S.S.S.S. Parshas Chaya Sara Shidduchim

sorrow very uh interesting uh very interesting happenings in this week's Parsha where we discuss very uh pertinent issue an issue that interests lots of people to discuss the Indian of him he ended up finding a fortune finding a wife and uh once again we'll continue with our theme that we've been saying through every week that when the Torah tells us what we would consider a story or the Torah tells us something of course it's not just the story it's not coming just to tell us a story it's to teach us something so what is this what is this whole story of of Elias what is it coming to teach us what can we learn what we think of course we could take a lot out of the story but we're going to try to focus in on a couple of different points here is a uh a lot of people used to know that was alive he gave a hummus here on Friday and his most his most famous commissioner that he gave throughout the uh the most famous One the entire year was the one he gave every year he would speak about many of the different ways that she doesn't take place and and the snakes that people make when looking Porsche does them have to go about looking at it so obviously it was a very very popular share and everybody always knew the partial sky is soarish here of over a pot that was the and I was I was learning through a couple of different uh shiora that he gave over the years and I wanted to share with you a couple of things from there was a very famous and Rich personality from the video at this time already when he was going to marry or field stuffino had acquired much pain and uh and he was very rich man too so we know that rum if he knew what did he could have very easily married yet took off to a rich girl or look to useless or you looked for anything that anybody wants to look for in a excuse me had it all and he could have found anything again what did abramovina look for what was he interested in a rama video was interested in only one thing he was interested in meters players and others that's what we've seen the bar show a Robina wanted a wife for YouTube who had Memphis televised and loved doing his headset and Eleazar went and he went to look for this light and we see in the Toyota we see in this week's Parsha that once Eliezer saw what he wanted to see in rivka he realized that Hashem had helped him right away he quickly ended his search and he saw that that she had all the qualifications he ended the search right there sir if Tom asked an unbelievable question and this is a question with some 21st and I guess end of 20th century um code Words which are upon you very well but Pam asked why did Eliezer end his search so quickly as soon as he saw why don't he shop around that's it shop around and see maybe the first person that you see the first thing it fits all your qualifications and by the way settle shop around a little bit see maybe you could do better maybe you could uh maybe you could find something and uh that would be even better than this said something very beautiful and very very powerful message he says that often very often when a person is into this shopping around mode the shopping never ends a person always thinks that there's no internet shopping you know there is no end I have something I can always get better and even more I deserve better I think today my father doesn't say this maybe we call this person a compulsive Shopper you know we have a different idea of what a compulsive Shopper is but the lagabi should build him it could be this kind of person as a proposal shot but and when prom says you know what happens he says all that happens is that the months and the years go by and you see some of these people and they're still looking for something that's better because they could always get something better and there's something better out there for me how does it come how do we come to uh understand your promises you have to know before a person starts they have to know what they want he says I love this shopping around many times as it comes from not knowing what you want don't know what you don't know exactly what you want and uh and then therefore you always think that yeah it's not good enough for me today I promise it over beautiful coming down take a break from the video a minute no okay um set over from his mother that one of the reasons why a Hassan and Kala vast on the day of their wedding one of the reasons they fast on the day of the wedding is to fast for the unnecessary pain and embarrassment that they caused to other boys and girls with their unrealistic expectations that's what a prom says thank you very much I appreciate it you hear that listen to what ROM says that one of the reasons acrosson and kala fast on their wedding day is to do chuva for the hurt that you caused to other boys and girls with your unrealistic expectations but that's one of the things that he says again he says the way to avoid this is to know exactly what you're looking for state in the puzzle of comparison it says that when the other when they were looking for a wife who said Esso that if a person is not realistic with himself if he doesn't know what he needs help with then you're never going to find it you're never going to find what you want you're never going to realize what you need and nothing's ever going to be good enough if a person is honest with himself and he knows what he's all about and he takes an honest look at himself and he knows his faults and he knows what he needs help with and he knows how good he really is then you go into a much different attitude and it's a much much easier way words maybe next week I shake like a big sandwich tomorrow says the following very interesting member that as long as a color let's do tomorrow Mars as long as a cow's eyes are beautiful you don't have to work you don't have to look any further you know that that she's a beautiful girl you know that that everything is fine if her eyes are beautiful he says how can we say that how could