Road Rage, REVENGE & the Fight with Midian with Rabbi Aryeh Grossnass

[Music] You my [Music] birthday. [Music] >> Okay. It's very exciting to see some new faces. Welcome. Um, we're going to discuss today. We finished a series about sitsus. We went to a titus factory. That was a lot of fun. Um, I'm sorry I couldn't make it a more convenient time to suit everybody's uh, look what we do. If it's 12:00, it works for some people, 5:00 for other people. We did our best. Um, next week we're going to start a series on sha but for this week I thought we'd take a break from a series and do something maybe a bit lighter. Um, that is jealousy. Jealousy. As soon as we say the word jealousy, you know, people kind of frown. Jealousy is is rel we think of it as a bad thing, right? >> Very bad thing. Very bad thing. It says in parados. I can see we've got some people nodding already. Very bad. >> Oh, we already have uh the jealousy of people who are learning makes more people um makes more people wise. You know, if you someone opens a a yeshiva down the road, so now there's competition, so it makes people better. Is that really revenge? No. No. Okay. On on the border >> because God's a jealous God. >> Why is it Why is it jealous? Jeal What's jealousy and revenge? Are they >> jealousy? I can say from Okay. Did I say jealousy or did I say revenge? >> You actually said jealousy. >> Did I say jealousy? >> You did say jealousy. >> That's funny. >> Wow. It's like it's like the Phar. You said jealousy. >> Yeah. Yeah. Can I say when I started off I said we're talking about revenge. >> Did I say we're talking about revenge? I said jealousy. >> You start talking about jealousy. >> It's very very funny. Excuse me. Scrap. We are talking about today revenge. Revenge. Revenge. Revenge. I feel like Peter Austin, you know the the the horse opened his mouth and he just spoke. That is really funny. I said jealousy. >> The same word multiple. >> That is very awkward. Okay. Scrap. Okay. Hey, we have some new faces here today. Welcome. Thank you. It's so nice to see everybody here. Wow. Today's is going to be about revenge. Okay, we are going to be talking about revenge. Pardon me. It's very funny. Okay, revenge. When people think about revenge, it kind of uh as we said, it brings up feelings and thoughts of that can't be a good thing. Revenge. And if we look in the Torah, the Torah says in Paris, do not take revenge. It's kind of uh common sense as well. Revenge, it can't lead to such a good society if everyone's taking revenge on each other. You can't really live in harmony. The discusses what's so bad about revenge. Why shouldn't we take revenge? Let's take Reuben and Shim. Ruven's walking down the road. He sees Shimon. He says, "Hey, Shimon, how are you?" He says, "I'm great." And he goes over to him and promptly punches him in the face and runs off. So Shimon is he's embarrassed. His nose is crooked. He has to go to hospital. It takes him a while. Why shouldn't he take revenge? Why shouldn't he take revenge? What's taking what's wrong with taking revenge? The guy's going to bully me next week as well. So again, if it's self-defense, that's a whole different story. He's not going to do it again. We're not We're not talking about that. Why shouldn't you take revenge? Discusses that if somebody gets hurt, whether it means in his money a guy swindles somebody else, gives him his money for a business deal happens all too often. You didn't get me that amount. Whatever it is, whether it's in his money, whether it's punching in the nose, it's all from Hashem. It's not from Ruven. It's not from the guy who punched you in the face at all. It's from Hashem. Not only that, sorry. >> It's an element of justice, perceived justice involved. >> What do you mean by that? >> It's justice and punishment, >> right? But the question is, do you have to be the person to punish him? Meaning to take him to court and say, "The guy knocked me in the face." You know, that's that's a different thing. Justice, he's the dangerous person. He needs to be put behind bars. whatever that entails. But there's there's another element which is revenge. How can he do it to me? You know that anger like who does he think he is punching me in the face? So if he's if he's at large, he's a dangerous guy at large. Yeah, that's a different thing. It's not revenge. It's just making sure people are safe. But there's another point which is which is revenge. Somebody said something in public, somebody says something in private, a guy calls you out or what curses you out. Is that so much justice? That's not it's not so much of a discussion of justice. It's more you hurt. Do you want to get him back? Getting him back. This this idea of getting him back, that's called revenge. What? >> Why would you get him back? >> What's the purpose of getting him back? >> Okay. What's the purpose