Remembering Danny Vaiselberg Z”L | Gathering After His Levaya | Rabbi Daniel Kalish

We're coming together. I've just come straight from a Levia and we're coming together straight Danny's Levia Danny Vaselberg's Levia ended a few minutes ago. Now, truth be told, truth be told, easily, maybe easily is a gma, but truth be told that we can, we can get together and we all have different rooms inside of us, and I could leave that room of pain, that room that houses that leva and the pain of Danny's Petira, and I can enter in a different room. We're all very very broad and have different rooms inside of us. I can look at Mayor Davidson's face and get a and enter in a different room and speak to you and I could I I can come and we could meet in a different room. It's not that I can't go to a different room. I don't think I should go to a different room. I want to come to you from that room, my friends. I want to stay in that room with you by in the asum intensifying. So we read that of ya the ni and is running away from his mission. He doesn't want to give moer to nve and he's running away from his mission. He's running away from God and he's on a ship with a bunch of a bunch of idol worshippers is on a ship and a s a great storm comes and it threatens to drown the ship and they're all wondering. They make lotteryies. They make lotteryies to to to to figure out whose fault is this which one of the which one of these evildoers is the cause of the storm of the great S the great storm whose fault is the storm and they draw lots and they're trying to figure it out and tells them and says to all these sailors these I know this great storm is because of me. It's easy to point fingers. It's easy and there many fingers to point. He's surrounded by but knows the knows the I know this is my fault. The message is to me. It's not to you at the heart of know there's a my friends there's a storm. There's a a great storm in the world. And aid doesn't point fingers. He doesn't say it's others. A yid is taught at the heart of yum kipper how to live his life when he's so open when his l is a bus buster at this point in yipper late in the day when he's barely a physical person anymore he's barely physical he's heard the voice come out of he's bowed in front of he hasn't eaten he's detached from the physical. At that point, the Yiddu as a buser is taught he's taught in his life when events happen to take responsibility to understand that to take responsibility. What always does is how can I improve? What can I do? This this great storm took a delicate sensitive person. Danny Vasel was a sensitive person, a sensitive soul. He was in tremendous pain. And we I didn't give him enough cover. He wasn't respected enough to free that soul. Covet is what frees a person. Respect. David cut the garment of sh. And because he cut the garment, Sha Amelik's he cut scholar and he had good reasons to cut Scha's garment. But because David Amel didn't respect the he didn't respect clothing. He cut Schol's garment for heaven's sakes. David Aamelik was nervous for his life. He was hiding in a cave worried that Shaw would kill him. And he wanted to show the Shaw. Schaw was looking around the cave for David Melik and David was in a good hiding spot and he cut the back of Schaw's garment so that when they were at a safe distance he called out to Shaw. He said I am not a malus I'm not rebellious look if I wanted I could have killed you. So he cut his garment so Shaw if you don't believe me I was in position to kill you. Look at your garment you'll see it cut. He had every reason to cut the garment. But it's a fact at David Amel's end of his life, clothing would not warm David Amelik. He had reason to cut the garment. And maybe it's was going to try to save his life. But it's a fact. If you disrespect things, they don't have their strength. The strength of clothing to warm is robbed from the clothing. Since David didn't respect the goddam they lose their natural power clothing have a power to warm the power to give warmth to all that clothing cover but if you don't respect clothing it takes away its power mitzvah have power to uplift the a mitzvah uplifts aid but tells us one condition you have to Show reverence to a mitzvah. If you respect the mitzvah, it unleashes its kayak. Danny was mole sweet, sensitive, the type wouldn't harm a fly. Wanted people's goodness. Didn't want to hurt one of the most sensitive souls I've encountered. But this sensitive soul was locked with s. And it needed honor. Danny needed cover, love, warmth. Respect to unleash the respect of garments gives them their ability to warm. Respect of mitzvah gives mitzvah the ability to uplift us to elevate us. Respect of a human being unleashes the kus the massive godly powers that are inherent in every human being. But respect, tremendous appreciation of unleashes those. I promise you, Rabbi say, I promise Danny Basilberg, Danil Yeshua Ben Aman, I promise you, there will be many people. I promise you. I swear to you, there will be many, many people that will have their powers unleashed because of Danny Vaselberg. I promise you and I promise him more important. I promise you and swear to him there will be many people who will be more respected, more appreciated and more loved to unleash their kus to bring out the power that's so much in a person. Danny will get the credit and the and I ask you Rabai join in a revolution. this sensitive soul, this beautiful Mishama, let us all not point fingers, but say let us take responsibility. this storm, this horrible storm shali, I take responsibility and let us resolve the greater strength to be mab the next person to find deeper powers to respect to appreciate to love the next person stronger better authentically