Save the World by Noticing Others... CHAZAQ event with R' Zecharia Wallerstein

I want to talk about very very specifically it makes a lot of sense to talk about it tonight and that is Yoshi but Sadiq in golus it's about Sadiq who went to girls but I want to specifically speak about him tonight and I want us to understand what it means to be at Sadiq how do you become a father so the first introduction to Lou yo safe hataik really was and that is the beginning of Pasha by a chef that says the following Ella told us Yaakov yo safe the child of Yaakov Aveeno was yo safe who roya's asked about trying with a shepherd Russell Shepherd who now has been a bill of has been a Zilpah but he cared about the underdog at the time that he was a shepherd so there were six tribes that were the children of of Leon Yaakov and there were four tribes that came from Billa of a Zilpah bill and Zilpah were not the wives of Yaakov the same way as Rocco Belaya they were schmuck house there were made servants when lot when loved one gave his daughters over so the meaning of those days was that each woman had her like am a trivet but took that took care of her so he gave their maid servants together with them bill of a Zilpah Yaakov had children with two chillen with Billa and two children with Zilpah but they were on the same level as the six tribes from Leah Joseph's born yo sips his father's favorite says in the parsha Joe sleeps on a different level yahuwah we know give him a special coat soon as I pass him he's the butler of the of the wife that Yahoo really wanted to work for which was Rocco so he's the special child he's even above the six tribes of laya he's double our of Rocco and for some reason he's the protector of the four children that were being made fun of by the six children of Leia because they were being called you guys you for you're not on our level you're the children of a maidservant our mother was mayor you're safe which we'll see that's what I'm talking about tonight Yosef could not see another person being hurt so he ran to his father and he said Yaakov my father do you know what's going on you know these six guys are making fun we don't want to use the word bully what sort of that kind of word and the brothers hated him for that he was a tattle-tale ER and they hated him for that the introduction of the Torah to Yosef hatzadik was they cared about the brothers they were being made fun of by the others this was the source of who Yosef was and this is what's actually going to go out throughout the Commish and save the world not only save his life would save the life of the world okay so my hero ask off-key I say Oliver became the brother saw that or is that Yaakov loved him more than them but you snow oh so they hated him the lawyers who dabbled with shalom they hated him so much they could not say shana like him they could not talk to him in peace so much they didn't like him okay yahuwah sees this and he's got to do something his kids are not getting along so what does he do he comes up with a master plan what's the master plan I'm gonna send Yosef on a mission he's going to go to his brothers to find out how are they doing and when they hear that he cares how they're doing they'll shake hands they'll hug your kids to make up and this whole thing will go away but everyone here in this room knows sort of backfired in a big way so the plastic says the following I spoke about this a whole week actually was in Lakewood I was a month see the plastic says the following so yo seems on his way to scam he's on his way to find his brothers well him tell you ish and a man fighting the man was Amala got real me they say Abbasid a Yosef was lost he was wandering in the field well chez Louis L'Amour McTavish and the Moloch asked him not were you going what do you want but to vaca SHhhh what are you looking for so there's two very big questions on this process question number one first you get lost then you get found the puzzle here says they found him he was lost no it's the wrong way around you don't find something and then it's lost its lost and then you find something so what's this plastic saying over here that went to a or ears FINA shave I saw that he found them and he was lost and he didn't show him I saw that he was wandering this sawed him tell you when he found him he flipped the words here that's one two if somebody's lost what do you ask him where you going how can I give you directions the mouth then ask him where he's going and the Malwa knew where he was going he's Amala so he asked him at two vodkas he asked him what do you want he wasn't asking him where are you going he said what do you want you're safe things are not going good between you and your brother's Yosef what do you want not where you're going well y'all man Yosef said it's a Shia NEMA Rakesh I want to be cooked I wanted to be accepted the big word tonight share is called acceptance I want to be accepted by my brothers everybody in this room and everybody looking through the share and every human being and on earth is looking for the same thing what is that acceptance but why be accepted by our husbands are we accepted by a wives what are we accepted by our parents we want