S.S.S.S. Parshas Chukas

back on a Thursday night beginning of the little bit into the so many of you know the famous the end of says how do we know that the is only by somebody who M who is he quote sort of kills himself for learning so learning out of this in this week's par at the beginning from here that's where we learned that out that what what do we see that the to actually only endures by people who of course figuratively kill themselves for the T so first of all the first question we have to ask is how do we understand this we know there's a famous in the T which we bring up many times that the T does not want a person to die from keeping the we know he has to a person has to live and you're not allowed to do anything which will cause you not to live to keep the T so what are we daring over here that only how could that be a person has to live so I saw a beautiful this week says an explanation for this but he explains it with a M very very interesting story of a mus says there was a a businessman who was a very very um successful businessman and like like like many people who are in business he work they and night and he had a lot of customers and he wanted a lot more customers and this is the way his life went on he constantly worked and worked and worked and uh what happened is that he was taking up all his time and you know it came time to do during the day so what did he do he ran into the back of the shop and he C himself a quick or a quick or maybe sometimes even a quick shakas but that's the way he you know he didn't have time he was Tak you he had a business and he was taking care of his customers and uh that's the way that's the way he went on there was there was no time uh no time so to speak for the spiritual kind of things you know the person got a little older he's getting a little older finally he's getting you know getting up there in years a little bit and he starts to think him he starts to think to himself listen I got to start taking maybe it's tack of time I should start taking care of my and pay attention to myself spiritually maybe it's time to to do do something she has an idea he says listen uh you know what today I'm going to in the morning I'm after I die CH I'm going to stay in the I'm going to stay for two hours I'm going make myself a Seder and I know that the r and the sh gives a Shear I'm going to go to the shear and he goes to the shear and heak enjoys it and he's there for two hours okay he finishes the shear he goes to work and his wife is she just she can't understand what happened what's going on she asks him were are you he said listen something important came up I had to take care of it and uh I just that caused me to be a little bit late today so the wife okay I mean she was upset but fine the only problem is the only thing is that happened the next day and the day after that and the day after that too and by this time the wife was beside she starts telling him you know what's with you you're going to lose your customers not only aren't you going to get new customers but our customers that we have for years they're going to come in and they're going to see you're not there and uh we're going to lose them we're going to lose the entire business okay says oh you know what it's just things have been coming up I I you know somebody stops me in shol and he wants to talk to me the next morning again she sees that he's late and he he doesn't come into the business she says that's it I'm going to the sh I want to see what's going on there she goes to the Sho and she sees he's sitting there he's learning without a care in the world like like like nothing ever happened like there's no business there no family there's nothing he's just sitting there and Mom is learning she walks into the sh she starts berating him screaming at him did you lose your mind are you crazy what's going on with you so he asks her a question this says the man asks his wife a question let's say God forbid the Mal comes to me and says listen he says it's time to go so what are you going to tell him uh you know are you going to say now um not now because I have to see my customers you're not going to have an opportunity to do that I'm not going you know you're not you're to say that he tells his wife I'll tell you what you make believe that I'm dead every day at this hour said he tells his wife you make believe I'm dead I'm not around there's nothing I could do you can't get me I can't get you there's nothing I'm dead and then every day when I show up in the shop you're going to be so happy I came back from the dead I came to join you again I'm joining you in the business this is what me this is what say that we learn it's not that every person could come up with hundreds of excuses every day why you can't make a minion why I can't learn after ding why I can't make myself time for a s there are hundreds of excuses and life goes on and we keep building up the excuses and sometimes the excuses have to keep changing also the only way that a person can actually take care of it is that when it comes time to D and it come when it comes time to learn it doesn't matter what's happening I am dead that's it I commit myself to be and that's by what that during the time that he's supposed to be taking care of his spiritual needs of course every day you can come with another excuse I have to go over here I have to take care of my store there's a customer coming my cousin wants me my this one wants me I need to be here for this one I need to be for that one most of the time these are all just excuses and telling you not to go and learn so that whatever whatever comes I'm dead I'm out I'm out to lunch I'm done you can't talk to me while I'm learning you can't talk to me while I'm done that doesn't happen anymore the I saw in a brings down on this also for Shapiro Shapiro says the same thing has to be for our children and we have to notice about our children because for our children we have to know that there are times that you have to sacrifice and you have to so to speak kill yourself for for the of your children and if a person sacrifices and a person gives up luxuries if a person gives up other things for his children that's called then you're not I I don't know if he says the word guaranteed but this is the schoa this is the real way a very good way to make sure that are going to be by your children that if you if you sacrifice if you give up you give up from your own things for your children I just want to end off with beautiful shom as we like to do says in this week's also he says says I want to ask one thing that I would like to sit in the house of hasem all the days of my life so everybody asks theha what what do you mean you're going to sit in in the B Med your whole life you're going to sit you're going to sit in sh your whole life what about going home what about everything else you have to do in your life something very beautiful says a person and we could we could actually learn it from what we just said in this week's para when a person sacrifices when a person makes the every part of a person has the opportunity you're able to make every part of your life into you can make your house full of t you can make your place of work full of Torah the way you work how you deal with your customers how you deal with your family what you do in the house wherever you go every place that you go everything that you do could be considered bem doesn't mean that you that that when you're born you they put you down in a sh and you never leave because a person has to go on with his life a person has things to do a person has men to do person has to leave the sh he has to go home but when you go home your house could also be a b when you go to work you could also become a b and one of the ways that you could accomplish this is like we said at the beginning of this year that a person who's that he that he doesn't take no for an answer he doesn't try to bend the rules that when something is Al when something when a person has to do something Al when it comes time to learn T when it comes time in your house to to make your house full of there are no excuses that's the way to do it and we should all we should that our entire life should be encompassed by and that's something we can learn out of this week's par