Rosh Hashanah: The Book of Lives - Rabbi Jonathan Rietti

[Music] so we're about 24 hours from the holiest day of the Jewish calendar and I would like to start with a question some of you are familiar with the question already if we were to select one word that comes up again and again in these ten days these very special ten days which word would it comes up again and again game judgment teshuvah it's a word that we are constantly requesting throughout that if a lot of these ten days get Eva to Kate evolve what writing of what in the book of how do we pronounce the word life Khayyam so what's the correct translation for Khayyam it's lush in your head or a beam is it singular or plural so what's correct translation lives so actually what are we asking Hashem should write us in the book of lives there's there's no word there that says write us in the book of life we're referring to the reality that this world is a Lamar shaker it's one life and then there's a llama in it which is a life of knits cute it goes on forever and ever so we don't actually believe in one life that's why there is no word in national kodesh for life the word Chi is singular I'm sorry the life the word hai is not singular it's it's an adjective it means our life as Earth our venal high adios FK yourself is still alive but I'm youkai army so are still alive so we have no word for life because it doesn't exist this world is is a llama checker this world is not really real it appears real because that's just you and I in our minds that's how we interpret everything we're not our bodies we're not our money we're not our zip codes we're not our homes we're not cars were not our career we're not even our family were simply our memories everything that's happening in our lives is taking place inside of our mind and that is something that's not really physical so this world is really made up of what you and I see experience in the lifetime and it's really what's called the sacral and Nick now the mind that we acquire in our lifetime is what lasts into the next world so actually you won't die you personally you will never die your body dies but you personally will never die because you're made up of two elements there's your body and then there's your neshama your soul of the two the body returns to where it comes from the earth and the soul returns to where it comes from which is helical okami mouth back to hashem and that's in Alamut alam ha ha Amit so when we asking a sham please write us in the book of hyeme what do we mean these are 10 days of teshuvah and we're begging Hashem please write us in the book of lives so what are we referring to what are we actually asking our Shem for those till awake we're really asking for sham that right right us foci aim for lives in both worlds and the purpose of giving me one more year in this world is in order that I will have more time to invest in a llama Nietzsche in a world that is forever is this making sense so actually in our prayers in art if you lot we are asking a cottage barcoo to give me another year here because I'm going to be able to invest more in eternity did you follow that's really what we're asking for we're not asking for another year on this planet so that my body ends up on this world yet another year that's not the purpose of life the purpose of life is really for Allah mohamet that's what we really live for so based on this it's rather interesting Bette Sharma in bet he'll oh they had a lot of discussions between them Charmaine Hill Oh themselves the two rappers only argued five times three times actually think it is moon on you bombers but but the bet shall mine Betty Lowe had a look at many times the one one that's recorded that lasted for two and a half years a debate that went on for two and a half years what was that debate it's a gamer ah in a ravine their feud gimel I'm about to page 13 B and that was excellent well what would have been better for God to have created man or not to a greater man nor our dimension lebra Allah nor Adam live na div Genevra would have been better for man not to have been created or created now what's the obvious question about this debate if you would if you whose opinion matters the most mine yours a Kurdish particle gods ok so just put our opinions aside for a moment and if we were to ask revenge on him in your opinion what would have been better to create a man or not to committee man what do you think the answer is obviously because he created man so what are they arguing about the understand the question for two and a half years and you'll talk about the greatest minds what was what was the discussion so comes along and look at him around from nothing a breslav you'll find in teen Jana that's the second kale ik inter allama tests in Chapter number 39 who says the argument was really about alum Hasan alum her Emmet they both agreed finally there as far as this world is concerned would have Shalini bruh it would have been superior had we never been created in the first place the likelihood of me coming out clean in this world there are 365 don'ts 245 t 5 Lotus air and the 248 are say the likelihood of me only doing the right thing statistically I'm probably gonna make a lot of mistakes so it's better if I don't comment as well make mistakes foul up than to come into this world but as far as all am i Annette is concerned it's worth it to be created why it's a tunnel and what do you get for eternity if a person did are they're out their entire life and did one Mitzvah that's all he did the whole the whole of Alomar's Oh only one Mitzvah would it be worth it in hola Maya met yes or no yes why so Rabbi Victor Miller a blessed memory he explains this based on the Vilna Gaon he quotes the vill now go and I never saw the Vilna go on inside that just remembered from rabbi Victor Miller's tape that he explains the following there's a very powerful logic here if a person is a Russia house fish on he's done terrible things in his lifetime so comes to Yama Dean when his soul leaves this world the worst possible scenario is that he'll get 12 months in Gangnam and which is made up of very strong powerful detergents it's like a washing machine and then the Shema needs some cleaning out some attorneys are pretty powerful and very penetrating but after 12 months it's as clean as you can get and from then onwards after that's the worst scenario now in all I'm I met for any Mitzvahed he did there's eternity do you follow so the worst case scenario was 12 months Ganim so explains the Vilna Quran very interesting question which is worse to miss doing a mitzvah or to do an opera the worst is myths is losing out on the opportunity to do a mitzvah that is immeasurably worse than doing a novella why because Ana Vera there's a consequence usually a shame is so kind to us that whatever you serene wherever difficulty or suffering or hospital tragedy or health setback or fine setback or irritation or a slight frustration that all counts as Caparo that all counts as a way to remove the debt that I have form it's for a Verret that I've done mitzvot the