purpose of getting him back? So, you know, have you ever been involved in road rage? At least when you were younger in in Israel, road rages, you kind of you have to be careful on the sidewalk. You know, people get angry very quickly. And what what is it? If you think about it, I mean, I myself I flew to London not half year ago or something and I rented a car. I was coming out and they drive on the other side of the road, right? On the left side over there, I think it is. Here we drive on the right. So, I was coming out. I I looked the wrong way. Don't ask me. And I pulled out. I cut off this guy really badly. He rolled down his window. I never knew such curse words existed. Oh my gosh. He He I was I was scared. I don't know what he's going to do to me now. Now what what happened? What happened? I cut you off. Okay. Like like what happened? What did he get from doing those curse words? I don't know. What do people get from revenge? You tell me. It seems wherever they get it happens all too often. >> It's uh the chemicals. >> The chemicals. >> Getting drunk. George fires that they like. >> There's also called void rage. >> What's that? >> Void rage. >> What's that? >> Chemicals. >> What? >> No, that's not >> I don't know. I to to me revenge is if somebody really hurts you, whether it's moneywise, whether it's >> a person wants to get them back. You don't you don't get that. >> How does it help? It's it's it's a midter. It's something that a person wants to do. It's just a natural reaction. It's a natural reaction, is it not? You have you never suffered from a like a want to get someone back? >> Wow. I need to get you I need to get to know you better. >> Does anyone find revenge like as a sense of justice involved? >> Someone did something you think they should be punished for it. >> Sense of justice. What's your name? I haven't met you yet. Kan is saying revenge is a sense of justice. Does Does everybody agree to that or >> There's an aspect. >> There is an aspect. Okay. Now, I got a question for you. if it's just a sense of justice or if that's the main driving factor. If somebody would do something to someone else in China and you get to hear about it, um what's a good Chinese name? Sin one sin punched one in the face. Okay. And you get to hear about it. Would you like if you if you could you prosecute one or you be like, "It's in China. What's it got to do with me?" You wouldn't. You wouldn't. If it's just a sense of justice, it's a sense of justice only when it happens to you, which means there's something there's something in it for you. It's like a certain How can you do that to me? >> Look, the world is taking revenge against the Jews >> for a perceived injustice. >> That's true. That's definitely true. But again, re it's not I don't believe revenge is just a sense of justice. I believe there's more to it which is driven by the ego. It's driven by how can he do that to me? How can he >> twisted baby >> twisted it? >> If you twist it twisted things >> take let's take our classic case. >> Revenge. It's a zero sum game. Totally. >> That's true. But that's but that's very it's very natural very normal a person would want to take revenge. You don't you don't find taking revenge a normal thing. But anyway, tell me. >> Okay, tell me >> I I look what can I say? You've got very good meals. >> How's the >> What? >> How's the >> toy says it's very bad. The question is how to deal with it. Take take an extreme case. Now, let's take an extreme case. I mentioned the story before in this I'm going to say it again because it's an extreme case. There is a guy who lives in London. He owns an apartment in your shell. Okay. He owns apartment in your shell. He has a relative. I think it's a brother-in-law. If it's not a brother-in-law, it's a cousin who lives next door his apartment. And his job, remember the story? His job is to look after the apartment. >> So, he takes the rent every every month, right? That's that's his job. One fine day, he visits Uralime and he wants to see his apartment and the apartment which he left was a four-bedroom apartment or three-bedroom apartment. I say it's a three-bedroom apartment as far as I remember. He comes there and he knocks on and he says, "I would like to see the apartment. I own the DRA. I'm the BRA." He walks in and he's looking around and he only finds two bedrooms. It's missing a room. This is this is absurd. So he goes next door to his sweet brother-in-law cousin. I don't remember what it was. And he locks on. He says, "Hi, I've come to see my dear." Okay. And he says, "Tommy, I left you with three bedrooms. Where's the bedroom gone?" And what happened? This sweetie pie of a brother-in-law, a cousin had knocked Yeah. had taken it and knocked in. So let's let's p That was you. You won't be angry. You won't be bubbling over like how can this be? You want to call