at more of a cost to ourselves. come out of oursel and respect the next person must be the rallying cry for Daniel Yeshua Ben for this precious gentle soul. Respect the next person. Love him. Don't judge him. Don't put down the next person. Don't fall for the tough veneer, the tough external. Don't be fooled. Don't be fooled by what you see. See better. See deeper. See more. See beauty. Unleash by respecting, by appreciating, by seeing deeper, by valuing, by understanding. Unleash. It's my commitment. I ask you to join in a rallying cry of respect. Rabbi say of greater respect. Don't let rest on your laurels. Sure, we're good at this. We're fair at this. Get better. Get more. Stop being so comfortable that we're good at this. better, more greater levels. Ya also could have said, "I serve Hashem." He was much bigger than everybody else in that ship. Much bigger. And he could have said his a was it was full of But he said, he said, "I have to strengthen. I have to be more exact with throw me overboard. I take responsibility and I say to us Rabbi say let us all be mazik let us all strengthen ourselves in the merit of this sensitive sensitive delicious uplifted elevated soul let Danny get tremendous we will do for him let me resolve that there's somebody in your life who's going to be unleashed unleash a person with respect with love, with appreciation. Unleash a person in your life and do it for Danny. Do it for Danny. Rabbi say unleash somebody in your life. It has to be a quiet campaign for he was quiet. It has to be subtle. It can't be a billboards and posters and stamps. Do it for Danny, but you're not let it anywhere. He was way too sophisticated and subtle and sensitive. This revolution goes from my heart to your heart. I ask join me please Rabbi say unleash somebody's kus with a revolution of respect your sister your brother your cousin your uncle unleash somebody's kus with love with appreciation of and it should be all that should be an elo for Daniel's gentle and precious soul and it will elevate him he will receive that gift yes I didn't call him enough yes I was not in touch with Danny enough. But I will give him gifts. He is there in Abu and he will get gifts in Abu. I will call to him there with gifts that he'll appreciate. He was gentle. He didn't want to see anybody suffer. This gentle soul who loved his siblings. The way Yoni and him related was something nobody will forget in Yeshua. The enduring memory I have as two brothers. Tremendous love. I will ask Yoni to come and speak to us. I will tell him there's a campaign that I I beg everybody. It can't be written down anywhere. It has I want it deeper and more. It can't be written anywhere. A do it for Danny campaign or be somebody. I don't want anybody settling with just the slogan and a wristband or anything. It's not going to be written anywhere. There will be a campaign, a sensitive campaign. Unleash your spouse's kus. Unleash your daughter, your son, your brother, your sister, your mother, your mother-in-law by appreciating somebody, by valuing. Because when it allows the that can warm so well to warm when that can uplift people, it gives it the power to uplift. The yid the massive kus endowed in every yid is unleashed. This will be our way. Danny was a powerhouse. Massive kus were in there. Massive. It can't be that it's going in the ground. It can't be. It's impossible. There was massive kus and we're going to unleash them. There will be many people walking around. Many. I promise you there will be many people walking around who are stronger, better, and able to unleash their inner self. That self that's so there, that power because they're respected. That is the force that unleashes the in every single person. And I ask you my my friends I ask you coming from this to this I ask you I beg you all join in this campaign of respecting people of appreciating the next person. I'm going to ask and I feel badly these sadikim are not my they don't owe me to do anything. I'm going to ask if sing these people were crying but with resolve. I'm going to ask if they can sing to us Please [Music] slowmo. Very new. [Music] [Laughter] [Music] I love [Applause] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] I [Music] mean, I [Applause] love this [Music] I mean na. [Applause] Nana [Applause] [Music] nana [Applause] nana nana. N [Music] [Applause] I wanted to tell thera a story years ago in Durham a few years ago I think Jacob Hill good was laning I believe it was our precious Yakov it's definitely appropriate that he's the one who gave gave me this muser. But I want to share a story. This is what happened. Well, I'll ask Jacob who happens to be with us right now if he was the one laning. I think he was. And Jacob Goodman was laning from the it was parash. And the gab calls up. He says and he calls Beni. He calls me up for Sheni the second Ali and Pares and Yakov Hill is laning the Tyra and Yakov who is a caring and concern for the next person. He reads the following words. It was a few I read. It was the fourth P in my aliyah and the fourth P he says Yehuda says how can I face my father and I don't have my brother with me I can't face my father if my brother is not with me how can I look my father in the face he's going to ask me I'll say Look, I'm here. I'm at Shakas. I'm learning. I'm serving. I made it. Tata, I'm here. And the first question dad's going to ask. I've gone recently on some hikes with my children. And they, you know, they run off on a little bit, a little this way, a little that way. So, I always make sure an older one is with a younger one. If an older one would go a little off the path and run back and say, "Tat, I'm back. Don't worry. I say, "You're back. I love you. Now, where's your