mistakes have done in this world so that's out of Hashem kindness if I so show him a person's done Ave rot and did not do Tituba so then he gets gay none for the event these done the most you can get is 12 months you here but from mitzvah that's eternity it's not 12 months it's forever there's there is no equivalent currency to pay back for the smallest Mitzvah that's what's up cuz I'll clean I'll say just tell us that even for one our men Hashem has not got enough olam has a there's not enough world there's not enough money there's not enough gold silver there's not enough cash flow to pay for the value of the smallest miss Val as simple amen that's why the camera tells us when's the first moment a child gets Olam haba the first time he answers our men he has a llama baa really yeah why there's no there's no currency to paying back for that in this world so is his his points are already already starting so what we established right now is the following as far as this world is concerned it can really be difficult there's divorce there's financial loss there's loss of a loved one Children Hospital um can go in a different direction a person could have a health setback hospital on that one could have some really difficult neighbours are very hard mother father brother sister mother and father-in-law daughter-in-law son-in-law husband wife have Russa boss co-worker we covered everybody this world is alarm honey sorry on it is one long test not called Allah - you're not even though the ROM how actually in one place down he calls it all I'm on his song but he does say call in Jana how a llamas air Hemnes you're not Adam so there's the plural there but really it's called Ola - sorry on it's not a world of tests it's one long tests marriage and raising children and controlling my to avert for food that there's not healthy or addictions ha special um or poisonous thinking like hatred and jealousy that's poison in the of the mind it's a it's worse than cancer cancers the body but cancer of the mind oh my gosh that's cos anger that's cancer that destroys a person in both worlds in this world and the next anger just removes us from this world we become unhappy other people don't enjoy us when we're angry or this world some will call it gay haenam a llama bar a llama met oh that's worth that's worth investing in the smallest investment is already eternity so explains the Vilna Gaon this very simple logic no matter how many mistakes I make there is a consequence and there's a payment there's a payment plan I can either if I'm lucky I'll pay off in this world if I if I'm not so here because I didn't do enough tissue if I didn't clean myself up while I was still here then I have to I have all I'm I met to to clean up in and that includes getting on and then it's all I'm then it's all I'm a bar forever that's the worst-case scenario however teshuva had to be created before creation why teshuva makes no sense it's not logical I did something wrong against the king of kings and with one word catotti one word sorry he's willing to erase my track record against him ladies gentlemen have you ever had a person that hurt you upset you and it was not easy to go to bed at night upset with this person and to see them on the street in this initial in in school at work but one day that person sincerely asked your forgiveness and said sorry and it appeared that anyone they really meant it did that one sorry create a tremendous relief and a sense of oh my gosh I can i I I don't have to carry this resentment with me anymore one person sorry can can that happen if you ever had that experience one person sorry and sometimes you might be going on for weeks months or years wishing that that person on their own without me telling them reminding them cajoling them that on their own spontaneously would come to the realization that they upset me and apologize directly how much that would release all the hurt pain anger and ask for forgiveness and really mean it so comes along a cottage baku and he's willing to do that with one word sorry how do we know it's just one word so I was speaking in I think bet Gabrielle I'm not sure which one it is a few months ago so I beg your forgiveness if you heard this example but it's interesting tetra bar takes how long how long does test you about take one second barely a second what's the proof where this texture bar take place in your pinkie in your elbow and your kneecap where does it take place it takes place in in your mind it takes place in your mind it's something that you sincerely feel emotionally in your heart but it's actually the the language of cause all throughout Hill hot tissue vine Rambam is heal her left tissue verbally say for her aid him when he lists all the Mitzvah according to different parts of the body your ears your nose they're very few minutes but negate your nose your eyes your mouth your hands your legs the bear it so claims the signal radium there are fifth one Mitzvahed which Allah we believed and it's not referring to over here it's referring to it over here that's there are fifty one out of six thirteen that depend on what you're thinking the word live most time means thinking so teshuva is here where I live it's what you're thinking in your mind do you follow there are reasons why the word left means both your mind and your emotions because for many people I'm not a pain I'm not really paying attention to what I'm thinking so if I really want to know what I'm thinking the best thing to do is say what am I feeling oh I feel frustrated oh that means I'm thinking frustration thoughts I'm angry oh that means I'm thinking angry thoughts I'm happy that means I'm thinking happy thoughts so sometimes it's easier for us to pay attention to what we're feeling because that tells us what we're thinking do you follow also Curtis Park was not interested in me just being right up here he doesn't want me to just be clinically correct he wants me to get excited about correct thinking one of the best things we can think is how can I improve my mind how can I change what I'm thinking about my wife about my husband so that I will look for more reasons to love them to appreciate them to be grateful to them how can I be more appreciative of my own children who I wasn't born in their generation and they are struggling for whatever reasons in a in a world that's really complicated and very confusing and and for some children's extremely fearful how can I be how can I change the way I look at my child that's cool to Shuba that means I'm changing what I'm thinking teshuvah is the English translation with repentance becomes a workshop which means to sit also means return I'm going back to its original source what's the original source you are helic Aloka my mouth you are really from Hashem that's the real you your selam aleykum so comes Bob who wants me to see that in you that's what he's looking for me to change in my mind Anna sham loves it so much when we do teshuvah he is maha last by simcha that language that Rashi quotes Casal in Perak aftet in in in Deva room where moisture Bane