on over here so you think of maybe I don't know maybe he got maybe fantasy maybe so two o'clock in the morning almost so he sort of like opens the door of the study in a small way and he sees it Mrs almond is sitting there in his chair with his hands holding his head backwards and forwards thinking he says whoever can I help them don't disturb don't disturb what type of Shiloh is this another half an hour later the harusen knocks on the study door he seems with his almond on the floor tossing and turning this way that way thinking he says rubber rubber please I've never seen you like this what is it what's the strainer can I look up a savior figure you can I help you can I please he says no don't don't disturb now after another half an hour it's where we're holding three four in the morning whatever it is Alma comes out with a young boy he Pats him on his back he shakes his hand the young boy goes his way and Mr Salman comes back to his cup which says let's continue learning and and the fellow's like Reba please what was the Shyla what was it that was so difficult Mrs almond had it said the cloud is swollen on his shoulders every decision when every goddal came to a Mrs almond and yet this was a Shayla an hour and a half what could it be so I'll tell you this boy had just got engaged to a girl and they found out that the girl was diagnosed with terrible terrible disease and the boy came to me to ask the shyler should he break the or not break the shadow and it's such a serious Shayla to embarrass somebody can you imagine the shame that this girl will go through who said she'll never get married again what a terrible shame to shame another Jewish person is the worst thing that a person can do and that took with Mrs Salman's time because he understood and he appreciated what means a Jewish person what means to embarrass someone what it means shall I know who covered zealers there not to give respect and covet other people he really really understood it a number of years ago with a 50th wedding anniversary of a couple and they were celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary what a joyous wonderful occasion all the children were there the grandchildren people flew in from other countries to enjoy and to you know have a wonderful wonderful simcha and at one point you know it came to the time where someone was going to make a speech and the grandchildren turned to the grandfather and said Grandpa tell us how did you meet Grandma you know which restaurant did you go to which hotel how many drinks what suit were you wearing how many dates you know how did it work how did you beat Grandma it's very simple I'll tell you how tell her I met Grandma I met her at the hopper and met her at the wedding day which I think that's it what do you mean I didn't have time to buy a new suit you didn't do what how could you do that so I'll tell you the story very simple this there was a girl who's engaged who was coming to the khasana it was the day of the Hassan was the day of the wedding and she comes there wedding dress preparations suda food music everybody is excited it's happening it's a real thing they can't find the wholesome they just couldn't find the horse where'd the awesome go he was meant to be here he was he wasn't he ran they couldn't find him two hours later they realized it's all over he's run away cold feet Dover what can we do so who was there at the time zonnenfeld the wrath of yushalaim was there at the time it's a tremendous thing and he realized that Sarah to tell this girl I'm sorry to tell you but your horse and your future husband is just not here he's run away can you imagine the embarrassment the shame of a color who has to go home afterwards and say what a shame it didn't work out so got up in front of all the men and he said Rabbi Sai who wants to be guaranteed to have good children I'm guaranteeing you right now the promise that you will have a child you will have a family that will all be sure they'll give you nagas and everything everybody's sitting there saying wow what what a promise from the love of you shall I am at sadigm sonum felt to give such a promise how can you give up on that so the grandpa says I stood up and I said I'll do it I'm willing to do it to save the embarrassment of this girl this poor color with her David Robert to save the embarrassment I'll do it and he was to get a brother and all future Generations were from because of that why because he understood what it means not to embarrass somebody he understood what it means to respect somebody else that's Point number one Point number one point number two another Point give us an idea into how to help and how to become a better person treating other people better approximately just over 200 years ago the residents of Vienna were treated to the most amazing spectacle it was just an amazing situation it was the first time a train was ever going to go it was they were witnessed for the first time a train was ever going to move and this big train is standing there on the tracks right they've never seen a train move in their life and the crowd is there everybody's waiting in anticipation what an exciting moment we're making history we are going to watch the train and as the pessimist who's you know mingling through the crowd saying ah do me a favor this piece of metal is gonna move without a horse carrying it without a horse slapping it along it's impossible no it's not gonna go anywhere it's not gonna move nothing's gonna happen and the crowd are still waiting and all of a sudden the train starts whistling the noise is amazing everybody's waiting to see everybody's excited and and this pessimist is walking around and say look you see this is making a noise it's all they can do it just make a noise can't do anything ah it's not gonna go anywhere it's making a noise and all of the sudden the moment comes and the train starts to move slowly but surely and picks up speed and the crowd are cheering and everyone's excited and as well as walk around saying you see it's going to move but it's never going to stop it's never going to stop no the problem is the problem is there are people out there that only see the bad they never look at what the good when we look at other people in our relationships with everyone whether it be our wives our cabroosas our business partners our friends our family members we often concentrate on the bad point that we find and the point is we can't do that we have to learn to look at the good we have to look at other people and look at the good in them and if you look in the good and other people you'll respect them in a different way I want to end with a couple of things there's an unbelievable ramban the ramban rates in Paris parishes no say a famous ramban we know that pauses is one of the biggest sedges that there is that are longer centuries in all of the Torah and we know we have in the middle of pastures now so all the sukim of the Coronas that the Nasim brought each nosy brought this and this they all bought the same