to be accepted by the people we work with the people we live with we will do some crazy stuff to be accepted yes a fight Sadiq said through the mala my brothers don't accept me what do I want I just want to be accepted the plastic teaches us a very big lesson I came I was by shear before this and I told it to the girls this posture it says that he was he found him and he was lost it should have said he was lost and he found them once somebody's lost once the kid goes off to Dara what's the marriage is broken it's very hard to put it back together intervention takes a million times more energy and money and time than prevention the mala over here is teaching us a lesson why you'd say oh he found him he met him he talked to him he asked him what do you want and he realized after that that the Hina show you about Sunday that this boy is very lost and then he said you're very lost what do you want parents and children very late in life when you find out when your kids 17 and 18 that they're off to Dara it's very late in a marriage when you find out that your husband is not where you should be or your wife is not where they should be well they're online talking to people they shouldn't be that's he ready to he may say about Sunday well you tell you you have to spend time with the people that you're having a relationship with and if you spend time you'll find out maybe something that you don't know PNA sorry my son your wife needs more complements your child is lost he's doing things he shouldn't do he doesn't feel good about himself he doesn't feel loved he doesn't have self-esteem but how do you find that first has to be YMCA you you have to spend time you have to talk to the child then he may say about something you might find out are they a Charles lost in the field Makka pakka how do I help you what do you want if you wait until he's lost in the field to find them the marriage is lost or the relationship is was and you wait to find him at that point many times it's much too late so I spoke very much this week in Lakewood that parents specifically parents need to spend time with your children and need to explain to their children I think the the disease the mental disease of our generation is not bipolar or all the other letters and words that are classified as mental diseases I think the the origin of a lot of depression and suicide and cutting and all the other things that people are doing is low self esteem when you don't think much of yourself you project that so people don't think much of you and you go into this cycle of depression like what am I doing here I don't do anything anyway nobody appreciates me anyway nobody thinks of anything there's no reason for me to be here and there's a very interesting passage and I spoke about this for a long time and I think that it's extremely important in marriage and with children and in any relationship there's a fascinating passage and the end of pascha by a chef you're about sadiq is being challenged by the most beautiful woman in the world but he does says that you know say with a gilgul of adam joseph was very very beautiful we know that he looked like dr. Levine oh there's a Gemara that says that would be Schmoll coin god oh very small coin God all who was so beautiful that we know about certainly rugae mouth closed the princess said peel the skin off his face and stuff it because I want to be able to look at him for the rest of my life he was that beautiful she said of all that sorrow your mouth close to the king let him live the gomorrah says the mile walk him came down when they looked at my coin guard oh they said he looks a little bit like the shekinah we don't even understand what that means but that's very beautiful where's my coin god that was just a guild goal of you guys about something that's what Sadiq was very beautiful is a very fascinating medicine there's only I think he's the him and mm Ella but Darwin I melt dollar I'm Ella it says you're fain I am by my darling it says you fast Myra it was the toy it says he was very beautiful as a man so then it doesn't describe any other man ever in that description so he was very beautiful and if he does says she was created by the tsaatan to trip him up the Suttons creating a woman he's creating a woman so she was according to heed of the most beautiful woman in the world and she couldn't eat and she was losing weight and she was looking terrible and her friend said to her what's wrong with you and she said I have a slave that is so beautiful and I can't get him and it's making me so sick that I can't eat and the Egyptian women said a Jewish slave beautiful there's something mentally wrong with you can't be can't be we have the most beautiful men in Egypt can't be a Jewish slave should be so beautiful so the mayor says she invited her friends and she put them in a semi-circle and she gave them a knife and a nest ring I guess they didn't have grapefruits or oranges so that was their citrus fruits she gave them and they said I'm gonna bring him in it's a Madras Rhambo and she put his head in irons so that he could not move his head he had to look up and she brought him into the room and the Gemara says the the the measure says that