reminds us that the Salaf decayed varaha when we were forgiven according to my gems - according to martial famous words we were forgiven for the worst of era one of the worst that was a header eagle why is the head a eagle one of the worst of a rot why is adultery so serious what's wrong with the DAO tree what's missing trust it's a break of trust a trust that was there's already a commitment in marriage so to break that through adult room that's very serious so say hazael it's an expression I could never say myself but because I'll say it a loop like Allah how how humiliating that the bride would Zinta Tejada Bala right under the Hupa in front of her about how she would go with the best man can you imagine like something all of it right it just took the ring and then walked away with another man I mean what you're the husband and you see this in front of your eyes everyone just saw that in front of a dim witnesses you married this lady and now she walks away with another man what what is what are you thinking can she ever be forgiven question okay so we have one maybe from the ladies and all the rest said no any any of the men what do you say so says I encourage barcoo in she Reshiram which deserves to be quoted tonight limp of tini but a hot main iron I loved you my one-eyed color by my my bride of one eye so there you are at the reception you pull up the the veil just to make sure it's the same wife that you proposed to and she's exactly the same wife just one eye missing oh now distel of her says the chorus part who I loved you my one-eyed color my one-eyed bride what do you mean my boy nitrite Shama Malik is referring to Muhammad Hassan I the cloudy is remarried a cottage Baku we were his bright but one of our eyes was already on the egg l the the golden calf and a college bar who said I still loved you my one-eyed color Masha been who went up to hussy night for how long forty days and forty nights did he eat drink one long yong-ki boy didn't sleep either oh my gosh that's that's a long time and right at the end which was actually the day of Yom Kippur forty days later Hashem said cilok t-kid Baraka I have forgiven you as you have requested and says Rashi salak t Besim huh I have happily forgiven you oh my gosh adultery under the chuppah and Rapunzel um you're saying that you will forgive us for that really I said yeah you do you have any idea how much I love you you could almost do nothing wrong which means you can do everything wrong and if you say sorry I'm gonna I'll take you back really and how long does that take one second is that really true in Holika as I mentioned last time I'm going to mention very briefly and it's a seminar in short on our kin Devin Hester in seminar at head safe lamb at Aleph so it says it's this is halal Emma I said a gentleman is known to be a Rajah gum or totally wicked shabbat kashrut everything is Gomorrah there's nothing he does right and it's everybody knows he takes a ring out of his pocket puts it on the finger of a lady or gives her a Peralta worth of a small coin and with it he says hariyama kadesha bleah behold you are patrol to me all not on condition Shani Sadiq that I am a righteous individual check out Rebecca Vega who adds the word gum more I am at tsadikim or I'm totally righteous what's the halacha Makuta chat or a no Mecca - it is this a valid marriage yes or no it's a valid marriage why you know this Russia everyone knows not just Tom he's Russian Kamui so totally wicked person how can you say makuu - it there is a valid marriage and the answer is sure my hero teach you verbally born perhaps Shama perhaps there's a possibility that in that one second between between being a rocker more and now saying I'm at Santa cam war in that switch of a moment when he patrolled her he had a thought of teshuvah scheme' he wrote issue verb burly boy he had a thought of testified his mind in that one second the halacha changes and now if they want to get divorced here you have to have a get it's a 100% valid marriage that's very serious what's the message what's the message you can turn on a time how long does it take to do teshuvah one second has he proved has he got a new track record of only eating kosher only keeping Shabbat wearing Tefilin every day lighting Shabbat candles keeping young Tov he's got no track record but the halacha recognizes sham our hero at issue by billy boy that's enough on the possibility and so that counts it's 100% valid oh so now let's figure this out her Kurdish bar who created the universe and we're right now in day number nine of 10 days of teshuvah really any day of the year is good for teshuvah any hour of the day any minute of any day of the entire year but our Shem in his kindness gave us an extra 40 days between all Abell all right to the end of Yom Kippur you want to add on at shmoo huh got cert so you have to look at the Hasidic for him for that but otherwise you've got 40 days here where it's especially especially ed rats on a favorable time that I Shem says I'm coming out of the palace I'm available for you I'm coming out to meet you talk to me ask me forgiveness how longs it take one word catotti I'm sorry for what well I have to know what I'm sorry for I've abused my body I'm not I haven't been taking care of it properly need I need to sleep as much as I need to sleep I need to eat best of all under eat not overeat that's rum bum in the Hills hot day on to parrot darlin you'll see there he says it three times do I need to do teshuvah for being unkind with my words yes please hm forgive me for that too Felicia Nara oh that's that's really hard yeah help me with that too so she um says all you have to say sorry but can I say sorry for all my aver out yes you can do that too it works it counts why is it count because teshuvah makes no sense it's not rational and for that reason a sham had to create teshuva before he created the universe because the universe works on laws of cause and effect teshuva is beyond the law how is it beyond the law a person kills someone the guy's died is dead it's gone can't can't bring him back to life till tiata meet him so the murderer killed him and he did it on purpose now the guy says I want to do teshuvah he was not gonna bring the guy back to life what will his tissue about help the consequences are going to be changed because he says I'm sorry now he wishes he never did it which means that it turned from Ana Vera a violation permit which was done deliberately to now I wish I never did it what does not correspond to one his name is Jude and hey involving hey that's the name we call Hashem when we say the Ute Kimmel MoDOT Avraham him Hashem Hashem we share Sam's name twice our door and night Weiss why you'd kpop KY coz I what I was is and always will be I exist in all time which means Hashem says I can take your new Cavanaugh you wish you never killed this person and you know what I'm gonna do I'm gonna take that new governor I'm gonna place it on top of the old act of murder and now it's sure gig and because of that the consequences change now the person doesn't get the same