him a name. You want to like how how can you do such a thing? Thank you very much. You want to do such a thing? >> Broken the law by doing that. >> It's definitely broken the law. There's no question about it. >> So why would you let the police do >> I'm sure you would like the police to do with it. But would he want to talk to him? Would you want to talk to him? What do you He He says, you know, I know I took your room, but I was just thinking, do you want to come for Shabas? Do you want to come eat me? Would you go eat by your your your sweetie cousin who's done that to you? That Shabas would you feel like No way. There's a certain it's anger. It's upsetness. It's a betrayal. >> Yeah. It's a betrayal. And the Torah is talking about that. Don't take revenge. Don't act upon that. You know, if he says, "Can I invite you for Shabas?" Instead of just saying, "I prefer not." You say, "Get lost." No way. Let's have let's have the meal for Shabas in my in my bedroom. You know, in my room. >> Yeah. What is this? >> Revenge. I'm sure everyone if if you can't relate to revenge, not jealousy. If you can't relate to revenge, take an extreme case. This guy took a bedroom off your apartment. You're getting less money. Never mind anything else. It's absurd. >> Says the how do you look this cousin who swindled you? Who swindled you like crazy? And how can you say tadic? I love you. You don't need to say you you need to be talking about a big tadic. At least not to punch him in the face. Let's talk about not to punch him in the face. It's Hashem. Every single bit of pain that you get, it's from Hashem. It's not from him. There's no way he can take a bedroom of your apartment unless Hashem lets him. There's no way. There's no such thing as out of control. It doesn't happen. >> There are no accidents. There are no bullies in the world. It's all from Hashem. I'm saying it as if I believe it. I'm saying it as if I live it. But it's we we need to work on it every day. We need to think about it. Someone hurts us. We have to think it's the it's not this person who smacked me. It's not this person who insulted me. We have to go over it every single day. When we say we talk a lot about Hashem's doing everything, he supports those who fall. He makes us better. >> But on this basis, you're saying there should be no punishment. >> No, he was wrong that he did it. He was wrong that he chose to do it. But for you to react in a bad manner because of that that's is >> that's a bizarre okay that is the basic uh understanding which which is with what >> je which revenge is wrong how jealousy came in okay >> there is sorry >> problem jealousy is you're jealous of whoever it happens to be You got no idea what he's got. You got no idea. >> That's right. >> You don't know how he is, how long he's got left to live, how long his wife's got left to live. You have no idea. So, how do you jealous? >> I'm on your team, but it's still hard. Okay. There's another aspect of jealousy, which is >> jealousy. Revenge. >> Revenge. I do not know what's happening. This what is it? Canis Kenosi. Maybe because it's come from there. waiting to >> yeah there's another part of revenge which I'd like to discuss which is let's take a another road rage um story my father many many years ago many years ago I was before I was alive but it's just like a story in our family which we laugh about here and there apparently he once cut off somebody I don't know if it's by mistake or on purpose. Probably by mistake. He's a nice guy, my dad. He cut him off and the guy starts hooting. He starts pushing on his own crazy. He's trying to overtake my father. He follows him all the way home. >> Okay. About 20 25 minutes. Now, my father's a bigger guy. Okay. And he's he's no pushover. >> He's a big guy. >> He's a big guy. And he comes outside my house, parks the car, and the guy's kind of parks behind him, exactly behind him. And the guy gets out his car. He's a short fellow. Comes walking over to the car. My father opens the car door, gets out. It's full height. Guy looks at him, turns around to his car, and drives off. Just runs off. He's He's no match. Now, I want to go into this little fell. Let's call him. He was a good English guy. Let's call him Phillip. Phillip. Okay. Phillip followed somebody for 25 minutes. Now, what for? What for? Cuz he cut you off. That means you're going to be home 5 seconds later. Probably three. That is why you chase somebody 25 minutes out the way. Now you're going to be 25 minutes the wrong way, 25 minutes back that way. So, you're talking about be 50 minutes late. And even then, the guy could be double your size, which he was, and he had to go the wrong way. >> This is chemicals. >> I don't believe it's chemicals. It's >> like an alcohol. Some people This is their alcohol. I >> I think it's it's it's again, it's this drive for >> existential. He