brother? How can I face my father? And I don't have my brother with me in the yeshiva. The call is to grow. The crawl is to climb. But bring your roommate with you. 12th grader. Beautiful. You're staging. Bring the 10th grade with you. Where's your Where's your camera? Where's your friend? Inspire, encourage, bring the next person with. When Jacob Hill, that person, it was a combination of the words and that precious who lives these words. When he said to me, "How can I face my father?" Ask Jacob Hill if the story is true. He tried to turn. We got you could look in a safe when you get a chance. In middle of this Ali, you're supposed to turn columns and I was stuck. I had already read three. I couldn't go on. I was inus. So the balky, you should read along. Don't do my supposed to read with the balky silently when you get aliyah. But this was my fourth p. And I couldn't leave this pac motion to be turned. When you're the so you turn it and he unrolls the next column. I just shook my head. No, he thought something was wrong with me and he unfolded and by himself did the next column. I wasn't leaving these words. Let's rais these words for our precious friend Danny. We're not leaving our We're not leaving our loyalty to Danny. The older knows Danny. Many of the know Yoni. Yoni is a the older brother and the way he cared about his brother was sensitivity with care and concern. Yoni is aas of arvos of responsibility. Yo yi can answer the question of yi cared about his brother let us be greater love of our brother greater respect grow and bring others with us bring others to the tat it's the obvious question the tat as I'll tell you a min that ramstein has started in durham I love this minug before kabal Shabas right Brownstein always endur weekly so their guests people come to yeshiva for shabas kesh whether it's an alumnest whether it's a a and bram all week are on different the 12th graders learning the bish the 11th learn in the classrooms one over so well shabas were all in the bish and right brownstein started a minute before kaba shabas begins he wants to greet each other and it was such I I so appreciate it. Rabbi say you ever had guests and old guests I'm picturing in a few years comes to visit me. He comes with this beautiful mishb everybody knows it will picture you and Casper in a few years. So you come with your precious family. Everybody knows that before you two are comfortable. You've been friends for years, but you settle in the children. You make sure they're playing with the right games. I visualize Casper knocks to my door. Ah, before we hug quickly, but then he he hasn't told the boys, girls, I need to make sure his mishbah is comfortable. and he wants me if we would just start sch smoozing me and Yisf we would talk about old times and we would talk about our friendship and his kids are sitting there restless uncertain y would be I thought we're good friends the first thing to do is let's settle the kids here let's get this one playing Lego you throw we'll play Lego with your oldest y this one will let's set them settle everybody in everybody settled all the children are settled now the two sit down for an intimate discussion we all times it would be a strange person to ignore all the kids that's not a and brownstein was ka we're greeting thems here let's settle down all his children everyone should be comfortable set up well with the right in the right mind frame then together we Let's also prove our medal as greeters. You're greeting by are you a good greeter? Are you each other properly each one? I call all our precious let us be able to answer that question. Let's answer that that arous was that responsibility we have one for another cause that I bring along my brother in my ascent in my growing in my care I bring along I bring along my I have to read I'm sure is if it's there's a long text here a long comment that looks good from the bladders he says I'll read it to you I went the bladder say something Everything stops. Every year when reading parish, the preeminent student of the holy, we overcome with emotion. Yehuda unabashedly exclaims, "For how can I go up to my father and the lad is not with me?" I to ask myself, said the mayor, how can I go up to my father in heaven, the lad is not with me? What will I say to my venerable father when he asks what have I done for the youth of my generation? Thank you the bladders for always always getting it right say I ask that precious diamond that sensitive soul I ask that all of us unlock somebody in your life. I beg you. I guarantee I promise Danil I promise Danny I guarantee people will be unlocked that I will try to respect and appreciate and love and see through veneers to help unlock I'll be something which will give it some person it gives it to warnab gives it to give a human being it gives it unleashes its I ask everybody to join to join me Let's unlock people around us. Let's be able to answer that precious question that Yakubo will ask me on that Shabas. Let's be able to ask answer that question that here Dati my brother is very much with me. That is the gift that we'll give to Danny because he's very much coming along with us. I want to thank the guys. Many people came straight through Leva for joining the creas of of learning. I told the rasha that I didn't I didn't know how many would come today many after the but it's it speaks about the I thank the for joining and coming I want to wish us all we should hear we should continue to grow and together 8:30 tonight will be learn tomorrow at two I wanted to share something today with the that's like extremely fundamental we'll push it off. Today was a different sub, but we'll push it off tomorrow at 2. Have an outstanding day. Rabbi say have a good day.