consequences that's if he does teshuva mayor ah because he's afraid of the consequences he can change his consequences but what happens if he does teshuva mayor hava what happens then it's a game era in Yuma pave over my bet and it's brought in halakha in rum hills Rambam of tissue bar a person does teshuvah Mira he changes every single Avera he did from a maze it deliberately to show ghek it changes the status once it changes the status the consequences are changed to follow he doesn't get death penalty death penalties for form Aziz now is pusher Genki would go to re MacLeod so even if there is no Mary McLeod and there's no painful death penalty but death penalty in sham I'm still exists and now it's canceled oh he would have gone to re me klutz so how would that work I know maybe he has to do a lot more traveling but now it's been reduced from a consequence of a death penalty to gallo to running around org or not being home too much it's also Khepera but what happens if he does teshuvah meet me Ava he says a pendulum I love you now the reason why I wouldn't do in a very is cuz I how could I do that to someone I love and I'm doing Tituba me Ava what happens to the Avera now it changes their over not to the who yacht oh my gosh so let's say you've got an Avera under - I'd the scale and now it becomes as a hood to the person it goes to the plus side the scale so let's say you've got a Raja who's got let's say I don't know a - a thousand and he does teshuva a mahira it brings up to the zero scale and now he's a very at accountant - okay but if he doesn't matter he does tissue bar from love Hashem takes his half a rock from - a thousand now it's plus a thousand does that make sense see it's not rational only a college bar was allowed to do that so we created something which is beyond divides beyond the laws of nature and that's why I had to create teshuva before the creation tissue that was created before how do we know that this is really what what the world exists for if you wonder what's going through her Shems mind what does he really want from us it's not that complicated all you have to do is read the story of the Torah look look at it in terms of the big picture and start to notice how there's a progression how the story unfolds we're in the words of Robert Victor Miller Hashem switches his mind changes his mind what does it mean to change his mind to change his focus there's a focus till a certain point in the Torah and then it switches to another focus then switches to another focus but that each time it switches it's not just a little switch it's completely to the exclusion of whatever he was focused on before do you follow until it gets to a point where the only focus he has is on one item and that's for the rest of the Torah now you know that that's what's most important to our champ do you follow the logic the Lang the the example the rabbi Victor Miller gave was one of an autobiography you meet someone's biography read someone's biography he wrote himself as his autobiography and he writes the first two chapters about his childhood next four chapters about his adolescence next three chapters about his marriage and then from chapter let's say 10 I'm not sure we're up to chapter 24 to the end the book all he talks about is his career so what's obvious to you as the reader what's most important to him everything till now was preparation to discuss his career and I'm not making it right or wrong I'm just telling you that when you read someone's book and you realize that the initial chapters they fall away into oblivion and if there's any mention any reference to previous chapters it's only in the new context but really the focus switched from childhood to adolescence to marriage to career from the career on was that's all he talks about oh now you know that that's his main focus sucess Robert Victor Miller Rita Shems autobiography and you will see what matters the most to a cottage barnacle so in the world of science there's a lot to discuss thanks to Hubble telescope Sir Edward Hubble 1924 blew the minds of astronomers because until that point we actually thought that the local solar system and our local galaxy is the entire stretch of the universe came along Edward Hubble with the Hubble telescope today it's a veritable satellite and discovered that there's over 400 billion galaxies in the visible universe and each one contains about a hundred to three hundred billion stars whoa that's a lot of space and little planet Earth is a speck of a speck of a speck it's just so small even in our own galaxy it's tiny and all of that Hakata Sparkle focuses on in the first pass awk Bereshit bara elokim anti-shah Mayan and before the end of the first pass hook a sham has already Marcia that he's already switched focus from the entire magnitude of the billions of galaxies in the visible universe to it's and the next boss look completely ignores the universe if there's any mention of Sun Moon and stars in the next thirty so came it's only because of the context of planet Earth so you see how shams focus switched from the entire universe to little all planet Earth that's all he's interested in but that only goes for 30 more verses because after 31 pursue keema Hashem is done with planet Earth no more mention of mountains valleys oceans landforms vegetation trees birdies fish animals day6 a shem creates Adam and from this moment onwards no interest in planet Earth animals Sun Moon stars mountings if there's any mention of any of those it's only in the context of the new focus Adam do you follow and then six purakh him later six chapters later what does Hashem do wipes out Adam the whole of mankind dawn except for one individual and his family the first man ever to be called ish ish Sadiq and you get the pattern the entire universe was created for planet Earth was great for mankind what was mankind created for who will be my Saddiq I'll done below it he ate from the tree Noah you know it's worth saving the world for you but you're not that's antic I'm looking for why not what did you do wrong is it's a dig Oh Sadiq yes has seed no which is greater Hasid oh oh it's a tick which one you have a russia at the bottom Ben Oni Sadiq Rambam and mentions a how come as well then you got a high seed which is above at Sadiq as it goes beyond the letter of law that something does the right thing but the Hassid goes beyond that so now it was told I'm gonna wipe out mankind but I'm gonna save you build me an ark for you and all the animals what Emily no lessons and does the right thing he sets at a casino why not because he didn't bargain it didn't ask to burn time save save humanity only when he came out of the ark then he cried to Hashem so comes along a car bumper says I'll save the world for you cuz your word Sadiq but I wish you doesn't for everyone so he blew it five chapters later right at the end of chapter 11 going into chapter 12 who enters the story of the Torah and steals the show and from this moment onwards there's no other focus Avraham and sorry Meena just read the Torah and and just look at what's