S.S.S.S. Nesivos Shalom Shabbos Shuva Shiur 2012

shab now we could actually change what we say at the beginning of of the year we could now say it's a new year um actually after sukus is when we began the she a few years ago uh so we're actually finishing up believe it or not we're finishing up our third year of Shir and at this time and at the end of our third year I'd like to thank our hosts of the Southside sandwich shop and Lakewood Scoop who do a fantastic job producing recording posting and broadcasting this year each and every week in a professional uh really perfect way and it does not go unnoticed and i' just like to sh share my AAR to all of them we're now a couple of days before yum Kipper uh this shabas tomorrow night will be shabas shoua we know brought down the many bring down many sikim talk about how each day of the week between rashash and yipper is actually a chance to make up for or to be Ming anything that may have happened that we may have done during that day uh during the entire year and shabas shua is a time shabas which we know is the highlight of every y's week this shabas shab is a time for us to be one of the things we could do the shab is beas things that we do on chabas things that we should not have done on chabas things that we should do on chabas the way we approach chabas the way we look at chabas the things we talk about on chabas the things we think about on chabas all these things shaba there a a tremendous opportunity uh tomorrow night to begin first of all like we said in the past couple of years in how we prepare for shabas on a Friday how do we come into shabas do we come into chabas sweating screeching into the parking lot 30 seconds before Shia or after Shia whatever do we how how do we approach a shabas how do we come in is tomorrow you come in with a calmness ready to greet the shabas MAA tomorrow we have that opportunity to step back and to greet shabas and to spend shabas in the right way brings down who says shame one of the zes of thead from malich the brings down something that he always used to say during the and he would talk about the in some people are actually familiar with the p the says Nas hasem he now the of the we could it up in a few different ways but the rabbi used to say always that what we could say about Yer what we say about CH from this is that has Tous when a is will grant us whates wants to see when we get closer to shaber is that in a way of course we have the and we have the hanging over us a little bit and there is a of the but we have a certain confidence we have a certain amount of that we're happy and we know that continue to perform for us and get us and give us a sh and he's a and talk about this of we have another a in this week's para the says that will notice that because we don't have a why do bad things sometimes happen and we're going to notice and we're going to think and we're going to realize that it's because we do not have a K in our life and what does the say further the says that you're going to notice you're going to notice that we're having troubles because is not in our mid and what's going to happen the says says will ask on this if it's it looks like in the that they're doing CH because they're saying we realize we're realizing that the reason we're having trouble in our life and the reason this is because we don't have a so why does the say directly after that I mean why why because if if if we're saying that there's no we realize that isn't that sort of like doing Chua why is the answer to that why does the P say when you say that why isn't that considered a full we have our stor upon him after that after that hasem should grant us what we want because we're doing Chu so the ram says famous R people know beginning of listen to this R it's to know this R [Music] before a person wants to do ch and he wants and a person has he has to admit to what he did you have to first thing first you have to admit what you did how does a person do a person says which we're all going to say I did all these things I did in many different ways before you a person has to say out to himself of course supp out loud to other people I did IET I'm embarrassed with what I did and listen to this end of the r the ram adds on something amazing here I regret but the r adds on something a person has to say no more forever I'm not going back to do this a again so from this r that really there are two parts of chuva one is the regret one is a person has to regret what he did the other is a that we have to give for the future I'm promising you I'm not I'm not going back to do this [Music] again where does the r get this from where does the ra you have to add the says you have to be where does the r get this that the only way to do Chua is to say that I'm not it's clear to me I'm not going to do this again where did the r get that what the r is telling us is that in order for a person really to understand the that he did in order to completely understand what you did it has to be clear to you that you can't do it again because if you don't feel that you can't do it again you're missing out you don't understand what the is you don't understand how severe it is to do a that's it's a part of the know holds that until you could say I'm not going to do this again it doesn't always work out that way we know that but until a person oner wants to say and does say I'm not going to do this again there [Music] if you look up says the same thing he says like this also that when a person makes a that he's not going to do it again that is an indication that you recognize the severity of the until you make that kind of that I can't do this again and I won't do this again you do not understand the severity of the so now we can understand why the tells us that even after saying after we say that the still says is that's because you're doing an incomplete CH you're missing that last part of the CH where you're