they were in such awe of what he looked like that they were cutting they thought they were cutting the essrig they were cutting the tops of their fingers off so the measure says and the blood was running down their hands and she turned to them and said I'm sick look what you're doing you're cutting the tops of your fingers off this is the War of the Worlds how did he refuse her how did he today I talked to kids that are not that I'm a fellow Shabbos and off to Dara and angry because their Rebbe said something wrong to them well their parents didn't let them stay up to 4 o'clock in the morning everybody has reasons for being angry at Hashem nobody ever in the whole Tyra had a better reason than Joseph X having his brothers took him undressed him throw into a pit with snakes and scorpions to die he didn't die ok so they should have said wow he must be excited look at this kid he is not wearing any clothing he's in a bar and the snakes are going on running away the scorpions are running away the it has to be holy instead they sell them that's abuse he ends up going down to me try if you learn Rashi talk about abuse it says in Rashi that Poti far was gay he bought Yosef because he was a pretty boy he bought him for himself says Rashi so you're talking about yes about Sadiq Khan guys he was called in his side of the world this Holy Jewish boy who had a special jacket he was his father his Talmud move up it's trying to get attempted murder they tried to kill him then they sell him then he's born in such a house sure to be angry at Hashem doesn't ever easy a reason to go after that and stand this woman far away nobody cares about him anyway nobody knows where he is and Potiphar's wife who had the unbelievable vicar that says she was a sorcerer she was also very brilliant and she said to us about Sade why aren't you succumbing to my wishes and he said I have two reasons one you're married I don't commit adultery - you're not Jewish I I don't I don't sleep with women that are not Jewish I am not married to you this is not who I am but you never give a reason when someone asks you a question like that you just run for nails you don't get into a discussion because that's already halfway the problem but once he said that she said really she said I'm not married because in Jewish law by the non-jews there's no kaduche in with money or star but the marriage is consummated by a physical relationship to the man and the woman according to Jewish law that's one non Jew is considered married so she said you know my husband you know Rashi right you know my husband wasn't with me because he's gay so I'm not married I'm not married so quickly your Wars it's not adultery so there's number one answer out the door she says the other part that I'm not Jewish so the measure says she took him outdoors and she showed him the Stars she was a stargazer and Yosef had learned by his father had to read the Stars and in the Stars it said that from Potiphar's wife and yo safe we're gonna come to big tsadikim crying in Menasha very clearly it was written in the stars she said and who arranges the stars God so he was not Jewish it's gonna happen from the two of us I'm gonna come to Jewish Sonique him so now both your reasons are out the door that's why you don't give reasons he just run so you had a problem he gave her two reasons and she blew them out the door now what really happened with the stars being that she adopted oznas and oznas was called estas basmati fara she was considered the daughter of Asia's Potiphar even though she was it she was adopted but from her came a fry maranatha so what she saw in the stars is that from her and Yosef were coming a final menage but it was from her that she had estas that he was having a Friday Menasha so the store said it but the translation was wrong so ladies and gentleman how did yo save not mess up beautiful unbelievable shot and a lesson for all of us via ma a no safe yo safe refused her and all the word via mind the men see this when they read the Commish did the shell shell us my Josh Ellis is a musical note every word in the Torah musical note it's for you my ass and sort of a siren like he he refused but it wasn't easy but I shall jealous in English means a chain and the it looks like a corkscrew the the musical Noah shall shallows looks like a course it looks like a chain it actually looks like a chain a chain connects two things what's connected to yoseef via Martin so we look in the PowerShell and we find another value my name there is one other value mine in the parsha when they came to Yaakov with the jacket full of blood and they came to be Manasa Marvel cuz he lost the old safe Jakob said Ye my alias not game I refuse to be comforted you can't somebody's sitting Shiva and people want to come visit he can't close the door and say it's bad enough today you know they have their special hours from 12:00 to 4:00 and then back from 6:00 to 8:00 it's like it's their birthday party this is you be Manasa marvel what are you know hours like a doctor you know you come to the door you're like oh when I let anyone in from 3 to 12 and 2 nobody can come in Milazzo Marvel is Wanaka Marvel but he said no way Miley's not game no I don't