S.S.S.S. Shiur Parshas Vayeirah-What Is True Love

um before we start this year I just want to mention that uh the uh owner of the South Street uh wants me to say go Phillies before this year that's not my thing you know we'll talk we'll talk when's the next game Friday night right okay yeah but uh the owner of the Southside sandwich shop asked me to just say tonight that tonight's Shar isas unfortunately a young uh a young baby young girl died this week got her name she was 6 weeks old very sad and uh tonight's sh be a for her as we know we discussed a bit last week we started to discuss ab ainu and the different aspects of abu's life and tonight I just wanted to focus on two um on two M ofu two different parts of of's life and one one part is something which is very famous about Abu and uh not sure where that music is coming from y but it's coming from somewhere again I'm very sensitive to music there you go um we all know about's AB ainu was an example of how a person excels in he wasn't just many people are are they do some but epitomize what it means to be excellent and from the beginning of this week's para we get to see that amazing level of what happens at the beginning we see it says three people coming he was sitting by the entrance of his tent and kazal tell us that these people a couple different ways that we know how great was tell us that these people appeared to not as dignitaries but appear to AB as just Travelers Wayfarers as Arabs they look like Arabs they certainly do not look like dignitaries and still the tells us ran to them from the entrance of his tent and then he did with that's what he did it and we see the the the tell us that it says three times in the first time he ran to tell s the next time he ran for the B he ran to get the animals and the third time he ran to he ran to she he ran to she the animals and to do it for and to make food for his AR for his guest and all this remember that was also a had just had his Brit he also considered so besides being besides not having to do the he did it in such an he did it in such a way with his read us with the tells us by he rushed three times to do for people that we would think normally he may have not even paid attention to or a normal person would not pay attention to him we say well not only that it says he took three animals he took three par wi so each one of his guests should have the best part of meat which was the tongue and each one should have the tongue of an animal so went to get three different animals so each one could have that so K tell us that from here we see and what what when was this we know what thek says that we learned from the that all this was taking place while was telling the to wait hold off I need to take care of my guest tell just wait hang on a second hang on over here because I have guests and I have to take care of them so brings down that is bigger and greater we see from here since told however we understand hold off wait a minute I have to take care of my guest to do we see it's greater than and it's interesting then says that what kind of are we talking about here we're talking about imagine the way would have been was not you know let's say today what would we consider today imagine a person's going into he has the opportunity to to talk to three times a day and yet sometimes you see people they're coming to sh and while they're waiting to die one second hold on I'm middle of DAV right so of iser than that we're not discussing that kind of talking about and still the we see from here is greater than that which means that is an unbelievable unbelievable mitvah but there's an interesting thing the sh says that we see from a little bit later in the par the difference between the of and as we would do it or as we would actually know it the brought in many and many other that began in other words the the the fixing up so to speak of the world and did that with his and his thing that he did for the was with so was a work the work ofu was to put good into the world to bring to the world to do good for the world and take a look the we know that many times again brought down in many that when you have a lot of good in the world there's something called you're always going to be fought by by a bad influence from Another Side what would have been good he's doing in the world that was s that was the city of s the city of s we know Rashi brings down and many bring down the brings down we don't even want to discuss the theim and the things that the people of did they were the antithesis they were everything thatu could have wanted to do good the city and the people of s were exactly the opposite they did the opposite so they were they were fighting Abu the entire time on on in a struggle for what are we doing for the world right now and one thing we know for sure is they would have never done we knew that a guest did not get the Royal Treatment in s everybody in third grade we already learned what the beds and the chairs and the and the hotels of the people in s were like and certainly were not welcome in the city of s so you would think that when heard that that the city of is going to be destroyed should have been thrilled I mean for reasons right he he's working putting his whole life's work into he's putting his whole life's work into improving the world and here the people of s are fighting him every step of the way so when heard that was going to be destroyed of course should be destroyed what what what what Didu do Abu never said yes let let let s be destroyed was above thatu Not only was he not happy about what was going to happen to the city of sadu went and he was misf he was mis did the opposite he was misf for the people of s he was misf to save the city of s that is when you do imagine somebody you start a organization and you have somebody that starts another organization to just uproot and and and and do something against everything that you do you're going to really love imagine that your competition the person that's doing all of that to you has a problem so are you going to go help him or you going to be happy you know good you could have been more happy had nothing to do with his with anybody else's idea of was completely 100% I'm doing I'm helping guest I'm doing it doesn't matter what anybody else is doing that's real where you have you're focused in on the good that you want to do and if somebody else that is competing with you or doing something with you has a problem that's a separate thing you have to help him you have to help him out that's that's the more of the the greatness of aru we see also about aru that the did where it comes from it comes from now the question is we today actually we have a very convoluted idea and very distorted idea and which is different than of what what does it mean to love we have a very um gistic idea of what it means to love to love something to love in something I'll always remember I've heard many times there's a a v from reell laana before I introduced this of from reana is a beautiful ver that he that I heard over many times that imagine a person a person comes into a restaurant and every time he goes to the restaurant he ERS fish so you ask the person why do you order fish every time you come into the restaurant why are you ordering fish why do I order fish cuz I love fish so Dr bellia he loves fish would you take something that you love with someone that you love throw them in a frying pan and stick a fork in it you don't love fish you love yourself fish is a way to make yourself happy right think about that a second that's not love that's not AA if it's Ava you wouldn't take it put on a TBL stick or fork in it and cut it in half that's not C love you love yourself the fish is a way to you for you to satisfy yourself you think about it very fine line what what we're saying over here so the world was created with this this mus of AA and all these things different types of AA love that lead us up to the ultimate love of what what the whole what we're supposed to do which is to love another is a stepping stone toward then to love the T that's another step steing Stone to and if you think about it abuu before he had a bris he was not able to come you know the ofu that came from before had a bris he was not able to do that why because the whole point of is to come close to without a bris he couldn't come close to hasem and if you think about it how would how would I know thatu the first we see from in the to was whenu was 9 9 years old 99 years old I'm sure I have no doubt that was for the first 99 years of his life too but we don't see anything in the T about that why the answer must be because the only time that is really important is if it's focused in on if is part of and only after had he was able to have the right type of like we said last week we brought down the m the m says that all the things that how much was the love that he passed all the it told us how much was the love ofu for hasem and we see by the final at the end of the the says as follows take your son the son that you love says that when said those words whatever love had for his son was multiplied many many times at that point says like together like when said should be as we know ay so bring down saidia after a while they had to say stop cuia just kept going and going and going and they had to stop it they had to stop the but here the love kept getting more and more and and and that love so we see like this the of the the of what was that was to show that all this love that he put into and all of this love that he has for that's all directed for and tells you to bring for a we wondering how could have done it but for was P that was what that was what it was it was all about the whole love so the whole thing was tells you to do it there's no bigger there's no bigger way there's no bigger way to to show you that's why from the from the we're able to see the love that's what Real Love Is Love he's focused in just on that love and that's the and that's that's the lesson that's the type of love that's considered a love for this is what this is what it's teaching us that the different a person has to it's very hard to get that M of right away but if a person trains himself to love to love you learning gave us these Stepping Stones these ways to accomplish and then to uh to teach ourselves this of to come to the level of the and the of that's Whata is Nota as we know it Anda which focus is AB which is based on abem