Rubbing shoulders w big shots has its place, Teshuva for all- Tanya Igeres haTeshuva 4b - RC Dalfin

so we're learning geta we are in the on page of 186 and we're in middle of the page where it says the AL quoted the who who reconciles the seeming contradiction between a person can always do chuva and a statement that there's no Chua for um masturbation the waste of semen and there the says that the doing the the norm of chuva which would be called he calls chuv the lower chuva that's not strong enough but you need to have the higher CH now said important ver over here when the zes says right this all based on the holy Z that TR that's what the AL bases his all Trea on is on the Z the doesn't say is that it doesn't say says that not the so says that the's words imply that is both CH and CH and it's not a contradiction to what the balat is saying why and it's very important because the AL is saying that the way Chu can can help is by knowing there is also Chu if you know the you have to raise the bar up till here above the head even when you're here it's help it it helps you getting to hear from the ground the famous anecdote The Schuster the the shoe man the tailor if they don't know that there's something greater to ex to to get to then they in their own right will never reach the Plateau that they are able to reach they'll never reach the plateau of the doctor we're talking about whatever in in in in in the type of work and all of that the The Scholar but the fact that they know there are people amongst human beings that have reached that Plateau that helps them grow in whatever they are the same is true here of in why does CH why does lower chuva have the ability to Aid in chuva it's because chuva knows there's also a concept of so therefore the really saying this is the way explains it that that since the without saying which hay it is he means both but the ra says that only TR love forgives for wasting of s says the explains that he's explaining I guess in the words you know why that is that's because Tru is the ultimate so yes the ultimate forgiveness for wasting of seen of of of of is true but if you begin with ch even for that transgression is you hear that even for Trans that transgression as long as you know is being fueled by CH your CH for Z is a warranted one is a good one you're on the right track phenomenal concept why because when M when we learn when we continue learning these chapters and you say to yourself I'm not a sadic I'm never going to reach TR the higher level of TR I reach TR Hali I just you know do what I'm supposed to and make a firm resolution not to do anymore and have kapar and fasting whatever Hali the basics that's the average person thinks that way right the of the here and explain the is wrong if that's the way you think you'll never reach TR La you need to know there is Tru La there is a higher tra and yes even if you'll never get there but by the fact that you know about it it keeps you growing such a wonderful lesson in life okay is involved you know raising funds for organizations right sometimes you hear about this person raised so much money and that person you say to yourself well I what I'm raising is pittance compared to what they're raising I'll never I'll never I'll never raise that amount of money it might be true but it's not a cause to be dejected and depressed and upset you know why because knowing that you are in the field of raising funds for an organization you're rubbing shoulders with the right people CH is rubbing shoulders with chuv love says it so beautifully he says it's all it's all in Tru and that and and and and that's why he says the zes doesn't want to specify that means not no the specifically leaves it plain St Chas T of why because all chuvas share a commonality Moshe all fundraisers for organizations share a commonality that they're working for the cause for Hashem how much you make how much you raise is insignificant I I mean I know that your employer or Organization for them it's not but doesn't mean that they're right just for another moment what do you mean doesn't mean they're right they need this amount of money you're bringing in much less so get yourself a better fundraiser in addition to what I'm doing because what I'm doing is also very relevant maybe not for the large large hitters the smaller hitters and by the way a good company a good company who has this motto as their model will succeed in business a company that just sees you know the top Echelon of workers and employees and the lower workers are insignificant you know we just need them to you know to to to to file to file letter and put some data entry but really we don't care about them that is a bad company and in fact if you have a choice don't work for them you have no choice you need to you need to bring food on the table so take this idea I mean we're learning in Tanya we learned the whole first section 53 chapter about a b who's going to reach the level of ban so what so he Clos the T and therefore it's not relevant absolutely wrong it's relevant cuz whoever you are knowing that there's a b knowing everything about the B will give you excuse the expression a kick in the pants and you'll move higher oh so it's all worth it knowing that you are you share a platform with fundraisers of all all kinds that itself uh heightens your self-awareness Ness in a positive way self-esteem in a positive way and I think it's very important we don't talk about this much in the community you know we talk more about ble and humility and and you know but it's important to know so so I want I just want to make myself clear so we shouldn't walk away with a stake I'm not talking about rubbing shoulders with the right people to show off that's not that's not kadha that's not Holiness that's that's self you know and maybe at times it's needed you know to get into certain places at certain times I understand I'm not going to say it's never you can never use it for kadha but ordinarily itself at the same time realizing that you belong to a whole package that's a very special thing and that's one of the things we should share Masha people who are not yet from and and they and then they have a hear cha they have a thought of CHA and they want to become from