feels he's being diminished. >> Diminished. Oh, the these this is what I'm more trying to get into. When a person his ego when a person somebody does something wrong, unjust, unfair to him and it hurts him, it's his ego. How can he do that to me? How can he do that to me? And it will get him mad. It will get him angry that he'll do something which is which is crazy. He'll go 20 minutes out the way. 20 minutes, 25 minutes out the way. The Tyra tells us not to do it because the Torah wants us to have good midas. The Tyra wants us to have good character traits to wants us. This is this is where the big the big defining line between kindness between real kindness and manners. Now those of you who are from America have some new faces. Where you from? >> America. >> America. You po. >> Huh? >> You're not going to understand what I'm talking about now. Manners. Manners doesn't exist in Israel, right? Manners means, how do you say manners? There's no word. No, no, no. There's no word in inim. >> Huh? Neimbas is polite. >> Where you from? >> Uh, Montreal. >> Montreal. Okay. Okay. >> Very >> They're very polite there. >> Not sure. Not sure. >> Okay. >> I'm from England and I've been many times to Europe. I think Europe cakes England in this way. They have manners there. They have real manners. And like I was trying to explain to someone foreign not from England that when you walk in the English countryside it's like a given. You say hi when you're walking past on hi how are you? You okay? You know you it's a thing you do when you're walking in in in the woods. It's just like in Israel you're walking past on you could say hello if you want but if you don't say hello the guy's not going to be offended or anything. I think it's a very very normal thing to say hello. In the Swiss Al when you're walking and you go past one, Gucci, if you know what Gucci means, it sounds like he's throwing up on you, right? Gucci. It's like real. It means hello. Certain manners. Now, does that person who just walked past you give a stuff if you fall off the cliff that second? Does he care? Does he care if you fall off the cliff? He actually doesn't. He really, really doesn't. >> Where in Switzerland? >> In Switzerland or in England? They're lovely, lovely people. They don't know you from Adams, but everyone says hello. Everyone says hello. Hi. You're all right? Yeah, I'm okay. The weather. Yeah, it's lovely. Right. And he carry walking. >> I wish to everybody on the street. >> Okay. Right. Even got him. >> Oh, yeah. >> Part of the party of the party. >> Okay. Right. >> But that's what we call manners. Manners means it's a way of it's a way of living with other people. It's a way of interacting. It's a way of people living together in a in a nice way. There's a famous story with Rabb Khalan Vasan. Ra Khan Vasan was shashiva before the second world war in Baranovich. I think it was in Lithuania Baranovich as far as I know. And he had >> Bellarus. >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> Now what's now? >> Oh, what's not? There was a fellow who came to him. I believe it was one of his students and he said to him, "You should know in Germany they are such nice, polite people." >> Yeah. >> Very polite. He said, "What do you mean?" He said, "In Germany, when somebody says something to you," he says, "It's such a nice day today, isn't it?" Apparently, that was the way they spoke. are you um when they say a fact to you and they say something they think they'll end off with isn't it? It's like a certain humility. It's like so fine. He said he said it's amazing. It's so beautiful. There's such a gentle kind of said to him it's a mood of conduct. It's manners. It's not something real. He said they can they can it doesn't mean anything about their essence to be somebody who does it's talking about their essence. We want a person to become a good person. You do acts of kindness because you you should be kind. You should feel that you want to do kindness. Of course the this story carries on. This fellow happened to be a twin. >> A twin. Yeah, >> we all know what happened with twins in the second world war. There was somebody called Dr. Joseph Mangal and Mizra. He had a practice in Ashvitz where what he did was he used to take twins and he did lots of different experiments on twins with no anesthetic and anything like that. You cut people out. Don't ask what they did to twins. And he said he was on Mangala's operating table and he said he pricricked him or did some very very painful thing without anesthetic. He says it hurts doesn't it? >> Yeah. >> After the war he said he realized how right his rebi was even when he I don't know what he was doing exactly the things you can read up about it better not what he did the the experiments they did on twins. tortured people. Straight torture. So he did one of his experiments