happening from this moment onwards nobody else is mentioned no civilization unless it's in the focus of Abram and Sarah Yitzhak and Yakov Sarah Ruth Carolyn they're only because of the Albert in my Hut and then the shifty car that's why the police team might be an mentioned or the MIT's rim or a mountain or a valley but otherwise there's no interest in planet Earth civilization only in this individual family and they go down to mitzrayim multiply and then Mahmoud has seen a God switches focus for the last time in a way and that is from now one you're not Jewish because your parents are Jewish it's not enough for you you've got to be blown from a Jewish mother it's not enough just have a monotheistic mother like guiche Myles mother hug ah you smile was not Jewish why not his mother was a common righteous convert no no he chose not to follow the same value system as his father a sow's father mother were real I'm towering tsadikim doesn't make a difference a star's not Jewish which means not George well he didn't he didn't follow the value system of his parents oh so before Mount Sinai Hassan I didn't make a difference who your parents were you chose to be from but from this moment onwards Hashem says if your mother was Jewish that's it Yona Shama is forever and the clock's ticking and I care about nothing please forgive me for saying this way Hashem is not paying attention to anything else in the entire Bria for the rest of Tanakh the only people who get any focus is B'nai Israel do you follow and throughout knock throughout knock all than a vm are doing the same thing begging us to do teshuva come back to our shame Hashem says look if you if you do this value stay in your land if you don't I throw you out but I want to react for more than 70 years Rhea Rhea who parrot cafe after time tears you'll come back but if you still don't keep my mitzvah in my Torah I'm throwing our game this time it's gonna be much longer Parrikar ket cuff Ted alarmed in purchase catawba and where is still in that galoot but our sham promises we just made it last last couple of weeks Birkhoff Ted & Lomb it that about Salah council colada very Marilla Parekh Dollard pass the kilometer I think it is impossible Kannan all these things we'll have found you by the end of days but Salah kau Inoa kolaveri ma la ba areata yamim what is inferring to you just look at pair of dollar days I'm a fascinating barrack it's got all the air so they hire muna chapter 4 part vodka nun you're gonna go into car loot not once twice you're gonna be few in number you will be you'll be hated by all the nations you're gonna be spread out throughout the whole world your land will remain desolate but you will do teshuvah before the end of days and you will come back to your land and you'll come back to me we're living in the Extra Ordinary times we're 24 hours before the holiest day in the Jewish calendar and our Shem says please come back to me and it takes one second to say sorry and Rambam says I have to have a muna that teshuva really works that much say yom kippur we should really consider ourselves tsadikim gumma rim okay we're gonna make some mistakes over the next couple of weeks but still we got a new slate a completely new start I have to have him were naturally mud that teshuva really works because that's the halacha it really does and that is really the purpose of the Berea Hashem promises that Gila will come in there's a hood of of teshuvah Hashem even says and this is this is quite extraordinary it's in the same page in Yuma Duff paper I'm a bit where the language of the camera is gelati Juba says eat or not not a sort Lokesh God God we covered that this far so great an affair that's done on purpose is considered as the show cake and then now say look is who yacht but if dump net hava then this is it or not which is a nivara dump it on purpose deliberately against our gem is counted as a hood that's incredible - latisha Varsha my erection no - Adam - Shiva is very great because it will lengthen the years of a person a person can actually add on years because of the history bomb now here comes rubbing Mir this is mind-blowing the great Rebbe mere rabbi meir ma'am gaedola issue Varsha peaceful yahud esata Suva Mahalaleel o.o LOL i'm cool or it's possible that one person's teshuvah will gain himself makyla which means erase Muhammad's erase that means it's gone there's nothing left no no rush em there's no impression whatsoever Hashem erases the past completely but not only for himself but color on color really really yeah yeah that's what I'll say Trust Co Sal oh that's the power of one person's tissue bar I don't know who that one person is but I'm guessing I don't know but I'm guessing then everything in Hashem s point system goes according to lift firm Sarah Agra how difficult it is for a person to control the anger and they control it whoa that's big how difficult is it to control my jealousy and I let go and don't keep those thoughts in my mind wow that's very powerful one person overcoming something that's hard for them can genuinely affect the whole world in fact one person not doing anything can also affect the whole destiny of mankind the example I'm thinking of is from lot you'll recall that when lot was taken captive what they hood what merit did he have that his life was saved what did he do right in his lifetime that his life was saved and his daughters asknasa ork him he definitely had that on his record was that this hood owed that saved his life yes or no why was he deserving to be taken out of Saddam he didn't say anything when was that empiric you'd bet when Avram Aveeno went down to him it's rhyme because of a row of a terrible famine and asked Sara main would pretend she's she's his sister and asked light cooperate light was silent what's so big about that was something about his silence at that time was Yitzhak born no was a Verma be no average wealth or fabulously wealthy fabulously wealthy who was his only heir light now all I had to do was tell power listen you know this beautiful Asia that you've never seen anyone as beautiful as her no one no one was as beautiful sorrow Menem except for hava sorry mine was extraordinarily and light could have said look she's really my sister and she's married to over I'm just knock him off and you can take my sister and who would he who would it be inherited all the whales about lovino how do we know that lights Achilles heel his real weakness was his love for money how do we know that because he moved to Las Vegas to Sood I'm sorry sorry sorry it's the same Kamaria this time is the same country so he moved he moved to Saddam why because he loved money Oh have Nasir saw him he was willing to give his daughters he honor your mind out of your mind to give me a daughter still mop how that's great never heard of such a comrade I have to be fair to light by the way light was not an idiot but forgiving his daughters and Ralph naser oric him didn't count why not that was part of his education he was raised in a home of a colossus arkham that was not difficult that was easy Oh easy