S.S.S.S Nesivos Shalom Shiur Parshas Vayeishev Erev Chanukah 2012

also uh almost another a couple of days will be at the of Kana as hard as it is to believe we always say we were just talking about suus Kaneka is right here and you know what happens after it's PMS right around the corner so there a from the says on the of says on the words of the is that the tah always remains complete what does that mean that many times after all the Dres and all the learning and all the trying to understand something in the T the says the T remains so complete in other words to teach teach us that we were're hardly able to even scratch the surface to try to understand something in the that's the and it is extremely appropo for this week's para the the things that go on in withu and and selling to and all the things that go on many many different things in this week's para as much as we try to and as much as we try to understand Theus in the T it remains that way that we we it's very very difficult to understand so bearing that in mind we'll ask a few questions at the beginning of the paraa and uh we'll see if somehow we're able to maybe scratch the surface and try to come up with some sort of explanation for what's going on here in the par the first question the shalam asks is how were on such how did the come to such a quote if we could say itus of taking their own brother and selling their own brother as a slave how is that possible how you know we try to Fathom theat we can't even understand how high the Madre of the was and how do we understand that they took their own brother and they sold him off as a slave and not only that it seems from the M that the was to them they for a they in order to decide to sell y to to ultimately and we see the so how is that how is it possible that the brothers were able to do such a thing the says we just learned it in about two months ago that a person should not differentiate or favor one of his children over his other children that's the G so how is it another question how is it thatu did things for y and loved y more than the other only made for made for only no one else got this and then you're going to answer me there was no and then there was the the concept was there that a person should not favor one child over the other child another P asked the that I used you know we're so used to reading the par the that they use at the beginning of the par they were jealous we're talking about the how do we use a word that were jealous of you know what hate is how many people here could actually say to hate somebody again we're talking about the can't be you know the the M says right if you talk about these the says the says jealousy is terrible and it looks like from over here one of the three things that did just that they were jealous and we go a little further you know if you look a little further into it how did the whole thing happen y said the way we would understand said is a terrible terrible how is that possible and one more question asked which was a very interesting question the Rashi says on the of that it says that the brothers went away what does it mean that the that the brothers says that when the brothers went Rashi says that says they say we we're we're not if we were considered a brother of till now they completely separated themselves they were totally alienated from y that y knew that because once they told him how is allowed to put himself in a to go try to find his brothers now knew that his brothers were not behaving to him like a brother anymore and they wanted to kill him and Y still went how is allow to go this is that asks also on this how is allowed to continue on and go find his brothers if he was putting himself in a says everybody knows this that a person is to the same way they tried to be they tried to give to and the refused why did refuse says that you're supposed to be supposed to be equal you're supposed to accept you're supposed to say this is what wanted and we see again it's aella so from every angle the the the para is very very difficult to understand at the beginning we need to find some way to help us understand says a beautiful M and how to understand this entire episode that we have here at the beginning of says that the were on such a high Madre he goes to different uh different Madre that people become when they do the r he says the always were on such a that the amount of the amount that they did to caused them to lose their had no and the of the did the whether they liked it or not whether they wanted to do it night you know that are mtired themselves so much they become so directly connected to that it's only possible for them to do the they can't do anything else he brings a say the says by that put and says you ever see someone talk his hand send their hand to go do something why does the have to say had to send his hand the we know of course was that should not be Slaughter should not be killed but had a go and so in order for as much as he wanted to do the to he couldn't do it because the was that should not get killed what told him had to physically push and send his hand to do something which he thought was against the r hasem that was that's how the that's how a person works when they meti themselves they're that close to the and that's what the other were with this explanation we can answer all our questions once had told in the in the par a few weeks ago that your and your future Generations are going to go are going to have to go down to MIT so there were two ways that they were going to that they could have gone down to M they could have gone to in Chains as slaves of the med or the the sequence of events things that that were going to happen in the later generations had to lead up to the way somehow the had to end up in so that the had no choice they don't want to hate they didn't want to have sinner but they had no choice they they lost their caused the sequence of events that it had to work out the whole thing had to had to work out like this and therefore they were jealous and therefore yob sent y to find his brothers and Y should not have gone but y had to go he didn't have everything tells us they knew