without um anesthetic. As he did it, screaming and pain, he said, "It hurts, doesn't it?" That's their their beautiful way of talking. Revenge, not to take revenge improves the the way a person feels feels to other people. His ego, he's he's putting himself maybe I'm not so great. He told me off. I'm not going to answer back. It makes a person a better person inside. His core makes him good, makes him bigger, better. It improves a person. And that's what the Torah wants mid to it's funny. It doesn't mention midas in the there's no mitzvah somewhere that says you should have good midas. You won't find it in the talks about it a lot. And he basically says it's before the it's before the it's something which the almost doesn't need to discuss. You need it for the right. >> Okay. This is the introduction the punchline the question this week and last week is about revenge. Not only that it's encouraged. Balok bum was asked to come and curse KL. It failed epically. epically. So I see he's the he is the of the balik says what should we do the Jewish problem what should we do and Ben says do you know what take your daughters and get them to marry into to let them uh to let them mingle with your your daughters and eventually they ended up doing they ended up serving their idols and it brought a big and great plague it killed 24,000 24 24,000 and eventually Pinas got up there and he stopped the he stopped the plague to quote the [Applause] he returned my wrath kenosi when he can kosi what's the literal translation >> avenged my vengeance. >> Avenged my vengeance. Okay, says Rashi esnikmosi >> when he took my revenge. And not only that, he got the Nobel Priest prize. He got the bro of Shalom. Unbelievable. You killed two people, one of the most important people from the Jewish people and from the non-Jewish people. You get the Nobel Peace Prize. It's like Trump. He bombs Iran now. He wants a Nobel Peace Prize. But maybe it's a good thing. Maybe it's a good thing. Hashem is now giving him you could be a cayenne. You get the bra of shalom. This week's sedra is pious mats. What happens? and I quote spoke to Mosheim take revenge not jealousy revenge from the what did do they were the they let their daughters mingle okay let's get together an army The yeidon is midy. Let's go and take revenge on midym. We say in ding every Wednesday. Hashem is a god that takes revenge. I don't get it. We just spend the last 20 minutes saying revenge is terrible. And here we have if you take revenge, you get the Nobel Peace Prize. You become a ken. You get the brah of shalom in the para this week's para >> he was a koi but what was he doing? He's taking revenge. That's what we call it. Not taking Hashem's revenge. >> Be very careful. Very careful >> how to how to do uh kois. Yes. >> Don't don't try at home. Don't try ko at home. Okay. >> Yeah. >> This week Sedra let's get together an army. Rashi says anoshim. Anoshim is sadikim. Get together the elite, the grace of sadikim. So you're not talking about getting the ruffians, you know, we need to get back midion. Let's hire a mafia. You know, let's get the Wagner group to go and wage war on Midian. No, no, no, no. They got the the the grace of they got theim to go and fight. So, you know, it wasn't like a dirty work like dirty work. They had, you know, need to get them back or self-defense. This was a haz going to die. What is it? What is revenge which is good? What is good revenge? This is the question which we have come here today to understand this week's par to understand last week's par there's also a very interesting and I quote the last line he's sitting that doesn't take revenge like a snake. He's not sounds really really strange. Doesn't take revenge. We need to discuss and understand this better. Let's first deal with connected with what you're saying. Uh in the in the judicial system, we could say that it's the uh society taking revenge on the individual for committing a crime and then they determine a fitting punishment. And so if you steal $10,000, it's three years in jail and $12,000 is 5 years in jail. >> Okay. I I hear what you I hear what you're saying. Is that revenge? Is this revenge? Revenge? Yeah. Is this revenge? Is this is this revenge or is this >> justice? >> This is this is I'm I'm I'm I want to focus on revenge. Justice is if you did this, we need a sense of orderliness in the world to stop it happening again. And usually it's a third party, right? Revenge most times is not a third party, right? If a guy gets punched in the face, he doesn't like, you know, call call up somebody. He said, "Can you do me a favor? Can you place a fist on this fell's nose, you straight away, it's like an immediate reaction? You punch me in my face." Right? That's generally revenge. Justice is a very calm, orderly thing which every single country needs. Those countries that that