going to say you know what we're not going back to do this again they're only saying they're only going on the Chua of regretting what we did we see we have trouble because is not in our life but you're missing the last part of the chuva until you do a complete I just want to go talk I want to talk a little bit about shom has a very uplifting way of looking at yum Kipper and many people you look at yum Kipper and sometimes a person comes to Yum Kipper and he thinks oh what did I do this year I I this year for sure I said last year I'll never do these things again I I I I I I spoke so much so much so so many different things that I did and and I I was sure I wasn't going to do it again I did you could come into Yumer you could be depressed you could be very very down about what happened the past year Shalom has a very very uplifting way of looking at yum Kipper sh says that oner a has to believe that even a Steel Curtain even something as strong as steel and a steel separation no matter what you in other words no matter what you do in your life you cannot be cut off from Hashem will never cut you off no matter what you did you come in you're depressed you feeling terrible about what I did this year you see says you have to know loves you like a son no matter what you do and no matter what you did we're going to Lan actually a in at the beginning of the we're going to L on the says doesn't discriminate he only comes to people who are perfect so many people think that only if you're like some sort of purified sadic on a very those are the people hangs out with no loves every wants you to be close to him and wants to have to every and nothing could change that and when we find the time of Hester P to how come sometimes is hiding from us we find a time of is hiding from us like a father who plays hideand-seek with his child when a father plays hideand-seek with his child does the son think for one second that the father has abandoned him that he'll never see his father again that the father in some way doesn't care about it no not no that never happens at all no matter what a person does no matter a person uh sees a young child sees a father that's hiding no the whole point of the game is to be found the whole point of thing that the child never ever feels that you know what I'm totally abandoned by my father no it doesn't work that way that's why the [Music] says in other words you're not looking it at you're not looking at it as a regular Hester pun a regular h p him we know that never abandons us what happens in that P with thinking that no in that the people are saying no abandoned us abandoned us and that's why this upon him that's why you really really that's why over there that's an if you think that actually abandoned you then you're really really far away then this really H upon him it's brought down from the meas then see brings it down very very beautiful thing also for y we said we say that that are right away written down it comes oh this man's a he's written down right away okay we spoke a little bit about this before this is what the point that you have to take into also how do we know that why is it that way why are they written down right away show that it has to do with their with your the way you come in your mindset because even though there is but those people those that loves them like a child that never changes in their mind what does it mean what does it mean by a is written down aad is written down for good because in A's mind no matter what he may have done and everybody ain't there's nobody who doesn't do any a at all he it never leaves his mind that loves him like a child and that Clarity is that goes right up and it brings down you and that's the that we started off with wants to see wants to see that you trust in that you believe in that you're connected to and is your father you never forget that he ends off we say in the is like my shadow so how does that work he says that's it works out beautifully over here if you feel your and that is your father and that loves you and you come into saying hasem I feel terrible about what I did and I'm never going to do it again but but you're my father you can never you never abandon me you're never going to leave me that's the Shadow the mirror image if you act that way that's the way acts to you treats you the same way says yes you are my son yes we may have been a strange for a while you may have done some things you may have done some things which could have been terrible but you know what you you you're coming to me as a father a person no matter what happens at the end of the day he runs back when he has nowhere else to go a person people run away from home but that's because they think they'll find something better on the street they think they'll find something better out there but at the end of the day when everything else fails and when you're really feeling abandoned what's in your mind you always come back you come back to the father and if that sort of person says I'm you're my father and I I love you as a father and you love me as a son and that's the way we have to come into you have to have a but you have to come in with a confidence wants to see wants to see that you'll never forget that connection you love the connection let's all that we're going to come in to starting with this we're going to come in with a confidence come into with a love for comeer knowing that K is not here because he wants to punish us K is here because he always wants to bring us closer he wants us to be closer to him every single day we should to think about these things put them into practice and I would like to wish everybody should be a year of for everybody and just stand off with the programming note a week from today next Thursday we'll be having a special Su share over here we're going to go back to our regular time of 10:00 and it should be a very very successful week for every one of us