the they knew everything that they were supposed to do but they didn't have the their was totally taken away because otherwise they would have had to go down to in in in in they would have had to go down and chain as slaves and this is the way wanted there what was happening here is that all the were on that also their limbs were just going through the motions they were just doing the they had to sell Y and could not accept for that reason because in order for y to survive as we see later in the had to see the he had to keep his father with him and if yob would have accepted the condolence if yob would have accepted that would be like coming to terms with it I'm cutting the I'm cutting the my ties with Y and theem was that y had to keep his connection to so the a ofu would not accept the would not accept this so let us just ask a question now how does a person bring himself to this madga that we said about the where he does the and automatically it's not it's not something that happens overnight overnight you don't become that type of person that you just that you're a automatically do the how do you get there how does a person make that his natural inclination is to do the and this is no different and I'm actually I'm saying this on my own this was not saying the but it's no different than anything else that you do in life anything that you want to if a person wants to work out of mid if a person wants to train himself to be a bigger person in you have to train it training means doing things and doing things over and over and becoming you constantly thinking whether every M that you do is in sync with the with the r and the more you do it the more you're sensitive to this you'll understand your your body will automatically only want to do things that a KES wants you to do I heard a beautiful V this week from blaz opter in our and he said a very very unbelievable thing what is it mean to be sensitive to what wants says it's a phenomenon if you look around there it's a phenomenon and and it's this way by almost everybody he says what happens you see a y in the street and he's being shab what's our first reaction when you see a that's being most of the time we'll say most probably he's a most probably he doesn't know he was born we right away we answer up for him everything we say you know what can we do he's he's a but you know what we come to terms with it very quickly okay he didn't know anything about shabas and we move on he says what happens if you're in the grocery store and a guy walks into the grocery store takes his grocery and cuts right in front of the line ah hea what an animal what a what a what a what no me this this guy is nothing we'll never say over there listen leave him alone he probably doesn't know he doesn't he probably no one ever trained him he doesn't have me this let let him get in the front of the line what's the difference in one case by someone cutting in front of you in the grocery store it's you it's your cover it bothers you you're not willing you stand up for your rights you're not willing to say it's a mistake he wasn't brought up right we don't look at that but when it comes to the cover of gu being right being and we always say listen he wasn't brought up that way because it's only the we have to fight that if you want to be a person that trains yourself and you're in sync to always do like the others where you automatically going to do theem you have to be sensitive to what is theem you have to go against the tide of only holding up our own C and you have to keep on practicing you have to keep on going over doing the Mitzvah and understanding have the sensitivity to understand when something is wrong when someone is not doing something that a wants you to do and I was thinking this is M also what was going on in the of in the time of we all know that theim did not want to kill the the Y were not out like on on we say we don't say any of that we're going to start saying we're not going to say anything about all they wanted was to take away the mitz of the the took away certain mitz what because mitz when a person does mitz over and over that's what brings you close that's like you warm up you know if if you want to be a good valou shooter right the guy no matter how good of a foul shooter you are in basketball the guy will stand on the foul line will shoot a 100 foul shots a day why because practice makes perfect you do if a person does mitvah over and over and over he becomes closer to the he become closer to that's what the wanted they knew what they were doing they may have not wanted to kill clo physically but spiritually they knew if they would stop them from doing Mitzvah they take you out of practice then you don't become that type of person where you're in in syn with AES your automatically gravitate and go to what AES wants you to do and that's the connection we could say that's a connection between Kana and what we're going to learn from Kaneka about taka doing those Mitzvah that the Yon wanted us to stop the connection to this week's paraa of learning how to fight the quote yonim of today's generation learning how to do it from what we see in this week's para from from the where they were so used to and and so in tune with doing the that automatically they didn't have to think about it that even if they wanted to do something otherwise automatically they did the let's hope we learned this lesson we remember we said last year Kan is eight days you have eight days to grow eight days Kana aside from all the commercial side of Kana and all the wonderful present that everybody gets and all the guil that hopefully everybody gets also right that's like the main thing on khaka we know 8 days of Kaneka 8 days of uh of of Celebration and and donuts and all the other wonderful thing free donuts thousands and thousands of free donuts will be raining down on this town in just a couple of days we have to remember the I of Kaneka what it's all about it's about growing in you have eight days to do it if you blow Kana you you means you missed eight days we have eight days to try to think about it and try to become the type of person that is always trying to do the rat