don't have it are fighting. >> That's not called revenge. That's called >> That's called justice. >> That's called making an example. Make example is not revenge against that guy. It's using your name as an example for everybody else for everybody to run. It's a signpost. >> It's justice, >> right? >> Justice. >> Justice. That's right. >> Fine. Let's understand a little better what good revenge is. In Let's see who knows history really well. When did the Germans take over Holland? Anyone know? >> 1940. >> I don't know. I'm not sure if it's 1939 or 1940. I'm assuming it's 1940 when they overtook Holland. Holland has a king and a queen. In those days, they had a king and a queen. I think they still do. As far as I know, they did. They do. And where did they go? They went to London. They went they were in exile whilst the Nazis took control. So, as you can imagine, they take control. They come to the government offices. They come to the palace, wherever it is, and they take down the Danish flag and they put up a swast sticker. Imagine you have what's a good Dutch name? What's a nice Dutch name? Anyone got Dutch relatives here? Dutch name? >> Vander. >> What? >> Vander. >> Vandal. >> Okay, you have family Val. Family Vandal has a mommy and a daddy. Okay. Mommy Vanderal has a 2-year-old and they're walking along the town square and there's a big swast stick and he says, "Oh, mommy, look at that lovely flag and Mrs. Vanderel says, "Sweetie pie, really? This is Holland. We have a very proud king and queen. Unfortunately, there's somebody else here. Somebody else has taken control. We don't like them. They're horrible. hopefully one day we're going to get our country back. And he's a little kid. He doesn't understand anything. And they go to school and of course they have to learn about the Nazis now. They don't talk about Holland anymore. They've been taken over. So he's a confused child. He's understanding that Hitler is a great man cuz that's what all the billboards are saying. That's he sees lots of marchers going along singing all sorts of lovely German songs. And his mother tries to explain it to him. So she gives up and van and little boy Vander what's a German first name Hans maybe no Holland name Hans little kid he's four years old and he knows all the German tunes he's very excited and he gets to know the new mayor who's German okay in liberation comes king and queen come back little Hans is now six years old they're walking in this and he says mommy What? What flag is that? So she's like, "This is the the Danish flag. This is Holland. It was taken over by the Nazis." But really, you know, Mommy, stop it. You're kidding. And all of a sudden, the songs in school, the things they talk about in school, everything changes. And he's so confused. He's so confused. All of a sudden, they're praising the king and queen. They're singing a national anthem, which he doesn't recognize. Not only that, the lovely person they put in charge, I don't know if they had a prime minister or someone, he sees he's been killed. He's killed. I have a question. Taking down that flag, is that revenge? Was this just how it's meant to be? It was wrong until now to have a swast sticker. Taking down that flag and putting up a flag of the Holland flag, the Danish flag, that's not revenge. It's just this is what it's meant to be like. >> Correction. >> Shalom. >> Correction. >> Welcome to Holland. It's correcting it as you would like to say. It's not This is not revenge. This is not tit for tat. Somebody punches someone in the face and he gets a punch right back. That's tit for tat. You hurt me, I hurt you back. This is not revenge. If they're going to kill Hitler, Hitler, you were wrong. You It's not even justice. It's like, "Get out my country." They drive the Nazis out. Get out of my country. That's not revenge. It's just like this is This is Holland. This is making it correct. Hashem gave us a Tory. In the Tory, it says, "Keep the mitzvah. Be doic and Hashem. Be be connected to Hashem. Lyra be kind to one another daven have a connection to Hashem sadikim who do this the best and they see a gracer Russia they'll take take the spitz rash he doesn't keep anything and he has a lovely life the the the million dollar question sadic the rash of he sees a Russia living it up and that saddic is having a hard time it's It's a great pain. We know, we learn in the Torah the whole time that if you keep the tora, if you dav well, you get everything. But meanwhile, this yel, this saddic is living and he doesn't have everything he'd like to have. And the Russian next door happens all too often. The Russian next door, he has everything. And it's very painful, right? So asked this question in par >> lots of times in Russia, we see some which are very successful. Oh yeah, lots of the time you can tell when songs are Russian. There are some