and they and and after a certain while or either they've come already from they they they stop and they say I'll never I'll never be this person I'll never be this community and some of those people back off back away leave I think that this nuda that I'm sharing now is a very important point to explain to to to these people from the very beginning from entry level Bali Chua hey the Jewish Community is a diverse Community the Torah world is a very big world and you are as important as anyone else and the fact that you don't know as much so what if you will learn you'll know more but even if you don't learn more you're part of the picture because you're part of the Jewish people you're part of the Torah world you belong remember I told you the story when I came to Marin County in 1984 and 85 okay I'm the kabad rabbi Marin County North of San Francisco with everything that Marin represented in the 1970s and 80s which I've told you over and over about the hot tub capital of the United States smoking you know weed in in a hot you know the the heathenistic culture was Marin County at the time for sure and and um when I came I was I was invited there by a group of people some of which were complete B Chu and some that were on their way and I noticed they were wearing GLE monri including those that were not fully sh shabas yet and we're driving to sh parking several blocks away but they were one of the boys and I coming from Yeshiva kheit laich even though you know Outreach is part of our you know Credo nevertheless you know it looked a little strange to me like before you put on a GLE make sure to keep shabas what are you wearing a g before you before you keep shabas it just doesn't add up and I spoke to I spoke about it I don't remember and I was told you don't understand Rabbi you're young you're naive you're new you're coming out of the Yeshiva World you don't know what's going on in the in the larger world not yet and they said listen we have a boys club you know in the reform and conservative um institutions they have uh a men's what a men's a men's club so I was told by these this is our Bala men's club and whether one is shabas yet or not but putting on the GLE they're identifying with something and you know what they were right because they became Bal Chua and it was a eye opener lesson for me in my life that that's the same nuda I'm talking about now the same point they were in the zone they were in the zone of Torah balua they weren't exactly up to shabas and and and maybe other things yet but given the time they got there and they needed the GLE which which for them for some of them was an external superficial thing but really it was everything to them it brought them together it basically said I belong here I feel good here shares the commonality with Tru by saying I'm also chuva I belong here hey I'm not like your chuva which is up there very holy chu but I'm TR I'm TRV too so be I I wanted to share this teaching that I learned fromo because it's it's very very practical it's very practical and I'm convinced that the youth and people who are yet not coming to this year not coming to the Bas Med if they would understand this a lot more people would would join would join We join this why because because it's who you are that's what we have to that's what we have to explain to people and and have them somehow see this is who you are it's it's not that you know I'm pushing something on you no no I'm revealing what you are that's the that's the quintessential approach of of of the balat AL that this is who you are you are a a pristine holy as the greatest Rabbi and sadic and reab very understandably this is this type of soul that type of soul but we're all Souls if we're all souls and the shamas we have a commonality let's break bread say Smo you understand and and by the way this is the way to succeed in relationships children and parents spouses employers you have to find the commonality I just was reading now Herman wol comes to the re in 1971 they bring him he has an hour and 15 minutes y's private audience her I think he said it was the first time that he met the reab face to face he had met met the Freda before he went into service in 1942 I think because his grandfather from his mother's side his material was was uh came from kabad uh pedigree came from kabik and you know he he was a and besides his his genius and his writing and everything he wasn't an actor far from it okay in fact he probably considered himself more of a l than a and even that was he hardore L also not so the Reb is talking to him and then in Middle the Reb says to him he doesn't write this but it seems like he probably didn't see eye to eye with the Reb on some of the things that they were discussing the Reb says now it's time for me to give you my hand and for you to give me your hand and to find what we can do for each other you hear in other words sometimes we disagree and we argue and and we leave the conversation that way very bad very no good you know why because then you walk away like I of enemies but you walk away like I have nothing to do with you you want to always leave the conversation with what what do we have in common what can can we learn from each other even though in many other things we don't share the same view and that's an important that comes out of this now let's go to the text Page 186 okay so it's again it's in it's about uh 10 or 12 lines on the top of the page H it's after a period to understand this concept that the mention a little bit a little bit why twice a little bit say either or say m both mean a little so it's explained ma refers to a quantitative Little M is a qualitative both in quality and quantity and quality to understand it a little bit we must preface what is explain based on the verse words of the sages regarding exision and death by Heaven called if one desecrates a certain type of transgression the Torah says you're obligated Excision Mish you would actually die not in theory and not that you would become let's say poor the G says a poor person a poor person considered a a dead person we don't mean that we mean M Mish that's why the AL uses the word Mish you're going to actually literally die for a transgressing a uh of sin that the Torah says