Rosh Chodesh: Leaving the Slave Mentality - Rebbetzin Avigial Gersht

[Music] so I want it pause from the months because basically we ll we started off speaking about by the High Holidays so I want it now take a break and not enter the High Holidays and speak about Rosh Hodesh they do here at navei everyone been here for the roast kodesh breakfast yeah even nearby foreclosures breakfast it's really nice to do that a fancier breakfast you get well this it looks fancier because there's College napkins I don't know if you have any different but but what do we know about Rosh Hodesh yes you need to a woman it's in ferment also but it's unique special for women will speak about why it's the first of the month cycle yes time for women to come together you know you know shared and productive way like taking a class or just coming together that's nice that's true through the nice okay so unique asked for women the first of the month it goes according to the lunar cycle you say it goes cording to the moon which is like women have their cycle their monthly cycles so to the moon has its monthly cycle what off do know about Rosh Hodesh yes that is the reason why we're gonna discuss that is the reason why it's unique to women because when they were doing the sin of the golden calf I went the whole Jewish nation after leaving Egypt witnessing the ten plagues you know experiencing the sea splitting and then Moses went up to the mountain and they miscalculated much deeper conversation not for right now that's why they just wait they built a golden calf and they went around collecting drooler and they went to the womans and Kate were we're building this golden craft the calf to worship because Moses isn't coming down and the woman said no is it come on we're building and everyone's doing it and the woman said no we're not and that is the reason the Shorin era and other and huzzah tell us it's unique for woman thank you what else that's a lot we covered a lot s Ritesh average flourishes sometimes have you noticed that it's sometimes one day or two days yes we've noticed that sometimes are so - it's a two day Rosh Hodesh which is nice it's like oh whatever Jews like to party it's just nice and actually like a festive day I'm the reason why it's some days some months one day and someone's today is because the lunar cycle was 29 and a half days okay so the months some months were there are 30 days in it right it is a two-day record ish a month where it's 29 days and it's a one-day rubbish what are some customs let's just go through the basics of Rosh Hodesh do we do anything different any different prayers yes Olivia we say hello we've seen Hollywood I'm parts of tehilim with Deborah Hannah left row all right hmm and I could usually sing it there's added dive in English I added prayers you say a paragraph in the blessing after you eat bread you say a paragraph called yeah I love vfo right we have the hollow prayer we have Musa basically differences in prayers it's a date people usually dress up a bit more again it's not a Shabbos you're a lot of drive a car it's just a more festive day neither just yeah love your vote is what we add when we ask after bluffing I think extra paragraph hollow is the extra prayer and most stuff is also the extra prayer we also say Musa on Shabbat and on holidays you don't say how low but most stuff is like it's another Shimon s ray another standing prayer okay why is Rosh Hodesh so special all right we said you get dressed up a little bit more and then go wild they put on a tie maybe right there's very few ways for men to like you know dress up or like go wild if like they dress it like you know the Penguins so you see like guys with like their socks the ties and I'm missing something there's one more no I'm pretty sure there's one more the belts about less cufflinks yeah that's like a great fancy right those either like the belt the sock like the tie so people you see wear ties we said it's more festive day women have more freedom you can wear this so you can wear away good so so what's unique about Ritesh every month every month we have a Rosh Hodesh any thoughts and the idea is why so Evelyn II have said because we didn't give me the Golden Calf when the Jewish nation left Egypt sorry wall they were leaving Egypt this was before they entered the desert this was the first commandment God commanded them Rosh Hodesh is the first commandment the Jewish nation got when they became a nation you would think Shabbos you would think the Ten Commandments maybe you would think of it honor your parents that's really nice and Noble God said Haho dish has a this month yella femme shall be for you Rosh Hashanah the head of the month father which month was that when do is to watch which is the first month Nisan yeah that's a trick question that was cool you knew that yeah exactly it's Nissan Nissan which what holiday falls out of nice on Passover right Nissan is actually the first month when the Jews were leaving Egypt history where all the Hall Hollywood that was a twister where all the High Holidays are this is actually the seventh month those when we start counting the years every Tishrei is a new year every Nissan is the new month so God said haha - has that this month shall be for you the head of the month this is the first commandment we got why what's interesting is nowadays we have a set calendar right we know what time Shabbat starts we know what ends we know in a year from now or five years from now when Pesa will be right it didn't used to be like that how was Rosh Chodesh calculated Sophie I made eye contact yes the moment you make eye contact with the teacher it's like because they the counter was going yes that's true behalf so how would they know when would be the Rosh Hodesh so what would happen was you have this some head room which is this high holy court okay any like judicial system that they had and you have what we call witnesses okay there were people who they would say hey is that obviously it wasn't random but does that the New Moon and they would go it has to be more than one witness it has to be two witnesses and they would go and it would go to the Sun Hedren to this court and they'd say we saw the moon I think today's Rosh Chodesh they would gather on the 30th every single month it's a I think we saw the moon and they'd put them in two separate rooms and they'd question them well where was it what was the location what was the size which direction etc and if both V accounts were exactly the same I would say today's Rosh Hodesh right of course today's the first day or the day before was rotation now it's a two day rush kodesh depending if the month is 29 or 30 days hello who was a holy man foresaw the destruction of the temple and he put in place a fixed calendar which is what we have today that's how we know but we didn't used to have a fixed calendar what's amazing is that human beings determined when Rosh Chodesh would be if it was foggy in the sky and they couldn't see the moon well then there was no recorders they didn't see the moon and for whatever reason one of the people at a hard time will got stuck in traffic foot traffic or horse traffic getting there and on time they would wait and it would be postponed human beings were determining when Rosh Hodesh would be when the holidays will be when God's saying haha - has there this month yellow can brush Kardashian shall be few the head of the month the first commandment God was giving us was the commandment of proactivity from from the commandment from leave the life of passivity and move forward to life of proactivity of taking action the Gemara tells us what a slave owns the owner owns as a slave I do not have my own anything what I have belongs to my master the Jewish nation were slaves for 210 years in Egypt which means everything was hand dispensed so to speak and they didn't have to make decisions and God was saying I am commanding you today to make a Rosh Chodesh he's saying I am commanding you take to leave the slave mentality to leave them in toilet I'm not in charge and this isn't mine it doesn't belong to me belongs to my owner God saying you're out of slavery you're free man now and you have the ability to choose you have the ability to act that's literally what Rosh is Rosh Chodesh meaning new month what else does Rosh mean head right its head and kodesh means month it also means hot - which means no right ha - we are using our head on Rosh Hodesh which is which it's a month plus year which is a ma it's it's a day unique for introspection you have bless you every the day before every Rosh Hashanah you have what's called yom kippur kuttan unfortunately I've never been at once like unfortunate it's not really just personally I just not something I'm involved in my life so much just because I tend to forget it but you have Yom Kippur Cutten which means a mini yom kippur every airbrushes era every era right before Rosh Hodesh which is basically added to feel it's during that day some people fast right it's not even Kippur relax it's not like 12 new Yom Kippur that you just found out about but yeah the day before Rosh Chodesh is called Yom Kippur cotton which there's special prayers that day every Rosh Hodesh is the unique time for introspection and where am I going and what am i doing [Music]