want no no karma no Menachem of will have a good day and he threw well you can't do that Yakko said something unbelievable it's also brought down the feudal Yakko said you brought me a coat it's full of blood it looks like an animal ripped my child to pieces but you didn't bring me a body so as far as I'm concerned he's not dead until you bring me his body you can bring me blood and you can bring me this then you can tell me stories I put so much into this child he is my future it says Yosef was the Ace was the fire a sub is the cache is the is a straw I put so much into my kid you're telling me he's dead show me a body until then when he - not him I refuse to give up on him those are the two very mines Joseph said no to her yaku said I will not give up on my child until I see his body until then in my head he's alive so don't come and be my Nakhimov on me Joseph is thousands of miles not hundreds of miles away in the worst place it was life in the biggest test he says nope not doing anything stars are good you're not married still not doing anything so Rashi he saw the colossal olive what does that mean like a magical face like showed up at the window so do we oh come on come on there's no ghosts at the window please let's stick Kuno she loved it as kids we weren't it's like a ghost came yeah I came as a ghost and if ya can him as a ghost and he knew that Yoshi was alive then how come he didn't go back and the ghost didn't tell ya oh hey he's alive so one shot is that he looked exactly like Yannick oh he did he did look exactly Yakko and when he went to the window he saw his reflection in the window you'll see for the reflection he store his father - I'm shot shot he is different what was the Kuno she loved if he saw that my father I know my father I know my father I know Yaakov he will not give up on me until I'm shown to him as I'm dead I'm not dead I'm here me tribe and I don't know what my brothers are telling him I'm dead I'm sold I don't know what I'm not there I don't know what they're telling him but I know one thing my dad my father my father Yaakov until I'm dead and he sees it she will never give up on me and therefore when a person knows but their father or mother or there's someone in this world that absolutely refuses to give up on them no matter where they are that will give you the power not to give up on yourself I deal with some extremely severe situations people commit suicide Costra Shalom you should never know of it when they come to a point when their head there's no one left in the world that believes in them and when they get to that point that no one believes in me no one thinks I'm worth anything that's when they're like so what am I doing here I'm out of here as long as there's a person in this world whether it's a friend specifically if it's a parent the child knows that my mom or my dad or my mom and my dad no matter what I do no matter how I fail no matter if I'm often there ask no matter where I am my parents won't give up until I'm dead long as I'm breathing they will never give up on me then that child will come back because that child will never ever give up on themselves today I sat with a girl who's getting divorced with three children and the reason she's getting divorced because her husband gave up on the marriage she said I'll stick if he believes that we can make this work if he refuses my you - not game if he refuses and I sat with him and I said you're free children and you're her wife you have to refuse to get divorced if they do whatever it takes to make this work well you might have to refuse if you do that it'll give her the craft refuse to get divorced - no he doesn't refuse to give up together he doesn't refuse so in the end of the meeting with all the people that were there she has no one in the marriage that refuses to give up on the marriage so she gave up so there are parents in this room and there are P people who will be parents in medicham and there are grandparents and if you think that a grandparents job is over I hear people tell me well I brought up my children I don't got to bring up my grandchildren what a crazy mistake maybe you're in this world and you're still alive to be a grandfather or grandmother so that you could help your children grandchildren workers I might have grandchildren grandchildren have a safe place in their life it's called Grandma and Grandpa no matter what's going on at home matter what kind of marks to get you no matter how miserable they're doing in school they could always go to Grandma and Grandpa and get a hug and a kiss and my grandmother my grandfather think I'm the best thing in the world you can never take that safe work place away from them grandparents are not supposed to criticize their grandchildren that is not your job what your job is to be a safe place your job is to say a good word to give a hug to give a kiss to take them out to buy them something everybody needs a safe place my generation didn't have that safe place our grandparents got killed in the Holocaust we didn't have that a Shem gave this generation a present called grandparents and a super president called great grandparents so if you're a grandparent you think it's over