hey you get reward but not that much it's hard to overcome anger jealousy to be silent when you could have made a lot of money that's not easy it was worthy of his life being saved ladies gentlemen fast forward his life and his two daughters who was born because of his daughters Maya who was born because of Maya root Ruth who was born because of Ruth Darwin a Malik who is or will be born because of Darwin America oh my gosh was his one moment of silence small or mega gigantic see one moment of teshuva goes according to how difficult is it for me to overcome this anger jealousy with this child with this mother-in-law with his brother more with my sister and my brother whoever it is that or even with God it has to show my mangu against him elephants are agua according to the difficulty Oso claim kazar one person teshuva could be enough not to just secure him Makela but could also bring it for the whole world there's a lot more to be said on this but I'm just bring out that in God's point system it's totally different to the way you and I see this world this world is Allah madam Yong it's it's a world of imagination it's not real not only is the news mostly fake the vast majority of what we hear is fake most of what we see and what we say with our own mouths it's just interpretation it's not accurate we almost never have all the information to be absolutely certain that our opinion about our spouse or a child or ourselves or other people is totally accurate we hardly ever have all the information only the banished litem knows the full picture of where we come from and all our difficulties think we overcame and how hard it is so late I'm sure you had no clue how much he was investing not only in his own life being saved and his daughters his wife would it was originally saved as well but she turned around but it was enough that he saved his wife and two daughters and one of his daughters became the mother of a nation they had a righteous convert Ruth who gave birth eventually to darvid a Melek she was still alive in his lifetime Darwin America began the dynasty of the Messiah so Michelle is because of lights silence one moment of not doing anything that's what is it that was his mitzvah comes along the same Gemara that was that was what I was I wanted to share so really the entire Bria the hot tire creation was created for teshuvah how can we prove that so I mentioned this last time it very briefly when a college bar who gave his report at the end of each day he said it's good you tithe but the end of six days he said bearish em at call us our Vahine a toddler odd is exceedingly good he said this report at the end of each day the sixth day said at the end of the sixteen the twelfth hour by that hour Adam had already what eaten from a tree he date from the tree in the ninth hour in the tenth hour he was judged sorry in the ninth hour he was instructed not to eat from the tree the tenth hour he ate some tree and eleventh hour he was judged and the taught our strong I'm gonna turn now Hashem gives his final report and Hashem says it's it's a really good world and you and I should be mr. men we should be in incredulous ly like Rapunzel um how can you say that Adam has now set back the whole of the Bria now we know 5588 years and almost one week and and we're still in the middle of tikkun her alarm or near the end really so how can you say it's an exceedingly good world what options answer don't look at this world as reality it's not because I created tissue wrong and to shebar takes a second so even though they're gonna be millions of Jews born through Adam emission and mashiac still hasn't yet come but collectively we will bring the final gate will are and will bring the world to its tickin because of teshuvah soshim says even if Adam messes up don't worry I can I can still make it happen that with all the mess ups all the mistakes that Claudius will ever make I can sting still bring about my get Lula it's a promise it has to happen and you can be certain it will because every other promise Hashem has ever made came true already we were thrown out land not once twice seventy years in between we remain few in number throughout the whole world Jewish history we're very few in number we're barely 13 million and it's is dwindling very quickly with assimilation within within 15-20 years the only Jews left will be Jews or recognizable as Jews that have a community they belong to where Tefilin keep Shabbat kashrut it's frightening well we're in the worst spiritual Holocaust that we've ever had probably in Jewish history we're losing our brethren extremely fast but mid-side Chaney on the other hand Jewish people within the Torah are coming back Jews have been from from birth but feel like robots and don't know why they're from our reigniting their understanding of why they're keeping Shabbat kashrut the world is changing very quickly and our children are being torn and this way I really want to end I think the greatest issue about that we have to do this my personal opinion is to understand our kids because they are suffering terribly they can't articulate their suffering they cannot a click their confusion they are extremely confused they're part of a world is very script scary terrorism tons of divorce health problems they can't even tell you how scared they are because they're too young they're not the the the kalium to explain it our job is to be as understanding as is possible and part of my tissue as a parent and as if I'm involved in education is to appreciate that our children are part of a system that is not necessarily preparing them for full adulthood it's not fully preparing them to become independent that's what adulthood really means God Dom is independent that's what it really means God home is an adult the concept of an adult is to be independent to prepare a child to be independent in reading acronym fluently to make sure this child is your daresay fair he couldn't really can open up a safe on his own and learn it there's no reason why after 10 15 20 years of a yeshiva education there is no excuse why a child who's now in kollel can't read a passage from beginning to end and accurately translate it correctly and show you that there's words here that don't make sense because the Torah was written that way and has got an analytical mind there's no reason in the world why our system should not be producing children who know how to read accurately fluently and make sense out of pursue Kim and in a text based system which our system really is and it's not hustling about bashing the system as wrong it's about focusing on understanding our children where we've got tissue bar to do and that is how do we help our kids have meaning in their darling because if they don't know what they're saying how can I hold my kids how can I judge my kid for for not for wanting to get out of darling as fast as possible if he doesn't know what he's saying than 95% am i exaggerating so what's he doing for an hour and now and a quarter now and half a day between charrette min Han Marie how much toughening is he doing