Rosh Hashanah - Divrei Chizuk For Those Seeking Shidduchim - "A Fresh Perspective For a Fresh Year"

this Tower class is brought to you by torahanytime.com good evening everyone thank you rifky for inviting me tonight it's a very hectic time of the year but I could not turn Ricky down and respect for the tremendous work that rifky does for Claudia Israel I just had to come out this evening even if only for a few minutes just as a tribute to rifky's avoidance and I personally wish you a happy and healthy year sanatorium would have liked to be here tonight said that there's going to be a lot of kadusha in this room this evening and there certainly is but let's not beat around the bush and ignore the proverbial elephant in the room there's also a lot of pain in this room tonight there is tremendous pain and honestly I do not feel like I have the word the right words to say I was asked to address the following question for the last 10 15 20 years perhaps longer I come to shul and every year I'm asking for the same thing that's just one request and the years pass and I'm watching my younger siblings getting married and I'm at watching everyone else in my family with their kids and I'm by myself hoping one day for my own family I'm going to Bar mitzvah's bass Mitzvahs of nieces and nephews and sometimes even the weddings of nieces and nephews and I try to put on a smile and make believe that I'm happy for them and I truly am happy for them but it's also so painful and every Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur I turn and I cry and I beg to Hashem when is it going to be my turn and it's just a very painful and difficult time of the year and I'll be honest with you when I heard this question my reaction was this this is a heart-wrenching question my heart goes out to you and honestly I feel that I am completely inadequate to be able to offer a meaningful response what should I tell you what should I say that you don't already know that I've been better Davin Moore cry more am I doing anyone a service who am I to tell someone who's offered so many heart-wrenching feelings to dive in more I don't think that would be a meaningful response and I told rifky it's such an important midsaw to offer physics to people but really I just don't know what to say but then I shared an idea and rifky said please come and share this one idea it's so powerful it's so poignant so here it goes the sensual theme of the Felice of Rosh Hashanah is malheit accepting Hashem as king of the world we say we say that please place your dread on all of creation we say Hashem rule over the Whole World in Your Glory foreign one of the main cavanos of blowing the shofar is like the trumpets they are coordinating Hashem as a king this is one of the main emphasis and focus on Rosh Hashanah and interestingly there's now one request in the original text of shimane esre for our personal welfare there is no request for life not for health not for paranasa sure yeah we say this but these are all later editions of the godem which were not found in the gemara in the original text of Shema esre it's all about one thing and one thing only declaring Hashem King of the universe why are there no personal requests and I think that the answer can be found in the words of the ram Khal IM the author of the Messiah is the highest level that is possible for human being of understanding Hashem and I'll read to you his words and when all mankind acknowledges it will be every type of goodness and prosperity [Music] for him blessing will increase will reign and vice versa if the world does not recognize hashem's mouth says if there should be a reason for Hashem to reveal his malchus [Music] it will result in great good and prosperity please let me explain Hashem is Hashem has every form of Brock at his disposal he's shock eye he has enough to go around for everyone the desire is there he's the greatest says what's the greatest love in this world one spouse for another a parent for a child no the greatest love in this world is a person's love for themselves but says as much as a person loves themselves loves a person so his desire he has the strongest desire to bestow brahmanas and therefore we really don't have to ask for anything all we need to do is Hashem show us your mouth be the king of the world be our King manifest your mouth was because when your malchus is Manifest automatically it will come with every single form of bracha so what do we focus on on Rosh Hashanah personal requests that's an indirect way of getting what we need for Hashem to accept a personal request he would have to manifest as Mela so he gets straight to the Core show us that you're the king of the world show us that you're our King and if we accept hashem's in this world and we accept that the world belongs to rebanisham and we are just poems in the hands of the king the more we're macabella the more the bracha will flow automatically let me share with you the following thought who can really accept upon themselves the malachas of Hashem who can really accept Hashem as the melach someone who life is playing out exactly as they would have drawn it up someone who borrowed Hashem has everything going for them maybe they went out at 18 and a half and they got engaged to the first guy that they went out with someone who their life is playing out the way they would have scripted it are they really accepting Hashem as their King pretty difficult they're more like giving Hashem a pat on the back good job keep it up my life is going how I want it to go and and basically don't interfere the person could feel very much in control of their own destiny destiny and maybe then there's a lack in the acceptance but when life is not going the way one would have written it up a person has the ability to say to rebound Islam I get it it's not my world I just work here it's your world we banished you're the author you're the melach you're the king of this world and you're my king and I submit myself and my life to you and maybe this is not how I would have drawn it up but it doesn't matter because I don't draw it up you're the writer and that is complete and total kabbalah's and with such one Hashem is bringing one is bringing Hashem into the world in such a powerful way that there is no question that what one will cause so much to come to this world and this is really the most important way to access in my humble opinion this is a very important avoida that we should all focus on we don't of course forget about our personal needs but the recognition of hashem's malchus at a time of our life that we are in pain is something that could be such a source of Israel and for the whole world and for ourselves personally please accept my berkas and my sincere wishes for everyone here to have a year of Surah is you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you at torahanytime.com