it's never over your children and your grandchildren always need a hug and a kiss and no matter what you do my son or my daughter well how far off you are and how far away you are I will not give up on you until after 120 they put me in the ground or they put you in the ground until then where there is life just potential and there's hope Yaakov Irvin who saved Yosef hatzadik because when Yosef was brought up he knew that his father would never give up on him I'll tell you a story true story I spoke about this in Florida many years ago to a huge shul I think it was in Boca actually when I finished speaking when older man came over to me I know who he is very very very powerful name people know this name very very very very five Ares wealthy older man sir Wolf's Tinka talk to you for two minutes am I sure I thought he's gonna give me a check for a novel that's not what that's not what it was about though he says you know I listened to your speech I was crying I was like I'm sorry I didn't mean to trigger anything he says no no was healthy that's okay did I have to tell you something so my mother had 13 children in the house before the Holocaust she was married with 13 children the Nazis killed her husband and every one of her children she lost everything 30 chilled you know that is they murdered all her kids she came to America she married my father this guy's telling me and she had me say Rawal Steen he was an older man already never in my life did I hear my mother say I love you he said I accepted it I knew she thought the Holocaust was gonna happen again so she's gonna get close to me and then she's gonna lose me she wouldn't be able to handle it so she never ever spoke to us emotionally I thought I handled it he said three days before she died I was in the hospital with her I was sitting next to her by the bed she was very unhealthy physically but extremely clear mentally and she said Yankel I'm changing the name so you don't know who he is but she said yank Allah there's something I never told you that I need to tell you and he's like oh my gosh she's gonna say it no way she couldn't say it she said yank Allah I just want to tell you I'm very very proud of you he said right Wollaston that's all I got I didn't get I love you I didn't get I'm sorry that I wasn't more loving to you your Wollaston all I got was Yong chol I was I am very proud of who you became said Roy Wallace team and had a day in my life where I flipped in a business deal a bunch of buildings I made close to a hundred million dollars that day I'm like oh no I didn't say that like where's the Meister and I didn't say that but I was but I was thinking that while we're talking he said you don't understand the power i sat by this deal everybody looked up to me the power the money I thought it was the most important day of my life he said rabbi it was nothing compared to the day my mother told me I'm proud of you you don't know how right you are don't stop talking about it that's what he told me don't ever stop talking about it parents grandparents do not understand what it means how important it is to a child to hear I love you I refuse ever you need to know in your darkest corner and your darkest moment my son and my daughter look how far away you are how deep you're in it you have a mother and a father or a father that will never ever give up and I am Telling You that if a child knows that in their darkest quarter they will come out they'll make it well when you think your mother and father gave up you willing to give up on yourself what a lesson from one word of the tyrone buy your mind so we need to go home and we need to stop with the stupid technology machines with letters and words that have no feelings at all no emotion whatsoever even if you put that little smiley on the bottom zero emotions I heard something brilliant when hear something brilliant brilliant Hashem created the world the world that we live in and we created a world called Apple technology it's a world we creates manmade manmade phones internet it's amazing it's even to me it's like much bigger than Kriya Sampsel because it creates the answer if it says one of the nice name was that the 12 tribes went through 12 different ways right and one tribe could talk to the other tribe on the other side of the ocean I'm like hello I could talk to China like big deal a plane you imagine them going through the apps off and there's a plane flying to Israel with 375 people sitting on it eating watching a movie sitting back air-conditioned at 40,000 feet we're outside the plane at 79 degrees or 179 degrees below zero what miracles technology Wow okay we can't really make frogs multiply come out of the water but we can do some stuff like that right we do all kinds of we do cloning we do some crazy stuff so our shame is hidden in not technology what's the brilliant thing I heard you have to listen to this is amazing the world that the human being created all our electronics everything has an energy source from the outside a car has gas coal batteries FONSI batteries your phone dies is dead whatever I am created has no outside energy source the Sun no outside energy sauce plants and trees and flowers and everybody in