it's very interesting it's again and again repetition and everybody's like oh come on how long does it have to be why can't you just I don't know or something you know just Etc you know like one just doing one just you know the rest of them do both the same so they run bounces something so unbelievable this is so unbelievable it says the ramban because if we would do that there would be a pagan in the respect if you write one of them brought it and the rest also brought the same so they would say Well why'd you put it by him and why not by me the Torah which we know every word is precious the gomor we learn Gamora every letter of the Torah has been has a calculation white there white should be their way if it's not there what's going on it's a freshman there's a calculation there's not one extra word or letter in the toe and yet it says the ramban the Torah had to put in pasok after possuk after deposit why because not to embarrass somebody not to make somebody feel bad that's the reason sister very very amazing thing one last thing this myself said it was so many times that every time I say it it's so exciting it's such a miser that talks to us and can really change a person's relationship with other people 's famous myself there was a time of Muhammad was the time of the war there were Rockets there were bombs flying all over the place it was terrible it was dangerous it was very very very scary and at one point the main Yeshiva all the baham and Yeshiva were huddled together in the bomb room right the bottom of the me Yeshiva and if all the bottom were there this one was in his Corner saying his gemara this one was in his Corner saying to heal him this almost governing this everyone had their avoid what they were doing it was a quiet moment it was a very scary moment it was the moment that they realized that at any moment they could be hit and the moment came this there was a direct hit a direct hit to the megashiva the place shook like never before and then they waited because you all know that when you get a Direct Hit And it shakes there's only a few seconds until the whole place collapses and you never know what the outcome will be and everyone at that moment of time was absorbed in his own avoida and his work what he could do at that moment to save his life and it stopped it shook but it stopped and everybody breathed a sigh of relief that wow we were saved we were saved and they went back up to the basement address and they continued learning over to the beam in the middle of the basement address and clogged on the beam up the whole place stopped silence as follows he said everybody was down there and each person in his avoid and I'm not being missiles on in anyone's avoider and everyone's harsh up and everyone's doing the right thing but he eats one thought that his was the one that saved me Yeshiva this one thought his Gomorrah said to me Yeshiva this one thought he has to heal him said to me Yeshiva this one through his doubling said Each one and I'm not maybe he was and each one added to it without a question Yeshiva we know what it was there was a woman there was a woman also there at the time maybe she was the cook maybe she was the whatever it was she was a woman that husband had left her years and years earlier she wasn't able to get married again she was stuck husband ran away never gave her a get she was never divorced and she was stuck so for years and years this woman was stuck that Sarah the anguished the pain of a woman that cannot get remarried that's in limbo that style we can't imagine it's a powerful thing that at that moment of time whether me Yeshiva got a direct hit I heard that woman and I heard what she said and you know what she said she said I'm willing to give up and be Michael my husband for all that sorrow that he gave me I'm willing to give it all up and being Michael believed Shalom Everything Is Forgiven it's just saved me Yeshiva central time when a person can be movater on someone else when we all have differences and we do have differences we're human beings but when we realize that every person is special when we look at people in a good light when we try and help other people and give them cover give them respect can you imagine what that can do that's the time of spirit it's this time of spirit that we have to work on this I just want to mention one last amazing amazing thing I heard this years ago to remember who from in January 15 2009 when the U.S Airlines flight when it took off so a swarm of birds got sucked into the engine and it caused the tremendous tremendous sakona the engine stalled at the time and the captain radioed to the Tower and said I don't know what to do we need to make a crash landing now we've got to land now the problem was that underneath them was Manhattan and there were millions of people that could have been affected by that what does he do so he didn't know what to do can't make it back to the airport below he's got millions of people in Manhattan what's he going to do to go to a field we'll probably kill all the people on board she had to make a decision in a split second he made a decision to land on the Hudson River now to land on a river is not simple the nose of the plane has to be a certain height the wings have to be perfect years ago there was someone that tried it the whole plane collapsed the whole engine blew up and killed everybody on flight but in a split second the captain decided to make the decision I'm landing on there and with the calmness as if he's done at 150 times the captain announced Rabbi Sai brace we're making an emergency landing and everybody braced and with perfect Precision he landed on the river and everybody was saved and afterwards he came out as a hero he interviewed him and he said how'd you do that what happened how did you make that decision in that time and that pressure and that stress he said very simple when I was younger he lost his father and he remembers the pain the sadness of being alone I'm not having a father and he said at that moment of time when I realized how that much danger we were in I thought about the people on board I thought about the parents on board that their kids are waiting for them to come home and it was that that gave me the result that gave me the strength to do what I did because he thought about somebody else not all is about yourself that's exactly it's very sorry man the lesson of spirit time is every day we're counting it's day one day two day three because every day we're meant to improve ourselves and become better today than we were yesterday the lesson is first saw him is the teacher let's remember that let's work on ourselves let's work on our relationship with other people if we do that then there's Hashem well we come to shavus we come to matanuary here I'm giving you the Torah will be a clear will be a vessel that will be able to accept the Torah and that is our Hashem will work on our relationship with other people and should result here to have a wonderful Kabbalah thank you for listening