we say as a fact that if someone's eyes are beautiful I mean there are people around we know people that their eyes can be beautiful and they can have very serious flaws so what is it what does it mean what does the door mean that if you see that the Zone has a magnetoiva they have a nice eyes and that drayoka the doctor says that I am clever when it said what the Gomorrah says that iron person has 10 iron flavor doesn't mean physical attribute doesn't mean someone's eyes are beautiful he says what's a person supposed to look for when do you know that you don't have to look any further is when you when when a person meets somebody that has an iron toy book that has a good eye that always looks at the good side of other people that always sees the good in every situation that always sees the good in anything that's happened that is what the gamara means it doesn't mean of course it doesn't mean that it's known as their beautiful eyes it means that no flaws we know that's not true we know that's not true I ain't tell you for means that if you have a good eye you're always looking you're always looking at the good you're always looking for the good so now once we say this we see all these lessons that we've learned from the others in the past few weeks we see this lesson that we learned from Aroma Vino on how to look for a shitta what if a person would say to himself listen these are these lessons that we learned these things the way to look for our shadows like this this is for the office it would be a very realistic thing to say let me tell you a ton is Bailey oh son of barely always says the following and I'm going to quote it to you and it's uh we know this convey oh it's a famous person every person every year when will my Deeds reach the level of the Deans of Abraham again the same question we're about super dumb you know we know we're starting to learn these few parches what a promise all about I could be saying once they add you when we gonna reach come on let's be realistic it is not going to happen it's not going to be Cedar Sean says a very beautiful thing he says let's read the memory the member says the lotion Israel is what foreign the member specifically says to just be able to touch be able to reach season says it doesn't mean you must say my gear when am I gonna turn into a brown so we're asking every person has to Aspire just to be able to and they at least see it from the distance at least have a shy system let me let me touch it let me let me see it and to see Michonne says that we get physical from the fact that we know that the Torah never tells us and never commands us and never tells us teaches us things that we have no Sciences to who doesn't have demands on us that are not possible and from the fact that the Clara tells us these quote stories and these mice the Twitter is telling us that we do have a shyness we might not be able to be exactly like Abram but we have a schizes to this and how do we go about it something to see Michelle and there's another word in this memory that's very important say it and when you say it and when a person repeats someone else and a person has a sheifa a person has a desire then then you're gonna get there that's that's a lesson that Stephen Schoen says we have to learn out of this in other words many times to see people someone who has people out of these very very big goals and you know what many times if a person has if you have a very if you have a big goal and you have a desire to get there many times you're gonna get there and if you don't get all the way there you'll at least get within uh you'll get within a very close distance you'll have a shyclist to what you want to get however if you have people that have very small goals and almost no goals at all you know what happens you don't even reach those goals because a person is high of volume is to keep on repeating to himself I want to do it I want to do it and after you say I want to do it a bunch of times you say I could do it and that's how you that's how you develop massage and build for one to want to grow because if you don't say if you don't say cholesterol means if you don't say it to yourself if you don't keep on repeating it if you don't then of course you're not gonna have any chances and that's a lesson to see the show says that we learned from all these Martians look at the we again we look at the mices of Abram we just learned today we saw upon says about also had a go about finding a that's how to have all these realistic expectations and everything and say whatever what kind of shyness does it have to me so nakasha like as is many times Akashi is the terrorist what kind of Statistics to you it has Cycles to you but that's just it has to strike us you don't have to be around you don't have to be yourself you don't have to be yako but you have to have the desire to grow you have to have desire to to somehow attain and be within the gear within Striking Distance of the meters of a problem we should be able to work on it to be able to reach at least close to the meters um one more very important thing which of course has to do with this week's Parsha and you know authors we uh we we have to thank the balance over here reverse of monopro now this is the first anniversary of the South Side sandwich shop and we're almost another a couple of weeks we're gonna be at the first anniversary of our I'm here on Thursday night and he so graciously invited us here at first he actually held us a gunpoint that brought us here but we're here and we and we come every week and it's admonishes close for me that I'm able to to do this every week and we want to thank you Joseph for that because he's he goes above and beyond the Call of Duty and you want to wish to give him a brother that the same way he came through the the first year with his new cap with flying colors full color cap you should be Zeiss uh to provide the food for many symptoms and give out a lot of 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