this room is 98.6 degrees your whole life sometimes 100-102 when you're sick but otherwise 98.6 do you know what it would take to heat this area 98.6 degrees 490 years how much gas and oil it would take your body is 98.6 and at the same time over 1 billion heartbeats in a lifetime a billion times at the same time your body is 98.6 at the same time you need energy to walk and to run to breathe it to eat where's all this energy coming problem where's your battery where's your battery where's your call you'll call your gas your oil what's try to you with the battery for the Sun with the battery for a tree for a little seed to end up becoming a 40-foot tree with the energy for that where's the energy to create flowers and fruit where's the plug-in there isn't any because it's not man-made the energies God everything that God created he put his energy into the world there's no batteries there's no plugs there's no outlets even though I happen to go everyone asked me why do you go to look I go to Aris role right and they say why good answer so I'm like to recharge I want to recharge and like recharge it's just a funny word I'm like what are you talking about where do you found an out where do you find an outlet if you're looking for it in the wall that's where I go to recharge I plug in to the K so where else you find an outlet right but seriously it's fantastic the human world that we created needs an outside energy source but everything else in this world that a chef created has no energy source so god I dealt with this with a see it with atheists I'm like where's the energy field it's an energy I'm like and where the energy come from it's an energy I'm like where does the energy come from has to come from somewhere because it's birth when he created the world he put himself in the plants in the trees and the animals and everything animals at 98.6 where 98.6 the whole living world has an inside temperature without any batteries there's no batteries a for our battery CD double-a triple-a nothing just the rabbit the little alkaline rabbit but we don't we're not the rabbit because one who created this world and he put this energy into this world and was so busy playing with the toys that we have when our children need us our children need us so badly this little girl in pre 1a I asked her her name is Marcus and Malky who does your mother it also backfired by the way I said Malky who's your mother love the most in the world of course I'm thinking she's gonna say Malky that's why I asked her and she's like really oh my oh my Mamaki roofies your sister your baby sister right your little baby sister she's cute she goes no not even a relative I'm like this is really not working monkey I think we're gonna go to lunch who's rookie my mother's best friend in the whole world am i and how do you know it's your mother's best friend in the whole world and she's like rabbi wallerstein she's always talking through on the phone my kids perception so I called it up I said hello you got a problem your daughter thinks that your best friend in the world is not her cuz you're on the phone the whole time Shem gave you live children live husbands and live wires what are you doing on that machine that machine is not a veil or not to give up that machine has an inter button but it doesn't have an exit button it has an escape button I don't know who came that I dare on the Keith but it doesn't say exodus has escaped because once you're in I enter an escape yes CP I don't know why there right exit so I'm here tonight on a mission and my mission is that we need to tell our children and even if there if you're 80 years old and there's 60 or they're 55 they need to hear it maybe I didn't tell it to you enough I love you very much I may not love the things you do but I love you it doesn't change you you do some stuff that may annoy me I don't like that stuff but you I'll always love you every person in this world needs someone to love them just like you need someone to love you need to love someone someone needs to know that and the way to tell them that is not only to express it with words but to express it was the most important thing that we all have when I talk about this all the time and that is time time is the most precious thing the whole world America on New Year's Eve which you mr.eddy everybody right America New Year's Eve drops a ball they take a ball and they drop a ball everybody watches a ball drop we would have had we would have a very different thing we would have the ball rise let the ball drop but the ball rise we go up and up and up and up the world goes down and down and down and down what's New Year's taking something that's up and dropping it down Clyro takes something that's down and bringing it up Kazakh Zachary miss kaze when class role winning last week's pasha when we went into intimate ryan the terrorist says huzzah huzzah cleanest cuz a up not down with the opposite everyone in this room that came here tonight is not sitting by a TV watching a ball drop or in new year's from one second to the other but instead came to learn and to grow of course well who knows that you very much appreciate the time that you have in your life and you want to use