documented rishime if there are questions and nowadays we say some people are a tinik isba they don't know they don't know better there's lots of talk about that but there are some documented rash where there's nothing to talk about >> for sure >> for sure for sure and lots of times they have a lovely life they have a nice life and it's very painful for sadikim it's very painful for us when mashia comes there's going to be one of the first things that's going to is that Hashem is going to deal with the Rashine and apparently it's going to be a gross. It's going to be a revenge which we call revenge. What we need to clarify here, it's not tit for tat. It's not ah you're a naughty. Hashem's getting your back. Now, it's how it's meant to be. Hashem said keep my mitzvah. Hashem says don't do a vas. Hashem's not getting them back. By them crumbling away, by them getting their punishment, it's not something that like it's coming from like a wild place. Hashem created the world in a certain way that that's the way you it has kim that's the way it it works. We live in a way where we don't see that when you have a mitzvah all of a sudden you you know when you play a a game in Candy Crush, I don't know what you're playing. Yeah. And and you do something right, you get points straight away. Hey, jingle. You hear a little jingle. You get points. The world is not made like that. When a person does a mitzvah, you don't hear everyone like a million people clapping. Hey, well done for that shaking. You don't hear that. If it would be like that, we won't get any. We live we live in a world where the toy is not the obvious. But when Mashia comes, it will be the obvious. So those who are going to suffer, then >> it's it's not a revenge. It's just the way the world was set up. When you do good, you get good. When you do bad, you get bad. When they're going to take revenge to Midon and they're going to get sadikim to do it, it's because Hashem says, "Don't do don't serve a deseming. It's like it's it's a kiddish. Hashem that this is the way the world works. This is the way the world works. People don't find it. People don't have questions that what's his name? That stupid hisbal guy. No, >> no got killed. No one said poor guy. Poor guy in Australia. No one has that such a nice guy. You know, I'm sure he had his son's a human maybe, right? No one cuz we understand he deserves it. Like he is bad. Bad people shouldn't be here. We're going to understand that is good. There's Hashem created a world, a world of spirituality. And it's it's a mitas. It's it's a what's a good translation of mats? It's it's reality. When we come to recognize the reality recognize this reality, it's not revenge. It's just that's how it's meant to be. Take down the swad sticker and put up the Danish flag. That's not revenge. That's just how it's meant to be. Welcome to Holland. Shalom to the spiritual reality. You do a mitzvah. You're a good guy. You don't you're a bad guy. Of course, people who are trying, we're not I'm not a sadic. I'm going to talk to myself. I'm not a sadic, right? But we're trying. We're heading in the right direction. There's a lot of talk about that. You know what? What's going to be with me? I'm a little cute guy. I try to do some mitzvah. I do have various as well. Hashem, I try to do chv. But if if a person is going in the right direction, Hashem Hashem understands is the wrong word. Hashem sees where a person is directed. Hashem knows where a person is directed, right? Sadikim have the most pain when they can see someone be shabas and they seem to have a good life because they know they know so much clearer than we do that spirituality is a mis it's a reality are going to be the major ones when it comes to getting back getting them back it's not getting them back they can cause they can cause a plague of 24,000 yen to get destroyed how can that be how can that be so the revenge is taken by [Music] The main idea to to remember is the bad nama, the bad revenge is tit for tat. >> You hurt my ego. You hurt my ego. I need to I need to correct that. No, don't take revenge. Don't take revenge. Work on yourself. It's okay. It's not easy. Definitely not easy. However, when it comes to doing something for Hashem, it's not about revenge. It's not about revenge. It's not tit for tat. It's the reality. It's the reality. We're not, oh, you made this person do a very, it's something for Hashem. What does that mean for for Hashem? That's the reality. Hashem created spirituality. If a person is does something bad, a person doesn't have person does a mitzvah, he gets something good. A person does a very does something bad. the rashime will get what they deserve. Not in a term of revenge. It's just that is the mitsas. Little bit of a deep point. >> I hope I made myself clear. >> Okay. Thank you very much. You see your body [Music] sh Oh my