the answer is an hour and now and a quarter but what's he really doing he's going through an exercise in meaningful communication with a pendulum or meaning futility Rozlyn cuz tefillah according to Casa trust result is coming out alive which means focus of the mind discipline of the mind that's what confirma means key one means target its focus of the mindset discipline of the mind my mind is wandering because I don't know what I'm saying if I don't know what I'm saying where's my mind I'm disconnecting from acara's powerful for an hour plus a day for 2,000 hours before Bar Mitzvah it's no mystery that our kids are turned off by just one aspect which is taking up a serious portion of their day and turning permits for the boy saying in his mind I have to do this three times a day 365 days a year for the rest of my life you've got to be kidding as soon as I can I'm out of here and that's just one aspect if we don't have meaning in why they're from this is a serious problem I have a mitzvah of teshuvah to number one understand that we have a serious problem on our hands and I can't be part of the problem I need to be part of the solution there are many answers to be how to be part of that solution but it starts with a recognition that it's not it's not enough that we have all the beautiful programs for the adults we we need to make sure that our teachers get the type of training that they need so they can teach our children what the kids need to learn in order to be strong in their Jewish identity to understand she Russian prefixes suffixes and the root words of otherwise in a text-based system a kid is doomed if he doesn't know how to read actually fluently doesn't have to make sense out of the words he's doomed in Mishnah in gamer out if he doesn't understand what's going frying if he's never learned teriyaki Mitzvahed which the mission is a perish - don't believe me go check out the first run back to Nora in wish knives parent Pyrrhic berkutov espera caliph mission Aleph all of Mishnah is is a page to the myths was except for Pirkei Avot if children don't know are you Mitzvahed then you've got to explain so much background information in every single Mishnah and camera why because the mission assumes you know Terry arguments bought the game assumes you know mission ayahs which is commentating to there are ways to salute to solve this there's a book out to get it on amazon.com it's called the from revolution I'm slightly biased no matter my son wrote it but it's excellent it's called the from revolution and it covers a lot of these concerns but I'm I'm just plugging the following part of my teshuva is of course for me but I'm an adult and if I'm a parent or I'm involved in the education or and if I'm not directly involved in education people ask me to pay towards the yeshiva help me do teshuvah so that the next generation have a relationship directly with cars bahu through tefillah there's much to be said on on this subject I'm going to close on the following module which I hope brings to light everything that we talked about tonight Joe is 14 years in a job he hates can you imagine that he can't get out the paycheck is good it's never enough but he hasn't got a skillset for another type of job he's frustrated the department he's in in a very large company actually works for a guy called Bill Gates Berg and multi-billionaire I never got to see him himself but he's got he's got the manager above him he's no drive him nuts and he he's been going through this for years really frustrated camest have tremendous kyboot of every day he calls his father actually calls him for about three times a day every morning off new name eeeek he calls follow time but the funny thing is he does it kind of by rote hi dad hi son how are you everything's good dad how's the job it's fine dad house house every home everything's good one word sentence is like a teenager you've ever met teenager okay so like never more than a sentence and he ritually calls in every day says hi dad but never really holds a conversation never opens up about what's going on in his life and his father is not gonna force himself on him but he always gives him an opening hi son wait to hear from you what what's news nothing much - everything's fine dad it's not gonna pry about the manor house how's your how's your wife she's she's great and he's suffering terribly in the marriage softening terribly with the kids but he just he just he's he's missing out on whatever it is one day he's so frustrated in his job he says you know what I've got to quit but the the knowledge of knowing that I'm gonna be out on the street I'm not gonna get severance from quitting he says I I've got to make a decision the next 24 hours either I quit or I'm gonna I'm gonna make the she's gonna have the courage to make an appointment with the secretary - to speak to Bill Gates Berg and see if there's anything dude get me out of this department and it goes into the secretary and just oh hi how can I help you said yeah my name is Joe whatever he's a last name list yeah sure I know okay I was wondering if is it possible to have an appointment with it with the bus oh sure what time do you want to meet him it's just like this is crazy right at what time do I want to meet him so he says well I'm I'm on my lunch break right now I'm going right back to it to work but I wanna clock tomorrow would be great Oh perfect he'll he'll be here then a tomorrow yeah tomorrow oh great thank you so you know I can't believe he's like he's gonna be Bill Gates burger multi-billionaire head of the whole company and he comes one o'clock in time for his meeting and is there just a few minutes early - lunch break just a few minutes early and he gets there like three minutes to one and he sees Bill Gates but walk out of his office and says oh he's like he's so nervous can't believe he's gonna he's got an appointment with the guy and two minutes later the secretary says okay the bus is waiting for it said you can come in now see what Bill Gates put just left no no that it's waiting inside for you it's okay okay so walks in it gets the shock of his life sitting in Bill Gates book seat is is his is his father dad we're doing that book all my life I had I'm not had the courage to speak but please dad you can't do this me I know what you're doing here son sit down sit down dad I know but this is no joke I'm serious bookcase but just walked out it's coming in back I've got an appointment o'clock please I beg you son son sit down sit down dad you can't do this to me knock on the door bill gates Berg knocks on the door and his dad says come in hi Dave that's Joe's father's name I need to ask you about is this good moment sure I need to ask you about that deal that building went into foreclosure so it's going for 78 million I wonder what you what do you think I should offer so come in at 65 okay Bill Gates book walks out says thanks Dave and Joe the signs thing dad what's going on you this some sort of joke what's going on Suzanne sit down sit down meanwhile a guy called Soros comes in will not my also