it to do the right thing I specifically wanted to be learning when so much toma is in the world to bring kedusha to this night that it's full of getting drunk doing immoral things the opposite of our rosh hashanah where we sit together as a family and pray and ask for forgiveness and grow very different Rosh Hashanah than their Rosh Hashana and that was my plan tonight to come here and welcome em I think that if we if we just take this one step and we let the people in our lives would go home we tell our husbands we've had our struggles we've gone through a lot but I will never I refuse to ever give up on this marriage it's just too valuable and then the husband goes home and tells his wife I refuse to give up ever to give up on this marriage this is this is my life this is what I have refused to give up on my kids and fees to give up my wife I refused to give up on you - guy because the biggest vitamins is not Fame ladies and gentlemen it's from our Kurdish Baraka Hashem refuses to give up on this nation and that is why we are still here you have to take the step now and with this thought anybody thinks to change the world people come to you right Wallace T you changed the world how do you do it like you want spend a super kid I definitely was not that you must be I don't know what Superman am I know you know what it takes to save the world they asked they asked a question what was the turning points of UHF outside you don't have it I think really save the world I didn't save the world he saved the world they would have starved the 7 bad years they wouldn't have had any food that would have been reserved the world would have starved to death the whole world the triumphs the Jews everybody he save the world this poor kid with stoled and strip naked throw it into a bar sold him a try and ended up this guy saved the world just about sounded what's your turning points what's a turning point what made him you see if it's as you'd think ah I don't know he was somebody unbelievable know if you look in the power show it says the following well and with this and every one of us can do this that's for sure it says the following he's the head of the jail wherever he went through with much of Chinese the head of the jail he had the keys to the every every cell they made the warden made him number one that was your sister muzzle what happens but your vial am Yosef Yosef meets the two sour mash Camila sorry I fed my yarrow son first well he saw them we he knows OFM they were very uptight very upset very nervous very depressed so he says to them my due up and they them wrong on my Yom why do your faces look so bad today you guys mamas look bad you look depressed so everybody asked why does it say that when I young he should have said why does your faces look bad what's the what he faces look bad today is much more from this that every single day he looked at their faces so he said today something's different why do your faces look bad listen Italian what are you looking at Egyptian captured in a dungeon people what do you care what they look like you are lost in a dungeon the Jewish people don't know where you are Yaakov doesn't know where you are the SWAT team don't know where you are but if I put you in the dungeon who's gonna get you out you're done ski you're never gonna get out you're worried about two Egyptians you got your own problems this is the Torah every single day he looked at it over the people in how you doing how you doing huh today you guys look much depressed my dua why so they told him we had a dream and we don't know the translation of the dream he translates the dream Paro has a dream he tells me trance they see dream so how do save never asked them what's bothering you they would have never told him about the dream he would never translated the dream he would never gotten out of jail he would never save the tribe he would never save the world so what happened he saved the world because he said to heal him he saved the world cause he was learning the Daath he said the world because he was from giant brilliant person he saved the world cuz he asked somebody what's bothering you save the whole world just by asking someone but the first word comes from Vienna that he saw he looked other people to see how they're doing and he has own problems so that's yo save this week's PowerShell Moshe God doesn't talk to Moshe God doesn't talk to Moshe him a try him God doesn't talk to Moshe a mijin moshe finally gets into the desert hashem shows up one of the shams start to speak to Moshe Moshe sees a bush burning and it says via Hashem says he saw a man had Arif Hashem saw that he turned off the road and said my dua what's going on with this bush hashem then by abraham a motion motion motion i shouldn't even talk to moshe until moshe stopped and said something's different why what's going on here Hashem said for someone to be a leader you have to be able to see that things are different and you have to ask the question why going back to what I told you before Adam I'll ask by talking to him he realized that he was lost and all he wanted to be was a brother so what we learned from Moshe Rabbeinu and what we learned from you know about Sadiq is that