it's punishable by before you reached the age of regarding death by Heaven M Mish for whatever for whatever the transgression that punishment is for whatever transgression m m you actually die before 60 and and this individual who set up I think a false prophecy or something and he was punished that he didn't live to 60 years says immediately in the parentheses sometimes when you you you transgress a sin that's punishable by by death of Heaven you're you you're punished immediately you don't have Hashem doesn't wait till you're 59 and 364 days before you die we find in in the story they were they wasted semen and they died right away so we see that the punishment of be of could be immediate so asks the on this hey we find in every generation many people who are obligated to to be punished by excision misses and deaths and they live a long life and not only that has the a sweet life you know you could should say oh they live a life and they have sorus the whole time what kind of life is that well hey wake up and smell the coffee look all around you you'll see people who are big transgressors of the worst sins and they're parting and enjoying life so the alterus question is a very practical question how do you reconcile that with what say that for this sin you get K and you don't make it to 50 and for this sin you get you don't make it to 60 and we see it's not that way that is the Al's question and now he begins his answer will understand this based on understanding the verse for a portion of a God is his nation and the rest of the verse says a rope for his inheritance meaning that Hashem is an inheritance for every Jew but the AL says the words look a that the Jewish people is part of God's name that's what that's what the verse implies as it says Hashem blew within the nostrils ofam the breath of life and it says oh I'm sorry and this this implies when you blow when you exhale you exhale from inhaling you inhale and you blow out so the one who blows exhales it comes from the inside the very depth in of the inside that he that he exhales Etc meaning that the that the Jewish the Jewish person's soul comes from the inner aspect of God and says in the rhetorical way God forbid God doesn't have the image of a body so how can you use these type of ideas we're now on top of next page famous response the T speaks in the terminology in human terminology just that there's a vast difference by a human being here below the the air coming out the breathing coming out of a person when he speaks the emitting words what's coming out compared to the heav which comes through blowing exhaling one is external you could talk and talk and talk and not get tired but try blowing up a balloon or whatever else requires that type of exhaling when you go to a doctor like I did the other way to check if I have bronchitis or pneumonia what did he do he said exhale exhale right exhale left exhale Center exhale here you just heard it and you get tired quickly when you speak with your with your words how much ener is invested in speaking a little bit that's the superficial the external but from the living soul with inside yourself but what comes out when you exhale the which comes really from the inside within that exhaling there's invested inner energy from the living Soul within you this is the mus to in the moral but ad greater and different there's a vast difference above between all Heavenly hosts even including Angels which would creat ex something from nothing and live and exist from the external energy and the influence that God Almighty influences them is to to enliven the world's and this we call NAS Bame the air emitting from the mouth like talking it says with the with the spirit of the mouth all hosts exist and this is the energy that's invested in the letters of the 10 saying let there be light all of that comes from what we call the outer analogous to deor it's the speech of God skip the parenthesis so there's a vast difference between that between the human soul which initially came from the inner energy of God God the inner energy of God it says before in other words the comes from the inside and then descended many levels through the words in the utterance Hashem says let us make man why did allow and want his inner that comes from the Inner Essence like breathing exhaling coming from the inhaling to go through the utterance Let There Be man because hasem wanted that man and the Jew with the soul should be invested in the physical world if you want to live in the physical world you have to at least outwardly get K from which is because if we were to receive here is Masha if we get here from the pus and that would be the Mand we wouldn't be able to relate to the world we will be in the world of thought like the absent minded Professor who wears pants and even though the flood is over or has two different color socks it doesn't relate to anything in the world he's like absentminded is not the real world here it's but at least says therefore Angels because remember he includes angels in this difference angels are not called they're called because the because God your God is is the God of all gods including another give praise to the god of gods and the gods of even of the angels and another POS and the children of the children theim they came to stand in other words says all why because the nurturing of energy that angels have it comes from the exterior it's only the letters the words is considered external in comparison to shame I just finish but the human soul comes from the inner that's part of the because the name denotes the inner energy which is way way above just the letters and words have a great shabas it's shabas and for shabas before the Reb's yard site so I believe there'll be maybe a said he hopes to have a kid KES in honor of the so if you belong to that sh stay around tell your wife you don't you can still come what if you don't of course of course I'm saying those the go Pharaoh I'm saying there all over town make the best of it yeah giml you know it's a special day uh we will learn Monday and Tuesday we'll learn and we fa maybe a little bit on Tuesday we'll see and meanwhile have a great shabas all the best Shalom to Everybody Take Care thank you you're welcome bye-bye