nice multi-billionaire it also comes in for a certain advice and Dave gives him advice one on the spot walks out and any sick dad what's going on tell me what's going on listen son sit down why did you come here I came to speak to the boss dead so so what did you want to say I want to say how I'm extremely unhappy in my in my work tell me more what's what what's you're unhappy about so starts pouring out his heart about the manager is just extremely abusive and all the coworkers take you from him and no to they can just like bully him take no notice of him not treat him well and he just hates his work and he he would like to transfer to another another department meanwhile a guy called Warren Buffett walks in and also a multi-billionaire and asks for advice on another deal and Dave they give him some my advice and and Warren walks out saying thanks boss and Joe says dad dad they they were calling you boss what's going on please explain she said sanim explained I own the company all these guys are my front men I've got a lot of Sh like him a lot of men I don't want anyone to know that it's really me behind it the scenes especially for you dad why keeping this a secret for me I could have got promotion I don't know what are you doing to me son you don't seem to understand every day you call me I'm asking how things are and I want you to share with me because I'm able to help you and I want to help you and I never gave up and I was just so happy when the secretary called me yesterday and said that you finally plucked up the courage to speak to the boss so here I am and I'm gonna help you move to depart a different Department dad you really are gonna give me that like head of department no something doesn't look like that it doesn't like that yeah as you demonstrate your value and your determination and your work ethic I'll help you grow in the company but here's the rule you gonna come to me every day four days a week out of the five days you work four days a week for 15 minutes and tell me every detail of what's going on and I'll help you I'm here to help you now you obviously understand the new Michelle is a college bar was hokule'a hall he's at a Kiev ballet - paliku high school um he has lots of frontmen everything in our life this all just camouflage and a sham says please talk to me don't just just don't just call in three times a day yeah everything's good just say the words no talk your own words because that was the original filler and comes along Yom Kippur ladies gentlemen if you had to answer the question which is the most important moment in your entire lives some might say well I guess maybe the time up in the moment I was born or moment I was married some might argue that a few weeks afterwards and well the first time I had when my first child was born over in his turn teenager and maybe not wasn't such good time so so when what's the most important moment in your life and the answer is the moment you live in right now right now is the most important there's no other time that you and I ever live in because the moment it's happened its history and the future never exist till it happens and then it's already the present the only moment unites ever living is now in this moment and cause bar who gave us one 24-hour period open up talk your bench Leila it used to be before the sitter 2,000 years ago that Yom Kippur was one full day of just talking to Hashem Roberta Lum please forgive me this is what I said or did with my wife that wasn't right help me to be more appreciative more loving more giving to my husband more understanding to my child more appreciative of my mother my father my brother helped me become less negative about how me to pay attention to what I'm renting space in my mind to oh my days and all my hours so that I start paying more attention to gratitude and gratitude makes me more happy because unhappy people are people with unhappy thoughts and angry people are people with angry thoughts help me take please pendulum help me pay more attention to my mind cuz he who teshuva believe means to change my mind to change my thought process help me make that commitment I know everyone's gonna go like this after Yom Kippur in now up and down up and down but help me it should be more up and down because I really want to be a better father to my children a better husband to my wife better wife to my husband more loving in my avoidance hm it's in the hood in the Mitzvah of Yom Kippur which is the most precious moment in the Beria are closed I truly mean it rev Kutner offers the following question the Kohen Gadol he's the holiest man on planet earth enters the holiest place on planet Earth in the holiest time on planet Earth and that is on Yom Kippur in the cottage hakudoshi and he has a short taffeta first Mishnah and Park haein you MA what is he dozen for what is he dumb for oh my god she's in coitus Ekadashi he speaks or baseline what's he gonna pray for now you look carefully it's quite bizarre everyone should have their own pond uh-huh okay I can hear that what else what else health no one should have a miscarriage number three Rapunzel a lump please don't listen to the traveller after Sukkot going home when he tells you please don't bring down the rain because it will make the roads muddy and you'll get what's the worst case scenario if the roads get muddy he'll get home and his shoes will be muddy in the walk over there Wayne and his wife will get angry they said was a police officer who was a was brought to court because he came to a house where the wife had killed her husband for walking over the wet floor with his dirty shoes and the judge said to him is it true that you you didn't arrest her for 20 minutes and said yes your honor said why not because the floor was too wet so why is it I saw it ladies didn't laugh that one sorry so why is it that the that that of all things the kohanga doll is asking a car Sparkle please don't listen to the traveler on his way home that the rain should not come down when all of Socotra asked him please bring the rains don't listen to him cuz his feet will get all dirty what shouldn't if he lies that what do in the most most important moment is a good question answers rip Kutner establishing what the camera is telling us is the following it takes the greatest holiest person on planet Earth in the holiest place kore desuka - him in the holiest moment in time nila to stop the tefillah of one simple jew who's making a request that's not that big that's the power of Davila oh and the greatest eight routes on the greatest the favor starts tomorrow night for 24 hours straight every second counts please reverse time help me do teshuvah you don't already helped me to do everything I need to do even if I can't remember everything I've done wrong I beg of you help me to start anew if it comes with tears great if it doesn't don't force it but ask Hashem please help me do teshuvah Alva how we do it mahira don't ever help me have my key look in the bringing of mushiya and without me also her to see the common ship I'm here may know our men [Music]