to become a leader and to save the world it's just looking at another person and asking them what's wrong why what's going on that's what makes a leader that's what makes the yeats about siding and that's what makes them moisture at Vayner and there's nobody in this room I can't do that you just have to care you just have to look I call it the second look I myself I'm standing in front of you giving you this whole speech I'm like anyone else I go shopping Erev Shabbos in this place called ha panache in Flatbush because they have great coleslaw okay and I go every single week and there's this poor old little lady who sits outside with her little paper cup collecting sadaqa so I'm very good I feel I spend a lot of money on the food I buy so I feel guilty so I never looked this poor lady sitting out there in the cold I put a dollar in her paper cup she's a very nice lady sometimes she says to me rabbi Wollaston you're so handsome you're getting younger but I put five bucks in the car why not for five bucks for a compliment that's that's cheap right well she has she knows me already right so a few years ago it's a very cold day and I come outside and there's this young like a seminary goal I don't know maybe seventeen and a half and she's giving her it was like I usually go at eleven o'clock it was like 8:30 in the morning she was ready sitting out during the cold and and this the seminary girl is giving her a coffee with a chocolate Danish and she's like thank you she's giving a brother she's never shut up cause she got all these brothels whatever it is and I go over to the girl because that's how I like to talk it I'm like do you do this every Friday she goes yeah ever since I spoke to her like what does that mean ever since he spoke to her she said I'll tell you the truth I'm Wallace and I know who you are she said I used to come in the morning to buy stuff and but bakery stuff from the from clapping - whatever it is and she would sit there and she she she didn't have a bag of food or anything and I was like wondering like when does she eat she sits there all day she's here at 8:30 9:30 10:30 11:00 till they close till 2:30 and she didn't have a bag of food so I asked her do you eat she says on Fridays I don't eat why don't you eat she says because because if I have to get up from my chair to go across the street to Jerusalem to to get a coffee and a Danish it's gonna take five minutes I'm gonna lose ten dollars because people are gonna leave the store and I'm not gonna be that she has a poor poor woman's mentality so she would sit there from the warning tools foreclosed collecting money and fasting because your skin's gonna get up it's not gonna be food so this girl said to her I see you don't have food what's going on she said I don't eat though she comes every Friday Visor a Danish and a coffee so that she has what to eat I didn't see that I saw a cop so put a dollar in the cup this girl saw a cup is connected to a hand and that hand is connected to a person and you don't talk to a cop but you talk to a person and maybe that person is hungry and maybe that person he needs something to eat it's called the third eye it's called the second look it's called Joseph ID Sadiq what's bothering you today it's called the mala like a who he spoke to him and after he spoke to him he found out Mohini saw a bus other that he's lost after she spoke to him she found that it spoke to her she found that this woman is hungry did you imagine every Friday not eating because she was scared and whilst he's walking by I gave her a dollar I'm a bit javac while she's starving you can't eat the dollar that's greatness greatness is not just giving the person but understanding that what's connected to that cup to that quarter that you're putting in the cup is a human being and maybe that human being needs a good word and maybe that human being he's a coffee and a piece of cake that makes you a God all that makes you great by you Delhi Yellin the last word tonight but yidao high Yellin when it's talking about moshe rabbeinu valuate say how hooter bhaiyaa missive lisa he went out and he saw their pain says them a foursome it's one long line but ye now I yell at what was the greatness of Moshe obey know that he grew that he went out to see his brothers pain that's what made him my they know hearing about another person if we show Hashem that we refuse to give up on ourselves or our children our grandchildren on our marriages we refuse to ever give up on our Shem that in turn well you mind I share his knocking a shadow refused to ever give up on us and with not with that knowledge that no matter what golus were going through and we're going through a lot of stuff but with that knowledge that he refuses to give up on us and that we will be here until Messiah comes that will give us him it's a shame the strength to refuse to give up on ourselves but slaughter and Rocco and you totally missed New Year's my bracha to you all is that you shouldn't totally missed the real one which is Rosh Hashanah we should all come to that to the Russia Shan Mei Chen which fetish Tishrei with mushiya healthy but Simcoe with children showing bias and health thank you very much [Applause]